Answering a question from another detrans woman. How do I handle trans regret and passing.

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  • čas přidán 5. 09. 2024

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  • @jules9674
    @jules9674 Před rokem +18

    I’m not sure what your voice used to be like- and I’m not sure if this is offensive- but you have a lovely female voice. I’m a biological female- and it hurts my heart to see people who have been and still are being hurt by a political agenda. ❤❤❤

    • @InterstellarDreams
      @InterstellarDreams Před rokem +5

      This!! Same. Never transed, myself. But I'm female, and I always bloody HATED gender norms and stereotypes being oppressively pushed on people, and thought GNC people were awesome. And I used to think gender ideology was TOTES awesome and progressive, because I was brainwashed into buying that narrative by the queer community. Then I gradually started realizing: "holy sh*t, it is actually EXTREMELY harmful to GNC people, and profoundly anti GNC! It's just a different, even MORE regressive, MORE destructive way of pushing heteronormativity, misogyny, and enforced gender norms!" LOL, and now I'm 100% a TERF. Although I thought it was the WORST thing any woman could be, so I spent literal YEARS fighting all the ever-increasing cognitive dissonance in my head, trying so very hard not to peak. Which.. it still didn't work. All I could do was delay the inevitable. Then it still happened anyway, and after doing a bunch of inner processing work, I now feel pretty damn proud to be here on this side, which I now know to be the right side. With the rest of you lovely bunch of ACTUALLY, legit brave and stunning women! ;) Been getting braver myself as well, and speaking out to more people in my own life, too. Because I really am THAT confident that the world needs to hear our perspective on why this stuff is harmful. And that our voices are pretty dang important. Which, for whoever refuses to listen, and instead tries to shut us up, automatically label us all as bigots, etc..? They VERY clearly don't deserve us. So it shouldn't be seen as such a big loss, really. There are always better people, with more integrity, out there.
      LOL, never mind me. I am prone to rambling a LOT! But I just felt like leaving a comment here, because I can SO wholeheartedly relate to this sentiment! As in: I did not end up on this side because I was like: "ewwww, gross!", and I just wanted to randomly hate on a bunch of people. I ended up on this side because I actually, genuinely care about all the people that are getting hurt by this destructive ideology, (even if they don't CURRENTLY realize themselves that it is hurting them), and I want to do my part to fight back against it, and decrease its hold on people! Thus its overall influence in society, and its ability to hijack vulnerable people's minds, like the devious, insidious virus that it is! Had I not given a crap about people getting hurt by this..? I still would have been on the other side! Virtue signalling, smiling like a soulless idiot, and getting droves of: "wow, your views are SO lovely and progressive! We approve!" So yeah.. Funny how so many people on the other side assume we MUST be motivated by hatred, bigotry, phobia, etc. And that we could not possibly just CARE about people, and where society is headed.
      ..Yeah.

  • @BlaAnderson
    @BlaAnderson Před rokem +13

    Thank you for all the work you do for the LGB Alliance USA and the 'detransitioner community' and the 'gay community'.

  • @donnastafford763
    @donnastafford763 Před rokem +14

    I have been saying many of these things to give comfort to detransitioners who are so young online. They get so much hate online. I am glad to get advice from some someone who has experienced this. I am glad that you've confirmed some of my guesses. I have been telling people that they should mourn their losses & that it was done to you but you also participated in it. Thank you. I hope to steer people to you for the voice of experience.

  • @pipche6283
    @pipche6283 Před rokem +10

    Carol you have a very strong female energy I would only read you as a strong caring woman .

  • @weecharlie01
    @weecharlie01 Před rokem +7

    We Sisters usually recognise each other, in all our wonderful variations. All the very best from 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

  • @rebeccasmith3016
    @rebeccasmith3016 Před 5 měsíci +7

    I don’t know you at all but I admire you tremendously. You speak truth so clearly and with such kindness and precision. All the best to you and your family and your loved ones.

  • @Rachel-xo1du
    @Rachel-xo1du Před rokem +10

    Thank you, Carol, for using your voice to help those of us still processing the grief after transition.

  • @saltytwofer
    @saltytwofer Před 9 měsíci +4

    "Radical acceptance." I like that. You seem pretty cool. I'm glad you found your own path. You have my support.

  • @ruthcookeinthetradition
    @ruthcookeinthetradition Před 5 měsíci +4

    You are very wise and it has obviously been hard-won. Respect.

  • @Piazella
    @Piazella Před 4 měsíci +1

    You are such a beautiful and emotionally grown Woman with so much Love and compassion. The way you describe the process of mourning and healing is so universal, so much an overall human experience, so every human being who experienced any kind of loss can relate, I think, to your words and feelings.
    I truly admire your honesty and vulnerability, take good care of yourself, sending Love ❤

  • @solangelalebron1348
    @solangelalebron1348 Před rokem +6

    Emotionally abused kids brains are stunted. And the government KNOWS this, that is why it was easy for them to convert and maim all these adult children. And sometimes even good mothers affect their kids. When I separated from my ex husband I was going to therapy with my kids and I said I was upset because my son hardly ever asked for anything (toys, shoes, clothes) like my daughter did. And he said "The reason he never asked for anything is because he saw I was so stressed out always having a lot of responsibilities. And I was upset because I was a single mother, I had no choice but to do laundry, cook, clean, run around doing errands because I had no help. But even something as positive as that affects children. After that I started to do the laundry less frequent because they had enough clothes to last them a month anyhow, wearing something clean every single day, without having to do laundry.

    • @andreavalentinaperez2734
      @andreavalentinaperez2734 Před rokem

      My mom was (and is) like you. Sadly she still argues with my father from the distance. I felt like a ping pong ball between both all my childhood and teenage years. But hey, I accept and love my parents and i'm working through that stuff

  • @miroirs-jumeaux
    @miroirs-jumeaux Před 5 měsíci +1

    5:09 My father has gotten into cultivating loquats in the last couple years. It surprised me because I never knew him to be interested in gardening, but now he's got scores of little hardy loquats he could sell if they weren't so precious to him. ❤

  • @nicos6494
    @nicos6494 Před rokem +3

    Not caring how others perceive you is key. Carol, thank you so much for these video's. Any way to get in touch with you?

  • @Gingerblaze
    @Gingerblaze Před rokem

    Our minds are constantly growing, and stretching learning and unlearning. Oir bodies grow and change shape and scar and heal and get wrinkly etc etc. To be alive is to always be in a state of transformation.
    Any one who cares for plants knows this process well.
    Radical self acceptance is the key to becomming truly beautiful. It is what makes you so very beautiful Carol.
    So much gratitude for all you are sharing here. It is helping so many.

  • @VK-tl5dp
    @VK-tl5dp Před rokem +1

    Thank you for a very powerful introspection and strategies for coping.

  • @maverickspirit208
    @maverickspirit208 Před rokem +1

    You are such a beautiful shining woman inside and out exactly as you are!

  • @user-fe2md9mg4y
    @user-fe2md9mg4y Před rokem +3

    I'd love to see your artwork!

  • @scomy55
    @scomy55 Před rokem +1

    Wonderful words-yes,you can do it too🙏🏽

  • @derekb4977
    @derekb4977 Před rokem +3

    LGB Alliance was a wake up call, so far Kellie jay keen is travelling America would be cool of you join her travelling squad.

  • @Gingerblaze
    @Gingerblaze Před rokem +1

    I love that you are a nurturer of plants.

  • @Grandma_Jizzzzzzzard
    @Grandma_Jizzzzzzzard Před rokem

    You are fantastic ❤

  • @mjwin8913
    @mjwin8913 Před rokem

    Also thanks for sharing what you’ve learned

  • @ennioborniotto6248
    @ennioborniotto6248 Před rokem +1

    Hello Carol , how much Testosterone you used to take ? Was that injections , patches or gel ?

    • @SourPatches2077
      @SourPatches2077  Před rokem +3

      Why does that matter?

    • @ennioborniotto6248
      @ennioborniotto6248 Před rokem +3

      @@SourPatches2077 I'm on testosterone myself and was just curious of the impact of high levels of androgens exposure in females . I watched your last video where you point at female bodybuilders and it's an excellent point actually , not only the amount of Test they employ are very close to what generally FTM uses ( along the lines of 75 to 100mg per week ) but the side effects they experience are very close to what you described in your last video .
      It has to be said that at the professional level female uses other androgens in conjunction with Test and there's a widespread use of Aldactone for its diuretic properties on top of more classic anabolics such as Anavar that further promote virilization .
      I apologise how I came across , I should've expanded a little . Mine is just a genuine interest in the topic from a scientific perspective , I was made aware of your content ( to which I subscribed ) by watching Isaac . All the best .

    • @SourPatches2077
      @SourPatches2077  Před rokem +2

      @@ennioborniotto6248 I can’t remember the dosage now but it was an injection of testosterone cypionate every 2 weeks.

  • @vikicha13
    @vikicha13 Před 5 měsíci

    I am 43 now, been contemplating if I were trans for 20 years. No T, no social transition or medical procedures. You should claim you have been taken advantage of if you were underage. Everything you do over 18 is your personal decision, unfortunately. This is if we stick to society's beliefs. The moral and ethical question stands no matter how old you are. So I have a mixed bag of emotions to where one should be responsible for their actions, still I feel not everybody has the luck to take the proper decision for themselves. To me You look very well the way you are, but this is a very simplistic way of talking about this.

  • @mjwin8913
    @mjwin8913 Před rokem

    Do you have other social media accounts for listeners?

  • @corinneskitchen
    @corinneskitchen Před 10 měsíci

    Wait why do you think Covid is over though?