CHANGE THE PATTERN | from toxic situationships to a ✨healthy relationship!✨

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  • čas přidán 28. 06. 2024
  • These are the tips that helped me finally break the cycle of toxic situationship! I learnt so much about myself and my deep, core patterns and it changed the course of my dating life. I hope these tips to the same for you 🤍
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    timestamps:
    00:00 - 01:11 from toxic to healthy
    01:11 - 03:23 what part do you play?
    03:23 -06:28 hidden positive benefit
    06:28 - 10:03 unconscious patterns exercise
    10:03 - 13:36 chemistry scale
    13:36 - 17:37 single on purpose
    17:37 - 18:28 honorable mention
    18:28 - 19:33 good luck girly pop
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Komentáře • 55

  • @LittleSweettt
    @LittleSweettt Před rokem +52

    The moment I knew I was in love with my husband was the day I realized he brings me peace ❤

    • @NikasInnerBeauty
      @NikasInnerBeauty  Před rokem +4

      🥹❤️

    • @huaweiliveeu5gesim46
      @huaweiliveeu5gesim46 Před rokem +1

      ​@@NikasInnerBeauty in my opinion good to have male and female friends with benifits, to not feel hungry for sex and fall in love for wrong people who just fake play to trigger Love emotions 💕

    • @InhaleSkyExhaleStars
      @InhaleSkyExhaleStars Před 11 měsíci +3

      so sweet and beautiful 🩷

  • @NikasInnerBeauty
    @NikasInnerBeauty  Před rokem +8

    Do you guys like the captions (subtitles) being already edited into the video, or is it distracting?
    Would love to know your thoughts if I should keep it for future videos like this. Thank youuu🤍🤍🤍

    • @annakasanova5922
      @annakasanova5922 Před rokem +4

      I personally prefer to have a choice to add them or not :) Thank you so much for your videos! They added the Are you robot test before the quiz because there is already so many people clicking on it :D ❤

    • @AshyX0
      @AshyX0 Před 5 měsíci

      Deaf girly here, greatly appreciated! Sometimes when I add/turn on captions on a video the words are incorrect :(

  • @shachede6828
    @shachede6828 Před rokem +10

    Yes! Thank you for the honesty. TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS! We are also toxic when are in toxic relationships. Be very honest, you might have started the fight but you let yourself get dragged in and release the toxic part of you. This something we all have to do

  • @kristinandj
    @kristinandj Před rokem +5

    I laughed so hard at the "he makes me feel special" bc I can picture my old self during dating
    Very helpful video thank you so much

  • @cy7375
    @cy7375 Před rokem +2

    I (female, soon to be 27) broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years at the end of last year. He was my first boyfriend and he cheated on me. Last week, I went on a date for the first time ever and then the second date. I was supposed to go on the third date last weekend but he ghosted me. Stupidly I already liked him and I was so sad when he didn't respond to my text and my first experience of being ghosted... And your words hit me so hard!! Thank you so much, now I will do the exercise you mentioned and I will treat myself well.

  • @katherineanderson1294
    @katherineanderson1294 Před 10 měsíci +1

    Oh thank you...I was scared dating after years of being single. You said alot of things that really helped.

  • @joannab3889
    @joannab3889 Před rokem +1

    I really really needed to hear this today. Thank you so much !

  • @Theone-ou2xt
    @Theone-ou2xt Před rokem +3

    I am a guy .I love this video ,really good insights ,thanks for the link of the books which helped you. My problem is i was soo damn happy with myself and was working on my goals but i still fell for someone who makes me opposite of as you said "intrigued but not obsessed " even after spending those years on self-development and yes childhood plays a hugee role. It is soo painful and tough emotionally.
    I wish i have a quick fix for this but meanwhile i am using meditation and some other things to heal me ,sometime i feel ooh i will so solve it easily ,then sometime this situation makes me pain so much.

  • @starmusic6847
    @starmusic6847 Před rokem +1

    I've been wtching you fpr some years now, and you have grown so much! You are glowing! It's an inspiration to see. Just know that you have a little slovenian fan who your videos have helped through some pretty dark times. I wish you all the best, dear girly pop.🧡

  • @rumililla8679
    @rumililla8679 Před 9 měsíci +1

    This video is so relatable and helpful! Thank you Nika Xx.

  • @fabiangomez25
    @fabiangomez25 Před rokem +1

    I am really enjoying this new kind of videos talking to the camara that you are doing. Thanks for sharing ❤

  • @wiktorias5472
    @wiktorias5472 Před rokem +1

    Such great tips, amazing! ❤ thank you

  • @lornatw
    @lornatw Před rokem +4

    Love. I will say the first point you made I think is important to note that it should NOT be used to then continue putting up with the other person's behaviour. I have fallen for deciding to realise I have flaws too but then made me stay in the environment because I put that on the person deciding they deserved me to be more understanding of them too. So instead of removing the negative energy or person by taking responsibility, I ended up putting up with it more!!

    • @NikasInnerBeauty
      @NikasInnerBeauty  Před rokem +3

      Ohh of course! I was talking about it more in the context of after you’ve parted ways - being aware of how you both played a part in creating the dynamic, so you can see the situation clearly and learn as much as you can from it. I should’ve made that more clear, so thank you for pointing it out! And I’m so sorry for your experience 🤍

  • @dzoana987
    @dzoana987 Před rokem +10

    Girlll, perfect timing!! thank you for posting this video 💕this is exactly what Im dealing with right now 🥲

    • @NikasInnerBeauty
      @NikasInnerBeauty  Před rokem +2

      Awh it’s my pleasure! I’m sorry you’re going through it, but you’ve got this!🤍🤍

  • @sarzhu_
    @sarzhu_ Před 9 měsíci +1

    mine is definitely 'emotionally unavailable' 🙂

  • @halesalman620
    @halesalman620 Před 11 měsíci +1

    so helpful and clear thank you 🩵🩵

  • @thefelixfoxx
    @thefelixfoxx Před rokem +2

    Such a GREAT video!! Taking this tips to the depths of my soul

  • @gazdavivien
    @gazdavivien Před rokem +1

    I would be happy to see a video with an update about your recovery, mental health, depression. :)

  • @fruityeva
    @fruityeva Před rokem +1

    Thank you so much! Such a great video!😊🌞

  • @nandiniritz21
    @nandiniritz21 Před 9 měsíci +1

    I totally relate to what you are saying 😮.. you're my therapist from now

  • @melissaw5626
    @melissaw5626 Před 5 měsíci

    This is exactly where I’m at right now! Finally making the conscious decisions to choose better after seeing those sneaky patterns! Love your channel. Also, would love to know what you paired with that gorgeous shirt! Jeans?

  • @ohyeah2269
    @ohyeah2269 Před 11 měsíci +1

    Wow this was powerful ❤

  • @darkbrumecaldin1902
    @darkbrumecaldin1902 Před rokem +1

    Very enlightening video!

  • @tommyornothing7301
    @tommyornothing7301 Před rokem +1

    Great advice!

  • @marccolomayt82094
    @marccolomayt82094 Před rokem +2

    Enjoying this! ❤❤❤

  • @TheKruelka
    @TheKruelka Před rokem +1

    I am in the process. My ex brought me peace, but then also not. I fell in love with the peaceful part, but he was not over his ex and this repelled me. I was stuck a long time in the feeling that I don't deserve the peace I wanted from him, cause there is a more important person in his heart. How not to enter emotions like this so quickly?

  • @aworldofasunshine
    @aworldofasunshine Před rokem +2

    This makes so much sense! Thank you Nika 🥰 I’m just a little bit confused with the ghost partner point. I shouldn’t look out for potential partners that have the positive attributes that I valued in ex partners?
    I‘d love some more videos about dating 😊

  • @diyadora3385
    @diyadora3385 Před 11 měsíci +1

    We need a podcast

  • @gabrielasterle4500
    @gabrielasterle4500 Před rokem +1

    Great tipps 🤌🏿 you grew so much! Btw, where is your top from?

  • @jennyf6975
    @jennyf6975 Před měsícem

    I met my boyfriend after 1 year of long distance relationship, and he started to treat me not that much as I expected. I was so exited to meet him, spend time together, do some stuff, u know. So I asked him why he does behaviour like this, because I can see something changed, and he said "I'm not going to jump around you". Wtf, boy? I'm wondering why he is like that, cuz he was amazing, when we started dating.

  • @user-pg8zp8wv1t
    @user-pg8zp8wv1t Před 11 měsíci +1

    You're amazing! Hello from Russia :)

  • @tiffanyjones2048
    @tiffanyjones2048 Před rokem +4

    I totally took accountability from my former toxic relationships. Unfortunately I believe in love, but I don't want to be alone 😭💔. Today has been 2yrs being single and still healing my ex wants me back and I refuse.

  • @raniamaher8419
    @raniamaher8419 Před 7 měsíci

    You should really start a podcast!!

  • @lifeofpandora8056
    @lifeofpandora8056 Před rokem +1

    'in their little journey' :D

  • @user-ys2zv8fm7x
    @user-ys2zv8fm7x Před rokem +1

    Damn, I love your mind

  • @rikki7953
    @rikki7953 Před rokem +1

    Do you have any tips or videos on dating on apps vs in person? I just got off Hinge after a year of dating feeling very discouraged. I want to continue dating after a break but not sure if I want to try in person dating only…

  • @FebruaryJulia
    @FebruaryJulia Před rokem +1

    Is it Marina Tsvetaeva cup you're holding on the thumbnail photo? If not, the portrayal resemblance is eerie 📝

    • @NikasInnerBeauty
      @NikasInnerBeauty  Před rokem +3

      They’re by a slovenian artist called Polonapolona 😊

    • @FebruaryJulia
      @FebruaryJulia Před rokem +1

      @@NikasInnerBeauty, thanks! I checked the reference. So, this cup is called "Alma, the independent one." The only Alma I know is Alma Mahler, not sure if it's her on the cup or some other Alma I don't know about. I initially thought it was a Russian poet Marina Tsvetaeva on the cup, because this is exactly how she is standardly portrayed, with the hair style and all. Thank you! It was a fun investigation.

  • @saram5659
    @saram5659 Před rokem

    There is a song in the show crazy ex-girlfriend about the guys that 'hates everything but me', and that's why she feels special! Very accurate and funny 😅 (there is a clip on youtube)

  • @NinaNina-so1st
    @NinaNina-so1st Před rokem

    🥰🥰🥰

  • @ayoolukoga9829
    @ayoolukoga9829 Před rokem

    Place your faith on Jesus. Jesus died so that you can have everlasting life. Jesus is the way the truth and the life, no one gets to the Father but by him. Trust Jesus. Repent. Call Out to Jesus Now
    Have a good day.

  • @barbiebrenda
    @barbiebrenda Před 9 měsíci +1

    Something that I appreciate from you is your vulnerability to the audience...
    All we struggle with terrible insecuritites but although your love life is good now, you still keep the capacity to connect with the insecuritites of others. 🪷