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Carol
Registrace 9. 01. 2015
Lesbian of the butch variety with opinions.
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Religious Trauma and The Homosexual
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In this episode of Peak Lesbian, I discuss the trauma and pain that is often inflicted on same-sex attracted people by religion. Why many of us are still very skeptical of the religious right, and the role religion plays in transition. I share a personal story of my step uncle, and how religious bigotry impacted him. You can support the podcast at Buy Me a Coffee or by becoming a paid subscribe...
Update
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Just a small update. Links: www.youtube.com/@lgballianceusa9426 substack.com/@sourpatches2077 buymeacoffee.com/CarolSourPatches2077
Peak Lesbian Podcast Episode 2: The Word Is Lesbian
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Here is episode 2 of the Peak Lesbian Podcast. How I came to fully accept myself as a lesbian and the importance of language. Why it matters to be visible as lesbians, and how community makes us better people. All video editions of the podcast will be exclusive to paid subscribers on Substack. Audio only will remain free. You can support the podcast by becoming a paid subscriber to my Substack:...
Peak Lesbian Episode 1: Interview with Gaye Chapman
zhlédnutí 1,2KPřed měsícem
Welcome to my first episode of the Peak Lesbian podcast. In this episode, I have a wonderful conversation with Gaye Chapman, best known for being the owner of After Ellen. We discuss her experience as a lesbian who came of age in the 70s, her advocacy work for women’s rights and much more. IMPORTANT: Most of my podcast's video recordings will not be made public. They will be for paying Substack...
It Is Possible: A conversation with Justine
zhlédnutí 1,6KPřed měsícem
In this interview, Justine and I same-sex long-term relationships, the vulva cupcake scandals of 2015, and her work with the Gender Health Query. Justine is bisexual and in a 26-year-long same-sex relationship, and particularly cares about what has happened to the lesbian community over the past two decades. She also has been active for many years in the fight against the medicalization of chil...
Advocating for Radical Acceptance : Interview with California teacher Arienne
zhlédnutí 1,5KPřed 2 měsíci
On June 26th the California State Assembly held a committee meeting on Bill AB-1955 . This bill would make it California law that teachers and schools could not notify parents of their child’s request for name and gender change in their school records. A teacher named Arienne spoke out against the bill. She isn’t a Republican, she isn't on “the right”, she is a long-time lefty and voting Democr...
Update, Podcast and Substack
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Hi all, quick update about my channel and what I am working on. substack.com/@sourpatches2077? www.buymeacoffee.com/CarolSourPatches2077
Is Transition Medically Ethical?
zhlédnutí 579Před 2 měsíci
Clip from my interview with Mia Hughes. Just because a person wants a medical procedure doesn't mean it's ethical that doctors are performing them.
Now is The Time To Say Something: An interview with Mia Hughes
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In this episode I talk with Mia Hughes, she is a researcher for Environmental Progress and author of The WPATH Files . I have to say this was one of the most insightful interviews I have done, and it is a must-listen. Mia: x.com/_CryMiaRiver You can support my work by becoming a paid subscriber to my Substack or at www.buymeacoffee.com/CarolSourPatches2077. I appreciate your support.
The Peaked Lesbian: What Ellen saw in the 80's in San Francisco
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In this interview, Ellen tells me about some of her first experiences with men claiming to be women in San Francisco in the 80's and 90's. Trying to keep men out of lesbian spaces is unfortunately nothing new, as Ellen can testify to.
Interview with Amanda Kovattana: Author of the book "The Unexpected Penis"
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I had a wonderful chat with Amanda Kovattana about her book, her experience as a lesbian, her perspective on the idea of "the 3rd gender", and her activism. I hope you all enjoy it. The Unexpected Penis : Conversations On The Gender Trail a.co/d/chh6AD6 Her Substack: amandakovattana.substack.com/
Peaked Lesbian: When men call themselves butch lesbians
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In this chat Kim and I cover a lot of ground, from women with facial hair to coming to terms with being a lesbian. But if you want to cut right to Kim's ultimate peak moment: 59:53
The Husband Who Wanted to Be Queen: Interview with Trans Widow Ute Heggen Part 2
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The Husband Who Wanted to Be Queen: Interview with Trans Widow Ute Heggen Part 2
The Advocate Rant: Hating Lesbians is So In
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The Advocate Rant: Hating Lesbians is So In
Progressive Patriarchy: Housing Men in Woman’s Spaces
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Progressive Patriarchy: Housing Men in Woman’s Spaces
The Husband Who Wanted to Be Queen: Interview with Trans Widow Ute Heggen Part 1
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The Husband Who Wanted to Be Queen: Interview with Trans Widow Ute Heggen Part 1
The Peaked Lesbian: Elizabeth says no
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The Peaked Lesbian: Elizabeth says no
Interview with Maia: Representing the young lesbians story
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Interview with Maia: Representing the young lesbians story
A Conversation with Ritchie and Michelle
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A Conversation with Ritchie and Michelle
Interview with Michelle: Discussing her essay "Do as I say, Not as I do"
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Interview with Michelle: Discussing her essay "Do as I say, Not as I do"
The Peaked Lesbian: Interview With Jos
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The Peaked Lesbian: Interview With Jos
Everything is Valid: The crazy things I saw in the trans community
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Everything is Valid: The crazy things I saw in the trans community
Critiquing "butch as a gender identity"
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Critiquing "butch as a gender identity"
Let's chat about dogs and stuff: A conversation with Tori
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Let's chat about dogs and stuff: A conversation with Tori
i'm in the process of detransitioning. it's very awkward for me right now. but i wore the same stuff and identified as lesbian prior to transitioning, still wore the same stuff and liked women while living as male, and now working on telling people "hey i'm actually just a woman and that's ok" i've realized just how much i was getting in my own head. so much was changing and it was causing me to go further in to my shell and now i'm ready to stop wearing this front and just be me and be ok in my skin. so so much has changed during this, but ultimately i'm still the same me, just a little different having gone through this. it's given me a different perspective of myself, but i'm still me.
@@Nonethelessersoulcoin congratulations ❤️
Too late Honey.😮
buck is right And your smear campaign is a big fail
Nice! That's a good quality camera also 👀
@@MariaWitlof thanks, I have an old Sony a6000. It does the job.
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I am HERE for LoFi Bird!
Ladies and gentlefinches
Awwwww the birdies!!!
Your friend is beautiful btw
I did not realize that Scotland had a transwoman (with no experience or education in the field) in charge of their rape crisis centers centers, interesting vid on that topic: czcams.com/video/qyazHbrbEMY/video.html
This transwoman also got a lesbian, who’d long worked to assist such clinics, alienated and fired.
However, she is still a voice, clearly intelligent, and I appreciated learning more about that situation as well.
Lot of leftist queer activism is deeply homophobic.
I think most feminist activitists and activists in general have self harm issues. It's a new trauma drama every day. Most of it is imagined. All of its exhausting.
i keep wanting to leave a thoughtful comment but there's nothing to add. What a great interview, and thank you for getting to the route of so much of this nonsense. i really value what you two bring up 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
Thank you for this. I’m glad you had Ryan when you were young, and so sorry you lost him.
yoo what's that thing on the top left
I was raised in the WELS church and spent Kindergarten through ninth grade in parochial schooling. I realized I liked other girls when I had a crush on a female classmate in sixth grade. That was when I started to internally question the church. On top of that, I discovered the concept of being transgender at around twelve (I think it was a CZcams video). I also picked up on the misogyny in the church at a very young age, even if I didn’t know the terminology to describe it. I also have two older brothers who treated better than me. So even before being exposed to troonery, I hated being a female and always wished I was male. This led to me thinking I should transition. I never medically transitioned but I socially transitioned for two years until I was exposed to GC content and radical feminist ideas, then I changed my mind about transgenderism.
Sorry this comment is so long, I could write a book about this. I also have level one autism but wasn’t diagnosed until I was 16. So add that with the misogyny and homophobia…
@@AngryLotus2000 thank you for sharing.
Thank you for this, Carol. As you know, you and I experienced a lot of similar religious abuses. I'm 10 years younger than you, but it still existed as I was growing up, and I can't imagine it just disappeared one day. Religious trauma has saturated all of my existence, and I am only now really working to heal that. I'm glad you're here and talking about this. We need to talk more openly about this. And, on that note, James Dobson can eat dirt, and I hope to literally dance on his grave someday.
@@Rachel-xo1du sister! You and me both! ❤️
My family was a generational family at my former church. I (finally) realized I was a lesbian when I was in college, but told no one because I didn’t want to be gay. I tried to come out to my pastor’s wife, and she said that I just had a deep admiration for my professor (it was her breasts that I admired. Muchly.), and how could I be gay when I talked about men so much? So I kept it to myself for another few years, but SHE didn’t, and she outed me to SO many people at my church as a “prayer request”. That, and other things forced me from my church and away from my church family. I still believe, but I detest organized religion now
@@pandorabox82 that’s horrible! You would think religious folks would behave better wouldn’t you. I’m glad you seem to have made peace with your beliefs.
I was raised atheist by my ex Catholic parents and I am infinitely grateful to them. Religion makes people waste their lives very often.
Totally agree re: the tolerance of many GCs with homophobic (&anti choice, &anti women) people in the terf environment. As soon as the trans thing is over, they will turn on us. They want women straight and in the kitchen. That's the truth of it. Conservatives are not on our side and they do not get a pass as far as I'm concerned even if they are against transactivism.
Great episode 👏 thank you Carol.
Springfield MO. Came out 1980. I knew it was the shi!hole town so I left at 18. No skills no long term friends. Everytime I here one of these pampered brats say the tq crap I loose my mind.
Matthew 19 12 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ says God prefers same-sex marriage and confirms transgender people are born that way. I am Elijah, the forerunner to the return of Jesus. Fake ministers all know Malachi 3 8 is telling THEM to return the money. Fake ministers are Satan worshipers lying 🤥 on purpose and they know it JESUS was TRANSGENDER 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️, a female man returning as a female woman in a lesbian relationship with a male woman. Fake ministers lie on purpose to try to kill God's real people. World peace is coming for those that remain and God's real people will soon transfigure and never pass on again. Anyone that doesn't run from the fake ministers and accept the fact that God prefers same-sex marriage won't be here much longer.
Something a Lil off about buck... can buck change? I kinda think he thinks like a trad dad...
I like Buck. I think his intentions are good. Your perspective matters too. You seem nice. I am a 62 year old mom of a 31 year old who is transitioning female to male. I am trying to understand without doing anything or saying anything harmful. His decision to transition really surprised me. He didn't show any signs of gender dysphoria as a child. He was in relationships with men as an adult woman. So his story is different from yours. Do you have any advise?
I like Carol. I am going to subscribe.
What I hated about the gay community when I was young, is that you were expected to accept anything no matter how bad or warped. Like, you have no right to any moral objection to anything. It is still the same...
I'm not trans or detrans, and i just read your story on the encomonic. Figured i would look you up and see what i could find. I can relate to what you're saying here. I hated myself too. My sin was addiction (heroin, meth, alcohol, etc) for many years. I am so sorry you were church hurt sister. The devil operates in people via "religion" to push us away from God and end up hating Him or running from Him. But what he wants is a relationship with us. I will be praying for you 🙏🏼 you have sense and passion, courage to stand firm against some of this madness...so, i pray one day you fully understand how much Jesus loves you. We all struggle with certain sins, and like I mentioned earlier, mine was drug use (which is really sorcery). It's harder for people with a religious upbringing to find God for real (that's what the devil wanted) because of the trauma with his name slapped on it. But I think you're mom didn't understand how to walk in love and as a fallible human being herself we all make mistakes (there are plenty of toxic Christians out there...or Christians who say they're Christian but really aren't because they lack the fruits of the spirit which is love, patience, gentleness, etc) I hope I'm making sense! LOL 😂 I really try to minister to people God put on my heart ❤️ but I try to deliver it in a way they will be receptive to. Another thing: although homosexuality IS a sin that can led to hell so is adultery, fornication, drunkenness....so it's not the only one. If I stayed in my addiction, sleeping with men and watching pornography - well that isn't the way God wants me to live my life. We may disagree here but I'm just telling you what the Bible says, what God says, not me or anyone else. And I tell you this out of love - it's to convict NOT condemn. I think you're mother meant to do that as well but unfortunately it came off as condemnation instead, which happens....😢Don't be condemned my friend. I believe God wanted me to give you this message because you really pulled my heart strings and I believe God is pulling you to Himself. He knows what happened...He knows your heart better then anyone else. Whatever messed up views you may have of Him that's what the devil does - the devil doesn't want you to truly know God. He wants all of us to hate God and reject what he did for us. You know the story. There is so much I could say but I really wanted to tell you about this: there is a woman named Jackie Hill Perry. You should look her up! She got delivered from homosexuality. Now I feel like you have an open mind from the posts I've read of yours - you research and learn and try to get the full story before you shut something down. I love that! I do the same thing. That is a truth seeker. Well look her up! She even wrote a book called Gay Girl, Good God. She may even have a similar testimony to yours (as far as upbringing). Praying for you and your family ❤❤❤ in Jesus Christ name, amen. 💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥
Love you Carol!! You’re so amazing and anything you put out is appreciated ❤ you’ve already done so much.
I personally believe that butch is a gender identity and being buch is okay. If others do not agree thats fine.
As a person looking to transition I really shouldn't watch these videos. I always try to get a balanced view point on issues including this, but these videos never seem to put up a solid arguement nor really follow the evidence. It just makes me really sad knowing that there will always be people out there that will judge me and look down at me. Videos like this don't make me not want transition, they just make me feel incredibly sad and miserable. One of the reason I want to transition is to be more honest with people, yet here these people are saying I would be living a lie if I did! For me to present as a cis male would be a lie. Yet they're rather did that , than be happy and to be honest with the world. I really just don't get it. All they are doing is making the lives of trans people miserable.
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Take care of yourself and I look forward to what you keep putting out.💜♀️
Lovely to see you, take care of yourself ❤
Ah dang, I’ll miss the video content but the audio is good too. Love all your work and I recommend you to people all the time! Your interviews and your solo stuff is all so important 💓 best of luck with the new therapy!
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I wish you good luck. Thank you for everything. I wish you all the best.
You’ve been a big help to me during my own detransition! Thank you for what you’ve done here. If your videos so far are all the detrans-related ones you put out, you’ve already done more than enough. I hope everything goes well for you - Take care of yourself and live your life first and foremost ❤
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i would be interested to hear what you think about EMDR! im trying to make up my mind about it. neway, wish you the best! 🙂
@@skylarky I think it’s helpful so far. I might do a vid later about it but right now it’s to rough.
@@SourPatches2077 that would be great! hope stuff goes well for you ✌️
I feel like there's still much more I'd like to hear about your detransitioning but it sounds healthy to move away from that. There's so much more you have to offer including your segments on LGB Alliance podcast.
great to hear from you, glad you're well
Is there a way you could post the podcast just audio here? Maybe with just a black screen? I feel like there are so few channels from a perspective like yours on youtube. If not, I get it. Just had to ask.
didn’t she just say that she’ll post the podcast but without video on youtube?
@@bastetowl3258 yes I did. And actually already have. Both episodes are on here.
Take care of yourself and do what nurtures you. You are a light to other women and however you shine it is good.
Links?
I'm so grateful to Stone Butch Disco, but I really appreciate what you said about the top/bottom stuff. I'm a femme who has struggled with sex & gender dysphoria, essentially because I like topping. So it's important to me that butch is not the only alternative to trans. I'm a huge advocate for butch-femme, but our similarities are more important to me than our differences. Because I'm femme, I never thought of myself as trans, but I strived for androgyny and lived with an eating disorder for many years. I've heard feminine trans men and non-binary people say that they never felt butch enough, and transition allowed them to be comfortable being feminine, without the cage of womanhood. I feel like this could easily have been me.
@@idobelieveinfaeries this whole idea of top bottom should be done away with tbh. I understand that the words are simple and get to the piont but it’s male language and I personally hate it. Some lesbian love to be the giver of pleasure to her women and some love to receive this pleasure. But most of us love both and when women come together it is usually very egalitarian. And also yes, many woman struggle with sex dysphoria, butches don’t have a monopoly on it. Thanks for sharing.
Powerful stuff Carol❤ I am a lesbian, and mostly out, but I still struggle so much with self-acceptance, and you give me hope
You are speaking my language, I agree with everything you said.
The mental health disorder of Gender Dysphoria is real, or the mental health disorder of Sex Dysphoria as I prefer to call it. Not all Sex Dysphoric individuals medically or socially transition. We need to encourage Sex Dysphoric individuals to live as their biological sex and find healthier ways to deal with their disorder.
Hey Carol. I am a female = woman. I am a single- celibate Bisexual person. I am celibate- single by personal choice. I am Autistic too. I used to identify as a transsexual man. I started socially transitioning at 16. I started Testosterone at 18 years old, and I am 19 now and I wish I never started my transition, and I reliving my life as female. I have to talk my doctor to see if it is a good idea for me to contiune Testosterone for my Autism or not. I am more Christian now and I have found self healing and love through my faith. I may not agree with all your views Carol but I do agree that medical and social transition is not healthy or good. The mental health disorder of Gender Dysphoria is real. I personally call it the mental health disorder of Sex Dysphoria. There are Sex Dysphoric individuals who do not medically or socially transition at all, instead they find better and healthier alternatives to deal with their Sex Dysphoria, and they are happier and healthier than those who transition. I do not hate or dislike Buck or anyone who transitions at all and nor am I here to discrimate against them because that is not the right thing to do. I however I no longer pioneer medical or social transition, and I wish Buck would stop as well.
I’m so glad I desisted before medicalizing. Still working through the religious trauma and internalized misogyny. I related to pretty much everything you said.
@@AngryLotus2000 thanks for sharing. I’m glad I’m not alone in these things.
Kudos on your courage! You made it through so much and I admire your story and life!