As requested I have finally uploaded Higher Quality Downloadable Audio content on Bandcamp at: mouthoftheape.bandcamp.com/ I will be adding new content on there regularly as well as some of the previous talks where you can either stream or Download them - keep checking that page for new content that i may not post on CZcams :) Here's a link to the page: mouthoftheape.bandcamp.com/ Hope that helps - email info@shelsmusic.com for more info on private coaching :) and I hope y'all enjoy the new content. Mucho thanks for tuning in - Adios for now and stay tuned for more :) - APE
+MOUTH OF THE APE I have spent months investigating making your ex want you back and found a great resource at Magic Message Method (look it up on google)
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Break ups are truly horrible, second only to the death of someone you love. Very little makes you feel better. You think about them all the time and you cant imagine your life without them. My heart is broken so I feel for everyone that's going through the same thing.
Well said. Unfortunately, when I said that to my ex during the breakup and I told her that I feel I want to die, she said you exaggerate and you are manipulating me. I wish you knew what does breakup means and I was really suffering not manipulating her. She made me to feel I am crazy and act as unstable person, but I realized later that my feelings were just normal, my brain was telling me I am dying so I just acted upon this feeling.
@@chevy2583 I understand and felt the same feeling. She didn't have the empathy to even understand you were not saying you were going to kill yourself, but expressing the feeling you felt.
the strongest negotiating position is to walk away and never look back the greatest gift you can give someone is your time if someone dumps you you give them the gift of missing you the silence will be deafening.
The only reason it didn't work out between you and your ex the second time is because you most likely went back to being in the same relationship you were before. By that I mean being the same person. Of course its not going to work that way. You learned that the first time. You have to basically become a different version of you that makes the relationship sustainable. Most people want their ex back and then don't know what to do when they finally have them again. Don't let the visualization stop once you got them back. Keep creating the perfect relationship in your mind and look for those positive qualities in your partner. It IS possible to have a successful relationship with just about anyone if you know how to focus right!
Everything you said resonated. I am right now in the beginning of the manifestation of attracting my ex back he called a few days ago and we've only talked a couple times since. It's true I'm one of the people now that it's here what am I gonna do to make it work this time instead at the moment I'm second guessing everything but you're right just keep deliberate creating in my mind everything will turn out how we will it to.
it takes 2 though buddy... You can be the better version of you, but if your ex doesn't reciprocate the same, then it IS bound to fail. Remember it's 50/50
I feel for people that are going through the pain of losing an ex and still reaching out to them and they have a cold heart waiting on you. Don't humiliate yourself like that. Have self respect and pride in yourself and invest in you, if they had valued you to begin with, they'd still be with you and for those that actually have the "curse" of getting an ex back, you will see why it didn't work the first time.
But what about when your ex leaves you because her parents are getting her an arranged marriage and so she had no choice but to break up with me. But still wants to be friends? She has friend zoned me hardcore and I can't see her as a friend. fml
every situation is relative. if you can find the source why it didn't work out, and try to learn from it, then I believe there is a chance. what if you two broke up while still in love, but because of external factors and an underlying problem that has never been identified until now, then I think you 2 should give ot another go. you'll never know if you don't try. dont go blindly in it again though and expect it to work. getting back together is going to be a though hard ride for both and it should become a whole different relationship.
Dude idk if your reading these comments or not , but this is pure fucking gold and just helped me so god Damn much a million thank you's man , you just changed my life
+joe rezz hey brother - so glad to hear it has helped - check out some of my other videos as well - i hope they will help as well - sending you all the best bro! stay focused on your path, your goals, your journey - and EVERYTHING will come... happy holidays and new years! ;) - APE
+joe rezz hi guys, the best info that i've ever had was with the Partner Reboot Recipe (i found it on google) - definately the most helpful idea that I've followed.
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You basically can't grantee to get your ex back! The only way to have a chance is to let them go. You should take some time for your self and for them. And yes no contact does make sense, because the other person just at one point won't be annoyed anymore. But in that time you have to change yourself! For some people that might be changing completely, for other people that might be changing back to the person you were, befor you started the relationship. And this can still not garantee you anything. You have to LET GO! Become independent!
LET ME REPHRASE THAT, IT'S 99% OF PEOPLE THAT DON'T SUCCEED ARE THOSE WHO DON'T DO THE SELF-IMPROVEMENT THEY NEED WHILE AWAY. YOU CAN IMPROVE AND INSPIRE YOUR EX, ITS TEAMWORK, NOT COMPETITION. THIS GUY JUST HAS AN OPINION OF HIS EXPERIENCE, HE CAN"T SPEAK FOR YOU. TAKE NOTE
Christian Benett I can tell you my experience and why I think the guy in this video is correct. Your ideas about team work and inspring the ex are nice but have led me to a path of agony and here’s why I know in practice it’s not a good thing to have in your mind. I’ve been dumped after 11 years. No fighting or anything. She just grew into her 30s and has a severe case of gigs. I had been dining on hope, I’ve kept very low contact. Our last chat was a mistake, she was about to go out on the town with new friends in her new life. In a new part of the world. She’s not looking back. That call destroyed me. Where ape is right, is you have to completely let go. Let go of hope. It’s destroying me doing anything else. You cannot have in mind working as a team in future with your ex. To do that means you have hidden hope, a hidden sense of identity that you might be a team again. I can tell you that’s destroying me. You have to truly, utterly let go. I realise that now. Yes self improve and all that. But it’s for you. If your ex comes into your orbit it’ll be by chance. You absolutely cannot think about teamwork and inspiring your ex. Even a side thought. You have to let go. I’m trying so hard. I’ve never been so obliterated by grief in my life. 11 years. Ape is right. The alternative is to live in a hell where there is no light.
Hey Ape, how are you? Thank you for all your advice, it has been spot on! I'm coming up to 2 months NC and as you say in another of your vids there's something in the universe that can't be explained, but when you focus on yourself and good things are happening, your ex can sense it. I've got through nearly 2mths and have been strict with NC and worked on myself and haven't heard anything from my ex which Ive become ok with. Last week I published a magazine and it's going really well. Today people were posting it up on FB and out of nowhere I get a message from the ex congratulating me. I didn't reply for about 8hrs and then replied with less words. "thank you" and that was it. I got a message back straight away saying "You're very welcome" so as she hasn't given a question for me to answer I feel no need to reply and I actually feel like I've got my power back. I know it doesn't mean she wants to get back with me but I actually don't mind and all of your help has made me question what is best for me and that is my own happiness. Thank you for your advice Ape, out of all the relationship video's I've watched yours has been on point!
I remember having mad breakdowns over my ex & after I started hangin out with friends more & my mind kinda slipped away from her she suddenly came back, it was really weird
dude this helped me so much today. thank you i needed this so much. "you're just a drug addict right now, you want your fix" I love it! so fucking true. and god am I fiending today :(
Good advice brother. Me and my girl just broke up. She is also ten years older than I am (39). We were together for 28 months before the break up. It has been one month now. The first year of our relationship, was rough, so we broke up for 3 weeks. Some of the stuff I was doing in the relationship the first year needed change. Anyways, after we got back together, I changed those things and it was pure bliss for the next year. Again, things starting going down hill. She had the hardest time letting go of the past which brought us many problems. I treated her like a queen, she admitted it but she could not let of of the past. We finally ended, but I was the one begging for her back. This last week, I said forget it, I'm not contacting her anymore. She is currently seeing a therapist to see why she is the way she is...why she can't let go of the past. Do I want her back, yes. Will I want her back by the time she contacts me..who knows. I just need to get through this rough patch!
This is the best break up video I've seen. Very helpful. It's just hard for me to keep no contact when my ex boyfriend who dumped me still contacts me. We talked for about an hour a couple weeks ago and he said he's confused, I was starting to move on but the last conversation I had with him has me confused too. But I'm keeping NC now because now I feel worse, I was making process. 😔
+Amina A sorry for the late reply - hope you have been keeping up with the NC - thanks for your positive words on the video.. we must focus on our goals and our journey... energize ourselves and make ourselves happy and attractive... so that our cup will overflow to others... sending you all the best!
Answer please one question: how much time had passed before your ex reached you? My ex broke up with me two months ago. I've watched your videos million times and they cheer me up a lot. I've been with my ex for two years and now I feel so depressed and lonely.
Мария Капинос omg I'm in the same boat as you!!! I never begged him when he dumped me in person and I am in NC for 2 months now.. did your ex ever contacted you???
relationships: Lust or Love, we are all desperate to be in a relationship.. I agree with some of your points but at the end, its best to move on and take the pain, get stronger and try to not depend on another person..
I've been watching your videos for ages and they soothed me after a recent breakup (me being the dumpee). I've come to a point where my addiction has made me so depressed. I''ve just decided to block her from facebook and hide my status on whatsapp. I had to do this for my sanity!!! Thanks Ape. You're so right!
Thank you for this video. Out of all the "no contact" videos I have watched, your's gave me another view about the no contact rules. Thanks, gonna try real hard to take this advice.
I'm not someone who really believed in this 'energy' however, when my ex was secretly on a date with a new guy I immediately knew something was wrong but I didn't know what. 2 weeks later I felt horrible again , later I found out she had sex on that day. Months later when I had a date with a cute girl, I felt great and my ex messaged me that day.
+Kevin Roos it's really something incredible isn't it - we are all connected in ways that science hasn't proven yet... which is why it is so important to master what you think and believe - because i truly believe we can do so much with just our beliefs and thoughts... i hope all is well with you Kevin! and please check out more of my videos - i appreciate your feedback! thanks :)
+MOUTH OF THE APE Yeah you got some great videos up here :) Anyways, this all happened almost 4 months ago. My ex congratulated me on my birthday, her birthday is coming up should I congratulate her back or just keep no contact ?
Kevin Roos she will have plenty of birthday in the future you can congratulate her on if and when you decide to become friends - but - for now, you need to heal properly.. and a big part of that means focusing on yourself - don't worry about buring bridges or anything like that... don't worry about what she'll think or do if you don't send a message... NO... focus on you - if she truly loves you, she'll understand when you have finally healed up enough to think more clearly and maybe consider being friends - birthdays don't matter... really, they don't... they're just an excuse we find to contact.. be strong bro - and continue the great work you are doing... remember this is about re-establishing focus on yourself again.. and your journey - and if you give yourself enough time with the major distraction of her... then you will start re-energizing... and seeing things much more clearly... and you'll be SO glad that you remained patient and disciplined - Keep your power... keep it.. don't give it away... i've been working with someone recently who just contacted his ex a few days ago on her birthday after i advised against it... and last i heard she didn't reply to his most recent message.. and it been difficult for him.. my advice is... continue on your path.. be strong and keep your power... if you guys are meant to be... it WILL happen... but for now.. you need to let go of the hope and trust in no contact as the best way to empower you and get you back on track. hope that makes sense! and if you are ever interested in coaching (sounds to me like you don't need it) but in case you do... let me know - i'm actually extremely cheap ($70 per week... for unlimited emailing and messages) just in case you need advice again in the future - but like i said - sounds like you have enough wisdom and self discipline to continue what you have been doing. wishing you all the best bro!
+MOUTH OF THE APE Thanks I'll keep that in mind. I did not really wanted to congratulate her but because she congratulated me I thought i should but I will keep no contact now:) I don't need any coaching sessions at the moment, maybe if she ever decides to contact me again. Right now I can't do anything. My relationship with my ex (6 years) was going great. Ofcourse sometimes we had some disagreements but nothing major. We did everything a couple should do and I don't think we were growing apart, still had sex, spend every day together, we even talked about marriage 1 week before she dumped me. Then one day she tells me she's going out with friends, turns out she was going on a 'date' with a colleague. 3 days later she dumped me. My ex immediately went on 'Tinder' etc. even though she already had this dude lined up but she wasn't even sure about him. Two weeks later they are officially together and already booked a holiday together (which they went on 2 months after she dumped me). So, I'm not sure if this classifies as a rebound. My really wanted to be my friend untill 2 months after the breakup. She wanted to hangout with me, which we did but eventually I had to break it off and continue my life without her. Ever since that she only messaged me a few times like "how are you?" etc. It's really hard because I simply did not see it coming, even after almost 4 months I still can't find any real red flags and that she wasn't happy. Time will tell, we have to improve our lives with our without them.
april G & Matthew..a bit delayed here hope you guys are both doing better..I was feeling really terrible recently but feel so much better as if this past week..it's been 3 months since my ex broke up w me thru email..I won't get into the long drawn out details or anything but just wanted to say hope you guys are doing better & moving forward & getting stronger..much love to you ❤️
Take control of your destiny. You are still hoping he come back because when he does YOU will take him back. You have no idea how much power u have when u say to urself. If he comes back i will not take him back!
I believe the no contact rule is a strong rule to live by.... but there’s has to be a point where all the hard work that you’ve put into yourself must be shown to your ex. Don’t be afraid to contact them when you’re ready... if they neglect you then you’ll know to move on but if they don’t... then there’s your second chance! Your ex might be waiting for you to contact them...
@@pdx_falcon Never contact someone who dumped you that means you are giving your power to them again. If they come back never let them in your life easily punish them.
i give up on my ex. 4 months nothing, we broke up 4 months ago and I went nc immediately. I tell her "I'm sorry you feel that way, I adore you and let me know if you change your mind. Nothing almost as if I died. I have gotten my dream job since, working out, new projects, investing in myself, going out with women on dates, posting on instagram etc, I think it is dead for good.
Well I'm 4 months out . And even when I'm at my peak I still feel some sort of energy that almost never goes away . I've been in no contact for 3 months and been trying to do whatever I can to make things better for myself .met women lost wieght gained muscle changed my diet done everything in my power and I have zero clue what's going on in her world and I wanna just let it go but that feeling just doesn't go away ever .
it will go away. there are some things perhaps that you haven't yet processed and digested. We tend to create a Fantasy of our Ex - and the funny thing is, they aren't that fantasy - the fantasy is a crazy story we've created based on our "dream girl" and we tend to try to use the person we date or are in relationships with to portray this fantasy. So, to cut a long story short... Realize that she's not this Fantasy Dream Girl you so much are in love with and wish for (like all of us!) instead, remember all the things that weren't so great - we tend to only remember the cute, good things as time goes by - that's why i would say the most powerful break-up tool of all is the "puke list" list of everything you can remember - no matter how small about her or the relationship that was horrible and unpleasant... Really spend time on this... and make this list - it will help you so much - it will help you see her for who she really was... and i'm sure her shit stinks just as bad as the rest of us... Good luck - stay focused - sounds like you are doing everything right - remember Patience is a key word in all of this.. Patience and becoming aware of your Attention - and what thoughts you are placing your attention on. Make the puke list. And trust the universe is guiding you towards something far better for you.
I was in a deep sleep and woke up during your video on no contact. I tried NC with my ex but was not successful. We got back together and it was so good but really bad as well. I adore him, he is one in a million but he is still drawn to another. When you are deeply in love It takes such inner strength to go NC but you grow a little every day. I have a higher sense of self worth now. I can see where he hasn't grown and I don't have as much respect for him now.
I wish to god i found this video back in may....i watched a million other videos but this one hit me bro...the way you speak is so clear and fluid and deep...my breakup was ok at first it was mutual...then i lost it after and begged her for months basically making my chance to get her back worse...then she started seeing her other ex...she said i still might have a chance if i sought help for my anxiety depression n fixed my debt which was a stressor for me...but i lost it more after i found out about the ex...i couldnt believe i still had a chance and i begged more until i broke down on her...that was it she wanted no more...it was my depression that made me weak enough to do it but whatever now its over for good...and im more depressed now....great vid bro
I'm in the storm right now. It's been about a month and I've learned so much about myself that in reality this was a blessing in disguise. I miss her everyday day, but she left for a reason and that reason was for me to find myself. The pain is real. It's been 32 days of no contact, and she's now liking FB post (which I don't do often), still focusing on me but I would love to hear from her again..
The fact that it is a fix is a great reminder. I’m done done. This guy is so effed up in the head there is no chance that he will come back and no chance that we would last.
Okay, to summarize YOUR situation: She met someone else (as per what you said) and this gave her the confidence and ego boost to shut you out of her life. You eventually took the hint and went silent. What happened after that had little to do with you being silent (being in no contact), but all to do with the fact that the guy she was seeing LEFT HER (it didn't work out with them) and she reached back out to you! As simple as that. Now the question is, had you continued to try and keep in contact with her when she was with the new guy, could you have pushed her further into his arms and helped to make their relationship work? Very possible. It could have been your absence that made her WEAKER with him and ended up having her push him away, because she felt you were no longer a back up plan for her, so in that sense, YES, no contact on your part was beneficial.
Dude, I keep watching this video over and over... Crossing my fingers that my ex will come back to me. She was my everything, she was my first true love. I dated a few other girls before but this woman really had my heart. We did everything together. Vacations, road trips, holidays, ect. Two years and 4 months, never did I ever think she would leave me. I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and the final week we were together, my depression hit hard and I acted like I didn't even love her, it hit me so hard. Ya know, I took her for granted, the last month or two I got lazy and didn't come and see her much. Also, she was friend with one of my Ex's that cheated on me back in the day and I was such a dick to refuse going out with her because my Ex was going. I should have put those stupid grudges behind me and spent my precious time with the woman I loved. Doing that stuff just pushed her away and I didn't even realize, I was being selfish and I regret it. She broke up with me and I begged, I cried, and I pleaded. I was devastated and I still am. Like a week and a half later she started dating her male best friend and that was like having my heart curb stomped. I fucked up even more and told her that I felt like thrown away trash and I couldn't believe that she would give up on me so easily. That only pissed her off even more, because of my frantic explosions of emotions. I realized that she tried to save us in those final days and I couldn't have said anything worse. I told her that I couldn't be friends with her because I still have heavy feelings for her and just being her friend would hurt too much, I told her that if she ever changes her mind, I'll be there waiting because I love her with all of my heart. After that I haven't talked to her since then. Even in the period of me not talking to her I still fucked up, I wrote a huge thing about how we first met and how we had a huge crush on each other though our entire high school years, I posted it on all my social media. Well, she could only see it on my tumblr because I had to delete her off of facebook, seeing her in a relationship with someone else was just to painful keep her on there. Well, along with posting those to fb and tumblr, I posted one of our old pictures together on instagram with a link to the text post. I was sad I didn't even realize how bad of an idea that was. She stopped following me on insta and I did the same to her but I think one of her friends told her about my post. I'm pretty sure I pissed her off even more with that because she commented say that it was inappropriate to post that and it was uncool to do so, then asking me to take it down. So I did, but not really talking to her in the process though, I'm still sure that was breaking the no contact, I have no idea if she read the story I put up. In all, it's been about three weeks since I haven't talked to her or seen her and my life has been a living hell. Sitting there hoping for a text, a call, anything. I wake up 2-3 times a night., I haven't been eating regularly, and breaking down into panic attacks that last for hours. I wish I could just rewind time and fixed myself before she left, the love of my life gone. We have spent so much time together and bonded with each other so well, I hope she will come back to me and let me try again. Ever since she left, my life has just been falling apart.
+Skullheart remember dude - bro - let me start by giving you some golden advice that was given to me that is 100% true - People Forget - so, don't worry about all the shit you did... as of today - you are a changed man - now stay true to it - i did all the same shit you did... but then i put all my energy into being disciplined and focusing on me... and then teh tables turned and now she's the one begging me still.. a year and a half later - the key is to let go and move on... if you're crossing your fingers and hoping and wanting... i just don't think you're gonna get anywhere bro.. like like as i say in my video.. you're attention towards her will just keep her energized and happy... but as soon as you start turning that attention away from her.. and on to you... it's weird but as with my experience and many other out there.. seems like they can suddenly sense that lack.. and it can be incredible how the tables can turn... focus on you bro - and watch the new video i am just about to upload about Roots... i think i'm gonna call it Quick Tip on difficult break-up (not the one i have already posted) it should be online in a few hours! i think it might help. sending you all the best bro.
+MOUTH OF THE APE Thanks man, I'm trying so hard right now. I never thought I would have to go through something so hard in my life. Thank you for the positive energy, it really means a lot.
+Skullheart don't mention it bro - all this will be behind you some day... trust me... and you'll feel so awesome :) it just takes time - watch the new video i posted czcams.com/video/1VZner2zh0o/video.html which talks about how we grow roots into other people and it just takes time to heal.. time and the right environment... (in other words the right friends, people, food, activities, place to live etc etc etc)
I read your story 3 years later (that makes me sound like a time traveller lol!), I’m going through breakup from hell. She’s left me for a new life after 11 years. How did your story pan out?
I've been watching a lot of your videos ever since my ex broke up with me. I've done all that self loving stuff, improving myself and becoming a better me while going through no contact. Guess what? She came back about one month ago (broke up 5 months ago), she regrets her decision breaking up with me and now wants me back. I dont know what to do with this because she broke up with me for a good reason and I dont think that its very smart to get back together. Difficult stuff this thing called life.
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Awesome advice man.. My ex doesn't quite get it.. she has 2 young kids and I was prepared to be with her and her kids but she doesn't realise what she's doing by giving me the arse .. not many males would've been prepared to do what I was . But it's over so I need to move forward . She had her chance
yo ape i really just have to say how grateful i am for your videos man. Ive been working through this for a year now im so much better than i was, but its still really hard at times. I always come back to these videos to help get me through
thanks man this video was really helpful. Me and my first love just broke up after a year and a half of dating. It pulls on my heart like nothing else. for the first few days I couldn't help but text her and tell her im going to change my life and prove to her i can make this work. But now its been 3 days , and now I'm already starting to notice its helping. She looks at all my snapchat stories. I'm starting to work out more, focus on my hobbies, I quit smoking, I've even started seeing a counselor to help with my anger issues that were one of the main issues in our relationship. I want this girl back, lets just hope ive got a shot.
Tyler Kramer i'm going through the same thing. She told me I'm unmotivated. I started going to the gym, i will start guitar lessons next week and planning on going back to school. She looks at my instagram stories. This is my 2nd day going no contact. She broke up with me on July but we started reconnecting in Sept. again I got complacent. So this time i will make sure to achieve my goals
Sometimes you don’t desire or obsess over the person; it’s the hurt that came from Betrayal that you’re grieving over especially if the end of the relationship was sudden (discard) and a third party was involved. You’re every waking moment is spent trying to heal and move forward..
Some people are narcissist and have abusive tendencies and control issues. When you go no contact for safety reasons , and no one should be commanded to abandon their friends and family just for the narcissist. When you go no contact , hoping they will get professional help , then maybe things can work out , but they refuse to , and say You're the one with the problem , you are better off without them.
very great and truly honest video. I'm going through the second break up with my girlfriend and its far worse than the first because now she admitted to me that she likes another man. We've been dating for 8 years and I'm only 28 so we spend a huge part of our lifes together. The situation is super weird because yes, I crave her like a drug and am suffering. But also my life has become so much better in these 4 weeks we have been apart. We never ever had a fight which is crazy and I feel like my situation was the opposite of yours because argueing isnt a bad thing in general. Basically I had no clue what was going wrong until it all burst out of her and she broke up with me. I have no clue if its a good idea to try and get her back but to be honest I feel like she is far out of my league actually. She is everything where I'm bad at and I am very good at the things she is bad at and I feel like we could work out really well if we just focused on communication and if I appretiated her more but maybe I'm just naive. Its such an odd situation but I feel like I would never find a girl like her again, only now do I realize all the good parts of her. Really no clue what to do. Anyways thank you for the video, its one of the few honest and real once out there because all others about that topic just want to sell you their bullshit guides. ha Take care and keep on making great videos !
+blafuckyou focus on you bro - it's time to strengthen your relationship with yourself - it won't be easy after having spent so much time together - but even if you are in a relationship - for it to be healthy, you have to have your own interests, goals and focus on yourself - i want you to also read that post you wrote above again - and this time highlight in your mind the parts that indicate negative self talk or negative self beliefs - these thoughts and beliefs do not help in any way - and i recommend that you start paying closer attention to the thoughts and beliefs you have - they might be holding you back - it was certainly the case for me and i know that it is certainly teh case for most humans - and that is why journalling helps too - you can spot where you might be thinking more negatively and perhaps start to re-condition your mind to start focusing more on positives - and to take a break from negative thinking and putting yourself down... for example.. in your post above you said : "to be honest I feel like she is far out of my league actually." so, this is a negative thought - and when journalling you would treat it like this: Negative thought 1 "I feel like she is far out of my league actually." Does this thought help me in life? No Positive Counter Balances 1. my focus is not on her and whether i measure up to her - i focus on myself and being the best i can be - and that is all i need to focus on in order for my heart and life to become full of happiness and vitality. 2. The only person who's opinion of me matters is ME - and i choose to love and adore everything about myself - my imperfections and my perfections make me uniquely ME - there is no one else i would rather be - and i am so grateful for all i have, all i have experienced and teh beautiful journey that lies ahead. I am grateful for feeling more empowered and more alive each day - more free and more in control of my future :) 3. i know that my potential is infinite and as i grow stronger, wiser and give myself more focus and love - i grow more and more confident and attractive and comfortable with myself - and this confidence beams.. and my presence is all that is needed when i go out into the world... my happiness and my comfort and my love for life will be sensed and i will be more attractive than ever not just to the opposite sex - but to all people - most importantly to myself - i love myself and i am so grateful for being ME :) ok - so that's just off the top of my head - but yoru counter arguments will be more specific and more tailored to yourself. every day try to write 3 negative thoughts that you manage to be aware of - and treat them in teh same way i have done above - if you can do this at least 4 days in a week - you will start re-conditioning your mind to be stronger -more confident - more loving of yourself and more positive. Also - start your day and just before bed write down 3 things you are grateful for. and keep watching my videos ;) haha sending you all the best! APE :)
Thank you very much. It truly helps. Today I received a devastating message by my ex, basically a few months ago we were talking about getting kids and stuff and now she just sent me an icecold message about who gets what and when I have to be completely out of our appartment (which I havent seen in the past 5 weeks, because I have been living on friend's couches). Its absolutely crazy how she apparently doesnt feel a thing for me anymore. I'm sure she is already seeing the guy she left me for and it absolutely breaks my heart because I was 100% sure that she was the woman of my life. As insane as it sounds, I still want her back. But anyways, thank you for reaching out to a stranger. It's rare these days.
Hello from Russian Federation ! And Thnak You for this video ! This is one of the moust important videos I'v ever watched in my life ! I was able to retourn my ex girlfriend for second time ! First time after break up It tooked me 7 weeks ... We was together for 2 months and again break up ( but tihs time it was differnet, not just like 1st time ) ! And now I got her back agiain after 4 weeks. But this time I'm #1 FAN of my self ... And things seems different ! Not like it was before !
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I'm using my period of no contact for self examination and self improvement. It is very difficult to resist the temptation of texting or calling my ex but at this point it would do more harm than good.
Laughing? She was LAUGHING when she broke (up with) you? Dude, you should not have taken her back. Ever. Have you broken up again since then? (first video of yours I've seen) If you have, be sure it STAYS that way this time around
Thank you so much I appreciate all the energy I definitely need it and I'm definitely trying to put some great energy out I'm definitely using a lot of steps that you have taken journaling going to see a psych in about a week working on myself betteren myself cutting all contact I have good days and bad days but starting to have more good than bad I definitely appreciate all the advice and encouragement there's so many similarities to the way you felt and the way that I'm feeling it was incredible when I watched your video and felt like I was going through the exact same feelings it made me feel less alone so thank you so much for doing what you do I feel like the universe test me every so often and everyday I'm basically preparing for those tests I've definitely lost all hope but still tend to think about her so often I know it will get less and less but the struggle is real lol thank you again
+joaquin varela Hey man, sorry for taking so long to reply - I appreciate your comment and your positive words... stay strong and continue to focus on your journey and setting awesome goals in life - there's so much about life that is amazing.. we just need to continue to keep our focus trained on what energizes us... and not what drains us - sending you love and all the best!
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It is only adiction when you dont cotroll it i think. I was so in love i tought it only could go right. After 6 years zac single. And looking at the world and just realized that i lifed in a bubble. Now i try to look at the world different. Its Me alone on this World, who like to join mi path and walk on my side should come but now i know soon or late they will leave my path. If its parents family partners workmates. You can be 100% sure in the end you will die with you on your side. Im on the way to get there, its frightening to think but when your there its the higeest state of life i think.
Hey there! I'm writing from Brazil. I have to say that I loved your video. Well, let me share a little bit of my story... I dated a younger guy from August 2011 to February 2015... we dated for 3.5 years and even though he was younger, his mind was older than mine... I mean, I was the "little girl" and he was the "man"... Well, we had our bad moments, but we always had a great time and we used to talk about our problems without figthing. I was (am) so in love with him... One day after my birthday he came to my house and said that he wanted to break up because he felt like he wasn't what I wanted... He said that I always felt sad because of some things that he DIDN'T do and he always felt helpless to see that HE was the cause of my sadness... The problem is that, for me being older, I think he was ashamed and never introduced me to his friends and I always questioned that... Anyway, we broke up, and I did all the things that people say not to do: I cried, begged, looked needy... but HE always kept contact with me... For 5 - 6 months we talked regularly through facebook. He came to my house twice and we kissed. He said the had thought about coming back to me but that he felt that it was not the right time for that... once again I cried, begged, etc... About 3 weeks ago I saw a picture of him with a girl and his friends. I got so mad and texted him asking if he was dating that girl. He said he went out with her twice and he apologized because she had met his friends and I never did. He said he felt terrible doing that, like he was disrespecting me and apologized for being such a "child". I said that his problem was that he was ashamed of me being older (he denied it all the time)... I told him I didn't want to talk to him, I was going to block him on facebook and he panicked. He started crying asking me not to do that, but I deleted my facebook account (for a few days)... I tried no contact with him but on the 13th day I texted him saying I had to take this time to cool down and to put myself together. I said I didn't hate him and if he was dating this girl, that I wished him all the happiness. He was really relieved and he tried to start a casual conversation with me about everyday stuff... I just said: good night and then I REALLY started no contact. That was on July 26. I deleted my fb account for good now, I opened a new profile and I closed all the information about me. I mean, only people who I add can see what I post. If you go to my profile now you won't be able to see ANYTHING!!! I know he still likes me a lot (I don't know if he loves me)... I've been working a lot, going out with friends, vlogging (I also have a yt channel)... do you think this no contact will work for me? He's a lot younger... I don't know if he still wants a relationship with me or if he wants to date younger girls... Please reply me! Thanks for your video!
Katynha Santos hi and sorry for the delay to write back. yes of course No Contact will help... it is hard for the first 2-3 months.. but you will be very happy that you did it - right now - your life and mind is a slave to this guy... Like a drug... like Cocaine or Heroine... or Cigarettes... You NEED and crave contact for him... because your mind believes connection with him will bring you happiness... but... remember... like a drug... the happiness will be very short.. and fast... and then you will be in more pain than before.... you are doing the right thing now - to focus on yourself.. and regain strength and love for your own life.. Self Love for yourself :) Stay on this path - when you think of him - dont worry - it is natural! but then try to put your mind on other things... remember - it will hurt, it will be hard.. it will not be easy... but now is your chance to fall in love with yourself.. and fall in love with Life again - and i promise if you can be strong and do no contact for 6 months.... life is going to change for you very much - colors will be clearer.. smells will smell better... and your world will not be so foggy and blurry... because your focus will be back on YOU.. just like when you were a kid... and you will not be LOST in a storm of thoughts and caring so much about someone else... True love starts with loving yourself... and when you do this you will energize yourself.. and then be able to share love with others... Rather than NEEDING the Attention and love of others to make you happy. Sending you love and prayers.. and good luck! :)
Thank you SO MUCH for your reply!!! It came in a great time because I was ALMOST contacting him... Yes, it is very hard!!! But I'll do it! I'm focusing on myself now, I've been losing weight and I really want to look really good when he eventually sees me. Thank you very much!!!! Lots of love from Brazil! :D
i know how hard this is - but do whatever it takes to avoid contacting him - if you contact him.. you will give him power.. and energy.. and it will be unattractive... trust me - guys like to chase... when we are being chased... we loose attraction... be strong and focus on you - that is great you are losing weight and getting in shape... let him the fuel for that change BUT do it for yourself! ;) and for all the new people youw ill meet - If he is meant to be in your life - then he will come back and contact you - if you love that person, just let them be.. and if they come back.. then it was meant to be... but for now - work hard and focus on yourself... remember.. if you contact him.. you will give him power and strength.. and make yourself weaker and more needy. be strong! we are all in the same boat! you can do this! ;)
MOUTH OF THE APE trust me! I'm stronger than I imagine!!! I WILL do it!!! I deserve the best and I DO love myself!!! You said something totally right: if I contact him, I lose the control of the situation... And right now I need to be in charge of my life! Thanks once again! You're awesome! :D
Hey APE, I found your video to be awkward, funny, sincere, comforting and point on... all at the same time, haha. I haven't watched your other video yet but oddly can't wait to... after I jot this shit down of course. Though your "no contact" advice seems sound, I don't know how it would work for me. I'm married to my "ex", for now but she's already moved in with another dude. Let me back track a little bit. We've been married for about 8 years now. We pretty much got hit by the seven year itch last year and separated. She asked me to move out of the house to take some time apart and perhaps rekindle things. That was about a year ago and I've been so God damn busy with full time school, part time work, taking care of my decrepit dad and trying to spend whatever time I had left with my three kids( two of which are hers but they call me dad and I feel like they're mine) that I had no time for her. Six months ago she told me she started TALKING to a guy but he didn't seem that much into her so I didn't think too much of it. Anyways, a couple weeks ago I realized how much I missed her, that things weren't going anywhere and I wanted my family back. So I made a big push to get her back. She kept shooting me down over and over to the point I was like, " what are you fucking this guy you were talking about or something?" and she said yes. I naturally broke contact the best I could and really only because I was sooo God damn hurt but with the swapping of kids in the mix, you can only do so much. THEN, from that time until now, she has moved herself AND my kids into a new house(rental) with this guy and HIS three kids without telling me! Actually, she told me as they were moving in a couple days ago. I've been fighting with her since then trying to convince her to step back and look at the potential problems she's creating for our kids but she won't pull out. She SAYS she wants to maintain a friendly relationship for the kids but I feel like she has thrown that option out the window herself. Anyways, she says she's always crying about our situation on the way to work and back and she cries on the phone too while I'm arguing with her about WTF she's doing to us and the kids. None the less, she won't back off this dude's cock! TBH with you, I dont know why the hell I can't kick this fuck face to the curb. I should be able to but I can't. I still love her. I miss her and I want her back despite the burning coal pit shes drug me through. Something tells me she's about to break but I dont know. I guess my question is how would braking contact work for me? I'm going to have to potentially see her twice a week swapping our bio daughter and sometimes her kids(she lets me see them too but they only know me as their dad for gods sake) but most the time we just stay in our cars while the kids run into the others house. I've been going through some major self improvement. I lost 40 - 50 lbs since we separated and recently started boxing classes with her/my son. I haven't been the greatest dad towards him. He's always been a problem child but this life changing event has really brought us close together. Though it's been hard as fuck to concentrate through this semester, I'm pushing through school, still hitting the gym, and maintaining work. I actually stay busy as fuck which probably really helps but its those small windows I have time to think that put me in that hurricane you talk about. This may be out of your realm but i'm curious what you have to say... sorry I wrote so much but it feels good to write and get this crap off my chest.
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yeah, she broke up with me late January. I doubt she's coming back. I fell for the liking my new facebook profile photos and got false hope lol. She's completely gone though we're FB friends. I've gotta move on somehow.
thank you I've been through this with the same person for 8 years we have two kids together and we constantly get back together then off again. it's awful
lmao but what if we were together for a month? we broke up bc she lost feelings, said it all went too fast and that now she has to focus on herself... idk if no contacting would mean she would think abt me, bc she talks to all of her other exes and thats why i feel like talking to her is good... but i honestly dont know, i love her more than before and i wish i knew if she will be mine again or not so i could just prepare. but there is no way to do that so.. she said she needs time for herself but im honestly scared how much time that is and if she will remember me after all of it.. advice mby?
I know how you feel right now. Comparing it to a hurricane is great. I'm on week 2 of No Contact and its still killing me. I'm using the 3 things I love the most to help get her off my mind but somehow she finds a way to enter my head. We both share the same friends and they're all on my side. But it still hurts, but I agree they are like a drug. A very strong drug. I have 1 of theories as to why this happened. And right now I really feel (out of everything I've seen online), I feel like I was the right person at the wrong time... Most people say the first one is always the hardest to get over but this one is much much worst.
There was this girl who showed me love and made me asking her out only to leave me after one week and running after me for next 6 years,didn't give a fuck even am sensitive can't be able to love someone truly in one week,the second one was real though, made me suffer like he'll during 3 months but she came back after 2 years to run away with me,didnt have any feelings left for her,the third one is real too,and she started acting weird,breaking up ,coming back, so I had to break up with her, now going through the he'll again,following the no contact rule only to move on not to get back together,am better off alone,ur videos are of great help man,ur videos r like the sunrise to me when going through the he'll on earth
I am going through the exact pain that you were!! I begged and pleaded with no response. I felt that I wasn't a priority and gave her an ultimatum. Either she was 100% invested and wasn't playing games anymore, or I was out. I went totally no contact and I haven't heard anything from her in a month and a week. I have been working on myself and am feeling better but I still have really bad days Yes, it is an addiction!!!! Do you think my ex will contact me even out of curiosity??!! I value your opinion. I am hoping to be over her if she does !!!
Sorry for the long comment coming up, so i was with my girl for about 2 years and like 8 months it was a really great time when we started of i was this kid of 16 (pretty mature for my age but still) and she a young woman allready 20 years old we jumped a little hasty in a relationship but we made it work, so with us both being in different parts of our lives things were always a little strange but even still we made it work she loved me she invested time in me and showed a lot of effort, me being younger than her and not her first lover made me feel really insecure and jealous but in time i really started to trust her and started to believe that i could make the fairy tale come true and that my first serious girl would be the one i would marry and spend the rest of my life with naive right? but yeah as i grew more trusting towards her i started slacking i quit my job for different reasons i flunked school and i just wasnt really growing in independance and my place in the future nevertheless she still wanted to make it work and me too we communicated a lot and talked about how we would get trough the rough phases in our lives(she had some things going on too) she really bonded with me and really wanted to spend all her time with me but me being a young man wanted to do other things too i never really went out she liked it but i didnt and at some point things were like messed up we were both in a stuck phase in oure lives but everytime we got together things were allright because we were in love but yeah in the last 8 months of our relationship things took a turn for the worst it wasnt all bad we had some very good times in those 8 months but my ex got really frustrated with her home situation because she wanted to move out but just couldnt because of some anxiety's and financial problems as that frustration grew she also started expecting more from me she wanted me to show her my appreciation and i tried alot did some good did some bad but we still communicated alot and got trough it because she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me but in the last 2 months of our relationship things got bad we broke up like 3 times just small things tough we kept coming back to eachother the next day i went to her house and stayed there for like 2 weeks because i tought we needed some time together we had a fight because youknow i wasnt really putting in enough effort for her feelings and she asked me when i was going home i told her to think about this and what she wanted for the both of us she told me perhaps its better that we break up i went home didnt speak to her for 5 days called her and she told me she was done she turned into this super icy being that couldnt care less about me, told me she was having fun and it killed me i texted her crazy saying we talked about this this is a bad phase we will get trough this like many other things we have but no interest she wanted to move on and didnt want something in a week a month or a year she was done with me she blocked me on whatsapp facebook instagram tumblr everything she completely shut me out i sent her flowers a letter and a photo of us she called me freaking out because i didnt leave her alone (oke i was kind of throwing myself at her wich isnt attractive but i just didnt wanted it to end this way) i got discouraged left her alone for about 4 5 days while still checking her shit trough mutual friends then i got another rush of courage i said to myself i needed to put in more work if you really want her work for her like she worked for you all that time i went to her house confronted her said i was going to fight show her that i could be more and in the end she gave me the same response (but the bear i got her for her birthday still layed beside her bed) even so i started to realize that i was pushing her away and even her mother whom i am really cool with till this day told me to give her rest i did and we have spoken once on the phone since then to clear our last fight out but still she wants to move on, now im trying to get a job and get my act together go to the gym and stuff, she still has me blocked and i saw she added this dude on facebook which she used to date for like a year is liking his photos and shit, but she doesnt know i can see that or she does idk, he isnt any good for her she knows that but even so she's been quitte active on whatsapp and liking his stuff so i guess they are talking now, i was wondering why she got over me so fast(which probably is the case if i should believe her and her actions) and yeah hes most likely comforting her and making it easyer for her even so weve been trough so much and i cant understand things are going this way i feel powerless and humiliated and dissapointed in her, i know i had my doing in this but we got trough a lot of stuff on her side too now she is 23 and in a month and a half im turning 19 its been quitte the ride but it seems like shit is going to end so shitty i know i have to work on myself but my emotions are clouding my mind thinking about worst case scenarios about her and the guy and youknow the drill, i just dont know at this point sorry for the epic long comment but yeah cant really sum up almost 3 years so fast but i cant understand she always was so clingy(not the anoying kind) and so enthousiastic to be with me that i cant understand how she can be like this it has almost been a month now and she hasnt contacted me once idunno man i really dont know at this point i know i can get over her at some point becuz time heals all right but shit i just feel soooo shitty that its going this way and that beautifull thing we had is ending this way and she is moving on so easily, becuz we were some soulmates man we filled eachothers gaps we had same interest apart from the going out to clubs thing but shit man i just dont know my i really don't...... great vid really helped me get down to earth for a moment but the emotions and memories keep coming back sorry about my english but yeah it will be a fine ass birthday and new year seeing how it goes still cant comprehend this iknow you can probably picture it becus im just a young man and your probably older than me but she REALLY REALLY loved me man and that makes this shit so much harder to understand the stuff with the other guy too but yeah don't know what im asking of you here but yoy know what its like right? allright thanks for the vid keep up the work you really got to me man.
After 4 months that's amazing man....I also thought Treitan Mellory’s Simple Paper was crazy Psychobabble, then after a few drinks with friends and finding myself alone, I joked about it and followed the steps…, and BAM! we’re back together :|
Thanks for ur good advice, i try to do it" no contact" method as i can...I've been search a lot but this video makes my mind better to" move on". Im tired to begging him period.
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
Once you outwait getting your fix by your ex the problem is than you probably don't want them anymore or the relationship breaks apart again. I go through extreme withdrawal throughout the past nearly 4 months. Too long story to tell except that it is hell if the ex gives you hope. Yes it truly is an addiction. Actually when I take opiate pain killers the feeling fades. true proof it's the opiate receptors. Would love to ever chat with you
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
the dumper lets go easier by staying in contact while its the opposite for the dumpee NC allows both time to heal and forget negative memories and clear their minds while also allowing the dumper to miss the dumpee
I love this dude!! Speaks the truth i messed up today and contacted her after 3 weeks of no contact and she was cold and heartless I needed my “fix”! We have each other blocked on everything but I still check her Facebook everyday to see if she’s in a relationship or changes her profile to her and a guy. Would have been 4 years 11/22. Now I feel broken again cuz I got rejected and I got to start all over again☹️ I just got to fill the hole that she left with something so going to start going to the gym and maybe meet new people. Push her to the back or my mind. Think about her everyday thou...
you are sooooo correct about the energy!!! that is absolute truth!!! that has always been the case. and its happened to me on many occasions throughout my life
I only unfollowed her from instagram and twitter, should I block her as well? I've been in No Contact for 5 days and yesterday she checked my instagram story
please do another video about how to get back after 5 months.. im in a long distance right know but i really want to know how ur new video about this topic gonna be what experience did u get and what should we do i love ur videos because ur the only one that speaking honestly and trying to help people.. Thank you very much bro :)
hey man thank you for posting this video. since my breakup over a week ago I have been in pure misery and pain. I've started doing a lot of research and the points you made in the video make a lot of sense. I have been going strong with the no contact for a week now but it is so so hard sometimes. how did you fight the urges to send a quick text just to hear from your ex? that seems to be my biggest struggle right now. the unknown of if she will ever miss me enough to contact me like I miss her ... we were together for 3 years BTW and she moved out all the sudden said she needed space. any advice you can give would be appreciated.
+Cory H it is hard - and it will be hard - but you are stronger and you will over come - remember - you are not alone - i have been there and a lot of us are going through it as well - all in our unique way... it is hard - it hurts... but you will find out very quickly what hurts more is when you break contact - and leak more power away - now is a time to build a wall around you - not only to keep bad info from coming in - but to prevent your power and energy from leaking out - this wall will have a security checkpoint - and only things that serve you - energize you life you up will be allowed in.... and only things you no longer need.. that are old - that keep you down.. that hurt you - will be released - and you will be strong - and keep this will - like a cast over a broken arm.. until you start healing - and you WILL start healing - but it will take strength each day - every step - but know that you are not walking alone - we are all on this journey - on this path together... and whenever you feel like you are going to break... watch a good video - read something powerful.. and keep your mind in the right place - and let time do the rest - have faith that you ahve angels guiding and protecting you - dont ever forget about them - and have faith that all this is happening for your best interest - even if it may not seem that way. sending you power - energy and all the best - APE
Thank you MOUTH OF THE APE for your quick and heartfelt response. I am just worried that as stubborn as she is, her pride will keep her from contacting me. I feel like I need some closure but am ok with waiting 30 days to let things cool down. I just wonder if she has any idea how badly this has messed me up? Is it effecting her the same way?? I guess time will tell. Thankyou again for the kind words and advice. I've had nobody to talk to about this so it feels great to get it out there and hear some feedback. Keep doing what you do, your videos are touching a lot of people in a positive way. What a great energy you are putting out there for the rest of us to feed off of. Blessings
😭3rd day of no Contact, I blocked him on instagram, I deactivated my fb acct. and I just change my settings on whatsapp so that he won't see me when was the last time I was online. urghhh! 😭
Wish my ex would reach out but she seems to be doing fine, I’m thinking about just not posting or anything, I’m working on myself and I’m doing great, I’ll give myself another month and I’ll be over it. I just want to move on
Wonderful video Thank you. I feel your pain. Are u still in Thailand Just wanted your advice on what to do after the 30 day no contact period? Do you contact ex with a casual text to say hi? What's the approach? Do you meet up for coffee?
+Catesbysrevenge imo i don't think 30 days is enough - break-ups are hard.. and it takes time to heal and re-focus on you - ask yourself, what is your goal with messaging after 30 days? are you trying to get your ex back? or trying to build a friendship - again - i think for either 30 days is still just unrealistic - you're bound to have some deep emotional connection lingering - and it's important to fully heal before contacting - plus - i believe it's important to let them be the ones to contact... that's just my opinion... you should be focusing on you - when you contact them, you give your power away to them... let them power you up by contacting you - and if they don't - maybe that's a sign that they may not really be worth your time... if they care about you and want some kind of relationship - they will contact you at some point - and if they don't - do you really want this person in your life? any relationship... whether it's romantic, or just friends... even business relationships... should work both ways - it can't just be one person working to keep it strong... to wrap up - i personally don't believe 30 days is enough if you were in a relationship of 6 months or longer - i think at least 3 months of no contact and ideally 6 months - is truly effective for healing and for re-gaining your focus and power again - remember what this is all about is turning you from a slave, back into the master of your own life - and it's that transformation that makes you so attractive and gets them chasing you again - and during that time, they may well contact you - and if they do.. always reply with less than what they give you... it's about keeping your focus on yourself.. that's the hard part - but very doable - YOU should be the most important, exciting and attractive person in your life.. don't make your Ex more important than you - and the chances are, he or she is probably way more important to you in your mind at the moment than yourself... and that's what you need to change. i'm still in SE ASIA - in Bali now... may head to thailand again soon :) sending you all the best! try to focus on you and forget they even exist... for at least 3 months... but ideally 6 - and then after that period of time has passed - if you still feel like contact them - sure... nothing wrong with a simple short text or email to say - hey whats' up.. how's things? but focus on keeping it as friends only... YOU should be the most important person in your life :) fall in love with yourself.
+MOUTH OF THE APE thanks man I'm not sure I want her back. It's been just over a month. I'm bearing up ok. Your vids are fabulous and have helped me. I can't thank you enough
Hey Ape, thanks for the video! its awesome advice ... how do you feel about the NC rule for 30-45 days and then trying to get her back through texting, coffee dates, etc ... I read about that tactic all over the internet. If you really feel like things can work out, do you think its a good idea? ...
It's a cool story and I commend you on your serious honesty and introspection. You're a very deep and intelligent individual, but the reality is, you got lucky. Most ex's (dumpers) do not come back on their own and if they do it can be years later and even then the chance of that happening is slim to none. I do believe in no contact (NC) for a time being, to level out the playing field between the 2 parties in question (dumper and dumpee), however, if the attraction was gone (loss of respect for you) and if you pleaded and begged and bombarded them with needy and insecure attention for a prolonged period, they will NOT come back on their own in 4 months. It's never happened to me (I'm 40 now). I HAVE gotten back ex's in the past, but it was always by my reaching out after a period of no contact, or limited contact and then just outright seducing them (re-creating their attraction for me) in an indirect and non-threatening manner. I think your video will give people a lot of false hope, because most ex's do NOT come back on their own unless given a little nudge in the right way after you've pulled back for a bit. As for it not working out the second time, it could be because either she never worked on herself, or you unfortunately lost yourself again in her, or resented her for leaving you.
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Mine didn't get over me he sent me messages for the past 20 years
Break ups are truly horrible, second only to the death of someone you love. Very little makes you feel better. You think about them all the time and you cant imagine your life without them. My heart is broken so I feel for everyone that's going through the same thing.
how are you feeling now?
Well said. Unfortunately, when I said that to my ex during the breakup and I told her that I feel I want to die, she said you exaggerate and you are manipulating me. I wish you knew what does breakup means and I was really suffering not manipulating her. She made me to feel I am crazy and act as unstable person, but I realized later that my feelings were just normal, my brain was telling me I am dying so I just acted upon this feeling.
Hey there, it worked for me. I got my ex back within 24hrs whatAp me to know better+2348157801375
@@chevy2583 I understand and felt the same feeling. She didn't have the empathy to even understand you were not saying you were going to kill yourself, but expressing the feeling you felt.
@@passerby6168 Yep, they don't understand it, maybe one day if they go through similar experience.
OMG. My ex just texted me and said I hope you are doing well as I am watching this video.
John Jefferies he never texts me.
John Jefferies
Mine either - we have been together for 15years ...
ulkalinka how did it go ?
John Jefferies oh wowdid u get back together..what's the situation now
he is dead. He killed himself.
the strongest negotiating position is to walk away and never look back the greatest gift you can give someone is your time if someone dumps you you give them the gift of missing you the silence will be deafening.
The only reason it didn't work out between you and your ex the second time is because you most likely went back to being in the same relationship you were before. By that I mean being the same person. Of course its not going to work that way. You learned that the first time. You have to basically become a different version of you that makes the relationship sustainable. Most people want their ex back and then don't know what to do when they finally have them again. Don't let the visualization stop once you got them back. Keep creating the perfect relationship in your mind and look for those positive qualities in your partner. It IS possible to have a successful relationship with just about anyone if you know how to focus right!
Everything you said resonated. I am right now in the beginning of the manifestation of attracting my ex back he called a few days ago and we've only talked a couple times since. It's true I'm one of the people now that it's here what am I gonna do to make it work this time instead at the moment I'm second guessing everything but you're right just keep deliberate creating in my mind everything will turn out how we will it to.
You'll do fine. Just relax and remember to have fun along the way!
it takes 2 though buddy... You can be the better version of you, but if your ex doesn't reciprocate the same, then it IS bound to fail. Remember it's 50/50
its 100/100 actually both giving everything they can. Unfortunately for most they can not accomplish this. BTW Chuck Approves hahahaha
Yes I was also thinkinh about this, thank you for your comment
I feel for people that are going through the pain of losing an ex and still reaching out to them and they have a cold heart waiting on you. Don't humiliate yourself like that. Have self respect and pride in yourself and invest in you, if they had valued you to begin with, they'd still be with you and for those that actually have the "curse" of getting an ex back, you will see why it didn't work the first time.
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Well, in order for you to know that, you'd have to be on the SAME video's, so you're following me, lol
But what about when your ex leaves you because her parents are getting her an arranged marriage and so she had no choice but to break up with me. But still wants to be friends? She has friend zoned me hardcore and I can't see her as a friend. fml
every situation is relative.
if you can find the source why it didn't work out, and try to learn from it, then I believe there is a chance.
what if you two broke up while still in love, but because of external factors and an underlying problem that has never been identified until now, then I think you 2 should give ot another go. you'll never know if you don't try. dont go blindly in it again though and expect it to work.
getting back together is going to be a though hard ride for both and it should become a whole different relationship.
Dude idk if your reading these comments or not , but this is pure fucking gold and just helped me so god Damn much a million thank you's man , you just changed my life
+joe rezz hey brother - so glad to hear it has helped - check out some of my other videos as well - i hope they will help as well - sending you all the best bro! stay focused on your path, your goals, your journey - and EVERYTHING will come... happy holidays and new years! ;) - APE
+joe rezz hi guys, the best info that i've ever had was with the Partner Reboot Recipe (i found it on google) - definately the most helpful idea that I've followed.
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She must have been crazy to give you up!im hoping one day I'll meet someone who is "awake "such great advice. Keep going 😃x
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You basically can't grantee to get your ex back!
The only way to have a chance is to let them go.
You should take some time for your self and for them. And yes no contact does make sense, because the other person just at one point won't be annoyed anymore. But in that time you have to change yourself! For some people that might be changing completely, for other people that might be changing back to the person you were, befor you started the relationship.
And this can still not garantee you anything. You have to LET GO! Become independent!
thanks,
LET ME REPHRASE THAT, IT'S 99% OF PEOPLE THAT DON'T SUCCEED ARE THOSE WHO DON'T DO THE SELF-IMPROVEMENT THEY NEED WHILE AWAY. YOU CAN IMPROVE AND INSPIRE YOUR EX, ITS TEAMWORK, NOT COMPETITION. THIS GUY JUST HAS AN OPINION OF HIS EXPERIENCE, HE CAN"T SPEAK FOR YOU. TAKE NOTE
Christian Benett I can tell you my experience and why I think the guy in this video is correct. Your ideas about team work and inspring the ex are nice but have led me to a path of agony and here’s why I know in practice it’s not a good thing to have in your mind. I’ve been dumped after 11 years. No fighting or anything. She just grew into her 30s and has a severe case of gigs. I had been dining on hope, I’ve kept very low contact. Our last chat was a mistake, she was about to go out on the town with new friends in her new life. In a new part of the world. She’s not looking back. That call destroyed me.
Where ape is right, is you have to completely let go. Let go of hope. It’s destroying me doing anything else. You cannot have in mind working as a team in future with your ex. To do that means you have hidden hope, a hidden sense of identity that you might be a team again. I can tell you that’s destroying me. You have to truly, utterly let go. I realise that now. Yes self improve and all that. But it’s for you. If your ex comes into your orbit it’ll be by chance. You absolutely cannot think about teamwork and inspiring your ex. Even a side thought. You have to let go. I’m trying so hard. I’ve never been so obliterated by grief in my life. 11 years.
Ape is right. The alternative is to live in a hell where there is no light.
This is so true.We can feel each other’s energy
Hey Ape, how are you?
Thank you for all your advice, it has been spot on! I'm coming up to 2 months NC and as you say in another of your vids there's something in the universe that can't be explained, but when you focus on yourself and good things are happening, your ex can sense it. I've got through nearly 2mths and have been strict with NC and worked on myself and haven't heard anything from my ex which Ive become ok with. Last week I published a magazine and it's going really well. Today people were posting it up on FB and out of nowhere I get a message from the ex congratulating me. I didn't reply for about 8hrs and then replied with less words. "thank you" and that was it. I got a message back straight away saying "You're very welcome" so as she hasn't given a question for me to answer I feel no need to reply and I actually feel like I've got my power back. I know it doesn't mean she wants to get back with me but I actually don't mind and all of your help has made me question what is best for me and that is my own happiness. Thank you for your advice Ape, out of all the relationship video's I've watched yours has been on point!
I remember having mad breakdowns over my ex & after I started hangin out with friends more & my mind kinda slipped away from her she suddenly came back, it was really weird
dude this helped me so much today. thank you i needed this so much. "you're just a drug addict right now, you want your fix" I love it! so fucking true. and god am I fiending today :(
Good advice brother. Me and my girl just broke up. She is also ten years older than I am (39). We were together for 28 months before the break up. It has been one month now. The first year of our relationship, was rough, so we broke up for 3 weeks. Some of the stuff I was doing in the relationship the first year needed change. Anyways, after we got back together, I changed those things and it was pure bliss for the next year. Again, things starting going down hill. She had the hardest time letting go of the past which brought us many problems. I treated her like a queen, she admitted it but she could not let of of the past. We finally ended, but I was the one begging for her back. This last week, I said forget it, I'm not contacting her anymore. She is currently seeing a therapist to see why she is the way she is...why she can't let go of the past. Do I want her back, yes. Will I want her back by the time she contacts me..who knows. I just need to get through this rough patch!
everyone should move on after break up
This is the best break up video I've seen. Very helpful. It's just hard for me to keep no contact when my ex boyfriend who dumped me still contacts me. We talked for about an hour a couple weeks ago and he said he's confused, I was starting to move on but the last conversation I had with him has me confused too. But I'm keeping NC now because now I feel worse, I was making process. 😔
+Amina A sorry for the late reply - hope you have been keeping up with the NC - thanks for your positive words on the video.. we must focus on our goals and our journey... energize ourselves and make ourselves happy and attractive... so that our cup will overflow to others... sending you all the best!
MOUTH OF THE APE Thank you. I have maintained NC. I'm done with the games
very happy to hear that. and proud of you :) enjoy the journey ahead my friend.
Answer please one question: how much time had passed before your ex reached you? My ex broke up with me two months ago. I've watched your videos million times and they cheer me up a lot. I've been with my ex for two years and now I feel so depressed and lonely.
Мария Капинос omg I'm in the same boat as you!!! I never begged him when he dumped me in person and I am in NC for 2 months now.. did your ex ever contacted you???
Мария Капинос did he reach out ?
Hey.. Same boat here... Im depressed... She broke up with me.... We've been 7 years....
Мария Капинос did he reach out ???
What happened so far? How are you feeling? Did you get back together? Move on?
Probably one of the most interesting and intelligent words on a breakup there is. It helped me after my distressing split / isolation
Christopher Pattison really glad it was helpful - and i hope all is well with you :) good luck and keep moving forward :)
The ex comparison to a drug is so on point for me.
relationships: Lust or Love, we are all desperate to be in a relationship.. I agree with some of your points but at the end, its best to move on and take the pain, get stronger and try to not depend on another person..
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I've been watching your videos for ages and they soothed me after a recent breakup (me being the dumpee). I've come to a point where my addiction has made me so depressed. I''ve just decided to block her from facebook and hide my status on whatsapp. I had to do this for my sanity!!! Thanks Ape. You're so right!
Thank you for this video. Out of all the "no contact" videos I have watched, your's gave me another view about the no contact rules. Thanks, gonna try real hard to take this advice.
I'm not someone who really believed in this 'energy' however, when my ex was secretly on a date with a new guy I immediately knew something was wrong but I didn't know what. 2 weeks later I felt horrible again , later I found out she had sex on that day. Months later when I had a date with a cute girl, I felt great and my ex messaged me that day.
+Kevin Roos it's really something incredible isn't it - we are all connected in ways that science hasn't proven yet... which is why it is so important to master what you think and believe - because i truly believe we can do so much with just our beliefs and thoughts... i hope all is well with you Kevin! and please check out more of my videos - i appreciate your feedback! thanks :)
+MOUTH OF THE APE Yeah you got some great videos up here :)
Anyways, this all happened almost 4 months ago. My ex congratulated me on my birthday, her birthday is coming up should I congratulate her back or just keep no contact ?
Kevin Roos
she will have plenty of birthday in the future you can congratulate her on if and when you decide to become friends - but - for now, you need to heal properly.. and a big part of that means focusing on yourself - don't worry about buring bridges or anything like that... don't worry about what she'll think or do if you don't send a message... NO... focus on you - if she truly loves you, she'll understand when you have finally healed up enough to think more clearly and maybe consider being friends - birthdays don't matter... really, they don't... they're just an excuse we find to contact.. be strong bro - and continue the great work you are doing... remember this is about re-establishing focus on yourself again.. and your journey - and if you give yourself enough time with the major distraction of her... then you will start re-energizing... and seeing things much more clearly... and you'll be SO glad that you remained patient and disciplined - Keep your power... keep it.. don't give it away... i've been working with someone recently who just contacted his ex a few days ago on her birthday after i advised against it... and last i heard she didn't reply to his most recent message.. and it been difficult for him.. my advice is... continue on your path.. be strong and keep your power... if you guys are meant to be... it WILL happen... but for now.. you need to let go of the hope and trust in no contact as the best way to empower you and get you back on track. hope that makes sense! and if you are ever interested in coaching (sounds to me like you don't need it) but in case you do... let me know - i'm actually extremely cheap ($70 per week... for unlimited emailing and messages) just in case you need advice again in the future - but like i said - sounds like you have enough wisdom and self discipline to continue what you have been doing.
wishing you all the best bro!
+MOUTH OF THE APE
Thanks I'll keep that in mind. I did not really wanted to congratulate her but because she congratulated me I thought i should but I will keep no contact now:)
I don't need any coaching sessions at the moment, maybe if she ever decides to contact me again. Right now I can't do anything.
My relationship with my ex (6 years) was going great. Ofcourse sometimes we had some disagreements but nothing major. We did everything a couple should do and I don't think we were growing apart, still had sex, spend every day together, we even talked about marriage 1 week before she dumped me.
Then one day she tells me she's going out with friends, turns out she was going on a 'date' with a colleague. 3 days later she dumped me. My ex immediately went on 'Tinder' etc. even though she already had this dude lined up but she wasn't even sure about him. Two weeks later they are officially together and already booked a holiday together (which they went on 2 months after she dumped me). So, I'm not sure if this classifies as a rebound.
My really wanted to be my friend untill 2 months after the breakup. She wanted to hangout with me, which we did but eventually I had to break it off and continue my life without her. Ever since that she only messaged me a few times like "how are you?" etc.
It's really hard because I simply did not see it coming, even after almost 4 months I still can't find any real red flags and that she wasn't happy. Time will tell, we have to improve our lives with our without them.
Is that what is an addiction? I have been in no contact for 6 months and it still sucks. Will stay on focus. Thank you
+april G It's the mindset! What this guy is saying is that you really need to let go, so not hoping he comes back
I thought it was just me...6 months and still suffering
Sorry to hear you are suffering..break up suck, and leave u lost inside. Hang in there mathew. Time= is what make it better
april G & Matthew..a bit delayed here hope you guys are both doing better..I was feeling really terrible recently but feel so much better as if this past week..it's been 3 months since my ex broke up w me thru email..I won't get into the long drawn out details or anything but just wanted to say hope you guys are doing better & moving forward & getting stronger..much love to
you ❤️
Take control of your destiny. You are still hoping he come back because when he does YOU will take him back. You have no idea how much power u have when u say to urself. If he comes back i will not take him back!
I only want her back if she is dedicated too. She needs to come to me and take responsibility like I did. That's the only way
Spot on, I’m on the same position
It's been over a year of NC, I think it's really over.
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I believe the no contact rule is a strong rule to live by.... but there’s has to be a point where all the hard work that you’ve put into yourself must be shown to your ex. Don’t be afraid to contact them when you’re ready... if they neglect you then you’ll know to move on but if they don’t... then there’s your second chance! Your ex might be waiting for you to contact them...
@@pdx_falcon Never contact someone who dumped you that means you are giving your power to them again. If they come back never let them in your life easily punish them.
Cris Never break NC. It is for life if you were left by someone. They left you so they should reach out
i give up on my ex. 4 months nothing, we broke up 4 months ago and I went nc immediately. I tell her "I'm sorry you feel that way, I adore you and let me know if you change your mind. Nothing almost as if I died. I have gotten my dream job since, working out, new projects, investing in myself, going out with women on dates, posting on instagram etc, I think it is dead for good.
Well I'm 4 months out . And even when I'm at my peak I still feel some sort of energy that almost never goes away . I've been in no contact for 3 months and been trying to do whatever I can to make things better for myself .met women lost wieght gained muscle changed my diet done everything in my power and I have zero clue what's going on in her world and I wanna just let it go but that feeling just doesn't go away ever .
it will go away. there are some things perhaps that you haven't yet processed and digested. We tend to create a Fantasy of our Ex - and the funny thing is, they aren't that fantasy - the fantasy is a crazy story we've created based on our "dream girl" and we tend to try to use the person we date or are in relationships with to portray this fantasy. So, to cut a long story short... Realize that she's not this Fantasy Dream Girl you so much are in love with and wish for (like all of us!) instead, remember all the things that weren't so great - we tend to only remember the cute, good things as time goes by - that's why i would say the most powerful break-up tool of all is the "puke list" list of everything you can remember - no matter how small about her or the relationship that was horrible and unpleasant... Really spend time on this... and make this list - it will help you so much - it will help you see her for who she really was... and i'm sure her shit stinks just as bad as the rest of us...
Good luck - stay focused - sounds like you are doing everything right - remember Patience is a key word in all of this.. Patience and becoming aware of your Attention - and what thoughts you are placing your attention on. Make the puke list. And trust the universe is guiding you towards something far better for you.
I was in a deep sleep and woke up during your video on no contact. I tried NC with my ex but was not successful. We got back together and it was so good but really bad as well. I adore him, he is one in a million but he is still drawn to another.
When you are deeply in love It takes such inner strength to go NC but you grow a little every day. I have a higher sense of self worth now. I can see where he hasn't grown and I don't have as much respect for him now.
Joie de Vivre Morph if you did no contact and it wasn’t successful how did you get back together?
There you go. “No respect “ why don’t you respect him?
I wish to god i found this video back in may....i watched a million other videos but this one hit me bro...the way you speak is so clear and fluid and deep...my breakup was ok at first it was mutual...then i lost it after and begged her for months basically making my chance to get her back worse...then she started seeing her other ex...she said i still might have a chance if i sought help for my anxiety depression n fixed my debt which was a stressor for me...but i lost it more after i found out about the ex...i couldnt believe i still had a chance and i begged more until i broke down on her...that was it she wanted no more...it was my depression that made me weak enough to do it but whatever now its over for good...and im more depressed now....great vid bro
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ur video is motivating , even I know I don't have anymore hope.
Thank u so much. This helped confirm that I've been doing the right thing
I'm in the storm right now. It's been about a month and I've learned so much about myself that in reality this was a blessing in disguise. I miss her everyday day, but she left for a reason and that reason was for me to find myself. The pain is real. It's been 32 days of no contact, and she's now liking FB post (which I don't do often), still focusing on me but I would love to hear from her again..
The fact that it is a fix is a great reminder. I’m done done. This guy is so effed up in the head there is no chance that he will come back and no chance that we would last.
Okay, to summarize YOUR situation: She met someone else (as per what you said) and this gave her the confidence and ego boost to shut you out of her life. You eventually took the hint and went silent. What happened after that had little to do with you being silent (being in no contact), but all to do with the fact that the guy she was seeing LEFT HER (it didn't work out with them) and she reached back out to you! As simple as that. Now the question is, had you continued to try and keep in contact with her when she was with the new guy, could you have pushed her further into his arms and helped to make their relationship work? Very possible. It could have been your absence that made her WEAKER with him and ended up having her push him away, because she felt you were no longer a back up plan for her, so in that sense, YES, no contact on your part was beneficial.
Dude, I keep watching this video over and over... Crossing my fingers that my ex will come back to me. She was my everything, she was my first true love. I dated a few other girls before but this woman really had my heart. We did everything together. Vacations, road trips, holidays, ect. Two years and 4 months, never did I ever think she would leave me. I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and the final week we were together, my depression hit hard and I acted like I didn't even love her, it hit me so hard. Ya know, I took her for granted, the last month or two I got lazy and didn't come and see her much. Also, she was friend with one of my Ex's that cheated on me back in the day and I was such a dick to refuse going out with her because my Ex was going. I should have put those stupid grudges behind me and spent my precious time with the woman I loved. Doing that stuff just pushed her away and I didn't even realize, I was being selfish and I regret it.
She broke up with me and I begged, I cried, and I pleaded. I was devastated and I still am. Like a week and a half later she started dating her male best friend and that was like having my heart curb stomped. I fucked up even more and told her that I felt like thrown away trash and I couldn't believe that she would give up on me so easily. That only pissed her off even more, because of my frantic explosions of emotions. I realized that she tried to save us in those final days and I couldn't have said anything worse. I told her that I couldn't be friends with her because I still have heavy feelings for her and just being her friend would hurt too much, I told her that if she ever changes her mind, I'll be there waiting because I love her with all of my heart. After that I haven't talked to her since then.
Even in the period of me not talking to her I still fucked up, I wrote a huge thing about how we first met and how we had a huge crush on each other though our entire high school years, I posted it on all my social media. Well, she could only see it on my tumblr because I had to delete her off of facebook, seeing her in a relationship with someone else was just to painful keep her on there. Well, along with posting those to fb and tumblr, I posted one of our old pictures together on instagram with a link to the text post. I was sad I didn't even realize how bad of an idea that was. She stopped following me on insta and I did the same to her but I think one of her friends told her about my post. I'm pretty sure I pissed her off even more with that because she commented say that it was inappropriate to post that and it was uncool to do so, then asking me to take it down. So I did, but not really talking to her in the process though, I'm still sure that was breaking the no contact, I have no idea if she read the story I put up.
In all, it's been about three weeks since I haven't talked to her or seen her and my life has been a living hell. Sitting there hoping for a text, a call, anything. I wake up 2-3 times a night., I haven't been eating regularly, and breaking down into panic attacks that last for hours. I wish I could just rewind time and fixed myself before she left, the love of my life gone. We have spent so much time together and bonded with each other so well, I hope she will come back to me and let me try again. Ever since she left, my life has just been falling apart.
+Skullheart remember dude - bro - let me start by giving you some golden advice that was given to me that is 100% true - People Forget - so, don't worry about all the shit you did... as of today - you are a changed man - now stay true to it - i did all the same shit you did... but then i put all my energy into being disciplined and focusing on me... and then teh tables turned and now she's the one begging me still.. a year and a half later -
the key is to let go and move on... if you're crossing your fingers and hoping and wanting... i just don't think you're gonna get anywhere bro.. like like as i say in my video.. you're attention towards her will just keep her energized and happy... but as soon as you start turning that attention away from her.. and on to you... it's weird but as with my experience and many other out there.. seems like they can suddenly sense that lack.. and it can be incredible how the tables can turn...
focus on you bro - and watch the new video i am just about to upload about Roots... i think i'm gonna call it Quick Tip on difficult break-up (not the one i have already posted) it should be online in a few hours! i think it might help.
sending you all the best bro.
+MOUTH OF THE APE Thanks man, I'm trying so hard right now. I never thought I would have to go through something so hard in my life.
Thank you for the positive energy, it really means a lot.
+Skullheart don't mention it bro - all this will be behind you some day... trust me... and you'll feel so awesome :) it just takes time - watch the new video i posted czcams.com/video/1VZner2zh0o/video.html which talks about how we grow roots into other people and it just takes time to heal.. time and the right environment... (in other words the right friends, people, food, activities, place to live etc etc etc)
did you guys ever reconcile?
I read your story 3 years later (that makes me sound like a time traveller lol!), I’m going through breakup from hell. She’s left me for a new life after 11 years. How did your story pan out?
finally someone who speaks to, and talks like the average guy!! i can understand and relate to this guy👍
I've been watching a lot of your videos ever since my ex broke up with me. I've done all that self loving stuff, improving myself and becoming a better me while going through no contact. Guess what? She came back about one month ago (broke up 5 months ago), she regrets her decision breaking up with me and now wants me back. I dont know what to do with this because she broke up with me for a good reason and I dont think that its very smart to get back together. Difficult stuff this thing called life.
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This makes so much sense now. You're right, its an addiction for me so now I have to find something else to focus on
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hey man you really helped me out that was exactly what I needed to hear thank you !!
+Alicia Armijo glad it helped bro :)
Awesome advice man..
My ex doesn't quite get it.. she has 2 young kids and I was prepared to be with her and her kids but she doesn't realise what she's doing by giving me the arse ..
not many males would've been prepared to do what I was . But it's over so I need to move forward . She had her chance
Same exact situation!!!!
yo ape i really just have to say how grateful i am for your videos man. Ive been working through this for a year now im so much better than i was, but its still really hard at times. I always come back to these videos to help get me through
The pain in his voice
Excellent advice my man.I hope that all works for you in your future. I appreciate you sharing your story....sorry ot didn't work out.
thanks man this video was really helpful. Me and my first love just broke up after a year and a half of dating. It pulls on my heart like nothing else. for the first few days I couldn't help but text her and tell her im going to change my life and prove to her i can make this work. But now its been 3 days , and now I'm already starting to notice its helping. She looks at all my snapchat stories. I'm starting to work out more, focus on my hobbies, I quit smoking, I've even started seeing a counselor to help with my anger issues that were one of the main issues in our relationship. I want this girl back, lets just hope ive got a shot.
Tyler Kramer i'm going through the same thing. She told me I'm unmotivated. I started going to the gym, i will start guitar lessons next week and planning on going back to school. She looks at my instagram stories. This is my 2nd day going no contact. She broke up with me on July but we started reconnecting in Sept. again I got complacent. So this time i will make sure to achieve my goals
You have a lovely soft spoken voice, i could listen to you all night totally ASMR Lol :)
Exactly 3 months NC. No contact from him....
Sometimes you don’t desire or obsess over the person; it’s the hurt that came from
Betrayal that you’re grieving over especially if the end of the relationship was sudden (discard) and a third party was involved. You’re every waking moment is spent trying to heal and move forward..
Thank you for sharing this genuine experience of yours. It helps ❤️
Some people are narcissist and have abusive tendencies and control issues. When you go no contact for safety reasons , and no one should be commanded to abandon their friends and family just for the narcissist. When you go no contact , hoping they will get professional help , then maybe things can work out , but they refuse to , and say You're the one with the problem , you are better off without them.
very great and truly honest video. I'm going through the second break up with my girlfriend and its far worse than the first because now she admitted to me that she likes another man. We've been dating for 8 years and I'm only 28 so we spend a huge part of our lifes together. The situation is super weird because yes, I crave her like a drug and am suffering. But also my life has become so much better in these 4 weeks we have been apart. We never ever had a fight which is crazy and I feel like my situation was the opposite of yours because argueing isnt a bad thing in general. Basically I had no clue what was going wrong until it all burst out of her and she broke up with me. I have no clue if its a good idea to try and get her back but to be honest I feel like she is far out of my league actually. She is everything where I'm bad at and I am very good at the things she is bad at and I feel like we could work out really well if we just focused on communication and if I appretiated her more but maybe I'm just naive. Its such an odd situation but I feel like I would never find a girl like her again, only now do I realize all the good parts of her. Really no clue what to do. Anyways thank you for the video, its one of the few honest and real once out there because all others about that topic just want to sell you their bullshit guides. ha Take care and keep on making great videos !
+blafuckyou focus on you bro - it's time to strengthen your relationship with yourself - it won't be easy after having spent so much time together - but even if you are in a relationship - for it to be healthy, you have to have your own interests, goals and focus on yourself - i want you to also read that post you wrote above again - and this time highlight in your mind the parts that indicate negative self talk or negative self beliefs - these thoughts and beliefs do not help in any way - and i recommend that you start paying closer attention to the thoughts and beliefs you have - they might be holding you back - it was certainly the case for me and i know that it is certainly teh case for most humans - and that is why journalling helps too - you can spot where you might be thinking more negatively and perhaps start to re-condition your mind to start focusing more on positives - and to take a break from negative thinking and putting yourself down... for example.. in your post above you said :
"to be honest I feel like she is far out of my league actually."
so, this is a negative thought - and when journalling you would treat it like this:
Negative thought 1
"I feel like she is far out of my league actually."
Does this thought help me in life?
No
Positive Counter Balances
1. my focus is not on her and whether i measure up to her - i focus on myself and being the best i can be - and that is all i need to focus on in order for my heart and life to become full of happiness and vitality.
2. The only person who's opinion of me matters is ME - and i choose to love and adore everything about myself - my imperfections and my perfections make me uniquely ME - there is no one else i would rather be - and i am so grateful for all i have, all i have experienced and teh beautiful journey that lies ahead. I am grateful for feeling more empowered and more alive each day - more free and more in control of my future :)
3. i know that my potential is infinite and as i grow stronger, wiser and give myself more focus and love - i grow more and more confident and attractive and comfortable with myself - and this confidence beams.. and my presence is all that is needed when i go out into the world... my happiness and my comfort and my love for life will be sensed and i will be more attractive than ever not just to the opposite sex - but to all people - most importantly to myself - i love myself and i am so grateful for being ME :)
ok - so that's just off the top of my head - but yoru counter arguments will be more specific and more tailored to yourself.
every day try to write 3 negative thoughts that you manage to be aware of - and treat them in teh same way i have done above - if you can do this at least 4 days in a week - you will start re-conditioning your mind to be stronger -more confident - more loving of yourself and more positive.
Also - start your day and just before bed write down 3 things you are grateful for.
and keep watching my videos ;) haha
sending you all the best!
APE :)
Thank you very much. It truly helps. Today I received a devastating message by my ex, basically a few months ago we were talking about getting kids and stuff and now she just sent me an icecold message about who gets what and when I have to be completely out of our appartment (which I havent seen in the past 5 weeks, because I have been living on friend's couches). Its absolutely crazy how she apparently doesnt feel a thing for me anymore. I'm sure she is already seeing the guy she left me for and it absolutely breaks my heart because I was 100% sure that she was the woman of my life. As insane as it sounds, I still want her back. But anyways, thank you for reaching out to a stranger. It's rare these days.
Hello from Russian Federation ! And Thnak You for this video !
This is one of the moust important videos I'v ever watched in my life !
I was able to retourn my ex girlfriend for second time !
First time after break up It tooked me 7 weeks ... We was together for 2 months and again break up ( but tihs time it was differnet, not just like 1st time ) !
And now I got her back agiain after 4 weeks. But this time I'm #1 FAN of my self ... And things seems different ! Not like it was before !
I went on a date with another woman and low and behold my ex was in touch with me that very same night!
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I'm using my period of no contact for self examination and self improvement. It is very difficult to resist the temptation of texting or calling my ex but at this point it would do more harm than good.
Laughing? She was LAUGHING when she broke (up with) you? Dude, you should not have taken her back. Ever. Have you broken up again since then? (first video of yours I've seen) If you have, be sure it STAYS that way this time around
QuartuvLarry exactly! So cruel
Thank you so much I appreciate all the energy I definitely need it and I'm definitely trying to put some great energy out I'm definitely using a lot of steps that you have taken journaling going to see a psych in about a week working on myself betteren myself cutting all contact I have good days and bad days but starting to have more good than bad I definitely appreciate all the advice and encouragement there's so many similarities to the way you felt and the way that I'm feeling it was incredible when I watched your video and felt like I was going through the exact same feelings it made me feel less alone so thank you so much for doing what you do I feel like the universe test me every so often and everyday I'm basically preparing for those tests I've definitely lost all hope but still tend to think about her so often I know it will get less and less but the struggle is real lol thank you again
+joaquin varela Hey man, sorry for taking so long to reply - I appreciate your comment and your positive words... stay strong and continue to focus on your journey and setting awesome goals in life - there's so much about life that is amazing.. we just need to continue to keep our focus trained on what energizes us... and not what drains us - sending you love and all the best!
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I hear what your saying bro, and I feel people’s energy, vibes, etc, but if my gut spoke to me I know it’s more than addiction
It is only adiction when you dont cotroll it i think. I was so in love i tought it only could go right. After 6 years zac single.
And looking at the world and just realized that i lifed in a bubble. Now i try to look at the world different. Its Me alone on this World, who like to join mi path and walk on my side should come but now i know soon or late they will leave my path. If its parents family partners workmates. You can be 100% sure in the end you will die with you on your side.
Im on the way to get there, its frightening to think but when your there its the higeest state of life i think.
Hey there! I'm writing from Brazil. I have to say that I loved your video. Well, let me share a little bit of my story... I dated a younger guy from August 2011 to February 2015... we dated for 3.5 years and even though he was younger, his mind was older than mine... I mean, I was the "little girl" and he was the "man"... Well, we had our bad moments, but we always had a great time and we used to talk about our problems without figthing. I was (am) so in love with him... One day after my birthday he came to my house and said that he wanted to break up because he felt like he wasn't what I wanted... He said that I always felt sad because of some things that he DIDN'T do and he always felt helpless to see that HE was the cause of my sadness... The problem is that, for me being older, I think he was ashamed and never introduced me to his friends and I always questioned that... Anyway, we broke up, and I did all the things that people say not to do: I cried, begged, looked needy... but HE always kept contact with me... For 5 - 6 months we talked regularly through facebook. He came to my house twice and we kissed. He said the had thought about coming back to me but that he felt that it was not the right time for that... once again I cried, begged, etc... About 3 weeks ago I saw a picture of him with a girl and his friends. I got so mad and texted him asking if he was dating that girl. He said he went out with her twice and he apologized because she had met his friends and I never did. He said he felt terrible doing that, like he was disrespecting me and apologized for being such a "child". I said that his problem was that he was ashamed of me being older (he denied it all the time)... I told him I didn't want to talk to him, I was going to block him on facebook and he panicked. He started crying asking me not to do that, but I deleted my facebook account (for a few days)... I tried no contact with him but on the 13th day I texted him saying I had to take this time to cool down and to put myself together. I said I didn't hate him and if he was dating this girl, that I wished him all the happiness. He was really relieved and he tried to start a casual conversation with me about everyday stuff... I just said: good night and then I REALLY started no contact. That was on July 26. I deleted my fb account for good now, I opened a new profile and I closed all the information about me. I mean, only people who I add can see what I post. If you go to my profile now you won't be able to see ANYTHING!!! I know he still likes me a lot (I don't know if he loves me)... I've been working a lot, going out with friends, vlogging (I also have a yt channel)... do you think this no contact will work for me? He's a lot younger... I don't know if he still wants a relationship with me or if he wants to date younger girls... Please reply me! Thanks for your video!
Katynha Santos hi and sorry for the delay to write back. yes of course No Contact will help... it is hard for the first 2-3 months.. but you will be very happy that you did it - right now - your life and mind is a slave to this guy... Like a drug... like Cocaine or Heroine... or Cigarettes... You NEED and crave contact for him... because your mind believes connection with him will bring you happiness... but... remember... like a drug... the happiness will be very short.. and fast... and then you will be in more pain than before....
you are doing the right thing now - to focus on yourself.. and regain strength and love for your own life.. Self Love for yourself :)
Stay on this path - when you think of him - dont worry - it is natural! but then try to put your mind on other things...
remember - it will hurt, it will be hard.. it will not be easy... but now is your chance to fall in love with yourself.. and fall in love with Life again - and i promise if you can be strong and do no contact for 6 months.... life is going to change for you very much - colors will be clearer.. smells will smell better... and your world will not be so foggy and blurry... because your focus will be back on YOU.. just like when you were a kid... and you will not be LOST in a storm of thoughts and caring so much about someone else...
True love starts with loving yourself... and when you do this you will energize yourself.. and then be able to share love with others... Rather than NEEDING the Attention and love of others to make you happy.
Sending you love and prayers.. and good luck!
:)
Thank you SO MUCH for your reply!!! It came in a great time because I was ALMOST contacting him... Yes, it is very hard!!! But I'll do it! I'm focusing on myself now, I've been losing weight and I really want to look really good when he eventually sees me. Thank you very much!!!! Lots of love from Brazil! :D
i know how hard this is - but do whatever it takes to avoid contacting him - if you contact him.. you will give him power.. and energy.. and it will be unattractive... trust me - guys like to chase... when we are being chased... we loose attraction... be strong and focus on you - that is great you are losing weight and getting in shape... let him the fuel for that change BUT do it for yourself! ;) and for all the new people youw ill meet - If he is meant to be in your life - then he will come back and contact you - if you love that person, just let them be.. and if they come back.. then it was meant to be... but for now - work hard and focus on yourself... remember.. if you contact him.. you will give him power and strength.. and make yourself weaker and more needy. be strong! we are all in the same boat! you can do this! ;)
MOUTH OF THE APE trust me! I'm stronger than I imagine!!! I WILL do it!!! I deserve the best and I DO love myself!!! You said something totally right: if I contact him, I lose the control of the situation... And right now I need to be in charge of my life! Thanks once again! You're awesome! :D
You weren't capable of being with her. But I can do this. I have a strong mind and a big heart. Educate yourself friend
This was comforting my wife of 12 years left me for another man for the second time.
Wow, i am really impressed by your msg, very powerful, sincere and coming direct from the heart, RESPECT....
Hey APE, I found your video to be awkward, funny, sincere, comforting and point on... all at the same time, haha. I haven't watched your other video yet but oddly can't wait to... after I jot this shit down of course. Though your "no contact" advice seems sound, I don't know how it would work for me. I'm married to my "ex", for now but she's already moved in with another dude. Let me back track a little bit. We've been married for about 8 years now. We pretty much got hit by the seven year itch last year and separated. She asked me to move out of the house to take some time apart and perhaps rekindle things. That was about a year ago and I've been so God damn busy with full time school, part time work, taking care of my decrepit dad and trying to spend whatever time I had left with my three kids( two of which are hers but they call me dad and I feel like they're mine) that I had no time for her. Six months ago she told me she started TALKING to a guy but he didn't seem that much into her so I didn't think too much of it. Anyways, a couple weeks ago I realized how much I missed her, that things weren't going anywhere and I wanted my family back. So I made a big push to get her back. She kept shooting me down over and over to the point I was like, " what are you fucking this guy you were talking about or something?" and she said yes. I naturally broke contact the best I could and really only because I was sooo God damn hurt but with the swapping of kids in the mix, you can only do so much. THEN, from that time until now, she has moved herself AND my kids into a new house(rental) with this guy and HIS three kids without telling me! Actually, she told me as they were moving in a couple days ago. I've been fighting with her since then trying to convince her to step back and look at the potential problems she's creating for our kids but she won't pull out. She SAYS she wants to maintain a friendly relationship for the kids but I feel like she has thrown that option out the window herself. Anyways, she says she's always crying about our situation on the way to work and back and she cries on the phone too while I'm arguing with her about WTF she's doing to us and the kids. None the less, she won't back off this dude's cock! TBH with you, I dont know why the hell I can't kick this fuck face to the curb. I should be able to but I can't. I still love her. I miss her and I want her back despite the burning coal pit shes drug me through. Something tells me she's about to break but I dont know. I guess my question is how would braking contact work for me? I'm going to have to potentially see her twice a week swapping our bio daughter and sometimes her kids(she lets me see them too but they only know me as their dad for gods sake) but most the time we just stay in our cars while the kids run into the others house. I've been going through some major self improvement. I lost 40 - 50 lbs since we separated and recently started boxing classes with her/my son. I haven't been the greatest dad towards him. He's always been a problem child but this life changing event has really brought us close together. Though it's been hard as fuck to concentrate through this semester, I'm pushing through school, still hitting the gym, and maintaining work. I actually stay busy as fuck which probably really helps but its those small windows I have time to think that put me in that hurricane you talk about. This may be out of your realm but i'm curious what you have to say...
sorry I wrote so much but it feels good to write and get this crap off my chest.
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yeah, she broke up with me late January. I doubt she's coming back. I fell for the liking my new facebook profile photos and got false hope lol. She's completely gone though we're FB friends. I've gotta move on somehow.
I'm doing 100% no contact. Found out this week that ex (he is the dumper) is tracking me on fb via friends. I am hoping he loses interest soon.
it's my current situation but when posted a story bout my crush she finally replied whoa!dude thanks for these tips
Why would I want your ex back?! Mine was complete douche bag, and I'd never take him back.
thank you I've been through this with the same person for 8 years we have two kids together and we constantly get back together then off again. it's awful
lmao but what if we were together for a month? we broke up bc she lost feelings, said it all went too fast and that now she has to focus on herself... idk if no contacting would mean she would think abt me, bc she talks to all of her other exes and thats why i feel like talking to her is good... but i honestly dont know, i love her more than before and i wish i knew if she will be mine again or not so i could just prepare. but there is no way to do that so.. she said she needs time for herself but im honestly scared how much time that is and if she will remember me after all of it.. advice mby?
I know how you feel right now. Comparing it to a hurricane is great. I'm on week 2 of No Contact and its still killing me. I'm using the 3 things I love the most to help get her off my mind but somehow she finds a way to enter my head. We both share the same friends and they're all on my side. But it still hurts, but I agree they are like a drug. A very strong drug. I have 1 of theories as to why this happened. And right now I really feel (out of everything I've seen online), I feel like I was the right person at the wrong time... Most people say the first one is always the hardest to get over but this one is much much worst.
There was this girl who showed me love and made me asking her out only to leave me after one week and running after me for next 6 years,didn't give a fuck even am sensitive can't be able to love someone truly in one week,the second one was real though, made me suffer like he'll during 3 months but she came back after 2 years to run away with me,didnt have any feelings left for her,the third one is real too,and she started acting weird,breaking up ,coming back, so I had to break up with her, now going through the he'll again,following the no contact rule only to move on not to get back together,am better off alone,ur videos are of great help man,ur videos r like the sunrise to me when going through the he'll on earth
I am going through the exact pain that you were!! I begged and pleaded with no response. I felt that I wasn't a priority and gave her an ultimatum. Either she was 100% invested and wasn't playing games anymore, or I was out. I went totally no contact and I haven't heard anything from her in a month and a week. I have been working on myself and am feeling better but I still have really bad days Yes, it is an addiction!!!! Do you think my ex will contact me even out of curiosity??!! I value your opinion. I am hoping to be over her if she does !!!
Sorry for the long comment coming up, so i was with my girl for about 2 years and like 8 months it was a really great time when we started of i was this kid of 16 (pretty mature for my age but still) and she a young woman allready 20 years old we jumped a little hasty in a relationship but we made it work, so with us both being in different parts of our lives things were always a little strange but even still we made it work she loved me she invested time in me and showed a lot of effort, me being younger than her and not her first lover made me feel really insecure and jealous but in time i really started to trust her and started to believe that i could make the fairy tale come true and that my first serious girl would be the one i would marry and spend the rest of my life with naive right? but yeah as i grew more trusting towards her i started slacking i quit my job for different reasons i flunked school and i just wasnt really growing in independance and my place in the future nevertheless she still wanted to make it work and me too we communicated a lot and talked about how we would get trough the rough phases in our lives(she had some things going on too) she really bonded with me and really wanted to spend all her time with me but me being a young man wanted to do other things too i never really went out she liked it but i didnt and at some point things were like messed up we were both in a stuck phase in oure lives but everytime we got together things were allright because we were in love but yeah in the last 8 months of our relationship things took a turn for the worst it wasnt all bad we had some very good times in those 8 months but my ex got really frustrated with her home situation because she wanted to move out but just couldnt because of some anxiety's and financial problems as that frustration grew she also started expecting more from me she wanted me to show her my appreciation and i tried alot did some good did some bad but we still communicated alot and got trough it because she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me but in the last 2 months of our relationship things got bad we broke up like 3 times just small things tough we kept coming back to eachother the next day i went to her house and stayed there for like 2 weeks because i tought we needed some time together we had a fight because youknow i wasnt really putting in enough effort for her feelings and she asked me when i was going home i told her to think about this and what she wanted for the both of us she told me perhaps its better that we break up i went home didnt speak to her for 5 days called her and she told me she was done she turned into this super icy being that couldnt care less about me, told me she was having fun and it killed me i texted her crazy saying we talked about this this is a bad phase we will get trough this like many other things we have but no interest she wanted to move on and didnt want something in a week a month or a year she was done with me she blocked me on whatsapp facebook instagram tumblr everything she completely shut me out i sent her flowers a letter and a photo of us she called me freaking out because i didnt leave her alone (oke i was kind of throwing myself at her wich isnt attractive but i just didnt wanted it to end this way) i got discouraged left her alone for about 4 5 days while still checking her shit trough mutual friends then i got another rush of courage i said to myself i needed to put in more work if you really want her work for her like she worked for you all that time i went to her house confronted her said i was going to fight show her that i could be more and in the end she gave me the same response (but the bear i got her for her birthday still layed beside her bed) even so i started to realize that i was pushing her away and even her mother whom i am really cool with till this day told me to give her rest i did and we have spoken once on the phone since then to clear our last fight out but still she wants to move on, now im trying to get a job and get my act together go to the gym and stuff, she still has me blocked and i saw she added this dude on facebook which she used to date for like a year is liking his photos and shit, but she doesnt know i can see that or she does idk, he isnt any good for her she knows that but even so she's been quitte active on whatsapp and liking his stuff so i guess they are talking now, i was wondering why she got over me so fast(which probably is the case if i should believe her and her actions) and yeah hes most likely comforting her and making it easyer for her even so weve been trough so much and i cant understand things are going this way i feel powerless and humiliated and dissapointed in her, i know i had my doing in this but we got trough a lot of stuff on her side too now she is 23 and in a month and a half im turning 19 its been quitte the ride but it seems like shit is going to end so shitty i know i have to work on myself but my emotions are clouding my mind thinking about worst case scenarios about her and the guy and youknow the drill, i just dont know at this point sorry for the epic long comment but yeah cant really sum up almost 3 years so fast but i cant understand she always was so clingy(not the anoying kind) and so enthousiastic to be with me that i cant understand how she can be like this it has almost been a month now and she hasnt contacted me once idunno man i really dont know at this point i know i can get over her at some point becuz time heals all right but shit i just feel soooo shitty that its going this way and that beautifull thing we had is ending this way and she is moving on so easily, becuz we were some soulmates man we filled eachothers gaps we had same interest apart from the going out to clubs thing but shit man i just dont know my i really don't...... great vid really helped me get down to earth for a moment but the emotions and memories keep coming back sorry about my english but yeah it will be a fine ass birthday and new year seeing how it goes still cant comprehend this iknow you can probably picture it becus im just a young man and your probably older than me but she REALLY REALLY loved me man and that makes this shit so much harder to understand the stuff with the other guy too but yeah don't know what im asking of you here but yoy know what its like right?
allright thanks for the vid keep up the work you really got to me man.
After 4 months that's amazing man....I also thought Treitan Mellory’s Simple Paper was crazy Psychobabble, then after a few drinks with friends and finding myself alone, I joked about it and followed the steps…, and BAM! we’re back together :|
Thanks for ur good advice, i try to do it" no contact" method as i can...I've been search a lot but this video makes my mind better to" move on". Im tired to begging him period.
Get a new woman, and do not go visit your kids if you have kids, just left them totally. That's the way to go. Worked for me
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Once you outwait getting your fix by your ex the problem is than you probably don't want them anymore or the relationship breaks apart again. I go through extreme withdrawal throughout the past nearly 4 months. Too long story to tell except that it is hell if the ex gives you hope. Yes it truly is an addiction. Actually when I take opiate pain killers the feeling fades. true proof it's the opiate receptors. Would love to ever chat with you
How will you be able to stay with someone who laughed at your misery? Id have a tough time coming back from that.
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If having contact with someone makes it harder to get over them how can no contact help them want you back?
the dumper lets go easier by staying in contact while its the opposite for the dumpee
NC allows both time to heal and forget negative memories and clear their minds while also allowing the dumper to miss the dumpee
thank you bro I'm going threw a break up now and its been months and its hard but your video helped me a lot thank you
I love this dude!! Speaks the truth i messed up today and contacted her after 3 weeks of no contact and she was cold and heartless I needed my “fix”! We have each other blocked on everything but I still check her Facebook everyday to see if she’s in a relationship or changes her profile to her and a guy. Would have been 4 years 11/22. Now I feel broken again cuz I got rejected and I got to start all over again☹️ I just got to fill the hole that she left with something so going to start going to the gym and maybe meet new people. Push her to the back or my mind. Think about her everyday thou...
I know how you feel 3 1/2 months since we broke up not a word from her killing me
you are sooooo correct about the energy!!! that is absolute truth!!! that has always been the case. and its happened to me on many occasions throughout my life
I only unfollowed her from instagram and twitter, should I block her as well? I've been in No Contact for 5 days and yesterday she checked my instagram story
Thank you for your kind words. Good luck
Thanks bro! These tips are amazing!
please do another video about how to get back after 5 months.. im in a long distance right know but i really want to know how ur new video about this topic gonna be what experience did u get and what should we do i love ur videos because ur the only one that speaking honestly and trying to help people.. Thank you very much bro :)
I’m not going back!!!!!
hey man thank you for posting this video. since my breakup over a week ago I have been in pure misery and pain. I've started doing a lot of research and the points you made in the video make a lot of sense. I have been going strong with the no contact for a week now but it is so so hard sometimes. how did you fight the urges to send a quick text just to hear from your ex? that seems to be my biggest struggle right now. the unknown of if she will ever miss me enough to contact me like I miss her ... we were together for 3 years BTW and she moved out all the sudden said she needed space. any advice you can give would be appreciated.
+Cory H it is hard - and it will be hard - but you are stronger and you will over come - remember - you are not alone - i have been there and a lot of us are going through it as well - all in our unique way... it is hard - it hurts... but you will find out very quickly what hurts more is when you break contact - and leak more power away - now is a time to build a wall around you - not only to keep bad info from coming in - but to prevent your power and energy from leaking out - this wall will have a security checkpoint - and only things that serve you - energize you life you up will be allowed in.... and only things you no longer need.. that are old - that keep you down.. that hurt you - will be released - and you will be strong - and keep this will - like a cast over a broken arm.. until you start healing - and you WILL start healing - but it will take strength each day - every step - but know that you are not walking alone - we are all on this journey - on this path together... and whenever you feel like you are going to break... watch a good video - read something powerful.. and keep your mind in the right place - and let time do the rest - have faith that you ahve angels guiding and protecting you - dont ever forget about them - and have faith that all this is happening for your best interest - even if it may not seem that way.
sending you power - energy and all the best - APE
Thank you MOUTH OF THE APE for your quick and heartfelt response. I am just worried that as stubborn as she is, her pride will keep her from contacting me. I feel like I need some closure but am ok with waiting 30 days to let things cool down. I just wonder if she has any idea how badly this has messed me up? Is it effecting her the same way?? I guess time will tell. Thankyou again for the kind words and advice. I've had nobody to talk to about this so it feels great to get it out there and hear some feedback. Keep doing what you do, your videos are touching a lot of people in a positive way. What a great energy you are putting out there for the rest of us to feed off of. Blessings
😭3rd day of no Contact, I blocked him on instagram, I deactivated my fb acct. and I just change my settings on whatsapp so that he won't see me when was the last time I was online. urghhh! 😭
Wish my ex would reach out but she seems to be doing fine, I’m thinking about just not posting or anything, I’m working on myself and I’m doing great, I’ll give myself another month and I’ll be over it. I just want to move on
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I appreciate your insight. Thank you for the video.
Wonderful video
Thank you. I feel your pain. Are u still in Thailand
Just wanted your advice on what to do after the 30 day no contact period? Do you contact ex with a casual text to say hi? What's the approach? Do you meet up for coffee?
+Catesbysrevenge imo i don't think 30 days is enough - break-ups are hard.. and it takes time to heal and re-focus on you - ask yourself, what is your goal with messaging after 30 days? are you trying to get your ex back? or trying to build a friendship - again - i think for either 30 days is still just unrealistic - you're bound to have some deep emotional connection lingering - and it's important to fully heal before contacting - plus - i believe it's important to let them be the ones to contact... that's just my opinion... you should be focusing on you - when you contact them, you give your power away to them... let them power you up by contacting you - and if they don't - maybe that's a sign that they may not really be worth your time... if they care about you and want some kind of relationship - they will contact you at some point - and if they don't - do you really want this person in your life? any relationship... whether it's romantic, or just friends... even business relationships... should work both ways - it can't just be one person working to keep it strong...
to wrap up - i personally don't believe 30 days is enough if you were in a relationship of 6 months or longer - i think at least 3 months of no contact and ideally 6 months - is truly effective for healing and for re-gaining your focus and power again - remember what this is all about is turning you from a slave, back into the master of your own life - and it's that transformation that makes you so attractive and gets them chasing you again - and during that time, they may well contact you - and if they do.. always reply with less than what they give you... it's about keeping your focus on yourself.. that's the hard part - but very doable - YOU should be the most important, exciting and attractive person in your life.. don't make your Ex more important than you - and the chances are, he or she is probably way more important to you in your mind at the moment than yourself... and that's what you need to change.
i'm still in SE ASIA - in Bali now... may head to thailand again soon :)
sending you all the best!
try to focus on you and forget they even exist... for at least 3 months...
but ideally 6 - and then after that period of time has passed - if you still feel like contact them - sure... nothing wrong with a simple short text or email to say - hey whats' up.. how's things? but focus on keeping it as friends only...
YOU should be the most important person in your life :) fall in love with yourself.
+MOUTH OF THE APE thanks man
I'm not sure I want her back. It's been just over a month. I'm bearing up ok. Your vids are fabulous and have helped me. I can't thank you enough
Hey Ape, thanks for the video! its awesome advice ... how do you feel about the NC rule for 30-45 days and then trying to get her back through texting, coffee dates, etc ... I read about that tactic all over the internet. If you really feel like things can work out, do you think its a good idea? ...
If Jlo & Ben Affleck can get back together so can anyone of us with our ex.
Your a good guy man Thx for your video
It's a cool story and I commend you on your serious honesty and introspection. You're a very deep and intelligent individual, but the reality is, you got lucky. Most ex's (dumpers) do not come back on their own and if they do it can be years later and even then the chance of that happening is slim to none. I do believe in no contact (NC) for a time being, to level out the playing field between the 2 parties in question (dumper and dumpee), however, if the attraction was gone (loss of respect for you) and if you pleaded and begged and bombarded them with needy and insecure attention for a prolonged period, they will NOT come back on their own in 4 months. It's never happened to me (I'm 40 now). I HAVE gotten back ex's in the past, but it was always by my reaching out after a period of no contact, or limited contact and then just outright seducing them (re-creating their attraction for me) in an indirect and non-threatening manner. I think your video will give people a lot of false hope, because most ex's do NOT come back on their own unless given a little nudge in the right way after you've pulled back for a bit. As for it not working out the second time, it could be because either she never worked on herself, or you unfortunately lost yourself again in her, or resented her for leaving you.
I am so glad you got over her!!!! Happy happy!!!!
Thanks for the video mate. Just went no contact!
I just want 2 erase my exes from my memory like Joel in Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind
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