8 years in England as an American (and why it ended)
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- A reflection on my eight years of living in England, plus I answer your questions from Instagram.
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About Love and London:
I'm Jess, I've lived in London for many years, and this channel is a London travel guide for anyone visiting the city that wants to experience it like you live here. Beyond talking about the usual London attractions, I show you some of the cooler things to do in London, that most travel guides don't mention. Watch my videos and you'll feel like you've got a Londoner friend telling you the best kept secrets in the city.
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I'm a 72 year old American and I have been watching L&L for a few years now. I don't really think that I will ever be able to visit the UK, so I am vacationing vicariously through your channel. I am very sorry for all the bad that is hopefully in your past now, but very glad for the good. I continue to be impressed how such a young person such as your self can accomplish so much. You are truly exceptional. Wishing you all the best!
@Hariel Jjohnson What a bizarre comment.
That's very kind, thank you Bruce, and thank you for watching ❤️❤️
@Hariel Jjohnson Not really, move to wherever you want, vacation when you want, take any job you want and eat, sleep and nothing whenever you want.
The money you save on children go towards retirement and long term care insurance if you need it.
Haven’t regretted it in over 50 yrs.
@Hariel Jjohnson I had children, it's not all it's cracked up to be so i sold them and bought a dog! My lifes much better now haha.
@@bluenose7984 😂🤣😂
Advice to people wanting to get married. Please do not compromise on things like having children, how you discipline the children, cultural expectations, where you want to live, family culture etc. Please do not compromise on these things if they mean alot to you. Just walk away. Marriage is not a thing to take lightly
@@lkae4 totally agree. It's different in Africa where children are viewed as a gift not a hindrance. People in the West use to know what sacrifices meant. Today people are praised for nothing other than being selfish. Sad
@@lkae4 yep too true
@@lkae4 Hate children? Just because you choose not to have children doesn't mean you hate children. I only had one child, my husband's choice, who had a very sad childhood. He loved children but didn't want any more. We enjoyed being Aunt and Uncle.
@@iriscollins7583 well said! I have the same point of view!
@@RestingonHope
Children are a wonderful blessing from God. I wholeheartedly agree!
I'm from NYC and in London for 3 years now. I can relate to a few things - like being more conscious of my American accent:-). Agree London is super expensive but you get a lot more for it than in NYC (more space etc). I'm also self employed and it's a relief to have stellar healthcare and not pay anything for it (except in the form of very high taxes). I always cried when I paid US taxes because I felt like I got nothing for it in return or nothing that was noticeable. But here I don't mind the high tax because I feel like I'm taken care of in so many ways! I love it here! I feel like I'm in center of the universe over here. Continue to enjoy life in London!
I am British and have paid taxes for 33 years. I am more than happy that my contribution through taxation has helped my fellow man ie through the NHS. This is what a civilised society should be.
I don't even think taxes here are that much higher when you take into account both federal and state! but yes exactly, happy to pay it for what we get healthcare wise, and I also know that I have access to it even when I don't pay taxes because I haven't made any money. It's a dream!
@@loveandlondon Thank you so much. It's great to have another person's opinion on the way we work in the UK, especially concerning healthcare. As for the cynics, healthcare includes the word "care".
As a European I m curious to know what the US government spends taxes on. Could someone enlighten me ?
@@margheritacardelable weapons/military! at least this what stands out to me the most. US also has few social care programs such as medicare (healthcare when you're old) and medicaid (healthcare assistance when you're at poverty level) that American tax payers fund
At the begining of this video clip, I was afraid you were going to say you were leaving London. Thank god you're not! Just love your views of London life. Please keep up the great work.
:) Thank you for watching Dave!❤️
Americans are great, warm, welcoming people and its a plus when an American is able or choses to live in Britain. The British people are generally kind and welcoming and have a good sense of humour while Americans bring energy, optimism, clear communication which compliments some of the qualities of the British. So its win -win for both. Another huge advantage to living in the UK Is its proximity to Europe with most of Europe being less than a 2 hour flight away or a 3 hour train journey to places like Paris or Amsterdam. You also generally have 4-6 weeks annual holiday and can travel back to the US 2-3 times / year.
@Brian Bozo -- your message is one of the best I've ever read -- May God Bless You
Moving to london in three months from LA! Just accepted the job offer last week!
@@re_casheu did you move? And if so is it good? I’d love to go to LA (I’m
In London!)
@@rarasworld1679 yes i did (:
In London now!
@@re_casheu ahh welcome! 🥰
I didn't have children till I was 45, my wife's 7 years younger and know exactly what you mean, both parties have to be ready as its the biggest commitment your ever going to make. Take your time and enjoy life..
Being older and having kids has actually worked well for me, I think I bring far more to the table in that respect.
I did the opposite, i moved to the US to get married a long time ago and it didn’t work out. I’m now in my late 50’s (no kids ) and remarried for 25 years. I’m glad to hear you’re in a good position mentally and physically. I still miss things in the UK after all this time.
I moved from Inner South East London just 2 miles, in one direction, from Brixton and Peckham and just over 2 miles the other way from Central London and though I only moved 10 miles to The Outer S E London/Kent Suburbs in 1983 I STILL miss the vibe and stimulation of the heart of London to this day though it is not difficult to return as I am only 1/2 mile from a London Postal District.
Me too, Jeremy. If the housing issue were not so dire would go back tomorrow. Garry Harriman. South Carolina. RAF retired. 🇬🇧🇬🇧 🇺🇸🇺🇸
What do you miss about the UK?
Hello M8. I have lived 50 yards from Danson Park since I moved 38 years ago. I love the area and everything about it though it has changed a little.
I might be going back to Waterloo this weekend and b4 Covid went back regularly as I miss the S E London vibe as I lived over East Lane market next to The Walworth Road and was used to thousands of people nearby so I STILL find it quiet. We can easily get out into Kent,Surrey and Sussex, as well.
Good Luck :)
If I moved I would miss the Comedy, Banter,Theatre,Football,Wimbledon.The Open Golf, Cricket,Horse and Greyhound Racing, The Countryside.
I would miss England's Green and Pleasant Land and the rest of the beautiful UK. Easy access to France,Spain,Italy and Europe generally. Our 4 seasons.
Bluebells,Primroses and Daffodils and Summer Flowers. London where I was born 67 years ago. Kew Gardens,Hampstead Heath,Richmond Park,The South Bank, Central London, Notting Hill,Kensington,Camden. Easy access to The Home Counties and 1,000 other things...:)
Best of luck to you, hope the next 8 years are full of happiness for you.
Thank you ❤️❤️
I have always been convinced I didn't want children and when I was younger lots of people told me I would change my mind.
Well, I will be 49 this year and I never changed my mind and I have no regrets whatsoever.
No disrespect to those who do have children, but parenthood isn't for all of us.
Me too. I'm 60 never saw myself as a father figure. I'm so grateful I didn't have to go through all that child-rearing. If I had, I might have an adult child living with me now - ergh! I know I'd have the same feelings, even if I wasn't Gay!
It's so much better to know what you want. I married someone older who wanted children. I didn't feel ready but compromised and had three kids. After my spouse had some issues with addiction he decided that he needed a new start and I was left to raise my kids on my own. It's so much better for people to say no from the beginning than to decide afterwards that parenthood is interfering with their life.
Between myself & my 2 siblings I always thought I'd be either the childless one, or having children later on in life. But, as it turned out, I was the first & I have 2 children - both adults now & parents themselves. My sister had a child a few months after my 2nd was born, and she is now a grandmother.
Our brother & oh, who are amazing with kids, chose (for their own, private reasons) to not have children!
same
My daughter is 28 and doesn’t want children either. I had another child two years ago and she now says, her mind will never ever change lol
We never had kids, 1) couldn't afford it 2) too immature 3) didn't want the responsibility 4) scared .
We are now 62/75 years old and have NO regrets and are weathy because we saved so much money.
Oh man I'm gonna be so rich not having kids 🤣 love to hear it!
This is the dream love to see a thriving wealthy couple 🤣👏🏾
I feel sorry for you, I also didn’t want children in the beginning but after I had children I now wouldn’t want to be without them. Believe me, on your deathbed you’re not getting any love from your bushels of cash,you’ll want someone there who loves and cares for you, and for most people that means their children and grandchildren.
@@ginchen33 Please don't lecture someone on their life choices that aren't hurting other people. Some people just don't want children, and there's nothing wrong with that.
She's not lecturing you just putting her point across sounds like she has hit a sore spot people have choices in life
I lived in Europe for 6 years. I understand about your life disappearing after some time. When I came back, everyone’s life had moved on. We didn’t connect as much because I had all these new experiences. Some stayed but some left.
THIS.... Hit me too IRL. Very similar experience, minus the Europe trip. *Sending hugs*
Yes exactly. Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
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@@loveandlondon 💕🇮🇳🍵
I’m a military wife & after 10 years, my husband and I sat down and discussed seriously for a few days about having children and we decided not to have children due to my husband said that he loves our life the way it is and he doesn’t want to share me with anyone: we have an amazing life and I’ve never done what society says I should be doing: I do my own thing. I wish the best for you
Life can be pretty great! Thank you for watching Patty ❤️
Couldn't see my life without my children. They are one the best gifts God gave my wife and I. The best gift after Christ is my wife. Our lives are so enriched with our children. They are amazing
Sorry but it sounds like an unbalanced decision making process- you said you decided not to have children ‘due to your husband not wanting to share you with anyone and liking your life just the way it is now’ . What was your opinion on this ? You didn’t mention that . Your husband sounds selfish and your life won’t stay exactly the way it is now - things change over time, so you should not depend on that, no matter what he says now. I totally respect people not wanting children- but you sound as though you are being dictated to by him, this is a huge decision for a woman.
@@Joan-COYI Personally i dont care whether people decide to have kids or not and it has nothing to do with religion either - my comment was about women having autonomy and not being dictated to by anyone - especially in major life decisions
@@spanishpeaches2930 Totally!!
As a mother of 3, I totally get that you don't want to have children. Motherhood completely changes the focus of your life, and not everyone needs to want that for them. I live in a different city than the rest of my family, and even though I am just a few hours away, I really empathise with you in many of the things you said. I'm glad you are much happier now. Love from Argentina
Thank you for sharing and watching Analaura ❤️❤️
what’s the point of being 60 without children ?
Spanish living in the UK for 9 years here and I can absolutely relate to everything you say about living abroad.
It’s funny how different we are from the day we arrived, eh? Specially in your case, but so glad to hear that your are much happier now than then.
Wishing you many more years of happiness in London!
Hi Ali, thank you for watching ❤️
Ali, i guess most of your friends are not english either.....
@@manuelfg2902 no, they are Scottish.
@@manuelfg2902 and also, you shouldn’t judge someone’s life, because you know absolutely nothing about them. She is just showing us the parts of her life that she wants, and the fact that she talks about friends who have different nationalities doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have english ones.
And even if she didn’t, why do you care? You are not living her life, aren’t you?
@@alicates5596 i don't care, its her life.
I love Scotland and scots ppl, they're friendlier than english
You are so inspiring! I'm 23 and moving to London in September and watching you has not only made me even more excited but also settles so many of my moving jitters. You've inspired me to start a travel blog (and maybe even a vlog when I get back to London). Thank you for being you!
I was your age when I moved to the UK myself. I stayed for 3 years there and three years in Spain. Best decision I ever made. Have so much fun on this new chapter of your life!
Fab, good luck Becca! Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
I am 31, I have followed you ever since you first started this channel, not consistently recently though since I have made the choice to be on social media less in the last 4 yrs. I popped up on here to check on what you've been doing lately and it's a shock to see where you were at before to you being single now. But it's a good shock. I'm saddened that you went through a divorce, but I'm glad you are still able to live in London and continue your work despite all the hardships, and on your own it makes everything much harder but also more rewarding because you're doing everything for you. You're very lucky to continue to do what you want to do, but I know it's your own determination that keeps pushing you. There were many struggles but you're still doing you. It's crazy to see how much one can grow from a carefree 23 yr old to an experienced 31 yr old. I'm super proud of you, girl.
I don't usually watch very personal videos like this, but I was captivated by your strength and honesty. I am pleased that you have enjoyed (most) of your time here and I think that you are a very welcome addition to these islands. I wish you all the very best in the future.
Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
The way your video is titled it makes it seem that you are leaving London for good! 😱. Thankfully after watching you are staying 😊😊😊🥳🥳🥳😊😊😊
Yup! Thank you for watching Jeffrey❤️❤️
Jess, I’ve been following your videos for several months now, as we plan a family trip to London. They always impress me as especially generous. Both in your efforts to present top opportunities, and in the way you invest your self and presenting them. This particular video outdoes them all. Again, very generous, but also notably brave. You put it out there for others to learn from (or even share their own experiences or attempts at advice). If we live right, we’re learning all the way. You have so much to offer, and surely so many great things ahead of you. Enjoy it all.
I spent a total of 6 years in London when I was growing up (I was a Military Brat). London is still my favorite city and it is not even close.
It’s my favourite big city too
Divorce is a traumatic experience. We all change as we get 'older'. Life is full of challenges and we need friends but we also need our own 'space'. I trust that you go forward and are appreciated and respected for who you are. London is a 'fast paced' city but also has numerous green spaces and beautiful parks and historic buildings.
As a Brit living in the US, I relate to you on so many levels although, after so many years here, I miss home more and more. Plus I miss having access to London, easy trips to other cities (no flying involved) and trains. For a nice beach, you should go to Sandbanks near Bournemouth or better still, Cornwall. Hey, new business idea, FroYo by weight:) Also, I recently lost my job, it's terrifying not to have decent healthcare to fall back on and it's such an expensive hassle to find coverage that won't rip you off somehow.
Same here.. Brit in usa.
Sorry to hear that :( Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
@The Cream wish it were that easy.
@@johnchristmas7522 good formulation !
Hello from Portsmouth, NH!
Well, I’m delighted to have discovered your channel! I’m glad you shared where you have been on your external and internal journey. More importantly, I’m so glad you are beginning to understand the ‘value’ of your own life, and you are enjoying it. I married young. Fell in love with my in-laws and extended family, not so much my husband, I fell out of love with him! Marriage took up most of my 20’s. The sad thing for me about all of this was I am and have been all my life, a diehard Anglophile (maiden name-)Browning) and I studied Romance languages all through school. Eight years of French, two of Italian and Spanish. I have never been to England, anywhere in Great Britain, or Europe. Approaching 70 now, for a variety of reasons I don’t think I will be able to travel now. The reason I share aspects of my story is that I want you to use that information to have a larger appreciation for where you are at this point in your life other than just from your own perspective or that of your friends. I don’t know you, but from watching your face through the entire piece I’d say your do understand that there are good and bad aspects to everything in life-APPRECIATE what you have been able to do on your own. Too many people marry far too young before they know themselves at all. Now, I follow blogs from people all over the world. In particular at the moment, people living in France. You are the very FIRST person in Britain I have found (do you think of yourself as an American ex-pat, or consider that contrived) that I have found to be willing to share who you are evolving to become. All I can say is YOU GO GIRL! Your family may miss you but they should also be so proud of your ability to recover and rebuild. I am SO looking forward to watching many more entries on your channel, I am a new follower!
Hello Janice - I’m from Portsmouth, Old Hampshire, England. Love your comment and it’s such a shame that you can’t visit. Be well xx
Hi I live in London for few years, I am a London explorer and that's how thanks to youtube suggestions I came across some of your videos about London (love the way you present things in this city) and then came across this (more personnal) video. You talked sincerly about personnal experience for a youtube audience, that's very brave. You're a sincere person. Keep it and keep all this positive energy and positive vibes you are :)
Yes, not a lot of people realise that over half the people living in London at this time were not born in the UK. Makes us pretty multicultural. Especially welcome are strong positive people such as yourself. Hope your London life gets better and better
Always liked your channel, sad your original reason for settling in the UK is no more, but very pleased you can, and do, remain here. The UK deserves more people like you.
Thank you ❤️❤️
Thank you for making this video and opening up! You did not have to do that but I enjoyed learning more about you since I like your videos so much. I hope you can continue to grow your businesses and it's great to hear that you have a tight support network close by now
I'm from Norway, have been following your channel for the last year, in my journey to travel to the UK to visit the British Museum and curing my airplane-fear (claustrophobia). Thank you for opening up and getting to know you a bit more. You are an inspiration✊🏼
I learned so much about you! I'm very happy to know you love your life now. We are fortunate to have you guiding us through London. Yes, here's to at least eight more years! 🥂
Thank you Anna ❤️❤️
Ah the 'C Word', children. Thankfully, I came around to the idea that my wife didn't want children and 25 years on, we are still together. We were pressured by family, but we stuck to our guns and remained childless. I really hope that you thrive in your new life. This is a great video, thank you.
Good for you. I was always told that I'd change my mind later on. Nope! I turned down a proposal because he wanted kids and l did not. Now married to a guy who didn't want kids either. 15 year anniversary pretty soon. People should stop pressuring others into making horrible decisions. The pressure is horrific, especially for those who are gullible. I just tell them to piss off and mind their children :-).
Tou will regret it. But hey, whatever.
Guessing you have children? You'll regret that. But whatever. 🤣
@@loveandlondon i do. 21 and 17. Absolutely NO regrets about them. In fact you could go further, the one thing i have no regrets about is them.
Their mother and a bunch of other women, not so much.....
@@stephendickson9000 but do you see my point about how ridiculous that comment was? You are entitled to not regret your children, I'm entitled to understand my own thoughts and feelings and make a decision based on it. It's incredibly rude and insulting for you to say, especially when it has absolutely no bearing on you or anyone, except for the children I WON'T have because I wouldn't be a happy person for them if I did! Have a look at a bunch of the other commenters on this video and you'll see plenty of people who are older and haven't regretted not having children for one second, and maybe take some time to reflect on why you are so sure that a woman will feel upset at not becoming a mother and why it has made YOU so upset.
Hi Jess, by watching your videos & your love for London, has made me realize after decades of living in NYC, that my love for London hasn’t diminished!! I’m hopeful in the future of moving back back to my hometown 😃 You’ve given me the inspiration to make the change in my life , so thank you so much. ❤️💕❤️💕
Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
You need to get yourself with some mates in a car, drive down to North Cornwall (South West England) for some of the most beautiful beaches. The drive is long but the rewards are amazing
Love Cornwall, beautiful beaches and scenery pluses lovely people.
@@joyridgway6398 we are pretty great :)
Jess, I really appreciate your work and effort. I lived in London for 8 years and still miss it. Your videos are delightful. Thanks for everything. All the best. L&C 👍😘❤️🇬🇧
I am a divorce survivor so take it from me -- look at this as a new chapter in your life. Sometimes certain people and certain relationships are only meant for a certain time in our lives. And that's okay. You made the right decision. If you know you don't want children (and that's okay!), you are being responsible in not giving in to someone else's wishes and having children for him.
Wishing you all the best on this wonderful and new exciting chapter in your life, Jess!
Why would you call being divorced a ‘survivor’. That is just a ridiculous level of solipsism.
@@alst4817 For some people divorce can be very traumatic so there is nothing wrong with saying you are a survivor. Why does it bother you?
@@lorijohnston4311 my comment is pretty self explanatory. Your ‘trauma’ is just another excuse to talk about you, isn’t it?
@@alst4817 Hardly. I was replying to Jess because I had been in her shoes (which clearly you have not.)
Regardless, I am done with any type of conversation with you. Have a good day.
Divorce survivor 😂 you must be an American and vote democrats
Sorry and glad that you’re healing. Thank you for all of your beautiful videos. They are so informative and helpful and I’m watching a ton of them getting ready for my trip to London and Paris and other parts of Europe.
Love your vids! Have used your recommendations many times. We have been to London 4 times in the past 5 years. Love it. Good luck. Keep doing what makes you happy!!!
Thank you for sharing your love of London! Also, your story is very touching. It’s amazing how life decisions impact us in unexpected ways. I lived in the Philippines for two years, and it changed my life. You seem like a strong person, and I wish you well.
I moved to southeast Ireland by myself at 62 years old from Michigan 6 years ago. I could never go back, but I do miss Jif peanut butter, noisy beautiful thunderstorms, and baseball…
Do you mind me asking - how bad are the taxes? I am considering the same in a few years.
@@CydnieDaniel My house taxes (property tax in US) are about €100 a year. There are no additional taxes on purchases. The VAT (value added tax) is built in to prices, so if I find a pair of trousers and the price tag says €20, I pay exactly €20. I cannot talk about tax on earnings as I moved here to retire, but I haven't heard any complaining. The only complaints I hear from youtubers who've moved to Ireland are from the people who try to live in Dublin. City living is über expensive everywhere.
@@margaretlavender9647 can't be several years, I was visiting my daughter in Michigan in August 2019 and she was still buying Jif peanut butter…
@@vickifenlon2235, thank you for your time! I would also be retired. I hear “stay in the US” or you will pay extra in retirement on top of what you pay US. I am trying to research, but not much out there.
@@CydnieDaniel the feds (SSA) are happy to deposit my soc sec check into my Irish bank account. I do still file US taxes because I receive a state pension. I have enough deducted before payout, that I get part of it back each year. I have never been in a more secure financial position in my life…
I stumbled across your videos when i was preparing to travel to London for a week-long work trip. I'm so glad you had made them, because it helped out SOOOOO much!!!! Best of luck on your future endeavors and hope things get back to normal quickly.
So glad you found them so helpful Shawn. And thanks for watching.
I wish you all the best on your new journey. Thank you for sharing!
I’ve been watching your channel for a couple of years and your content has been invaluable when traveling to London. Thank you so much for all your insights!
Thank you Laura, and thank you for watching ❤️
Your love for the city and yourself comes through in your videos and your channel name is so fitting. Blessings to you!
Aw thank you Melody ❤️
Jess, it was so fun to hear about your last eight years in London. My husband and I lived there for 8 years due to his job and I loved every minute of it! We travelled all over visiting all the wonderful places outside the city many times. Transportation in London is fab thus not needing a car. And, it was so easy to travel to Europe - Paris for a weekend made my American friends envious! I made friends through the American expat community and had a couple of English and Australian friends. We lived in Canary Wharf where my husband’s job was and it was great. I miss it very much and we plan to go back next year for a visit. Hopefully, the city will be back to normal again. You’re a lucky girl! Wish we could do it over again. 😢. Mandy from Tucson🌵
Just discovered your channel a few days ago. I'm training my English listening to your videos and I'm happy to have met a such nice and pleasant "teacher". I wish you all the best for your life in London! Greetings from the north-eastern part of Italy!
By the time I was 23 I had two children. It was hard and we lived in a few countries - now we live in Australia and I have three grandchildren. I lost my 12 year old son when he fell from a tree. I don’t regret having children but I wouldn’t bring children into this World now.
Really sorry to hear that Joan ❤️
Joan, I am sorry to hear about your son. My four children climb trees every day. How tragic for your family. x
Joan what a terrible experience to lose your son, what was his name? I’m sure that you gave him a lovely and unique 12 years of life so you should be proud ❤️
Bless your heart, i have to say I am so greatful ive had no children now, I love children and that is why I chose not to have any ; i think it is eminently unfair to bring children in right now; the future is too unsure and the next generations are going to have a difficult time adjusting to climate change.
Omg My condolences for you and your family.
It takes a lot of courage to face the truth about where a relationship is going and to make the hard decisions. You are amazing, inspiring and I pray that you will be richly blessed going forward. 💕
Honest, open and a really good watch/listen. Thank you for taking the time to record it.
Thank you for watching Tom ❤️❤️
Hi, if I have to be completely honest. This was one of my very favorite videos. Because I got to know you better. I am very envious of your position of being able to live in London and am so supportive of you and all that you do. From my perspective (I have a few years on you) you are going to thrive and conquer. Thanks for sharing all of this and if I am able (covid restrictions) I would love to grab a cup of tea or just say hello when I come to London late this year. It is my most favorite place in the world and to share that perspective, with someone that lives it and appreciates it and is making a living out of your passion. I am so sorry for your pain in the past few years. Divorce really does suck. But, you stood fast to what you wanted in life. I know you are not at the point to say "everything happens for a reason". I wish you the peace that it brings, because, truly it really does.
Thank you so much Lisa, and thank you for watching ❤️
Thanks for sharing and thank you for helping to make my family trip to London (Sept 2019) the best vacation experience to date. We still talk about that adventure.
May you have many more great adventures in your life. Some that you are able to share on CZcams and some that are your own.
Cheers from AZ!
Thanks for sharing your story! I love the UK and hope to make it back there someday. I can’t imagine moving out there and being all alone and starting from scratch too - that must take some pretty incredible strength. I struggle with social anxiety and although I would love to travel more the thought of traveling alone in a foreign place is tough for me - so I really appreciate videos like yours that make me feel more comfortable about planning and getting a feel for what’s around.
Glad you enjoy them Josh. Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
I am from southern Europe living in London and the disconnection you had 4 years into living here is what I have been feeling too! It is so true that your friendships back home and other relationships start to weaken and people do not understand. Also feel disconnected here in London neither I have a group of friends. I am glad you said this as it felt like a comfort to me as someone like you understands! :) I am on your side thinking you don't want children! I am in my early 30s and just started to feel like this too! Good luck with everything!
You Are so kind about London, hope London always returns your kindness.
American living in England for the last 4 1/2 years and I can relate to a lot of what you're saying.
I also married and divorced early in life and can empathize with a lot of what you said about your divorce.
Just found your channel and am loving all the London content and your emphasis on the environment. Thank you.
Totally on your side. Babies are a HUGE responsibilities and they would make traveling and other activities very difficult. That's not what i want either. I wish i would have the guts to do what you do. It's my dream to move to the UK. I don't know anyone though :(
I moved to Scotland 4 years ago without knowing anyone and I wouldn't worry about it! People and life are the same everywhere you go. Just be patient and know that it might take a while until you've built a good group of people around you but it'll all be fine :) if you want to do it go for it!
Well said! Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
Why do you want to live in the UK?
@@Roxy-Mara How did you do it, tho? I find the getting a job there bit to be the biggest hurdle
@@bonniea8189 yeah I was lucky there because I'm a doctor, it's really easy to find jobs in the UK! Therefore don't have any advice for job applications otherwise sorry :/
I’m originally from St. Albans in Hertfordshire and often visited London with my mates. I now live in Switzerland and love it here and I’m taking my 17 year old son for the first time to London. Thanks for all the information you have given us on what to do and what not to do. I also wanted to say that it was refreshing to hear you being so positive about London, keep up the good work!
To me, a European in NYC for 20 years, many “expat” perspectives that you describe sound very familiar, including going through the changes in one’s relationship life and all the emotional aspects that come with them. I applaud you for sharing your reflections in such fair and candid fashion.
I can relate. My divorce was finalized November of last year and now that a lot of restrictions are being lifted in many places I plan on doing some traveling. I plan on going to London by myself in May. Flight and hotel are booked. I’ve watched all of your videos especially the solo trip one and I feel more confident in how I want to experience the city. I’ve always wanted to go but just never had the time or the means to go. Love all of your content and I appreciate your honest opinions.
Hoe your still here!!
Felt this. I'm a Brit that moved to America for a woman but we broke up because I didn't want kids and wanted to move back to England because of muppets with guns and healthcare. She wanted kids and didn't want to leave her family. I'm now back in England. Glad to see you're doing well. Best wishes to you. ✌️
Y’all tryna link? That would something, ahhh?
@@franko8572 Lol! No. She is very beautiful and seems really lovely. Any man would be very lucky to have her. But that wasn't my intention, no. I was just sharing. 🙂✌️
You hear the man, Love and London? Sounds very charming..
Hey do you know Jimmy Saville, he is my favourite Dj ❤
@@LimpiezaPersonas I heard about him. He was the wild mf making tv shows and “helping” the kids.
Jess i love that you shared about your life in a deeper way, thank you, love your channel, glad that you re in a good place and enjoying life!
Thank you Samaya! Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
wishing you all the best - thanks for all the videos, they really are appreciated
Thank you for watching andy, appreciate it ❤️
As an American I’ve watched you on and off for years between my handful of trips to London. Where I always wanted to live. Having grown up in Boston. I also decided in my late 20’s I didn’t want children because I really loved my (demanding) career. And I felt you can’t do both well. My husband went along. I just want you to know that decades later we are both still comfortable with our decision.
No you're not ...what a pointless life and you're getting old you won't have anyone to care for you
Having just recently discovered your channel, and after watching this video I am amazed by your courage in sharing your journey despite the challenges you have faced. Keep your head up and remember you have a community of online friends sunshine, we are just a little weird. 🙄
I have only been following Love and London for a while but it is fabulous and I appreciate you and your honesty, wishing you all the best. Our trip to London isn’t for 3 years owing to budget but your site has been so helpful.
Very honest! I'm glad you are well. I went through the same - being in a foreign country losing a bunch of family (his - which I loved) and friends - it is a hard process. I hear you about health care - living in the US for 25 yrs - always having health insurance - but still struggling with high bills - it's detrimental!
I'm going to London next week for 1 1/2 weeks and your videos are being priceless! Thanks! Keep up the good work! All the best!
What a wonderful and honest video. I am so sorry you’ve had to go through such a rough patch, but it sounds like you are getting through it with your mind and heart intact, albeit bruised. Good for you. I am in my 60s and never wanted children. Thankfully, I married someone who felt the same. We have no regrets. I wish you health, financial stability, and the right partnership if and when you’re ready for it. Be well.
This is the most respectful, polite video of an American living in the UK that I've seen. Thank you.
Most of the ones I see Americans are very well mannered about our country.
I’ve loved your channel for years and I think I love it more now we are getting to know you better. I’m cheering for you!
Thank you Kim and thank you for watching ❤️❤️
Massachusetts girl here 🤚 , so I can relate to the differences you talked about. 😉 I had been to London before as a single person, but it was a bit daunting planning a trip with my husband and 2 children back in 2017. Your videos helped me and my family so much, from which Oyster card to purchase to restaurants and museums to visit. I really admire you for making this video. I’m sure it wasn’t easy. All the best to you and your business!!❤️
I hope your next 8 years are great and that your business thrives.
Day-1 in London here we go ;-) Can't wait for the quarantine to end and finally to explore the city . All the best to your channel and personal situation. Cheers
Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
I’m a huge fan of the quality of your work and I’ve loved how truthful this video was. I’m curious about your new projects, and I wish you’ll be able to launch them soon. 🙌🏻
Thank you for watching Andre, appreciate it ❤️
Thank you for sharing your experience. I admire your courage to be so open.
Glad you like the city - London is fantastic . Not the friendliest, not the most beautiful, not the best weather but in my experience the most fascinating city for many reasons.
Regarding choosing not to have children- I’m thrilled I didn’t have children & have never regretted my decision- hope you do too! Exploring the world is what I invested in & have had a wonderful life!
Sounds like exactly what I want to do too Janice!
Holidays don’t last for ever.
Appreciate all your videos Jess! I am a veteran of divorce as well and will be visiting London & Paris solo this summer so you've been a great resource to planning this trip. I'm getting much more comfortable and excited about the trip each day as I learn more about the city and culture. Hopefully I bump into you so I can buy you a drink to say thank you!
Very interesting and illuminating video of your experiences in London and in the U.K. generally. Love the easy going nature in which you describe your time over here and that you don’t attempt to always compare London with New York. I have lived in both and can say that whilst they have much in common, they are also quite different and are great places in their own right. Long may you continue to enjoy your time in our great capital.
Thank you for this different, yet great video! And thank you for opening up! Being childless is becoming more and more popular over the years, but there's still many people who just can't seen to accept it. I believe everyone is entitled to their own opinion and lives, and while some are happier with children, some others are better off without, and that's ok 😊
Exactly! Well said. Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
Hey Jess, I admire you for knowing that you didn't want kids & more importantly that you weren't willing to try it to find out if it was you or not. Respect. I hope you're in a much better place mentally & physically. Keep being you! Keep being real & don't lose your smile :). Appreciate the utube videos & all the effort yourself & your team put into them. Looking forward to being in London next month. Take care 💚
Loved this vid. I always enjoyed how you are about things, trying to find the positive side of them. Now I'm gonna listen to the podcast. Stay well Jess. I hope I will visit London some day.
I try! Thank you for watching Matias ❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing Jess and wishing you 8 more wonderful years. Because of your videos, I am thinking of coming to London and explore for a few months when retired.
Nice. Thank you for watching Ingrid ❤️❤️
Jess, you are so kind and brave by opening your emotions. In general you have been our “tour guide,” and you keep it pro. But you are still a human and well loved, and this was so vulnerable. Hope to meet you and treat you to a beer when I’m in London.
PS, the yogurt shop sounds like a million pound idea. And you’re wrong about dryers. ;) Dryers are a necessity.
Thank you for watching Melissa :) ❤️❤️
Cheers to 8 years! I pray the years to come are even more fruitful! 🥂
Me too! Thank you for watching ❤️❤️
Love this! Amazing content! Here's to another eight years in London!
Thank you for your videos about traveling around London and the sights to see and places to visit.
I appreciate your strength in sharing this publicly.
Lived in London for over 4 yrs before heading back to NZ to raise children. Now they are almost adults, I feel I am ready to return to London again.
I am an occasional watcher of your channel and have not posted before. I moved to LA in 1997 to live with a girl I met in the US, that relationship failed after 2 years, I still stayed there and a year later I met someone else and we moved to the UK having married in the US in 2004. We decided to not have children we are happy together, it's so nice to be not tied down. I loved my wife's American accent, sadly she lost it over the first 10 years. It's nice hear your story and I wish you all the best for your future endeavours.
Thank you for sharing Jess!!! It’s beautiful that you’ve managed to do what you love. The trays of break up can leave many adversely impacted. Keep up the awesome work!!! You’re amazing!
I'm 75 and have lived through lots of the things you talk about. I didn't think I could be a good mother so i opted not to do it. Was I right? I'm not sure but I think so. But I am wanting to say to you that I'm sorry for the pain, sorry for the tears you have shed, for the uncertainities and questions you faced , for the fear that divorce brings. You are young, talented, smart, and beautiful. The world is before you. This will become the start of a new and fascinating life. You will survive, yes, but you will also thrive.
Girl, good for you for living your truth. I've also been through a divorce and it's not easy. You should be proud of how far you have come. Alsooo live in London and still struggle making friends!! I've given up trying.
Hi Jess, I hadn't visited your channel for awhile. Just popped back and landed on this video first! Wow! First impression, you look and sound great!! Very happy and relaxed! As a video producer, I hope you can channel this vibe into your future videos. Your presentation today (I know it was 9 months ago) was great, very authentic. I felt like we just sat down and had a beer and chatted. Keep pushing forward, I know people say "it's going to get better"....I got sick of hearing it, but I can say it does get better. I can hear the positivity in your voice. Keep your chin up and keep being you! You're awesome and I love hearing what you have to say! One of these years my wife and I will get to London>Paris. Going on 3 years of trying! Fingers crossed. Stay safe!
Keep up the great content. My son and I will be visiting London in late April for a few days and a Tottenham match and we've been watching all your videos. Thank you and good luck!!
I love this!!! it gives me hope I’m moving to London for love I hope it works out but I’m glad you still love London and had great experiences despite the small negatives so I’m super hopefully of my decision….I wish you well on your new endeavors
I hear you, sweetie. I am confident that you have made the right decision. A lot of people who marry young, or even not so young, find that they grow in different directions that cannot be reconciled. Congratulations on knowing who you are and what you want, and creating a life that works for you.
Thank you for sharing your difficulties with your previous marriage. I appreciate how open you are here on this video as it takes guts to sharing something so personal on CZcams. I'm from HK but grew up in London. I returned to the city 5 years ago after starting my career in Asia. This city is amazing but it does take some getting used to for a while as the English are not known to warm up to strangers quickly. I agree that having a community of friends that are your own is definitely very important. I am glad that you did not choose to leave London because of your divorce. I certainly know people who would want to leave behind a place that in their mind is not home and strongly associated with an unhappy time.
I always find your comments on London very informative even though I know London very well. I also have a lot of admiration for your forthright answers regarding your personal life and how it has impacted on your life here.. keep up the good work and best wishes on any new ventutres both personally and professionally
Thank you Mario, and thank you for watching ❤️❤️
I used to date an American girl in the mid 80s she was over here for study but she wanted me to have kids and move to the States. Her father hated me so he stopped funding her study and faced with the reality we split. My life went down the pan after that. Hope you find happiness. I lived in London from 1983 to 2000 until it got too expensive.
Aw, how sad..
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Wishing you all the very best ❤
I relate to this experience in many ways! Thank you for this video! Well done and helpful as per usual!
Thank you for watching Jeanine ❤️❤️
Best of luck with your new life. Transitions are always difficult but it’s inspiring to see what a great attitude you have towards your life and we hope that your future brings you happiness.
I’ve recently joined this channel and your IS profile: London is my favorite city, the one I visited the most and I will try to follow your suggestions on my next vacation.
For the rest, I am sorry to hear about the end of your marriage. I am also sorry to hear about the isolation that somehow you experienced when moving to a different country.
I moved to Belgium about 10 years ago, I am from Rome. Weather, culture, food, everything was different, and even today I feel the difference. I moved here as reaction after breaking up with my first gf, and suddenly I was alone, friends stopped texting, and yes, I experienced the same as you. My family always supported me, as well as few real friends, but the latter also tended to disappear in time.
I have met some more Italian friends in Belgium, but the relationships are not the same as what I used to in Italy, also because of the different life style and work duties.
I have been so lucky to meet here my wife (also Italian from Rome): I can guarantee that, besides love and trust, having the experience of previous “failures” helped us in recognising exactly what we wanted, and we started growing up together.
Keep your motivation high, your heart open and be aware of your needs: with your enthusiasm, visibility and surrounded by all the opportunities in London, you’ll pass this period and you’ll find the right person for your life.
All the best! 😊