VERY BUSY day for end-of-life care nurse
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- čas přidán 16. 05. 2023
- About Nurse Hadley:
Hadley Vlahos resides outside of New Orleans with her husband and three children. With eight years of experience as a registered nurse, including six years devoted to hospice care, she has gained profound insights into the field of healthcare. Online, she is affectionately known as "Nurse Hadley," where she shares heartfelt stories from her experiences as a hospice nurse.
Beyond her nursing career, Hadley has achieved literary success as the author of the instant New York Times bestseller, "The In-Between: Unforgettable Encounters During Life's Final Moments" published by Ballantine/PRH.
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Driven by her passion to make a difference, Hadley is currently working on establishing a nonprofit respite hospice house: hadleyhouse.org/
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I'd love to hear about some of the different rituals you've been a part of.
I'm very curious too
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Every video I see of yours has me feeling one overarching thought: you are exactly where you are supposed to be, doing precisely what you were called to do. As a caretaking daughter of a hemi-paralysed and left leg amputee mom who is going strong almost 9 years post stroke, but who has had a few close calls and was considered for hospice care 7-8 years ago, thank you for the beautiful and peaceful atmosphere you bring to the loved ones. I stress with my mom's situation, I can just imagine how much stress each household you care for is under. You have so much emotional strength. Thank you for sharing with all of us.
My father passed this past January at my home while on hospice care. The hospice team was exceptional and made a very difficult and heartbreaking time for me easier. The nurse stayed with me until his body was removed from my home and made sure that I was ok before leaving. Hospice teams are so underrated. It takes a special heart to be in hospice. Thank you for what you do.
Have insomnia. Came to your channel bc it gives me a sense of peace. May I have as caring a hospice nurse as you when my time comes. Thank you, good woman.💛🌀🌟
It’s funny but this is my comfort channel too! My grandparents are going into care and it just makes me so calm to know what to look for and expect.
@@zacgallenlover911 When you say they’re going into care, then I assume they’re going into a nursing home. My mom’s in one.
Be sure to choose well-one that really cares for the residents & not just the bottom line. If ever on hospice, you will have the right to change hospice companies if their needs aren’t being met.
#SacredBlessings to you & them.🌟🌀💛
@@marirose19 I found this channel because they need quite serious care and was looking up different nurses to find one that gave me the vibes i was looking for in the home they go to or the nurse that stays with them. I know now never to settle and their rights! I’ve sent/shown my other grandma who is 95 some of her videos and they have eased her mind incredibly that hospice nurses aren’t the grim reaper. She always says “Honey when i go make sure i have a nurse like that cute little southern girl you show me” 😆😆 Stay blessed friend… Having to switch roles with those that cared for you is so tough but rewarding in its own way
@@zacgallenlover911❤
I love your sensitivity to your patients and I believe The Holy Spirit as well. You seem to get that " knowing" in your spirit.
One of the two things that are guaranteed in life.❤
It takes a VERY SPECIAL person to do this job ❤
My grandpa passed away may 11 he was on hospice and i was worried he was going to pass soon the nurse was coming to check on him he started seeing stuff reaching up ext. When she asked him question he could answer them with flying colors. I asked her how long she thinks he has, she replied he not really showing any end of life signs, but me as his caregiver knew he only had a new days left she visited him Tuesday and he passed holding my hand Thursday! They were all super shocked that he actually passed and I predicted it. My grandpa went through all of the end of like stages in 2 days ❤
God bless the both of you!
Awwww I could never deal with a job like that, you're very good at your job!
You are honestly one of the sweetest people. I'm sure you make your patients lives so much better. Thank you also for helping me come to terms with some of my fears about death
I couldn't do what you do on a daily basis.. My father had hospices care.. He was only in hospices for about a week.. Now my grandmother is in hospice.. My husband doctors were talking to me about end of care for my husband.. But he's not ready yet to make a decision... He wants to try everything humanly possible to keep him stronger.. So everyone is different....
Thank you for the services you provide all of you need a pay raise.. You guys are living angels...
I. In health care or was UNTILL my husband got sick.. I did adult foster care.. It's hard but very rewarding...
Love your sweetness and how kind you are. You certainly have a gift.
She’s a treasure, for sure.
I hated my freckles my whole life. How are yours so adorable??? Thanks for all you do.
Hadley, I just love your heart 💗
My father is currently going through the transition from this world to the afterlife. Watching your videos brings comfort in a difficult time. July 17,2023 may be the day my Father passes with Hospice keeping him comfortable. We have had multiple visits from Chaplin which helps us process our feelings. Thank you for shining light on a dark topic.
You are an Angel sent from the Heavens to care for those whom need you.
Thank you for doing this work. It was helpful for me while my father was in hospice in his home. I had been worried about what death would look like, but because of calming education from you and other hospice nurses on social media, I was less concerned about "what's going to happen." My father's active dying phase was very peaceful, and I was actually caught off guard to receive the call that he had passed. I wasn't expecting him to pass so quickly after he became unresponsive (sleep-like state). Seeing him resting peacefully helped me immensely and it didn't feel unnatural at all.
It takes a truly special person to do what you do.
I cannot get enough of your videos, thank you so much for sharing with all of us! You have a beautiful heart and soul!! ❤
I love your videos, you are the light in a dark time in people’s lives ♥️😊
If I’d continued in nursing, I would have done hospice care. The experience I did get with it as an NA was so moving that I still think about it regularly. Nursing as a whole is hard and I can’t say hospice wasn’t, but it was the area I ultimately felt the most comfortable in ❤️
You’ve inspired me to become and end of life coach. I’m 51 and as much as I would love to become a nurse I think that ship has sailed but end of life coach seems like I have time and physical energy for that. Let me know Hadley what you think of them. And if you’ve ever worked tandem with them. Love these videos ❤
In my opinion it is as much of an honor to be with somebody during their passing equally as cool as a baby coming into the world. Keeping it doing it in the name of Jesus we all belong to him and to him we go home
This! My MIL and I were close and she passed away while I was in nursing school. As I was learning about the signs someone was preparing to transition (die), she was exhibiting all of the signs I was learning about. 😢 She was a nurse too and although I was sad beyond belief about losing her, I couldn’t help but also recognize how much of an honor it was to take care of her in her final days. ❤
I'm an RN who does a lot of end of life work and I'm also a student midwife. To me, it's perfectly logical. It's dealing with that part of the circle we know little about although science and religion attempt to answer it. Both are natural processes that can work with no intervention but may require it. Both need a place of warmth, privacy, security and someone there when it gets intense.
In days past, it would have been the same local woman who tended to both birth and death most likely too
My husband is 72, was born with asthma and COPD. One doesn't allow air flow in the other doesn't allow air flow out. As a little boy he ended up allergic to a bunch of foods, egg bread milk chocolate etc. Then got polio couldn't walk and ended up having to get braces.
He eventually out grewthe allergies, learned to walk again. As a very young adult he served 2 tours in Vietnam, got shot twice. One went through his foot and land in hit rear, the other through his leg then through his neck.
Got out to become a truck driver, fell off the top of his load trying to fix a tarp in the wind and brike his neck.
Later got side swiped getting out of his truck ( by a lady who admitted she was trying to run him over cause she hates all truckers) breaking his arm.
So at 72 yo he has asthma emphysema copd chf arthritis one leg is shorter then the other agent orange issues losing his memory and now has lung cancer....
I am not ready to lose him. But i am also his care giver.
He is eligible for one paid for by our insurance, but he doesn't feel comfortable with that.
So when he passes, i will lose everything, my daily routine of taking care of him, my best friend my husband leading (i am sure,) to me losing my mind
I wouldn't trade anything in the world for my life with him,but i would trade the world for more time with him.
Working in the NICU would have to be the only thing i could think of that would be harder then what you do.
You have a beautiful soul. So glad you found a good use for it.
Your love is so palpable. I will pray for you and your husband.
God bless you and your husband.
You are truly dedicated and so connected❤ thank you Father creating beautiful people like this. I've always wanted to volunteer with hospice. I thank you Father for making me the way that I am as well. So I'm my retirement charity I'm always going to remember to bake and to create lovely lunches. I don't want to see anybody who's doing such a a job yet out of the gas station ever on my watch. Cuz you are surf and turf quality kid❤
I love your videos! Would you be able to do one for aspiring hospice nurses on what nursing skills are needed to hone/perfect in hospice? I would love that
I wish you had been my parents' hospice nurse. I know you're going through a lot but just know how much of a blessing you are to all of us and our families, especially during times like these. Thank you for sharing your experiences with all of us ❤
My dads hospice nurses were AMAZING and so sweet! Ppl dont realize it means the WORLD to someone to treat thier love ones so nicely. I lived with my dad as his caretaker and had hospice nurses come by for help also. They kept saying how rare it was to have children stay with parents as caretakers.. i always thought that was so sad to hear..
I just pre-ordered your book yesterday. I am looking forward to reading about the wisdom you have received from your patients.
Your daughter is so adorable.
Just listened to the audio book, right before my step mom died suddenly. I really loved your book Hadley, and think you are such lovely person. Thinking about becoming a nurse because of how much good you do in the world ❤
You are so beautiful and so sweet what you do is so amazing and you should keep blessing families. You are wonderful❤😊🥹
Hadley, I ordered your book and started reading it yesterday. I couldn’t put it down! ❤❤❤ I lost my Abuela in March 2023 and we lost our dog in Dec 2022, and I am still grieving. Your book is so healing, and I haven’t finished it yet! Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🥹🩵
I am so sorry about your patients passing. You are an 👼.
God bless you for what you do. Thank you for doing this. ❤
Thank you for all you give ❤
I'd love to see a chat between you and Caitlin Doughty, you both do wonderful work helping people understand grief
That might be... interesting... 😳 Caitlin has totally different vibes. 🤷
Btw, have you come across _Going with Grace,_ the channel of Alua Arthur? She's a death doula/end-of-life consultant. She actually did do a colab with Caitlin, that's how I found her. I learned a lot from her, too.
The bravest people, hospice nurses!
Thank you for your videos. Im either uplifted or feeling super tender at the end. Sometimes both. Bless you Hadley
thanks for posting this. 💚
i would also be interested in a video about post mortem rituals you have been involved in, or maybe just a lil educational vid if u dont feel comfy w specifics
Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️
You humble me
Hats off to hospice nurses it’s a brutal job
God bless you, sweet lady. He will.
I preordered your audiobook! I’m so looking forward to getting to spend more time with you and your stories 🥰
Hi Nicole, What's the name of the book/audiobook?
@@sandhya.r9 “The In-Between” by Hadley Vlahos! The same girl that this channel is 😊 She voices her own audiobook and I’m very excited!
@@nicoled9756 Thank you so much!
I pray that each patient sees God when they see your Humility, humbleness and selfless love that through you they will be blessed and I pray they will know we are nothing, our soul doesnt need material attention earth idols just our salvation, grace and mercy May Godbless yoir hands ❤🎉🙏
Wow, is it common to have two patients pass in a day? Or for them to pass so soon after seeing them?
In my experience, death often happens in clusters. When I was on my cancer unit rotation in nursing school, we didn’t have a single patient die one entire week and then we had 7 pass in two days. Same with the ICU. We often had a couple deaths a day or have to run multiple codes in one shift and then have no deaths at all for a few days.
@@zx1906when I was young, I would hear my mom say “it happens in 3s” deaths and babies. So far, it’s been fairly accurate in my life.
I was kind of reply to both of y’all.
Should have probably mentioned that I’m a nurse as well.
doula of dying. what a heavy privilege. love your sharing here. thank you. love from 98383
I just think you are the cats meow nurse Hadley💕
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Can’t wait for your book❤
In your book do you share about some of the rituals you experience? I heard you share one and it was beautiful 🙏♥️
Where did you buy your Sun badge reel? Please answer 🙏🏼 I want one so bad but I can’t find it anywhere.
While I would obviously never ask for information that wasn’t already freely given, I am so curious on what ritual sprung up tears!
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Pff your so calm I thought you would cry when you said some of you patients died 😂
What are these videos about...hospice?....a day on the life of?....or being a celebrity???
these are visits about hospice care so people can feel comfortable about it and dismiss any stereotypes they have about it
Brand new subscriber here..I'd like to know..do friends of the loved one ask you about feeling guilty about not visiting their friend? I feel guilty because I can't see my friend without breaking down..he's in hospice..hard for me to even write this post 😢..ty in advance for any comments
@Message 𝟗𝟕𝟖𝟖𝟏𝟑𝟔𝟒𝟗𝟗 I'm sorry but what does this mean I don't quite understand the Emojis. I am asking a serious question
I wana hear about the paranormal stuff
Yep. Because it’s a real phenomenon.
You talk about death being beautiful!! I find it ugly as sin !! I lost my dad to cancer in 2021 and it bye no means was beautiful!! It was the most heart breaking 💔 😢 😪 😔 😭 thing I ever went through I loved my dad and I miss him sooooo much especially hear at Christmas time!!!!!!!!!!!
Just a quick question... were you ever a little grossed our by someone's dead body and eventually got over it... or did you just never care... because I want to be a nurse but my fear Is I'll be sick if I see someone's body...
Caitlyn from “Ask a Mortician” said there are nasty cases, but someone dying at home surrounded by love ones will be a nice clean body 🩷 I have 2 friends who are undertakers and they only see the human. But we ARE human so some stuff can be gnarly. Definitely something you get used to!! You can do it
Is your husband in the medical field, too?
He’s a physical therapist
This woman gives and gives all day long, and her agency doesn’t even give her time for lunch. #illegal
And what about the patient you refused to visit because he was too far away??? Who takes care of him???
Someone closer may have seen them, or she may have seen them the next day. When my dad was on hospice, the nurses all worked together to get everyone seen.
@@lynn2574 What i was gonna say haha. Don’t worry, he is okay! There would have been a nurse closer to see him❤
She didn't refuse to see the patient.
she did not refuse -- she rescheduled.
Girl don’t be touching that gas pump then touch & eAt your food ugghhhhh
I was freaking out about that too!
1 John 3:10 In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not his brother. Anyone in sin is not saved. You must be saved to have the Holy Spirit and go to heaven. Repent while there is time. Many will burn due to lack of knowledge. Read and apply bible to your life. It's the roadmap to heaven. New Testament KJV
wow! it seems like such a rewarding yet heartbreaking job. thank you for all you do 🩷😘🫶🏻
Hadley❤😊
My cute eyes😅😊❤ i love them mmmmmmm kiss