American on Why He Chose THE PHILIPPINES to Raise His Kids 🇺🇸 🇵🇭
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- In this Episode of the Wineding Down Podcast, we Interview Chase's Dad who is a Veteran Executive of the US High Tech industry. We talk about why he decided to relocate his family to the Philippines and what it meant for his career. We also discuss other topics such as but not limited to white privilege, the differences between the US and Philippines, Culture shocks, and Family Life.
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Chapters:
0:00 Preview
0:18 Intro
1:34 Why did you choose the Philippines?
4:34 First Impressions of the Philippines
9:02 Cultural Differences
11:30 Why didn't your kids learn Tagalog?
14:16 If you don't speak Tagalog are you still Filipino?
15:44 White Privilege In the Philippines?
19:04 Filipino Warmth Towards Foreigners
20:50 Adjusting to Filipino Culture
32:08 How do you feel about the Philippines now?
33:07 America vs The Philippines where would you rather live?
34:30 Filipino English
36:30 Conclusion
37:04 Outro
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"presidentiable" - noun- PHILIPPINES - a person who is a likely or confirmed candidate for president. Such as "the political news dealt mostly with the presidentiables for the upcoming election" - baka naman - it is acceptable and sometimes used by Washington Newscaster when there is a candidate :)
DONT YOU KNOW THAT FILIPINOS OR PHILIPPINES IS A GREAT IMITATOR OF THE WESTERN CULTURE?IT HAS BEEN THIS WAY SINCE TIME IMMEMORIAL..JUST LOOK AROUND AND OBSERVE AND YOU WILL FIND OUT THINGS.WE LEFT PHILIPPINES 51 YRS AGO BELIEVING CANADA WAS A BETTER PLACE TO RAISE CHILDREN AND YES IT WAS GOOD THEN BUT THIS GENERATION THERE IS NO GOOD PLACE OR COUNTRY THAT IS SAFE .THE WHOLE CULTURE OF THE WORLD IS CORRUPTION.
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As a foreigner in the Philippines when someone look at you and stare at you it is a sign of admiration not in a bad way., just take it or leave it.
and as a Filipino, i agree with you...
You just looked different and fascinating, wish they could take pictures if it doesn’t sounds so Wierd.
I was once like that. When I got to New York, the first thing they told me is not to stare at people or have an eye to eye to any type of people. I was terrified!
Yeah...just staring because they got amazed with your diversity...nothing to get angry about,but just smile instead...and they will smile back at you also.😊
nah they judging you and will chismis later or post something toxic on social media. common trend in the motherlands lmfao
My son is completely the opposite of Chase. Born in the Philippines, but left when he was only 6 months old. Growing up in New York City made him stoic and a little cynical. He said he had to, to survive, and we did not know that he actually developed anxiety because of this. We take him to visit the Philippines every so often and every time we do, he would always say that people in the Philippines are a lot nicer and happier. This, in spite of the economic situation they are on. He finds this amazing. So now he looks forward to his visits, and I hope he'll do it every year.
As someone who lives in d Philippines while my entire family is in NYC, I can say that people in most places are nicer than New Yorkers.
agreed
Ulol Mukhang Ipis na Pagod Ang Mga Pilipino , Shlt Skin na Puro OFW taga Punas ng tae ng Kano, Pati Macho Dancer sa Bar
It defends on where in USA.
In my first 2 years I lived with my older cousin who works in construction and his wife who delivers medical supplies and their American born kids in the East San Jose. Their kids were the most foul mouthed with S and F words being part of their regular speech, very rough, disrespectful, has no regards for adults, bully the younger siblings and the weaker neighbor kids but as I learned they were also bullied by tougher kids in school. They were only behaved when their father was around because they feared him. And that's how the neighborhood kids behave too. Though I only slightly gained weight they called me stupid fatso and as a late teens at that time I almost lost my temper. But I was told by the neighborhood parents that since they are kids and some older kids but still minors I was supposed to just let them malign and disrespect me. That's the mindset of their neighborhood. So at that time I said true indeed, you can never raise a good kid in USA.
Some years later I was temporarily offered to live in the garage of a Filipino boss who was a software engineer at Hewlett Packard in Mt. View area and his wife a Filipina nurse and all of their children born in USA. Their kids were amazing, very polite and thoughtful, I actually learned from them on the usage of Please, Thank You, Take care etc. Perhaps because they live in abundance they were very generous and the giving type as compared to my cousin's kids who would rob each other of chocolates. They were very kind even to animals. Me growing up in Philippine Province have no regards for wild animal life which we can shoot with sling shot any time. I learned not to harm the raccoons who occasionally make a mess of the garbage. Their parents were both working so big part of their learning must have come from their nice school or from the neighborhood kids.
So I say it depend on which America are we talking about. As to raising kids some parts of America are worst than the Philippines but some parts of America are way way better than the Philippines.
Come to San Diego. People we’re so nice when I just moved there
I have been married to my wife for 17 years....she is from Sablan, Benguet and we will be moving there next year for our final chapter in life. There are many reasons I've decided to make this move and one major reason is what I consider is the US is in a major decline. Loss of morality, political dissention, crime, and a host of other factors that I don't want to deal with. (I'm old). So, wish us luck and yes I will be stared at in her province :)
Good luck with the move, Jerry! We’re sure you will love it for the most part 😄
That's good .. Benguet is a beautiful province in The Philippines!
Don’t worry Filipinos will always welcome you with open arms. They will just look at you because of curiosity maybe wether you’re feeling good being there or maybe they want to know more about you. I’m a Filipina living here in Los Angeles for 25 yrs and I still missed the Filipino culture so much that I’m hoping someday when I retire I can go back home for good in Manila where I came from. For me it’s more fun in the Philippines and that’s how I really feel to this day.
Gdeve sir, thank you for considering sablan as your retirement place we are now neighbors am from asin ,tuba benguet
You are absolutely right! It’s sickening to see same sex people allowed to get married or change their gender.
The *Filipino Stare* is not a bad thing: it can mean curiosity, admiration, amazement, or acknowledgment of someone's presence. To non-Filipinos going to the Philippines, when you catch someone staring at you, try smiling back instead of being offended. 99.99% of the time - if not 100% - you'll get a smile back. They don't mean to offend; they're just Filipinos 😁. And if you find other weird observations, it's a great opportunity to discover why; this is a great way to learn about the culture and probably a good topic when you converse with Pinoy friends.
Yeah we admire foreigner height , skin color but we are kind hearted people 😂❤🎉
Exactly.
Facts😂
But still, it's rude and uncomfortable if it's more than what's necessary. No one likes to be stared at. I am Filipino btw.
@@berng.1092 I second this as a filipino. I have a very noticeable spanish ancestry so I get looks every now and then. Ako rin yung tipo na tao na reserba, kaya hanggat maaari ayaw ko ng madalas akong nakakaagaw ako ng pansin XD
His story and mine are fairly closely related, other than backgrounds. I grew up in south Texas, then joined the Air Force. One of my first long tours was at Clark AB, Philippines. I was stationed there for 6 yrs. I grew to love it. I moved around to many countries during duty, including Japan, Okinawa, and many others. I was previously married, with 3 boys. It didn't work out. I retired from the Air Force in 2000. I then worked for Lockheed Martin and Harris Corp, as an Engineer and Instructor. I also set up a vacation for us in Hong Kong, and we stayed there for a week or so. As he said, people were not very friendly there. I wasn't impressed. Then, in 2008, I came back to the Philippines to live. Not married at that time. BUT, I met my "now" wife that same year. We dated for a while, then lived together. I had to go back to work in the U.S. for a few years. I supported her, and she supported me, while apart. I knew she was "it" for me. I came back for good in 2016, and we got married right away. Been doing very well since then, and I love living here!
Thanks for sharing! 😀😊
It's loving good for you especially you're family...longlive
I am a Filipino working at Costco. and every time I talked to the members they always told me I think you are a Filipino because the way you interact with the members is really polite and smiling. it's flattering
I had a different experience in Taiwan, this time. Im Filipino and generally if a foreigner was asking for directions and I didn't know where it was, I'd still try instead of outright ignoring the person. But in Taipei I had an experience where I was asking and this dude who looked like a drug dealer in the movies was signing something that I figured meant "wait"... he put out his cigarette on the ground, picked up his phone and started speaking chinese. So I figured this guy was not the person to ask. But as I started to walk away, he called me back and gave me his phone. Coz the person he was calling up spoke English. That was a pleasantly weird one for me.
Oh I had a similar experience when we visited Taiwan! We were lost and couldn’t find the place we’re supposed to stay at, so we asked this young woman, but she couldn’t understand so she called someone who could understand and speak English and they both helped us locate the place. They’re really nice out there!
Right! I had an entire scenario in my head coz he looked like a goon that's about to rob a bank but suddenly he had to call up his accomplices and be like... hey guys , stop everything, this poor foreigner is lost and I gotta give him something!
Filipinos love helping foreigners out with directions but the people in Taiwan really make an effort. So for all non Asians out there, there's still hope for Asia in the hospitality department. Go Philippines! Go Taiwan!
I’ve worked in Taiwan for almost 11 years and i can say Taiwanese are kind people.
taiwanese people are a mile ahead of hong kongers in terms of hospitality...
This is sooo true!! Taiwanese people are sooo kind! I went there with my cousins, and one of us had a little mishap 😅, he slipped on an escalator , and a kind old taiwanse lady helped him up, and asked him if he’s hurt, or if he needed to go to a hospital or sumn (mind you, she was talking to us in broken english).. good thing it was not that bad, and we just thanked her. And when she left, she still looked back and waved goodbye.. 😭😭 God Bless her wherever she is.. I was really pleasantly surprised because a month before this,we were at HK, and 😒 the experience was not good at all. We were snubbed at this one restaurant, the waitress literally slammed the menu at our table.. it was a week of hell for me honestly! One of the worst experiences I’ve had.
So yeah… i would agree with this..
The philippines is a very free and happy country but very polite and humble. Kids are very curious especially for foreigners
I know some foreigners are having a hard time adjusting but in short i try to explain. If you are not born in the Philippines or not raised in the Philippines for sure you will have a cultural shock. But you have to put in mind whenever you arrive in the Philippines just start to smile. Just Smile. Leave your hardome in your country. Filipinos love to help interact and have fun. Filipinos are friendly specially to those we think they are poor on the information about the area. Just ask and you will be answered. Be nice and they will be nice back to you. Filipinos live a simple life. ❤
sorry, what do you mean by "HARDOME"?
i agree
When I was a kid I used to get so baffled and confused about the notion of being racist because when I see black and white foreigners my first thought was that I was in awe. I remember being so amazed. And at that point, I didn't really label them "black" or "white" to me it was really just that feeling of being amazed seeing another form of human beings apart from what I usually see in my native country. It was only when I got exposed to social media that I learned what's considered racist and what's not.
True. Same for me as well.
It’s crazy right? We have preferences as Filipinos but not really racist. Like we like white skin not dark skin just because they look cleaner and younger may be? But that doesn’t mean having a dark skin is really that bad.🧐 we have an aunt in Isabela and they have dark skin but that didn’t diminish our respect for her. And that goes for other people.
I honestly believe that Filipinos, like me, are still among the nicest people on earth! There maybe some “bad guys” around greatly influenced by changes through the years, but if you dig deeper, there is goodness, genuine kindness and that beautiful smile in every heart of the Filipino people! MABUHAY!!!
Are you sure ? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Compare to other culture I can say Filipino had better character that is why they ate always praise in the work place.
i agree....there is no perfect country but at least we Filipinos have not killed/murdered a sitting president yet (God forbids!).......just like what they did to Kennedy
Self proclaimed yuck
I think it boils down to the culture of the country. Generally, Filipinos are God-fearing, hospitable, open-minded, resilient, and adaptable to any given situation. That makes them unique as compared to other peoples of the world.
God fearing😮 before ngaun hindi na realtalk lang
@@9thsealchannel277 NAH 80% OF FILIPINO ARE CATHOLIC so thats that
You forgot friendly-fire
Definitely right!
Mhm, those traits exist in other nationalities too. However the attitude to smile despite life’s challenges is uniquely filipino.
This is life goals. In a few years I would love to move to the Philippines.
I am an Filipina American. My parents were both born and raised in the Philippines but after they married in the 1960's, they were transferred by the U.S. military to the U.S.A. growing up in the mid 1960'-1970's my parents decided not to teach my siblings and I Tagalog when we lived in the U.S. My mother said it was because she thought we would get confused learning two languages in our household and not do well in school. My mother was a teacher by profession. I don't know if that was the trend during that time. When my dad retired from the military in the early 1970's he moved our family to live in Baguio. Because we dis not know Tagalog, we often got laughs when we attempted to speak Tagalog. We were also asked why we only ate "bread" (sandwiches, instead of typical filipino lunches with rice ) for lunch. We attended a private Catholic school. They tried to accommodate me in Filipino class, where Tagalog was only spoken, by having me sit next to the smartest student in my girls-only class. They'd also send me home with a vocabulary list of Tagalog words to study at home. One day the teacher called me to the front of the classroom and she wrote down the word, "Sabon", on the chalk board. She asked me to pronounce the word out loud and when I did, the entire class laughed. I felt so embarrassed. At the time, I was 10 years old and not happy about it. I felt sad and I had a hard time because I didn't know the language or the culture. I would cry alot and beg my parents to take us back to the U.S. After 3 months we moved back to the state where we came from. I only returned to visit family with my Ilokano- American husband when I was in my 50's and we really enjoyed our vacation to Manila and Ilocos Norte. I never learned to speak Tagalog fluently, but when I was living there briefly, I was able to sing the National Anthem but I didn't know the meaning. I learned a few commonly used words and phrases. I can understand a little too.
We don't get stares when we visit. I guess we blend in (we have tanned complexions)until we start speaking, and then they realize that we are American. 😂
How interesting, your story is very similar to mine. Only thing is, I couldn’t get my parents to move back to the US. So I lived in I.Norte for 4 years and Manila 5yrs. this was mid-70’s to mid 80’s. Until I finished college. Looking back, It turned out to be quite a blessing to have had that opportunity to know my Filipino heritage and I hope to retire there someday.
@mel.3126 I'm sorry to hear about the Pinoy kids in the 70s were harsh to non-Tagalog speaking Fil-Ams back then. From the 80s thereon, especially in the cities, kids would still chuckle sometimes, but not to humiliate you but out of amusement at the sound of the words pronounced "with a slang" (meaning twang). But 99% of the time, Filipinos will be very excited to help anyone who shows interest in any of the hundreds of languages, depending where you live.
On the other hand, you'd even be surprised that in some parts of Manila, some full Filipino kids who are born & raised in the Philippines, cannot even speak Tagalog anymore because they live in their expat-bubbled schools. They can understand Taglish, but not the very local, mass culture way of spoken Tagalog. Then when they decide to independently get out of their bubbled districts for some adventure, they sometimes get duped or taken advantage of by shady people, almost totally incapable of protecting themselves, thanks to their insistent choice to be ignorant of the local language.
I remember a Filipino kid who grew up in the states who was intervied at our tv radio station who amazed the audience by her answering in Pilipino without the usual American twang or slang ,and very fluent.
The host asked why so,as she grew up abroad.
Her answer was because her parents spoke to them in Pilipino while letting them learn their spoken English among their American playmates and in the school.
They were trained to remember their country that way.
One trait I admire about the Chinese families here they always speak their language at home...something Filipinos good to immitate when migrating abroad.
Children easily become bi- lingual playing with their playmates.
I think they didn't laugh at you, but they have what they call a mababaw ang kaligayahan, it means they get easily amused. I know someone from the Visayas and when she was new in Manila even if she was fluent in tagalog because of learning tagalog at school, but when she moved to Manila in the first year almost everyone thought she sounded funny with a visayan accent while speaking Tagalog
"You have to be more accepting, the world is getting smaller."
Very perceptive.
Thank you for all the good words describing us, as Filipino we are friendly people, very hospitable to our visitors, and we treat them as a friend not aliens in our country.
Yes you are really great people .
I would say that there are words in English that has no exact Pilipino translation. There are Spanish words mix with Pilipino words
You will also notice if you go to other island in the Philippines, the island use dialect that is common in the area. I would conclude that Filipino English is a mixture of American, Spanish n local dialect because not all English words has a local words n mix with the dialect that is use in the specific areas or island,
Nice and appreciate what have you said to Philippines, raising your kids here is very good and it seems you have a sense of humor and we like it. Filipinos were very smiley people , friendly and most hospitable people in the world. If you have what we called your Filipino best friend he will be with you and treat you as a part of his family.
Even if it's an alien visit us, as long as it won't harass us? We will treat it nicely. 😂
As a Filipina. I love the topic. Yeah Manila changed a lot. Have been living here for more than 30 yrs.
I get what the dad means about English and culture. I am Filipino born and raised. I am now a US resident 5 years and counting, coming to the US past my 40s. I consider myself fluent in English as I do speak the language at home growing up. Here in the US, I have come to realize that English is only my second language. I now understand the difference between a "native English speaker" compared to a "Filipino english speaker." I can tell a person who grew up here in the US through their choice of words, depth of vocabulary and nuances in conversations. It is different from the English I was used to, back in Manila.
You mean native American English? The native English speaker are in England. Just like Filipino English the American English is just another dialect of the English language.
@@iamedyboy found that guy!! it's on this comment!
@@iamedyboy no You are very Wrong. Do you even know what is NATIVE American. Anyway, you are sooo wrong. Pointless to correct you.
@@sowhat7983 Native Speakers of English exist in the Philippines or any country in the world. Lea Salonga is a Native speaker of English.
Conversational English is different from what is taught in schools, which is formal English. That type of English is also use by people who are usually highly educated,but not by the common Americans
Colonial mentality plays a lot of influence to Philippine culture thats one reason why Filipinos are so hospitable toward foreign visitors. Philippines been once colonized by Spain, Americans…learned from our foreign brothers…. Plus being a Christian country with values taught from home to school : kindness, humility, compassion, honesty…the hard way of life has also molded Filipinos to be resilient and patient….
Its not that their foreigners, its because they are guests in the community. In my province in the Visayas, hearing people speak in another Filipino dialect.. people will extend you more courtesy and be hospitable. Dont be surprise if someone will talk to you and offer some help.
This is stupid. You mean of we don't have colonial mentality, we will be rude to foreigners? You have to broaden your horizon. Travel, clearly you haven't.
Ill have to disagree with a few things, FIRST its not really a practicing christian county. They might say they are BUT when you look at the reality of things not only are they not conservative but are probably more liberated then some western countries. You cannot say your a conservative catholic valued nation when you have a drug problem, sex worker problem, very young women marring very old men problem, alcohol problem, gay and transgender problem , single motherhood problem, teen pregnancy problem, corruption problem from the palace to the local brgy, to even your own family will back stab you for their own benefit (example utang na loob). Doesn't sound very Christ like in values. The education system like most government agencies is disorganized and underfunded as well.
I am not saying there are not many good parts of the Philippines. BUT most of the nation is not recognizing the issues so that they can be fixed and have a better and stronger nation. I have been living in the Philippines since 2019, in the city and in the province so i have experienced both the upper class and the average Filipino lifestyle. I for the sake of my daughter hope and pray the future generations will rise up and make this nation better in many ways. Its a very beautiful country with a lot of great people but a toxic culture that we need to change for future generations to live happier, wealthier, and have a better quality of life. :-).
@@cjhmarine0621 Thank you for speaking up for foreigners who have lived extensively in different parts of the Philippines. I've been living in the Philippines (Luzon, Visayas, and Mindanao) since the turn of the century.
kahit hindi foreigner basta bisita lumalabas ang hospitality ng mga pinoy. kung may bisitang kaibigan si mama noon nangungutang agad ng biscuit at softdrink.
I've watched a lot of foreign vloggers who visited the Philippines and all were talking about the friendliness of the people. I was born and raised in Manila and moved to Canada after college in 1975. I must say that being friendly runs in our genes and I'm like that even when I'm travelling in different countries. I became friends with a lot of people I met on my trips. But watching a lot of the vlogs when they are talking about how friendly the Filipinos are including your discussions here, I must say because you look different in most cases you are treated differently. When I go back for a visit the last being in 2018, because I looked like them and don't look like a foreigner, I sometimes get a bad treatment. I've adapted 100% to western life but still Pinoy at heart and sometimes I can't get used to some Filipino attitudes and rudeness. I'm not talking in general but I find that I will never get the same attention as foreign look in the Philippines even though I feel as a foreigner myself.
Yes as a true Filipino born and raised in the most Southern part of the Philippines married to Filipina my only daughter who's 14yo now, can't speak/understand Tagalog fluently but let her talk in English, oh boy, if she just have an accent of English speaking countries, you can't differentiate. She's the top in English language debater in the school. ❤
I would assume she was born and raised the US or English speaking country. Nevertheless, all my immediate family members like my siblings and I all came to the US in the 70's and 80's after finishing college and eventually married and started families. My son primarily spoke English and broken Tagalog but he can communicate with you endlessly until the cows come home with you speaking in Tagalog and his come back is in English since he completely understands Tagalog. Same with my nieces and nephews, they are all American born and have the same skill as my son. Correct if I am wrong, your daughter must be resistant to learning Tagalog.
@@jimsales3743 no, she's local born.
@@jimsales3743 Yes, home training is the primary reason when a child refuses to learn the language of her/his locality. Children can always instinctively learn other spoken languages around them even if they are required to only speak one at school. But it they are trained, consciously or unconsciously, by an authority figure to stick to one, then they adapt that attitude.
Thank you guys for loving Philippines and for understanding our colture♥️
The Filipino culture of giving highest accord to elders most especially to parents is one of the Filipino characters that I am most proud of, we have strong family ties (which sometimes brings negative result but weighing the cost-benefit it results to more beneficial), we do not kill our siblings and relative for money purposes. I would like to qualify that my statement here is in general and isolated cases is inevitable.
But kill our fellow pilipino people? And bring them down instead of helping each other
Thanks for this. It's true there are cultural differences (as expected). I am a filipino who grew up in the US (west coast), I went to the US when I was 10 yrs old (1970), it was a culture shock for me. But I embraced the new culture. 40+ years later, here I am back in the Philippines.God sent us here to preach the gospel. It's a culture shock for me, yes hard to believe cause I am filipino. I got used to the American Culture. It's true what you said, just because they speak your language doesn't mean they understand what you understand.I had to re-learn the language, I still remember some of the Tagalog but not fluent. Now, I can say I'm pretty fluent but still can't understand some of the deep Tagalog words. I've been here now for almost 13 yrs, I love it. I don't even want to go back to the US. I did have to adjust to the culture here, I keep telling the people here even though I speak and understand Tagalog, I am still learning (re-learning the culture). I tell people that I am still an American in mind and actions. I had to get used to how things are here, like when you go to govt agencies, there are a lot of ways they can streamline the processes but they don't.I like the fact that here in the Philippines you can go anywhere and there will always be someone who speaks English. And yes, people here are friendly. And yes, people tend to think that foreigners are well off. They somehow look at me as a foreigner, wherever I go here, they get shocked when I speak the language. My advice to foreigners, accept and adjust to the ways here, it'll make it easier for you. Stop comparing how in the US, it is done this way or done that way. It's not! It is getting better. It's a great place to retire, you'r exchange rate favors you (coming from the US or UK or Canada or other countries). Much love to ya'll and God bless.
Thanks a lot for sharing and for watching ☺️☺️
Filipino's who grew up in the Western countries are rude and mayabang.
Filipinos are of unique race; we are a welcoming, friendly country and we treat foreigners with our brand of hospitality.... We may not have the 'best' of what foreigners expect... but we Filipinos would give 'everything' we've got just to help and make our foreign friends feel at home😊🇵🇭
I grew up in Manila, speaking mainly English, and not really learning Filipino at school until third year high school (age 15 or so). My Dad was Cebuano, my Mom Ilocano raised in Manila, but their common language was English (they went to grad school in the U.S., he met her there and I guess courted her in English). My high school friends all spoke Filipino with each other, but when I was around would shift to English. I definitely consider myself Filipino; I subsequently was active in the student movement and learned Filipino and lived for years speaking mostly Filipino (and later Bisaya as well). My brother grew up like me but went to the U.S. for college and never came back until decades later. He hardly speaks any Filipino at all, but I think he considers himself genuinely Filipino as well, despite not speaking any local language.
Tagalog is a Filipino language just like Cebuano and Ilocano. Never think that you are not a Filipino simply because you do not speak Tagalog.There are about 180 local languages in the Philippines. Dialect is different from language. On the other hand Patriotism is not the same as Nationalism.
It is so proud that most of the foreigner talk about our good cultures , friendly act and the tourist spot. Thanks a lot of your admiration to our people and to our country.
You can live like American dream in Philippines. Just be with Good people to be around.. and live peacefully
Honestly, i got insulted when he said Filipinos see foreigners because "We" think you have money... Its was spoken in general. We greet you because this is the way we were raised and it is embedded in our personalities. To be courteous and helpful to others. Not because your foreigners or because of money. Study our culture and historical background and you will know why..but then again you everyone is entitled for his own opinion. Your like movie stars in our eyes. Understand, Filipino culture is different and one of a kind friendly if not in the world but atleast in asia.
I agree with him,
oh, your father is so handsome i really thought he was Russel Crowe ❤❤❤
Salamat po talaga sa podcast na to. I learned a lot from your varied standpoints.
i love the staring part😅
we Filipinos i guess you can say are just so amused everytime we see foreigners. We are like curious cats sniffing new things 😊
Joe says thank you!! 😀 and thanks for watching!
A New Yorker twang, much different than a Boston accent.
At quick glance, i thought its gerard butler, 😂 “this is SPARTA!!!!” 😅😅
Its good to hear the Dad's take on the Philppines. Good video. Keep up the grind.
Thank you, Arembo!! ☺️
We know Joe's already adjusted well to the Philippines when he said CR instead of "bathroom" at 0:48 lol anyway great podcast guys. keep grinding, rooting for y'all💗
agree with you about the “CR” term 😅
Of course, CR means in short word is ComfortRoom.
I noticed that too
As a filipino, i really wanted to speak my word out for my fellowmen. Its just being strange seeing a foreigner in a slam area. It’s something that sometimes that we want to know something about them and try to be friends and make them feel welcome.
There are several languages in the Philippines and we don't care if you speak tagalog or not. As long you love our country.
But it would be nice if you TRY to learn the local language/s as well as part of learning the culture or at least get close to the culture. :)
I agree. At least try. When in Rome...
@@juonisback Yes, Agree. Just even TRYING is enough.
@@mjnabi8990 Yes, even Erwan Heusaff TRIED. His efforts exceeding expectations by becoming quite fluent is already a very much appreciated MEGA BONUS.
Lots of local languages in phil. Even the pilipino didn't understand each other using there own local language like luzon itself pampangginio ilocano tagalog bicolano its big deffence they dont understand lfm.
I love my country philippines because of our unique culture, filipinos are family oriented , hospitable and generous, and most you can rely on, filipinos are very helpful also as much they can do
Yeah that’s correct filipino staring at you not because they don’t like you but because they amaze you or they like you.I’m Filipino too and I like your channel and this is my first time watching you guys I like it.luv you guyz
Thank you very much!!
@@thewinedingdownpodcast why do you guys think if people stare at you you are a disgrace or something like are you guys that sensitive here in our country we accept everyone as long as you dont do bad things to other people they wont do bad things to you
@@shadowe5067because in their culture staring is rude or bastos. Sa kanila kong nakatitig ka o nagtatanong ng simpling anong birthday mo, saan ja nag aaral at ano ang trabaho mo. Ayaw nila para sa kanila masyadong personal. At sa ibang bansa ang mag impormasyon na iyon ay pweding gamitin ng masamang tao na nakawin ang identity mo. At magbukas ng banko at bumili ng kong anoano bagay sa pangalan mo. They have so much to lose
Yes i agree that many of us Filipinos have empty pockets but our heart are full of LOVE kindness hospitality and generousity than other countries have none😪🥲
Filipinos love to be loved by Foreigners. Our insecurities in our own skin kinda need it. It'll be perfect if we love people regardless of nationality.
However, if you have lived in western Europe and North America where coloured immigrants immigrate, you will realize that your skin colour is way better than the pale ones. In fact many of them are wanting to have tanned skin colour the reason they want to stay under the sun in any beach. Or they go to tanning salons to have artificial tan and pay for it.
Agreed. Sadly the media in the USA seems to be trying to convince us in being insecure in our own skin as well. In my eyes, people are people regardless of their level of tan 👍
Not really.. hahha i dont know but geowing being bully coz of white skin.. i always want to be brown skin.. got jealous with my fellow classmates before😊
The father is so kind choosing his words not to hurt Filipinos.
I enjoyed watching your podcast. When a Filipino is staring at you, it's nothing but a sign of admiration for living here with us.
I am now your new subscriber....
Thank you so much!
Most filipinos admire foreigners regardless of ethnicity, color. Most of them are kind and friendly. They dont approach foreigners to ask whats in their pockets.
My dad's greek-turke. He died when i was 14, so me and my mom decided to move here in the philippines. "you look different, are you a foreigner?" At first i thought the guy's gonna mug me, good thing my mom taught me how to speak in tagalog and filihrian -which is another spanish/portuguese/slavik creole dialect here in the philippines which is basically dying out (gasping for air) so i told him, "taga rito si mama ko". The dude was suprised and just hugged me and welcomed me to the community. He even shared me his soda pop (in plastic bag) which is another culture shock for me😊
My mom told me "you dont need to be a filipino to be filipino."
Interesting. I am Filipino but I've never heard of filihrian before. I can't find any result in google either. Do you know in what region/province it was spoken?
@@rosaaan yes. Filihrian or filihrianense is basically an extint language in cavite city. Even in cavite city theyre not familiar to it anymore. Our family is the only surviving filihr in the philippines since the other filihrian speaker(my abuela cion's childhood friend) mama inda died of very old age. And none of his relatives were passed on the ability to speak in the dialect. Flihrianense, chavacano, and ermitaño were the three spanish/portuguez influenced dialect here in the philippines. Ermitaño dialect is the first to die out. Kung hindi ko naituro sa dalawa kong bunso mag salita ng filihriaño, siguro tulad ng ermitañong dialekto, ni hindi man lang natin maririnig kung gaano kaganda ng tunog ng lingwahe nila.
The staring is of awe and admiration for an unexpected encounter. Don't be offended.
I wanna point out about the fact that at SM there’s really lots of sales clerks who were there to make sure you get assisted on whatever you need. I think that is just a way to have better customer service, unlike here in the States you could hardly find a person to help you at the store unless you find somebody and ask for something.
It's because he is a foreigner. I was born and raised in the US but not white American. The sales staff at SM don't give a hoot simply because I am not a caucasian. Asian looking people do not matter with the pinoys, simply because they are used to locals who look asian.
SM is definitely different then stores here in Canada they actually opened the toy so we could try it before buying that would never be allowed...lots of staff on hand to help out....
Wow! I did not know that Gerard Butler moved to the Philippines.
Hahaha, Joe says thanks!
Joe should have his own YT channel. Entertaining dude 😂
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As a filipino who visits the US every year, i can say that Americans are very nice and very friendly people, far from stereotypes. Theres even a woman who probably thought i was home sick told me that i should go back to my country. So thoughtful ☺️☺️☺️
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I don’t blame the dad for doing that….’Very good decision. Everytime I come back to the US, I always feels like going back & thinking of moving there 😭😭😭😭 I’m working on it by first being financially stable :) so i’ll just live the island/paradise life:) I’m very happy for your family that u guys are already doing that:)
a lot of my Filipino relatives plan to retire in the Philippines, but eventually comeback to the US as encountering medical problems are costly and the standard is not high compared to hospitals in the US; even St. Luke’s which is one of the best hospitals failed to pass accreditation
This days it doesn’t matter where you from? If you’re a foreigner or not.
The best is you know the culture and where you live. You need to be secure anywhere you live.. 😮😢❤
One of the countries that still have many family values and god fearing. Respect, good manners and human values are all over the country. Just look at the way his son's attitude and calmness, but with confidence without being arrogant. Philippines should be sacred and protected.
I live here in Canada as a Filipino sometimes I get curious how back people’s hair feels like. So have coiple of black friends and ask their permission one time to kind a feel their hair. 😊
What a fun interview.
Wife & I grew up in the Philippines, were both Filipinos. When we were in college in manila, we get stared at inside jeepneys. Yes it's irritating, so I stare back & they look the other way. So they feel uncomfortable too. lol.
After college we moved to the US. After 32 years in the US our dream now is to move back & retire in our 50s in the Phil. Why? The US is becoming toxic everyday. So many negative things going on.
LOL at staring at the starers back into involuntary shyness😂.
Let foreigners be aware that Filipinos are very welcoming because they want to learn from all of you, regardless of where you are from. Filipinos are like sponge-they will absorb anything you offer them innocently ( not in ignorance). Sometimes that Filipino quality is taken advantage of and would label them as ignorants. Living here at east. coast as Filipina, I see the huge difference in all areas. I will not trade my love for my culture for anything else -The beauty of the Philippines lies in the people not the beaches nor the food. This makes us the most beautiful people in the world.
AMERICA HAS ALWAYS BEEN A FRIEND AND A BIG BROTHER TO PHILIPPINES. GOD BLESS PHILIPPINES AND AMERICA.😊😊
I don't know why Filipino parents living abroad don't want their kids to speak or learn their native tongue. It's advantageous for a person to be bilingual as it can raise their IQ. So to the parents that does that they just became an obstacle for their kids opportunity to learn something that can benefit them for the rest of their lives intellectually and culturally. As a Bisaya i'm so blessed that i know 3 languages Bisaya, Tagalog and English. People living in provinces that has their own languages or dialects have an advantage compared to the people that only lives in the capital region as the schools don't teach other languages that exist here in the Philippines other than Tagalog.
Those Filipino parents are conceited or social climbers. They think their children learning to speak in Tagalog makes them low class citizens, what a shame.
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Im only referring to Filipino parents that know Tagalog or have access to the language. No offense to filipino parents who doesnt know how to speak it fluently because they didnt grow up with it.
Yung mga mayayabang at pasosyal at walang pagmamahal sa pinagmulan wika at kultura ay mas masahol pa sa malansang isda. 😊
💯 agree!!!
look at Diana Menezes she's a Brazilian living in the Philippines for 15 years, she's also active in showbiz. now she's fluent in speaking tagalog. her accent is pinoy too when she speaks tagalog because she learns to embrace the filipino culture and study the language really well unlike Pinoys who were born abroad.
That is not true. Our children were born in the US, we talked to them in Ilonggo and Bisaya/Cebuano mixed with English when they were little. We have actually documented it, we have videos. Haha they were so cute talking in our native language. They were reading and writing at three years old, preparing them for preschool. They had a hard time communicating at school even though they understood English. Watching cartoons on TV and having English-speaking friends/teachers made them eventually forgot our dialects...somewhere in third-grade. But they still understand until today now that they are young adults because we are still mixing English, Ilonggo and Bisaya/Cebuano.
It's truly a universal phenomenon that occurs worldwide. For instance, in Asia, there is a preference for lighter skin tones, while in the Western world, many individuals strive for a tanned complexion. This desire to alter one's skin color reflects a common aspect of human nature.
Filo here, and I appreciate the honesty.
appreciate foreigners appreciating our culture ..
Wow , nice hearing your story guys , thanks for loving my country. I’m about to cry watching you. And try to learn tagalog . Proud to be a filipino.
You can do it!
Yes you should learn Tagalog since your mom is a Filipina.👍😊it’s cool to learn Tagalog.👍
I think they made it clear that they are not interested in learning their mom’s mother tongue.
Omggg i had similar counter in hk. I got lost and i kept my hotel card with the address even i brought the notepad with me. No one helped me. It took me to find someone to save me for 4 hours at night. There was a random guy in the street, he happened a tour guide! He brought me to the hotel safety. He was such a nice guy.
Ps im filipino
Travel nightmares for sure! 😂🫂
hahaha. im a Filipino who likes watching these kind of videos about how they appreciate us of our kindness and being hospitable.
Thank you!!! As a Filipino Citizen I feel extremely proud. 🤗
Thank you for loving the Philippines, the people and the culture. Hope you can share more about my country. Enjoy and God bless
thank you for appreciating our culture and loving our country although i live here in U.S
Great podcast..To me if you marry a Filipino, then your also considered as a Filipino.. The fact that youve been living here for a long time and have adopted/accepted the culture makes you every bit of a Filipino.. Mabuhay kayo 🇺🇲🇵🇭🙏👍
Thank you so much!
Perspective....that is the issue of cultural difference. How we have different point of view no matter how we try to express ourselves...Our mind is set to how we were brought up or the environment that we live in prior to moving to a new location. So one thing we must learn is to observe, open our eyes, listen and be accepting of other cultures before we judge. Understand that each of us are coming from a different background and with different experiences. Great conversation guys....
This was such an enjoyable podcast i hope you gain more traction with content like these to be able to invite more guests and share their stories. I really appreciate these in depth conversations and heart felt words that doesn't feel rushed or pressured to pleasure the viewers, keep it real much love~ ♥️
Thank you so much for the kind words! ❤️❤️
Filipino's are the most amazing people in the world
Great fun interview! Filipinos are really the warmest friendly people! If you don’t want to be stared at as a foreigner, live in BGC!😉
We actually live there and still get some stares 😅😂 but we’re used to it :)
@@thewinedingdownpodcast Then wait for the Philippine tourism industry to boom, when that happened many Filipinos won't stare that much on foreigners because if they do their eyes might get tired easily with more foreigners visiting the country. 😂
I think it's not about the money that we Filipino being friendly to foreigner it's our character to be hospitable and friendly
I’ve been with my wife he’s Filipino for 38 years and in hindsight I wish I had raise my daughter in the Philippines. The culture is far more respectful. Our daughter also does not speak Tagalog or Visayan.
40 years ago when I met my wife the boys in the neighborhood with all asked me if I was dating the walking doll. Lol 😂. I was young 20 years old and one of them asked me if I was going to take her away. I later realized that I was going into their culture and taking away one of the women to another country. There are some that don’t like that and I totally understand. Filipinos are great people with a beautiful diverse culture. Some of them will skin tax you. They assume that if you’re a foreigner/different skin color that you are wealthy so they tend to charge you more if they can. I don’t mind it because I have been blessed.
There are a lot of foreigners with contents about Filipinos or the Philippines, but they are all just almost the same. This one is new to me.
Thank you beautiful people for loving Philippines 🇵🇭😍🥰😘
21:14 THIS. This is a very important thing that a lot of foreigners don't seem to get. I actually got into an internet argument with someone ages ago when they said that "you can't have deep conversations with Filipinos", implying that we're simple-minded or something, because we don't always understand what he was trying to say. He doesn't seem to understand that context is different in different cultures. Just because someone can speak English, even perfect English, doesn't mean they necessarily get ALL of the meaning of what you are saying. How much more for the average Filipino who only learned English as a second or third language at school and doesn't actually use it conversationally (we use English primarily as a WRITTEN language, rather than spoken).
We don't realize it often enough, but everything we say is loaded with contextual meaning. We reference shows or books or famous people that might be specific to one country and is not known in another. We use words that might have different connotations in a different English dialect. We use slang that the other person might not know the meaning of. We use different honorifics, different terms. And so on.
A classic example is when foreigners act amazed that they get called "Sir" and "Ma'am" all the time. More than a few I know joke that they become knighted when they're in the Philippines. Not realizing that "Sir/Ma'am" is actually an attempt at a direct translation of the title of respect "Po" and/or other respect kinship titles (e.g. "Tito", "Tita", "Kuya", "Ate", etc.). Though Americans from the South might not be as weirded out by it, because using "Sir" and "Ma'am" is also common there.
+100 agree! Everything you stated are straight facts!!
Hahaha "becoming Knighted" 🤣. Sometimes here in Australia it's "Don't call me ma'am, I'm not that old." 😂😅.
reasons why I stare at foreigners is purely attraction and curiosity. I stare because I usually find foreigners attractive, and curious (staring at you), thinking if you appreciate our country or have you been enjoying your stay. It is mostly admiration (positive stare).
PSsst HOI! at the end was gold!!! haha (thanks for including)
Hahaha Joe is hilarious 🤣
I think it's human nature making you feel at ease and would want to comeback to a certain place when you feel like you BELONG and ACCEPTED more than where you're from. It's cool seeing different people from different places. I remember when I was in grade 6 and this kid was not even a foreign. She's from Visaya and everyone from our class including me are curious about her. Mostly anything about her. Foreign attraction is basically the word itself. It's foreign to you which makes you get curious and attracted to it.
As an American Filipino who moved from California who also works in the High Tech industry, I’d rather raise my children here.
Interesting channel, this is new for me. Subbed i know you will grow big
Thank you so much! 🥰
@@thewinedingdownpodcast don't forget me when you are up there.
love this format. interesting guest, interesting topic
This was a great video. For me, I'm FilAm married to Filipina from Cebu. I've been to Philippines quite a number of times. I'm learning Bisaya now.
Thank you!! ❤️
As an igorot I’m proud of these 2 Filipina black hilagaynons
As a Filipino, I truly agree with you.
This is so nice. Filipinos love foreigners. It feels challenging we can exercise our English speaking skills and hospitality to them.
Pinay in US living for almost 50yrs .. I enjoyed watching your impressions of our culture.. when I m in Pinas my mindset is more American too… yes love Pinas but I’m more comfortable here in US ♥️
Thanks for watching and for sharing! The environment we’re in definitely shapes our mindset ☺️
Thank you so much once again
It is now easy to learn Filipino language that you don't need to go to school to learn. There are so many ways to learn and if you are a Filipino you should know your parents culture and the language she or he speaks because it is important to know your identity who you are and your roots where they come from. There are foreigners who do not have a Filipino blood but they know how to speak a Filipino language. But it is okay if you don't speak Filipino language as long as you have a hearth for the Filipinos but to complete your personality because you have a Filipino mom i think it is good to know her graditional language.
you proud nationalists say this all the time in every thread but you don't understand what it's like to live abroad especially here in america where it's more individualistic and filams gotta adapt to their environment or don't fit in at all and get bullied for being different. I lived with Ilocano families under one roof so I could understand clearly but not piece them together right when I speak for myself. And Ilocano is even more difficult to learn because there's layers to it. For example no one in my family calls their uncles or aunties Ekit or Oletig only the old Bakits. Even they mix english with Ilocano and don't care about Tagalog. It's more stupid when people say you're not Filipino if you don't know Tagalog because even my grandparents hated speaking in that dialect unless they really needed to communicate with other dialect speakers
@@combatpredictions9671 why they hate speaking other dialects? When talking to other people
the reason for the taglish creation is out of convenience there are a lot of tagalog word that is really mouth full to pronounce by using english makes it shorter and easier to convey thought by using those heavy tagalog words make you forget what was the conversation is all about
This came to my feed so it’s my first time watching. Before the U.S. closed the military bases in the Philippines, it was normal to see foreigners in places like Clark AFB, Subic Naval Base, Wallace AFB in La Union, Camp John Hay in Baguio, etc.
I’m third generation from our family that served/retired from US Armed Forces that my late grandfather started as Philippine Scout in 1928. During WWII, he was POW and did that grueling Death March of Bataan. After WWII, my late grandfather was ordered to transfer to the U.S. Army signed by General of U.S. Army Douglas MacArthur. He was sent to Korean and he survived. He was later transferred to the U.S. Army Air corps. In 1947, the US Air Corps became the U.S. Air Force. So my late grandfather retired from the U.S. Air Force on January 31, 1960, with over 30-years of military service, from Clark Air Force Base in Pampanga. I know his history because I requested his official U.S. military records from US department of Defense. In 2021, he was awarded the U.S. Congressional Gold Medal. Although he passed and now resting in peace at the National Cemetery of the Pacific in Hawaii, it was an honor to have that for him.
His three sons (my titos) served in the U.S. army/Air Force and one of them is Vietnam veteran. Six of us grandchildren served and now my son, nephew, and niece are fourth generation serving. So Lolo started family business “Serving the Us Armed Forces” haha.
Btw, Lolo was born in Iloilo and only had second year high school education (equivalent to 8th grade in the USA), and his job was band “brass” trombone, baritone, tuba, etc instruments. However, he was assigned to infantry units so he was “soldier first” before his job.
I share this story because the three hosts may not be aware of the U.S. military presence there in the Philippines up to 1991sh when Mt pinatubo erupted.
Keep the conversation going. Thank you and God Bless!
Im a Filipino and im proud you choose Philippines, enjoy your stay here and gain some nice cultures, the Beaches, the nature and the people especially in the province..
For me its better to raise ur kid here in ph and move to us for college , also theres nothing wrong if u dont know how to speak tagalog just dont forget what u are and thats it ❤
idk about y'all but am just here for Joe. Char. On another note, personally, if someone identifies as Filipino - regardless of blood, I would happily accept them. Being appreciative and/ or accommodating is actually also one of the many Filipino traits that I love
😌😌 thanks dzai 🥺❤️
Loved the points you discussed ❤
Thank you for watching! ❤️
True, PILIPINOS WILLING, HAPPY TO EXTENT HELP ESPECIALLY WITHIN THE FAMILY MEMBER.
Magandang video topic content yan mga friends! ❤
Salamat po!
That "psssst hoi" completes my day 😅
Nice conversation about my country.❤❤❤❤
Fantastic vlog! Love U guys and Joe too!! Great discussion! 👍🥰
Yaasss, Hong Kong in the 90's was traumatizing for tourists. They were always angry. Window shopping was almost a crime. Hahaha
this was a great video interview, i enjoyed it alot!!! liked and subscribed...btw, im 100% filipino from hawaii and dont speak tagalog but do understand some...i never thought of myself as not being a filipino just bcuz i dont speak it.
Thank you so much! You are Filipino and no one should make you feel less like one!
I have been to the US several times and I thought it’s awesome and really cool when Filipino American kids know how to speak Tagalog. I admire their parents for teaching them about their roots.