Become IMPOSSIBLE to Manipulate! 6 Ways to Recognize and STOP Manipulation/ Gaslighting.
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- čas přidán 28. 01. 2022
- We all encounter psychological manipulation and gaslighting in our relationships. With these 6 tips you will be able to recognize and stop anyone trying to manipulate you wether it's in a legal context, at the workplace or in your personal/ romantic relationships!
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00:20 Manipulation in Interrogations
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04:00 How do Manipulators think
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This was perfect timing! I have a friend who is in a bad situation with her spouse and I think once I show her this video it will help her understand what exactly is going on. Thank you so much for this!
Let me tell you…. When you tell someone who is trying to manipulate you that you are going to call a 3rd party to get their opinion & see what’s up… be prepared for backlash! I tried this with my ex and he literally tripped over himself to stop me from dialing. They don’t actually want you to tell anyone the things they say behind closed doors, because they KNOW they’re manipulating you. That was a big eye opener for me !
Bottom line: Never engage in a police interrogation. Even if you're innocent. Police are often more interested in a confession than learning truth and will absolutely lie. the best solution is to ALWAYS invoke your right to remain silent.
Any time someone is telling you what you’re thinking, you’re being manipulated.
"it's not enough that i win... You must also lose"
Interrogations to this extreme should be illegal should be able to sue the shit out of them for mental abuse.
Staying calm and having a straight face makes it much harder for them to manipulate you since they can’t use your emotions against you. Your emotions are a key subject to manipulate you.
Another response, to a suspicious question,that has served me well is "why do you want to know"!!
If you think you can't be manipulated, you'll make a perfect target. No one is immune.
Manipulators…
I finally was able to say to my manipulative ex to not tell me what I think or feel because I can speak for myself. Putting words, thoughts or ideas into someone else is abusive. Gaslighting is brainwashing.
I had a relative that tried to manipulate and gaslight me over and over. I finally had enough and now no longer am around that person. The situation was hurtful and stressful, and I had to change my circumstances to protect my mental health. Manipulation and gaslighting happens in families, at work, and everywhere else. Many seem to think they know better than you, and it has become worse than ever with social media.
Keep the three headings in mind at all times when in conversation I say..
It's always a good idea to ask yourself what's in it for the other person. Don't be paranoid about it, but don't assume they're trying to help either.
Brilliant tips! Manipulation technique #7 would be repetition: manipulators repeat the same thing over and over again and just don't stop until they get what they want.
When someone tells you how you should feel, they do argue. They will invalid your feelings
Every single manipulation tactic all but implies the use of the lying tactic and the gaslighting tactic. I actually dislike it a little calling out gaslighting as a manipulation tactic as it's actually an effect. All manipulation tactics will contribute to it by nature of what manipulation is. Some tactics however certainly take the gaslighting effect to a whole different level. Blatant lies that are so bad they insult your intelligence is one of them. That kind of shit will make you feel like you are in the twilight zone after a while. Here are some of the reasons they do this: To test their control. To feel superior and/or entertainment. This proves to themselves how much control they have over you. In the end, you will give up and you will not leave (trauma bonded). In the process of getting to the giving up stage, you will go through some pretty nasty emotional states ending in massive amounts of cognitive dissonance to swallow all of that. Cognitive dissonance is a trauma defense mechanism where you essentially lie to yourself in various ways so that you can bring back some semblance of equilibrium to the insanity you find yourself unable to escape from. As part of the ‘backing you into an emotional corner’ tactic. This is a tactic where you are manipulated into being emotionally unstable inevitably leading to you losing your shit. This gives the narcissist a big dopamine burst, they feel powerful and superior having so deftly controlled you and manipulated into this emotional state. To finish the little game they play, they make sure to point out how unhinged and unstable you are and suggest that perhaps you need help or medication. Of course, you will internalize all that shame and guilt and the million other raging emotions they have created and swallow all that essentially allowing them to scapegoat their blame and accountability onto you. Bring on some more cognitive dissonance and gaslighting effects. To condition you to expect less respect, and ultimately put up with more abuse. You will tire of the inevitable circular argument trying to convince the narcissist of the blatantly obvious lie and eventually find yourself challenging them less and less as you subconsciously accept the fact that if you do it will just make your life and emotional state more miserable and you will be denied the satisfaction of any kind of ‘win’ even if it is easy to disprove. This is part of the domination process and makes sure all the power in the relationship ends up with them by the end. To turn your mind to mush as the gaslighting effect takes hold more and more over time. This makes you even easier to control. Many times while easy to disprove it requires some kind of concession of some obvious truth that the narcissist can just doggedly refuse to agree with or remember (‘the intentional forgetting’ tactic and the ‘feigned confusion or ignorance’ tactics are often employed for this). So, in fact, it is not so easy to prove when the narcissist refuses to correctly remember what happened 10 min ago or accept sound logic or reasoning. You will just turn blue in the face trying. Of course, in some cases it is indisputable. A phone log or something. My experience is when this kind of stuff happens it wasn’t their intention typically, although sometimes it was. But in these scenarios, you will typically get some sort of angry ‘invalidating’ tactic, with some good old ‘manufactured rage’ and ‘intimidation’ tactics to ‘put you on the defensive’ and get you more susceptible to further manipulation. Maybe something like: “Get over yourself already” followed up by some ‘blame-shifting’ tactics with some good old ‘guilt’ and ‘shame’ tactics, like “Why the hell are you spying on my phone records anyway? What kind of relationship is this? I don’t have any privacy? I don’t know if I can do this anymore! You have major jealousy issues! You need help!” You will walk away as the loser either way. There are resistance tactics that can be used but this is a very difficult tactic to deal with and it is one of their favorites. I won’t get into the counter-tactics here though. The only way to really win in a relationship with a narcissist is to leave them and go no contact. Moreover, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done Metaspyhub@gmail. com,,
People, I have learned ( the hard way) SILENCE IS THE KEY with manipulators and gaslighters! Trust me! ❤
“Our memory is a highly flawed system. It’s built for practicality, not for accuracy.” I’ve never thought of it that way, but it’s very true. I really enjoy watching your videos. Thanks for sharing.
Never visit a medical professional alone, always take a witness. They con you into any number of unnecessary medical procedures .