My Daughter Has Never Slept In Her Own Bed | Jo Frost: Extreme Parental Guidance
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- Working mum Jo has two lovely daughters, Paige and Poppy. Paige is now six years old, and acts very unusual for her age as she cannot sleep anywhere except in bed with her mum. Supernanny Jo Frost is here to help Paige and Jo fix this issue before it gets even worse.
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From: Jo Frost: Extreme Parental Guidance S1 E5
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When mom teared up after fighting her daughter to sleep in her own bed, I've never seen such well deserved tears. Way to go Mom!!
Poor woman was emotionally done. There was no reasoning with Page. That was EX-treme!
No wonder the teen pregnancy rate in England is so high! Night clubs at ten? I didn't get clothes like that until I could afford it them myself. Be the mom!
Pls tell me where you got the info, that she was at a club for adults at the age of 10...
@@ingridakerblom7577 my comment never said anything about an adult night club but the reference is at 23:00. Adult or not, her ten year old tail should have been at home.
@@one_ice_cold_chiq Or hanging out with friends at a park maybe Jesus why do they need a club
@@one_ice_cold_chiq she's 13
@@marshmallow4646 for something safe to do. We had teen dance clubs when I was growing up. No alcohol just dancing and fun with friends. I believe it was 16 to 18 years old because they id'd so that no one older could get in and 16 is about when you start having ID because you start driving in the US.
Poor Poppy, she got lost in all of this but I'm sure she wasn't sleeping either.
😀😀 Hey, you. whoever’s reading this, this is your sign. everything’s gonna be okay. you did not come this far to give up. I believe in you ❤️ Stay connected
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Wow thank you!
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Made me smile. So needed this today. 🙏🏽
@@rskhouri Let the sounds put your mind at ease. Remember to always take a moment for your self and find your peace. Your mental health is important and you deserve every bit of peace and happiness! May the future bring you nothing but peace and blessings my friends ! 💚🍀
SMMFH, Why is she even going to club at 13?
And the "mom" is the one dropping her there 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Y'all can't be serious 😒
I feel so sorry for the siblings of these kids. They do as told and still have to suffer
Hansel and Gretel as a bedtime story sure doesn't help put a kid at ease about sleeping by themselves.
There is more going on here then a power struggle to sleep! She lost her Dad ,so she's holding on to her Mother, out of fear of losing her too!
If my kid didn't fall asleep until dawn, well, guess what? We're still getting up at the normal time, and you'll get a calm, reassuring "I know you're tired. I hope you make a different choice tonight and sleep in your own bed, otherwise, you're going to be quite tired for a while." No naps, we're getting up at the regular time.
As a side note, I wonder if giving the daughter a night light, a bedtime routine, and a comfort object would have helped.
She sucks her thumbs, which indicates some anxiety. But that in fact may come from lack of independence with mom. Also she said she doesn't get much cuddles unless it's at night. So I agree that there are other adjustments required, but I think she's right to take a more severe approach.
@@cordeliaface Ikr? Honestly these kids having the parental skills of today applied to them are just being destroyed by it. If anything the loss of one parent is even more excuse for stricter discipline to keep things running like a well oiled machine.
The parent just has to bite the bullet and do what's needed, NOT what makes the temporary peace by giving in!
She said he left cos of the child not sleeping in her own bed and they had no time together, but he should have stuck in there, it’s his child too after all, u can’t just walk out and leave it to mom
@@cordeliafaceMy daughter is six years old, has a night light, a favourite cuddly toy, lots of outdoor exercise during the day, a quiet bedtime routine and a room that we painted in the colours of her choice. And still she thinks a monster will come for her every time I leave her there. What's more, I still remember vividly that I felt exactly the same way at her age. She is intelligent, sensitive and imaginative and all the stories she has ever heard combine at night to create the ultimate nightmare. It wasn't power play when I crawled into my parents' bed at that age, it was sheer terror.
Needless to say, I've never bothered to buy a TV and I stopped reading fairytale stories to her. I won't let her read Harry Potter until she's ten at least or MY night's rest will suffer for it.
If she falls asleep in my bed by herself before 9:30 I feel a sense of achievement and I'm sweaty from the battle we've fought over it. I definitely won't go to bed with her as I work all day and have to do housework by night but that is about as much as I am fit to fight for at this point.
I lost it at the little girl saying “I’m nooooot!”
Paige was 6 years old at the time this episode aired in 2009, so she’s now 20
Way to go girls . Growing pains can be real but isn’t it Nice to share positive enthusiasm. It shows growth to have respect for Mom to have her own quiet time to be ready for sharing the next day. Maybe tie a golden cord from kids room to moms as a symbol of connection. Constant eternal connection.
I had a traumatic experience as a child and my Mom did a cord from my bed to hers. It helps 😊
Its Not always a Bad habit. To kick off that much at that age... there might be another reason. Anxiety, abuse... she shares with her sister, maybe there is a problem, parents are divorced, god knows why and how that went. Childrens behavior is a Symptom of the circumstances they live in. So yes of course you parent them but you should adjust structures and your own behavior as well.
100%.
Exactly and to help ease her out of it mama could have placed a blanket that smells like her or reminds paige of mama with paige
@@elizabethsmith3374 yes. And if nothing works there are professionals to help. If nothing works than it might be serious?
I am nit a big Fan of These slagehammer methods, because Kids have reasons for their behavior. Most people are just Not willing to accept and deal with that. Its easier to call it Bad habit and force them out of it
Reasons or not, they can learn to sleep in their own bed just as done here. It's not like they were banished to the cellar or shut in a pitch black room. Obviously Jo read the signs and knew this was fine. This is hardly "slegehammer," nowhere near it.
@@bjb0808 yes they can, without kicking off like that, without crying and screaming for hours, without physically fighting, without punishment...
This passed me off. Parents complain over the easiest situations and most enjoyable moments with their kids.
Appreciate them more each day. Damn it !
Ja
I must have been the world's luckiest mom. My kids are whatever was made with no complaints and slept the night through in their own beds from day 1 home from being born. I never had to play these kind of games with them and they knew that games were for fun time and mommy didn't play bedtime games.
Because you actually set boundaries. Parents think it’s a good idea to sleep with their kids when they’re young but they’re just doing them a disservice as well as yourself. Night time is my time to do as I please and catch up with my partner. Go. To. Bed. 🙄
I REMEMBER WATCHING THIS EPISODE AS A KID!!!! I was like “I’m not gonna to be like that”
Jo: " there's no reason why kids cant be just kids like we were 20 or 30 years ago"
Me: yes there is Jo. That doesn't make money and doesn't create consumers
Omg Paige reminds me so much of myself... The dramatic and prolonged emotional outbursts, it's like watching myself. Only I was an only child, and mum had a lot less support from family and friends. Dad and mum split when I was 9 months, and I can 100% say my sleeping issues stemmed from trauma and genuine fear of being left alone forever.
Watching Grandma deal with Paige was so sweet! This will be so much better for Paige in the long run and mum just needed help and reassurance that she could do it 😊
That’s what I thought. Grandma did it more reassuringly and Paige seemed a bit more calmer
Ja
My parents lived together with me and my siblings and yet I vividly remember thinking I was going to die when I had to sleep in my first room by myself at age five. It wasn't a power play, it was real terror. It doesn't have to be because a parent has left or something is wrong. To a sensitive child with a vivid imagination a room at night can hold all kind of deadly horrors.
There's no way I'd be coping that. Or even waiting so long to do something about it. Shes 6. That's sad and crazy. Poor mum
Most girls stop sleeping with their parents at aged 2 and 3, though some sleep in their own bed
Sorry .. I was terrified if the dark and had a bug imagination as a child.. but Paige I think it's emotional and she should have seen a psychologist before putting her through this torture
lol I don't think it was torture. She was just really used to getting her own way and didn't like the change. She learned in the end that tantrums do nothing
I felt bad for the mother, she never had 4 hours of sleep without Paige coming into her room, and wanting to sleep with her mum. I have no problems sleeping in my own bed
Ugh, I feel for her. I'm currently dealing with this with my 6 year old daughter. We have a whole bedtime routine, she falls asleep in her bed and everything.... but I end up waking up with her next to me, ughhhh
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Stick to jo’s routine. Stay strong you can do it! Just keep thinking of the end result.
Lock the door.
What about a sleeping bag in your room? "You can't sleep in our bed, but you *can* sleep in this sleeping bag on the floor"? And/or a nightlight. Otherwise, as another commenter mentioned: a lock on the door (assuming you/your SO will wake up if the kid is knocking/screaming at the door, in case there's a fire or an emergency).
Send her on sleepovers. There's no room for that behaviour on a sleepover.
It's mind boggling how much children are in control of their parents in these societies. Parents have been disarmed and can hardly discipline their children.
Well I guess it has a lot to do with "I don't want my kid to hate me/I don't want to be judged for the way I discipline my child"
Because there will always be people calling you an abuser for just speaking firmly to your kid.
@@kurtwagner4663 I remember having to deal with a kid (not my own) and someone gave me a snappy remark to which I spun around and offered for them to take the darling child's place, they disappeared.
In short; people need to have a spine, not 100% are going to like you so it's pointless trying to keep up with the Jones'. There's no hate from a kid with respect, only from ones without it.
6 years old is a big girl. Paige knows exactly how to play her Mum and Grandma. She just needs to be told she is a big girl and to quit the tears and go to sleep . Even her little sister can sleep by herself.
I totally understand that mom never getting sleep for years OMG MAKES ME PYLL MY HAIR OUT POOR MUM
I'm lucky to get 4 hours of sleep a day :( I need Jo lol
Mum got pregnant with her boyfriend, so Mum pretty much caused her own issues and brought a child into an unstable situation! If her Dad used to stay there, she's probably got issues from losing her Dad. And dosen't want to lose her Mum too! And a boyfriend is not going to deal with someone else's screaming 😱 child!
If I acted a fool like I wouldn't have been able to act like that a second time. Then again, I listened.
Me too, cause my mom wouldn't put up with it.
Well I would've been out cold cause my mama didn't play those stupid games. Parents these days are failing miserably, something I vowed never to do with my lil one.
Old saying "spare the rod and spoil the child"
My son is 4, he knows never to act a fool or there'll be consequences.
@@Erika-dl2id here we go again with pointing fingers. Back in the days parents also had difficulty with their children. Did you know what was going on in every household behind every closed door???
@@theiswithin3649 I said what I said, no apologies...
Children will act how parents wants them to act.
Moving on 👋👋
@@theiswithin3649 today’s kids are a mess. Look how they act in schools. Like wild animals. And it’s because parents are afraid to discipline their kids. And I don’t mean physical discipline either. They just refuse to tell them no. I see kids throwing tantrums in stores for candy, the parent says no but eventually gives in. That’s why the kids throw tantrums because they know they can wear the parent out. However, my mom would simply give me a look and if I still acted out she would make me leave the store immediately.
She's too big and old to be acting like that..When I was young it only took my mom only one time to tell us something, because if she had to tell us twice let's say we wouldn't like the outcome, she didn't abuse us it was lesson learned.
I never heard of a tear being deserved
I think the girls want an opportunity to dress up and feel special. If families had parties and events to attend it would give them an outlet. My 6 year old niece loves make up and dress up so when have dinner dates every month or two where I dress her up very pretty dresses and give her a tiny bit of blush and lip gloss and she loves it. Also Church is a great place to have girls dress up and be made a fuss over for dressing up. The desire isn't the issue it's the outlets. Find a positive outlet and get them on the right track.
Here’s the thing: your daughter is a 13 year old teenager. She won’t tell you everything.
That's why her mom needed to keep her home more. I don't know if Sawyer knew the dangers that well.
I remember as a little girl I wanted to ask my parents for comfort.... never got it. My son sleeps in my bed. I'm not putting him through what I did when I was a child and he has bad separation anxiety from me being in the hospital for 4 weeks from a car accident.. sometimes u do what u need to do
I have had my share of nightmares as well, but I knew having a child who never sleeps in his or her own bed is relatable
Mom needs a long nap every day until the child gives in. But the child should not be allowed to sleep in or have a nap.
When I was little what my mom told us to do was done .No fits no asking why .Kids tell the parents what to do nowadays .Wrong.🙄
Parents give up there parental power and hand it over to the kids and that's wrong!
Every generation has their issues. Just because you had is easy in your household back then. Doesn't Mean that other household with children also had it easy.
Jayzus!! Poor little Poppy is going to be seriously scarred from her sister’s dominating, destructive behaviour.. poor baby is only 4 years old.
I know for a fact I ate more than she recommended when I was a kid as I child I was never overweight but we also did a lot of exercise.
Oh my gosh - can we NOT with the whole bs line of “do you know the message you’re sending to boys when you dress like that “ .. 🤦🏻♀️ how about mothers and fathers start to raise their boys to be respectful towards woman whether they are in a bikini or sweatpants . That’s the real problem . - oh and by the way , I am not saying it’s ok for a teen girl to be dressing like a 30 year old . Not cool mom.
Dave Chapelle said it perfectly. You're a little right, but it's also very confusing to boys.
In an ideal world, yes men would be respectful to women etc. However, this world is not idea. Therefore, it is also necessary that we don't just rely on men/boys doing the right thing. Like it or not, she looks very sexually mature in that outfit and like she wants people to see her body.
But she admits she does it to get boys attention! This girl may have father issues, lack of father's attention etc.
Did no one else notice the fluffy pink handcuffs hanging off the 13yo bed?!
I swear I was still playing with Bratz dolls at that age 😅
I can't blame the little girl, it's so comfortable and safe in mommy's bed
the child is only a few years old and when he grows up she is no longer dependent on you
Just really helps me so when I see my cousins I can help them but you and I can help
Don’t be concerned about getting a boyfriend, mom. No man would stay around as long as you baby your young girl.
This is so real, it's always the eldest girl 😅. And Gran is definitely my mum, she always gives into my girls 😅
Those poor neighbors 🥴
The same came to my mind. I have two small children and we are quite loud. Every time I see our neighbours I apologie for being the crazy next door nightmare. Their answer is: Come on! We've got 3 adult children so we know how it goes. 😊
It’s no reason why the neighbours didn’t call noise control
regarding the portions, I'm not are that she explained that a quarter of a pizza equals a plate full of salad/a spoonful of ice cream can be substituted by a whole fruit. It came across as though they were talking about volume and not calories-nutrition.
move her room around, get her a new bed.
Paige definitely needs some emotional help..
Sawyer sweetie the boys aren't noticing you for YOU in those outfits. it's all fun and games until she fools around with a 16 or 17 year old boy and he finds out she's 13 and then he gets in a lot of trouble because this girl can't wait to grow up
💯👍 I look at it this way life is not meant to be wasted, it's a gift! Foolish choices and teen pregnancy make life more complicated than it needs to be!
I hope her mom stopped letting her dress like that and go to clubs.
Or worse, a 16/17 year old boy who doesn't care that she's 13. That's the bigger concern.
Well done Mom!
Paige seems like she has anxiety about sleeping in her own bed that or truama surrounding something that might have or does happen at night nightmares, noises outside, hopefully not any SA
@Call Me Angelic. Interesting from that perspective I wonder if she was abused. Oh my that puts a whole new undertone on that. And I could see why the mother would cuddle the child then.
I'm a cut and dry mom. It is what it is and that's the end. You want change. When you become parents you can do so.
But coming from an abused home. You stopped me dead in my tracks with your comment.
Oh my gosh I just looked out of my window and it's snowing. I never really got the concept of time and how long winter was till 2 years ago. Realizing that I have 8 9 months of winter and about 3-4 months of Summer. One of those months it's still chilly. I don't know why but I feel cheated. Hahahaha 😆
My husband can never understand how the concept of time just does not work with me. I always tell him well hey I'm always late but I'm worth the wait. Cheeky. Haha 😂
This is how she gets mom’s attention, and mom has allowed it for so long that it has become a habit. If mom pays more attention to her while she’s awake and keeps enforcing the bedtime routine, this will stop. My sister tried to pull this, and my mom was not having it. She was a very willful, loud, dramatic, difficult child. There was no history of abuse or trauma.
@@lessehead maybe just give her the attention she craves at daytime. If its just attention seeking behavior it should improve after a few weeks.
@@samu6874 That’s exactly what I said!
No she is just spoiled I slept in my moms bed until I was 8, if my mom didn’t have my little sister I don’t think I would have stopped sleeping in her bed. I only stopped because I didn’t want to hear the baby crying lol
The kids were hungry cuz all they had was plain pasta... if they had a portion of vegetables or fruit with their dessert they would've felt fuller.
When children become extremely attached to mom at bedtime thers domethimg emotional
I can relate my kids go to bed then sneak in at the middle of the night and now I’m trying to sleep train because I have another on the way
If I fed my kids that tiny amount they'd throw a fit for more.....they eat until they're full and they're by no means over weight.
Why just put a baby gate on so she hopefully won’t get out?
Kids are stubborn mfs. Plus they'll climb or hop over the gate
The mother shouldn not have let her daughter sleep with her in the first place, my kids never slept in my bed even as babies
I have a very real question I hope some will answer in a kind manner.
I have had major sleep issues with my 5 year old. I find it so hypocritical to demand/expect him to sleep on his own when, as adults, we share beds with our husbands/wives each night.
Is this mostly a societal expectation that demands children sleep alone? Or does it truly harm a child to co-sleep? Does it harm children in the long-term? I know I likely don’t get the best sleep when I’m in bed with my child, but after three years of fighting it… I’m learning to rest better (most nights).
What’s your thoughts?
But I remember waking up in the middle of the night nearly every night to get into my parents bed I did it until I was 13 yrs old.
My God, that Paige was a NIGHTMARE!!! Unbelievable.
Starting at the age of 2, sleeping with your parents is not an option.
they actually recommend it should never happen because of the increased risk of SIDS. Though I get when they're very little putting them in a cot in your bedroom for feeding purposes.
How does the sister sleep through all of that screaming?
poppy is such a cute little girl
Co-sleeping is bad thing to start and a nightmare to break!!
Co sleeping is not a bad thing. And also doesn't have to be a nightmare to break. Maybe you just have bad experiences with it.
Co slept with both kids. My husband and I truly enjoyed having that snuggle time with them. They were out of our bed by 2 but still slept in our room in another bed. And have graduated to their rooms with no fighting, crying or being scared.
Everyone just needs to find out what works for their families. ❤️
She wonders why she’s getting the attention of “pervie” men when she’s dressed like that? Really? I think it’s obvious those are the types you’re gonna attract.
I Hate The Smaller Servings I Would Be Eating A Lot More Than That
Thank you Jo-Jo you just let all the 'lads' paying attention to that child that she IS in fact a child and they'll be done for it by law.
Origins of an Onlyfans chick right here folks...YEEESH!🤮
make her stay up, if she falls asleep wake her up over and over then make her stay up all day with no sleep
I never thought of that. Sounds equal parts cruel and hilarious. And it just might work?!
I used to lay with my oldest daughter til
She was sleeping
When I have kid's in eather 5 or 6 years time I will never let my kid's sleep with me and my boyfriend because they are not 3 years old anymore
That used to be me
None if my grown adults ever slept un my bed
Note To Self:
Jo Simmons Meets Jo Frost
Ironic isn’t it?
Maybe have school kids over to spend the night ?? Granny use to scrub her house in the day and would sleep well at night . Maybe if they could swim in the day .
Paige is so cute I wish she was my daughter omg I wanna be father so bad ....
Paige prolly had separation anxiety
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I wonder if the 20 lb a year includes the weight a child would normally put on because they're growing. It would be good to know that exact numbers of extra weight they put on from overeating.
My son is just about to turn 10 and I can’t even fathom imagining him in a club at this age, and I’d be even stricter with a daughter.
Trick is keeping in own bed from day 1. Thankful one thing I held my ground on .
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Sameee. My daughter is 3 now and gas never co slept. As a baby I would feed her and when she fell asleep in my arms she was moved to her crib or bed. And she never wanted to sleep in our bed. Never asked lol
I was literally just going to say the same thing! All 3 of my kids, who are all adult now, slept in their crib in their room from day one, no bassinet next to my bed or in my room...nothing. I'm not saying people shouldn't use a bassinet in their room, I just found it easier to start the their crib so there was no transition.
if he sleeps with you nothing happens except what he does with you?
I have not seen my mother since I was a baby and I grew up in another family I want to find my mother !!!!!!
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1:45 la me aaaaaaat
Looking back at this her little sister would be waken up constantly throughout the night.
Omgggggggg how disgusting..!!!
I wonder why Joe is driving on the wrong side
They drive on the left side.
In some countries, people drive on the other side of the road.
No way wpukd o let her go to the club she will be addicted to drugs and alcohol so many eckies on clubs
There's NO f***ing way my teenage daughter's would ever walk out MY house in an outfit like that...
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I have scissors ✂️ for cloths like that!!!!
NOT in MY 🏠 house!!
So you'd destroy her clothes because they displease you. Are you aware that it'll only push your children away from you? Instead of telling you where they'll go, they'll sneak out and you'll be left wondering where they are and if they're safe. And what will you do then? Bar their windows? Good luck.
Instead of reacting like an angry teenager, be an adult and communicate with them. Make sure that when they go out they're safe and responsible. Set limits that are understandable.
And try to get over the types of clothes people wear. At one point women weren't allowed to wear trousers or show their ankles. It's just silly.
@@phynchen8139 BS..
🙄My 3 daughters would NEVER dress that way.. 22, 16, & 15
My youngest son (daughter) is a LBTQ member.. HE can be whomever HE wants BUT will NOT dress that way in MY home..
🙄 Its called RESPECT for their mothers home!!
Sorry, if u don't know how to raise a child without them turning into a entitled bimbo..
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If my kids want to dress that way then they can, AFTER they move out of MY home.. As long as I'm paying for their cloths, paying for everything they have, ITS MY CHOICE & they understand this & are amazing PEOPLE today.. They dress properly, have love for animals, love for others, and have jobs..
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Guess I got this 👍
My cat's hates this show..
My daughter slept with me all her life. She would come home from college to visit and STILL slept with me. Then would complain because I snored
Same here i still sleep with my parents 😂😂😂
I agree nothing wrong with it. & I can’t stand how cruel this experience is for this girl 😢
I don't think there's anything wrong with that but I think it depends on the parents and whether they're okay with that or not
@@ilonayagudayeva9611 the mom was getting no sleep. Plus she needs some grown up time in the evening to recharge. The mom's health and wellbeing is important, especially if she is to have the energy and health to be a good mom. I mean, what if she gets a boyfriend one day or something too? Paige can't sleep in her bed then. Paige was just having a tantrum because she wasn't getting her own way for the first time ever and she was very determined to get her own way. She didn't die and she knows her mother still loves her. The one I feel bad for is Poppy having to try and sleep through all that.
@@MsJubjubbird as a mom myself I would never put my child through that. And I do think that process was cruel. I understand her perspective but I believe she could have found an easier way to achieve the same end result if she wanted to. Just my opinion though 💗
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Its obvious paige is also a nit head, she wont stop scratching her head lol
Paige???? More like "Raige"!!!!
That’s disgusting how that little girl was attached to her mom
That's not disgusting she's a child
How is that disgusting!?😐
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Yet Paige is allowed shocking bad table manners like eating off her knife!!
Do you know what boys think you our when you dress like that .Plus who buys her the clothes MOM
What do you mean by that?
I cannot believe her mom lol
Does this lady have children?
@@christinaeaton8733 I asked because I don't know if the nanny Jo has children? Sorry I didn't specifie! 🙏🏻👍
simple solution let little girls 6-12 claires makeup 13 real makeup with no bronzer conture or mascara 14 no conture or mascara 15 no conture 16 full fledge makeup
And definitely have rules for how they dress
I'm sorry but maybe teach your child that it doesn't matter what you wear because boys should just be learning to control themselves. Stop villainising a young girl for what she wears, the problem is the men who look at a teenager and think vulgar things.
It is possible to do both.
She can still teach her child to dress appropriately and that it's not necessary to show off as much skin as possible to be beautiful. That's for her self esteem and a life skill, if nothing else. Plus not every boy is going to have a great parent who teaches those things so caution is needed.
@@MsJubjubbird it's this idea that certain outfits are considered appropriate while others aren't. There should be no say on what is and isn't appropriate. Everything is appropriate. Clothing doesn't matter.