Signs You're Not Meant To Be In A Relationship
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- čas přidán 20. 06. 2024
- If you've been questioning your dating life or feeling unsure about love, this video is for you. We will be providing valuable insights and relationship advice to understand if a relationship is not right for you at this moment. Whether you're exploring dating advice or seeking clarity on love, this video provides essential tips to help you navigate your romantic journey. Click the play button now to gain a deeper understanding of why a relationship might not be the best path for you right now.
#relationship #dating #love
Writer: Dylan Swanepoel
Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon
Animator: Krisha Que
CZcams Manager: Cindy Cheong
I rushed over here in like 2 seconds
That is very relatable😭
Why? There is someone for everyone
@@shangrilaladedaNah not rlly, I have an aunt who doesn’t have anyone other than family and friends, and she’s doing pretty well!
@@Elliotterise yes there is you just have to be accepting
On second thought I'd rather stay single cuz i got homies🗿
I'm 28 and still single to this day. I'll date someone when I'm officially ready. Sometimes, it's better to be alone than be with the wrong person.
Lol yeah, I'm almost 22 and still have never been in a relationship once. I'm waiting for the right person to come along before I get with someone. Until then I'll keep dreaming and falling for guys on the tv screens lol
I've never been in a relationship too 😂😅 and I'm 26 🤣
@@crookedteethyan5594 🤣 I understand. But hey, there's no shame in it.
That's pretty cool! Great decision! I also decide to not going in romantic relationship until i ready. I did have a romantic relationship before, but i realized that i wasn't ready yet. So...i kinda regret it lmao.
Ive been in 1 long term relationship but at the cost of my senior year in highschool. Won't get that time back man
It’s kinda tiring seeing everyone you know in a happy relationship for years now. Happy for them yes, but it gets pretty lonely sometimes.
"You should love yourself, NOW"⚡⚡⚡
Okay, GUD commenter
YASSSSS
I don’t think I will
:p
Maybe in some other universe I could but not here
High tier god, is that you?
I don't need a video to tell me that I'm not meant to be in a relationship. Figured that out a long time ago
I dont remember i wrote this comment
Same here we on the same boat 🛥️
Is this just a defeated remark or have you asked yourself one of these questions??
Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.🌞🌝☀️
0:31 How do you act in your other relationships?
1:23 How do you feel about yourself?
2:07 Do you know what you want?
2:52 Do you change to attract people?
3:37 Do you feel pressured?
Also, just for anyone who needs to hear it, please take your time. The world will not spin without you, it’s not gonna leave you behind. You deserve every kind of love, and self love is arguably the most important love of all. You’re allowed to take time to yourself, you’re allowed to feel uncertain, you are completely valid to value yourself. Don’t feel bad, you’re gonna do so well in life once you learn how much you matter and how much you’re truly loved.
HOW?
3 DAYA AGO???
How did you post this comment 3 days ago while it's been 2 minutes since this video was uploaded. like how?
CZcams time travel....
Thank you for those words. I pray you're right.
Apparently, I'm doomed to be single forever. There's freedom in that though
Black pill
Its called cruising singlelife on autopilot. Its excruciatingly lonely but peaceful.
same here
According to this video, im perfectly ready for a relation.
She chose someone else over me 😔
I feel that.
Keep moving forward mate. Don’t look back
@@neofulcrum5013 that is my problem. She is stuck in my head 24/7. I cant forget about the good memories i had with her during our first stages. I wanted to ask her out but just before that she told me she is seeing someone else
She chose someone better.
You never had the opportunity.
It was over from the beginning.
@@socramzetroc1535 you sound like someone who spends a lot of time alone
It's very uplifting to know that you will die unloved, alone...
When i was "talking" to someone for the first time, I realized how insecure i was. On top of that, I was dismissing all the red flags from this guy because I got attached so quickly, and I just wanted to be with him. I realized I had an attachment issue and a communication issue. So I am glad he ghosted me because I needed to work on myself so that I could attract people that also worked on themselves
I have a friend I’ve known for over 5 years. Ive had feelings for her that entire time. She never felt the same way, however. For the longest time, it was very difficult for me to come to terms with that. Hell, it still is. But one thing that helps, is that I know our relationship as very close friends, would absolutely be ruined if we were to take it further.
I love her dearly. She means so much to me. And because of that, and pretty much every reason listed here, going into a relationship with her would be a terrible idea.
The heart wants what the heart wants, still. But that’s going away more and more as I come to terms with this reality.
There’s so much more to life than being with someone. We are our own people. We are infinitely complex creatures, to the point of sometimes even being hypocritical in nature. We are not defined by one thing, person, or event. And when we choose to be that way, it stifles our growth in all aspects. It makes us into a fraction of ourselves. And no one person can make us any more whole than how we choose to be, consciously or unconsciously.
No one is going to complete you. No one is going to save you. A relationship just complicates things. And yes, there are so many beautiful things on the other side of all that complicated stuff, but unless you have someone with whom you can navigate that with, you’re never going to get there. And both of you are just going to become super messed up because of it all.
Take time. Find yourself. And once you do, strive to become the greatest version of yourself. It doesn’t have to be all at once. Just a little bit every day. The only “too little” is nothing at all.
Everything else will fall into place after that.
I promise.
I’ve been in the same situation as you but after some time i realised it was for the best as her not liking me made me realise of my flaws and now I am working on them. Now I feel the same as you about this thing. Hoping for a great future for all of us ❤
My story exactly.
Thank you for this. I find myself in a similar position and will make the best of it.
After several failed attempts in finding love, I have determined that maybe I am better off alone. This is not meant to sound like self-deprecation, but more of a harsh reality check. There is no better half out there for me.
same here
I know what you mean. They say there is another half orange for everybody, but some of us are lemons, not oranges.
same here
If I'm not madly in love with someone I'm terribly selfish.
But as long as you still have friends and have a good time with them, don't give up for life
Being "madly in love" only lasts for a short while
“You shouldn’t enter a relationship if you don’t want to.”
😂You shouldn't enter anywhere if you don't want to. Unless you have to. Wow this is such a beautiful nugget of wisdom
It seems obvious, but for us people pleasers, it’s damn near impossible not to end up just trying to make others happy while ignoring red flags and seeing our own desires as secondary.
Some are half hearted but would still say yes
After two failed marriages i had to come to terms with the fact that i have never been and will never be suited to a relationship. Its hard to give up on the ideal of sharing your life but some of us will never be able to. And...oh well.
My mom is like that too and it hurts to see, I’m not sure yet if I will ever find someone that I can share my life with
There are so many different people in this world. If the people you were in a relationship with couldn’t deal with your flaws there’s a chance that there is someone who doesn’t mind out there. And besides there is always room to change for your partner
Same here, i'm just undateable
Sometimes pets are better. 😉
@@abbykoop5363 i get along with cats much better than I have with anyone else. Lol.
For me, I'd say that I'm not ready for a relationship, but I still really want one, and my biggest reason for wanting one is because I deeply want to feel loved and cared for by someone other than family. I have a great relationship with my mother and love her a lot, and I know she loves me, however, I've gotten to the point where her love just isn't enough anymore, I need someone my own age who I love and care for to do the same for me now, and she understands this too. Another major reason is because of the huge lack of people in my life.
To get slightly more personal, the amount of people in my life is extremely low. I'm an only child, none of my grandparents are alive, and while I have some aunts, uncles and cousins, none of them are blood-related, and I don't really have a relationship with them at all and rarely see them. While my father is alive, our relationship is a little strained and I rarely see him either, and I also have no friends. So basically, the only person I have in my life is my mother, and again, while I love her, I just need more. I have a void in my life that, I feel, DESPARATELY needs to be filled.
I always hear that getting into a relationship simply to fill in a void is generally a bad idea, but for me, because of how my life is, I just can't see it as a bad thing. After all, I hear constantly that humans are social creatures, and of course, most of us have a biological drive to find a mate. So I'm sorry, I just can't see "filling in a void" as a bad thing in my case. Plus, it's not wrong to want to be loved and have a fulfilling relationship, so my want and even need for one, I feel is completely justified. Now some might say that I should focus on making friends first, and I can understand that too. But to me, I view a partner as not only a romantic interest, but as your best friend, so in my mind, focusing on a partner is also focusing on friends to a degree. Now, of course having friends would be nice too, but even just having one person in my life (either a romantic partner or great friend, but preferably the former) would help me a ton. Of course, I can't know for sure until I have one, but that's how I feel currently.
this is so sad i hope you find the love of your life!
@@TheOfficialMiLoxplays Thanks! While I don't have a ton of faith in myself in that regard, I appreciate the support! 😊
I'm going through the same thing too.. hope things get better for you ❤
@@error-lp5pp Thanks to you too! I definitely didn't expect much support from my comment, but I'm really happy! 🥰
I'm taking steps to better my life right now, it's just a very slow burn. I do hope to one day take steps to find friends / love, but we'll see.
This echoes a very similar feeling I have too. Wonderful loving family and a mom that’s incredible. But I find I’ve only ever had one real close friend at one time all my life. It’s never really been a group or a collection, my social circles are eras of one person. But I’m coming into late teenage years and finding peer relationships are very powerful, although scarce. When I was in a relationship, it was like that. We were the best of friends and could talk about anything to each other. We’d always check in at least once a day and call all of the time. That was enough socialization for me to be satisfied.
But you don’t need to be someone’s partner to have that-a very close best friend is pretty much the same thing. It feels the best to have that deep intimacy, but as best friends you are already going to be similarly emotionally attached. I’m now looking just for people I can connect with on that level, romantic or not interests, just because there is a void that peers can only fill.
I really hope you can find someone and that your relationship with your mom stays strong! Balancing your family and your other significant people in your life can be challenging! Having that strong relationship already is a wonderful thing. Best of luck!
I agree with loving yourself being important. But some people are arrogant in the way they do it. Constantly looking for validation and attention on social media. And that can damage you're self-esteem.
Yap
Women will choose the best looking men in their social circle to show off on social media and with her girlies :b
We, mid looking men, our hand is our true love.
It all depends on how you define loving yourself.
It's sad that there are multiple places in this video that stick out but I'm glad I watched this because honestly it's a wake up call.
The only thing I can see I struggle with (and my partner as well) is the fact that I couldn't imagine a future for myself before meeting my bf, I felt horrible about myself, and just when I met him I felt like I had some worth, not just as a partner but as a whole person. I dont think that'll go away if we break up, but I've learned it with him. I hope we both get treated someday and can learn to love ourselves more, but I don't think I need to leave them to feel worthy for myself now.
THANK YOU FOR THIS!! i was actually wondering this earlier
I've been asking myself recently if I'm ready for a long-term relationship (or if I actually even want one). So many people I've known for awhile have gotten married or had kids over the last few years so I've been getting that FOMO. But my family keeps telling me it's just not my time yet; I just gotta keep working on maturing as a person and eventually I'll meet that special someone
I'm a 32-year-old woman who is not married with no kids. My friends are married with kids. These things will happen when they're meant to
good luck in your journey
After over 4 years I'm finally ready for a relationship. I just need to talk to more people instead of just my two best friends 😅
I just need to know how to not want romantic relationships anymore. I can’t express how over this I am
Never give up on trying to find love.
Sorry, too late for that
As a Black piller myself I can say love is not intended for agly men.
Only for the attractive ones.
I did ten years ago
@@socramzetroc1535 Exactly and these women, lgbtqi, left-wingers, right-wingers, pagan, satanists, hindus and abrahamics who say otherwise are all deluded.
@@socramzetroc1535 That’s cap man, I’m decent looking(I get called cute) however I can’t find anyone and I’ve have seen guys aglier than me with good looking gorls. I found out location and your friend group is what determines your relationships. If you are in college or at a company there’s hope but if you are constantly by yourself it’s not gonna help.
Communication is definitely the key, though some of us genuinely can't speak at times, and people tend to just assume thing are wrong. Which also hurts. Like at work, the constant rudeness i get just because I'm quiet, and not a people person. But its just assumed I'm being rude for being anti social when i don't feel the need to speak or even be around people i dont care about.
And just an extra rant im honestly just sad to walk away from the people who literally is my dream person, and we have so many many things in common. But for some reason she got it stuck in her head i was changing to be a certin way for her, when in reality that is my personality. But that doesn't really matter, but she said no, so had to walk away.
I have all the symptoms. Learning about attachement theory, people pleasing, rejection syndrome, and codependency.
It's gonna take me a while. If I come across people interested in me, I'll have to be strong and tell them my weaknesses in order to prevent them to get too attached while I work on myself
I’m in the same boat! I watched this video yesterday and was sooo hurt, sad, angry with myself I have all these symptoms and didn’t realize it until my current relationship. We have been together 5yrs. First 2-3 was good. Needless to say, I’ve found out that I am a manipulator (had no idea) that, that’s what I was doing.
I believe we just need to find someone who will help us grow. If it is true that romantic relationship is not meant for someone, i think it should not be a reason to stop one's personal growth, example: teachers they don't need to be alone when their purpose is to teach students. What matters in life is you know your purpose and you can manage stress do you won't end up being depressed like the lonely people who lost their hope to continue living, because they think they don't have a purpose. This is just my insight based on my observations/ecperiences.
A relationship use to be one of the most important things to when I was younger, now I try to avoid people as much as possible
Not ready, definitely need to give it more time.
Dealing with your past experiences before making a decision about your future is a step often missed.
Time is flying by and I have no friends. I refuse to embrace myself. I hate myself.
if you hate yourself, change yourself. do very deep introspection to find out what it is you hate about yourself and change it.
you don't need to love yourself now, but you can turn yourself into someone you would see now and admire.
find someone real or fictional you admire, and strive to take those characteristics to improve yourself.
I believe have the "Do you feel pressured?" sign.
I can't express how much this video helped me! Thank you guys for all you do!!! ❤❤❤
I don’t know who I am. I don’t know what I want to be. I just know I want to fix myself for someone else. Because fixing me for me is a pipe dream.
took me 6 months to realize and stop blaming myself for the very first thing in the list. now that this is out, I hope it helps someone else, and it's also made me feel validated for the first time in a while regarding my last relationship
I like the way you present information.
Its good to know my realisation towards relationships, albeit late, has scientific validity to it.
Yes. Your statement backed My decision
Since I was 12 what I've wanted more than anything is a girlfriend. I'm 58 and have never really had one. And aren't going to.
No self-esteem. Zero. Full of self-loathing. Took me 25+ years to fully realize that, now I just drift along rudderless.
No goals, no hope, nothing. Just waiting to get old and die. And I don't really care.
Being alone isn't all that bad. It can be a journey to find yourself and evolve to the best version of yourself as well.
And another important thing: In my opinion, you grow more alone, since you have to face your own challenges/fears in life and overcome them yourself. Compared to when in you're in a relationship, where you also improve yourself but maybe more for the other person next to you? Dunno, then again, that's subjective. After all, getting support from a partner is very nice thing to have too.
Good luck out there guys, be yourselves and accept the hard rejections. They will make you grow into an even better person.
take your Copium buddy
@@socramzetroc1535 nah I'm fine. I'll let you have it instead. ;)
I just stay alone because I don't want to burden anyone with my presence. Plus I kind of deserve it so
This video is very helpful, thank you
Thank you for this. This video made me realise that I might not be ready quite yet for a relationship. Hopefully I will be some time in the future but for now I need to focus on fixing/upgrading my communication
Same
Same!
I have always jumped from relationship to relationship because I needed someone to show me who I need to be for them. But as I am being single for the first time in a very long time this very much opened my eyes to a lot of things thank you❤
The conflict that exists in love is a spiritual warfare between the angel's guidance and the devil's temptations.
Dam straight !! So real!! The attacks to keeep us apart from our soulmate are tactical af but I’m the only one who sees it that way
@@mikeypeinado383your not the only one , I'm with you on this one
27 and never been in a relationship. My thoughts over the years of being in a relationship alone have felt good. Thought of sharing my life with someone. Going on adventures, laughing with, and sharing intimacy, and being weird with each other. I think about that. But the thing is is I still am working on myself and the war that's going on in my head. Not to mention I'm introverted and get social anxiety. My social anxiety though has been getting better :D. I did have a girl tell me when I did go out that I'm the love of her life. I think about her alot. But I'm just working myself for right still. But a part of me just wants to scoop her up. But I am just not ready for a relationship.
Do it or some1 else does it... 😂😢
I'm beginning to accept that thanks for the vids
This is a sign... Thank you...
thats what i needed. more affirmation so i can feel good being single.
It has taken over 15 years, I finally had to crumple up my heart and desires for a relationship, and them both into the nearest dumpster. Then to walk away, never looking back. The pain that fills the void never really goes away, but can be grown numb to.
My husband recently passed away on April 22nd & I'm 64 years of age & at this point in my life & still grieving, "Would it be a good idea to meet someone else & even want to start a new "relationship " with a new person?"
BIG YESS. HAVE A GO ASAP OLD PEOPLE ARE SO COOL...YOU NEED COMPANY AT YOUR AGE GRIEVING IS NORMAL AND IT WILL GO AWAY BY ITSELF.
am just really excited to see you get back to love and be loved again...
Be open though about it to whoever you date and don't let them take advantage of you🔥🔥 all the best ❤️
@@hugenehope Thank you for your reply. Tbh, other than being with my husband for close to 40 years & being comfortable with him, deep inside, I'm actually an Introvert & have a very difficult time making new friends. He was my everything in one package. Now that he's been gone for 2 months now as of today, I no longer have an so-called real friends. I have major Trust issues with other people. Even one's I know.
@@lindaalvarez8855 you could try working on your trust...find why it is an issue...you can make new friends it's not late. As an introvert try small companies it get's better there.
Am sorry for your hard loss and that your going through grief. Take heart take care of yourself and with time you will HEAL.❤️
I know you don't wanna hear this, but I will be honest... You are 64 no one even cares about you beside your family and friends... It's over for you... There's no way you will find love again. You had a good life with your husband... That's more than some of us can accomplish anyways...
You will never find love again with you're age... Be happy that you had a husband... Most of us cant even accomplish to get a spouse anyways... 😂
This is exactly what I wanted to hear.. that l'm not ready..
Great timing you guys... Great timing 💀
Thank you for bringing closure to me. Alone I will remain... For now. Hopefully.
Time to watch the most relatable video ever
Literally yesterday me and this girl both liked each other, but somebody else got her before I did and she told me that we were not meant to be. I had watched a psytogo video the day before and now THIS my goodness
The irony that I got an ad for Bumble on the video
Okay okay okay. Exciting. Lets see if Im meant to. LMAOO
I know I’m not in a position to re-enter a new relationship I think all of my childhood trauma plus my PTSD from my last long term relationship has destroyed my brain I’m now way too easily triggered by anyone and everyone. And I wake up hating my life everyday 😢
Yeah, same here. Childhood trauma, PTSD, too many other brain problems, and hating life. I'm not triggered by everyone, but I'm often afraid to leave the house because I might get myself killed overreacting to a deliberate provocation by someone who's out for blood. I have comment notifications turned off because my opinions get me targeted for abuse. It's lonely as hell, though.
Anyway, I hope things get better for you.
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This is one of the few videos where therapy is suggested is often brought up. It made me realize that my budget will never allow me to be truly happy. At least not for quite a few years.
I would’ve perhaps titled this “Signs you’re not ready for a relationship yet” because that leaves open the you may be ready someday. Not being “meant to be” in a relationship implies it probably will never be a good thing for you.
well, to some people, who happen to check some of these boxes, it will never be a good thing for them. SOme people are just wired in a way that makes them like that.
Well, this video just settled it for me.... I don't deserve a relationship yet
love.
I will leave this comment at this time as a beautiful memory to remind me of this wonderful video in case anyone else comments - Thank you for this wonderful video.
uhhh or you could just, yk, save the video, but this works too
@@ChaoticCupOfCoffee yk
Makes perfect sense. I'm 63, and never married.
Thank you
This is so me.
Everyone who ever loved me regretted it sooner rather than later. That's how I know I shouldn't keep trying.
Timely
I shouldn't be in a relationship but I shouldn't be alone
very great notification to see after attending a wedding 😀👍🏻
Thanks this would’ve been helpful 2 YEARS AGO
Let me say this before I watch that I'm not ready for what I'm about to hear but let's do it anyways.
I still need some working on ❤
I realized this the hard way when I used to be in a relationship with my former best friend because I accepted her confession just because I felt bad turning her down even tho I had no romantic feelings with her.Happy to be single now
Just confessed my feelings for a girl. She sadly she said she wasn’t sure whether or not she felt the same way. In hindsight I shouldn’t have done what I did as the timing just wasn’t right and I should have just asked her out to get to know each other better.(this was the first time we met up outside of school)For everyone, don’t rush it but do ask her out when you think the time is right as it will relieve knowing at least you tried.
I clicked on this video thinking I would have every sign. Surprisingly I have none of these that I am aware of.
I only have a 1 of these, and that's the insecure one.
It's over
Reassurance I needed TGIF
When you're meant to be, you are meant to be. Nothing can stop that from happening. If not, then move on to the next. There is no use forcing something that's not bound to happen anyway..
You must love yourself 1st. That doesn't mean being selfish, self centered or prideful.
The worst about it is craving. I envy aromantics for not haveing such desires in life, but for me, I'm dying to rush my life to the point where I can finally share it with someone. My only anchor is that I have a serious plan and I decided not to engage in any other serious thing like a relationship, but I'm yearning for it as hell. I taught myself to suppress the craving, but I still catch myself thinking about it. "how would it look like? when would it start? how could it end?" Even if you don't need it, you want it for the sake of wanting it and no matter what, if you get a chance to get in a destructive relationship, you'll take it. Not because you think it might work out, but because you want it to work out, even it has little to no chance to do so.
0:18 Many times I've thought, if I really want to be in a relationship like everyone else, I really should not care about the mental health, emotional well-being, and fulfillment of my partner. Toxic behavior is in now like it's got a sponsorship.
Whelp, im fading away alone. Clearly it was meant to be so.
This hits different 😢😢 yk I've hurt someone I love & they keep coming back I keep expressing my love but don't know how still I love that person cause I am poor at communication so thanks #psych2go
Thank you psych2go for the advice
I gave all of me to someone who else, who didn't live me in return. I lost myself in the process. I don't know if I'll ever be able to be in a relationship with anyone because of the damage done by the narcissistic partner I was with.
💙💙👍 We're learning by doing. We're discover together our moments. We don't have a good or bad scenario, every time we're writing together a next chapter of our story. 😜
The timing of this is crazyyyyyyyy I just got ghosted by a dude who I thought was gonna be my boyfriend 😭
Please bring back Amanda’s voice 😊
Honesty is important between the 2 when
People hold back not reveal much personally they may not know the destruction there causing for anything to ever flourish and being to choosy can be a bad habit as well! There are things that are personal that need to be discussed and if not don't expect the other to be happy to give you personal questions! I'm not a big talker but this may also end the relationship quickly! Some of us people need this validation I do because it helps re assure me!
Somehow very beautiful but hard to accept with a certain mindset I guess.
But seems to be the right path 😊
I've been single for a while now and as much as I would like to believe in finding true love it's easier said than done the way people are now a days it's definitely hard to find good people now a days
I clicked In 1 Seconds and The art style is to the Thumbnail...
Uh, interesting timing...
Haha relatable
Watching this gave me a good self reflection, I have too many mental problems that def involve 4 of these.. hurts to realize but in the end it's not hopeless.
I remember I used to try to rush into a relationship, ultimately failed though
Want a relationship… but still kinda figuring out who I am, what my goals are, and just really trying to live in the moment.
I don’t want to get into a relationship just to impose on others because I wasn’t ready.
I kind of had already made up my mind about this so I’m not sure why I watched the video now…
maybe I’ll be back in a few years time to reflect on these things.
So how would a person fix their trauma? You can do so much in your own, but won’t know the full extent until something happens and trigger it.
The content is awesome 👍😎❤ three years without any love interests or prospects. I won't make love letters I guess just paper airplanes and see which has the better range or gets the best altitude etc.😂❤
Yeah I never have dated but I can relate to this topic because I don't know how to communicate with another person and I'm still working on improving my life and achieving my goals and honestly I may be a patient person but I'm really used to being alone and being independent. Honestly I want to be single until I die and I don't want to give a romantic relationship a chance ever in my life. I'm good with being single