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Growing truancy crisis in America's classrooms
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- čas přidán 15. 11. 2023
- Chronic absenteeism has soared in public schools since the pandemic. Byron Pitts talks to kids about why they dropped out and to adults dedicated to getting them back into the classroom.
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I am so tired of people blaming schools. Their parents, neighborhoods, and community are failing them.
Slaves taught themselfs to read. Why cant the schools
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Thank you! Broken families = broken, anxious kids. On the other hand, when parents are supportive and involved, positive changes can be made.
All are tied together
Say it loud!!!!!
As a teacher, the most significant thing this video missed was parent engagement. Nobody asked why the parents allowed this and to look at their circumstances.
The amount of times I've had a student say they couldn't come because they didn't have a ride or their mom was sick/depressed is insane. They have the right idea but until the parents have the help they need, we can only do so much.
I'm sure some parents want to be involved with their children. How can they when the focus has to be working like a slave to make money for everyone but their families. People are being treated like modern day SLAVES. This is not rocket science. People are not machines, they only have 24 hours in a day. America is slowly imploding.
They say it takes a society to raise a child meaning. When the parents are not available to raise the child, you are supposed to take up the responsibility to raise that child and this am saying is in specific circumstances. For instance poor families or parents who work two jobs don't have time to raise kids because the system has made it that way. Most people are struggling financially. Where is the time to raise kids when you're working two jobs. So you as a teacher who spends majority of the time with the kids, should be able to raise kids if the parents don't have the time to do it due to circumstances.
Parents don’t care we just a daycare lol
@@yfvbmj I understand what you are saying. We only can do so much. I teach 7th grade, and kids are coming to school high and with drugs. I can pull them aside and have that sidebar conversation, but discipline starts at home. My mother and father worked 24/7 but both of them installed fear in me.
As a parent too many parents think that all the learning is done only at school. That needs to change across the board
How the F do people learn the foundations that make up careers that make our country strong and the leading world superpower like STEM and Finance without going to school lol? Street smarts don't make this country strong lmao. It does the opposite by encouraging more crime and social disturbances.
Right, parents only have so much time to parent due to the ruthless work culture that people normalize too much. Maybe if they had more time off then they can actually have time to parent. Also whatever happened to parenting classes in school?
@@NightMourningDove What kind of BS are you spouting? International Labour Organization of the U.N stated that average hours worked in the USA now in 2020's is around 1750 hours a year. In the 1950's and 1960's the average was 2000 a year. God knows people parented better in the 50's and 60's working more hours than whining parent's nowadays.
@@seanl764 How? That is also when more women were at home instead of also being at work often 40+ hours a week. It's not so cut and dry
@@chrxmouse2157 And there are parents that think they are prepared to have a kid, then at some point something unexpected happens and they become desperate. You don't see the problem with normalizing this crappy system? Of course it's on you if you can't afford a certain car, but it is a pretty antisocial stance to not want to have peoples lives become easier and have more time to actually raise kids. Maybe if we stopped having such a hyper individualistic capitalist attitude with everything then we wouldn't be having these issues. I mean does the school admin and school board really deserve all of their power & wealth? No, but they have it because people like you prefer to be a doormat instead of thinking about actual solutions to things.
As a teacher this is a big reason I am putting myself in position to switch careers. The apathy is draining my enthusiasm. The lack of pay, career advancement, and work load are making me look else where. I teach 11th grade and most of my students read and write at a Middle School level. The parents are uninvolved and disinterested. All and all, it's broken system that needs a desperate overhaul.
Unfortunately a lot of teaches feel this way and I feel that it’s intentional. I think the government has a lot of interest in driving teachers out and leaving space for an unruly, uneducated generation. If the government cared, there would be a solution for educational budget cuts, there would be a solution for the rising cost of child care, there would be a solution for food program budget cuts…all of these things are linked.
as an 11th grade student, i see the faith in us slowly dropping from my teachers’ eyes and honestly i don’t blame them. what’s the point of any of us being here?
And parents don't have enough time to actually parent because society thinks 40+ hour work weeks are normal and definitely not an unhealthy long term approach to life. Bills dont even need to cost so much but like you said, the government isnt doing anything about it. People are just going to have to stop being doormats
40 hours ? 😂 i work 60
Career advancement? See, that's how we know you're not a teacher.
See, I studied to be a teacher. Because I wanted to be a teacher. What career advancement? If you're a teacher you're a teacher.
Liars are scum.
I'm a teacher. I'll say it simply: schools can always do more to be better, but people are also asking schools and teachers to do too much. We're educators, not social workers. We're trying, believe me, but it is SO hard out there. It's no surprise to me that teachers are fleeing the profession. Programs like this, which espouse views that we're overwhelmingly failing kids, don't help the social consciousness towards education and schools. We're consistently blamed for every ill, and I'm so tired of it. When the majority of the society seems to be completely ungrateful for the daily toil and the struggles we face, the job is untenable. And when all the good teachers leave, then you'll really have a problem on your hands.
Unbelievable that not even a single word was uttered in this entire segment mentioning the parents who are abject failures. unbelievable…
And it sucks because teachers aren't even responsible for the way the system is setup. Teachers have to deal with a broken system, poor funding, inconsiderate administrators, and neglectful parents.
@@Aeitheral thank you!
Interesting enough I picked up a book called Anti Intellectualism in America, and it hits the points how even way back then teachers were less highly regarded. Seems history hasn’t changed.
the counselors are getting paid and don't do their job!
I went through childhood trauma and it affected my ability to go to school. The thing that saved me was an alternative self-paced program at my school that was designed for kids with trauma. The program also had a counselor that we met with weekly. It was a lifesaver and I ended up graduating with really good grades:) I hope more schools create programs like this for kids at risk.
Unfortunately some parents simply don’t give a 💩 about their kids or their education, especially when they become teenagers. It’s sad I’ve advocated for a similar program for a “friend” I know and they got accepted but their mom didn’t wanna take them or didn’t want her taking the public bus, she never went. She’s Not going to school anymore it’s sad.
These kids aren't going to school because they're in homes, where education isn't valued. Either that or the mom just doesn't have time to manage her son because she's too busy working 2 jobs. Doesn't matter how much money you spend on the students. You have to have parents that value education.
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@zoechase3923 I had a similar experience with my mother. Her own severe trauma caused her to sabotage me. I think the key to get students help, it to get the parents help too. If the parent isn't in counseling/stable, they'll just further traumatize and hinder their child.
That would require increased taxes, like CT or NYC.
Most of us tax payers are not looking to pay for everyone else. That’s the parents job.
I graduated high school back in 2006. Even then finishing was a struggle. I hated the experience so much. I went from being bullied to being a bully, to just withdrawing. I never felt like I was learning anything that I could actually use. My own guidance counselor never made me feel like I would be successful.
I fell behind a semester my freshmen year. I missed too many days because I was suspended. I defended myself and was suspended for 10 days. Whenever I went to my guidance counselor to see what I could do to graduate on time, she never gave me any useful information. She just assumed I wouldn’t be able to. Even tried to talk me out of taking honor classes. She literally made me go to one of the English teachers and ask him for permission to be in his class. He looked so confused.
I did end up graduating on time, but the experience had such a negative effect on me. So much so I avoided going to college. I know a lot of people are saying it’s a parent issues, and in some cases it is. But there’s only so much parents can do. They can’t force schools to teach kids useful skills and trades. They can’t go into a school and force the bullies to leave their children alone. They can’t force a school to take an interest in their child and cater to them. And in the case of most black and brown communities, most parents can’t afford to send their kids to a better school.
Schools teach what the state legislature mandates they must teach. If you have other ideas you can work with your legislators to make changes.
"I cry because I'm alive." That hurt. That cut to the bone. After a lifetime of loss, lies, and hate, and still fighting to come out on top... that one resonated a bit too much.
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wow this really resonated with me. I’m 35 today but I was held back in 3rd and 6th for missing too many days. I grew up in a traumatic home and was kept up late due to incidents happening around me. When I went in for 7th I absolutely had no desire to be there being 2 grades behind. Ran away, missed half the school year and had no respect for the teachers. I would tell them I’m gonna drop out. I was in trouble for truancy that year and was told I would spend the summer in a juvenile detention center. My attitude was bring it! Long story short told my 8th grade teacher on the first day I would do the work to be skipped up. She stayed after 4 days a week to tutor me. Came back from winter break and was bumped to 9th then graduated as a junior on time! I went on to cosmetology school like I promised my 8th grade teacher. I often think about her and am forever grateful to her for giving me a chance❤
Hey Sarah congratulations!
Congratulations Sarah you should be proud of yourself ❤❤❤❤
You deserved better from the people that brought you into this world, but I’m glad your teacher showed you empathy and support. I hope you’re thriving.
Awww 😢 thanks for sharing your story. Glad an educator cared enough to intervene. We’re mostly overwhelmed, so for her to allot time-what a blessing! I hope I’ll inspire my kids in a similar way.
Thank you for not giving up and for sharing your story!
I hate that it’s always the schools being blamed when it’s these parents who are having kids they aren’t raising properly. How are teachers supposed to fix generational issues?
They're too scared to call out the real problem parents and culture. But the schools have blamed too the school systems are corrupt bloated and ineffective
Teachers certainly can’t fix their issues alone - it has to be the entire community and government coming together to overhaul how kids from abusive homes are taught.
Because it's literally the school's job to ensure the children of the district get a quality education. It's nice to have parents who care but it's not always what happens. Stop passing the buck. If teachers and administrators can't handle the job they should get another one. Sad thing is, anybody who signs up to teach is usually too stupid to work in other fields. If they were smart they'd be professors
@@arsiejackson2958 Any responsible parent knows the buck stops with them. The schools can be hot garbage but ultimately it is the parents responsibility to raise their kids. Period. The parents that claim "but the schools" look just as idiotic as their uneducated, out of control, children. If parents do not have the time/resources required to do that then they should not be parents. That should be a warning to anyone that thinks they want children.
@@arsiejackson2958schools can only give students a quality education when they show up and when they and their families do their part. There are things schools can improve on for sure, but the issues explored in this segment begin in the homes and the communities. Teachers aren't magicians and they're already overworked. The majority of the blame falls on the parents regardless
I was chronically absent from school and it took me years to get used to regularly showing up to work. I think kids don’t realize the importance of getting used to a schedule , and it’s one of my biggest regrets(also the fact it was harder for me to get a higher education even as a high school graduate)
You sound like a indoctrinated worker
@Repent-and-believe-in-Jesusyeah, a religion that actively discourages critical thinking skills is the answer to education.
@@andydietrich3689they are the reason for such schooling being downgraded for so much reasons. Especially history.
Hey I’ve got some really great news to share with you, Jesus Christ, the Son of God, died on a cross and resurrected on the third day so you may all have eternal life. If you believe and repent of your sins and put your faith and trust in Him as you would a parachute jumping off a plane at 25000 feet up in the air, He will give you eternal life in heaven as a free gift and I promise you, He will change your life forever as He did mine. He is the ONLY way to heaven and He loves you all. Please think deeply about this with urgency because this is your eternal life and soul, you don’t know when you could die, meaning you could die at any moment, so please consider this with all your heart. If anyone tells you that Jesus isn’t the only way, they are lying to you and they don’t care about your future.
@@andydietrich3689 listen
Pray for the Palestinian trans kids of Gaza
My school in a small village in Bulgaria had a dentist and a doctor inside. And food was free until 4th grade too. USA really needs to step up.
A 25% absenteeism rate in kindergarten is a clear indication of parental problems, not school problems, and it's clear the schools are being tasked with parenting now along with everything else. Okay, I've been working in the educational system for almost 40 years. This same story just keeps getting played over and over again. It's a regular on every major news outlet every few months. If anyone who has been paying attention to the evolution of our educational system over the last 40-50 years will see a slow change from a free public model to a privatized model. Much like the healthcare system. So we re-hash the issues and the woes, but nothing ever changes. Diane Ravitch, former assistant secretary of education warned about this transition back in 2010 with the publication of her book "The Death and Life of the Great American School System."
COVID really ramped it up though, don’t you think? Kids spent too much time away from school and they see what life is like without school. What you said is obviously credible, but it feels different this time. After having to wear a mask every day and hearing of all these school shootings…the no tolerance policies in school where students get punished even if they weren’t the instigators. The fact that teachers are always walking on eggshells because they don’t want to be accused of anything inappropriate and can’t be themselves. Parents don’t respect teachers as much as they used to…I think it’s all catching up to society
I had a student that missed over 162 days between 3rd and 5th grade. The mother can't understand why his grades are so bad. I've explained that due to absences, he has a lot of gaps in his learning. This is common in inner city schools. The parents just keep the kids out for no legitimate reason.
@@earningmyway5021 real question…how do we know they’re not just lying about going to school? I knew a lot of students that just skipped school so that they can do things they couldn’t do if they were home. I ask because I have a 5 year old and I’m curious
@@earningmyway5021 I worked at a school where parents kept kids home all the time. They would miss for weeks, then come to my class with a note from the administrator saying, "Please catch this student up." Such an unrealistic expectation.
@TenderFallopianTube976 umm they are in elementary school. 🤣🤣🤣And the parents admit to keeping them out. I currently have a student that has missed 40 days this year cause his mom transporting him back and forth from Atlanta to Michigan fir so called personal business. . Poor kid just being drug up and down the country cause the parents ain't got it together. Kid is only in the 5th grade and has been in so many schools that hes lost count. Our school also has a high number of kindergarten and first graders that have high numbers of missed days. These kids aren't skipping school at that age. Stop giving these sorry parents a pass.
Props to Diego for changing his life and trying to help kids stay off the path he took.
But once again, the media and the U.S. public always valourize the ‘heroic individual’, when the clamour needs to be deafening in support of huge investments of public money in fixing these problems. These problems are SYSTEMIC. Do not expect individual teachers and community workers to fix them.
@createone100 it is up to individuals because the government doesn't want people to be educated
@@teeconsigliano7631 It's up to communities to vote out those people in the government that work against the interests of the youth in this country.
@PhokenKuul that sounds nice but it isn't reality and it's not going to help any of these kids
@@teeconsigliano7631VOTING absolutely is reality. It seems that red states are systematically underfunding their public schools. Why? They have already said that they like their uneducated voters. Maybe they like voters without critical thinking skills who will not challenge their behavior in government. That's why they must be voted out of the state legislatures, so that functional legislators can take those seats and support public schools with proper funding. Voting is not an impossible dream, people do it every year. Doing nothing is unsustainable.
My Dad was born and raised in Hartford (born 1968), and he said it was horrible. Stabbings, shootings, gang bangers. He finished high school at 17 and lied on his paperwork to get into the navy. He ended up working in education with teens that were just like him. Now, I'm a teacher and it's brutal out there. I work with private school kids, but I want to work with underserved kids who are falling through the cracks.
As a former inner city school teacher, good luck to you!
As a recently former teacher, we were told to pass EVERYBODY. We had kids doing absolutely nothing and we are still expected to pass them. Why would a child work hard for something that has no merit? I taught 8th graders who couldn’t read…. Yet they were continually pushed through the system. Teachers work hard as hell and at the end of the day, our work is overlooked because students aren’t held accountable to do their part. Kids are truant for weeks and still pass after doing nothing.
...If you think you weren't part of the problem just bc you were "just doing your job", you're wrong. People blaming the overworked parents 100% need to ask if the teachers are really doing their best for all the children too, or if they are just focusing on the kids that are already ahead and letting all the kids that are behind stay behind while shoving them forward. Those kids aren't the only ones that did nothing.
The one big thing that’s not mentioned in this article is parents. It’s like the schools are more responsible than the parents. There needs to be more accountability but it’s now going in the opposite direction. But I definitely applaud the adults who are giving so much to help students.
I had a friend in New Mexico.that purposely kept her 2 pre teen daughters out of school to babysit her 15 moold son. This was not of poverty but one of total selfishness😢
I said the same thing.
True but the fact is it does take a village
Exactly.
Yeah, that was a thing. Even I was starting to notice was becoming a thing when I was a kid Dash parents are shoving more of the responsibility of raising their kids onto the schools, and then get mad when they do a shitty job of it oh yeah, and I don’t want to pay teachers to basically be parents
Schools aren’t failing students, parents are! 💔
I think two things can be true at once.
Lol obviously u never had teachers who was there just for a check
You are correct marial
@@MichaelMayo-yl3inTeaching is a job. Of course they should get paid. How is this news to you?
There is a difference between paying someone what they are worth and Teachers who are litterally just there because it's a check that can be obtained with next to no effort. I am a teacher and I live at that school loving on babies who need to see that life goes beyond their current home. My kids are in teh same school system and have teachers who throw a color sheet at them and stay on facebook all day. So I come home and educate my own children after putting in 12 hours with other people's children. There is no black white one answer fits all answer@@moniqueloomis9772
Everybody wants to blame the institutions that are providing free education and dedicated teachers instead of the parents who should be taking an active role in, you know, actually parenting their child
I worked in education as a special Ed teacher for about 7 years. I left the field back in 2017 and I couldn’t be happier. My sister also teaches and she absolutely hates her job. She says the kids (middle school) miss 40-65% of the year. The kids can barely read and write and act like 6 year olds. Then at the end of the marking period when kids are failing, the parents bombard the school and blame the school and the teachers for their children acting like animals. My sister is truly miserable. World class parenting. I couldn’t be happier I left the field.
what are you doing instead?
@@DystopianDeepDives I work in satcom. I make more money and am way happier.
Parents are glad you left too. With that attitude, I wouldn't want you around children, ruining them any further than schools and our country already have. It's the SCHOOLS' job to TEACH children to READ and schools don't even teach phonics since the 90s! I just did a video on this.
@@DystopianDeepDives making twice the salary. Lol.
@@SamanthasUniverse lol, I busted my ass teaching developmentally disabled high schoolers in a 12:1:1 setting. If you actually read my comment, you’ll clearly see these are not my words.
They can’t get teachers because it’s so stressful and the pay is terrible. The number of things that get added to our plate - including taking on bigger classes as other teachers quit - never seems to let up. In 2018, my Alma mater had 60 student teachers in the humanities education program. By 2022, they were down to eight. Blaming teachers and schools that are short staffed from an underpaid, unappreciated, and mindblowingly stressful position is not going to help. We need BIG resources for alternative schools so they can be safer and more students want to attend. We also need to up teacher pay a LOT. Let those currently criticizing schools spend a year teaching in said schools and see what they say after…
1 problem. Blacks
Yes! Great points!
@@NoName-yf4ziThat literally makes no sense. Touch grass.
@@NoName-yf4zi
Nazi
Public schools are just behavioral training centers that teach the next generation how to serve those in power. It’s slave training. You’re paid what you’re worth and I can’t think why anyone would appreciate being taught to serve a system that views them as nothing more than disposable labor.
I think a huge problem is that people have been taught to just have kids as a part of life. We're at a crux in our society where we can't be doing that anymore. So so so many parents haven't even sorted out their own thoughts, feelings, or trauma, let alone learned enough emotional regulation to be a normal person, let alone a parent. People need mental health help before deciding to have children.
ETA: thank you for the love on this comment!!!! I understand there's a lot of societal factors that play into this stuff. These are just such crucial pieces to me because I raised myself after 2 people shouldn't have had a kid. (I'm a survivor of christian nationalist homeschooling.)
FACTS
So true. I never blindly followed society. I chose not to have children and at 59 feel great about that choice.
Biggest problem is over worked and under paid. Creates allot of stress/fatigue which creates many issues, this is why some European countries have much less problems, a proper work life balance and decent income is most important for stable family life.
For real. This is something nobody wants to address. Most parents have kids because "that's what you're supposed to do". They don't truly want to be parents--good parents. 😅
Well, Roe V Wade getting overturned isn’t going to help. This is just another symptom of America’s multiple systemic and institutional failures.
My kid is only absent because he keeps getting reinfected with sickness at scchool and he’s a kindergartner. Definitely agree with if we kept the kids healthy there wouldn’t be a absence
you aren't black so you care of your kid can read or not
The school system is outdated. Kids don't want to sit in a classroom when they can learn anything they want to learn online.
I missed the part where parents were asked why they think their children don't want to go to school. I missed the part where parents were asked do they accept some accountability in their child's absenteeism. I missed the part where parents explained what the struggles were that prevented them from sending their children to school. You can't talk about truancy without including the parents. Especially at a time when more states are creating laws to punish the parents of truant children. Maybe they can do a follow-up episode that also includes absenteeism in the charter schools. Those schools exist in the same communities with the same socio-economic problems.
This is one of the BEST comments! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🏆
My dad worked hard and my mother wasnt around. I had plenty time to sneak around and do whatever I want. Not his fault. It was my fault
Ok, but throwing the parents in jail for the crimes their child commits is increadably authoritarian.
You know who's accountable for this. Black single mothers.
Well then you missed when they talked about health inequities, unemployment, mental health issues, homelessness, and other familial problems. It’s easy to point to one thing like parents. Oh parents are just bad. No it’s complicated and a mixture of everything. Parents are also struggling because poor people are struggling. They are not inherently bad.
I've been teaching and encouraging kids for 22 years . The successful students have involved parents or guardians. A work ethic must come from home and parental modelling. Our fully staffed mental health teams available at every school can only do so much. We have classes for parents who are new to this country and our way of life. They are highly important and work. Those moms and dads are really involved. We now need classes for American parents .
School is training for slavery. It’s behavioral training and has nothing to do with gaining knowledge and living a meaningful life. It teaches you how to serve authority and that’s it. And no public school has a “fully staffed” mental health team. Wouldn’t want the slaves to figure it out.
Facts
My comment is about AMERICAN-BORN students.
Leaving these chronically failing students in school ends-up being a
death sentence for MANY MORE who would otherwise be good students.
Good students "FEAR" THE hard-core truant failing bully student!
And I think we should DISMISS THEM FROM THE SCHOOL SYSTEM.
And then see what we can afford to do on the other side.
They cost BILLIONS and BILLIONS OF DOLLARS and they're not learning NOTHING!
We can't afford to keep doing this!
Is there NO WISDOM among American adults!???
Agreed, parents are the biggest issue. You can do so much in the classroom but if the home life is messed up, it can be a big issue.
Parents are an issue, but the parents themselves are in tight spots having to work two sometimes three jobs to afford a house and pay for food and medical care. The deck is stacked against so many now.
As someone who works in this field, it is so frustrating that no one will step up to say that TRUANCY IS A PARENTING ISSUE. Education is not an important factor in these homes. Parents are not actively involved in their educational success. When I asked the parents of the families that I work with when the last time was that they, themselves, have reached out to their kids' school counselors to find out where they stand on homework, credits, in-class behavior, they always look at me like a deer in the headlights. They do not push their kids to go to school when the kids feign illness. Waking up with a tummy ache is not a reason to miss school. Give the kid some breakfast and maybe an antacid and send them to the bus stop--better yet, walk the kid to the bus stop. Many parents will enable the kids' truancy by calling them out sick because they do not feel like arguing with the kid, or because they want that kid to stay home and clean the house or babysit other kids!!! School is not a priority right now, and it hasn't been for a long time. Kids trying to get out of going to school is something that kids are going to do, but if the parent is actively involved, they will not let their kids get it in their heads that skipping is even an option. If a kid develops issues in school, and job is keeping the parent from intervening, then get a different job--having kids means having to make sacrifices. Have the kid join an extracurricular activity to allow them develop a sense of accomplishment and to put them around more driven students. Set aside time in the home to ensure that kids are completing their homework. HELP THEM WITH THEIR HOMEWORK. The internet and CZcams are great resources for kids to learn how to solve mathematical/chemical equations, interpret literature, sound-out foreign languages, etc. Stop relying on the government to raise your children! Sheesh!
No matter - the system as it is is too broken for "make-do"...
Even full time working parents have difficulties too. For instance my daughter was being bullied and was scared to go to school. Most of the time I forced her to but she ended up getting in fights. It was so stressful being constantly called away from my job to go the school to deal with her having drama with other kids. Eventually I had to relocate in order to put her in a better school. That solved all the issues.
@@The-Oneness11 if life was so easy...
Truancy try outright crime Alot of the parents are worse than the kids. Taking away these kids accountability is tthe worse part.
I like how they blame schools but never the parents
@as-cf7rxAsians do it fine. Seems like certain cultures just don’t have it in them to function
@@trentbateman Which asians do it fine? The depressed and dying japanese? The Chinese under CCP government tyranny? The Koreans????
American society was best in the world before we got overthrown by global lobbies that put profit before people.
Happy to see most people in the comments agree that parenting plays an even bigger role.
And to all the teachers and school staff in the comments: Thank you for all your hard work.
If the parents are absent in the child’s life?
blacks need to get their $h1+ togethor i agree
Amen
@verifiedmilk Then they just fail because schools rely on parents to do their JOBS they are PAID to do. America has gotten too comfortable blaming parents for grown adults not doing the jobs they are PAID to do. And that's why parents don't care if their kids go to school because parents are expected to teach our children anyway.
I pulled my 2 older sons out around middle school and their father and I homeschooled them and loved it. My younger sons are in public school now and I hate it.
as someone who just recently graduated High school, I am terrified. I kept asking all my peers why they never showed up to school, and the reasons they gave me were all either tragic or complete nonsense. One of them had recently become pregnant, one of them was running a dog breeding business (???) one of them was deeply depressed, one of them was addicted to marijuana (though he failed to realize). everyone around me was just running headfirst into ruin. This baby is going to take away the rest of your adolescence, the dog breeding business shouldn't take precedent over whether or not you're considered worthy of employment, so on and so on. I'm not much better than them but goodness, at least I made it out. I don't know what's going to happen. Usually things don't end as tragically as we imagine they will. But we have some kind of struggle ahead of us.
I work in an elementary / middle urban public school district and school is not failing the kids. It's the parents. The parents don't want to cooperate with teachers. School staffs gets blame for everything. It's not teaching anymore. It's babysitting and the parents know that, but they don't care. We're there to teach, not to babysit.
Everyone blames school. The problem is external factors that enter into the school which is ill equipped to handle. External factors- poverty, food insecurity, domestic violence, crime, depression. Kids miss school and fall behind. They struggle to perform at grade level but educational policy requires a teacher to teach grade level material because state assessments test on grade level. Classes are over crowded because schools don't have enough teaching units. Due in part to inadequate funding. Chronic absenteeism affects federal funding. Chronic absenteeism is also a factor in a school's report card. a vicious cycle. If the majority of students are behind in math and reading, then why can't we change how we run schools. A child reading at 4th grade level, should be taught on that level and tested on that level. The child should be allowed to move at their pace. This will promote hope and encourage the child to come to school.
Exactly. You can do anything and everything for these students at school but if they’re home life is terrible, they don’t really have a much of an incentive to try. They’re on survival mode. Parents have really dropped the ball on this one sorry to say. So many people have kids who should not and then don’t have the means to raise them well
Exactly!!
@@whocares897We live in the wealthiest country in the world and send billions of dollars in aid to foreign countries. There is no excuse for children being food insecure, experiencing domestic violence, poverty, and homelessness in the USA. None. This is a far bigger problem than parents having kids they can’t care for financially.
When i got pulled out of math class for speech class so i failed math class :)
@PinkPulpito you should not have failed math or been pulled from a core subject class for therapy. I am sorry that happened to you and I wish someone could have advocated for you
It’s these dumb parents that don’t do anything for their child. Children make mistakes but they also have to be held accountable for their actions as well. How else are they going to learn if you don’t hold them accountable. We ve gone to the point in society where we are too afraid to tell students anything.
If they would change the math to how we used it in the 90s sure. I haven't been able to learn it the way they do now. I still haven't figured it out. I have tried for 20 years. Can't change the way I learned. It is too difficult for me.
@@stacycamacho59The kids can’t figure it out either. They completely messed up the math portion of education and set the kids up for failure.
this is the usa, where no one is resposible
@@dianadialga3955the math is different.
My mom had to deal with this issue because my brother didn't want to go to school and eventually dropped out. Now his daughter is doing the same thing and she has 2 years to go but he is facing truancy because she keeps missing classes and I'm just like why? It makes no sense to quit now when you're almost done. Now my brother knows how my mom felt having to put up with this.
Schools are prisons for both students and teachers
The core problem is a mixture of bad parenting and people who are having kids that shouldn`t have them. It has less to do with the "system". There is only so much the government can do to be a parent.
Exactly. People just start pumping out kids without any regard as to how they plan to raise them. And then they want the state to pick up the pieces.
I agree 100%. It’s the government shortsightedness, they want the birth rate up regardless of the outcome and we are seeing the problem with that. People shouldn’t have children if they’re not ready or just not into kids. You cannot be a good parent if you’re not ready to sacrifice and that right there is a hard one for a lot of people!!
The core problem is kkkapitalism
Absolutely. So many people are having kids they can’t properly take care or nurture. So saddening and creates generational issues
I would agree if the issue wasn't so widespread but with numbers of 25% or more that definitely indicates a systemic issue.
The root of the problem is found in the family. Schools should not be responsible for fixing the disintegrating family unit. We need stable families and parents who are present and active in their children's lives.
Exactly the kid should be ready to perform 🎭 when they get to school like athletes playing in the arena... the back end work from the family structure should already be done
Understandable. Schools “should not” be responsible for the “fixing”… but when you have a child, who will become the leaders of tomorrow, with you for 33% of their day for 12 -13 years of the years of their life… you can’t help but to see the challenges and ask yourself, what should I be doing..
Let’s be honest, a lot of homes are jacked up, a missing parent, misinformed parent, etc.. the list goes on. And the jobs of the school is not to “fix” parents… so the best they can do is intervene in these other areas with respect to the children and hope that the work they (we) do isn’t undone by that child’s family dynamic at home.
When I see parents going out to eat past 9pm with children in tow, I can’t help but see where the problem begins. The school opens and closes the same as it always has. There are too many people who don’t want the shame of their own actions, so we blame the schools for not being good enough.
What? In what world is taking your kids out past 9pm indicative of poor parenting being the main issue, especially on a mass and habitual scale like this? The actual issue with poor grades and truancy lies within the children. I would know since i'm a senior in High School currently. Take a look, the amount of disinterest that I've seen some students show is absolutely abysmal. When teachers ask us Seniors what were going to do once we graduate, only 20% of the students raises their hands to actually answer. A lot of kids in High School aren't on actual level reading and math levels, they match up with Middle School levels. This isn't because of some great rupture at home, it isn't because they have teachers who are tired and disinterested, its because plain and simple there heads are in different places. So many kids have so many different backgrounds that you can't say that all kids are "dumb" i know plenty of fellow Seniors that are literally so swamped with work inside & outside of school that they sometimes just can't focus under all the pressure, you'll notice this theme a lot when talking to the Student-Athlete population at our school, i know the pressures because i'm actually apart of that body. I know of other students that are just plain dumb asses and refuse to partake in any of the benefits that a learning institution might give out, and i know other ones so attrited out by depression & anxiety that they literally can't process the idea of being anywhere but inside of a school, you'll notice those are usually the guys with their heads down barely speaking, completely oblivious to self-development.
The score was made clear by every teacher to me at the beginning of every school year, do your work, study, learn, focus, come to class on time and treat folk with respect. Simple as that, at least in my community we keep it straight. In my eyes, it has always been about the effort i INDEPENDENTLY put forward and that's not coming from someone who had it easy in my earlier adolescence. I have a mom with Schizophrenia, got an old lady with Alzheimer's and Dementia, and a generally dysfunctional family that has wore down on me like no other. I have every excuse to do nothing but lament and wallow in self same misery, and yet i don't, i march on. That's why I'll succeed and they won't
Honestly if I could go back , I’d drop out and get my GED. It’s a waste of time.
Everything starts at home. I'm a School Counselor and I work at a title 1 school. You would not believe how many times I have heard a parent tell me he just doesn't want to go to school. He/she tells me to go away or they don't feel like going today. We can't go to someone's house and parent for them. Once in school, we do the best we can with the resources we have to help students become successful.
😂😢 omg yes I'm a prek teacher and I hear parents saying that. I can only encourage the students while they are at school. But the parents need to do the parenting.
@@jherriot24019well damn they barely get breaks and when they do it’s short. Kids are in school most of the year and wonder why they hate it and have no motivation 😅
@@jherriot24019these are not the kid's in trouble for truancy 😒😒
Thank you for what you do 🙏🏼🙌🏼 you try your best and it is NOT your fault these parents continue to fail their children!
@PrincessYonna1 I can understand your point. Many times, as school counselors, it's our job to motivate these students. We have activities and things in place to entice students to attend. An example is we have pep rallies, school dances, spirit week, and student of the week just to name a few. As I said before things start at home. Parents have to instill the importance of education and where it can take you. I do agree some schools do not have any incentives for students and it can become very mundane.
I've seen first hand how a parent could fail a child and blame the school system for it. The lack of accountability is tremendous and it's quite sad.
those that have accountability know it isn't the teachers. Your job is to teach. Kids need to show up clean, fed, and ready to learn. It is not your jobs to constantly deal with emotional disturbance.
Lack of accountability is central to the modern left wing mindset. If you're a permanent victim you can't be held responsible, and nothing can be expected from you. It's actually a very racist mindset if you think about it.
It still is the school system's fault for not being engaging. I was on both sides as a top student and almost failing student because, honestly, school had become a chore designed to be completed and not learn anything.
@@ST-rj8iuyeah, because in america: feeding children is considered a sin
Both are true! There are irresponsible parents but there are also inadequate schools. Some schools provide enough staff and adequate resources, while others provide a frustrating and overworked teaching environment.
Initiatives like Compass Youths are the Hope and Future.
Bravo and thank you for what you’re doing.
You have made your bad experiences into something special and important.
This matters…
I also was a drop out, grew up in Italy and also felt abandoned by teachers and adults around me.
Grew up with a strict religious family and had no psychological support by any adult.
I’m sure that I was not the only one.
Seeing adults creating important initiatives to help young people gives me hope…
Young people need support and help…
We need to remind kids with difficult situations that they matter and that there’s hope, and they don’t have to give up.
The dentist and psychologist assistance in school is such a great, superlative idea…
This is the begging of a new enlightenment…
My Anxiety and Depression is the reason I skip school everyday with my friends it’s already bad enough I live with a emotional abusive mother and going to school around people that make fun of me because I’m different from them doesn’t help neither
It’s sad that people think schools should do more for the kids than the people who had them. That’s the big problem. It’s always the school is the problem. NO people aren’t doing what they should before having kids and then kids deal with trauma and other nonsense because of the adults in their lives.
Well typically trauma ridden, impoverished people aren't too concerned about educating themselves about safe sex.
When you live in poverty you chase an escape
Drugs, sex, alcohol, gangbanging.
They'll continue to bring life into this world. And the cycle will continue.
Not to mention funding relies on what a neighborhood is worth......
My friend used to teach in a rural, under served, impoverished area of our state that is part of the Appalachia area. She often talked about how difficult it was to motivate the students and to help them understand the application of knowledge. She said there was often the attitude of, "Why do I need to go to school? I'm just gonna go work in the coal mine"
much of that is true, if you never leave your small town, then knowledge will have little utility.
Vocational training should be applied instead of academia anyway
if they're hearing "school isn't important" at home, then that's what their values will be
@@ianbass8351 you still have to sit down and concentrate even in a vocational school.
This is a truly unhinged perspective. Vocational training is great but it 100 percent should be secondary to a basic academic curriculum that teaches writing, history, math, science, and the arts. And the WILD thing is there is this thing called electives which comprise about 3 classes/periods a day and any decent school will have plenty of options for you to take advantage of, including but not limited to wood working, CAD, economics, welding, agriculture. @@ianbass8351
I’ve been school support staff for 8 years.
The problems are varied but the two quickest and most effective solutions are 1) lower the classroom size and ratio staff to student 2) support teachers and school staff.
The government is actively hostile toward teachers. Pay is too low and there’s too much pressure on teachers to solve everything and make it appear as though everything is okay.
The most effective intervention is to give a student personal attention. That’s what turned things around for me, and in fact it was several staff and teachers over a period of years. Simply to aknowledge you, make you feel valued, and heard. Given encouragement and shown perspective. It’s a moving and long-lasting experience.
Zero mention of personal responsibility and parenting. No wonder our country is screwed
The No Child Left Behind program, made me have gaps in my knowledge in mathematics. It wasn’t until I studied the basics of mathematics on my own, 5 years after high school when I was able to fill those gaps. My parents wanted me get good grade but didn’t help build the discipline in me to do so. They were always focused on themselves. Now I’m in college for Mathematics and Engineering.
I'm sorry you had that experience. God bless you all.
Same bro! When I actually study math on my own I actually understand it. It's mostly conversions in many ways.
Many of the changes in schools that were meant to raise graduation rates came at the expense of lower achievement for kids who wanted to be in school but weren’t smart enough to teach themselves. The worst for me was that my highschool had block scheduling, where each class only lasted half a year. So a kid who failed a class in the fall could retake it in the spring. But it also meant that a kid trying to get straight A’s only needed to bomb one assignment to end up with a C. I remember coming out of middle school and being shocked to find out that midterms were happening in October. It also meant teachers had to cram 8 months worth of material into 4 months. The result was that the public schools in my area had a lot of kids going into community college when they used to produce kids who would get full ride scholarships at prestigious universities. I barely made it into a 4 year and had to spend a summer teaching myself calculus because my precalc class was a disaster. Foreign language was also impossible unless you had a tutor. Kids had so much homework too.
Teachers were also exhausted because they had to track down kids who were flunking. Honestly those kids needed to be allowed to drop out.
And then I had friends who went to private school, where they got grade inflation. Everyone got straight A’s and barely had to do work. The whole strategy was to just ace the SAT and then they got to go to whatever college they wanted. And for kids at public school, SAT prep was grueling because it had to be fit in between homework for normal classes. But for private school, they had entire classes that were just about taking the SAT, so it wasn’t that difficult.
I too went through school during that time. I failed at math all the way up to senior year of university. I barely passed every single math class up till that point. I managed an A in STATISTICS and graduated with honors. It is an atrocity that over a decade later nothing has been done, if but make things worse. The richest nation in history and literally just the facade or facsimile of The Emperor Wears No Clothes. It is maddening
Don't create life if you can't even take care of yourself. Lets just pump out a bunch of kids and then expect the public school system to do the rest. Parents need to step up and take responsibility for the life they create. Dump it all on the school system to deal with it all. Parent's need to teach their kids right from wrong, being a good person and trying hard in life. Working for what you have. Social media needs to be addressed as a for front.
Good parents show up everyday even when it's hard. I love that they said that at the end of this segment. Its a lot of work and you give all of yourself to be a parent. That moral and care of trying your best to be a good parent is dying all around us.
A work life balance and a reasonable income plays a much bigger part in things, folks are so tired and stressed and the symptoms of that are everywhere. When folks earn a good wage and are not expected to work long hours, it's amazing how much better things where in family life and in society.
Agreed. All of the blame heaped on teachers and the system when the problems happen at home
Sadly, At least one of my children has already decided to never have kids. Even with a college degree, he can't see a way to take care of a family without either struggling or working a lot to avoid that struggle and I agree. With the current interest rate, homeownership isn't feasible. Salaries are far too low for the level of education that these jobs require. It's a systematic issue which is why abortion rates were so high in the first place. No one wants a kid. Have you seen childcare costs?
I think our whole society is failing. We have no social cohesion or sense of community anymore.
Those adults giving it their all for the kids. The teens hanging in there. You are so brave to speak out about what's going on ❤❤❤❤❤
And to the teens support/liaison, you take that money! You earned it and there is nothing wrong with supporting yourself, especially while you support others. If I had to guess, you need a raise! ❤❤❤
My parents would have kicked my butt if I skipped school. Where are their parents? The lack of the traditional family structure is a major contributor to this issue. It’s a lot easier to raise children when you have a partner to help.
Exactly, people are just having kids to have kids not actually raise them.
Working to pay exorbitant rent
@@LA-rc7cwthis!
School is just slave training. It’s about teaching the next generation how to serve those in power. Your parents were clearly well trained slaves. Even have the beating part down.
Their parents are underpaid and over worked, this is the reality.
School gets worse and worse honestly.
I graduated in 2018. I am now a teacher for elementary-aged students
The school system as a whole- no matter what specific classroom you're in or how great of a teacher you have- is becoming more and more politicized, and more and more geared towards testing rather than individual students.
It's very often not a place of learning anymore- and that's coming from me, as an *elementary* school teacher. It is even more prevalent among middle and high schoolers, who are beginning to understand that they are nothing but a number to the school system, and that they're being taught to pass tests, not taught to be successful in life. And they give teachers very, VERY little wiggle-room, because their entire goal is to pass kids along to the next grade and get higher scores in their standardized testing.
Students are being used as pawns in a game. The school system and standardized testing is a joke now. They don't care if students learn. They don't care if they have the resources they need in life. The school system and common core curriculum is largely there to try to push an agenda down children's throats, politicize education, and get higher scores to make the school and officials look good.
Students are not being prioritized in their own education. And there are consequences that we are now paying for that.
Completely agree 💯
Why?
@@sylviacarlson3561 Because bureaucratic practices have usurp teacher's autonomy in the classroom. No longer are teachers able to control the learning process in their classroom. I'm not a teacher, just an involved parent who's had several parent teacher conferences (my son is in the 3rd grade and wanting insight on his reading progress)...and ultimately a teacher CAN'T revisit material students haven't learned. They are MANDATED by the district to move on to the next subject matter regardless if students are equipped. I'm 45, so when I went to school if a teacher noticed "last week's test scores were not good", they would say something like, "hey after grading test over the weekend I noticed the highest grade was a 76, so I want to go back over chapter 6 and we'll take another test on Friday". That's no longer an option, they strictly focus on standardized test. Grade school students are essentially graded like college students where only passing a weekly or biweekly test matters (classroom and homework are irrelevant - for grading purposes). Even if a teacher is aware that a student is a poor test taker their hands are tied because everything is mandated by Administration, District and State leaders. The school system is a complete mess.
@@dorealwilkinson3672yes. As a teacher it literally stresses me out. Especially knowing the struggles students go through especially with academics. I had a student who told me straight up they didn’t like school because they didn’t understand was going on especially when it comes to reading. When asked why, they were like I dont understand the words. We are reading a grade level book as a class and I am doing most of the reading. It sucks when trying really hard but there’s no support.
Idk. I went to a heralded public charter school in southern ca starting in the early 90s and it was good, and I always was top of my class in elementary school.
My son is now in kindergarten in a public school in northern ca. I can’t speak to the general California curriculum as his school happens to be a STEM school so they have their own curriculum, but he spends hours each week on computer science, fine arts, life sciences and can read, count and add. He can also do some subtracting and multiplication as they have already introduced the concepts and he understands and can compute on his own. At least half of his class is at this same level (he is in the older segment of his classroom). I’m very impressed.
I think it varies dramatically by state, zip code, school and above all, family. My son is an only child, receives a lot of 1:1 attention, and like me, was taught to read at home before starting kindergarten.
I think the biggest difference in creating a better future is breaking generational cycles and teaching young people-no matter their background-how to love their children and raise a family.
The parents are struggling to survive, this is a societal issue.
I was extremely truant, partly for medical issues but also I didn't feel challenged and felt the school environment was full of condensation. Dropped out at 16, got a GED without studying, went to community college at 17, graduated with a BS at 22. Had absolutely no issue with college besides my continued medical issues, but I actually was engaged and cared. For me, the blanket daycare mentality of schools was an issue. Schools need to stop having a one sized fits all mentality and have more flexibility around what curriculum is required. Let kids study what's interesting to them along with things that are needed to live in society. Both are unfortunately absent in a lot of cases. Part of that is funding but another part is archaic beliefs. It's a complex issue but it's only going to get worse since most retreat to simple fixes that don't work for complex fundamental issues that exist.
I've taught math at a large urban HS for 18 years. With all the Covid/post-Covid funds and Title I funds we have free computers, free coats, free meals and snacks, free hygiene supplies, testing fee waivers, on-site mental health help, unlimited "retakes"/opportunities for credit recovery, free counseling, free bussing, few consequences for disruptive behavior. Still doesn't boost attendance much. Showing up and putting forth a tiny bit of effort just isn't as appealing as skipping out and making Tik Toks.
The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
One often meets his destiny on the path taken to avoid it.
Worship is a criminal offence in China.
But you know all this already.
if you think the reason kids don’t show up to school is to make tik toks, shows exactly why you shouldn’t be a teacher 😻
Maybe before assuming something, you should listen to student’s and why they choose not to go. As a senior in high school with a record of not going to school, it’s not because I want to make a tiktok 🙄 it’s because it gives me stress and anxiety. And it’s not that I don’t want to graduate, I’ve talked to my parents and gave them options that I think would benefit me and my education. But they don’t want to listen, I’m not trying to come off as rude. I just think people like you need to listen to other’s points of view
Showing up for slave training isn’t as appealing as finding a way to be self sufficient and free.
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👏 That's the truth, totally agree. One of the best statements I've ever read.
Yes, some schools are failing, but it's the parents obligation to make sure that they are not failing their children.
I work very closely with my daughters teachers. I’ve seen a lot of growth in her academically. I think if I didn’t communicate with my daughter’s teachers on an almost daily basis I would not see that growth.
@@p.hearting9992 then they’re not talking about you lol
But the the parents have problems
I didn’t see their comment as defensive, they were emphasizing the importance of parent involvement based on their own experiences?
@@pinkturtle2016🤦🏽♀️
I feel like the whole segment missed the boat on the actual issue. It isn’t the schools’ job to raise children. The schools aren’t failing at getting kids to school. The parents are. This segment leaned heavily on the idea that it was the school system’s responsibility to take care of kids. That is a parent’s responsibility. The school system is supposed to educate. That’s it. The system is breaking down only because it is over burdened with responsibilities it should never have been charged with.
No, parents are failing their kids. We are there to TEACH, not to raise your kids.
Not to mention the bullying. My little cousin had a girl twice her size and in a different grade walk into the room during the middle of the class and start beating her up while the teacher did nothing. Both were in the principal’s office where the girl attacked her again in front of everyone. The girl was not suspended and had a mutual “friend” send messages to her on social media about how my cousin will be so badly hurt from being jumped the day she goes back to school. What type of message are schools sending when they show they don’t care for the physical well being of the young?
I’d be having word with them parents. Kids can be horrible
Kids can be the biggest ass holes in the room and they often learn those behaviors from what they see at home!!
I bet you that student's parents have been contacted constantly, and to no avail because these parents get tired of their bad kids quick. But we (teachers) are not meant to be club bouncers. The teacher should have had better control of their threshold (even though another student probably worked with the assailant to get in, I've seen it happen), but kids have taken over schools because their parents are absent (in more ways than physically) and we don't want to over-police our kids. Which, as a teacher of black students I get, but the levels before law-enforcement refuse to step up.
So she randomly went into your child's class to attack her? What did your child do to warrant this? She just randomly picked your kid out of the whole class??
@dark12ain , I personally didn't experience this, but I bet you this was nothing random. Kids orchestrate their fights through their phones and social media. If the assailant wasn't let in by the teacher, they probably had an accomplice in that room.
Not to be so negative, but I see it every day. These kids have no idea how to do the work in front of them, so they busy themselves with what they can master, drama.
Don't blame teachers, blame parents. Teachers are overworked and under paid.
So are parents
I graduated HS in 2009 and we could sense the shifting in culture with the juniors and sophomores below us. The late 2000s is definitely when the accountability for behavior left the students and went to the school.
I agree I graduated 2010 and it crazy alot people I went to school with that we're younger alot them died of drug used it's sad
Lots of US School Districts were doing a lot of shady things behind closed doors during the early-mid 2000s which inevitably set itself up for it's current failures. Tbh that's how this stigma of blaming the school instead of the parents even began. Although admittedly it's a stigma that's went on for far longer than it should have. I honestly feel bad for today's teachers as a lot of them are suffering the consequences that came from those who precede them. Not to mention today's parents.. I swear social media has truly shaped us into a society that lacks accountability.
Blame parents. Too busy chasing lifestyles to worry about kids except when the welfare or child support check rolls around.
I use to miss 60 or more days of school a year, for me it was because school was a very traumatic experience for me, I had not the proper clothing mess up teeth and the other children were cruel I felt. My message to parents get more involved with your child's school experience, make sure they have decent clothes, and most importantly take your children to the dentist because if their teeth are jacked participating in school will be a nightmare.
Aww are you safe now.
That’s a sad reality but very true. If the parents don’t take initiative to take their kids to the dentist & dress them properly, that most definitely is a nightmare for the child. The schools where I’m from have dentist come to the schools & do basic cleaning for those who parents can’t afford dental care. I think all schools who have this available
We do that in iowa same with hearing and eye exams, but the parents are expected to follow up.
same! I have a son now and no one around me understands my meticulousness about his appearance. He’s never known what it feels like to be underdressed or not groomed and that’s such a relief to me.
Neglect and abuse at home then bullying at school caused me to have iffy decision on going to class even in freezing temperatures.
What part of the child’s life is the schools NOT responsible for? So now they have to heal the children’s traumas? They are not the parents. They just cannot be the parent. Each teacher has 200 students, the parents have one, maybe four. Why don’t the parents feel responsible for literally anything? It’s so weird.
If not us who?
@@rootlori8117PARENTS
THe parents should be the ones caring for the mental and physical health of their children. If a school is disengaging parents, then that's on them. But, parents are responsible for thier offspring. I love kids but kids are best served in whole family units, not by the government. @@rootlori8117
I think they're saying they would like provided counseling since a lot of the kids have been abused or had a lot of family/friend die. These people probably don't have insurance. Also some of the parents could be the ones abusing or neglecting the kids so you can't expect them to help.
Stop blaming schools. Schools cannot and should not be required to do everything. Stop sending children to school to receive services that schools DO NOT OFFER! Children with special circumstances need special services. It is very unlikely that they will receive those services in Ms. Parker's math class because Ms. Parker is busy teaching math. Schools are not qualified or equipped to be EVERYTHING TO EVERY CHILD. Schools can be understanding and accommodating but they can't fix a broken home. Expectations of that magnitude are unrealistic and unfair to both the school and the student.
Decades before the pandemic I felt exactly like the kid in the Players Club sweatshirt. I also gave up. I thought I was stupid because I also couldn’t get the help I needed. I’m back in college now and finally, in middle age, I have the accommodations I need. These kids need advocates as much as they need anything else.
It’s the parents.. I volunteer now at my daughters school. I couldn’t believe half the stuff I saw. I have a new found respect for teachers. They can only do so much. Parents need to be more involved.
Parents are overworked and not educated properly, how do we expect them to change in such an unforgiving system?
@@NightMourningDovewho cares if they overworked they still decided to have a kid so it’s there responsibility to raise them right period that’s a lame excuse no one should be responsible for dealing with someones misbehaving child that they refuse to discipline because they work hard or whatever
@@ariallucas8913 Yes its important to raise kids right, but you'd be a fool to think it doesn't matter that these parents have little time to actually parent, and that schools shouldn't bring back parenting classes. This is the reality for a majority of parents, so you suggest that a majority of humans stop having kids instead resulting in perhaps a big population collapse? I see so many people quick to blame parents and not the crappy system that some teachers & people similar to you refuse to question and improve on. It's quite annoying when people don't want to take this seriously. Reality isn't so simple like you want it to be.
Agreed! But some schools severely deprive educators and students of resources, which only frustrates a teaching environment.
@@ariallucas8913 parents are overworked to provide food and housing for their "kids." They pay taxes for schools to educate them. Of course parents should be involved, but the entire responsibility of a failing school system shouldn't be on their shoulders either.
You should do a report on the unbelievable disrespect the kids have towards the teachers now. "You can't tell me what to do!", Headbutting teachers, knocking them down, throwing objects, swearing, threatening and showing blatant disrespect.....BACKED BY PARENTS.
Yeah exactly it’s really bad. It’s basically abuse from the students.
You’re not wrong but it’s important to note that it’s not all kids or parents… but that small percentage messed it up for everyone
@@christyramosortiz no it’s actually quite a significant amount
@@edwarddeere4925 that’s not been my experience although I am not teacher… I am speaking from a parents perspective… it’s always the same kids getting in trouble which is a small amount in comparison
@@edwarddeere4925Eh… disrespectful students are definitely not hard to come by, but actual student-teacher violence is pretty rare.
If kids don't think education is important it's because parents, and also the community, have not instilled the value of education into them throughout their lives. My friend is a teacher. She said when she was a kid, if a note was sent home to her parents about lack of effort or bad behaviour, her parents would march her down to the school to say sorry to the teachers. These days if she sends a note home then the parents come down, call her a bully, verbally abuse her, file a complaint and keep their kids home to have a "mental health day."
Covid has probably also had a big impact. Kids are no longer used to spending five days a week in school. They also haven't built up the resilience that comes with being away from home from people who love you unconditionally and the tiger parenting of Gen Y and X is fueling this lack of resilience.
The issue is with poor and negligent parents. Teachers are not parents, the ultimate blame isn’t with them .
Ultimately, it’s parent’s responsibility to raise, care, and discipline their children to prepare them to be successful. Teachers reinforce academics. Teachers aren’t responsible for raising and disciplining your children.
As the old saying goes, it takes a community…
As the old saying goes, it takes a community…
@@d.c.5033 I agree; however, 90 percent should come from home. The other 10 percent should come from the community. Children first teachers and leaders are their parents.
@@d.c.5033we can’t raise 20 kids at one. Time.community is the mother father aunti, uncle.. cousin’s grandmother.. teachers are to teach nit raise.
@@d.c.5033no it doesn’t. It takes a parent that gives a damn. Community raising your kids is what brought us to this point.
I find this frustrating to hear. As a teacher who has missed only one day of school this whole year, I show up for my students raily. Our school provides meals, clothing, mental health support, etc, and I think blaming schools is not the answer. I agree that many students do not see the value of school, but there needs to be support in the home and a value of education in the home. A teacher's job is not to completely raise children. Our job is to assist in that process. We cannot be expected to do it all and still be blamed for ongoing issues that we cannot control.
I feel people should j let people decide there destiny, some go to school everyday and graduate but never use the classes afterwards, and some use parts and thrive. So it all depends on the people
Your school must have a lot of funding. A bunch of other schools don't even have working AC, let alone anything your school has
the parents are battling homelessness and drug addictions.....thats why....notice that when the young lady Genesis said she dropped out because she was homeless, they next thing they said was how the school was focused on helping her get back on track by offering tutoring and educational resources....im like bruh, she literally just said she was homeless!!!!
I had to stop working with tutoring services and those non-profits that claim to help kids because many of the kids i was helping, i found out they were homeless yet all we were doing was focusing on their math studies but not addressing the real underlying problems.....all that money being raised to just ignore the main issues, instabilty in their homes and communities.
i work with kids who were priced out of their neighborhoods that were supposed to go to another school but would skip classes at their new school just to come back to their old school and hang around the neighborhood.....but everybody wants to act like they dont know what the issue is......many families are facing homelessness, being priced away from their community, and families battling drug addiction. WHY DO WE CONTINUE TO IGNORE THIS?!?!?!?
The school admin and school board need to be held more accountable, the schools themselves are different
It IS the schools' fault. More specifically, the schools' fault. The board of education at every district in the country is run elderly shits who actively refuse to understand that standardized testing doesn't work. That, and the current and former secretary (secretaries) of education are horrifically underqualified for the position.
As far as school is concerned, I say thst pretty much everyone is to blame except the teachers, students and auxiliary employees (janitors, bus drivers, lunch staff, etc.)
Stop putting all the blame on the teachers and school system. Hold the irresponsible parenting accountable. Do you know how much funding the school district put in to get these students to attend school? There are lots of incentives, prizes, balloons to welcome them, awards just coming for to school. Wtf?! They’re given free breakfast in the classroom, lunch, devices with internet, wellness center on site with psychologists, vaccination, eyeglasses. Wtf?! Parenting classes that offer raffles for those who attend. Free college applications, free tests, weekend/after school tutoring. I know what I’m talking about, I’ve been a teacher for 25 years in a low income district. Why does the school have to go the extra miles just to get your ase to school? Motivate yourself so you don’t end up like your parents collecting welfare and blaming the system.
Don't blame children or their parents. Blame yourselves.
Schools are made to create good workers, if they were for real educations that mattered in a contemporary context they would teach things like financial literacy, but they don't.
Kids are smart enough to recognize a broken system when they see it, and they're refusing to participate in it. Blame the lack of workers unions, the lack of adequate pay and benefits, the lack of safe working environments, the lack of a middle class because trickle-down policy has moved over a 3rd of the available wealth in the United States into 1% of the pockets. Wonder why inflation is so damn bad? It isn't the presidents fault, maybe blame those corporations that the right continues to receive campaign donations from, blame the RECORD PROFITS they're making while GASLIGHTING you into believing raising wages means raising prices when it's just about their bottom line and their shareholders, not delivering any sort of "innovation" that capitalism is built on and relies on. Capitalism without regulation is the exact same thing as communism, the resources are controlled and distributed by an unchecked entity at the top. The 1%.
I had absent parents and I was a chronically absent student. (Grew up white and poor). Single mother household and education wasn't a focus. I didn't watch cartoons or hang out with friends, I was focused on keeping my parents alive for the day (H addicts). It felt like being at war every single day and the focus was never on me. I'm still battling the impact it had on me and I'll use my progress to help others who struggle in the same way. My heart bleeds for kids in similar situations with no way out, they don't show how much they're struggling and will tolerate so much at their own expense. ❤
That had to be so hard, having to worry about your parents' survival. My sympathy.
I am so sorry for all of that. Your parents should have been there to take care of you, not the other way around. I hope you have a well balanced support system now.
I am a teacher in a public school. We get blamed for everything wrong going on here. It is tough.
Even if the child makes it to school - teachers don't know a lot about 'the real world' or what learning is. Most of their time is spent on thinking of ways to 'keep themselves relevant'. Including but not limited to; Making lessons confusing. Put time constraints on everything so a student can't master a subject. Spreading irrelevant propaganda. Finding ways to disappoint parents. Arbitrarily bolster some students while deflating marks of others. Try to humiliate students. Act like they are masters in subjects when they are confused with limited understanding. If a student is 'good' try to show them that they actually suck. It goes on and on.
Keep up the great work we need more people like you the parents are the problem
@@crabbcakeyeah but why are people so obsessed with teacher student relationships. When i was in school (graduated HS in 2018) yes i had good relationships with teachers who weren't what you described, and ignored those who were like what you described. I just saw them as test and homework giveres. I had the discipline to focus on my work and made the sacrifice to study the textbooks or go online if i needed more help. I was focused on my future it was almost instinctual. Because i knew i would ve in the streets if i didn't make it. Its rare that kids will make the sacrifice to do these things. They want the school to do everything for them.
why should any of them be like what I described ? For the ones on the 'fringe' they can be seriously hindered from accomplishing anything. Teachers also want students to 'fail' to bolster others. @@Jasekingg
@@crabbcake- YOU teach, and see what it's like!
Kids can wear pajamas and crocs to school, play on their phone all day, and there is nothing the teachers can do or say. There is zero consequences for anything kids do anymore and the parents are just as lazy. Carries over to the kids coming in the workforce now. They absolutely refuse to show up on time, miss a day or two a week for "emotional rest days", and they don't do anything but play on their phone when they are here. It's pathetic.
WHERE ARE THE PARENTS?!?!?! Stoping blaming the system! Parents have to take ownership of their kids education and success!!!
Classrooms are not CHILDCARE. Blame the damn parents for not doing thier part!!!
American classrooms are lol 😂 just a big babysitting service k-12
People need to stop having kids like it’s just another thing to do.
I say stuff like this and people look at me like I’m the crazy one 🤦🏽♀️
How much I agree with you to an extent…people are going to keep having kids regardless of their psychological, familial, and/or financial situations…. So either we find a way to address these issues or delve into more chaos.
We need to offer a free vasectomy or hysterectomy program in America.
I think the issue with why kids don't value education anymore is because employers don't value education the way they used to. A college degree doesn't get you that much higher paying of a job than a highschool diploma anymore. If even what used to be considered "good jobs" are under payed why invest in an education to get a better job where you still don't make ends meet when you can work at the grocery store which requires no education, no student loans and pays almost as well as entry level full time work with a bachelors degree?
If its the school's fault why aren't all of rhr students leaving? They shoulf interview the kids who actually stayed in school to see their perspective.
Lies lies lies. Blaming the schools is a cop out. I teach in the inner city and I've spoken with kids whose parents give them a choice of coming to school. It's these sorry parents that's the issue.
This society produces these types of parents though
What “Society”? Stop blaming “society” which is a nebulous concept and start looking at individuals. People need to take responsibility for how they raise their kids otherwise they shouldn’t have them at all.
Schools are only as effective as communities allow.
What “Society”? Stop blaming “society” which is a nebulous concept and start looking at individuals. People need to take responsibility for how they raise their kids otherwise they shouldn’t have them at all.
Schools are only as effective as communities allow.
What “Society”? Stop blaming “society” which is a nebulous concept and start looking at individuals. People need to take responsibility for how they raise their kids otherwise they shouldn’t have them at all.
Schools are only as effective as communities allow.
What “Society”? Stop blaming “society” which is a nebulous concept and start looking at individuals. People need to take responsibility for how they raise their kids otherwise they shouldn’t have them at all.
Schools are only as effective as communities allow.
It’s NOT solely on the schools!!! It’s the ‘parents’! For instance, why was that young woman homeless at 17?? Her parents are supposed to providing her with love, care, housing, FOOD, transportation, and resources. Stop having children you can’t afford to support in ALL areas. Schools should not be placed at fault for the failures of the parents
You know what happened when I was a kid and was truant too much? My mom got hauled into court and put on probation for a year where she had to report weekly to a probation officer with the stipulation that I had to have a doctor's note if I was going to be absent while she was on probation or she would go to jail.
Poor Mom... Spoiled kid?
@@adaniel5897 I was bullied a lot and mom felt sorry for me. But, you bet I was at school every single day after that unless I had a note from a doctor. That never happened again.
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So they enslaved your mom.
Kids can’t go to school if it’s closed half a year.
When there is so much poverty, issues in family homes, households struggling to pay for food, shelter, clothing etc,hopelessness in the future, why would kids go to school??? Absenteeism is a reflection society’s problems that now teachers and school boards are tasked to fix?! Let’s get to the root causes and not just symptom fixing! Also why use the word truancy when absenteeism is perfectly fine!
Poverty, over worked, under paid, creates so much stress and fatigue that parents can't cope, it's a symptom of a bigger issue.
It’s bc this new age of parents doesn’t give a flying F. They would rather go out and party and push their kids on whoever will sadly take them. It’s pathetic.
As someone who went through the public school system I was a C student on average and troubled youth. I hated school, missed as many days as I could get away with. I graduated but for me it seemed my teachers didn't really care or just saw me as a lost cause there was a handful of really good ones, workaholic parents, not necessarily neglectful in any real way. I remember taking classes and turned in all my work and got good grades but failed me for my attendance. It was really just a broken system and I wasn't in a bad neighborhood just typical middle class.
I don't understand what was broken in about. You didn't want to go so that's a problem with the "system" now?
@@BiggieTrismegistus well from my view and my experience it seemed most teachers I had were either burnt out or just did it for a paycheck and really didn't seem to have the drive or passion if that makes sense. There's a lot more I could say but I'll leave it at that.
I am basically you, but my parents some fkn reasy cared about attendance. Didn't care about my grades oddly enough, had to go to all the stupid parent teacher meetings.
You’re complaining about failing for skipping “as many days as you could get away with?” Some self-reflection might be in order.
Im a public school teacher, I engage my students all the time. I do alot to ensure my students are having fun and learning in middle school. But at the end of the day, many time my students go home and the parents do not care to help.
It doesn't have to take a village to raise a child, it take family and just one good teacher to inspire. We do our part, but now we need reciprocation.
This is The Parents to Blame! Too many are work, work working and not seeing about their children.! I was a workaholic parent also, It led the Trauma room with my son and my daughter became a single mother at 19. Both kids graduated from High School with no plans on what to do afterward. I dropped the ball unintentionally! As a single mother, work was soooooo important I forgot to check in on my children's future
When living costs skyrocket and wages are low, what do you expect parents to do? The first basics of the hierarchy of needs aren't being met. When people can't pay for the basics such as food and rent because of the nations' system of capitalistic exploitation at all costs, what do suggest people do? I'm being serious here.
You can't say to use stop being a workaholic without addressing the system that created it in the first place.
but they have to work work work, i grew up in the 08 crisis- we ate from gas station, my dad got home at 12 am everyday, my mom worked mutiple jobs and we were VERY lucky-
parents have no choice now, rent is on average 2k, that's insane- we are experiencing the consequences of our actions but the government doesn't care
I have to work a lot. As a single parent it’s either work with no off days or be homeless. Everything is so expensive. The struggle is heartbreaking. I still focus on my child and get them to school on time and picked up on time. I can’t be involved in PTA because you basically have to be jobless to devote the time and attention that program needs. I still make sure my kid gets the work done and is learning.
@@Truly_Key You've obviously a good mom. I certainly understand that it's tough out there right now, but some parents seem to have to wrong priorities. You make sure your child gets their work done while other mothers spend time making TikToks about how their school (and the school alone) is failing their child. It doesn't take a whole lot to show that a child should consider academics important and you're doing it. Your child will end up much better off then many of their peers.
I'm as old as millenial can possibly be and have no child and I'm not married. Every time I check out TikTok it's like gazing into hell. All the dysfunctions of our society are proudly displayed there _by the parents._
@@jenniferhiemstra5228 Finally someone gets it, people are too quick to blame parents not seeing the bigger picture
Lawsuits. That's what need to happen. Parents need to be afraid of getting sued and taken to jail over child neglect. I see it everyday as a teacher. Children don't have what they need and nothing happens to the parents.
Agreed. Sometimes people have to be SCARED into doing the right thing. Smh.
@Fawn123 how is that working for the ever growing prison population?
@@JoeyAfrika If these parents aren’t criminals, then criminalizing what they are doing could whup them into shape. People are going to break the law no matter what, but if you find out one day you’re doing something that is now illegal, it leaves you the choice to get your butt in order or keep doing what you’re doing. I’ve seen parents turn their crappy behavior around just from CPS getting involved. Hence why I said some people need to be scared into doing the right thing.
I know a TEACHER in her 30's taking college classes online. She is currently FAILING an online writing course.
These are the people teaching your kids.
I have a solution: Give the social services money to the schools. If students barring true illness don’t make it to school 90% of the time reduce or cut off their benefits. The higher the attendance percentage the greater the benefits.
Public schools are a mess. Too many kids in a classroom and in a school! The government isn’t going to provide the funding to make these changes. Teachers can’t teach because of the discipline problems. Not enough social workers/ counselors. Schools need to be a safe place physically and emotionally to each and every student. Again, the smaller number of students would be a big help. Teachers are stressed it is ridiculous what is expected of them.
Schools mirror what is going on in our communities. Plain and simple. DOE will not step up because they are too busy being in pockets of companies that develop the tests and curriculum.
Wait. I agree the education system is broken. But all of the things that are being mentioned; mental health, poverty, taking care of loved ones, etc. are not the job of a school. That is a much bigger societal problem.
Exactly.
Why would kids want to go to school with thugs and future criminals.
This is a cultural and community problem that has now caused a classroom crisis. The first step is not teaching the teachers how to operate weapons and learn techniques to handle children with trauma. The first step is each family within that community being accountable to their children and the great society.