I only have unfiltered photos... I have been yelled at by men stating I catfish them because I'm better looking in person. It's how I found out I'm just not photogenic lol
Girl same. My pics look crazy and I don’t even care. I just don’t know how to pose like the girlies do. I try to learn but it is just not working. But it’s good because I will never be accused of catfishing or filter fishing.
Awww I feel so sorry for her… but she shouldn’t have even came on camera with the hat and not fixed up. She should have fixed herself up to get on camera at any time.
I didn't want to say she catfished him because I felt she did something lighter than that. Like the way a Big Mac in a commercial don't look nothing like a real Big Mac. It was misleading, but not catfish levels of misleading. But then the chick said "filter fish" and now I have a word for it. She filter fished him.
I’m convinced a lot of ppl don’t have friends irl bc why do they keep getting on the internet telling strangers their embarrassing business that nobody asked for 🤦🏽♀️
Validation. As someone who doesn't have friends irl (*and doesn't want them either because people are fake and they're trash*), I think people are looking for validation of some kind, maybe.
@@marissa._ I don’t know how a catfish story would somehow give anybody any kind of validation. Seems like they would need therapy then, not social media.
Could be, or maybe everybody irl was calling her out, instead of enabling her bs. Although I'm confused AF on why her sister was giving her money, unless it was emergency taxi money if the date went wrong, and she was short that week.
That’s why I stopped using filters years ago, it doesn’t help body dysmorphia whatsoever. Now, my body dysmorphia is gone and my self love has increased.
I understand why he was mad, it was wrong what she did to that man. Be yourself, it is either the man want to date you or not. Everyone should put their best foot forward but people should be able to recognize you in person.
@@videofan1010but why? He’s wasting his time. If she’s going to put out pictures like that then she should put more effort into her appearance to keep up. If you just want to hook people off of a fake you, don’t be upset when you show the real you. If girls are able to leave when they find out their dates are too broke to pay for their dinner, then guys should be able to leave when they find out their date doesn’t look like their date.
@@biblethumper8088she does look different. Her skin looks smoother/brighter, she has a jaw, her face looks slimmer, her eyes seem more enhanced. Maybe you’re just too used to instagram photos and Snapchat filters to tell the difference between how someone looks with and without those things. She looks similar, but different. She should use her natural photos and maybe some good lighting. Not some blurred beauty filter mess. She isn’t ugly, she’s just changing herself and attracting the wrong type of men who only go for women who look like how she looks with a filter on.
Yes but they don’t want women to value looks at all and that’s a problem. Too many unattractive men out here are telling women that they are visual…. CATCH IT
I think she’s naive and maybe a bit socially akward. She reminds me of really nice awkward girls from high school who just needs a good group of girls to take her under their wing and help her get ready for dates. I don’t think she did this maliciously.
Yes you are correct but that angle doesn't make someone look 30 to 40 lbs heavier. Tia is still lieing bec she doesn't have the same hairstyle. She has 2 week old braids & she doesn't have breast size in that date photo. She much heavier & she could of been honest about it.
She strikes me as someone who may be a little socially awkward. I don’t think she meant to catfish anyone. I hate that there is so little compassion for her especially as BW. Let’s do better please.
@@TinkOutLoud To an extent yes most people including myself takes pictures and videos in makeup but to me if I'm going on a date I'm going to try to look just as good if I go on a date and I'm not hiding my weight. I have pictures of my full body. This lady took a picture when she looked 50 pounds lighter and is now acting like she wasn't being deceitful.
She catfished… socially awkward or not. So is this good behavior to be rewarded? She got a good free meal. She should NOT have come online after. I once went on a date & the man looked nothing like his picture.. you know what I did? I told him absolutely NOT going on with date & drove home. The problem with our present society is there a lot of genuine people but there’s also a lot of women that just hoping to benefit from the “men are awful” gravy train. Yes men are awful but there’s many good men just minding their business. I know because I am in a male dominated profession-IT Also we exist in a society where we now reward mediocrity and bad behavior for clicks. Well out here the universe, life is very complex & competitive so you got to put on your big girl boots.
It's not intentional catfishing. But, all her pics have filters and are angled to make her look in the best light. But the in person wasn't putting as much effort. So, I agree with the comments that she needs to post pics of herself that aren't selfies without any filters so its realistic.
She seems very socially awkward. I don't think she catfished intentionally. I really believe she thought and felt good about her look for the date. Now saying that. She needs to take off most of those pictures on her account.
And men catfish their feelings, their finances, their baby momma situation they still live with and their height or dyck size so what’s the problem here?
This seems very fake to me. She just finished her date, made herself look grubby, decided to get on camera to tell the world about her himiliation? Why would she go to a restaurant she can't afford, and without money? This being said if the story is true, she looks absolutely nothing like the picture. The fact that she decided to get on camera to cry, looking like this tell me she has a self-sabotage problem. She must have known she didn't look like the picture.
I mean for me. She's telling half truths. Her face is fuller in real life than in the pictures. She did filter the heck out of her pics. Men are visual creatures. He didn't read the bio, they never do, so saying that you are chubby in your bio doesn't mean squat. He didn't read it. He saw and liked the filter and swiped that's it. Straight up filter-phished! Yup that's now a word. I say always have a picture of yourself all natural, no wig, no make up, and no filter. Casual cute. That way they know.
She looks different yall, be real. I wouldn’t recognize her as the same woman offa first glance- if you need someone to tell you who they are when you meet someone online- you don’t look like your pictures. Personally, anyone I’ve met online and has spotted me first had no issue issue being able to tell I was me
@@Thereasonyoudontlikeme in this context, it has a different meaning. Or if you want to just say people are using the wrong word, that’s fine. She still tricked that man, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Like that lady said, she filter-fished him
@@therealsamsclub2325 I really don’t care enough to get on the internet bashing her. Men pretend to be who they’re not all the time just to get what they want out of women. If she did it, so what. I personally don’t think she did it on purpose and I’m pretty sure she learned a lesson.
If you're going bother on these apps use a mix of pics .... your "bummy" ones, your "average/light makeup" days AND your "dolled up" pics. NO FILTERS beyond the makeup you're using already.
People will insult me for this but in her profile NONE of the pictures showed a full profile. So seems the man thought she’s smaller than what she looks. Still he’s awful for behaving terribly. It’s why I don’t do online dating. One time I met a guy & he looked nothing like his profile pic. I canceled the date & went back home.
Do I want her to win and succeed in life and be happy and loved? Absolutely. Did she look like her pictures? No. I mean I genuinely feel bad for her...
Back in my online dating days, I came across men who had posted 20 yr old pics. One dude called me (facetime) and I asked him who he was and how he got my number??? It was the dude I've been texting with for days.....but he was looking like a grandpa....ahhh...hell no!!!!
Am I wild or does she look like her picture? Cuz she does to me .. Obviously shes all done up in the pictures but so are most women. 😅 Im confused.. I thought she legit catfished him, like used a picture of an Insta baddie or something.
Her date night pics looked cute to me! Honestly, the only thing that looked drastically different in her pics is that she was wearing her natural hair, which looked cute to me. I honestly feel like if she was wearing a straight weave to the date he would have been fine.
I feel sorry for her just because she doesn’t understand why and what went wrong and people are laughing at her. Everyone really deserves love and I hope she learns from this herself, not what we think personally. Maybe she didn’t have the time or money to be more presentable. It’s just so much we don’t know just from watching this. I really truly just wish her the best.
I’m autistic too and I 100% agree with the last person. I honestly don’t fully understand why people wear make up. I’ve had friends put make up on me and want to take pictures and I looked like a different person. But I also feel like that’s what everyone does in pictures. We try to do what people want us to do, but we don’t always understand why people do those things, so it gets REALLY confusing. People think we’re being manipulative but often it’s just us trying to meet their expectations and it gets complicated with the bullying we get our whole lives.
I’ve had makeup on once for the homecoming dance 10th grade. Never wore it before that , never wore it after. Lol I am autistic as well btw. Completely agree… can’t find a good reason to wear the stuff but a lot of people look really pretty in it.
she did not catfish him she just wearing makeup and a weave …..What’s crazier is that they are saying she catfish him while talking with filters on and weave in 🤦🏾♀️ 😂…hypocritics
So they can’t call out the make up and weave because they also have on make up and weave?? They didn’t say it was a bad thing. One of the girls even said she can tell the girl is delusional because she herself is delusional, does that make her a hypocrite?
I would guess that the majority of people who have online dated have run into a catfish. I remember matching in college with a guy who claimed to be a tall, dark, and handsome southern gentleman from Texas who was playing college football at a school less than an hour from mine (I'm from the Midwest and went to college here). He suggested that we meet for breakfast at a diner in my college town for a first date. I walked in and the place was tiny, maybe 12 tables. I was super confused, because he texted me that he had arrived and grabbed us a table, but I scanned the room and saw 4 occupied tables, none of which had anyone seated at them matching his description. Before i could text him, I heard someone calling my name, and it was a short pasty guy with long hair waving at me from his table. I am 6 feet tall, so I know if someone is not, he was not, he was lucky if he was 5'8. I was immediately disappointed but didn't want to be rude, so I sat down and ordered a coffee. I asked him about his photos and even though he claimed to play college football, he said his photos were actually from his JUNIOR YEAR OF HIGH SCHOOL. At the time we met, he was 22. He had 6 year old photos. Needless to say, there was not a second date.
I understand the guy's reaction because she doesn't look like her pictures, but I can also sympathize with Tia because I think the last woman was right about her being on the spectrum. Ultimately, I hope she recovers from the emotional damage and continues to have the confidence to put herself out there for a healthy, compatible relationship.
He was polite it’s not like he laughed in her face and walked away he didn’t stand her up she put this on herself it’s just a reality check to stop using filters
He wanted the version of her with the straight or fake hair, I think. She also looks slimmer in her profile pictures. She was not catfishing, but he wants what he wants.
Y'all we can be honest, she looks waaaay better in her pic than what she did for the date. IDK....maybe it was the hair? Also, she looked a lil smaller in the pic?
It’s probably the hair. She should’ve shown pics of her rocking her natural hair instead of pics of her with weaves or long hair. That would be a shock to anyone meeting her.
@@naturallykiera5063 I see a lot of politically correct comments on here knowing damn well if a man did this, they would be lighting his ass up in the comments 😭. Rightfully so lol.
My apologies but her pics look like Regina King and she showed up looking more like BB King. She did not represent what she truly looked like in her photos and most men DO NOT read BIOS, Unfortunately!. She was CUTE in her date picture too but honey u sold him an illusion. BTW I never ever use filters. Period. Love yourself or no one else will!
Yeah even if nobody responds it doesn't matter if your meeting up with someone always send them a current photo I know sometimes there's women that don't take very good pictures like me and in person you always look better but still post it even if it's not a great picture of you it will eliminate the guys that have bad intent for you because some of the guys on those apps look like pedophiles it really pissed me off that one of them flagged my app the other day and I didn't even have a picture up. So you don't even really have to post it on the ad just tell them you will send a picture if they decide to meet up with you.
My thoughts, the earlier pictures took effort. What happened with the actual date look? It seems like something changed. I think she needs some therapy before she try’s to continue to date.
This is why all these Instagram & Tik-tok filters are so dangerous.....U shouldn't be able to look like a dime on IG & have the face of a $100 bill irl 🙈🙉🙊
She wasn’t a catfish she just looking a hot mess on the date. From the hairstyle to dress it just wasn’t giving. If she had put herself together a lil better that wouldn’t have happened.
I really don't think she thought she was catfishing. I'll give her that. She's making heavy use of filters (most people use filters) and shes getting those good "hide my doublechin" angles. I as a woman see through that, and it's not our fault that men don't know better. But on the flip side, we know they don't, and we can't be surprised when they are fooled then angry. I agree with the woman saying it's against ur best interest to use ur best photos online.
@a1ntcry1noveru maybe poor self concept and a lack of social awareness 😅? I think you'd be surprised how many people post heavily filtered photos beside unfiltered photos entirely deluted and oblivious to how different they really look.
@a1ntcry1noveru I feel like catfishing is inheritly malicious. You are intentionally appearing as someone other than yourself. She didn't photoshop these, I'm not convinced they are very old, she looks just as heavy to me. But they are deceptive. All of the things she did alone wouldn't be considered catfishing. Taking photos from flattering angles, using filters, smoothing wrinkles, blurrs, etc. Are all normal parts of social media now, but other people understand that you can't take it too far without it being deceptive. I don't think she has media literacy. Her language and disposition led me to believe she genuinely expected us on her side and meant what she said about being confused as to why he didn't recognize her. She doesn't think she overdid it. She thinks that those photos are just her at her best 🤷♀️
Let's not be obtuse... These photos look like a different person...people can't SEE personality... This is just ridiculous... Almost just seems like attention grabbing once again 😑
I'm glad the woman in the black blouse voiced her suspicions about Tia being neurodivergent bc I was wondering that too (i work in mental health). There seems to be a struggle with insight and understanding ppl. Getting older is hard bc our faces and bodies change and society values youth so I get not loving how you look at every stage. This is where getting comfortable and familiar with what you look like now vs in the past is helpful. Having some hype ppl is helpful. Utlize lighting, angles, and putting yourself together nicely for online dating pics will get you good images. Don't forget ppl see us differently than how we see ourselves so other's opinions are useful and we need to trust them (as long as they come from ppl who care about us and how they deliver their opinions to us) Women are works of art! Tia looked good how she was. Uploading recent pictures will work out for her. And if she doesn't initially feel attractive she can always fake it til she makes it. The brain can change over time, if you tell yourself youre prettier than you feel eventually your mind will agree
Those photos are def not current. She looks way slimmer in the photos (maybe 30lbs, idk), and she's wearing a different hairstyle too. There's no double chin in any of the photos, but she has one in her video. Maybe next time use current photos, and various hairstyles you're wearing at the moment.
1. She knows she's a catfish. She used a ton of filters and angles to trick men online. 2. It's not a bad idea to video chat before meeting someone you only know from online 3. She looks awful, but there are still men who would accept her, so just be honest about your appearance if you don't want to get embarrassed. 😂😅
If I burn my money looking to buy some black air force 1s and drive all the way to the store & collect a box containing crocs instead...I'd be pissed too
Okay but hear me out, if you’re going to filter your pics like that as you’re true representation, then learn how to do your makeup like that irl. Otherwise you should not expect to be recognized! 😂
When I was on them apps I didn’t connect with anyone that had photos with only sunglasses, heavily filtered, old looking photos, or with their shirts off.
I don't think she deserves the hate she is getting, but I do see where her approach went wrong. Just like the girls who beat their face to the gods before they take their passport photos; you're setting yourself up for failure. When you pick the most glamorous photos for your dating profile, that is what someone expects to see when they meet you for the first time. While I think she looked really cute on her date, it was definitely not the same vibe she gave in her dating profile photos. Between the make up style, the wigs and possibly filters, it was pretty different. Her date look was a lot more toned down which can throw someone off when all they've seen is your more glamorous stuff. Your first date is usually your first IRL impression of each other. It doesn't seem like a good idea to show up presenting yourself differently than the vibe your dating photos gave off. She was still cute, but gave off two very different impressions. Very sad to see how this will hit her self-esteem.
She could’ve done her hair and makeup better but there’s not a huge difference .. she still looks like the pics. But for a first date she should’ve done better
Her pictures all portrayed someone who is girly and put together all the time. She showed up having appeared to put in minimal effort into her appearance. I agree with 15:00 too about her seeming to be on the spectrum. No biggie. Many people are. If she just shows herself in varying levels of “fixed-up-ness” and also put the same effort into herself as she does her profile while being true to who she REALLY is, then she may have better luck. Dating is hard and the dating pool is often trash in the first place. She can field out people who won’t actually like her if she tries a different route.
She catfished the guy and then got online and said men are assholes when what she did wasn't nice. She's lucky he didn't leave. I've been catfished before, but I still paid for the date and I was nice to the girl. I swear if I ever get catfished again I walk out as soon as I see her. She needs to take some accountability and not play the victim. I hope she learns from this.
Hmmm ... either those photos are old or heavily filtered. I can understand why the man would be confused and why he expected her to look more stunning upon first meet than the look she delivered. This is no shade to makeup, hair extensions, and the like, but some of the extra filtering can make one look like a entirely different person. I don't think she was being malicious or intentionally trying to trick the guy.
Homegirl is obviously lying and wants clout like Reesa Teesa. She knows how to get glammed up. How all of a sudden she doesn’t know difference of what makes a man’s head turn and what doesn’t? Her story is filled with mad holes.
She looks the same just weave and makeup in the pics. Most LinkedIn pics are glam shots. Not sure why she didn’t make the effort to look glamorous for the date.
Her date night picture was nice. She looked different from the online pics. It's okay if the guy didn't want to move forward, but he didn't have to be rude.
I had this happened to me before and when the chick showed up to my door i was dumb founded. I told her she had the wrong house (3 times) this happened. The 4th time, I lied about what I was wearing and what car i drove just so i can scope out the scenery when she pulled up at the gas station she wanted to meet at, this time, it was a catfish the female was gorgeous.
I don’t put my best pics on dating sites. I put up average pics with little makeup and no filters. The men I go on dates with are always pleasantly surprised when I show up.
She catfish the hell out that man.. but it’s the man fault to he shouldn’t have been thirsty next time FaceTime each other that will prevent alot of discrepancies
15:09 I said the same thing. She comes off as being on the spectrum but that’s not a bad thing at all she might just need some guidance and coaching on how to to date & what others might expect. I think with some help she would have more success dating. I feel bad for her. I don’t think she meant to catfish anyone.
Madame Uteh, I don’t know where you are from, but I am African I can read your facial expressions and it did not say she was a beautiful girl. As Africans and Black people, we can read your facial expressions 😂😂😂😂. Shade just.
It's because she went nastiest but her pics she's wearing wigs and weaves. She should've at least went with the same energy as her pics. She wasn't catfishing. I think she just went bummy looking.
If you put on your best self online it better be the same effort in real life. She catfished him but in a slick way. You can see it’s her but it’s just a better groomed version and she looks younger in the picture
I fulling understand and appreciate the young lady opinion on the black women and neurodivergency, I felt the same, listening to that woman talk about the date
Ive definitely blocked men for this in my early years. Some people looking nothing like thie pictures which is the initial appeal. Early on in the dating stage you have so many options choosing one you are not physically nor romantic attracted to any longer is a waste of time. She didnt look like her pictures naturally at all. The pictures was good angles, makeup, and differ hair which can make you look like a whole different person. Thats why with dating online I post bland ass pictures so you see me at me worst. Which makes meeting in person better.
Here’s what you see most dating apps period 1. Truck drivers 2. Socially awkward men 3. Entrepreneur/Uber driver 4. Old man trying to pose as a younger man 5. Men that are trapped in the dream of what they would like to be. I’ve seen this in several dating apps. That’s really the story behind Ressa Tessa. She got with a man that was trapped in a fantasy world. I’ve seen dating apps work for people. My cousin met her husband on a dating app. However, I got to thinking about it and she is a truck driver. Now that’s not to say that’s, everyone’s story but by in that’s what you find on these dating apps.
Honestly it's not even the filter fishing for me: based on her presentation in the video, she just didn't put ANY effort into her appearance for a first date. That's kind of a turn off and a bad first impression, even if we all claim that we don't care about our appearance or dressing fancy. Edit: I do lean into the theory that she might be on the spectrum and wasn't aware of these social cues and expectations...
What’s crazy is he wanted her to show up as her catfish he wanted the girl in the old picture with the 30 inch. Makeup beat filter lighting. He really was mad that she DIDN’T. SHOW UP AS HER CATFISH
I agree with the lady in the neon vest. Tia seem like she was laughing when she said, “Men are evil,” so it feels like she was trying to go viral. That supposed cry appeared to be super fake. But I also wouldn’t be surprised if she’s on the spectrum like the another lady presumed. That would explain a lot as well.
I know you did not tell that lie....she looked like s male version of herself...men get pissed off at that...I met my husband completely natural with just mascara
I only have unfiltered photos... I have been yelled at by men stating I catfish them because I'm better looking in person. It's how I found out I'm just not photogenic lol
Girl same. My pics look crazy and I don’t even care. I just don’t know how to pose like the girlies do. I try to learn but it is just not working. But it’s good because I will never be accused of catfishing or filter fishing.
Yes they mad even when you look better than your photos do 🙄
Same. Online dating taught me I wasn't photogenic 😅
Omg same 😂
Awww I feel so sorry for her… but she shouldn’t have even came on camera with the hat and not fixed up. She should have fixed herself up to get on camera at any time.
I didn't want to say she catfished him because I felt she did something lighter than that. Like the way a Big Mac in a commercial don't look nothing like a real Big Mac. It was misleading, but not catfish levels of misleading. But then the chick said "filter fish" and now I have a word for it. She filter fished him.
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I’m convinced a lot of ppl don’t have friends irl bc why do they keep getting on the internet telling strangers their embarrassing business that nobody asked for 🤦🏽♀️
I’ve come to that conclusion too lol
Validation.
As someone who doesn't have friends irl (*and doesn't want them either because people are fake and they're trash*), I think people are looking for validation of some kind, maybe.
@@marissa._ I don’t know how a catfish story would somehow give anybody any kind of validation. Seems like they would need therapy then, not social media.
Could be, or maybe everybody irl was calling her out, instead of enabling her bs.
Although I'm confused AF on why her sister was giving her money, unless it was emergency taxi money if the date went wrong, and she was short that week.
@@susanmarks416 what does that have to do with anything I said in my comment??
She shouldn’t be dating if her sister had to give her money for a meal
The man is supposed to pay.
True but you're supposed to have our own too.
The man should be paying
@@user-ij5sp4zv5h doesn't matter you never leave the house having to depend on the kindness of a stranger.
@@shortbreadgirlscout3463not all men do
Filters have really messed up our perception of reality. “It’s only a little adjustment” “it’s still me” “well I can look like that if I tried” 😔
That’s why I stopped using filters years ago, it doesn’t help body dysmorphia whatsoever. Now, my body dysmorphia is gone and my self love has increased.
@@Thegorgeousgirl69 proud of you friend! 🙌🏼❤️ I’m still working on it but I too have cutout filters 😊
😂😂😂
I understand why he was mad, it was wrong what she did to that man. Be yourself, it is either the man want to date you or not. Everyone should put their best foot forward but people should be able to recognize you in person.
I put my worst one forward so they just get best outcome.
That's why I put up the ugliest photo of myself, then people will be pleasantly surprised when they meet me, well if I was single.
😂😂😂
Same too scared of catfishing someone by mistake
Regardless of whether the guy likes me or not, I always have money for my own food and a taxi home.
Honey, I'm sorry but you don't look like the pictures you sent. I understand why he was mad.
It's not a big deal to be nice to an unattractive person for an hour though. Just get through it and never call that person again.
@@videofan1010but why? He’s wasting his time. If she’s going to put out pictures like that then she should put more effort into her appearance to keep up. If you just want to hook people off of a fake you, don’t be upset when you show the real you. If girls are able to leave when they find out their dates are too broke to pay for their dinner, then guys should be able to leave when they find out their date doesn’t look like their date.
She looks the same. She showed the pic of the way she dressed for the date and the only difference was she had her natural hair out.
@@biblethumper8088she does look different. Her skin looks smoother/brighter, she has a jaw, her face looks slimmer, her eyes seem more enhanced. Maybe you’re just too used to instagram photos and Snapchat filters to tell the difference between how someone looks with and without those things. She looks similar, but different. She should use her natural photos and maybe some good lighting. Not some blurred beauty filter mess. She isn’t ugly, she’s just changing herself and attracting the wrong type of men who only go for women who look like how she looks with a filter on.
Thank you
Listen as much as we don’t want to hear this… ladies your looks matter. Men are visual and they value looks more than we do.
Stop with the heavy filters!
Women are visual too tf? Women just fake about it and don’t wanna be seen as “vain” or called a bih for it.
Nope, I care about looks just as much a they do.
@@cosmosadorabilis7677 You "cakue?"
Yes but they don’t want women to value looks at all and that’s a problem.
Too many unattractive men out here are telling women that they are visual…. CATCH IT
She does not look like her picture. Also, she did not take any cash to the date?? Not a card??? That's soooo naive!
She didnt make the appropriate effort.
Basically 😆
If she did when he finally seen the natural her, he would have been pissed
I think she’s naive and maybe a bit socially akward. She reminds me of really nice awkward girls from high school who just needs a good group of girls to take her under their wing and help her get ready for dates. I don’t think she did this maliciously.
I think she may be on the spectrum
Yeah I can personally relate to her. You're right.
People aren't considering that in the car video she's recording from below, vs the pictures being taken from above.
Good point! 🤔
Yes you are correct but that angle doesn't make someone look 30 to 40 lbs heavier. Tia is still lieing bec she doesn't have the same hairstyle. She has 2 week old braids & she doesn't have breast size in that date photo. She much heavier & she could of been honest about it.
Not ppl using filters telling her she was filter fishing. The internet is hilarious.
watch in the next few years ai will come out with a filter to remove filters😂.
AFFFFFF
All these responses are fucking rude and mean ngl
She strikes me as someone who may be a little socially awkward.
I don’t think she meant to catfish anyone.
I hate that there is so little compassion for her especially as BW. Let’s do better please.
Compassion for what? Nothing happened to her.
I felt the same way. And she probably felt like she was doing what everyone else does.
@@TinkOutLoud To an extent yes most people including myself takes pictures and videos in makeup but to me if I'm going on a date I'm going to try to look just as good if I go on a date and I'm not hiding my weight. I have pictures of my full body. This lady took a picture when she looked 50 pounds lighter and is now acting like she wasn't being deceitful.
@@TheOriginalScorpioBellebirds like you want to be picked so badly 🤢
She catfished… socially awkward or not. So is this good behavior to be rewarded?
She got a good free meal. She should NOT have come online after.
I once went on a date & the man looked nothing like his picture.. you know what I did? I told him absolutely NOT going on with date & drove home.
The problem with our present society is there a lot of genuine people but there’s also a lot of women that just hoping to benefit from the “men are awful” gravy train. Yes men are awful but there’s many good men just minding their business. I know because I am in a male dominated profession-IT
Also we exist in a society where we now reward mediocrity and bad behavior for clicks.
Well out here the universe, life is very complex & competitive so you got to put on your big girl boots.
It's not intentional catfishing. But, all her pics have filters and are angled to make her look in the best light. But the in person wasn't putting as much effort. So, I agree with the comments that she needs to post pics of herself that aren't selfies without any filters so its realistic.
🎉 APRIL FOOLS! 🎉 It's a reaction video! 😂
It’s not an April Fool’s video. 😂😂😂😂😂 This sh!t was trending all over Twitter.
She seems very socially awkward. I don't think she catfished intentionally. I really believe she thought and felt good about her look for the date. Now saying that. She needs to take off most of those pictures on her account.
She’s mad gorgeous, she needs to show off her curves, makeup skills and beauty without the manipulative features
And men catfish their feelings, their finances, their baby momma situation they still live with and their height or dyck size so what’s the problem here?
Exactly 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You betta PREACH!!!!
I hope Destiny pins this comment!!!
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I didn’t hear one my good sis!
Facts 💯
This seems very fake to me.
She just finished her date, made herself look grubby, decided to get on camera to tell the world about her himiliation?
Why would she go to a restaurant she can't afford, and without money?
This being said if the story is true, she looks absolutely nothing like the picture.
The fact that she decided to get on camera to cry, looking like this tell me she has a self-sabotage problem.
She must have known she didn't look like the picture.
I mean for me. She's telling half truths. Her face is fuller in real life than in the pictures. She did filter the heck out of her pics. Men are visual creatures. He didn't read the bio, they never do, so saying that you are chubby in your bio doesn't mean squat. He didn't read it. He saw and liked the filter and swiped that's it. Straight up filter-phished! Yup that's now a word. I say always have a picture of yourself all natural, no wig, no make up, and no filter. Casual cute. That way they know.
If she said that she's chubby in her bio and he didn't read it, then she didn't tell a half truth about that. He just didn't read, lol.
I don't think she catfished that guy. She just put a ton of effort into her pics and much less into looking good for the date.
I was thinking the same
He just don’t like her natural hair. That’s the real problem I’m sure.
She looks the same as the pics minus the makeup and hairstyle.
her pics were face-tuned up and filtered down....yes she did.
Yea..I thought she looked the same, just had makeup in the pics and it was an upper body pic so i don't think she manipulated her body so idk
She looks different yall, be real. I wouldn’t recognize her as the same woman offa first glance- if you need someone to tell you who they are when you meet someone online- you don’t look like your pictures. Personally, anyone I’ve met online and has spotted me first had no issue issue being able to tell I was me
I thought catfishing was when you use a photo of someone else.
It can be using a picture of you that doesn’t reflect what you currently look like.
It’s a photo of yourself where your facial features, body, skin tone and even hair is altered.
@@pigalottafattenton5003 look up the definition of catfishing. It’s when your posing as a different person to attract someone.
@@Thereasonyoudontlikeme in this context, it has a different meaning. Or if you want to just say people are using the wrong word, that’s fine. She still tricked that man, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Like that lady said, she filter-fished him
@@therealsamsclub2325 I really don’t care enough to get on the internet bashing her. Men pretend to be who they’re not all the time just to get what they want out of women. If she did it, so what. I personally don’t think she did it on purpose and I’m pretty sure she learned a lesson.
She didn't look the same. It did look filtered.
If you're going bother on these apps use a mix of pics .... your "bummy" ones, your "average/light makeup" days AND your "dolled up" pics. NO FILTERS beyond the makeup you're using already.
People will insult me for this but in her profile NONE of the pictures showed a full profile.
So seems the man thought she’s smaller than what she looks. Still he’s awful for behaving terribly.
It’s why I don’t do online dating. One time I met a guy & he looked nothing like his profile pic. I canceled the date & went back home.
Do I want her to win and succeed in life and be happy and loved? Absolutely. Did she look like her pictures? No. I mean I genuinely feel bad for her...
Her weight, filter and most importantly the personality coming through in the photos was completely different.
Back in my online dating days, I came across men who had posted 20 yr old pics. One dude called me (facetime) and I asked him who he was and how he got my number??? It was the dude I've been texting with for days.....but he was looking like a grandpa....ahhh...hell no!!!!
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Am I wild or does she look like her picture? Cuz she does to me .. Obviously shes all done up in the pictures but so are most women. 😅 Im confused.. I thought she legit catfished him, like used a picture of an Insta baddie or something.
She looks like her pictures to me as well.
Nope - she does look like her pictures. Just dressed up with different hair.
Exactly. He just don’t like that she wore her natural hair. But they claim to LOVVVEEE BW WHEN THEY ARE NATURAL. NO WEAVE NO MAKEUP BLAH BLAH BLAHHH
I said the same. Other than makeup and straightening hair, what was different?
She looks like her picture as well to me too. I really don't see what the catfish is.
The girl said she gave Red Cookie and she showed up as Tia. 🤣🤣🤣 That’s really what it was.
Her date night pics looked cute to me! Honestly, the only thing that looked drastically different in her pics is that she was wearing her natural hair, which looked cute to me. I honestly feel like if she was wearing a straight weave to the date he would have been fine.
Nah you are a liar 😂
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That’s exactly why he was mad. He don’t like her natural hair.
Same, I looked at all the pics and she looks the same minus the weave. I think people are thinking she showed up in the sweats.
I don’t even think she had on a bra.
I feel sorry for her just because she doesn’t understand why and what went wrong and people are laughing at her. Everyone really deserves love and I hope she learns from this herself, not what we think personally. Maybe she didn’t have the time or money to be more presentable. It’s just so much we don’t know just from watching this. I really truly just wish her the best.
I’m autistic too and I 100% agree with the last person. I honestly don’t fully understand why people wear make up. I’ve had friends put make up on me and want to take pictures and I looked like a different person. But I also feel like that’s what everyone does in pictures. We try to do what people want us to do, but we don’t always understand why people do those things, so it gets REALLY confusing. People think we’re being manipulative but often it’s just us trying to meet their expectations and it gets complicated with the bullying we get our whole lives.
I’ve had makeup on once for the homecoming dance 10th grade. Never wore it before that , never wore it after. Lol I am autistic as well btw. Completely agree… can’t find a good reason to wear the stuff but a lot of people look really pretty in it.
she did not catfish him she just wearing makeup and a weave
…..What’s crazier is that they are saying she catfish him while talking with filters on and weave in 🤦🏾♀️ 😂…hypocritics
Like!
So they can’t call out the make up and weave because they also have on make up and weave?? They didn’t say it was a bad thing. One of the girls even said she can tell the girl is delusional because she herself is delusional, does that make her a hypocrite?
I hope this entire thing blowing up will make her famous, and she gets a full-blown makeover!!! ❤i really want this for her!!!😢
Same 😢
She does NOT look the same in person as she does on her photos. She absolutely looks different and she is was wrong for that.
I would guess that the majority of people who have online dated have run into a catfish. I remember matching in college with a guy who claimed to be a tall, dark, and handsome southern gentleman from Texas who was playing college football at a school less than an hour from mine (I'm from the Midwest and went to college here). He suggested that we meet for breakfast at a diner in my college town for a first date. I walked in and the place was tiny, maybe 12 tables. I was super confused, because he texted me that he had arrived and grabbed us a table, but I scanned the room and saw 4 occupied tables, none of which had anyone seated at them matching his description. Before i could text him, I heard someone calling my name, and it was a short pasty guy with long hair waving at me from his table. I am 6 feet tall, so I know if someone is not, he was not, he was lucky if he was 5'8. I was immediately disappointed but didn't want to be rude, so I sat down and ordered a coffee. I asked him about his photos and even though he claimed to play college football, he said his photos were actually from his JUNIOR YEAR OF HIGH SCHOOL. At the time we met, he was 22. He had 6 year old photos. Needless to say, there was not a second date.
I understand the guy's reaction because she doesn't look like her pictures, but I can also sympathize with Tia because I think the last woman was right about her being on the spectrum. Ultimately, I hope she recovers from the emotional damage and continues to have the confidence to put herself out there for a healthy, compatible relationship.
He was polite it’s not like he laughed in her face and walked away he didn’t stand her up she put this on herself it’s just a reality check to stop using filters
He wanted the version of her with the straight or fake hair, I think. She also looks slimmer in her profile pictures. She was not catfishing, but he wants what he wants.
I was thinking the same. I'm sorry but she look smaller and she had a weave in. She should've of went to the date on how she look on the Pic.
She absolutely was catfishing.😂
Y'all we can be honest, she looks waaaay better in her pic than what she did for the date. IDK....maybe it was the hair? Also, she looked a lil smaller in the pic?
It’s probably the hair. She should’ve shown pics of her rocking her natural hair instead of pics of her with weaves or long hair. That would be a shock to anyone meeting her.
And it’s also her not showing a full body picture.
@@KevonnieElaine Agree to both things you stated!!
@@naturallykiera5063 I see a lot of politically correct comments on here knowing damn well if a man did this, they would be lighting his ass up in the comments 😭. Rightfully so lol.
@@KevonnieElaine I always say we need to start holding each other accountable but everyone to scared to be called pickmeisha SMH
My apologies but her pics look like Regina King and she showed up looking more like BB King. She did not represent what she truly looked like in her photos and most men DO NOT read BIOS, Unfortunately!. She was CUTE in her date picture too but honey u sold him an illusion. BTW I never ever use filters. Period. Love yourself or no one else will!
Yeah even if nobody responds it doesn't matter if your meeting up with someone always send them a current photo I know sometimes there's women that don't take very good pictures like me and in person you always look better but still post it even if it's not a great picture of you it will eliminate the guys that have bad intent for you because some of the guys on those apps look like pedophiles it really pissed me off that one of them flagged my app the other day and I didn't even have a picture up. So you don't even really have to post it on the ad just tell them you will send a picture if they decide to meet up with you.
BB KING?! 😂😂😂
My thoughts, the earlier pictures took effort. What happened with the actual date look? It seems like something changed. I think she needs some therapy before she try’s to continue to date.
This is why all these Instagram & Tik-tok filters are so dangerous.....U shouldn't be able to look like a dime on IG & have the face of a $100 bill irl 🙈🙉🙊
She wasn’t a catfish she just looking a hot mess on the date. From the hairstyle to dress it just wasn’t giving. If she had put herself together a lil better that wouldn’t have happened.
I really don't think she thought she was catfishing. I'll give her that. She's making heavy use of filters (most people use filters) and shes getting those good "hide my doublechin" angles. I as a woman see through that, and it's not our fault that men don't know better. But on the flip side, we know they don't, and we can't be surprised when they are fooled then angry. I agree with the woman saying it's against ur best interest to use ur best photos online.
if that's not catfishing, what is?
@a1ntcry1noveru maybe poor self concept and a lack of social awareness 😅?
I think you'd be surprised how many people post heavily filtered photos beside unfiltered photos entirely deluted and oblivious to how different they really look.
@a1ntcry1noveru I feel like catfishing is inheritly malicious. You are intentionally appearing as someone other than yourself. She didn't photoshop these, I'm not convinced they are very old, she looks just as heavy to me. But they are deceptive. All of the things she did alone wouldn't be considered catfishing. Taking photos from flattering angles, using filters, smoothing wrinkles, blurrs, etc. Are all normal parts of social media now, but other people understand that you can't take it too far without it being deceptive. I don't think she has media literacy. Her language and disposition led me to believe she genuinely expected us on her side and meant what she said about being confused as to why he didn't recognize her. She doesn't think she overdid it. She thinks that those photos are just her at her best 🤷♀️
That’s definitely catfishing
Let's not be obtuse... These photos look like a different person...people can't SEE personality... This is just ridiculous... Almost just seems like attention grabbing once again 😑
The CatFish is Raw to blood clart
This catfish is nsfw
This catfish is inedible
😂😂😂😂😂
She looks pretty close to her pics - I feel like he just gave an excuse
Exactly. He'd broke and overspent
He's insecure and needs to project his fears unto her.
I'm glad the woman in the black blouse voiced her suspicions about Tia being neurodivergent bc I was wondering that too (i work in mental health). There seems to be a struggle with insight and understanding ppl.
Getting older is hard bc our faces and bodies change and society values youth so I get not loving how you look at every stage. This is where getting comfortable and familiar with what you look like now vs in the past is helpful. Having some hype ppl is helpful.
Utlize lighting, angles, and putting yourself together nicely for online dating pics will get you good images. Don't forget ppl see us differently than how we see ourselves so other's opinions are useful and we need to trust them (as long as they come from ppl who care about us and how they deliver their opinions to us)
Women are works of art! Tia looked good how she was. Uploading recent pictures will work out for her. And if she doesn't initially feel attractive she can always fake it til she makes it. The brain can change over time, if you tell yourself youre prettier than you feel eventually your mind will agree
Those photos are def not current. She looks way slimmer in the photos (maybe 30lbs, idk), and she's wearing a different hairstyle too. There's no double chin in any of the photos, but she has one in her video.
Maybe next time use current photos, and various hairstyles you're wearing at the moment.
1. She knows she's a catfish. She used a ton of filters and angles to trick men online.
2. It's not a bad idea to video chat before meeting someone you only know from online
3. She looks awful, but there are still men who would accept her, so just be honest about your appearance if you don't want to get embarrassed. 😂😅
Sooo all girls are catfish if we don’t wear makeup and wigs 24/7…. It literally looks like her without makeup… I’m so confused about the hate.
Same
If I burn my money looking to buy some black air force 1s and drive all the way to the store & collect a box containing crocs instead...I'd be pissed too
Okay but hear me out, if you’re going to filter your pics like that as you’re true representation, then learn how to do your makeup like that irl. Otherwise you should not expect to be recognized! 😂
14:56 the young lady is right. She did seem like she was on the spectrum aka neurodivergent.
When I was on them apps I didn’t connect with anyone that had photos with only sunglasses, heavily filtered, old looking photos, or with their shirts off.
I thought the one in a blue bonnet was Tia 🤣🤣🤣
I don't think she deserves the hate she is getting, but I do see where her approach went wrong. Just like the girls who beat their face to the gods before they take their passport photos; you're setting yourself up for failure. When you pick the most glamorous photos for your dating profile, that is what someone expects to see when they meet you for the first time. While I think she looked really cute on her date, it was definitely not the same vibe she gave in her dating profile photos. Between the make up style, the wigs and possibly filters, it was pretty different. Her date look was a lot more toned down which can throw someone off when all they've seen is your more glamorous stuff. Your first date is usually your first IRL impression of each other. It doesn't seem like a good idea to show up presenting yourself differently than the vibe your dating photos gave off. She was still cute, but gave off two very different impressions. Very sad to see how this will hit her self-esteem.
She could’ve done her hair and makeup better but there’s not a huge difference .. she still looks like the pics. But for a first date she should’ve done better
She doesn't look like her picture. She cat fished him
Her pictures all portrayed someone who is girly and put together all the time. She showed up having appeared to put in minimal effort into her appearance. I agree with 15:00 too about her seeming to be on the spectrum. No biggie. Many people are. If she just shows herself in varying levels of “fixed-up-ness” and also put the same effort into herself as she does her profile while being true to who she REALLY is, then she may have better luck. Dating is hard and the dating pool is often trash in the first place. She can field out people who won’t actually like her if she tries a different route.
She catfished the guy and then got online and said men are assholes when what she did wasn't nice. She's lucky he didn't leave. I've been catfished before, but I still paid for the date and I was nice to the girl. I swear if I ever get catfished again I walk out as soon as I see her. She needs to take some accountability and not play the victim. I hope she learns from this.
I tried to be on her side but she definitely filtered a little too much, she gave “Harpo who dis woman” and he’s not wrong
Hmmm ... either those photos are old or heavily filtered. I can understand why the man would be confused and why he expected her to look more stunning upon first meet than the look she delivered. This is no shade to makeup, hair extensions, and the like, but some of the extra filtering can make one look like a entirely different person. I don't think she was being malicious or intentionally trying to trick the guy.
As a man, i wouldve understood the poor guy
She looked like the budget version of herself in the pics 😂waste of precious time
IMO, she is just trying to go viral because NO. I felt like she was trying to make herself cry IJS.
Homegirl is obviously lying and wants clout like Reesa Teesa. She knows how to get glammed up. How all of a sudden she doesn’t know difference of what makes a man’s head turn and what doesn’t? Her story is filled with mad holes.
She looks the same just weave and makeup in the pics. Most LinkedIn pics are glam shots. Not sure why she didn’t make the effort to look glamorous for the date.
Her date night picture was nice. She looked different from the online pics. It's okay if the guy didn't want to move forward, but he didn't have to be rude.
I had this happened to me before and when the chick showed up to my door i was dumb founded. I told her she had the wrong house (3 times) this happened. The 4th time, I lied about what I was wearing and what car i drove just so i can scope out the scenery when she pulled up at the gas station she wanted to meet at, this time, it was a catfish the female was gorgeous.
I don’t put my best pics on dating sites. I put up average pics with little makeup and no filters. The men I go on dates with are always pleasantly surprised when I show up.
She looks like she going to rob the bank smh
She catfish the hell out that man.. but it’s the man fault to he shouldn’t have been thirsty next time FaceTime each other that will prevent alot of discrepancies
15:09 I said the same thing. She comes off as being on the spectrum but that’s not a bad thing at all she might just need some guidance and coaching on how to to date & what others might expect. I think with some help she would have more success dating. I feel bad for her. I don’t think she meant to catfish anyone.
Here’s the thing:
Men use filters as well. Men use old pictures as well. Men happily and freely do this and no one says anything to them.
Madame Uteh, I don’t know where you are from, but I am African I can read your facial expressions and it did not say she was a beautiful girl. As Africans and Black people, we can read your facial expressions 😂😂😂😂. Shade just.
This is why meeting people in person is important. Dudes online are either lonely or looking for a hook up
Why is she online again?
Under promise and over deliver.
Great video! Quick question...what lipstick do you have on? I love it!❤
What do you want me to say to that... she catfished him. Catfishes happen and yes she shouldn't have done it she lied
This is why this women empowerment movement is BS. This lady had a meltdown, and women get on tic tok immediately after and bash her even more 🤦🏾♀️
I definitely saw the lil chuckle at the end lol 😂
Yes I think she did catfish, but maybe the lady in the end who was talking about the spectrum might have been onto something.
It's because she went nastiest but her pics she's wearing wigs and weaves. She should've at least went with the same energy as her pics. She wasn't catfishing. I think she just went bummy looking.
"You almost had me" hi-vis vest girl figured it out.
If you put on your best self online it better be the same effort in real life. She catfished him but in a slick way. You can see it’s her but it’s just a better groomed version and she looks younger in the picture
I fulling understand and appreciate the young lady opinion on the black women and neurodivergency, I felt the same, listening to that woman talk about the date
Those are two different people. Put up a current picture. If you are not willing to do that, then that suggests a lot.
Ive definitely blocked men for this in my early years. Some people looking nothing like thie pictures which is the initial appeal. Early on in the dating stage you have so many options choosing one you are not physically nor romantic attracted to any longer is a waste of time. She didnt look like her pictures naturally at all. The pictures was good angles, makeup, and differ hair which can make you look like a whole different person. Thats why with dating online I post bland ass pictures so you see me at me worst. Which makes meeting in person better.
Here’s what you see most dating apps period
1. Truck drivers
2. Socially awkward men
3. Entrepreneur/Uber driver
4. Old man trying to pose as a younger man
5. Men that are trapped in the dream of what they would like to be.
I’ve seen this in several dating apps. That’s really the story behind Ressa Tessa. She got with a man that was trapped in a fantasy world. I’ve seen dating apps work for people. My cousin met her husband on a dating app. However, I got to thinking about it and she is a truck driver. Now that’s not to say that’s, everyone’s story but by in that’s what you find on these dating apps.
Honestly it's not even the filter fishing for me: based on her presentation in the video, she just didn't put ANY effort into her appearance for a first date. That's kind of a turn off and a bad first impression, even if we all claim that we don't care about our appearance or dressing fancy.
Edit: I do lean into the theory that she might be on the spectrum and wasn't aware of these social cues and expectations...
Harpooo! Who dis Lady? 😂
What’s crazy is he wanted her to show up as her catfish he wanted the girl in the old picture with the 30 inch. Makeup beat filter lighting. He really was mad that she DIDN’T. SHOW UP AS HER CATFISH
I agree with the lady in the neon vest. Tia seem like she was laughing when she said, “Men are evil,” so it feels like she was trying to go viral. That supposed cry appeared to be super fake.
But I also wouldn’t be surprised if she’s on the spectrum like the another lady presumed. That would explain a lot as well.
She should have dressed like the pictures she sent him!
She definitely catfished
I don't think it was an intentional cat fish. The man was a lil mean because she does look like her pictures.
I know you did not tell that lie....she looked like s male version of herself...men get pissed off at that...I met my husband completely natural with just mascara
I don't think she looks like her picture.
She did not look that come on...... This was a AI version of herself.
I don’t think she catfish him. That looks like the same chick. He just wasn’t expecting her to be neurodivergent.