5 questions to get the conversation going!
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- Learn how to start a natural conversation with someone in a way that forms a bond. I’ll give you five questions you can use to get someone to open up with you. These questions all need a little bit of a lead-up, so I’ll give you THOSE leading questions too! We’ll also look at how a conversation is kind of like an essay. Watch this lesson and learn how you can start having deeper conversations that lead to more rewarding relationships with the people you meet. www.engvid.com...
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Hi thanks for teaching, this means a lot to me
Can you sort the playlist? Thanks. 🙂
I like you better without hair.
What's the difference between "Color people" and "People of color"?
JamesESL I have a question regarding the crush thing? I’m a bit confuse when you said about Tom Cruise”I’m sorry Tom Cruise YOU WAS THE MAN.. is it YOU WAS THE MAN OR YOU WERE THE MAN? thank you in advance for your response you’re my fave superb teacher though really love how you teach
I'm glad to have met this gentleman in person. what a great guy.
Is this your professor?
Im sorry to hear that.
@@matthewmontano9695 You should take more lessons on icebreaking. Might I suggest James, this gentleman professor.
@@matthewmontano9695 lmfao
Really? Where??
1. what is a relationship deal-breaker for you? it`s a question about morals
2. Who is your celebrity crush? to know the caractecristics of a person make them attractive
3. Are you pregnant? you should never ask something related to the body
good lessons James, you are amazing
Not to make them attractive, to understand what the other person finds attractive so you know whether you have that same thing the other person wants.
This is great for introverts or people who have social anxiety. I have a difficult time interacting with people even with close friends. Sometimes I just don't know what to say. I miss social cues as well.
Force from Argentina, all situations are temporary, you will find a way to reorganize yourself and feel comfortable anywhere or with anyone
Same. Most the time I'm entirely socially inept.
Me too. I’m gonna ask this questions no mater the context
@@iux2859 I agree we go through fazes in life I was once very talkative then I became introverted now I’m opening up more again
same
Something that has helped me in holding a conversation is LISTENING! Don't just ask your question then doze off into your phone or think about what your going to say next, but actually LISTEN. It's an exercise sometimes, but worth it.
Am good at listening just not at opening my mouth lol I rarely have questions, I just want to listen about anything that person deems interesting, I dont even want to interrupt unless it's some ridiculous shi like gossip or stupid shi like that and idk how to change that
No special effects, no music, no stupid animation. Just pure lesson with pure sound, good and proper examples and charming teacher.
THANK YOU.
You're like island of common sense among the sea of crap on the internet.
If he animated the intro it would be cool. A cartoon of him walking up to the picture of the worm... it's very cute.
@@blackleague212 but we don't want him to do that :D
saves time, money, and effort.
Ayo, english lessons were so annoying in school. But this man made me fell in love to learn english! (I am German btw)
This guy is funny, cool and competent!
He’s quite good teacher!
Cheers 🙏
i totally agree with you
he's the best at teaching & i have fun while learning :D
oh and i'm Turkish :3
moiinnn
I thought all the German people speak a perfect English.
@@user-xc8ro5ep2e except me :D
Just a correction if you’re interested.
“But this man made me fall in love with learning English”
(Also, as a side note:
In more formal language, especially written text, the word ‘but’ isn’t really used at the start of a sentence. Instead, words such as: However, Although, Yet, (and others), are used more commonly.
I'm a native speaker who aced all my English exams in my past years, but your videos are still extremely beneficial and engaging to me. Please keep going, I love them!
i needed this a lot because i don’t really know how to start a conversation
Same lol ;)
Me: "Hi, nice rack"
Also me: *Aaah.... crap!*
You only don't know when there is no need to start a convo. It's ok. I am the same. I only strike a convo and socialize when I have no choice in a new environment
Don't be shy. Some new Canadians feel bad about their English but many of us longer term Canadians are used to this and are willing to listen and help. Especially in Toronto, I have a nack for picking up broken English.
Me: [thinks about deep jedi powers]
Cashier: sir stop looking at my bresteses
This guys has a superb personality. I really like the way how you present yourself . so confident . Love from Indian Canadian 🇮🇳🇨🇦
I'd say hes got a very good personality
@@lonepotato7529 "superb"
:)
He is a heart scorched men
What you did there is pretty dull
This is the second time I've watched this video. I didn't skip any second. I'm watching the same video back to back. I still feel like I need to watch it again. It's magic!
I‘m currently indoors because of the scorching heat outside. So glad I can watch this superb video! Thank you, you deserve to be wealthy
Iam currently “indoors” inside and outside don’t go together
I can tell you watched his previous lesson about "very"
Well done 😊
I took a sip of scalding coffee while it was freezing outside.
@@icewolfy1 freezing cold outside ;)
I see what you did there
I adore this guy! English is my second language. I can't express how grateful iam about these lessons! They are Splendid! 😉😆🌺
Me too Xd
Gud luck on that
English is my first language and I also appreciate him greatly!
Great place to start Christina.
I wish I had this stuff available to me as a teenager. I was extremely shy, even though I was quite popular with the opposite sex. I’d usually look the other way and be awkward. I read “how to win friends and influence people” and it changed my life completely. Thanks for this great video.
Amazing book.
One quick note, it’s ok to ask body related questions when it comes to tattoos and sometimes piercings. It’s fun a person to talk about their tattoos at times
1.morals
2.insight
3.don't ask
?
@@Stringerbe11 huh, seems you didn't watch the whole video 🤔
@@Stringerbe11 it's a homework 😂
Don't understand
This guy is the best english teacher I've ever had. You can tell he loves teaching and he is very good.... I mean superb at it.
Mexican dude here, i am jubilant while watching these superb videos! 👌👌👌👌.
I know what video you just watched@alfredo. That was great.🤟🏾👌💪
@@ndenderu1 yeah i could tell 2 😆
prolly "stop saying nice & beautiful" or something like dat 😂 right...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣?
I speak native English but watching him is still captivating. 😂
😂😂😂😂
No You don’t
Now imagine myself a Not English Native
@@GUY-on-Earth freak stop liking your own comment
What's native English? Lol
James, you have a wonderful teaching style. As a native speaker, you’re still incredibly helpful for someone learning more about how to begin a cold call for example. Love your videos. Keep it up man.
Teacher James, I love your teaching style. You’re fun to watch and easy to follow.
Just found the channel, gonna binge some of these during my downtime
Same
Ditto
I passed my English GCSE (in the UK) all thanks to you Sir! I watched your videos daily in preparation for the exams and I passed it all ! 😊
A big Thank you Sir 💕
Hi. I love how this gentleman explains everything. He is perfect teacher for some like me. Today I wanted to tell something. ( it’s nothing negative about him so don’t worry, it’s just personal experience. ) if you want to continue conversation, especially people that English is their second language. I suggest talk and use this technique on your first language. Even u learn this but u r not talkative person in ur language, it’s quite hard to talk in English. Some people might be disagree with me. Please it just my personal experience so don’t take it far deep down.
Just found out about this channel, prolly the best CZcams recommendation ever made. Now I am going to watch all the old videos.
I used to get bored just in 30 min of eng course. But this is so unique. Im ravenous that i could study for hours. What a quality.
Nice word
I consider myself to be a natural conversationalist. This lesson is exceptional! I've never thought about conversing in this way before. My father gave me great advise when I was younger and I always took it to heart. "The best advice my father gave me was to talk to people." I do just that. You can learn so much just from talking to people. I cut hair for a living and one of my best tools is my ability to converse w all types of people. My knowledge of many different things. Whether it's current events, politics (a big no no...) history, pop culture, music, etc. I take pride in being able to hold a conversation w anyone about anything. This lesson is so helpful! It's given me something to think about and as I'm sure you know, knowledge is power! Thank you so much. On a side note the way you dress is second to none!!!!!
Forgive the grammatical errors. Typing on a phone.......
"Hi...I’m James from engVid... and in case you want a private class, just type 'James Coolestman' on Instagram and Mr. E will contact you". James is the best... 😎 I love his lessons. Greetings from Argentina
Every teacher should have a CZcams channel. This man is making a significant amount of money for a teacher...good for him.
Thank you, Sir. I am an asperger type, so your explanations are exceptional useful at least for me!
Hi James, I just want to say that I'm a native English speaker, and absolutely love your channel. Though I understand the language, I find your teaching to be a tool for enhancing my writing skills, since I'm a Writer. What's awesome is I am also learning new words and alternative ways to express myself. Keep up the great work!
1. What is Your Relationship deal-breaker for You?
MORALS ✔ FUN ❌
2. Who is Your Celebrity Crush ?
INSIGHT ❌ ATTRACTION ✔
3. Are You Pregnant?
ASK ❌ DON'T ASK ✔
Altercation haha You mean attraction
@@ZidaneTribal93 🤔🖕🐂💩
@@rachellegoodwin4868 ?
@@rachellegoodwin4868 lmao
The number 1, most cliche question asked on a first date: "So, what kind of music do you listen to?"
Most basic answer: "I listen to everything!"
No TF you dont!
So on point lmao. Once I ask somebody that question and they say they listen to everything I look at them and I say “even country music” and then they say no. so obviously it’s not everything
@@rfbcstudio i always say i like everything except country, and i mainly listen to rap. But I appreciate all music
Honestly if it sounds good I listen to it
I hate it with my soul.🤣
Pal I've just met your channel and I think what you do is exactly what I need to improve my English. Keep the awesome job you're doing. Thank you very much.
Im getting addict to James's English lessons.
for my experience i normally ask the other person is what do they like amongst variant subjects for example: music / movie genre, hobbies, if they have a specific activity you commonly act like gaming, asking about most proud / embarrassing memory (this is when you've gotten deep into the convo usually so you would have created a comfortable environment for the other party), what types of activity do they most love / hate and more so behavioural questions but this video has certainly extended my information.
Thank you James.
Didn't visit this beautiful channel in a long while till this vid crossed my way! James is one of the best teachers out there, I've always liked his style of teaching.
You always remind me, my English teacher from elementary school, who made me passionate about learning English. And I got my first crush on something, that's, a lovely language named, "English"
It had been difficult lesson for me, but I watched it. I have been studying English for 1 year and I understood that I need more listening practice. I can say that lesson is useful and interesting. Thanks!
the only thing i wonder is why does not this teacher get old🤗 he looks very young. By the way, i love watching your videos🙏😊
What don't we try apply what he's is EXPLAINING, let's talk, if you want
By seeing your wealth of knowledge in English I saw how destitute I was in the subject
1. Morals
2. Attraction
3. Don't ask
Keep the videos coming! They are superb!
Good stuff my friend
You are excellent experience and great 👍 English language teacher thanks god bless you
I was looking where to settle and I think I am now there. Thank you very much sir.
MR YOUR LESSON ARE FUN, many vid i've had seen, and everything is so dull, keep teaching us please
I missed your lessons James. Thank God you're here🌸 And this is my answers
Morals
Attraction
Do not ask!
Thank you for this beutiful lesson 😇
May GOD bless you in abundance kind teacher.
I had to learn this for years, since I’m a hairstylist. I learned years ago, not to ask questions that require a yes or no answer! And lots of my clients were or are celebrities and newscasters here. Thank you for this video.
You just make difficult things easy for us
James! This is your calling, talent. I am in love the way and what you teach, it is sooooo easy and comfortable to follow and understand you. Thank you so very much good sir. I am Russian so English is my fourth language, and I am absolutely in love again with English. Like a breath of fresh air. You are an incredible man. 🤝
I'm from India. I found his (Sir) English lectures very helpful for me in my exam preparations. Thank You Sir. Love From India.
Hello from Greece. Mr James I feel really grateful and thankful!!! You are gifted as a teacher of English and communication skills also. I do love your sophisticated sense of humour!!! People who grew up you must be SURERB!!! GOD bless you!
So basically ask about: Morality, Immorality, and Immortality,
So wise Bill Gates
Nice one Mr. Bill, do you mind if you can help me with some money. Like USD30million
definitely a lizard
@@shemmoirichards $$$$$ound$$$$$ about right
English is my first language, but wow this is fantastic.
Ans of 1st one is Morals
2nd one is Attraction and the last one is Don't ask
And thanks sir for this amazing video and we are also waiting for upcoming contents , thank you one more time
I speak English but I still learn a alot from these videos.
introverts rise, for the omnipotent one has spoken
Riiiiiise!!!!
Jesus is the way, the truth and light. Nobody goes to the father except through the son. Believe it or not. If a crazy pacifist died for more than himself; is that an action and person worthy of mockery? Sorry if it seems as if im poking at yall. Just venting. Ig. Idk😐
This guy is awesome! I already am good at English and speak it every day but this is super helpful just to fresh up and he is super sympathetic!!
Not "good at English" instead "I already speak English well" ....Also, *freshen
@@personincognito3989 Thank you for the great tip!
FUN FACT: Icebreaker - A powerful ship which has an super tough & specially made hull which practically breaks the ice formed on sea or lakes & creates a new path for normal cargo & passenger ships. Hence for conversations anything that can create a path for a new conversation.
Whenever I watch your videos I feel the enthusiasm coming out of my soul and did you notice something about yourself you are hilarious you bring me laughter!
James you deserve novel prize for what you been doing for the last few yrs(sorry if i made any grammatical error while writing this sentence)
Great english it was perfect except for the word "years" nice job from Los Angeles California 😁✌
Im a native English speaker and i have problems starting convos and im always learning from this guy
why does this video has thumbs down this is helpful educational I see mean to put thumbs down this man is a great teacher he is hard working he is a great comprehender he also does his job will can someone explain why is ppl giving this vid a thumbs down
Your video is so interesting. I could listen to you all day you’ve got a very calming voice
James, I am about to tell you a story: you changed my life. This is a real story, not a random comment.
Some years ago I could only write, read and talk, but not listen properly in english.
I watched a class from you, which you would teach some techniques to improve listening, and I took it for real.
I took those techniques and I finally 'unlocked' my hearing/listening english skills, like, 7 years ago I guess?
I remember I used to feel bad about it, 'cus I wouldn't understand shit when somebody was talking. And as a foreign, that sucks.
Okay, that wisdom could be within, but, you brought me confidence.
Maybe the last video I watched from you was 2 years ago. No cap. I just came across one of your videos in my timeline, and I felt that I needed to testify you this.
Now I can fluently speak, read, listen, write and so on in english.
And I have this in my mind, man. You helped me and surely thousands of people.
Keep your hard and reality-changer work.
Regards,
Paulo.
Techniches as "close your eyes and listen carefully".
Oh man, that was the game changer. I still use it today.
Thank you very fucking much.
When you swear while speaking English it makes you sound like a Dullard like English-speaking people who just use slang while speaking. Try not to cuss when you're speaking English.
@@personincognito3989 Thanks for the feedback, but I ain't trying to step on any altar here. Just my way to speak, and I do talk like that in other languages too. Its only me.
1. Morals
2. Attraction
3. Don’t ask
Huh?
This man is a mind opener, im glad i've met you!
Love this guy! I hated school but if he would of been my teacher, I would of attended more
How does this pop up in my feed of Hotrods, Carpentry, welding, fabricating, etc . . . I love it.
Perhaps you love the fine Arts and CZcams is quite aware of your perversions
😆
HOMEWORK:
MORALS
ATTRACTION
DON'T ASK
Appreciate everything you do my friend. I'm improving my skills in large thanks to you! I'm 23, better late than never haha!
1- Morals
2-moral
3- insight
I don't know... I'm used to him bald so when he has hair it's weird lol still love this man great teacher could listen to him for hours
Omg I used to watch you nine years ago when I started college. You helped me so much.
Really?
Thankyou very much Mr James. I have learned a lot from you.
A very good teacher and a very attractive man! With love from Kazakhstan.
Unlimited time to learn a skill... I'd master cultivating a character of dignity and an unconditionally loving heart. Everything else will work itself out.
Hi James, you are a wonderful teacher! Thank you so much!!!
Why don't we try apply what he's is EXPLAINING, let's talk, if you want
@@zayn659 how would you rate your introduction? Lol
Hi
JamesESL English Lessons , I very much appreciate your videos and the work you are doing as an educator.
i used to watch your videos in 2015 preparing for ielts :)
they were immensely helpful (I think I got 8).
Love it here. even though English is my native language, I would really like to take an English course with you 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Wow! I watched you when I was 14. At the time I couldn’t read, write and speak English. Now it’s great to see your CZcams recommendation again. I’m 24 now! Time flys
It's weird to think that we were once 4 ft tall looking up at small things
I am hooked on your videos!!! I am in Texas, I am guessing you are in Canada. Your voice is pleasing and comforting. I am so glad you were recommended. Thank you and have a wonderful day.
Got it. ✍🏾 provoking thought = room for open dialogue.
Hi James , greetings from Perú . You are awesome
I'm from Perú aswell
I'm from Perú too :)
I'm from Andromeda Galaxy bois
Nice, where in peru?
@@Testosterooster I'm from lima
Aye james. That's mario from Dominica in the caribbean. Big fan of your work. I was wondering if you could do a video about Nuance of words. Words with same meaning and what make them different in terms of use. For example spontaneous and concurrent , alleviate and mitigate etc etc... burglary, robbery and theft ..
Plz give this gentlemen the best teachers award
Thank you, James, for this amazing class! I reallyappreciated it. I won't ask about the weather anymore!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
🤣🤣🤣
Introvert here..
Just making the register for my fellow introverts who suck at small talk/starting a conversation.
The example James said: oh I hate eating liver 😆
My
Mother ate liver when she was pregnant with me. This is good information because wisdom is helpful. I need to continue conversations when I'm keeping it mutual with people.
Thank you for this. I am a horrible conversationalist and I really try (sometimes) to keep a conversation going. So conversations with me are where they go to die. Next time, I shall try out your recommended questions and hopefully they help. 😊
Love your channel Teacher James.. I’ll practice and do my homework when I get back to work.. it’s gonna be exciting 😁.
Thank you 🙏
I'm not even ESL and I found this video helpful lol
James is the most successful from engvid. Always interesting and has great content.
Thank you teacher! 😁
*that's how we done in our school at the end of the class
1.What is a relationship deal-breaker for you?
= This is a question you ask to find out more about one's morals
2. Who is your celebrity crush?
= This question I think in the video was for both insight and attraction but I'm gonna say attraction(bit lazy to go back)
3. Are you pregnant?
= This question is a no go and should only be asked if you are close to the individual or happened to have or be able to ask it somehow(correct me if I'm wrong)
eyyyyyyyy homework done, first time in a while btw I actually did this homework instead of the one I had been given from my actual school lol
Hopefully he sees it😁
For question one I would suggest this to be a moral question type because you're getting into the mind of that's it person
I am learning plenty of new information from watching your videos
1. Morals 2. Attraction 3. Don't ask
1. Morals
2. Attraction
3. Don't ask
Ps. I found your channel today. And i've learned so much already.
My Guy one of the Best Teacher 👨🏾🏫
This is great advice! I wish half the population didn’t struggle with face to face conversations due to social media.