Should a woman make the first move in a relationship

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  • @SwitchTVKenya
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    • @gracecheech
      @gracecheech Před 4 lety +2

      Nice

    • @khangelwakhathi508
      @khangelwakhathi508 Před 4 lety +1

      I love this show ,please kindly add your own subtitles if you can bcoz i feel like i miss some things when you speak in your mother tongue. CZcams subtitles dont translate your language. Love from South Africa

    • @khalilcyusa4640
      @khalilcyusa4640 Před 4 lety

      Khangelwa Khathi ergonomic morning
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    • @uzojenny8645
      @uzojenny8645 Před 4 lety +1

      Please, can you guys speak more of English bcos I don't understand your local language. I just subscribed to your channel. Thanks ❣️

  • @mukonazwothemudzanani3729
    @mukonazwothemudzanani3729 Před 4 lety +90

    Found this channel last week, and I've been binging on this show 🙈🙈🙈🤗🤗🤗 Much love from SA

  • @WiskundeJuffiedeurLizetteBooys

    Love is not looking into each others eyes it's looking in the same direction together. Wow! Been binge watching Benjamin from SA. Love it! 😍

  • @syrietteche9084
    @syrietteche9084 Před 3 lety +16

    This channel has healed me completely

  • @simincube5661
    @simincube5661 Před 4 lety +26

    A man who knows what they want remains as the most attractive aspect. A confused man will lead you down a path riddled with nothing but heartache and uncertainty.

  • @DevotionsWithSiwe
    @DevotionsWithSiwe Před 3 lety +19

    Watching from East London in South Africa. This is the content I signed up for 😍😍😍. Also kiSwahili is such a beautiful language to listen to, though I only understood "Asante sana".

  • @agneskimaru9376
    @agneskimaru9376 Před 3 lety +6

    I like the way Benjamin laughs as he talks🙈🙈

  • @clotildachamhuna1448
    @clotildachamhuna1448 Před 4 lety +8

    Benjamin is the best advisor of all the confusion w these men.. I love your show Joyce

  • @me_lyssa2020
    @me_lyssa2020 Před 3 lety +6

    Yes Ive found this channel last week and in enjoying listening.. thank you🙏

  • @nancyayabei5249
    @nancyayabei5249 Před 3 lety +23

    That dress Joyce, you're looking gorgeous.

  • @sheilababy2616
    @sheilababy2616 Před 4 lety +22

    In Ghana we say' is the dog that roam for bones not the otherwise.. i love this channel

  • @WiskundeJuffiedeurLizetteBooys

    Follow your heart but carry your brain with you 🤣🤣🤣🤣 yaaassssss Zulu 👏👏👏👏👏

  • @unathinkwali7518
    @unathinkwali7518 Před 4 lety +23

    Love this channel only saw it three days ago....all the way from S.A ♥️♥️♥️

  • @Auw__7
    @Auw__7 Před 3 lety +6

    I like the way Benjamin is Knowledgeable and Joyce, thank you for the show. I just discovered this channel a day ago and I really love the content, Interesting topics. Love from Canada

  • @stevelumumba1824
    @stevelumumba1824 Před 4 lety +25

    I think this talks are needed much by the kind of generation we are in to help at least reduce the divorce rates in the world

  • @nchawjennet7224
    @nchawjennet7224 Před 3 lety +1

    God bless you Benjamin for this wanderful advice for I have learned a lot since I started watching your messages
    Thank you so much

  • @ahuriladaniel9849
    @ahuriladaniel9849 Před 2 lety +1

    Akikufinyia mfereji wako na wewe finya🙌🏼🙌🏼😹😹😹😹😹😹😹ya kwako

  • @emmabucks9914
    @emmabucks9914 Před 4 lety +7

    A wise man indeed... Love from Nigeria

  • @winnieatieno9994
    @winnieatieno9994 Před 4 lety +10

    I'm learning a lot. Thank you

  • @rephaafwande2994
    @rephaafwande2994 Před 4 lety +4

    So inspire with your teachings

  • @dereklumumba7667
    @dereklumumba7667 Před 4 lety +21

    That outfit is lit., Joyce

  • @ashelkimbini4638
    @ashelkimbini4638 Před 3 lety +6

    Love this program More of English is good. All the live here in Zimbabwe

  • @OneNiftyBoi
    @OneNiftyBoi Před 4 lety +19

    I don't want an antelope, I want a lioness. An antelope is prey to every other lion.

  • @nabwiregloria
    @nabwiregloria Před 3 lety +6

    People in this generation think they can change up everything love how he talks about submission

    • @maddproff
      @maddproff Před 3 lety

      You are a keeper..too bad hakuna DM hapa 🤭

  • @christeenfrancis9449
    @christeenfrancis9449 Před 3 lety +3

    Listen to Benjamin just confirmed for me what man I want in my life and am not just dreaming he is somewhere out there

  • @adeolaadekanye2438
    @adeolaadekanye2438 Před 3 lety +3

    Such a great episode!

  • @MsLondy96
    @MsLondy96 Před 3 lety +1

    This man is awesome! Much love from South Africa

  • @nakilabilasauda7827
    @nakilabilasauda7827 Před 4 lety +5

    Benjamin is a supper star in doing the ssenga work.watching from Uganda

  • @balancedviewpoint7418
    @balancedviewpoint7418 Před 4 lety +14

    Yes and no. Yes if the two have dated, courted but the man is taking long to propose. The kind of move she will, take is to find out from the man the direction the relationship is taking not directly asking him to marry her. Direct approach will put the woman in a vulnerable position or be misconstrued to mean she is desperate for him. Its OK to ask a delaying man what's the way forward.
    Any relationship that qualifies in the basic criteria often binds faster than that with few unanswered questions or concerns if you may. A man delaying to propose is not fully convinced that she is the one. Or it could be that he is not ready for the reasons to do with his careless life(playboy) or his family attachment or money excuse. Otherwise if all factors remain constant, proposal should happen within a year not more. Too much waiting invites promiscuity so easily

    • @pridemataps
      @pridemataps Před 4 lety +1

      Thank you I found your comments vry interesting

    • @balancedviewpoint7418
      @balancedviewpoint7418 Před 4 lety +2

      @@pridemataps yes it is madam. Serious dating partners must set standards that are clear and open with a definite destination in mind. Only jokers like playing each other for long

  • @wambomarie3509
    @wambomarie3509 Před 3 lety

    I love the topic and the way benjamin approached it as a man...l wish l would get to talk to women too as a woman about this things very powerful...God bless.

  • @rumbijc5314
    @rumbijc5314 Před 4 lety +9

    Sons who are raised by single mothers compete to be perused as well...

  • @bancypius6919
    @bancypius6919 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks a lot , I've learnt a lot 🤓🤓

  • @gloria770
    @gloria770 Před 2 lety

    Don't issue a threat, "One day I will marry you". Mr. Zulu, you're too hilarious.

  • @soledadwangui2921
    @soledadwangui2921 Před 4 lety +3

    Joyce...me and you on the same side😂👌

  • @linnetgithuku
    @linnetgithuku Před 3 lety +3

    Mrs Wahiga I feel you 💯

  • @herinahellen9862
    @herinahellen9862 Před 3 lety +3

    Money can't replace the place of love

  • @mamanicole7220
    @mamanicole7220 Před 4 lety +3

    Joyce Your cladding 💞💞

  • @portiagaseitsewe4497
    @portiagaseitsewe4497 Před 4 lety +4

    This is so true

  • @winnieooko
    @winnieooko Před 4 lety +1

    Enlightening episode

  • @sarahjustice526
    @sarahjustice526 Před 4 lety +7

    I am not settling.I will wait

  • @syrietteche9084
    @syrietteche9084 Před 3 lety +3

    God brought this channel to me today and i have watched almost all videos on this channel same day. I can't love you any less Zulu

  • @Lisa_Wanjiru
    @Lisa_Wanjiru Před 4 lety +41

    The egg never swims to the sperm. So, a woman must never chase a man! If he went silent for months, years my dear sister open your eyes and move on and don't show him you're interested to him. He will catch the car later when it's too late🙏.

    • @eunicewavinya244
      @eunicewavinya244 Před 3 lety

      Sure

    • @brodemfamalam7178
      @brodemfamalam7178 Před 3 lety

      🤦🏾‍♂️Ever thought of the risks men have to take? In some sense the mixed signals women send to men can bee seen as selfish. They want the Benefits of a potential relationship without putting their ego on the line

  • @banksmd9881
    @banksmd9881 Před 3 lety +2

    Very true

  • @mutheu_
    @mutheu_ Před 4 lety +8

    Joyce has amazing accent

  • @quibianca8762
    @quibianca8762 Před 4 lety +3

    True naked I love this conversation together with those guyz

  • @martinab2055
    @martinab2055 Před 3 lety +5

    I wanna hear from Ben’s wife. What if he is like this on the show, but a pain at home 😬 just wondering. I like him here tho.

  • @megkarugi9665
    @megkarugi9665 Před 4 lety +4

    Love the topic am taking notes

  • @maryowino9403
    @maryowino9403 Před 4 lety +6

    A needy character is a true turn off

  • @patriciarogerse200
    @patriciarogerse200 Před 4 lety +2

    So True Wow You Guys Are The Best That's Is Naked True .

  • @maryowino9403
    @maryowino9403 Před 4 lety +6

    Never ever he wont respect me.

  • @luckysomyalo8192
    @luckysomyalo8192 Před 4 lety +2

    Please Try to add some subtitles for us who cant hear you guys

  • @marywhibley1756
    @marywhibley1756 Před 3 lety +4

    In my case, I am married living in Fiji. A Fijian woman living in San Francisco,love messaged my husband on 5/11/20. My daughter caught their messages and told me. When I asked him, he said that they they were only friends. I read their messages and they were becoming more than friends. They were saying to each other, "I love you", and sending each other kiss, heart emojis ect.... Is that ok for a woman to love message a married man?? She already knew that my husband was married.

    • @AJ-qm1ex
      @AJ-qm1ex Před 3 lety +1

      Beloved, she can only do what your husband allows. You already know the answer to this but it seems that you may not be able/ready to face it. Ask yourself, would YOU love message a married man? Don't hold the wrong person accountable. Much love, strength, & courage to you beloved 🌹

    • @jacquelinemuwonge3618
      @jacquelinemuwonge3618 Před 3 lety +1

      Your husband is unfaithful ,wake up

  • @faithcandies3964
    @faithcandies3964 Před 2 lety

    Love from Kenya

  • @triciabrown5263
    @triciabrown5263 Před 3 lety +1

    In this video, Benjamin stated that 'Men are to listen and let the women talk so they can get to know her'. However in another video he mentioned that a woman should not talk too much about herself, her ambitions goals etc because the man can easily pretend that he has similar; so women should let the man talk so she can observe and see what he is about. How can there be much conversation if the man is instructed to listen intently but as a woman I am instructed not to speak too much?

    • @jacquelinemuwonge3618
      @jacquelinemuwonge3618 Před 3 lety +1

      Getting to know you doesn't mean tell people what you want...he says don't tell men what you are looking for, talking about who you are isn't the same thing

  • @friedashifotoka6556
    @friedashifotoka6556 Před 4 lety +7

    such interesting conversation

  • @Bee-wd4mh
    @Bee-wd4mh Před 3 lety +2

    As always, this was very insightful but the question of who should say “I love you” first was still not answered. Please can that be answered in another episode?

  • @jackiesiime9865
    @jackiesiime9865 Před 4 lety +6

    I LOVE ZULU WHEEEWWWW

  • @sarahnyakio2685
    @sarahnyakio2685 Před 4 lety +5

    But a woman also what she want. Guess this version on him was used when moi was a young boy

  • @teejay2850
    @teejay2850 Před 4 lety +2

    Here today and will stay

  • @crochetwithcharity
    @crochetwithcharity Před 4 lety +5

    Hehe.. Being called all sorts of pet names the first day

  • @nancyayabei5249
    @nancyayabei5249 Před 3 lety +5

    The show is awesome

  • @akinyiokeyo4618
    @akinyiokeyo4618 Před 3 lety +8

    No, the man should make the first move.

    • @brodemfamalam7178
      @brodemfamalam7178 Před 3 lety

      Why?

    • @akinyiokeyo4618
      @akinyiokeyo4618 Před 3 lety +1

      @@brodemfamalam7178 After the first move, then? I take control of the relationship? Saying when to date and all? There's a reason why nature is what it is...

    • @brodemfamalam7178
      @brodemfamalam7178 Před 3 lety +1

      @@akinyiokeyo4618 🤨it could just be a 50/50 thing...
      I don’t see why these “gender roles” apply when women are mainly only the ones essentially benefit from it....as they don’t have to put their own ego on the line.

    • @shirowambondirito3711
      @shirowambondirito3711 Před 2 lety

      Not necessarilly

  • @gracecheech
    @gracecheech Před 4 lety +2

    Cool

  • @johanneskapeuasha9498
    @johanneskapeuasha9498 Před 3 lety +8

    I hope, this channel will start to care about thier global audience..... English

    • @kaykay5605
      @kaykay5605 Před 3 lety

      English isnt necessarily global

    • @lollylolly7828
      @lollylolly7828 Před 3 lety +1

      @@kaykay5605my broda,i am watching 4rm south africa, i dnt hear swahilli, it would be nice they speak only English bcoz Benjamin has wisdom lolly madikiza

  • @komujuninorahmishell6224
    @komujuninorahmishell6224 Před 4 lety +22

    Please dnt break English character I mean some of us dnt understand swahili

    • @juliannesharpe3066
      @juliannesharpe3066 Před 3 lety +2

      I most certainly do not understand or speak African languages. Although I appreciate your language, I cannot follow at times.

    • @maureenavilia1216
      @maureenavilia1216 Před 3 lety +2

      Click on the video u will see a box with 3dots click there it will lead you.

    • @AJ-qm1ex
      @AJ-qm1ex Před 3 lety +1

      @@maureenavilia1216 Thank you beloved✨