Why you should take yourself less seriously | Paul Osincup | TEDxMontanaStateUniversity

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  • čas přidán 25. 05. 2024
  • How can each of us find more humor in everyday situations? And how can we make this practice a strategic mindfulness tool? Paul Osincup is a Corporate Trainer, Author, and Humor Strategist who helps people create happier, healthier, and more connected places to work. Paul’s global mission for workplace happiness has provided him the opportunity to speak to hundreds of organizations including The U.S. Army, Google, The Harvard Kennedy School of Leadership, and Discover. Paul is a content creator for the health and well-being app, Happify and a consultant trainer with international workplace culture experts, Delivering Happiness.
    Paul is the past president of the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor, a non-profit organization dedicated to the study and application of humor to enhance health, well-being, and human performance. He also performs and teaches workshops at Last Best Comedy club here in Bozeman. Paul’s work has been highlighted in The New York Times, Forbes, and on his mom’s refrigerator. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Komentáře • 106

  • @MariahMiller
    @MariahMiller Před 22 dny +93

    This being posted right while in having a mental breakdown about life and self esteem is just so perfect 😂😂

    • @paulosincup
      @paulosincup Před 22 dny +11

      You’re already seeing the humor in it! Life is hard, but it’s also funny. Find the funny. It’s all material. You got this! 💪

    • @MeRia035
      @MeRia035 Před 21 dnem +4

      Divine Timing 🙂💜🙂

    • @vvohvaelez9277
      @vvohvaelez9277 Před 20 dny

      @@MeRia035 algorithm learning

    • @Take_Note
      @Take_Note Před 15 dny +2

      That’s a good attitude to have about that. If it helps there are breathing exercises called 4-7-8 that help us be a little more calm. You can look them up & find a them easily. Calm App also has them.
      There’s also book called The Confident Mind by Nate Zinsser that’s really helpful.
      Good luck to you, praying for you.

    • @ericsierra-franco7802
      @ericsierra-franco7802 Před 11 dny

      Get professional treatment.

  • @melodybartholomew8159
    @melodybartholomew8159 Před 16 dny +13

    I'm kinda surprised more people in the audience weren't chuckling at his jokes. They really needed to hear this. 🤭 Definitely an important point...

  • @stevengoldwingnomad5086
    @stevengoldwingnomad5086 Před 21 dnem +42

    I’ve often been accused of too much humor, even by myself ! Now I know I’m not alone. Thank you Friend.

  • @MattyV001
    @MattyV001 Před 21 dnem +33

    I feel like humor is the only way to affect things that are outside of your control. And that’s useful.

    • @paulosincup
      @paulosincup Před 21 dnem +5

      You said it! 💪

    • @ericsierra-franco7802
      @ericsierra-franco7802 Před 11 dny

      Humor cannot affect things outside our control, humor affects how we cope with and perceive things beyond our control.

  • @Lolcoca
    @Lolcoca Před 21 dnem +16

    That’s why that is important to do what makes you happy : laughing especially as long as it doesn’t harm someone !

  • @NickGianoulis
    @NickGianoulis Před 19 dny +11

    "Humor is life's sweetener" Brilliant and entertaining as always Paul. Bravo👋😊

  • @ericsierra-franco7802
    @ericsierra-franco7802 Před 11 dny +3

    Humor is extremely important in seeing us through the truly rough patches in life. You may find yourself in truly dire circumstances where the only thing you have is a sense of humor to lighten the situation and give you a beacon of hope through the situation. Humor can indeed increase resilience in bleak or trying circumstances.
    Humor is essential!

  • @sarahmacintosh6449
    @sarahmacintosh6449 Před 21 dnem +14

    My motto in life is "If I can laugh at it, I can cope with it." Recognising the fundamental absurdity in so much of our lives has helped me through some immensely difficult events in my life, as well as through the annoyances and difficulties I encounter every day.

  • @passeromagda9029
    @passeromagda9029 Před 13 dny +3

    It is very useful and wise lecture to know how to laugh at ourselves :)) and not to be so serious in our short lives :)) thank you :) 😁👍🏻

  • @anshitadixit5753
    @anshitadixit5753 Před 21 dnem +14

    We all have experienced the affect of humour in our lives once but never recognised it's importance and even never knew it's good!! Thanks for this!!:)

  • @ewalichorowicz4614
    @ewalichorowicz4614 Před 21 dnem +10

    I absolutely love this speech! It is my impression that most of our upbringing has to do with getting kids to be more serious, so we then have serious adults. Kids are masters at finding funny moments everyday: they either do something funny, or they laugh and that also makes us, adults, laugh. When we slow down, we can observe the absurdity and the fun in life. There is no doubt in my mind that laughter is such a powerful remedy for life's ups and downs. Laughter is therapeutic and when we giggle with people around us, it helps us relax and feel more connected. This is also one of the reasons so many people like watching comedies. My main takeaway from this is that I am going to try to direct my own life in such a way that it becomes a comedy rather than a tragedy. Thank you so much for these great tips Paul!

    • @paulosincup
      @paulosincup Před 21 dnem +1

      Your comment made my day, thank you. I’m so happy you connected with the message. 🧡🙏

    • @ewalichorowicz4614
      @ewalichorowicz4614 Před 21 dnem +1

      @@paulosincup Paul, your speech was a highlight of my day! I so appreciate when people have and share a great sense of humor! Laughter is the best form of group therapy! 😊 Have a fantastic weekend! 🙏

  • @allym.8310
    @allym.8310 Před 22 dny +24

    This is the best talk I’ve watched in a while. I agree, we have to sometimes look for our inner child and find humor even as adults just like how we used to be when we were younger. It’s a way of living that I think is not always talked about. Thank you for this ted talk ❤

    • @paulosincup
      @paulosincup Před 22 dny +2

      Thank you, that means a lot! 🙏😉

  • @nikkiryall4603
    @nikkiryall4603 Před 14 dny +8

    Poor Paul ... I felt so awkward because the audience were clearly never gonna get the point. Their sense of humour has clearly left the building 😅😂

    • @RoRu87
      @RoRu87 Před 5 dny

      Right!? I admire him for keeping his enthusiasm with this crowd. Montana State is not where you go study and have fun.

  • @user-ki1ey2te7l
    @user-ki1ey2te7l Před 14 dny +3

    I’ve been aware of benefits of humor forever….by being around others who have this!
    Never knew how to implement humor in myself!

  • @dennistucker1153
    @dennistucker1153 Před 21 dnem +7

    I love this video. He is right about this. Not taking yourself too seriously is a very good thing.

  • @EcomCarl
    @EcomCarl Před 20 dny +4

    It's fascinating how retraining our brain to perceive challenges with humor can transform our everyday stress into a source of strength and optimism. 🎭

  • @lisalucchetti1460
    @lisalucchetti1460 Před 10 dny +5

    "Humor is a Habit"😄😁🤣

  • @DanPoppingPT
    @DanPoppingPT Před 13 dny +4

    Awesome message!

  • @faithellis2010
    @faithellis2010 Před 20 dny +4

    Excellent talk - wonderful and refreshing perspectiva! I needed this! Thank you! 🎉

  • @soumyasingh6923
    @soumyasingh6923 Před 15 dny +3

    thank you for the tip sir

  • @subarnakarmakar6512
    @subarnakarmakar6512 Před 22 dny +17

    Now I am also stressed about finding humor in everything😢

    • @MohSadWatt
      @MohSadWatt Před 21 dnem +1

      That's what exactly he was telling not to do, if you can't find humor in anything just watch comedy, if you don't find comedy interesting then just go out and talk to people face to face, if you can't even do that just find professional help

    • @marylroberts5463
      @marylroberts5463 Před 21 dnem

      Don't be stressed, be happy, we always worry about little things. The rainbow 🌈 is here! 😊 ! My child. Or should I say my children. 🎉

    • @MjMurphy777
      @MjMurphy777 Před 21 dnem

      That’s a humorous comment… 🙂👍

  • @fionajane2665
    @fionajane2665 Před 21 dnem +5

    Great talk.Very serious audience. 😄😄

  • @ali-ahmed10
    @ali-ahmed10 Před 16 dny +3

    Amazing

  • @TheKathybarth
    @TheKathybarth Před 21 dnem +3

    Excellent! Humor- and I am not talking slap your knee hee-haw - is a remarkable trait if you have it naturally or, like most of us, a benefit to learn! This should be taught to young people in school.

  • @mikerozic7225
    @mikerozic7225 Před 21 dnem +6

    Spot on brother Thank You!

  • @frattman
    @frattman Před 21 dnem +5

    I was in Walmart the other day and a cheerful fellow approached me saying "You look like you could use better internet service!" To which I smiled and said back "Oh, not me - I'm getting a divorce, won't even have a house soon" It made me feel good, and I'm sure it was something he was able to share and laugh about.

  • @JaYeDeN360
    @JaYeDeN360 Před 21 dnem +4

    Thank you for the tools. This was helpful. I laughed a few times just watching this 😄

  • @asuznjoozhamattom
    @asuznjoozhamattom Před 21 dnem +3

    That was an amazing perspective towards life.thank you.

  • @celestialcircledance
    @celestialcircledance Před 21 dnem +5

    The problem is that I've never had much of a sense of humor as a kid either . Whatever semblance of a sense of humor I do have is dry , dead pan and easily missed by 99% of the population . . For example ,"Those might be useful exercises for taking myself less seriously and I'll add it to the bottom of my to do list." !

    • @paulosincup
      @paulosincup Před 21 dnem +2

      The bottom of the to do list 😂 I love it! That’s great humor. Just like exercising more often is good for you, but doesn’t mean your body will look exactly the same as someone else’s, exercising your humor muscle is good for you & your sense of humor will still be your own unique brand of funny. 💪 😉

  • @unikreations2258
    @unikreations2258 Před 20 dny +4

    I absolutely agree with Paul’s theory. 20 years ago, I was super stressed at my freelance design job when everything that could go wrong went wrong. With the tight deadline of 3 pm that day, everyone working on the project stopped functioning like they normally would. For reasons I still don’t understand till today. I blurted out laughingly, “Don’t panic! It’s only a crisis”. All of a sudden, everyone just blasted out laughing and everyone just resumed normal. I think that comment somehow put the situation in perspective. No one dies as a result of the missed deadline. Miraculously, all worked out fine in the end and we made deadline.

  • @carlschleg5822
    @carlschleg5822 Před 21 dnem +4

    THX, REMINDS ME ALL THIS IS TEMPERARY. You ROCK BIG BOY

  • @lisalucchetti1460
    @lisalucchetti1460 Před 10 dny +3

    Smiling🙂😁

  • @LMShackers
    @LMShackers Před 21 dnem +4

    Yep this. So good!

  • @mariaantoniettamontella9173

    bravo

  • @ncamisilengcongca
    @ncamisilengcongca Před 11 dny +2

    😂😂😂😂 love this talk!!! Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @Earthesion
    @Earthesion Před 22 dny +6

    Some of these phrases from him deserve an awkward laugh track like from a sitcom for real

    • @celestialcircledance
      @celestialcircledance Před 21 dnem

      A lot of them seem to add levity to a situation rather than crack you up .

    • @Earthesion
      @Earthesion Před 21 dnem

      @@celestialcircledance Yeah that would be the ideal case scenario except for the awkward delivery

  • @visualsolutionz
    @visualsolutionz Před 19 dny +3

    That was good

  • @raerae6422
    @raerae6422 Před 5 dny

    We are so lucky we can retrain our brains. Never thought about doing that for humour. What a novel idea!

  • @angelacocco1899
    @angelacocco1899 Před 21 dnem +3

    Amazing!!! 💜🌈🙏🏻💚

  • @user-vw3ul2vs7z
    @user-vw3ul2vs7z Před 21 dnem +3

    Wow this is super exciting

  • @lakhyanath5563
    @lakhyanath5563 Před 21 dnem +5

    Very nice

  • @UzairQayoom-dk7fe
    @UzairQayoom-dk7fe Před 22 dny +11

    Let's comment to get more likes 😂😂😂
    By the way it was amazing ❤

  • @palkyaw8756
    @palkyaw8756 Před 21 dnem +3

    Love❤❤❤speed my master❤

  • @kevinsparks7850
    @kevinsparks7850 Před 22 dny +8

    That was good stuff

  • @edwardmensah7246
    @edwardmensah7246 Před 21 dnem +6

    This is super 😂🎉

  • @andressapaiva_fotografia

    Chandler Bing thought me that in Friends!!! 😂 here we learned to make jokes when we are uncomfortable 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • @Naomi-ev2oh
    @Naomi-ev2oh Před 21 dnem +8

    What's wrong with the audience? Barely a chuckle at times... maybe the audio is off... This speaker is funny, albeit a little hyper (but appropriate for topic). 😊 Talk was a good reminder for me: lighten up. Good useful strategies.

    • @paulosincup
      @paulosincup Před 21 dnem +3

      lol. 😉 It was the last in a long evening of talks & the ones prior to mine were about some heavier topics. Took a few for the audience to warm up. I’m so glad you got something out of it 😎🙏

    • @MeRia035
      @MeRia035 Před 21 dnem +1

      ​@@paulosincupthanks for the explanation regarding the audience. Great talk, enjoyed it & I laughed 🙂

    • @dalemoore5569
      @dalemoore5569 Před 21 dnem +4

      They are clearly all adults 😂😂

  • @ianian2773
    @ianian2773 Před 21 dnem +3

    been watching a bunch of 'taking things too serious' videos recently so this is convenient lol

  • @briankepner7569
    @briankepner7569 Před 22 dny +3

    🎉 better than the current air virus of ant i-critical bias

  • @TheTurksky
    @TheTurksky Před 22 dny +6

    Not a lot of comments here yet. I'll add one but it's not serious so can be ignored.

  • @LONE_WOLF_GANG
    @LONE_WOLF_GANG Před 22 dny +6

    A hyper individualistic identity comes equipped with a huge ego, which makes you think you're the center of the universe and therefore never learn anything substantial outside of the bubble that the person created.

  • @palkyaw8756
    @palkyaw8756 Před 21 dnem +1

    All player. Like❤

  • @bassmouter4694
    @bassmouter4694 Před 21 dnem +1

    Humor:
    Will you be
    A light- or a criticaster?
    An example- or a judge?
    A part of the solution- or of the problem?

    • @bassmouter4694
      @bassmouter4694 Před 21 dnem

      I got 12 notes with me, in the back of my cover of cell phone:
      1. Be thankful.
      2. Be optimistic.
      3. Don’t worry or compare yourself with somebody else.
      4. Be kind.
      5. Work on social behavior.
      6. Work on ways to tackle setbacks.
      7. Learn to forgive.
      8. When you enjoy Flow moments, encouraging them.
      9. Be happy with the small moments, create your small events.
      10. Go for your goals.
      11. Live your belief or spirituality.
      12. Take care your body- sleep enough and don’t use alcohol or drugs.

  • @palkyaw8756
    @palkyaw8756 Před 21 dnem

    Why and what❤

  • @demie9178
    @demie9178 Před 18 dny +3

    🤲

  • @Napukin
    @Napukin Před 21 dnem +1

    Be aware: Not everyone will benefit from this talk. Rejoice in your transcendence.

  • @usermynewmine
    @usermynewmine Před 22 dny

    Josh talks lite .

  • @Chris-hp2gg
    @Chris-hp2gg Před 2 dny +1

    Don't lose your sense of humor.😂

  • @kasherist
    @kasherist Před 21 dnem

    Skeleton. This is humor 😀

  • @HellHeater
    @HellHeater Před 21 dnem

    when life gives you lemons
    dont make lemonade

  • @Dearfaraz---
    @Dearfaraz--- Před 22 dny +1

    I am a nice person but i get happiness by being mean. Should i be mean all the time to keep myself happy?

    • @anishbishwokarma49
      @anishbishwokarma49 Před 22 dny +1

      Try to findout your happiness by doing good work

    • @Dearfaraz---
      @Dearfaraz--- Před 21 dnem

      @@anishbishwokarma49 people don't appreciate good work🔪🩸

    • @malikaferreira5294
      @malikaferreira5294 Před 21 dnem +1

      Ure sick ...seek help

    • @MeRia035
      @MeRia035 Před 21 dnem +1

      Don't be mean, it's a vicious circle. (I'm sure your comment was sarcasm) 🙂

  • @vinzanity68
    @vinzanity68 Před 15 dny

    So...why did Robin Williams...

  • @vikasrajracharla9689
    @vikasrajracharla9689 Před 20 dny +1

    More sweeter may cause diabeties😂

  • @bahraleloom
    @bahraleloom Před 4 dny

    I feel audience's English level is basic, only 2 or 3 of them have C1 level so they could get the point and laugh

  • @TeyiSensei-fp7ny
    @TeyiSensei-fp7ny Před 22 dny

    Bro tried..

  • @phyothihanevercare
    @phyothihanevercare Před 21 dnem +1

    Tired

  • @Jinikiriwarrior
    @Jinikiriwarrior Před 22 dny +10

    They letting anyone speak now?

  • @uaps28
    @uaps28 Před 21 dnem +1

    Boring TEDxTalk. YAWN