6 Things Introverts Need in a Partner
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- If you consider yourself an introvert, what are some qualities that you look for in a potential partner? As introverts, it can be very hard to find a partner, because we are naturally quieter in nature. We prefer alone time to recharge. And because of that, having a partner might become draining. Do you find yourself relating to this? Perhaps, this video can share some insights on the traits of partners that would be compatible for you?
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Writer: Michal Mitchell
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera
Animation : Zere Suraganova
Project Managed By: Geo Gao
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Six points:
1) someone who is comfortable with silence
2) a good listener
3) someone who values quality time
4) someone who understands personal space and alone time
5) a love for deep conversations
6) someone who can take things slow at first
Thank you!
Yup
Never hurts to repeat those! Especially the first for me personally, I'll talk to my partner tomorrow about this one, because I feel like this is the topic we haven't discussed enough.
I am an introvert and my man is an introvert too.we enjoy this awkward silences ,it just keeps us at peace.but lately that is becoming a problem and I became an extrvert.😂
Nice. Now I don't have to watch the video.
As an introvert, I can confirm that I seek this in a significant other
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Hey fellow introvert
I concur.
Same.
But are we even able to get a significant other?
The good thing about being a introvert is that I don't really need much interaction with people, I'm not wasting my time trying to find someone who get me, I'll continue doing my things, improving myself and having fun without having to worry about others.
Yeah it does save a lot of trouble not having to worry as much about needing to be around people or needing to put yourself in situations where you will run into people just to feel ok. You do have to socialize sometimes for mental health reasons but a lot of times but it is good not having to seek it out as much or as often
@@aiiiia9971 all the socialization I do is during work and that's more than enough. People are annoying and very unreliable.
Yeah. I think my mom and my sister are the only introverted friends I have. Looking at my other friends they’re all extroverted and love being around people constantly. They ask us “how do you do this or that alone?” “I can’t imagine being at home or alone on a Saturday night.”
I love going out alone for a walk. To the movies. To the grocery store. In my thoughts. I truly believe It’s a beautiful gift to have.
@@RealengoPrimordialDemonAmen to that.
Private and deep conversation with someone who does not get agitated, sitting in a quiet place - where there is no foot traffic. Priceless ❤
Perfect dates: sitting cuddled together and watching a show together
Yes but nobody actively wants that.
@@bastionsea2829unfortunately for us, all women are occupied or have actual good taste in men. So we dont even bother trying anymore, although its absolutely tormenting how much we are touch starved.
Yes they actually do. I do, and I know many other people do as well
I 💯 agree.
honestly i love this because i am a huge introvert and this sounds SO nice, especially because people don’t always realize how much we need to recharge after a lot of socializing. To have someone who understands and respects my needs and feelings would be amazing- also because i sometimes don’t know how to talk to other introverts, but extroverts are almost too much lol
love this ❤😊
Agreed, knew this one guy who liked me that took it sooooo personal after I told him I felt smothered, even though he already said he understood... I guess I just took too much time or something? Shaming them for needing time apart is a great way to make an introvert overwhelmed instantly and want to run for the hills!
SO TRUE!
That can indeed be amazing.🥰
@@aiiiia9971same with me. The last woman eventually “ghosted” me. I guess a month of getting to know me “as a friend first” was too slow for her. I’ve dealt with too many narcissistic women(not a lot but enough) that I was not taking any chances anymore.
Timestamps
1). Someone who is comfortable with silence 0:23
2). A good listener 0:58
3). Someone who values quality time 1:44
4). Someone who understands personal space and alone time 2:18
5). A love for deep conversations 3:00
6). Someone who can take things slow at first 3:49
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
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Uncle Joe is that one uncle whom everyone knows, but rarely seen in family reunions.
Me and my crush are both shy and introverted
It's great that we can relate all the time
Your comment gives me hope. May I ask, as two introverts, how did you both bond and or flirt with each other and let each other know that you like each other? I feel like I struggle with this and don’t know how to not be awkward. I feel pretty helpless since I’ve never had a partner and I feel like it’s because no one has been willing to give me a chance, they just label me as someone who is too quiet. And that can hurt how I view myself a lot.
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I'm still in high school but ~4 years ago I made a friend who is extroverted. I don't remember how.
But he was my only friend. Then he made me talk to my crush last year when he found out she has lots in common with me.
Then me and her exchanged numbers and now we're friends. I don't know if it's a close friendship.
She doesn't know I like her and I'm too afraid to confess. And I don't know how to flirt.
I've never had a partner either.
You two wont get together😂 so quit having a crush pal😂
@@anderstermansen130that was totally unnecessary
@@anderstermansen130 Me and my sweetheart are both introverts, and we DID get together -- so shut your yap, because you've been proven WRONG!
As an introvert, I love silence. It just makes me feel relaxed
Silence can be a comforting and rejuvenating space for many introverts. Love it too
Love being an introvert. As I got older, I learned how to comfortably say "No." I've been unstoppable. It's amazing over here, and I hope others who are at that point in their lives just absolutely revel in it because we are impenetrable.
it hurts when people I'm closets to tells that im selfish ,and not giving my time for them , when i say no to an invitation , well how can i explain i just wanted some alone time
@@Bunny-kx7zj If that's how they're going to interpret your choice to take care of yourself, there isn't much you can do. It's out of your hands. And while it sucks, they'll come to understand eventually, and time can afford that. Can you afford to stretch yourself thin for people who aren't open to understanding how you function for your own well being?
@@cynthx thank you
Dang CZcams picked me as a chosen one to actually be recommended your vid in under 10 seconds
The introvert pushing that speech bubble back into the exteovert's mouth had me unexpectedly laughing out loud. 😅
The drawings in this one were really good! I just love the frazzled versions! The person coming home with seemingly a chunk missing from his head are completely at utterly me.👍🏼
Scenes during the talk are so magic! As if you're in the book of Little Prince
Introvert here. It took me a long time to discover that extroverts are the ones that work for me. My husband and most of my closest friends are extroverts. I love to listen and to learn and they love to share their thoughts and ideas. They are the ones who make me try new things. However, it is crucial that we understand and respect how each other works. For example, I understand that my husband needs more social time (boardgames) and he understands when I gently ask him for a quiet time (alone or side by side). Instead of getting bitter or offended, we are happy to see the other one recharge on its own way. It is so relaxing going to social events with him because he does most of the talk and enternainment while I just enjoy myself with no pressure. He says he prefers introverts. Do opposites attract? I don't know, but we laugh so much toghether and there is never boredom.
That's wonderful! It sounds like you two found the perfect balance and I am happy for you
Lol thats cute😂 It could definitely sound like a real story😂
@@aiiiia9971 thank you! ♡
@anderstermansen130 hahaha it is true! We are 42 and 44 years old and we have been married for 11 years now.
@@ghelfling_bunnyi too have been married for 700 years now😂
As an introvert, it’s a challenge to find someone who I can converse deep and personal topics with; I can find someone who’s willing to open up about herself, but usually they don’t ask me anything about me or my life.
Its because women doesnt care about men, anymore. Youre a fool for beliving women have feelings, or let alone, beliving women are actual human beings.
As an Male Autistic person, I just want a partner who will allow to emotionally vent and be vulnerable without them judging me and viewing me as "less masculine" I cant help it, I never had someone who actually at least try to the time to understand me, instead of running away or trying to "Fix me".
i’m so sorry 😞, i really really hope you find someone who will listen to you, no one deserves to feel like this
Dude, your problems aren't exclusive to you being autistic, every women do this to any guy they have in their lives in one degree or another. Women aren't logical
Something I found helpful is to start with saying "can I vent to you about this thing? I'm not looking for advice but just want to get it off my chest."
As an autistic female, I can perfectly relate 😞I wish you to find your special someone one day 🙏❤
Both me and my gf are autistic. And I'm just hoping she understands I don't always know what to say and mostly stumble over my words.
I felt so understood by this video lol. I can confirm that I want all of those qualities in a person and some of my most valued friendships with people who just know how to vibe with little small talk or activity
Knows when to give space and
Someone who is comfortable with silence whenever you guys are together
As a longtime introvert, I’ve gradually gotten to the point where I need no one. My life is solitary and peaceful. I still have to interact with co-workers occasionally but it’s a limited time and I don’t feel drained from it.
Give my compliments to the animator, this video was hilarious.
Hey,
I agree almost 100% because I am an ambivert and highly sensitive person but when I have this introvert phase it is very consistent. I would love it if you would upload a video about ambivert people.
I see myself as an ambivert person and need different things depending on the day to recharge my battery, unfortunately it is not so easy for me to recognise every day anew whether I need more time alone today or whether I want to be around people.
Sometimes it happens that I know exactly what I need today, but that is not the rule, but rather the exception.
What is the best way to recognise what I need on a particular day?
As an introvert, thank you for your suggestions because my current partner is an extrovert and does most of these..
You're very welcome! Wishing you both continued happiness and understanding in your partnership! 😊
I don’t think I’m ever going to find someone, even if I did I think that piling my mountain of problems on top of them would just damage the relationship.
Everybody has baggage, I found my BF while I was still working on the healing process of past traumas. I'm still in the process a bit, but I'd have to say my BF actually helps me with them. When I freak out over my insecurities he does very well to reassure me. I mean I was literally about to ball to him at one point I was feeling so down because of my insecurities and with one small sentence he made me smile and the tears were gone.
All I'm saying is, climb that mountain and do what you can to widdle it down, and you might find in the process of doing that, you may just find someone who's worth it and thinks you are too.
But that's just my perspective so take it with a grain of salt. I wish you luck in finding love ❤
I want someone who can understand that I need alone time, and time to just do things by myself. I get so drained and grumpy if I didn't have some alone time in the mornings and evenings.
Imma introvert and I might be aroace, but I still gotta SUPPORT PSYCH!!!
This video is one of a handful of yours i’m saving. I’m very introverted, and many of your videos about introverts, or even ADHD, Autism, Anxiety and/or Depression has gotten me to realize what might be wrong me, during my mental struggles this year.
This video, amazingly explains what i need, since i’m very lonely, and looking for a partner. Knowing the the 6 things i’ll need in my potential partner, i might actually get into a relationship. I should at least have a handful of relationships under my belt at my age (24), but i’m way too shy, socially anxious and awkward.
Your videos really put the potential answers to many of my questions i’ve had about myself, since my mental crash in January. I thank you for that ❤
Sincerely, a sub with loads of mental struggles to fight with~
hey, you're on a better track than I. 34+ and not one relationship yet~~ 😅
sad, I know, but life is legitimate hell & partners aren't always a priority. 🤔
@@IamDaBlitz64 my brother in christ, that made me feel a load better, with a chuckle too 😂👍
You are not alone. I was 32 when I got married, till then was a virgin. Same issues like you. BTW, i'm 39 now, can't tell you the loads of challenges I face daily having another human around me 24x7. 😅
@@KunalKadu That's a good thing, actually. Promiscuous people lose their ability to pair-bond, but most people have to learn things the hard way.
Dang Amanda, your peronality is all over the place in this video and we definitely love it! Great work as always ❤
I used to have sooooo many fears about being in a relationship it's crazy. Then I found my boyfriend (who's also an introvert, but a lot less anxious than me). It's been more than 1.5 years now and I still think we are the perfect match♥︎ The points in this video fit us. And it is especially wondrous since we live in the same (small) dorm room, so we really do spend a lot of time together🥰
(Note from JJ: I'm super jealous of you but also super happy for you. Have fun with your partner!
-JJ Boreal, Account Owner)
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Lol hold up, you mean to tell me theres other things going on inside womens brains, than constantly figuring out how to hurt men, the worst, most foul and hurtfull way possible?
Why havent you dumped and ghosted him within the last 1,5 years?
@@anderstermansen130 Who hurt you, kupo?
@@anderstermansen130whats wrong with you
The animation in this video is extraordinarily adorable.
The choice of books in point no. 4 is so me! I love the writing of Ray Bradbury❤ As an introvert married to an extrovert I can agree 100% 😂
All these points are so true as an introvert I relate to them so much. Plus the animation is sooo cute!🥰 I just love it❤
If someone who is an extrovert can do that for an introvert, I guess it might be worth a shot.
Loved the animation for this one especially.
I am an introvert and this is spot on👏🏽
The style is ADORABLE
Omigosh!! I love the Halloween theme and the CUTE artstyle!! Sims reference!! :0
This hit me to the bone ❤ the accuracy is just straight up perfect
For me it’s kinda weird because I tend to attract both extroverted friends and love interests. I actually appreciate extroverted partners but I also appreciate these traits too.
Lol I know the feeling
lol it's not weird at all. You're normal just like anybody else 🤍
Funny story, I'm actually the opposite. I tend to attract introvert friends and even my 2 group of best friend is me being the extroverted person alone. They even ever told me about them being thankful because if it's not me to approach them first, they think we'll not gather around as best friends for decades hahaha. I love my introverted friends 🤓🤍
@@lovelee_zhi the last crush I had was very extroverted and it was his constant bombardment of my personal space and talking to me that made me like it. It was so funny to me 😂
Embracing the balance of both extroverted and introverted traits can create a well-rounded and fulfilling network of relationships!
@@MacyPooh196yooo your story is so funny to me because I think this might be what my introverted boyfriend feel about me constantly bombardment his personal space 😭😭 I just thought back then that if i didn't do that, he might be never open up his heart to consider me as a partner
I definitely value the taking things slow. I am not one to rush into a relationship at all, I am one to go gradually from "Can we just be friends for a while?" to having romance starting to brew in me. Unfortunately, I have not met a potential partner that understands this. They want to get romantic right away and I'm like "I'm not ready for that." and feeling very uncomfortable. I've met many other women who feel the way I do about it, but I'm heterosexual and a woman myself. In my experience, it's always been the women that are like "Let's take this slowly, let's not rush into things" and the guys that are wanting to get right into the romantic stuff asap.
this video is one of the reasons I like ENFPs so much - INFJ guy
Amanda, I love your voice. These videos are great information and I learn a lot from them. But your voice is so soothing and calming that I could listen to you read the phone book and gain just as much from that.
One of the best animations. Thanks for video!
These animations are so wholesome and this video is so accurate
i know it is not part of the topic at all. but the helloween sapling is so cuuuute ❤❤❤
my name is Extrovert, and my GF is Introvert, i appreciate little reminders on how to make her happy & comfy :-)
Love the videos! Especially since I'm an introvert myself.
So real! Love this video and animation
I love how the ilustration can describe what i want so well
I loved this video 🥺❤️
Not just because I'm an introvert but this one just connected to me 😅🥰
Introvert + Extrovert = Polarity AKA Yin and Yang
Or opposites attract 😊
Being a lone-wolf ADD introvert living with a ADHD extrovert, and knowing we are both at the opposite ends of each spectrum (my ADD is light and I am a real lone wolf, while my husband has quite a heavy ADHD and just loves and needs socializing), that's pretty amazing we are able to live together. Especially as we are digital nomads and live in a 12m2 motor-home ;-)
I think, anyway that there is ONE thing only that we need, no matter which stamp you put on yourself: RESPECT.
If you have respect for others, you'll just take them the way they are.
The main issue is people believing others are wrong and try to "fix" them, or "teach" them what they should do and so on.
It took me years to understand this very fundamental thing: I don't have to change to accommodate others. Others have to understand that's the way I am and to take things as they come.
But that doesn't mean you have to be selfish. My husband suffers from separation anxiety due to a recent health trauma, and though he understands I need alone time, I also understand that when I leave to be alone it triggers his anxiety very badly. So we just take each day as they come and try to BALANCE his needs and mine.
That's most probably the most fascinating and difficult job in a relationship: trying to truly understand your significant other, and respect who he/she is no matter how weird his way of being/acting might look at some point.
Yeah yeah you all have ADHD.
As an INFJ male, I can confirm all of these things are good things not just for introverts, but in ANY relationship. Love this channel 🙏🏻❤️
Fantastic humour in this one, love it
I love the video. And the animation looks SO GOOD! 😍🥰
Just love your voice ❤ and as a introvert yes we want thissssss
Im an introvert as well and i'm just amazed at how accurate this is. It literally describes what things i look for in a partnet
Good morning to everyone 😊🤍 & also Good evening 😊🤍
A channel that makes reuploads that are actually good
I love your voice. It's very soothing! ❤
This channel changing my life little bit
I really resonate with all those qualities!! Wow!
This is literally me. Thank you.
❤❤❤❤ This video was too cute! Lol As an introvert….all of these points are valid for me. Thank you for this.
❤❤❤ These are absolutely the right Points💯
Every single one of these points is such a huge factor to me and i always struggled to find these traits, even regarding friends! It's why i never really bothered to pursue my crushes or have a lot of friends
There were times my gf and I went minutes on call and I didn't say anything, just knowing she was there I felt relaxed. Or maybe having lunch together we don't talk much but always sit together among our circle of friends. I think we're both good listeners. Though I think she's more extroverted than I am but not too sure.
Quality time? We get together twice a week with different groups of friends but I'm happy just to see her and I'm sure she feels the same. Even some friends take a few jabs at me for it. I'm good with personal space too.
Deep conversation seems nice since small talk is my downfall. Whether it's other friends or her just into detail about my thoughts helps me feel a bit better. And she said to the things slow at first and I completely agree.
I’m an introvert and everything you said in this video I like and need
This is exactly what I needed
this is a 100% how i feel I'm so happy that i found this video that put my feelings and thoughts in words thank you :)
I’m an introvert and this is facts. Thank you for making this video ❤
As an introvert I love speaking alot to someone I love and someone who understands me, but I don't like to take things slow at first when the feelings are clear and I feel safe and reassured i take things so fast and become inpatient to the next step
One interesting aspect of the Myers-Briggs system is that the best matches are always between introverts and extroverts.
For example:
ENFJ and INFP
ENTJ and INFP
INFJ and ENFP
INTJ and ENFP
ENTP and INFJ
ISFP and ENFJ
ENTP and INTJ
INTP and ENTJ
ESTJ and ISFP
ESFJ and ISFP
ISTJ and ESFP
ISFJ and ESFP
ESTJ and ISTP
ESFJ and ISTP
PS: Sorry for my broken English...
Dang...
I never spend much time thinking about what I would seek in a relationship, or how it would be if I ever got into one...
But just seeing these topics being listed it already warmed my heart...
It would feel so nice to have someone like that in my life! TT-TT
This list is spot on
I am a introvert and this video is spot on!😁❤❤❤❤❤👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thank You. 😊🥰
It's not raining here it just finished snowing and the pure silence that comes after snow especially at night just makes me feel things.
Good advice. As an introvert myself, this sounds like it might help me seek a partner later in life
Yes. This is SO me!! I like to be around people and crowds sometimes.. not All the time
I'm also an introvert and I value all of those things. Luckily I found a partner that helps me open up while also giving me time to wind down.
That kind of balance in a relationship can be truly enriching and nurturing. May your connection continue to thrive, and both of you bring out the best in each other.❤
This is 100% accurate!
I found a lot of these relatable, I really need to be able to be with someone that we can talk and tangent back and forther on whatever subjects we can think of. It would be a welcome change to not feel so anxious about needing to do something all the time when with someone.
also the fish said:
"in dead cthulhu
R'lyeh home
wait!!!"
which I think it supposed to be something along the lines of offering to listen to him since it's apart of the good listener segment.
Find a person like this is like finding a rare gem❤ hard but worth it 😊
Very cute video with good points 👍🏻🌟
That episode was exactly as it supposed to be. Funny and start! x3 And as an introvert I agree with everything said here. A partner who would value all those things here would be my perfect match.
The way you get my spec is amazing such ladies are rare around me 😢😢
😊 this is soo true i have a hard time finding someone that will fit with me coz alone time is really important for us introverts then a good listener, deep conversationalist, and a deep connection even in silence 😅 after long years i finally find someone
I usually don't comment much, but Uncle Joe needs to be a reappearing character, maybe even with some dark lore surrounding him when, in reality, he's one of the kindest personalties in the Psi-Universe.
Also, great video! I'm seeing this girl at the moment, and it looks like we're slowly developing a romantic relationship, but we're both rather shy and inexperienced introverts, and I can feel that we both enjoy very much spending time together but at the same time it's difficult opening up to each other and talking about our feelings. On the other hand, it has rarely felt that rewarding in my entire life when I do decide to be brave and vulnerable and share my true self with her. All in all, it's pretty exciting and (positively) nerve-wracking, so thank you for your wise and entertaining videos for calming me down :)
This was spot on.
i love your videos soo muchh!!
EVERY SINGLE THING IS VERY ACCURATE!! ❤
As an Extrovert these info is... Useful.
Spot on!
The love of my life is an introvert and this video helped me a lot!
I'm selectively introverted. Some of these I really connect with, deep conversations being one, I don't like small talk, but it sometimes seems like the only thing people can really do. It's mildly upsetting
P.s. when I say selectively introverted, I mean I swing back and forth, some days I'm extremely introverted, other days I'm not, sometimes it'll change midday. It's wierd, and can be difficult to keep up with, so I genuinely love and appreciate the people who can stick around despite the mess.
I think I can understand, sometimes I'm more extrovert, but mainly introvert I think. I really don't like small talk either :) @@Fury2580
I hat to admit it, But I am an introvert. I spend lots of quality time with myself. I only go into town when I have to. some times I like to wonder around to see what's happening and maybe engage in some of the activity and hope to get to know someone better. I would feel a lot better if I could find someone who is a lot like me with the likes and dislikes but I mostly feel comfortable when I'm alone. Just having someone around to talk to some times is okay but at the same time having someone around make me nervous.
LOL!!! Slowly pushes the word bubble back into the mouth. 🤣
Love the weather-small-talk joke
Wonderful information for life.
I like how the introvert died from small talk.