Why You Should Not Date a Czech Girl (as an American)
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- čas přidán 13. 02. 2023
- In this one, I share 4 of the hardest parts of dating and eventually marrying a Czech Girl. All things I never thought would be issues when I started dating my wife almost 10 years ago.
Dude! For so long we have been talking in my comments, and you mentioned it the other day.. it just didn’t click in my head 😂😂 you got a channel too.. all of them! Great points, it’s hard for me to think of them off the top of my head.. but you really nailed it.. I quite like learning the new language.. so hard! But I slowly see some progress 😁! That was good to watch!
Hey Codey thanks. Just a little channel but some fun learning how to make a video. Not as good at editing as yourself. Thanks for watching
You've hit a rough patch - it gets better. 😊
Thanks. I wouldn't say we are in a rough patch per se 😃 But there are difficult things my 24-year-old self didn't know would matter so much 10 years on
@@ThePragueExpat0 Hang in there!
I am not communicating in this video I miss living in America whatsoever. The purpose of this video is to help someone who might have just started dating maybe a foreign exchange student or met someone on Erasmus or work-study holiday, with some realistic expectations. I'm trying to share some expectations that at some point when the newness of it all wears off there will be some things that are not so easy.
Very accurate. Moving to a foreign country is chock full of stressors. The language barrier in Czech is REAL. It’s such a difficult language it’s unreal. Add in the cultural differences and all those entail and it can be stressful. I guess I’m lucky and the fact that my husband move to the US and lived here for about 10 years before we met, so he already knows a lot about my culture. We switch off every other year celebrating Christmas the Czech way versus the US way. And no one will ever convince me that fried fish and potato salad as a delicious Christmas dinner! Haha. Fortunately, my husband doesn’t care about it much so I make Moroccan or Middle eastern food on Czech year celebrations but sometimes make Řízky a brambory because it’s delicious. Haha As he is, the one who has done the immigrating to the US, he keeps wanting me that it’s going to be very difficult going to the Czech Republic. Although, my experience should be tempered with the fact that I’m married to a native speaker so my experience should hopefully be easier than his, plus I’m in my 50s and have more patience and experience.
@@Tangocita444 I have to agree I like American traditional Christmas dinner better than Czech Christmas dinner although I really do like Czech potato salad and usually, we have that regardless every Christmas dinner.
Iv made alot of videos saying this if you live in Prague, learning Czech at least fluently is not necessary. Basics make life easier but there are so many Americans here its easy to get by. I live in Prague 6 and on the weekends when we go out for a walk it feels like every other person we meet on the street is American or British or Irish. Also if you can keep your job or keep some kind of American standard of income you will be fine here regardless. I pay equivelent of 900 per month for an apartment that in seattle or tacoma would cost probably 2500. Although Im not up to date on cost of living there anymore. Getting off topic a little. Best of luck to you and your husband.
You literally said just screw it and break up ! lol. I've lived in so many countries I can write freakin books on this tropic.
Very informative AND Entertaining video. Thanks for sharing. Looks like a LOT of outdoor activities to do > what about swimming?
just sent you a message on instagram. Yes lots of swimming, fishing and hiking opportunities in the Czech Republic. Czechs are notoriously outdoorsy. The park I made this video I later found out has a nice community pool area.
@@ThePragueExpat0 Thank you!
I’ve been dating a Czech girl here in the states , she’s been here for 15 years . Only been dating her for a year and we just had our first argument, holy shit 😂 i mean during the year I could tell she was a firebrand in ways so I wasn’t blindsided. I love it and wouldn’t change anything because although she’s a little pushy and when she’s mad she’s fierce … she loves and takes care of me with the same level of energy. They’re certainly not for the weak fellas lol
I can relate to all your points. For the last point, all I can say is Praise God for Facetime!! I also must praise God that I get to go home to see my children & grandchildren about every 3 months. The first 2 years that wasn't the case. I went 9 months the first year and 8 months the next year without seeing them but then I decided I couldn't do it (plus ticket prices dropped tremendously) so now we go home to visit every 3 months, which is nice.
As for the first point, I have a great story. My mother & father in law came to visit us in the States and we had a cook-out. We invited Americans and some Czechs. I made all kinds of regular American cook-out food. We had plenty of food. However, my mother in law got pretty upset and told my husband that it was so rude that I didn't make chlebičky. She went as far as telling him that she doesn't see how I can be a good wife if I'm gonna throw a cook-out and not even make chlebičky! We've been married 20 years now and I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm a good wife, but I must say that I never had another cook-out with czechs involved that I didn't make chlebičky! 😃 Who knew it was THAT important to them! 😀
How long is each visit? That is nice that you can go back every 3 months! You must be accumulating a lot of airline miles.
And wow what a story on the chlebičky. That is exactly the kind of blunt truth I'm talking about, ignoring all the other work you put into the cookout to criticize one thing. My inlaws are pretty critical of my wife's cooking in general
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Hi, Daniel,
Sir_Mac here, the local, as always!
You've married your wife for exquisite qualities she has and she did the same thing with you, so build on that! :)
There is definitely a lot of topics, where the approaches differ - gun culture, racism, political correctness, nudity ... etc... But I believe seeing US from outside, from the Czech perspective, can be literally "eye opening experience"...
I don't know - have you found a (second) home in the CZ? Or is it still an alien country with only a few people who you like and even fewer that you love? I would suggest you to watch videos done by Jennifer Preston (a.k.a Dream Prague) and Ariel from "Ariel Aligning" CZcams channel. They found SOMETHING in the CZ, what they were missing / lacking in the U.S.
It is broad generalization, but I would say that Americans are like a peach - soft on surface, but it is very difficult to know their heart, to become a life-time friend, while the Czechs are like coconuts - difficult and hard on surface, but once in, you got a life-time friend...
A few questions:
1) do your children love all four grandparents and vice versa? If so - one (future) problem solved already...
2) do all in-law parents like the foreign person of your marriage, do they know that you or your wife is a good / great person? If so - one problem solved.
Maybe I am wrong, but I would say - everything could be (at least partially) solved by proper planning. How and where to spend specific time so nobody feel left out or "unloved".
Excellent response. I am an American with a Czech partner. We currently live in the US but are planning to move to the CR to reunite with his family in the next few years. I have spent what only totals to 5 or 6 months there in total time - but not all at once because of our lousy vacation policies in the US. :) In any event, I appreciate the CR in many ways that I do not appreciate the US - such as feeling safe from gun violence; feeling safe as a woman walking outside alone at night; better quality food (though seriously lacking in the variety I can get in the US), healthcare, and the list goes on. On the "plus" side (as I choose to look at it), I do not get along well with my family and already live 1500 miles from them for more than 25 years, so leaving them will not be that big of a deal to me. There's no difference in me spending time and money traveling from Seattle to Denver to see them or CR to Denver to see them. But it would be a great benefit for my husband to reunite with his family as he has a good relationship with them - we both do insofar as I am able to with the language barrier. His family seems to love me and I adore them. I love his mother as much as I love my own and love his sister probably more than I love my own. It's all about family dynamics and dysfunction and perception and purposefulness.
These questions are pretty deep. But starting from the beginning. I have watched Dream Prague and Ariel although I really dont feel much in common with them. I married a Czech. I have a Czech son. Those things connect you in ways just living somewhere single or with another American do not. I have nieces and nephews in towns scattered around Eastern Bohemia and my wife's grandma is in some ways the closest thing Iv ever had to a Grandma. In a lot of ways, I was living a Czech life long before I was geographically actually settled here. Yes, The Czech Republic feels completely normal to me and I am completely comfortable here. A lot of places in America did not feel safe for a family. I am not communicating in this video I miss living in America whatsoever. The purpose of this video is to someone who might have just started dating maybe a foreign exchange student or met someone on Erasmus or work-study holiday, some realistic expectations. I'm trying to share some expectations that at some point when the newness of it all wears off there will be some things that are not so easy.
I liked your peach/ coconut analogy.
As for the last couple of questions. I would say certain grandparents are more interested in being grandparents than others.
When I lived in the Seattle area we lived in a Gated Neighborhood and it still felt less safe at night (in the last year we were there) than we do here. It is easy to feel comfortable and at "home" in a place where you feel safe and you don't have to worry about your kid or wife.
@@ThePragueExpat0 I watch Dream Prague and Ariel as well and I agree, our experiences being married to a Czech are very different than theirs.
@@CzechingWithKatrina I actually disagree. I am also married to a Czech and, though I don't live there yet (2 more years until we are able to make the move), I agree with @dreamPrague's take on an American ex-pat living in Czech Republic. Maybe my husband is very "americanized" but he is also still very Czech so... again, I don't think that has much to do in the equation - but every situation is different. I feel quite akin to "Jen and Honza" at Dream Prague - then again, we're about the same ages, have similar backgrounds (though she's married to an American), and neither of us has children - so perhaps that's part of why I align with her views so closely. I also tend to lean more toward the socialized democracy side of things - which is one of the reasons I desperately want to get out of the USA. This is not the US I grew up in - healthcare is failing and the most expensive in the world, women's rights are moving backwards, etc. Aside from that, I believe that with an open mind and heart, compromises can be made. It all depends on how much one wishes to compromise. Fortunately for me, the only thing I'm compromising on is a variety of vegetables and fruit in the grocery stores and learning what the different cuts of meat equate to from the US. Seems supercilious and I am not saying it will be easy - the language alone is enough to make me want to poke my eyes out on most days - but it will be worth it and rewarding in the end. Anything difficult is usually worthwhile in the end.
Man, you're going to have some heavy future dilemmas where and with whom from your family be spending your time, speaking from my own experience.....
Yeah, we are already kind of at that point. It's tough. Really started this Christmas as we were not here for Christmas and New Year's with my wife's family.
You seem to have had rough time with your wife and her parents...just be yourself and don't stress man. Ireland is what, couple hours away ? I have a daughter in Midwest US, it's killing me that her main interest in eating at PF Chang's or other crappy restaurants, and going to malls but it is the culture, not stressing about it.
Hey Martin, Im locked out of my Instagram. In the process of trying to get it back (but havent tried that hard). I I got into my old Instagram from college and I just followed you on there. Wanted to congratulate you on your Euro Trade we were talking about a few months ago. I will be in Ireland for a few weeks starting next week and will be making some videos from there. On your daughter that's an interesting insight, the Midwest has changed so much since I was growing up. Hope she's nowhere near Eastern Ohio.
Hey man, yeah I saw that on IG. I was just in Prague, sorry we didn't have a chance to finally meet. My daughter in the STL area. I spent 2 years going back and forth almost every weekend, I literally started hating Missouri. Cool, look forward to the Ireland videos !
Damn yeah, I see you were just here a couple weeks ago. Missouri is definitely up there on my list of worst states. Glad she is nowhere near Ohio. Looks like a mess.
Sorry dude I’m sorry no fence you are American look I’m not dating her yet but my Czech lady friend and I getting on really well she’s has crazy has I am we laugh together she is fantastic we have a language problem be we still WORK well with each other get a grip dude work better together
Was the negativity + complainy thing Czechs are famous for an issue?
I would say that my wife does have a pessimistic view on a lot of things. She underestimates things a lot including herself. Which I would prefer to have a positive outlook alot of the time so I guess thats a little bit of an issue.
As far as complaining, Iv only dated one Czech girl but I dated girls in America that complained about things way more.
Is it possible to find a Czech Republic Christian lady?
I believe so. While Prague is very liberal with few devout Christians, there are Christian churches that do services in English and this might be the best place to start. Outside of Prague, I would say you have an even better chance of finding a "Christian Lady" but in those places, some proficiency with the Czech Language would be helpful.
Dude, you obviously had a bad experience and now you are generalizing.
You obviously hadn't watched the video before commenting and are reacting just to the title...