Absolutely love this episode Lila. Single man at the age of 29 but haven't given up hope on being married one day and have a family. I would say I am not afraid of women divorcing me as this man has said, but more that I am inadequate of being a father or a husband. God willing, he will change my mind and bring a good wife into my life.
Take a look at some of the inadequate fathers all around you. Use them as an example of what not to be, and be better. Nobody is perfect. God be with you brother
Why do you feel inadequate? I sense low self-esteem here. If you believe in God, do what's right, you have love in your heart and you are hard-working and responsible then you're ok. You don't have to be superman despite society being quick to tell young men they're inadequate.
I met my husband at 19, we moved in together after 3 months. I’m now 32 and we have two beautiful kids together. Our son was 3 and our daughter was 1 at our wedding. They’re now 7 and 5 and we’ve been together almost 14 years. You can be completely faithful to someone without marrying them, but I will admit it’s probably rare and I got really lucky ❤
I'm so glad that happened. But yes, statistically you're going against the odds. As Jordan Peterson said "A woman isn't a car, you should not "test them out."" Marriage is more than just a declaration of unity. At least, it used ot be more. It is statistically true that couples that live together before marriage are actually much more likely to divorce.
"You can be completely faithful to someone without marrying them" Nah I think God knows better than you otherwise he wouldn't have given the 10 Commandments and Jesus Christ (God Incarnate) would not have reiterated that sexual relations outside of marriage is lust.
Where in the bible does it say sexual relations out of marriage are sinful? I don't think the bible says that at all. I don't think this lady or her husband are at any fault all. They made a commitment to each other, love each other and took care of each other. They seem to have a lovely family and did not just exploit each other for "lust". The traditional church has made up a lot of myths, probably for good cause to keep people in check. Jesus commands us to love one another. That is the key. I myself am celibate for moral reasons and I do not believe in sleeping with a woman that I do not intend to spend the rest of my life with and love and marry. This is not from biblical commands to do this but due to the understanding of depletion of pair-bonding ability in women (and to a lesser extent men too) due to casual sex. Out of love, I choose not to add to the problem.
@@murozman "You can be completely faithful to someone without marrying them" she said. That undermines the very quality of marriage that rendered it the foundation of society both in pagan Roman culture and in Christian Europe. All you Modernist libertarians and 'anti tradition' christians are definitely adding to the problem. "Lust" and "adultery" are not concepts that were 'made up' by the 'traditional church.' Are you kidding me? You must be wholly ignorant of the prophetic literature of the Old Testament as well as the entire ethics on marriage that runs consistently throughout the New Testament! Besides that, the best pagan Greek philosophers condemned both as a form of vice/depravity, as did the Hebrew scriptures and New Testament. Morozman you need to learn some things and not just from Joe Rogan but actually familiarize yourself with the intellectual and religious 'tradition' that built high Eastern and Western European culture (before making asinine claims about it).
Lila Rose, thank you for all you’re doing to build up the kingdom of God. So glad Zuby brought up the need for a Children’s Rights Movement. Along with contraceptive and gender ideology, divorce ideology is truly barbaric. As an adult child of divorce whose parents divorced when I was 3, I can say with full confidence divorce is murder to the human soul. The crosses many of us carry such as CPTSD, severe anxiety and depression, chronic illness, etc. are crosses that are sometimes carried for the rest of our lives here on earth. Maybe you can do a video on the affects of divorce one day to help bring awareness!
Both of you are rare gem! Keep doing the goodwork you're doing, you don't know the people you're inspiring and impacting towards the right direction across the world ❤from Nigeria 🇳🇬
I love Zuby - he's one of the best examples of a true man of God. Well done, Brother in Christ. I hope to meet you one day - in heaven if not here on earth.
So interesting! I’ve enjoyed it a lot. I’d like to mentioned that “travel” is a term that doesn’t guarantee you’ll know or understand the living of the people of the nation you’re traveling. For example, I’ve come from Cuba and since it’s a communist country, the dictatorship shows the tourists a “reality” totally different from the truth. So, a lot of tourists don’t understand the real deal and it’s hard to understand even if you live there for a while. So, in my opinion, traveling doesn’t always give you a truth that allows you to compare your reality with another one.
28:00 when Zuby talks about movements who don’t have a defined finish line they become what they initially opposed. Brilliant. 💡 lightbulb went off and I thought of Animal Farm 📚
49:17 "Gross" Thank You! That is proper response when you hear stupid ideas! You don't always have to explain common sense to people who have no interest in understanding it.
Personally I think the cultural car has to hit the wall before things get sorted out. The construct of marriage and faithfulness has been so good, that people forgot the abyss it was covering. The best thing you can do is to raise your children properly and establish a place that´s going to survive the next decades. You won´t change the momentum with 90´s christian fundamentalist tactics and ideas.
@@Locke350 No. He's much better than Waller in terms of backing up everything he says with verifiable facts. And it will take a lot more for him to respond emotionally like Waller did last time.
@@Sigmaasphere I don’t think Myron would want to debate anyone where he isn’t the moderator nor on his platform. He rejected Tree’s offer with a third party moderator.
@@Locke350 Let's test your theory .You should Tell Lila to dm Myron, if Myron deny to Debate, Lila should post the screenshots on her channel..But if Myron agrees to debate,then Lila shouldn’t hide from him. Agreed?
I have many friends who do not know I voted for Trump or that I am on a journey of finding God and Jesus. I always find it fascinating how they can spew their opinions so openly and confidently, assuming everyone believes the same thing, but I feel like I have to self censor from fear of rocking the boat or having them see me differently. I actually love debate and feel confident in my ability to articulate my beliefs, but some people have such a limited belief system that I know it is not worth engaging with them about these topics because they won’t be interested in actually understanding why I believe what I believe. They will just default to their narrow minded bias that all Trump supporters or Christians are the exact same and should be demonized. It’s a mindset that keeps us divided as enemies because these people don’t want to understand. I have always been someone who seeks to understand why someone believes what they believes or acts in a certain way because human behavior intrigues me, but so many people don’t want to understand because they have been convinced that we truly are the enemy and to see things differently would shatter their very fragile worldview. And some people actually seem to like having enemies. It’s easier to blame and deflect rather then think and understand. Thankfully my new journey has me attracting Christian’s like crazy for the first time in my life. It’s definitely by God’s hand and has opened a beautiful new chapter in my life.
1:00:39. Right there. I can only speak for myself and this is spot on. People conflate being disagreeable with hate. I would like to get married and intend to but the reality of a man's world is you don't even have the luxury of being selected unless you have something to show for. Problem is once you do then there are more risks than incentives. Life is a risk in general, so being aware of this marriage is still on the table for me. But that is precisely why all the more reason I take it serious and will not just do it for some social expectation or a rationalized personal requirement. I don't hate women or a monogamous marriage, far from it. But I do hate the reality of being an NPC character that is disposable on a whim. The difference is that I accept it and maximize my potential. So, once again on the contrary like most other men, we love women but they don't love us without a checklist of conditions. This is probably the wrong demographic to approach on this channel but hopefully this provides some insight. On a less serious note, I just started your book and find it engaging and insightful.
what you're saying is wrong about women in general. you need to correct your way of thinking by seeking out women tht don't think negatively and you can mostly find this with religious women.
On a similar note to the last 1/3 of this podcast and related to the idea of a children's rights movement, I think a lot of conservatives are largely sheltered from the kinds of horrific things that children (who most of the time end up becoming liberals and/or lgbt) go through, and thus do not take mental health of children/young adults seriously. On the milder, more widespread end poverty and divorce have lasting negative impacts on their mental health, as does social media and a school system that promotes alternative lifestyles as the ideal. But I've often met people who'd tell me stories involving things like being molested by family members/neighbors, family members ending themselves, being raised by someone other than their parents because their parents were drug/alcohol addicts or in and out of jail, or worse. I met someone who was raised by his older brother (he was the youngest) because his parents were severe alcoholics, and the day he turned 18, his brother ended his life. And conservatives often act completely confounded "why does no one want to marry/why is the birth rate so low?" while at the same time are completely sheltered from the types of upbringings that a significant enough portion of the youth has that make me say "no 💩?"
I’m desperate to hear more about single moms and how to navigate raising children and dating for marriage because I escaped an actual abusive relationship and was able to escape.
Love that you had courage to leave an abusive relationship… staying together just hurts kids more especially in the long run.. As hard as it is to raise children as a single mom just be careful that you look for all the red flags in the next guy you date.. don’t rush because we tend to fall into the same patterns.. I wish you the best of luck and as long as you continue to raise you kids to have morals, respect, be giving, confident human beings with goals you will all be just fine ❤️
Ive listened to Zuby for a while. So glad that hes talented and able to have the ideal body..... Im a 39 yo mom Christian for 25yrs After having my kids i developed 4 autoimmune diseases. One of them attacked my thyroid and i put on alot of weight due to not having enough of this hormone..... I feel like im in a bike race and only have one leg. I deal with extreme tiredness amoung many other symptoms. I also have vitiligo a disease that eats my skin.... Anyways i look like a monster so far from the ideal.....feel sorry for my kids and husband tbat they got a monster for a mom. God is with me. When i listen to Zuby i feel crap about myself.... Not all of us can reach the ideal. Im conservative. Alot of people that are conservative treat me poorly as they think im not trying hard enough. When in reality just getting out of bed and trying to look after my kids is like climbing a mountain.....
If I had been from another country and come to America, I would have had WAY more opportunities than I did as a native born citizen. Affirmative action made sure of that. I know because I went to a college with a lot of foreign students, and students that had moved to America and were first generation. Their test scores and accomplishments were about the same or slightly less impressive than mine, and their economic status was higher than mine (I didn’t qualify for a Pell grant by like $5,000) and they had full rides on merit grants, where I didn’t get a dime of financial aid outside loans - which aren’t financial aid. They are debt slave traps set for native born Americans, especially lower middle class Americans. Traps set by our own government, while it hands out freebies to the rest of the world.
I don’t understand how it could be better to get married before cohabitation..having a wedding, change your name, change over all legal documents, and join finances BEFORE living together. Makes 0 sense.
That is exactly why it is so important. Sex is not a commodity. It is a beautiful manifestation of a commited relationship. If you are not ready to do all of those things you shouldnt be sharing intimacy
Now it doesn’t because we have made it the standard. Before people would court get married and then grow together nowadays people don’t want to get married so they pretend to marry by cohabitation and it’s not good for society. Speaking as someone who cohabitated for years I wish I listened to my parents and got married first.
It's how I did it. My wife and I's first kiss was at the alter. Sure, on a physical level, it was hard to wait for sex, but on an emotional level, it was a no brainer. If I had initiated sex before marriage, it would have destroyed the foundation of trust that we were building together. 10 yrs, 2 kids, and a very happy sex life later, I have no regrets. BUT, we both have parents who are still together, we both have a strong faith in Jesus, and we both have put a lot of work into growing as a man, woman, and couple. I could see how it might not make sense to someone coming from a different background or set of values. But know this: you bring something VERY POWERFUL into play when you save sex for marriage.
You are both wrong at 29:50. In the past in US and UK, before 1960 things were not as bad as you said. That's feminist and woke propaganda. There was no need for correction or overcorrection in the first place, before 1960 things were working much better, socialy, economicaly. all the statistics and serious history studies point to this fact. I'm a top scientist in the US and I support and listen to the real World expert scientists on this topic, like Tomas Sowell and Milton Friedman.
Women are so tone deaf about issues that affect men even if a woman is not raging feminist lunatic, which she is not she seems to be a nice lady who was raised well with good morals, and good family, yet she is till not able to get over her female solipsism of only seeing things from the female perspective. It is difficult to watch. He literally tells her that 70% of divorces are initiated by women (the number is actually between 70-80%, and it goes to 90% if a woman is college educated, it is a shit show) , and her response is, well choose better. Are you serious? She speaks as someone who thinks that men are compelled to get married or that they have to get married, but no, this is why marriage is way, way down: because women know what a bad deal marriage is to men and they simply don't give a shit. They still expect men to go to the world make something of themselves and sign a contract with a woman where she incentives to break and take half his shit, and more often than not lose his kids. Women just don't care. Also she points to the fact that people who co-habitate are more likely to get divorced, but she fails to realize that most men co-habitate because they don't want to get married, and most importantly men who co-habitate are having more sex than men who are married, actually studies show that married men get the least amount of sex of all men. This too plays a part as to why men are not getting married, she obviously don't care about this. And her example about the possibility of divorce with comparison to a chance of getting a heart attack I found this to be out right disingenuous, because you don't get a heart attack because of a decision that someone else made.Also heart attack deaths in the US are 1 out of every 5 deaths that s 20% of all deaths. And the full death rate in the US is 1% of the population (around 1,043.8 deaths per 1000,000 people). And so the death rate from heart attacks is 0.25% of the entire population. So this is not even close to being compared to divorce rates which affects 50% of the respective population size. It is a bull shit argument and disingenuous at best. She is basically full of shit. Women simply just care about themselves, even conservative women. Also another thing is that conservative women are divorcing their husband at roughly the same rate as liberal women,
Was great to talk! Thanks for inviting me.
Greetings from the Czech Republic!
You and Lila are both great role models.
Absolutely love this episode Lila. Single man at the age of 29 but haven't given up hope on being married one day and have a family. I would say I am not afraid of women divorcing me as this man has said, but more that I am inadequate of being a father or a husband. God willing, he will change my mind and bring a good wife into my life.
Take a look at some of the inadequate fathers all around you. Use them as an example of what not to be, and be better. Nobody is perfect. God be with you brother
You can do it! With Christ as your guide, you can do anything. Us women, we need you.
Why do you feel inadequate? I sense low self-esteem here. If you believe in God, do what's right, you have love in your heart and you are hard-working and responsible then you're ok. You don't have to be superman despite society being quick to tell young men they're inadequate.
29 is young for a dude! You’re on the right track based on your comment
FAILING is the number one reason why people don’t want to try.
Doing something poorly is better than not doing anything at all!
True
I met my husband at 19, we moved in together after 3 months. I’m now 32 and we have two beautiful kids together. Our son was 3 and our daughter was 1 at our wedding. They’re now 7 and 5 and we’ve been together almost 14 years. You can be completely faithful to someone without marrying them, but I will admit it’s probably rare and I got really lucky ❤
I'm so glad that happened.
But yes, statistically you're going against the odds. As Jordan Peterson said "A woman isn't a car, you should not "test them out."" Marriage is more than just a declaration of unity. At least, it used ot be more. It is statistically true that couples that live together before marriage are actually much more likely to divorce.
"You can be completely faithful to someone without marrying them" Nah I think God knows better than you otherwise he wouldn't have given the 10 Commandments and Jesus Christ (God Incarnate) would not have reiterated that sexual relations outside of marriage is lust.
Definitely a 1 in a million type of situation.
Where in the bible does it say sexual relations out of marriage are sinful? I don't think the bible says that at all.
I don't think this lady or her husband are at any fault all. They made a commitment to each other, love each other and took care of each other. They seem to have a lovely family and did not just exploit each other for "lust".
The traditional church has made up a lot of myths, probably for good cause to keep people in check. Jesus commands us to love one another. That is the key.
I myself am celibate for moral reasons and I do not believe in sleeping with a woman that I do not intend to spend the rest of my life with and love and marry. This is not from biblical commands to do this but due to the understanding of depletion of pair-bonding ability in women (and to a lesser extent men too) due to casual sex. Out of love, I choose not to add to the problem.
@@murozman "You can be completely faithful to someone without marrying them" she said. That undermines the very quality of marriage that rendered it the foundation of society both in pagan Roman culture and in Christian Europe. All you Modernist libertarians and 'anti tradition' christians are definitely adding to the problem. "Lust" and "adultery" are not concepts that were 'made up' by the 'traditional church.' Are you kidding me? You must be wholly ignorant of the prophetic literature of the Old Testament as well as the entire ethics on marriage that runs consistently throughout the New Testament! Besides that, the best pagan Greek philosophers condemned both as a form of vice/depravity, as did the Hebrew scriptures and New Testament. Morozman you need to learn some things and not just from Joe Rogan but actually familiarize yourself with the intellectual and religious 'tradition' that built high Eastern and Western European culture (before making asinine claims about it).
Zuby for president!
The more I listen to this Man the more impressed I get. What a well spoken, intelligent and grounded human.
Loved this. More role models are so needed. Zuby’s praise of Lila at the end, I could not agree more🥹🫶 Thank you both!!!!
Lila is blessing us with more
content on this channel 😊 ❤
I love that man and everything he stands for.. breath of fresh air listening to him ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Lila Rose, thank you for all you’re doing to build up the kingdom of God. So glad Zuby brought up the need for a Children’s Rights Movement. Along with contraceptive and gender ideology, divorce ideology is truly barbaric. As an adult child of divorce whose parents divorced when I was 3, I can say with full confidence divorce is murder to the human soul. The crosses many of us carry such as CPTSD, severe anxiety and depression, chronic illness, etc. are crosses that are sometimes carried for the rest of our lives here on earth. Maybe you can do a video on the affects of divorce one day to help bring awareness!
Thanks for having zuby on the podcast, i really love hearing from him.
I followed Zuby on Twitter until I got the boot in 2021. Always had great posts.
Thank you Zuby for fearlessly speaking up for the average men.
Great ep and i really like Zuby
Very nice talk...power duo right here.💪🏽🙌💥
"Children's rights movement". I ❤ that idea.
Both of you are rare gem!
Keep doing the goodwork you're doing, you don't know the people you're inspiring and impacting towards the right direction across the world
❤from Nigeria 🇳🇬
I love Zuby - he's one of the best examples of a true man of God. Well done, Brother in Christ. I hope to meet you one day - in heaven if not here on earth.
Incredible conversation and keep
Living for Jesus our king ❤👊🙌and fighting for our children ❤
Fantastic conversation!
Love this conversation. Well reasoned, well informed, pointing towards the good, inspirational. Bravo!
So interesting! I’ve enjoyed it a lot. I’d like to mentioned that “travel” is a term that doesn’t guarantee you’ll know or understand the living of the people of the nation you’re traveling. For example, I’ve come from Cuba and since it’s a communist country, the dictatorship shows the tourists a “reality” totally different from the truth. So, a lot of tourists don’t understand the real deal and it’s hard to understand even if you live there for a while. So, in my opinion, traveling doesn’t always give you a truth that allows you to compare your reality with another one.
28:00 when Zuby talks about movements who don’t have a defined finish line they become what they initially opposed. Brilliant. 💡 lightbulb went off and I thought of Animal Farm 📚
Great episode. God bless
49:17 "Gross" Thank You! That is proper response when you hear stupid ideas! You don't always have to explain common sense to people who have no interest in understanding it.
This was an amazing video!!
Great man keep having more guests like him 🔥🔥🔥
I loved this podcast! We need more beauty in our lives!
Personally I think the cultural car has to hit the wall before things get sorted out. The construct of marriage and faithfulness has been so good, that people forgot the abyss it was covering.
The best thing you can do is to raise your children properly and establish a place that´s going to survive the next decades.
You won´t change the momentum with 90´s christian fundamentalist tactics and ideas.
Bring Myron from Fresh and Fit
Why? He’s the same kind of guy that Waller is.
@@Locke350 No. He's much better than Waller in terms of backing up everything he says with verifiable facts. And it will take a lot more for him to respond emotionally like Waller did last time.
@@Locke350 Waller is not a debator, he is a fake using Redpill to get fame...I want to see Lila's debating skill against a strong debator
@@Sigmaasphere I don’t think Myron would want to debate anyone where he isn’t the moderator nor on his platform. He rejected Tree’s offer with a third party moderator.
@@Locke350 Let's test your theory .You should Tell Lila to dm Myron, if Myron deny to Debate, Lila should post the screenshots on her channel..But if Myron agrees to debate,then Lila shouldn’t hide from him. Agreed?
I have many friends who do not know I voted for Trump or that I am on a journey of finding God and Jesus. I always find it fascinating how they can spew their opinions so openly and confidently, assuming everyone believes the same thing, but I feel like I have to self censor from fear of rocking the boat or having them see me differently. I actually love debate and feel confident in my ability to articulate my beliefs, but some people have such a limited belief system that I know it is not worth engaging with them about these topics because they won’t be interested in actually understanding why I believe what I believe. They will just default to their narrow minded bias that all Trump supporters or Christians are the exact same and should be demonized. It’s a mindset that keeps us divided as enemies because these people don’t want to understand. I have always been someone who seeks to understand why someone believes what they believes or acts in a certain way because human behavior intrigues me, but so many people don’t want to understand because they have been convinced that we truly are the enemy and to see things differently would shatter their very fragile worldview. And some people actually seem to like having enemies. It’s easier to blame and deflect rather then think and understand. Thankfully my new journey has me attracting Christian’s like crazy for the first time in my life. It’s definitely by God’s hand and has opened a beautiful new chapter in my life.
“Family background from Nigeria” He’s Nigerian
The most beautiful building in the world r made to honor God
Sooo true ❤️
Nice table
Two inspiring people.
1:00:39. Right there. I can only speak for myself and this is spot on. People conflate being disagreeable with hate. I would like to get married and intend to but the reality of a man's world is you don't even have the luxury of being selected unless you have something to show for. Problem is once you do then there are more risks than incentives. Life is a risk in general, so being aware of this marriage is still on the table for me. But that is precisely why all the more reason I take it serious and will not just do it for some social expectation or a rationalized personal requirement.
I don't hate women or a monogamous marriage, far from it. But I do hate the reality of being an NPC character that is disposable on a whim. The difference is that I accept it and maximize my potential. So, once again on the contrary like most other men, we love women but they don't love us without a checklist of conditions. This is probably the wrong demographic to approach on this channel but hopefully this provides some insight.
On a less serious note, I just started your book and find it engaging and insightful.
what you're saying is wrong about women in general. you need to correct your way of thinking by seeking out women tht don't think negatively and you can mostly find this with religious women.
On a similar note to the last 1/3 of this podcast and related to the idea of a children's rights movement, I think a lot of conservatives are largely sheltered from the kinds of horrific things that children (who most of the time end up becoming liberals and/or lgbt) go through, and thus do not take mental health of children/young adults seriously. On the milder, more widespread end poverty and divorce have lasting negative impacts on their mental health, as does social media and a school system that promotes alternative lifestyles as the ideal. But I've often met people who'd tell me stories involving things like being molested by family members/neighbors, family members ending themselves, being raised by someone other than their parents because their parents were drug/alcohol addicts or in and out of jail, or worse. I met someone who was raised by his older brother (he was the youngest) because his parents were severe alcoholics, and the day he turned 18, his brother ended his life. And conservatives often act completely confounded "why does no one want to marry/why is the birth rate so low?" while at the same time are completely sheltered from the types of upbringings that a significant enough portion of the youth has that make me say "no 💩?"
This conversation is incomplete. We need a second episode 😅
I’m desperate to hear more about single moms and how to navigate raising children and dating for marriage because I escaped an actual abusive relationship and was able to escape.
Love that you had courage to leave an abusive relationship… staying together just hurts kids more especially in the long run.. As hard as it is to raise children as a single mom just be careful that you look for all the red flags in the next guy you date.. don’t rush because we tend to fall into the same patterns.. I wish you the best of luck and as long as you continue to raise you kids to have morals, respect, be giving, confident human beings with goals you will all be just fine ❤️
Ive listened to Zuby for a while.
So glad that hes talented and able to have the ideal body.....
Im a 39 yo mom
Christian for 25yrs
After having my kids i developed 4 autoimmune diseases.
One of them attacked my thyroid and i put on alot of weight due to not having enough of this hormone.....
I feel like im in a bike race and only have one leg. I deal with extreme tiredness amoung many other symptoms.
I also have vitiligo a disease that eats my skin....
Anyways i look like a monster so far from the ideal.....feel sorry for my kids and husband tbat they got a monster for a mom.
God is with me.
When i listen to Zuby i feel crap about myself....
Not all of us can reach the ideal.
Im conservative. Alot of people that are conservative treat me poorly as they think im not trying hard enough. When in reality just getting out of bed and trying to look after my kids is like climbing a mountain.....
Very inspiring!!
The amount of coping Lila showed here was off the charts.......
I'm confused. How can you be a pro-life activist and voted for Biden?
She may have voted for a smaller 3rd party candidate or refrained from voting🤷🏼♂️
I would guess the answer would be that there are many issues besides abortion.
I doubt she voted for Biden
If I had been from another country and come to America, I would have had WAY more opportunities than I did as a native born citizen. Affirmative action made sure of that.
I know because I went to a college with a lot of foreign students, and students that had moved to America and were first generation. Their test scores and accomplishments were about the same or slightly less impressive than mine, and their economic status was higher than mine (I didn’t qualify for a Pell grant by like $5,000) and they had full rides on merit grants, where I didn’t get a dime of financial aid outside loans - which aren’t financial aid. They are debt slave traps set for native born Americans, especially lower middle class Americans. Traps set by our own government, while it hands out freebies to the rest of the world.
I don’t understand how it could be better to get married before cohabitation..having a wedding, change your name, change over all legal documents, and join finances BEFORE living together. Makes 0 sense.
That is exactly why it is so important. Sex is not a commodity. It is a beautiful manifestation of a commited relationship. If you are not ready to do all of those things you shouldnt be sharing intimacy
Now it doesn’t because we have made it the standard. Before people would court get married and then grow together nowadays people don’t want to get married so they pretend to marry by cohabitation and it’s not good for society. Speaking as someone who cohabitated for years I wish I listened to my parents and got married first.
It's how I did it. My wife and I's first kiss was at the alter. Sure, on a physical level, it was hard to wait for sex, but on an emotional level, it was a no brainer.
If I had initiated sex before marriage, it would have destroyed the foundation of trust that we were building together.
10 yrs, 2 kids, and a very happy sex life later, I have no regrets.
BUT, we both have parents who are still together, we both have a strong faith in Jesus, and we both have put a lot of work into growing as a man, woman, and couple.
I could see how it might not make sense to someone coming from a different background or set of values. But know this: you bring something VERY POWERFUL into play when you save sex for marriage.
🤣🤣🤣🤣afraid to say I didn’t vote for trump. I feel you Lila👏🏼
You are both wrong at 29:50. In the past in US and UK, before 1960 things were not as bad as you said. That's feminist and woke propaganda. There was no need for correction or overcorrection in the first place, before 1960 things were working much better, socialy, economicaly. all the statistics and serious history studies point to this fact. I'm a top scientist in the US and I support and listen to the real World expert scientists on this topic, like Tomas Sowell and Milton Friedman.
I’m married and I hate it both conservative values zero sex life very expensive… wish I had been red pilled earlier
Btw both set of parents married 30 plus year never divorced
Faithful Catholic. Want to get married, but the Red Pill is necessary.
Fix the institution of marriage or men will continue to walk away
Women are so tone deaf about issues that affect men even if a woman is not raging feminist lunatic, which she is not she seems to be a nice lady who was raised well with good morals, and good family, yet she is till not able to get over her female solipsism of only seeing things from the female perspective. It is difficult to watch. He literally tells her that 70% of divorces are initiated by women (the number is actually between 70-80%, and it goes to 90% if a woman is college educated, it is a shit show) , and her response is, well choose better. Are you serious?
She speaks as someone who thinks that men are compelled to get married or that they have to get married, but no, this is why marriage is way, way down: because women know what a bad deal marriage is to men and they simply don't give a shit. They still expect men to go to the world make something of themselves and sign a contract with a woman where she incentives to break and take half his shit, and more often than not lose his kids. Women just don't care.
Also she points to the fact that people who co-habitate are more likely to get divorced, but she fails to realize that most men co-habitate because they don't want to get married, and most importantly men who co-habitate are having more sex than men who are married, actually studies show that married men get the least amount of sex of all men. This too plays a part as to why men are not getting married, she obviously don't care about this.
And her example about the possibility of divorce with comparison to a chance of getting a heart attack I found this to be out right disingenuous, because you don't get a heart attack because of a decision that someone else made.Also heart attack deaths in the US are 1 out of every 5 deaths that s 20% of all deaths. And the full death rate in the US is 1% of the population (around 1,043.8 deaths per 1000,000 people). And so the death rate from heart attacks is 0.25% of the entire population. So this is not even close to being compared to divorce rates which affects 50% of the respective population size. It is a bull shit argument and disingenuous at best. She is basically full of shit.
Women simply just care about themselves, even conservative women. Also another thing is that conservative women are divorcing their husband at roughly the same rate as liberal women,
54:47 Dead Beat dads, Absent fathers.. Single mothers. This is such bad language. *dysfunctional mothers* are just as much at fault.
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