This Is An Existential Crisis
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Watching Jim Carrey's interview gave me a panic attack. She was looking at him likr he was crazy, but I knew exactly what he meant and how he feels. 😢
Same here
The interviewer was an annoying.
Yes!!!!!
same here
Moon Shine innit
It's like when you get bored of a game, but you can't quit it.
Like having a Facebook
Literally
May be playing game is tied up to be your personality, and you don't know who you are anymore if you not playing games.
Same, and no one even asked me if I wanted to play...
Dam sort of I feel like we all live in the matrix
I can't help but feel that all the ways of getting over an existential crisis are essentially just putting the metaphorical blindfold back on, like Neo taking the other pill
I feel the same way. I think this is because the scope of a lot of existential questions are so large that a single person could never make sense of them. I find myself reaching that point sometimes, and it just terrifies you and makes you feel small and helpless. It's also near impossible to act when in that state, since you don't feel like you have a solid grasp of reality. Limiting your scope and focusing on something small and obtainable can be rewarding enough to make you forget and actually make meaningful progress, which pays off in the long run. The worst someone can do imo is to get absorbed by existential questions with nothing genuinely positive in their life to turn to when things go south.
I just try not to think about it. 😣 I've had 2 in the last 2 years. It eventually goes away. But this time I have started meditating and getting in tune with the universe, that has helped alot.
The Matrix was the single catalyst for my own existential crisis, and later anxiety and depression.
"If real is what you can feel, smell, taste and see, then 'real' is simply electrical impulses interpreted by your brain."
A little more anti-climactic than PTSD, but a catalyst either way.
Damned Morpheus.
How can you be certain either perspective is true? There is no subjective reality. Just your mind filter.
Hey I totally undertsand how miserable and trapped it feels i myself have gone through two existential crisises and they are worse than being sad its unexplainable and scary but something that has helped me is too realise while life is important dont take it too seriously and its not like ur taking the pill because u conciously know that there is know concrete truth in this world however emotions can indicate in a significant way what u can focus on and the end of the day we all will leave this planet but there are certain things that do make us happy sometimes it okay to leave the thought of reality not being all true as if u dont have a set purpose in life u can fairly assume ur purpose should be something that makes u happy and therfore u can choose what u believe and what u dont and create a life which is meaningful to you and thus u have indeed lived life to the 'fullest'
I often feel like my life is a constant existential crisis. And I can‘t even tell what used to give it meaning...
I am so sorry you feel that way.. was there anything that you remember enjoying? Maybe instead of thinking it has to give life meaning we focus on what you enjoyed.. or at least found sort of fun?? I hope that helps a bit. xoxo
It's simply that you, like many others have spent so much time learning what to do and say to please those who are enslaving you, that you essentially have ceased to exist.
Matthias, I hope many things have changed for you in the last year, in the best possible way. You could have a hundred replies on here, including Kati. But; I just wanted to say that there is meaning in life because of the Creator of life. God’s meaning behind creating us was love. Lives often get thwarted and unfulfilled, but each one has a purpose, there are a million turns and a million ‘U-catastrophes’ where He redirects and gives that life another push towards Himself. The Bible says ‘If we seek Him with all of our hearts we will find Him.’ Don’t worry about ‘religions’ ways out there and don’t worry about the existential inward ways of endlessly roaming all the mental corridors. Look for Him to show up. And actually be bold and invite, even dare Him to show up.
We're all indoctrinated in to what is socially acceptable as Fun!
What if you've become socially unacceptable?
This plays with the mind looping constantly 🙂 ➿➿➿➿➿➿🤡
@@pww7872
Exactly. People trying to make this "fun" are just attempting to ignore reality.
One time I was feeling anxious and my friend told me that our thought are like books, and that if we didn’t like a book that we were reading we could close it, put it back on the shelf, and open another one. Probably one of the most life changing things anyone’s ever said to me
Thoughts*
I’m so thankful I came across your comment - thank you for sharing that.
Jim is too relatable
I'm relating to him hardcore and it's beautiful
I totally understood what Jim is saying. It's like when I watched Waiting for Godot for the first time as part of my undergrad English degree requirement. I cried and contemplated it for well over an hour. I was absolutely and completely moved. It's been 6 years since I saw it and I'm trying to have my husband get into and I think he just doesn't understand...because he's normal and happy.
The dude is nuts and not in touch with reality. If the horseshit that comes out of his mouth is relatable, you got some seriouis issues and need to find help.
This coronavirus is bringing out the worst in my mind that’s triggering my existential crises and horror and fear of eternity
Omg same i fear about death and after that eternity it really scared me even i got panic attack now i am struggling with this shit and everyday i am thinking about death
I relate so much to this 😔
Have you ever noticed how remembering the past feels exactly like it does when imagining the future. The future hasn't happened yet right? It doesnt exist? The past happened, sure. But everytime you try to remember something your brain changes something about it a little bit. So in time. You may only be remembering a vague outline of something you think happened. The past doesnt exist. The future doesnt exist. And if the future doesnt exist, then death doesnt either. The present moment only consists of 1.5 seconds until it no longer exists. That 1.5 seconds is the only thing that's real. It is the eternal now. Enjoy it :)
@@fletcherhawkins1682 I love this perspective I will try to incorporate it in my life 🥺❤️
Dude, are we sharing the same brain or somethin?
back when my depression was the hardest, it seemed like i was going through a constant existential crisis. but the one thing that made me care about my existence was my pets. they depended on me for their care. they loved me and would miss me if i was gone. i encourage others, if you're going through something like this and if you have a pet to just spend time with them and care for them. think of how important you are to them.
Thank you so much for sharing what helped you!! xoxo
@Danny Boy, i had to reply to you because what you said, i completely agree with. it makes me smile to know that your pets got you through your hardest times. and i think it's great of you to suggest pets to other people who are struggling. i personally know the feeling. this may sound funny, but i have often said that pets are the best form of medication, like the best antidepressant. my cat (bless her soul) saved my life. any time i thought about giving up, i could never bring myself to do it because i loved her too much and i knew she loved me just as much. she passed away some years ago and since then, my therpist, psychiatrist and reg MD have been encouraging me to get a new cat, but i feel guilty thinking about it. like it would be a slap in the face to my cat. or maybe i'm still grieving and not ready yet? but i hope one day to get a new cat because animals bring me so much joy and i love taking care of them. plus, they don't judge you or think less of you for being depressed. they love you fully and unconditionally...
Yeah but then you get connected to your pets, you’d love them, they give you meaning in life, only for at most 14 years. Then they die. Now you’re even more depressed because the thing you loved and gave you meaning in life has past away
Thats exactly why i remain here. Identical story to yours.
My two pets bring me joy when my days are like grey skies everyday.
I love how the reporter is completely missing the point XD
+Your friendly neighbourhood nobody
I think she's either trying to understand or trying to be funny. Don't think she's missing "the point" at all. I mean, according to Jim, "the point" doesn't exist. And neither does the reporter.
Give her a break...at least she wasn't speechless...she was just trying to get an interview and was taken off guard by the bizzar banter
I think she was just trying to do her job and ask the questions that she’d be expected to ask
No, the reporter did a good job (especially considering that her job is to interview a selection of mostly vacuous celebrities).
It's not every day someone tries to flex like that.
Not missing the point. Just totally misaligned perspectives to each other.
Sometimes I wish Kati was my mom. She is soooo knowledgeable and helpful. Every time I have a depressive episode, I watch these videos and it calms me down. Thank you, Kati!
no problem son :^)
I understand what Jim was trying to say. I was into this spiritual existential stuff, people in that world praise him for this iconic interaction; HOWEVER, recently I got so existential that I got into this really bad state of mind! It was scary and I started freaking out and felt really bad derealization/depersonalization. It was then that I realized this is not good for me. And now, having you highlight this issue proves to me that I actually was an issue. It's masked as spiritual and enlightening thoughts, but in my experience they were really damaging and I felt detached from the present moment and people around me.
Thank you for bringing this issue up Kati! These are thoughts I am working to get out of, it does more harm than good. It's disguised as enlightenment; maybe it is for other people, maybe I am doing it wrong. In my experience it just made me freak out and led me to some very dark and suicidal thoughts.
Did you get some therapist help?
@@yaelmatos3199 I never got a therapist, though it would have helped a lot! I got out of this state of mind by working on grounding techniques. Back when I did have a therapist she taught me this!
I am a lot better now. I don't allow those thoughts to consume me anymore. I counter them by connecting with the life around me. After this, I volunteered a lot, I joined a gym, I did dance classes, I worked on my career. I worked hard on connecting to people, strengthening relationships with friends and life. I also worked on mindfulness and being fully present in everything I am doing. Loving myself and being kind to myself.
I know this was two years ago, but I never wanted to think the way I have. For so long I thought it was depression and anxiety (which I’m very certain I DO have, but have never seen a doctor in regards to it) But I just couldn’t help but think it’s something MUCH deeper than that. And all this time for the last two years I truly believe what I have gone through and am currently still going through day to day is an existential crisis... It is literally fucking hell. I have become incredibly self aware of my own mortality when I took a trip to Colorado 2 years ago. Nothing to even do with the trip, it literally just came on. I haven’t been the same since. What was one of the best trips of my life also turned out to be one of the worst turning points mentally for me. I wish I could go back to before I felt this way. I don’t think I’ll ever NOT feel this way after having felt and experienced this. It fucking blows.
mbg140897 same, You feel trapped in your own thoughts and me personally, I started to question every little detail in anything like for example (why do we keep dogs as pets) and a lot of what if questions that give me a constant angst, it really does suck
Michael Aehle You aren’t alone. The fact anyone would purposely want to think this way is wild to me. Thinking this way leaves you feel ultimately empty. Especially if you don’t believe in any type of afterlife, and you literally can’t force yourself to because your brain just won’t accept it. No matter how hard you try to. And the fact that time never ceases, and this all comes to and end for each of us is a thought I face and battle with every single day. It leaves you questioning more than anything “What is the point to all of this? Is there even a point to it all?” If it’s lights out, no more, into the void of absolute nothingness, what was it for?
What if you're a young person who has no inkling of what to do and is just expected to figure it out...
I want an answer to that question too... I really do, before all my "young" years are gone and I´m still wondering what, where and how
That's when talking it out with someone you trust or seeing a professional can help :) xoxo
Kati Morton thank you for the answer love the channel 😊
Do something. Anything.
Just my 2 cents ... for me the "no inkling of what to do" and you are "just expected to figure it out" ... isn't a one-and-done episode. When i was 20ish i thought i found "answers" so i put my head down and followed them, plowed my way through life, "succeeding". I woke up 30 years later and i'd "gained the world and lost my soul". So keep asking.
My existential crises lasted for 72 months after my father lost his battle with cancer eight years ago,healing is possible but you must do the hard work to recover.
Can you please tell how to overcome it. Please please.
@@rudrankbasant9840 therapy, patience and self love. 👼🏼
Sometimes I wonder if living in this world of suffering is worth fighting for. I tell myself all the time when that day comes and I lose my mother that will be the day I'm planning on leaving.
@@sophiadavenport3959 I have a question is there a way tou could give a few tips from what helped you in therapy?
@@rudrankbasant9840 just cope. Find other things to make you happy
i suffer from depression and I can confirm that I have at least 3 existential crisis per day lmao
'reality attacks' were what i had when i was in my early 20's...during these episodes i just realised there was this grand order and structure to life. while its good to think of the 'why' sometimes thinking too much can be really very dangerous.
This is well put but it's like once you realize the reality of existence then you can't just forget it 🥺
@@vaporwingfauxmcloud1190 fr, you wish you didnt have that random thought in the first place
There is nothing that fills me up. I have very little excitement in my life. But my purpose is to care for my animals. That does give me some satisfaction. But I still wish my life were different.
I would volunteer to be your pet, JS
You need to learn gratitude
Different like what? What would you like to do?feel?
Jandira Del Monte I barely remember writing this post. I must have been in a bad headspace. I suffer from anxiety, depression, and a history of addiction. But I’m doing much better now.😊
Me 24/7 😂 for the past 7-9 years
If anything jim Carrey has had an existential awakening
🤯
What if you have lost the ability to feel pleasure and any hope for the future? Nothing but fear and dread.
I could relate
Take some mushrooms or other psychedelics
I feel that life is hopeless no matter how hard I try there's too much competition in the world. I try to act happy so I don't bring others down but I don't feel happy. I know life could be worse and I'm always fearful that it will because I rarely have good luck.
@@thechosen9328 taking those while in a negative/dark mind state is a horrible idea.
Then you're like me ;-;
The definition of an existential crisis sounds like college tbh
It's the impact of reality on what ever fantasy you're living.
Getting out of college and realizing I'm done, this is my destination. It's this till retirement......
12 years long journey on school impacted my soul more than anything, it just seems like they took my dream away by waste for such a long times for non sense
What I feel as if I just exist and that’s it. I exist until I eventually die. There’s nothing to living anymore
I’m only 22 and I’ve been going through this for a couple year now. I’m young but I never feel youthful. I always feel like I’m running out of time. That life is short. I’m loosing my sense of self. Questioning what self even is. My biggest issue is that I don’t have people to talk to about it. I don’t have much friends and my mom will just blame it on lack of dedication to God in my life.
hope you have come accross some loving people since this was commented
Im 20 and have been feeling this way sice 17-18. I can totally relate to how talking to parents would only lead to a religion lesson. Are u better now? any tips
I have this literally every other day ... no matter how good my day is or bad . It’s terrifying
Okay which one of you dan howell fans requested a video on this
dulce ortiz lol
dulce ortiz stAY FOR THE EXISTENTIAL CRISIS :)
dulce ortiz for real though this topic is really sad.
Maybe Kati was rewatching some of her fave vids of his.
thought of dan when i saw this
He literally said out loud what goes through my mind and that’s scary
Don't be scared
I'm 15 and Same..
3 years later I’m going through an actual existencial crisis and I feel the worst I have ever felt. Such a weird feeling to have this video pop up again in my life right when I’m struggling the most with my existence, I want to rewatch it but I do not want to be triggered :( I want help but I’m too scared nothing will help.
@@valramos8027 same
@@valramos8027 how do you feel now
I went through an existential crisis after a series of events over a year. I became very sick with chronic illnesses, dropped out of college, lost many friends, went off all of my mental health medication with no guidance, stopped therapy, and, the straw that broke the camels back, realized my boyfriend of a year was abusive and I had allowed him to take advantage of me and my family and I had a miscarriage shortly after I made him leave my home. It was a lot that built up and after that realization of abuse my mind snapped. I did not know who I was, I could not see the value in my accomplishments and felt I had done nothing in my life. It felt like being in the most intense dissociative state I've ever experienced for a straight 6 months. I didn't understand my place in the world and constantly questioned my existence and the existence of those around me. I know when I was in public or socializing I had the same scattered look and thought process Jim presented in the clip. During it all is was very scary because I did not understand what was happening, I knew I was not quite myself and was trying desperately to feel better. I tried dating and seeing old friends and going out shopping for things I previously loved but none of it helped. In fact it made things worse because in the process of dating I could not be honest about myself because I didn't know who I was. I unintentionally pulled a really great guy into my whirlwind of a situation and ended up ruining what ever we could have had in the process. I am still recovering from my crisis, but I am slowly but surely getting to a better place and I feel so much more myself now that I did a year or even 6 months ago. Through it all my perspective on life has changed. I have developed more compassion and understanding for myself and others. I have matured in ways I didn't know existed. I have found out who and what I truly love and cannot live without in my life. I have discovered new passions, goals, and a whole new education and career path for myself. I have more realistic expectations of myself and others. I am figuring out my medical and mental health needs and giving myself time to learn how I need to adapt my life to live to the fullest. I am much more thoughtful and serious about my medical and mental health care. I know myself in a whole new way. I still have a lot to learn, especially about socializing and relationships, but my priorities are so much clearer now that I can see I do not need a romantic partner to be whole and my health and wellbeing should always come before any kind of romantic relationship, job, or school. I feel so much better about myself. I still have depression, severe anxiety, mood swings and my physical chronic illnesses, but they are all being treated, cared for and processed in healthy ways through medications and therapies. I am also far more willing to let people into my life to be supportive friends becaue I have realized the true value of friendship. Okay, this comment is very lengthy so I'll stop. Thank you so much for this video and space to share thoughts and experiences. What you do on CZcams is so valuable.
I’ve been going through a lot this past year or so and your situation sounds a lot like mine. I’ve been in an abusive relationship which really sent me into a mental space I didn’t even know existed and has fueled a lot of anxiety, depression and now an existential crisis. Scary stuff. Reading your comment gives me hope.
Being creative on a daily basis makes me happy. So I'm very glad I picked up journaling again. Eversince I've started again, I've written, coloured, drawn and bulleted a single page a dag. Short enough to keep me from getting bored of it, but long enough to get the creativity flowing.
Also adding daily yoga and running 3x a week makes me feel amazing!
Thank you Kati for this lovely video. I love how you explain things so well, no matter the topic you cover.
Yay! Thank you for sharing what makes you happy :) xoxo
I think it is important to see the difference between existential crisis and the philosphy of existentialism. Jim Carrey is having a hard time (not trivializing that point) and that interviewer triggered him in front of a camera knowing his current personal struggle and that he historically doesn't like these events... so he trolled her with nihilist philosophy to punish her. Not the best reaction because he's better than that, but totally understandable. I encourage people to watch the youtube videos he has done on his art to get a more balanced view of his rich nontraditional private life as a painter and introvered thinker.
He made a video called "what really exists" where he discusses his very advanced philosophical and spiritual struggle with acting and playing a role in the world. That video really informs the red carpet video and shows Jim is actually in a much better place than the viral clip implies. He isn't unravelling. He has unravelled some deep personal insights.
I just watched his documentary "I need color." Thanks for sharing your thoughts. They were helpful.
Eloise Marie I think that if you are stuck in existential crisis you should seek help, but facing such a crisis can be the start of something healthy and rich. I think Jim Carrey shows us that there is hope and wisdom on the other side of tragic experiences and that the healing process is imperfect but still a journey worth embracing.
His paintings are what you expect of someone who is doing it in therapy. Good luck Jim. Stop hating Trump, he is already getting more than he needs.
Existential crises are a part of existentialism, most people don't realise it. Most people get one and just do exactly what they did before, existentialists would say that those people have committed philosophical suicide. Existentialism is about accepting the nihilistic nature of reality but defying it at the same time. It's saying 'I know it's meaningless but I keep on doing what I want' while most say 'I deny that it's meaningless and do what I want'
"It can be scary or concerning, losing sight of your distractions from the fact that life is utterly meaningless but you can get through this... focus on finding other distractions from the fact that life is utterly meaningless"
Got it
This is exactly how it feels! Like you’re stuck in a pile of shit and the advice is “Just focus on the fact that it’s warm. Convince yourself it smells like flowers, smell is subjective”
Exstencialism- question if life has meaning, life has no predetermined meaning but you decide your own
Nihilism- question if life has meaning, life and you have no meaning there is nothing you can do
Essential-life has meaning everything has an essense and is essential
Determinism- everything has a predetermined meaning
Sorry I took philosophy have to do this
If only you could settle for one.
Ch ha they are opposite bid eachother they can over lap but really you can only be one
Well, i use them all in different chapters of life and types of situations. If one cannot be sure why settle? But i belive life would be easier if you could just stick to one. To belive you are sure so to speak. And that i cannot do.
Yeah, that's roughly it, though that's not the common use of determinism in philosophy. I in short see it as the view that all acts and events are inevitable. There are religious, scientific, and logical arguments for it.
Thanks, I know you are trying to help.
Thank you Kati. As someone with C PTSD, I’m struggling with( extra) dark feelings with no clue why, and for me this video makes a lot of sense and it may be that I’ll take this and show to my dr as I have no other way of trying to explain. Thank you, always. With love x
I am so glad it was helpful!! xoxo
I get really excited about Kati’s videos.... I just watched this video soooo mission accomplished?
I'd say so ;) haha!!
OMG i always see your videos on my feed when i need it the most! I had mine at 17 ish and am now 19. It's getting better, thanks to my therapist and of course to you (love your content sooooo sooo much)! It happened to me when i first started recovering from my eating disorder. I felt so lost and depressed. I find that believing in something (spiritual or not) helped me a lot.
I'm 23 and going through something like this... and I'm like "why study, why learn, why get a job, why eat, we're dying someday right?! Then why bother go through the pain of trying to achieve something?; it's already hard, then why not just give up?"
It's kind of a messed up process of me being stuck inside my head running on loop.
Waking up everyday and repeating things all over again... and I'm taking this semester "lightly"; having only 9 credit hours, and yet it feel like a burden to pull around... this sucks... I hope and I wish I can just can just do thing like humans my age do... :'l
*I love playing video games, but my parents woun't let me do that... because I can easily slip into "addictive" behaviours with it. Then I'm in this state of not being able to do anything I like or want; meh.
Bro did you get answer
I am currently going through this thing where I freak out about just the overall impending doom? or end of it all. That distracts me from my school work, or functioning regularly in my day to day life and it makes me feel very very sad. I don't know what to do or who to turn to. Granted, this quarantine doesn't make it any better, but I'm finally alone with my thoughts. I'm graduating university soon and I'm so freaked out. I love my family dearly and the thought of it being impermanent hurts me so much.
why can't I be normal and just like something and do it? I have had this feeling since like forever. I can't keep up with any path I choose.
Samantha León czcams.com/video/UTk851JcvwU/video.html
coz u r far too intelligent. as the eagles said, "just find a place to play your hand, take it easeee, take it easy"
This 🙌🏻 I feel like this a lot especially since my sis died. I’m going to try and fill this year with things I love doing. I love playing the piano. This week, I’m learning to play the beauty and the beast score. It’s filling me with so much joy and completely takes me away from all of the ed thoughts and traumatic symptoms 💕
I have these atleast once a weak , it’s the worst . And I’ve been having them since I was like 5 literally , I would cry to my grandma every night asking her a million questions and asking her if I was really alive lol .i know I am , but the feeling is crazy and I hate it it sent me into a depression multiple times . I hate my mind. I feel like I’m going crazy , but then it hits me that it’s just me thinking too much but I can’t stop tho cuz my mind just keeps going and going all the time
Are you doing any better hun? Do you want to talk ?
me every night trying to go to sleep
Wow ... how did you know i really needed this right now? So THIS is what i'm going through ... i didn't know it had such a highfalutin name. I'm old enough to have done most of the things i care about. Ppl say "mid-life crisis" but i knew it was WAY deeper than that. Thank you.
Yay for Monday videos!!! This is such an important topic because it’s common and can feel inescapable. One thing that has helped me is focusing on the small realities and truths of the moment I’m currently in. That way I can kind of reign in the loss of control and fill the mental void a bit.
Thank you for all you do Kati!! :)
Thank you so much for sharing what has helped you Liz!! xoxo
I get very excited about writing entrys in my bullet journal
Thank you Kati!! This is something I’ve been struggling so much with recently! I think it really got triggered during my philosophy 101 class in the middle of last semester, which was frustrating because i loved the class so SO much, but after awhile it started to become terribly overwhelming-every single thing we talked about became a reminder of the futility of effort, and I haven’t been able to get it out of my head, but I’m still trying!
I get excited about immersing myself in my music (classical voice!) and I have a ton of music to learn that I’ve been putting off, so I’m gonna get started on that this week!!!
Kati I've watched a number of your videos. It comes across clearly to me that you deeply care about others.
I think this video exemplifies why I like your channel so much. It's educational, easy to understand, relateable (because I have definitely felt that way on a number of occasions), and you offer some really great methods to manage.
I don't know how often you hear it but thank you. I, for one, really appreciate the work you do.
For anyone curious my life has been made meaningful by learning new things and by trying to understand those different from myself. I have also decided to pursue a career in sustainability, clean energy, reducing plant/property/equipment costs, and operations/energy management. I find it fulfilling to try to give back to society in these ways.
Literally journals about this so hard last night. Perfect timing Kati! 💜
I filled an entire page with questions all around this existential crisis. But coning up with no answers that feel right :/
Thanks for another great & super relatable video, Kati! Idk what I'd do without you!💜💜💜🤗😘
I am SO glad this was helpful and timely!!! yay! xoxo
Kati Morton thank you for your continued awesome content, Kati!💜💜💜💜💜
I go through existential crisis everyday, haha. I always wonder if this is even worth it, what I’m going through and how it will matter in the future. Sure, I’ll maybe be wiser and find a partner who I will love, but there is no purpose. I believe that when we die, we die, I don’t think we carry any purpose in this life or after.
Sometimes I wonder if this is even real or if I’m in some kind of storybook where I’m the main character and some kid just imagine how I look, how I act and behave in different situation. I’m a curious person by nature so to not know something that involves me as much as my own life does, frustrates me.
I’m totally torn, because if nothing matters in the end. Where is the point of staying alive? Like I’m not suicidal, have been but not anymore so that’s cool, but I just wonder. There is not really a point.
I guess it disturbs my work too, my teacher always complain that I’m not focused enough and that I space off into my own world, but I always think these thoughts when I’m feeling down. I can’t help it and nobody can be happy all the time. So like, what am I supposed to do?
Ugh life is so weird
What you should do is what you want to do as long as it's moral and legal. It's the burden of freedom; you have to put some thought into what the meaning of your life will be. There are places in the world where these things would be decided for you. So start by counting your blessings.
i feel the exact same way. it’s been like this for a while now & i want to make it stop because this existential crisis is making me feel like everything i do is absolutely worthless. i think of these things way too often
I'm the exact same
There is just no meaning. Do what you feel like to do. This is what I think
Hue Manatie I know this was a year ago, but sometimes even that is a lot of pressure. Just because we feel this way doesn’t mean we are feeling unfortunate. If you’ve never felt this way I hope you never have to. It feels like a big hole of empty nothingness. It’s something I scoffed at until I’ve been going through it myself the last two years. If you do feel this way, don’t bring into account that other places are less fortunate. We know that, it just makes us feel even shittier because we feel like we shouldn’t be feeling like this for that very reason, but it’s very hard to just flip it as if it were a switch.
Thanks for this video! Your uploads are the only thing I look forward to during the week.
Thx Kati. Didn't know what you could possibly say and then you said the perfect thing. Take action. Stop questioning and staying our minds and do something that fills us up, even if that is changing. That was so helpful.
I've been going through that severely this past week and I freak myself out too much.
I've been having a constant existential crisis for 2 years and today after the worst of it I just calmed down and have realised theres nothing I can do about it so I can only make peace with myself
Yeah I realized a while ago that we don't need to have a purpose in this universe at least when it comes to jobs and family but might as well try your best if you find something you care about. We have completed our purpose just by existing.
@@erikmckoul2478 nicely said
Its great to finally have a name to this feeling! Thank u Katie!
Thanks, I think that’s where I’m at. It’s a much more positive take on things and gives me hope. I have found that instead of trying to hold on to my old self, that just surrendering and embracing the change helps.
kati thought this video was a great topic to put out,you are the bomb😘
Awe thanks Donna :) xoxo
Hayley marti ha
I’ve had this problem for a while it’s not something you want to go through it like once you go through it the thoughts never stop no matter how hard you try not to think about it
I feel like I've been going through this repeatedly for a year, it's been off and on! Frustrating.. thank you so much for making this video! I'm a new subscriber =)
Bought something through the ad for this video 😊 I don’t usually do that but just wanted to let you know I support your channel! ♥️
Started since I was a kid... it never ended, I am 44yo now with lovely family, wife, kids, and I run my own successful business.... unfortunately its true... there is no me, we don’t matter, and its a big show/ cruel joke. However, I am Stoic, and thats the only reason I wake up the next day... stoicism made me a happier person!
Thank you for putting into words what this stage of my depression is. The last couple of months I’ve been wondering about a lot of things. To this day I’m so focused and confused about so things that’s people just accept. At this point it makes no sense to live. But I don’t want to die? I just don’t understand anything anymore. What?!
Thank you Kati for this video it has help me understand my emotions. This has help me with my complicated grief. Thank you Kati for giving me some tools to use and to think about. Please do more video on this topic.
Singing. I joined the local symphony chorus in my first year of PTSD recovery. It is what I look forward to most. Also, getting away...no routine or responsibility for a few hours, a day, or a couple days...this gives me release and recharges me so I am happy returning
I’ve soooo been here before... ironically it was when I got married, and realized I married an abuser... particularly when he threw me into a table next to the cake and nearly broke my knee. So yeah.
And poor Jim Carrey :( I love him I wish I could just give him a hug
Thank you for this video. I’m going through one right now and have been going through it since May. It’s been really rough because I’m going through the mortality end of it. Scared to die one day because I don’t want to no longer exist. Here’s the freaking worst part; it was set off from the ending of The Umbrella Academy lol.
Good luck to everyone else going through this in the comments right now! I hope you’re all okay today.
Katy Morton, I'm going through this right now, and I feel like I need a big change in my life. I don't really need anyone to tell me what I should do, I can take care of myself but thank you for this video. I can see that it is okay what I feel and please keep your figers crossed for me.
Oh Kati, I’m going to cry tears of relief!! I thought I was going crazy. I’ve had what I know now ( because of this video ) as existential OCD. It’s been happening since I was really little.... ill just be sitting there and I get these intrusive thoughts that don’t go away and it makes me full on panic. It’s TERRIBLE. But I never felt like that I could ask for help because it’s such a odd and morbid topic. And I thought people wouldn’t understand or think I’m crazy. I Tried to research it and I’ve never found anything thank you thank you thank you just knowing I’m not crazy helps so so much 😭 I’m so I don’t even know thank you.
oh my god I had this experience for over several years from the age 4. I know now, looking back, that I was severely depressed for several years due to sudden and serious changes in life but I didn't know that when 5-year-old me questioned the existence and meaning of the world around me and if it is all a dream it was an existential crisis!
Have this...Thanks for video Kati!
You are so welcome :) xoxo
Thanks for this video Kati! I would like to see more videos about existential crisis here, if you can explain like, how to make those thoughts about everything being meaningless go away, how to believe we have a purpose and how to find it! Love your videos! ;)
I've had existential crises since I was around 7 years old. I never knew what caused them and thought they were just an extension of my anxiety. It's taken you mentioning the possibility of a traumatic event triggering an existential crises to make the connection with the death of my aunt who I was very close to when I was 6/7. Thank you so much for making this video and helping me understand my mind a little better.
Thank you, the kenyons for supporting this video, too. Good info to know :)
I wish I could stop my mind. It just won't stop, it won't leave me alone. I feel sick to my stomach, I feel tired and weak. I've dealt with this aching mind of mine for so many years. I just want to be happy again. But this thought process has ruined my life. I've been having an insurmountable amount of suicidal thoughts lately. I need help. But I don't have anybody in my life to help me. I'm not sure if this is a cry for help, but I need somebody to save me from myself.
Your advice at the end is simple, yet good. Although I know during a depressive episode I would find logical, emotionless arguments to refute it.
Spending time with my cats makes me feel wonderful. Taking care of them give me a purpose. It might be small, but you don't have to be big to be important or happy.
Ever since my grandmother passed away, I’ve been feeling so empty. I was not that close to her, but it just hit me so hard. I think about death and what happens after it everyday. I can’t help to snap out of it.
I totally agree, it looks like Jim in this tipe of crisis now. He lost a girlfriend not long ago...
I had existential crisis to, after loosing a dad (also with dissociation).
I lost my dad too, so sorry you're going through the same
I am so sorry for your loss :( And yes, I had figured that Jim was reacting to that loss. xoxo
I’m having this crisis at least twice per week. But that could be the bipolar/BPD talking 😑
Amirali Sa most times it the same, luckily today it’s been decent
This feeling can definitely come from bipolar or bpd symptoms.. but either way, talking it out with someone you trust or a professional can really help. xoxo
It should be. Try not to buy into it. It'll only exacerbate the symptoms. talking from experience.
my anxiety was really bad today and then track practice got cancelled which usually helps me escape from anxiety for a bit so i was upset but then I came home to see Kati posted a video which just made me day because I love Kati's videos xoxox
Thank you as ever for your wonderful videos. I think the term "existential crisis" can be used a bit glibly and therefore brushed off by a lot of people but it is a real and serious thing people experience.
One of the things that gets me excited and gives me meaning and that I love to do is Regency dancing and reenactment. Not everyone's cup of tea I know but I love it. I have been doing it for two years now and I started while I was in one to one counselling for depression and it was a bit of a challenge to do something I had really wanted to try but had until that point been to scared to. It was the best thing I ever did. And while I still have my ups and downs and still take antidepressants it has been I would say the biggest factor in why I am doing as well as I am now. I enjoy it, it gets me out and about, I have met some amazing friends through the reenactment community and I feel as though I have a community in whom I belong and who value me for all of me.
I will be going to dance class tomorrow and know it will be the highlight of my week.
Kati!! If you ever get the chance I think it would be v cool to see you collab with daniel howell! he’s made a video about his mental health experience and also he’s a part of the “ young minds” organization
I would love to!! We have talked about it recently, it's just difficult with him being in the UK and me being in California. But we will figure it out!! xoxo
Kati Morton that’s great to hear!! love your videos :) 💖
Dan Howell?
I know he also has a video about this.. maybe it's something he has gone through. xox
Kati Morton part of his old "branding" was that he was an existentialist and he had regular existential crisis'. Originally I wondered if it was because he was an atheist (as religion gives you a reason and purpose to be on earth) but with his depression video it kind of all clicked for me. So it's very interesting to learn that existential crises can be a symptom of depression.
+Kati Mortan You see, Dan maybe has existential crises at least 5 times a week, maybe 6 if he’s feeling depressed.
Childhood Obsessions sounds like me 😂
Really loved this video 😄👍👍👍😄 it's people like you who've made pockets of our world as emotionally intelligent as they are 😊
Kati, I'm new to your channel and I wanted to say thanks for doing what you do and taking the time to make these videos. I can't tell you how much I appreciate them, you make me feel like I'm understood. Like therapists aren't all crack pot doctors like my mom always told me.
Thank you again for this helpful video Kati. I feel like that all the time. I also suffer from dissociation. Is that also a part of it? Thank you x
Many people have said the same thing.. so it makes me think that it could definitely be part of it, but I will have to look into dissociation as a symptom more! xoxo
Im soooo confused as fo how that video clip played into the topic. If thats an EC then wouldnt that be a severe form of it? Or perhaps too severe to fit? I am sincere in my questions, because i am a fan of this channel. I just cant help but think those suffering through a true EC might be injured by such an example. But maybe im just not "getting it"
At some point my mortality became a reality. That triggered in me an existential crisis that continues to this day.
How are you?
I never thought that Christ would be asking me how I am. 😁
But seriously, I'm convinced that the mental anguish that I'm forced to feel all of the time equals the mental anguish that I would be feeling if I were being physically tortured.
Thank you very much for caring enough to ask how I am.
And I can only hope that you yourself are doing well.
@@somethingyousaid5059 hope you get better, and you will. Thank you for your kind wish:)
I don't know if I'm having a crisis, I've just come to the realization that nothing we do matters, life has no meaning we're just here until we're not. I'm finding it impossible to find joy in anything.
I swear this video was made for me specifically! I have felt like this for a while now with my sister getting a boyfriend and leaving me, my cousin being diagnosed with leukemia, etc. thank you Kati for all of your support and for making this video! 💕
I do Zumba and Line dancing when I feel down.. in fact I have line dancing tonight.. I also feel really good when I got my blog posts in order.. plus when I’m just up moving around.. speaking of which getting ready to get my day moving lol
Thank you so much for sharing!! i love line dancing too!! xoxo
Kymberlie Belfield I would love to read your blog! Is it public?
Lana Ide I will post a link.. hopefully when I get things published soon.. I wouldn’t mind just getting started and it’s been hard for me to post
When I start to contemplate big questions like mortality and purpose from the right angle, my mind defends itself by shifting my perspective in a way I really like. It feels kind of tingly and floating. Should I be using my defense mechanisms as a hack to feel weird? Probably not, but it's fun and has improved my mood, so I'mma keep at it.
Man oh man i had this for about a year and it was the worst year of my life thus far. I had no will to do anything, and my life spiraled down. Im doing pretty well these days but i am always scared of having a crisis again. Also i love the clock behind you!
Really loved this, thanks for the super interesting video. At some point or another, we all come to such a crisis and think about what we are doing with our lives and what is going on. It can be hard to overcome at times too.
I have been getting this kind of thoughts for a long time, and I never believed in avoiding and ignoring a problem instead of facing and solving it, so the whole "don't think about these things" stuff doesn't work for me. All I want is for someone to logically explain the meaning, reason and purpose of existence to me, and I'd be more than happy to accept it.
Maybe it's time to accept that logic isn't always your friend
Look into hinduism/buddhism I used to think of religion as a cop out to find a purpose but these religions have shown me much that I wish I knew for a long time
Wow...... well... I had times like this... but I really want to do a lot of things with my life... overcome fears and live a lot of experiences... like foaling in love again.... I have... hope... a bet of it... But it's there
I am so glad you still have some hope left :) xoxox
I’ve been going through this since I was 14 (now 28) and diagnosed with a life changing chronic illness. I do have bipolar 2 (recent) as well. It changed my whole perspective on life, my own mortality and it’s purpose. My life became no longer my own. My life will not be long or full of good health. I focus on making others life as enjoyable as possible.
I personally find no point in it all but other people seem to and I remember how nice it was to be like that. I try to protect as many people as I can from ‘coming to the dark side’
Thank you for Kati for this video. You have given me some tools to use.
This global pandemic has definitely triggered an existential crisis in me. Been self quarantining since March 14 and only leave my house every two weeks for groceries. I’m just existing.
We all just exist even if we do interesting things the difference is that some people just don't think about it at least in my opinion.
Lmao I just kinda got it after lying on my bed for too long
Thanks Kati! I have one of these about every once a week.
Honestly tho you're one source of happiness in my life. Thanks for what you're doing!
Love the video and the background :)
Yay! xoxo
I find it odd that asking questions about life, meaning etc is classified as a crisis like it is a bad thing. And someone who is burying his/her head in the sand going around in circle in the daily routine whithout asking any question is classified as healthy and normal.
Well phrased...that was beautiful. Preach.
Your videos are cool! Thanks for making people become more aware. Keep going!❤️🍀
I wish you make more videos about how comorbid disorders are related to each other like the "logic" behind them (e.g. ADHD and anxiety existing together etc...) that would be really cool! Good luck 👍🏼
I wish it was that simple Katy. But when nothing is worth anything, everything is an effort in futility and it’s not easy to get excited or find joy. We just go through the motions of life so we don’t bring down our loved ones or keep on explaining ourselves to those who won’t understand anyway.