How could I forgive him.......could you?
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Do not forgive, classic abusive relationship there, rage, destruction, guilt, and sorry, gesture for forgiveness only to rage and destroy again. It is a viscous cycle, even if one must forgive for their own solice, never forget and don't stick around for history to repeat.
If you want forgiveness you have to forgive, so peace will come back if not bitterness and hate will eat you alive.
Yes 100% correct
@@guesswhonancy9028 you can forgive someone and move on without that person in your life. f
Forgiveness is more for you than the abuser, so you may have peace and not be bitter.
@@greatlakezgirl649 oh yes so true
Yes you can forgive his actions but not allow room for him to be abusive again as he will be physically abusive the next time.He’s just entered into the ‘Honeymoon Cycle’.Hell just do it again…..Don’t be empathic because it allows self toxicity to poison you.He’s stealing from your soul trying to break you because there is something he hates within himself and feels inferior to you.
She needs to move on because he will do it again.
Totally agree
Yes, because next time he will be physical abusing her.
I would forgive him, because I am commanded by God to do so. But I would get out of that house, and have nothing to do with him, for he will turn his rage on me next time and rip me apart.
A leopard never changes its spots!
This is a potential dangerous situation. She cannot be his foundation. A foundation comes from a higher source. If he does not have that, then he will be unstable in everything, and she will have to suffer while tiptoeing around his moods and attitudes. She needs to plan an escape and stick to the plan.
This is interesting to me because a very similar situation happened to me in my past long term (some would say) "subtly " abusive" relationship with my ex. He was a very charming narcissist. We are both artists, he is self-taught, I have a bachelor degree in art. He would burn or throw away my artworks "because they weren't very good and / or taking up space". He would tell me he was a better artist than me while also being annoyed that he didn't understand me when I discussed art "in an educated manner." He never apologised for destroying my artworks or home. (He had moved into my inherited family home, and changed things as he saw fit).
I am glad we eventually split up, although it took longer than it should have.
Big red flags 🚩🚩🚩 that is no man, that is a monster.
Wow that’s a story wow thank god you have mo ed on
So happy you are n your best space now wow what a story
He would have been out sooo fast! Every single one of his items on the lawn
Lady you are not playing.
Do not expect miracles leave him
Do not forgive- move on! You are worth so much!
It would be so difficult but I would have to forgive him, not for him but for myself. I would probably get a very big lock put on that door as well. ❤
😢😢 oh no she needs to move on.
There's no forgiveness for that... it would be over....
Yes me too
Forgiveness is something that we have to do. It doesn’t mean we can’t leave them for your own safety. Jesus came for the sinners and the unjust if they asked for forgiveness He gave it immediately and told them to sin no more. That’s an impossible task but one we need to go after each day.
I would say don't forgive. You have to love and respect yourself. You do not need that in your life. Hugs from all the way in California.
Hope you feel better soon. Sending hugs
The man needs help. If this was an ongoing problem I’d remove myself or he’d leave until he got help and did some soul searching. You have to forgive him but it doesn’t mean you have to put up with abuse. Forgiveness is not synonymous with enabling. Usually we don’t forgive because we are angry, hurt….etc. if we do not forgive, that anger stays in our heart like a cancer and the only cure for that is forgiveness because anger cannot live in a heart that has forgiveness. Forgiveness heals us, unforgiveness hurts us more than it hurts the other because it becomes bitterness. Ever see old bitter people.
Forgiveness is a strong of realeasing a deep pain healing not only for the other person but also oneself. When allowing others to hurt you your placing yourself in prison of the heart which grows loneliness, hurt, anger, bitterness, and faults self to who you really are takes away the light in you. Since he felt true remorse the love blossomed in both in him n you. Sometimes it only happens in you but either way forgiving one doesn’t mean your weak it means your stronger and you able to move on with the other or by yourself. Release the chains
I would forgive him and move out taking all my quilts, machines and supplies with me. Mark is dangerously disturbed and his violence could most escalate.
I’m not sure what this is about. So out of the blue from your usual videos. This is definitely an AI video, so is it to mask your situation? You’re a friend I’ve never met. You have given me guidance and inspiration in my quilting experience, so I care. I am not equipped to give guidance, so anyone in this situation needs professional advice.
lol no it’s not about me it’s a story I wrote as I was ill and could not be sewing or quilting
@@CraftyQuiltingDesignsIt's not about you? You should of started with that. This story stirs up alot of pain for alot of people. You need to clarify, because all of us think it's a story about you!
@@CraftyQuiltingDesigns Really, it is not about you? Please know that me, and many of your followers seem to have been mislead. I have been thinking and worrying about you since I read this originally. As I said, you are a friend I’ve never met, and I do care.
And anyone in this position should ask themselves two questions: If it was my daughter, what would I tell her, (I’d help her pack up), and the other, is it because of my pride that I stay? (You lose your pride by staying)
@@natalieheffner2211 no others don’t feel that way I did say I was ill at the start and I wrote a story but thanks for your concerns
@@user-wo8zq4fv8m really sweetie I’m so sorry to worry you I promise you if I had a problem I will speak directly to you
I don’t think I wouldn’t because you work so hard on it and you made it with all your heart and love on it I would be so mad and upset get rid of him he’s bad news
This sounds like a very abusive relationship but it’s hard to just walk away. It sounds like he has anger management issues which he should seek urgent help with. If he is genuinely remorseful and wants to save the relationship, he should be willing to seek that help and work hard at it. It will be a difficult journey for both parties but if there is genuine love there it can be saved. Take care Karen ❤️
That is not love. He needs to do a lot of growing up and changing. I would not stay with a man who could treat me like that. Never. Move on and find your own happiness doing the things you love, and surround yourself with people who love and respect you for who you are, and treat you accordingly.
To all women I say, start as you mean to go on. Do not tolerate an abusive relationship, not for a moment. Demand the respect you deserve. If not, leave.
Forgiveness is a very hard thing to give. I am in a situation like this with an man who can blow up at any moment. We are still together and I pray every night the God will take his anger away and we could live happily together. I forgive him every single time but a piece of me disappears and I pray I can heal. I can forgive but never forget. My prayers are with you and your decision I pray will be the best for you 🙏❤️
Your situation made me cry for you, I lived like that for 13+ years and then picked another guy very similiar. He needs anger management, If your to afraid to ask him to get counseling then God might be talking to your heart to make a change in yourself. The truth is God does not want you to allow someone to abuse you (ie. Keep you in fear, controlling you, etc.) I'm just asking you to consider taking care of yourself and making changes in you. A counselor for yourself so you can learn that your awesome and deserve to be treated like a princess and nothing less. I will be praying for you that God will change you😊 and convince you that you shouldn't allow anyone to abuse you mentally, emotionally, sexually, physically, or spiritually. God will give you the strength to stand up to him. But it does hurt so bad and it's so hard, but someday you won't hurt and you will be happy.
Don’t display your quilts. If he gets mad again he will do the same thing because he knows that to you they are precious.
I would ( and I did ) forgive but I would ( and did ) also move on without the abusive husband. Living in a situation some years ago similar to this , I left and divorced him. He continued to abuse his next 2 wives. So they don’t usually change….. like a leopard’s spot doesn’t change. Just because you forgive doesn’t mean you have to or should accept continued abuse from A N Y O N E…..PERIOD.
Anyone else notice something werid at 2:20? Are ths feet or what?
It's Ai feet.
Another weird spot is 3:00
She is quiting, by hand, as the quilt moves across the table by its self .
Is this about you?
No it’s just a story I promise I wrote it as I said as I was ill and couldn’t sew
I divorced him!!
I’m sorry but you can forgive them but that doesn’t mean you should go back with him. What’s he gonna do when you get pregnant and have a baby? If he’s jealous of quilts he’s gonna be extremely jealous of a baby, especially if there are issues around the birth or with the child. No. Just plain no it’s dangerous. I didn’t really see how those quilt blocks that were shown could be reminders of past things between them. They looked nonrepresentational. I am finding it interesting that there are so many more comments to the no side than the oh forgive him side. Hopefully it’s because people are realizing that it’s a dangerous situation and you need to leave.
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