This came timely,I am 16 and I told myself that i wont have a boyfriend till it is time to get married. Some people may think it is old class but I decide to find out my purpose and work on myself... Thank you my role models🥰🥰
That's a very good decision dear. I made that decision also and I'm now happily married. Just hold on to your decision tightly and also cherish God's presence. Don't allow yourself to get intimidated when you get into higher institution. At the right and perfect time, the right person would come and all you'd have to do is to say Yes to your life partner. I trust God to see you through 🙏
This is really possible my dear will be 26 this year May and still holding onto this decision. It's a valid decision dear don't let anyone tell you it's impossible but good decisions requires discipline and sacrifices it's okay to make mistakes but pick yourself up. This doesn't mean I haven't been in situationships but I never gave up on decisions through God's help.
I'm 23. Never had a boyfriend. The one time I almost did I noticed the situation ship was getting in the way of my medical academics and career. Also, he wasn't born again. I had to nip it in the bud. I never feel like I need a man to complete me at this stage. Perhaps it's because medicine is already time-consuming. Oh, well. God's time is the best.
I was 15 when I had a crush, (he was not a Christian, so I knew it was wrong because it is against the word of God) so I fasted until the crush was gone in my heart, at first I thought I would fast 21 days 6-6 fasting, some days 7-5 fasting but it turned out to be more than 40 days. I was fasting for priesthood and encounter as well. but now it‘s been more than a year and I have no crush. fasting helps you to control your emotions. I also prayed to God, and I avoided talking to him, if I see him, I would run away, or just avoid him. One day, I heard him say the f- word, which I think for me was a wake up call, I quesitoned “why on earth am I crushing this guy for?”. I even had a dream, I saw him marry an another woman in the future, and later in life they became christians, and I was talking to them as friends. I knew he wasn‘t the will of God for me. crystal clear. there is a scripture that says ”once you spoke, twice have I heard“ (psalm 62:11) God spoke the first time for information, the second for confirmation. I know the bible so I knew it was wrong for me for me to date a non christian. but God double confirmed everything, he made it so clear, in fact, God arranged some events for me to realize, “this person is not for me”. Now I will be turning 17. I thank God for early wisdom in my life.
God bless you. 17year old with so much for offer. May the Lord preserve you. I think you shouldn't rush. God is in you and with you. There is something great upon your life. Give your life to God wholeheartedly, keep seeking his face, serving and focus on your all round growth including academics God has a bright future for you.
Thank you jesus !! This Is really timely. The holy spirit instructed me to leave a relationship this week and it hasn't been easy trying to get over it knowing fully well that the guy also loves God and his parents were aware of our commitment to each other. There was just this absense of peace i felt then like sis ella stated . I'm glad I was able to summon courage in the place of prayer to end things . Right now , I've chosen to invest in this single phase , know myself more ,add value to myself,discover purpose as I seek the Lord till the time is right . This message means alot TED ,it's really specific and timely . Thanks for yielding to Jesus.
U guys are my role model 🥺 this is really want at needed at the moment .......But wat do I do when I'm praying to God but it's like he's not answering ??
I needed to hear this!! Somebody I was crushing on just told me that he don't want a relationship with me when I told him how I feel about him!! I have been patiently waiting for this person to just reciprocate the same feelings I am having for him, but the opposite happen!! I was heartbroken 😭 and felt ashamed. Watching this, I have asked myself several questions " Esther what are you looking for? What are your principles? What future will you like to have? Whose will you want?" I say to myself thank you Abba🙏 Because this guy I was crushing on doesn't even believe that God exist, he doesn't even want to hear you talk about God!! No matter what... Boyfriend/girlfriend thing is a trap to destroy youth. These things lead to one sin and the other and besides sometimes it is not serious is just mere infatuation that you can't control!! The best you can do is to lean on God, discover yourself and allow his will to come to pass! Thank you so much TED for this😍🥰
I was 17 when I started having boyfriend. I actually did to know and understand what love is and have experience of how it is to be in a relationship. But it was the wrong step I would ever take in my life. Before I knew it, I have started engaging in unnecessary acts. I lack peace as the holy spirit never allow me to rest on this matter. I couldn't connect with God again. My christian life became lukewarm but to the glory of God, I have to let go of everything and focus on God. I always wish till date that I had never done that.
Thanks so much for your openness. This is a great life tool for adolescents. They are more likely to listen and accept since you're not "old schools". God bless you all for your positive influence.
My teenage years was filled with fun with no boyfriend. I had the opportunity to belong to a ministry with a strong youth fellowship. We spent time going with our leaders for family deliverances, praise warfare, outreaches, bible quiz competitions, choir competitions . Then we had time when we definitely ate and drank together and celebrated the beauty of being a youth in Jesus. If you have a church where you can get committed as a youth, I will encourage you to do so. It really helps to keep your mind away from all the crushes out there, unless your crush is in the same church 😂then both of you must submit your emotions to Jesus and maintain boundaries just as you have been taught.
Wish I can like this a million times. Sure you are grateful to God and feeling or will be feeling like a pure angel in your husband's arms by God's grace.
Wow😇🔥there were times i thought i was being too strict for deciding not to have a boyfriend till when I'm ready for marriage and only for the Purpose of marriage, but now I'm even more confident about my decision 😇this has boosted my faith💃.
I dated for a couple of times, but after I called it a quit, I've NEVER been more satisfied than I am right now. Spending time praying and studying. Not being stressed out with the thoughts of any man. Just enjoying ME. This is a very educative topic. Thanks TED.
The problem is not dating, the thing is that people don't have a vision for their future to which they're committed. A lot don't know the bible way of dating. They've dated multiple times, don't know when exactly they should go into a relationship, or are caught up in the thicket of the wrong of toxic people. Get Waiting and Dating by Myles Munroe.
@@hartpaulibikiri6426 I so much agree with you. Some persons don't have visions at all, so they take anything that comes to them. Some just date to fill among for whatever reason. I really wish I could get in contact with you to explore more on this topic
I said yes to a guy while I was in SS2 but the relationship isn't up to a week because I had this feeling that it's not just right, so I have to tell him, I'm not more interested.... Since then , I made the decision that relationship is for those who are ready for marriage and not for teens.... Thanks for this TED.... I pray God will help me to choose rightly when I'm ready for it.
Among my circle of 5 in school, I was the only single one and I was the best student in my class then. Peer pressure pushed me to have something close to dating and it didn't pass 1 week. I wasn't used to devoting time to give attention to ladies then. And ladies love to always be around. Thank God I didn't stay in the relationship so long. It might have affected my result back then
My name is oberogo victory . I am 19 going to 20 by may . This is my first time watching this program and I must say I am so blessed . This is exactly what I needed now for real .God bless you
Ahh Thank you for this wonderful message… I took a decision that I won’t date till I’m ready for marriage And God had really been helping me Fr😌. I’m trying to Build a solid relationship with God♥️
Thank you so much for this. I've been looking for answers, and I got it. I've been bullied so much by people around me for not wanting to go into any relationship until marriage. I'm currently in the university and some guys have been disturbing me for a serious relationship, but I feel it's way too early. Thank you so much for this, thank God.
Yeah, I crushed on a guy for years that came from the overseas, that I was forced to tell him to the face, because of my strong feelings..The feelings I had for him which has been in me for years affected me spiritually and ruined other aspect of my life (physically, mentally, academically...) because the spiritual controls the physical...I had dreams of we getting married, doing what married people does and my relationship with God broke! I knew something was wrong. Crushing on someone and letting your emotions take the lead isn't healthy at all....I just thank God He saved my soul, delivered me from the Devil. Now, I am focusing on my University education, On God, and career..I pray God opens eyes of many teenagers and youths that has gone astray and bring them to His marvelous light, Amen! I love Tolu, Ella and Dara so much! may God continue to bless and keep you, tho I have been dieing to meet you but I know I will surely see you and your families and with mine on the last day in Heaven by God's grace and mercy, Amen! Alade Funmilola Dorcas ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for this💯💯 Though have been in couple of relationships but i quit cos i want to realize my stand in God,be serious about my future fulfill my purpose on earth....and doing the will of God And having hear this has given me hope to keep going without looking back at the past Am so grateful for this TED🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯
May God bless u guys. Just what I needed to hear. Sometimes I felt like was the only person in the world that felt this was right. And I always kept fighting back the doubt because I knew it was wrong. Please keep preaching these words to our youths, these are questions some just don't even know how to ask their parents, questions they can't seem to answer. But thank God that he raised u women to help the upcoming seed of the righteous to stand firm. Again God bless u and keep u to keep unleashing ur potentials to the world. Amen🙏🙏😊
You know,the relationship between boy or girl friend is not healthy because, it will definitely lead to negative intention, Please, let's call a spade a spade boy friend and girl friend issue can lead to the relationship you're not prepared for, it's better not to go into it when one is not ready for marriage or any relationship, So, please let out teenagers know that it Is wrong, don't let them play with their emotions
Hmmm this is reality. I decided not to have a boyfriend as I was growing up and God helped me until I was 25/26yrs and then I felt I should give a relationship a try to prove I'm all right coupled with pressures. I lost my peace from day one and this was a guy I was free with like we were normal friends and brother/sister. Thank God for the courage to break up because I knew from the start it wasn't God who led me and not long after I broke up, my husband from God came and it was so clear it's God. There's no point having or keeping a boyfriend/girlfriend. It can lead one into son. I regretted it but thank God for His mercies
Thank you so much for this. I have been asked severally why I don't have a boyfriend yet and that it feels odd. Some even find it hard to believe but I know the reason why and I am going to wait for God's will in marriage. Like you said, it's a waste of emotion. This reminds of the experience I had in my senior secondary school 1. There was this boy I had known since primary school but we separated after going to different high school. It until my senior year before I reunited with him. He kept asking me out and I agree. It was a big mistake I made. I had no peace of mind, I was wasting time on something that would not lead me anywhere. One day I cried and prayed to God to lead me the right. However hard it was, I came out of it and my peace was restored. From then till now, I have promised myself and God to only wait for his will in marriage and not engaging in boyfriend and girlfriend stuff. Thank you very much for opening our eyes to these things because many are being led astray.
I keep guys as my friends but through out my stay in secondary school, I never got into a relationship coz I don't feel it's right. To me, it's like a secret stuff...love should be something to be proud of. I don't think it's okay to be in a relationship that I won't be able to tell my mum or brothers about it. My friends do ask me if I'm a robot but then...we meeeuve. God has to be the controller of everything
Am 26 and this has help me to finally come to a conclusion about someone I wanted to date, who is 21. I will have to keep everything low till the appointmented time.
I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, By the gazelles or by the does of the field, Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases. Song of Solomon 2:7 This is a beautiful teaching ❣️
Thank you so much TED for this. This gives me a reason to go on with my life without a relationship with the opposite sex until am ready for marriage.. I pray God bless you guys immensely Thanks so much
Love this talk!!. Really hit alot of areas I was contemplating about and affirmed my need to take a stand in Christ as a Christian teenager. Please TED, could we please have more teens sessions like this that will attract the secondary school students and the younger ones ...
Thank you so much, for this TED It's so timely for my relationship of 2 weeks. I hope we get things right and not do things like the world do their things, and I pray we do not just carry a form of godliness, but we are indeed Godly. Cos, sometimes I wonder if I am actually doing things right, or if I still have to age more(maturity-wise as well) before I embark on a relationship.
Thank you very much for this awesome message, infact I will continue to pray n keep my word of not dating until the right time. You guys are really a role model to me. Love you
I'm 23. I have never had a boyfriend.People find it very hard to believe and make it seem like I am crazy or something but I really do not care because I had rather use that time to invest in my future considering the country isn't smiling. This has re-affirmed my conviction that I am not crazy or weird.When the time comes, I know the Lord will perfect his will for me.
Exactly the same for me, I am also 23 and a lot of people around think its wierd and maybe even childish that you need the experience to know..and all that ..... but it hasn't bothered me, I just have this deep understanding and trust in God that when His time comes He will shows His way and it will be perfect for me. I am crazy now about my solid relationship with God and my personal growth to becoming the best version of myself.
I'm blessed with this message, this is just what I wanted to her, I am happy I took this decision, not to be in a relationship still when I am mature and at the right time, God time is the best 👍👍👍 thank you Ted for this it was really encouraging.
@@Maryrobinsonkufre Your most important joy should be that she came across this message at the right time considering her testimony. Young ones now grow so fast in access to information both negative and negative and easily open to many things that Mum and Dad will not even be aware due to peer group. @Just Miriam, kindly be so knitted to God, seek him, know him and love God to take his genuine directions in everything more than anyone else's directives. God bless you.
I'm 28years and I'm dating for the first time. I believe it's important to build yourself mentally and emotionally before you go for a woman. Thanks so much for this education
When a Christian is dating, they don't set aside who they are; instead, their day-to-day lives should come to bear on the choices we make and how we date. Who we are should bleed through into our dating, leading us to be just as kind, considerate, honest, godly, courageous, and authentic as we are on any given day.👀
Thank you, TED I have been always mocked by my peers because I refused all their counsel knowing well that what they are doing is against the will of God. I remember one of my friends asked me" Agnes how do you mean that you are not having a boyfriend at this level where everyone is willing to go out and chill with her bf" But I thank God that I straight away told her it is not my time. I will say that before we can stand for all this our denominations matter a lot. If in your church they don't emphasize this that it is not good, my dear you will be led if you are not spiritually strong. Some friends may be well-known as church girl, or religious girl, but their life as a whole does alter God's will. We must decrease ourselves from those people. Could you imagine a claim Christians or believers encourage this when they know very well that they can't control their emotions till marriage? Eph.5.3 - But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Thank you guys
I feel dating is wrong a teenager that I am and not having boyfriend is hard but even harder when all your friends have but some thing I do tell my friends is when you have not discovered yourself in Christ you want to have a partner o wrong now ....... Well aunty Tolu,aunty dara and aunty Ella I love you guys❤💙💛.....continue to impact people and God will surely reward you. Just be yourself Christ loves you
Wow. This video came to me at the right time that I needed for some advice. This time that I start feeling one kind thing towards someone and I Know that I'm not ready for any commitments.
Thanks so much btw🌚 Ehen that peace issue I noticed it everytime I thought of dating I ain't just settled within knowing that it's not just right at the moment.. thanks once again❤️ cleared my doubts
Thank you so much TED for this episode. I have learnt a lot 🤗🤗🤗💖💖💖 Back then in secondary school, I had a male friend in JSS2 who was my classmate. We were close in a way but I did not realize that he had feelings for me though others were saying we were in a relationship. I was pressurized to date him as everyone else but I stood my ground to wait till I was ready for courtship. I was mocked, jeered and laughed at 😭😭😭. In SS3, he told me how he felt. I also had the same feelings for him right from SS1, but I kept it to myself ( I was jealous sometimess when I saw him with his other female friends 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣). He was a religious person and some of his convictions were so different from mine. His close friends had questionable character but he was considered nice,smart and funny by everyone in our set. My heart yearned to accept his proposal but a thought had been ringing in my mind that we might not end up getting married. I did not feel comfortable about the idea either. It's like a force was holding me back! I told him my opinion that we should only be friends, since he is truly a great one. He had been there for me in challenging situations. He was so SAD and I saw tears in his eyes. I noticed that throughout that day,he was so depressed unlike being jovial as before. He stopped flowing with me as he used to ever since then. Today, he is doing well in his studies in the university where he schools and we communicate online sometimes. My classmates in my alma mater hold me in high esteem since I did not defile myself then. I have achieved lot with my life as a female. I am so happy with the way things have turned out. I am also happy that I followed God'swill for my life. If not, I would have regretted it big time 😊. Even though now, I am pressurized by my coursemates and some wellwishers to stop acting "holy-than-thou", loosen up and get married at all costs because of my present age of being in my 20s, I don't care because I consider my future. I am waiting for God'swill in marriage 🤗.
Woww... that is wonderful.. i wish i had the courage to do the same things you did Im in ss3 now .. and though i realised it late .. i had already fallen into the trap I hope i would be able to forgive myself
God will sustain you and you won't regret your decision in Jesus' matchless name. Don't mind those pressuring you, they are oblivious to what God has in store for you. Don't let anyone destroy your testimony, stand firm! ❤❤❤
When a man or woman who wants tells you you're acting too spiricoco or holier than thou and your spirit feels at peace with your walk in Christ, please flee from such one as it is a red flag. He or she will be a weight to your walk and you won't go far. I didn't understand what God was doing, saving me whenever I meet someone and was about to go into a relationship until now. He protects your future...don't let permissive will rule. The right person will appreciate every of your walk with Christ. Keep believing, God will not disappoint you.
@@mosunkenny6283 well he has to make his intentions known to me then, we can work on it but if he’s coming for boy friend and girl friend stuff, then I’m not interested
I am just knowing that dating is a sin, although I dated,that Same day, I accepted to date this guy, God told me not to go out,a strong warning but I neglected, I was enjoying everything,not until I started seeing doubts and he kept on telling me that relationship isn't what you need now, I left the relationship but it wasn't really easy but in all those times I lost my Peace I felt I was doing the right thing,but deep down I know it was wrong, because even if I'm 20,I was ready ready for marriage..I left the relationship and I promise myself not to be in any relationship until I am ready for marriage because.And God has been helping me
I love how everyone always have something to say. Not from a script but coming from the leading of the Spirit. Pls can the media team adjust the writing on the screen to the right side, so as not to disrupt youtube captions. Thanks and more Grace to you all.
A waste of emotions is the biggest reason why I'm not in a relationship at 25; plus, I'm not ready to get married. The issue growing up was my parents never spoke about relationships and tough words was spoken when they learned I was dating at 14 which ended when we moved to the US. Now, they are asking “where is the man?” I’m not letting anyone pressure me into a life long commitment I know I’m not ready for. Education on these life issues is necessary because if you tell teenagers not to something without reason, that’s the one they’d do. So thanks so much for leading this conversation 🙏🏾 May God choose the right partners for us all.
Choosing to stand for God is not a waste at all. Very soon, you'll be proud you did because you will find the best love that God will give you to pay you well for staying pure for him and not wasting emotions. It's a good pride when one sees those people you didn't waste emotions on in near future.
Just right now, I was just asking God why I entered the relationship I was In. It was good at first, everything was rosy but things started changing, it wasn't because of this I decided to break up, but I felt I needed to do it because it wasn't in line with God's will. I wish I had seen something like this earlier. Right now, I'm still broken, but I know all is well and I will be fine.🥺
I like that light you mamas are shedding on this topic!!! I am grateful to God for meeting you online though never physically met you trio before.... But you are so deep in the knowledge of God's word... In this our 'anything goes- kind of generation.... Hmmm, I take solace in God's word ..thank you mas
Thank you very much for treating a topic like this, Important points has been dropped,May the Lord continue to grant you guys content in Jesus name 🙏🙏.
This came timely,I am 16 and I told myself that i wont have a boyfriend till it is time to get married.
Some people may think it is old class but I decide to find out my purpose and work on myself...
Thank you my role models🥰🥰
Exactly
That's a very good decision dear. I made that decision also and I'm now happily married. Just hold on to your decision tightly and also cherish God's presence. Don't allow yourself to get intimidated when you get into higher institution. At the right and perfect time, the right person would come and all you'd have to do is to say Yes to your life partner. I trust God to see you through 🙏
Stick to it
@@ebunoluwataiwo2423 Amen, thank you Ma
This is really possible my dear will be 26 this year May and still holding onto this decision. It's a valid decision dear don't let anyone tell you it's impossible but good decisions requires discipline and sacrifices it's okay to make mistakes but pick yourself up. This doesn't mean I haven't been in situationships but I never gave up on decisions through God's help.
I'm 23. Never had a boyfriend. The one time I almost did I noticed the situation ship was getting in the way of my medical academics and career. Also, he wasn't born again. I had to nip it in the bud. I never feel like I need a man to complete me at this stage. Perhaps it's because medicine is already time-consuming. Oh, well. God's time is the best.
Same with me dear. Thank you so much @True talk for the counsel
That's what happened. He wasn't born again but then, God's time is the best.
You guys are doing well, regards to ur husbands and our dear Grandpa and Grandma mike_bamiloye
Can we be friends?
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I was 15 when I had a crush, (he was not a Christian, so I knew it was wrong because it is against the word of God) so I fasted until the crush was gone in my heart, at first I thought I would fast 21 days 6-6 fasting, some days 7-5 fasting but it turned out to be more than 40 days. I was fasting for priesthood and encounter as well. but now it‘s been more than a year and I have no crush. fasting helps you to control your emotions. I also prayed to God, and I avoided talking to him, if I see him, I would run away, or just avoid him. One day, I heard him say the f- word, which I think for me was a wake up call, I quesitoned “why on earth am I crushing this guy for?”.
I even had a dream, I saw him marry an another woman in the future, and later in life they became christians, and I was talking to them as friends.
I knew he wasn‘t the will of God for me. crystal clear. there is a scripture that says ”once you spoke, twice have I heard“ (psalm 62:11)
God spoke the first time for information, the second for confirmation. I know the bible so I knew it was wrong for me for me to date a non christian. but God double confirmed everything, he made it so clear, in fact, God arranged some events for me to realize, “this person is not for me”.
Now I will be turning 17. I thank God for early wisdom in my life.
God bless you. 17year old with so much for offer. May the Lord preserve you. I think you shouldn't rush. God is in you and with you. There is something great upon your life. Give your life to God wholeheartedly, keep seeking his face, serving and focus on your all round growth including academics God has a bright future for you.
@@sabinaannan2443 amen 🙏 thank you
GOD continue to uphold you
@@lizzymwamba7546 thank you. Amen.
Finally found someone with similar mindset and same age group 🥰🤸💜.....the f word irritates me alot😭.
Thank you jesus !! This Is really timely. The holy spirit instructed me to leave a relationship this week and it hasn't been easy trying to get over it knowing fully well that the guy also loves God and his parents were aware of our commitment to each other. There was just this absense of peace i felt then like sis ella stated . I'm glad I was able to summon courage in the place of prayer to end things .
Right now , I've chosen to invest in this single phase , know myself more ,add value to myself,discover purpose as I seek the Lord till the time is right .
This message means alot TED ,it's really specific and timely . Thanks for yielding to Jesus.
Welldone Sis,you did well.
God will journey with you 🤗
same here!!! it has not been easy but I trust God
@@oluwafunmilayoadufe8343 Amen
Thank you
How??
U guys are my role model 🥺 this is really want at needed at the moment .......But wat do I do when I'm praying to God but it's like he's not answering ??
Waste of emotion is a very valid point… That’s why many folks are heartbroken these days
Yes ooo, that is why they saying men are scum
I needed to hear this!!
Somebody I was crushing on just told me that he don't want a relationship with me when I told him how I feel about him!! I have been patiently waiting for this person to just reciprocate the same feelings I am having for him, but the opposite happen!! I was heartbroken 😭 and felt ashamed.
Watching this, I have asked myself several questions " Esther what are you looking for? What are your principles? What future will you like to have? Whose will you want?"
I say to myself thank you Abba🙏 Because this guy I was crushing on doesn't even believe that God exist, he doesn't even want to hear you talk about God!!
No matter what... Boyfriend/girlfriend thing is a trap to destroy youth. These things lead to one sin and the other and besides sometimes it is not serious is just mere infatuation that you can't control!!
The best you can do is to lean on God, discover yourself and allow his will to come to pass!
Thank you so much TED for this😍🥰
I was 17 when I started having boyfriend. I actually did to know and understand what love is and have experience of how it is to be in a relationship. But it was the wrong step I would ever take in my life. Before I knew it, I have started engaging in unnecessary acts. I lack peace as the holy spirit never allow me to rest on this matter. I couldn't connect with God again. My christian life became lukewarm but to the glory of God, I have to let go of everything and focus on God.
I always wish till date that I had never done that.
May God continue to give you peace.
Enjoy peace.❣️
@@preciousjerome2670 Amen, thanks sis.
I'm 23, never had a boyfriend, I'm so happy I came across this, thanks so much..... Gods time is the best
On behalf of all Cameroonians 🇨🇲 thank you TED🥰
I love how Emmanuella talks from experience, keep it up, sis. Not many females do this, actually. I admire your originality/trueness.
Yeah,true.I love her Confidence... It makes us as Christian to see the reality of life and realize that we are not perfect except in Christ❤️
Thanks so much for your openness. This is a great life tool for adolescents. They are more likely to listen and accept since you're not "old schools". God bless you all for your positive influence.
My teenage years was filled with fun with no boyfriend. I had the opportunity to belong to a ministry with a strong youth fellowship. We spent time going with our leaders for family deliverances, praise warfare, outreaches, bible quiz competitions, choir competitions . Then we had time when we definitely ate and drank together and celebrated the beauty of being a youth in Jesus.
If you have a church where you can get committed as a youth, I will encourage you to do so. It really helps to keep your mind away from all the crushes out there, unless your crush is in the same church 😂then both of you must submit your emotions to Jesus and maintain boundaries just as you have been taught.
Wish I can like this a million times. Sure you are grateful to God and feeling or will be feeling like a pure angel in your husband's arms by God's grace.
Wow😇🔥there were times i thought i was being too strict for deciding not to have a boyfriend till when I'm ready for marriage and only for the Purpose of marriage, but now I'm even more confident about my decision 😇this has boosted my faith💃.
I dated for a couple of times, but after I called it a quit, I've NEVER been more satisfied than I am right now. Spending time praying and studying. Not being stressed out with the thoughts of any man. Just enjoying ME.
This is a very educative topic.
Thanks TED.
The problem is not dating, the thing is that people don't have a vision for their future to which they're committed. A lot don't know the bible way of dating. They've dated multiple times, don't know when exactly they should go into a relationship, or are caught up in the thicket of the wrong of toxic people.
Get Waiting and Dating by Myles Munroe.
@@hartpaulibikiri6426
I so much agree with you.
Some persons don't have visions at all, so they take anything that comes to them.
Some just date to fill among for whatever reason.
I really wish I could get in contact with you to explore more on this topic
I said yes to a guy while I was in SS2 but the relationship isn't up to a week because I had this feeling that it's not just right, so I have to tell him, I'm not more interested.... Since then , I made the decision that relationship is for those who are ready for marriage and not for teens.... Thanks for this TED.... I pray God will help me to choose rightly when I'm ready for it.
This, is it!!! So timely, powerful and REAL! God bless and keep you all, my TED!
This is on point! Thanks for sharing TED. Thank you Ella for sharing your experience, you are so relatable ❤
Among my circle of 5 in school, I was the only single one and I was the best student in my class then. Peer pressure pushed me to have something close to dating and it didn't pass 1 week. I wasn't used to devoting time to give attention to ladies then. And ladies love to always be around. Thank God I didn't stay in the relationship so long. It might have affected my result back then
My name is oberogo victory . I am 19 going to 20 by may . This is my first time watching this program and I must say I am so blessed . This is exactly what I needed now for real .God bless you
Hi Victory, I'll also be 20 in May!😁😅
@@favourchidy8996 oh wow that's nice .
@@favourchidy8996 I'll also be 20 in May 🤭
I'll be there to welcome you guys☺️, I'm David and I clocked 20 recently 💃🏽
@@davidonyemenue-uq8jc I celebrate you in arrears, David.
Thanks you so much true talk, currently 19 and I have never dated or have a boyfriend, God us keeping me even though the journey isn't that easy.
Ahh Thank you for this wonderful message…
I took a decision that I won’t date till I’m ready for marriage
And God had really been helping me Fr😌.
I’m trying to Build a solid relationship with God♥️
Thank you so much for this. I've been looking for answers, and I got it. I've been bullied so much by people around me for not wanting to go into any relationship until marriage. I'm currently in the university and some guys have been disturbing me for a serious relationship, but I feel it's way too early. Thank you so much for this, thank God.
Yeah, I crushed on a guy for years that came from the overseas, that I was forced to tell him to the face, because of my strong feelings..The feelings I had for him which has been in me for years affected me spiritually and ruined other aspect of my life (physically, mentally, academically...) because the spiritual controls the physical...I had dreams of we getting married, doing what married people does and my relationship with God broke! I knew something was wrong. Crushing on someone and letting your emotions take the lead isn't healthy at all....I just thank God He saved my soul, delivered me from the Devil. Now, I am focusing on my University education, On God, and career..I pray God opens eyes of many teenagers and youths that has gone astray and bring them to His marvelous light, Amen!
I love Tolu, Ella and Dara so much! may God continue to bless and keep you, tho I have been dieing to meet you but I know I will surely see you and your families and with mine on the last day in Heaven by God's grace and mercy, Amen!
Alade Funmilola Dorcas ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for this💯💯
Though have been in couple of relationships but i quit cos i want to realize my stand in God,be serious about my future fulfill my purpose on earth....and doing the will of God
And having hear this has given me hope to keep going without looking back at the past
Am so grateful for this TED🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯
May God bless u guys. Just what I needed to hear. Sometimes I felt like was the only person in the world that felt this was right. And I always kept fighting back the doubt because I knew it was wrong. Please keep preaching these words to our youths, these are questions some just don't even know how to ask their parents, questions they can't seem to answer. But thank God that he raised u women to help the upcoming seed of the righteous to stand firm. Again God bless u and keep u to keep unleashing ur potentials to the world. Amen🙏🙏😊
You know,the relationship between boy or girl friend is not healthy because, it will definitely lead to negative intention, Please, let's call a spade a spade boy friend and girl friend issue can lead to the relationship you're not prepared for, it's better not to go into it when one is not ready for marriage or any relationship,
So, please let out teenagers know that it Is wrong, don't let them play with their emotions
Really wise! Love that they were all honest and stated reasons and how it should be. Not just saying it's wrong. Thank you all!
Hmmm this is reality. I decided not to have a boyfriend as I was growing up and God helped me until I was 25/26yrs and then I felt I should give a relationship a try to prove I'm all right coupled with pressures. I lost my peace from day one and this was a guy I was free with like we were normal friends and brother/sister. Thank God for the courage to break up because I knew from the start it wasn't God who led me and not long after I broke up, my husband from God came and it was so clear it's God.
There's no point having or keeping a boyfriend/girlfriend. It can lead one into son. I regretted it but thank God for His mercies
God bless you TED... This serves as a source of encouragement to me. And I will share with my friends.
Yes!!, DATING most times don't lead to and END but COURTSHIP does lead to an END.
Thank you so much for this.
I have been asked severally why I don't have a boyfriend yet and that it feels odd. Some even find it hard to believe but I know the reason why and I am going to wait for God's will in marriage.
Like you said, it's a waste of emotion. This reminds of the experience I had in my senior secondary school 1.
There was this boy I had known since primary school but we separated after going to different high school. It until my senior year before I reunited with him.
He kept asking me out and I agree. It was a big mistake I made. I had no peace of mind, I was wasting time on something that would not lead me anywhere.
One day I cried and prayed to God to lead me the right. However hard it was, I came out of it and my peace was restored.
From then till now, I have promised myself and God to only wait for his will in marriage and not engaging in boyfriend and girlfriend stuff.
Thank you very much for opening our eyes to these things because many are being led astray.
I keep guys as my friends but through out my stay in secondary school, I never got into a relationship coz I don't feel it's right. To me, it's like a secret stuff...love should be something to be proud of.
I don't think it's okay to be in a relationship that I won't be able to tell my mum or brothers about it.
My friends do ask me if I'm a robot but then...we meeeuve.
God has to be the controller of everything
Always looking forward to your updates 😩 keep up the good work TED God bless you ❣️❣️
Finally
Have been waiting for you to drop this video(topic)
Thank you
Am 26 and this has help me to finally come to a conclusion about someone I wanted to date, who is 21. I will have to keep everything low till the appointmented time.
I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
By the gazelles or by the does of the field,
Do not stir up nor awaken love
Until it pleases.
Song of Solomon 2:7
This is a beautiful teaching ❣️
Thank you so much TED for this. This gives me a reason to go on with my life without a relationship with the opposite sex until am ready for marriage..
I pray God bless you guys immensely
Thanks so much
Thank you TED for this content..I really needed this!!
Love this talk!!. Really hit alot of areas I was contemplating about and affirmed my need to take a stand in Christ as a Christian teenager. Please TED, could we please have more teens sessions like this that will attract the secondary school students and the younger ones ...
Thank you so much, for this TED
It's so timely for my relationship of 2 weeks. I hope we get things right and not do things like the world do their things, and I pray we do not just carry a form of godliness, but we are indeed Godly.
Cos, sometimes I wonder if I am actually doing things right, or if I still have to age more(maturity-wise as well) before I embark on a relationship.
Paul told Timothy flee youthful Lust. Boyfriend and Girlfriend relationship is a youthful Lust that a believing Christian should flee from.
Thank you very much for this awesome message, infact I will continue to pray n keep my word of not dating until the right time. You guys are really a role model to me. Love you
I'm 23. I have never had a boyfriend.People find it very hard to believe and make it seem like I am crazy or something but I really do not care because I had rather use that time to invest in my future considering the country isn't smiling.
This has re-affirmed my conviction that I am not crazy or weird.When the time comes, I know the Lord will perfect his will for me.
Exactly the same for me, I am also 23 and a lot of people around think its wierd and maybe even childish that you need the experience to know..and all that ..... but it hasn't bothered me, I just have this deep understanding and trust in God that when His time comes He will shows His way and it will be perfect for me. I am crazy now about my solid relationship with God and my personal growth to becoming the best version of myself.
Thank you very much TED. This is timely, pressure here and there. Thank you 😌
You doing a good job!! I'm sharing this all the way
I'm blessed with this message, this is just what I wanted to her, I am happy I took this decision, not to be in a relationship still when I am mature and at the right time, God time is the best 👍👍👍 thank you Ted for this it was really encouraging.
I'm 14 and this is exactly what I needed to hear
Thank youu TED
Are you supposed to be with phone 14years old 🤔
@@Maryrobinsonkufrehow would she have come across this message🌚
@@euniceadediran6436 so you’re saying a 14yrs old child can have a phone ?
@@euniceadediran6436 I really want to know if it’s right!
@@Maryrobinsonkufre Your most important joy should be that she came across this message at the right time considering her testimony. Young ones now grow so fast in access to information both negative and negative and easily open to many things that Mum and Dad will not even be aware due to peer group. @Just Miriam, kindly be so knitted to God, seek him, know him and love God to take his genuine directions in everything more than anyone else's directives. God bless you.
Thank you TED.
Your answers were accurate and timely.
I love this topic especially the experienced of Ella, and contribution of all of them. God bless you more and more in Jesus name.
I'm 28years and I'm dating for the first time. I believe it's important to build yourself mentally and emotionally before you go for a woman. Thanks so much for this education
Hello
When a Christian is dating, they don't set aside who they are; instead, their day-to-day lives should come to bear on the choices we make and how we date. Who we are should bleed through into our dating, leading us to be just as kind, considerate, honest, godly, courageous, and authentic as we are on any given day.👀
Thank you so much ma tolu, ma darasimi and ma Ella, this came timely, was struggling to say no but now I can boldly do that
Thank you so much TED. This was very much needed and impactful.
Awesome!💕💕💕
More grace to you, ma TED
Thank you young Women for your sincerity and honesty. Be strong.
Oh thank you so much. May God really bless you. Your counsels will help me to convince one of my friends to not make the error. I'll keep on watching.
Thanks TED may the good Lord keep giving you inspiration and word power for our lossing generation 🙏🏽🙏🏽
I love the way ellah is venerable, God bless you ted
Thank you, TED
I have been always mocked by my peers because I refused all their counsel knowing well that what they are doing is against the will of God.
I remember one of my friends asked me" Agnes how do you mean that you are not having a boyfriend at this level where everyone is willing to go out and chill with her bf"
But I thank God that I straight away told her it is not my time.
I will say that before we can stand for all this our denominations matter a lot. If in your church they don't emphasize this that it is not good, my dear you will be led if you are not spiritually strong. Some friends may be well-known as church girl, or religious girl, but their life as a whole does alter God's will. We must decrease ourselves from those people. Could you imagine a claim Christians or believers encourage this when they know very well that they can't control their emotions till marriage? Eph.5.3 - But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
Thank you guys
First time here and I am loving it. Seeing people with like mind is soothing. Thanks.
Thank You TED for this awesome Message. 🙌🙌
you shall know the truth and it shall set you free...thank God for you guys, more grace in Jesus name
Thanks for all the timing content you are given to us
I feel dating is wrong a teenager that I am and not having boyfriend is hard but even harder when all your friends have but some thing I do tell my friends is when you have not discovered yourself in Christ you want to have a partner o wrong now ....... Well aunty Tolu,aunty dara and aunty Ella I love you guys❤💙💛.....continue to impact people and God will surely reward you. Just be yourself Christ loves you
😂😂 may the spirit guide us to make the right decisions... That's the only thing I can say here😂
This is extremely insightful 🙌🏾🙌🏾
This is so timely!
Thank you so much, TED.❤️
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@@moyosoreorji992 my baby!😂💕
Thank you for blessing us today.
True talk indeed. Thanks for the insightful words TED.
Wow. This video came to me at the right time that I needed for some advice. This time that I start feeling one kind thing towards someone and I Know that I'm not ready for any commitments.
Thanks so much btw🌚
Ehen that peace issue I noticed it everytime I thought of dating I ain't just settled within knowing that it's not just right at the moment.. thanks once again❤️ cleared my doubts
Awwwnn..Long awaited question ☺️🤭
I love your outfits. Wonderful one Ladies
Another wow message ted God bless you🙏🙏🙏🙏
I appreciate this. It was interesting especially when relating to teenagers. U grasped my attention for sure
Richly blessed..God bless TED ❤️
This topic is really important to this generation 👌 cause now this has been the order of day
I'm blessed🙌. Thank you so much TED 🙇
Thank you so much for this topic ...I really needed it fr
Thank you so much TED for this episode. I have learnt a lot 🤗🤗🤗💖💖💖
Back then in secondary school, I had a male friend in JSS2 who was my classmate. We were close in a way but I did not realize that he had feelings for me though others were saying we were in a relationship. I was pressurized to date him as everyone else but I stood my ground to wait till I was ready for courtship. I was mocked, jeered and laughed at 😭😭😭.
In SS3, he told me how he felt. I also had the same feelings for him right from SS1, but I kept it to myself ( I was jealous sometimess when I saw him with his other female friends 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣). He was a religious person and some of his convictions were so different from mine. His close friends had questionable character but he was considered nice,smart and funny by everyone in our set.
My heart yearned to accept his proposal but a thought had been ringing in my mind that we might not end up getting married. I did not feel comfortable about the idea either. It's like a force was holding me back!
I told him my opinion that we should only be friends, since he is truly a great one. He had been there for me in challenging situations. He was so SAD and I saw tears in his eyes. I noticed that throughout that day,he was so depressed unlike being jovial as before. He stopped flowing with me as he used to ever since then.
Today, he is doing well in his studies in the university where he schools and we communicate online sometimes. My classmates in my alma mater hold me in high esteem since I did not defile myself then. I have achieved lot with my life as a female. I am so happy with the way things have turned out. I am also happy that I followed God'swill for my life. If not, I would have regretted it big time 😊.
Even though now, I am pressurized by my coursemates and some wellwishers to stop acting "holy-than-thou", loosen up and get married at all costs because of my present age of being in my 20s, I don't care because I consider my future. I am waiting for God'swill in marriage 🤗.
Woww... that is wonderful.. i wish i had the courage to do the same things you did
Im in ss3 now .. and though i realised it late .. i had already fallen into the trap
I hope i would be able to forgive myself
God will sustain you and you won't regret your decision in Jesus' matchless name. Don't mind those pressuring you, they are oblivious to what God has in store for you. Don't let anyone destroy your testimony, stand firm! ❤❤❤
When a man or woman who wants tells you you're acting too spiricoco or holier than thou and your spirit feels at peace with your walk in Christ, please flee from such one as it is a red flag. He or she will be a weight to your walk and you won't go far. I didn't understand what God was doing, saving me whenever I meet someone and was about to go into a relationship until now. He protects your future...don't let permissive will rule. The right person will appreciate every of your walk with Christ. Keep believing, God will not disappoint you.
This came at the right timing for me... Very interesting topic
May the Lord deliver the youth and teenagers from this trend, God bless you ma, I will show this to my pastor to encourage the youth and teenagers.
“Waste of emotions” this is my key word and reason for not wanting to date before marriage 👏🏼👏🏼
o how do you plan on getting to know the person you want to marry?
So you'll date after marriage right?.Dey play
@@mosunkenny6283 well he has to make his intentions known to me then, we can work on it but if he’s coming for boy friend and girl friend stuff, then I’m not interested
@@niematansolamenteazucaralg2259 I believe that’s courtship which will come after he has made his intentions of wanting to get “married” known to me .
he has to get to know you before he can decide to marry you...?
The break video is inline with the topic nice!!!
I am just knowing that dating is a sin, although I dated,that Same day, I accepted to date this guy, God told me not to go out,a strong warning but I neglected, I was enjoying everything,not until I started seeing doubts and he kept on telling me that relationship isn't what you need now, I left the relationship but it wasn't really easy but in all those times I lost my Peace I felt I was doing the right thing,but deep down I know it was wrong, because even if I'm 20,I was ready ready for marriage..I left the relationship and I promise myself not to be in any relationship until I am ready for marriage because.And God has been helping me
I love how everyone always have something to say. Not from a script but coming from the leading of the Spirit.
Pls can the media team adjust the writing on the screen to the right side, so as not to disrupt youtube captions. Thanks and more Grace to you all.
Thank you very much for this TED❤️
Thank you. GOD BLESS YOU ALL. AMEN
A waste of emotions is the biggest reason why I'm not in a relationship at 25; plus, I'm not ready to get married. The issue growing up was my parents never spoke about relationships and tough words was spoken when they learned I was dating at 14 which ended when we moved to the US. Now, they are asking “where is the man?” I’m not letting anyone pressure me into a life long commitment I know I’m not ready for. Education on these life issues is necessary because if you tell teenagers not to something without reason, that’s the one they’d do. So thanks so much for leading this conversation 🙏🏾 May God choose the right partners for us all.
Choosing to stand for God is not a waste at all. Very soon, you'll be proud you did because you will find the best love that God will give you to pay you well for staying pure for him and not wasting emotions. It's a good pride when one sees those people you didn't waste emotions on in near future.
Amen ....on the same page with you right now 🤗
Thank you so much, sisters. God bless you greatly.
This was timely...God bless you ☺️
Just right now, I was just asking God why I entered the relationship I was In. It was good at first, everything was rosy but things started changing, it wasn't because of this I decided to break up, but I felt I needed to do it because it wasn't in line with God's will. I wish I had seen something like this earlier. Right now, I'm still broken, but I know all is well and I will be fine.🥺
Amen sis
This will pass sisi!
I like that light you mamas are shedding on this topic!!! I am grateful to God for meeting you online though never physically met you trio before.... But you are so deep in the knowledge of God's word... In this our 'anything goes- kind of generation.... Hmmm, I take solace in God's word ..thank you mas
The intro song, I love hearing it❤️❤️. This crush matter, my mom is always calling me and my sisters crushers 😂lol. Thanks for this video
Excellent Topic I love this topic
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Thank very much TED for this enlightenment..🙏
I needed to hear this,
Thank you TED
Thank you very much for treating a topic like this,
Important points has been dropped,May the Lord continue to grant you guys content in Jesus name 🙏🙏.
Amen
Thank you for this. God bless you