If Male Best Friends Were 100% Honest | Split Decision

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    0:00 Intro
    0:36 My best friend has bad taste in romantic partners
    3:59 I've seen my best friend's junk
    6:40 I feel comfortable crying in front of my best friend
    8:44 We've had sex or been in love with the same person
    10:42 I've had a harder life than my best friend
    14:51 My best friend has saved my life
    18:35 My best friend has a toxic personality trait
    21:30 There's something that I haven't said enough to my best friend lately that I want to say
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  • @jubilee
    @jubilee  Před 2 měsíci +85

    Are you and your BFF actually compatible?😬 Find out on the nectar app 👉lovecommanectar.co/3Huh64m

  • @tintintubes
    @tintintubes Před 2 měsíci +7812

    You gotta do "Boyfriends get brutally honest with their Girlfriend's guy best friend" THAT"D BE A BANGER

    • @buzz-wx1lh
      @buzz-wx1lh Před 2 měsíci +528

      that’s gonna be MENTAL WAR FARE 😭 breaking relationships in half

    • @mikeoxmall69420
      @mikeoxmall69420 Před 2 měsíci +339

      Bro wants to start WW3💀

    • @XKaliberRsR
      @XKaliberRsR Před 2 měsíci +96

      I clicked on the video assuming that's what the video is about without reading the title lmao

    • @xoanna08
      @xoanna08 Před 2 měsíci +40

      OMG YES WHERE DO I SIGN THE PETITION FOR THIS

    • @tintintubes
      @tintintubes Před 2 měsíci

      @@mikeoxmall69420 Jubilee needs to cast me in it too. My girlfriend's guy best friend is on his last life.

  • @GChannelist
    @GChannelist Před 2 měsíci +6008

    Starting off with "do you not like his wife?" Is WILD 😂

    • @akirakapadia7763
      @akirakapadia7763 Před 2 měsíci +31

      Ikr 😭😭

    • @MCBPZ
      @MCBPZ Před 2 měsíci +21

      tbf that wasn't the first question they asked...

    • @qhand
      @qhand Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@MCBPZhow would u know u weren’t yhete

    • @PH-pq3vq
      @PH-pq3vq Před 2 měsíci

      yeah 😂😬

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 Před 2 měsíci +135

      Grant coming out and saying "yes" about his bf wife is WILD. Lmao he obviously jealous of the attention.

  • @lindseynimurungi7031
    @lindseynimurungi7031 Před 2 měsíci +3732

    Now you guys have to do best friends of the opposite gender

    • @suomi4536
      @suomi4536 Před 2 měsíci +123

      At the end he said that'll be the next episode!

    • @geetanshukhandagade3976
      @geetanshukhandagade3976 Před 2 měsíci +15

      crazyyy idea

    • @nocontext1691
      @nocontext1691 Před 2 měsíci +28

      Would be a wild episode

    • @labadaba5088
      @labadaba5088 Před 2 měsíci +7

      THAT'S CRAZZZZY!!!

    • @tramosaurus
      @tramosaurus Před 2 měsíci +52

      Something in the direction of "were you ever in love with your best friend?" Will for sure come up then

  • @MarcoAce13
    @MarcoAce13 Před 2 měsíci +1608

    I don’t think Grant is in love but I think he’s scared of being replaced or moved on from which is understandable

    • @heyosj9705
      @heyosj9705 Před 2 měsíci +197

      it seems kind of like he heavily relies on Alden and that type of burden can be super heavy for a best friend that is their main moral support and "hope" in humanity

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm Před měsícem +12

      Yeah I think he's co-dependant on Grant which is understandable given his past issues but potentially unhealthy

    • @rainbowmagic8842
      @rainbowmagic8842 Před měsícem

      and I think he is gay.....

  • @victorious8562
    @victorious8562 Před 2 měsíci +2695

    This video is like 90% Alden and Grant. 10% is the rest lol

    • @sleepenjoyer-on2dr
      @sleepenjoyer-on2dr Před 2 měsíci +226

      more like 90% grant only

    • @victorious8562
      @victorious8562 Před 2 měsíci +3

      @@sleepenjoyer-on2dr true

    • @ridethatslapthat
      @ridethatslapthat Před 2 měsíci +113

      I suppose because he articulates a lot more than the others hence why host focused more so on him.

    • @imarockstarification
      @imarockstarification Před 2 měsíci +74

      They spent the most time on the guys who weren't scared to elaborate on their feelings and the reasons behind them. They also focused on Orin/Jeremy.

    • @shortclub7011
      @shortclub7011 Před 2 měsíci +28

      @@ridethatslapthatno it’s because their dynamic is the most confusing and the most likely to cause comments and engagement

  • @serenityq26
    @serenityq26 Před 2 měsíci +7743

    Grant needs therapy

    • @wonderfulfable
      @wonderfulfable Před 2 měsíci +817

      Totally, especially when he says now that the distance between him and Alden have widened ( perhaps due to Alden getting married ), and how Grant is more cynical whenever he is not near to Alden, it says a lot.

    • @CarmW2314
      @CarmW2314 Před 2 měsíci +22

      Have you watched the full video?

    • @leanon9220
      @leanon9220 Před 2 měsíci +1276

      @@CarmW2314I just did. It came off to me like Grant had a crush on Alden at times😫

    • @vanillaggl
      @vanillaggl Před 2 měsíci +153

      ​@leanon9220 not at all. now you are making things weird. they are friends. period

    • @1cy976
      @1cy976 Před 2 měsíci +439

      @@leanon9220 im pretty sure grant is gay

  • @TheSilverCrono
    @TheSilverCrono Před 2 měsíci +2371

    So are we not going to talk about the sleep peeing thing... like wtf LMAOOOOO

    • @jvin27
      @jvin27 Před 2 měsíci +29

      Big ick! Why just why ?!…

    • @orinhannigan2078
      @orinhannigan2078 Před 2 měsíci +144

      @@jvin27He did it in an unconscious state. Sleep walking isn’t fully understood. But I do know Jeremy would have been at me if I had done it to him.

    • @_BillieBirch_
      @_BillieBirch_ Před 2 měsíci +20

      That actually happened to me once haha. I just went back to sleep and then I remembered in the morning when there was pee on my floor that wasn't mine

    • @Annalalalandabanama18864
      @Annalalalandabanama18864 Před 2 měsíci +32

      a lot of people who sleepwalk do things besides just walk. my brother’s friend one time sleepwalked into the kitchen and peed in the garbage can. totally unconscious and on accident, it happens.

    • @PhoenixPlays669
      @PhoenixPlays669 Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@Annalalalandabanama18864what?!😂

  • @45rrr676ggu
    @45rrr676ggu Před 2 měsíci +4678

    "Leave your masculinity at the door and let those feelings fly"
    i don't like how we separate emotions with being masculine, theyre not mutually exclusive!! Men can be masculine and talk about how they feel! Its toxic to separate them

    • @vko.
      @vko. Před 2 měsíci +201

      Masculinity is often measured with responsibility, but what's more responsible than being able to acknowledge and express your emotions healthily?

    • @swarleysheen9016
      @swarleysheen9016 Před 2 měsíci +31

      EXACTLY!!!

    • @CarmW2314
      @CarmW2314 Před 2 měsíci +25

      Had the same thought!

    • @sophspice-zl7mn
      @sophspice-zl7mn Před 2 měsíci +20

      was the first thing i thought too

    • @presscompton7842
      @presscompton7842 Před 2 měsíci +19

      I was going to comment on this too. Honest Emotional vulnerability is key to divine masculinity! 🙏

  • @ghiblical
    @ghiblical Před 2 měsíci +723

    i wish emmanuel and christian got more screen time, they seem really genuine about each other.

    • @souplover6969
      @souplover6969 Před 2 měsíci +17

      also they look like they could be siblings

    • @i-lean4969
      @i-lean4969 Před 2 měsíci +10

      and they cute

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm Před měsícem +7

      They look like brothers and they both fine AF

  • @mey12907
    @mey12907 Před 2 měsíci +1046

    this may sound bad but i feel like this was heavily focus on grant’s and aldens friendships which isn’t a bad thing but i feel like they could’ve made the video longer so we could hear from others and we barely heard from emmanuel and christian

    • @chickenfingersss9155
      @chickenfingersss9155 Před 2 měsíci +50

      I agree, I wanted to hear more from other people.

    • @walissongs
      @walissongs Před 2 měsíci +11

      ​@@chickenfingersss9155they should release a version without cuts

    • @tiff42069
      @tiff42069 Před 2 měsíci +4

      @@walissongsusually they do on their patreon, it costs money though.

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm Před měsícem +2

      Agreed, I enjoyed it but wish that the video was longer. I wanted to hear more from Emmanuel and Christian more

  • @submissivekittycat
    @submissivekittycat Před 2 měsíci +2979

    Only thing i disagree with is the original statement.
    Masculinity isn't the opposite of showing emotion but rather the opposite of boyish immaturity.

    • @McLightning95
      @McLightning95 Před 2 měsíci +36

      exactly!

    • @carrieaceae1233
      @carrieaceae1233 Před 2 měsíci +57

      Yes! that bugged me too

    • @tylernielsen3319
      @tylernielsen3319 Před 2 měsíci +33

      Yep. They gotta get some more different types of guys on here, like more masculine guys

    • @MA-gu2up
      @MA-gu2up Před 2 měsíci +16

      I saw a study showing that the belief that masculinity has a negative effect on behavior is linked to worse mental well-being.
      I think this is linked to people who consider masculinity as toxic or something like that
      It is the type of people who say the statement said in the video probably.

    • @SPDcru
      @SPDcru Před 2 měsíci +24

      couldn't agree more, submissivekittycat

  • @dancingoctopus9888
    @dancingoctopus9888 Před 2 měsíci +658

    Ok but Orin and Jeremy with the black/pink matching rhinestone bomber jackets!? Thats a bestie.

  • @imarockstarification
    @imarockstarification Před 2 měsíci +1348

    I'm shocked at how many people think Grant is in love with Alden. He definitely loves him but all his comments just rang as someone seeing the friendship change once the other gets in a relationship with someone you don't really enjoy.

    • @leejjjjjjj1
      @leejjjjjjj1 Před 2 měsíci +174

      100% people in these comments cant tell the difference between platonic and romantic love - i hope grant is holding up well :p

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 Před 2 měsíci +108

      Ya indont think he romantically is in love with him. I think he's platonically in love with him and jealous that the girl is taking him away.

    • @juliuskasoro
      @juliuskasoro Před 2 měsíci +60

      they def had something going on in the past you can tell by how Alden prefaces every answer he gives

    • @bklynkat23
      @bklynkat23 Před 2 měsíci +74

      They were friends for literally almost 20 years. I would expect their relationship to involve a lot of emotions

    • @DSmith-gs4tr
      @DSmith-gs4tr Před 2 měsíci +11

      Grant needs some therapy, but I'm feeling how big an impact Alden had on his life.

  • @Kumara00i
    @Kumara00i Před 2 měsíci +1779

    I wish the presenter hasn’t said ‘leave your masculinity at the door’ to signify they’re about to get vulnerable. There’s nothing wrong with masculinity.

    • @daquonsimmons8240
      @daquonsimmons8240 Před 2 měsíci +66

      Yeah and why tf is everyone here gay or bi like jubilee is trying to hard to be inclusive to the point where they are including all gay men I literally heard 7 people say they were gay

    • @Turtles-oo8xl
      @Turtles-oo8xl Před 2 měsíci +117

      @@daquonsimmons8240 OMG A DIVERSE RANGE OF BESTFRIENDS, SPOOKY😱

    • @NeonCicada
      @NeonCicada Před 2 měsíci +23

      ​ @daquonsimmons8240 _Hmmm ..._ perhaps it all boils down to the statistical tendencies of certain demographic groupings, whom are
      _(on average)_ more or less proactive about these rather 'nontraditional' learning opportunities; for expanding social awareness/challenging emotional situations, which ultimately inspires higher degrees of personal growth amongst those like-minded individuals?
      *-- and thus, another online community is born on CZcams* 😉lol

    • @Christian-wu3mp
      @Christian-wu3mp Před 2 měsíci +24

      I think he may have meant TOXIC masculinity

    • @Incognition37
      @Incognition37 Před 2 měsíci

      gay people are less likely to have toxic masculinity which kind of defeated the purpose of the video@@Turtles-oo8xl

  • @user-ff9mb1ts4u
    @user-ff9mb1ts4u Před 2 měsíci +105

    Grant saying he finds peace in sadness reminds me of how girls with eating disorders find comfort in their eating disorder. You deserve better, Grant!

  • @whatamidoinghere8454
    @whatamidoinghere8454 Před 2 měsíci +757

    It sometimes amazes me how people are able to keep their friendships for so long.

    • @chellejack3480
      @chellejack3480 Před 2 měsíci +56

      I agree. I generally get tired of being mistreated and move on to new friends

    • @tavafavereperamilakaisreperis
      @tavafavereperamilakaisreperis Před 2 měsíci

      those dont sound like friends..@@chellejack3480

    • @sleepenjoyer-on2dr
      @sleepenjoyer-on2dr Před 2 měsíci +49

      Grant and Alden having such a long past is honestly so rare these days. Usually people drift away after school or during college but these two were stuck together until just recently it seems. I'm so jealous of this

    • @stefanie1987
      @stefanie1987 Před 2 měsíci +1

      sometimes they’re your only friend you’ve ever had so it’s difficult to lose them because you’ll have no one so you just put up with it same thing goes for some relationships

    • @Planck944
      @Planck944 Před 2 měsíci

      I have one best friend for like 7 years now.❤its amazing

  • @cashkitty3472
    @cashkitty3472 Před 2 měsíci +549

    If grant is going to make aiden choose between him and his wife he is going to find himself cut out of their life. In fact admitting he doesn't like her is the beginning of the end even the guy next time was like wtf

    • @mrsstonky.
      @mrsstonky. Před 2 měsíci +108

      literally ESPECIALLY since they have plans after?? 😭

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm Před měsícem +9

      Ong why would you ever say that out loud

  • @stephh1228
    @stephh1228 Před 2 měsíci +586

    Orin and Jeremy’s matching jackets 🥹 their friendship was my fav, but overall, I loved that we got the men perspective of this because we rarely see that in social media

    • @mrsstonky.
      @mrsstonky. Před 2 měsíci +17

      literally!! also orin being like “wtf” over the other people friendships is so funny 😭

  • @whatamidoinghere8454
    @whatamidoinghere8454 Před 2 měsíci +615

    20:52 I understand exactly what grant is trying to say.
    When your brain becomes used to one emotion (long periods of sadness) the brain puts it in your comfort zone. It becomes your comfort emotion so whenever you're happy it's something out of your comfort zone which obviously does not feel great.

    • @smokeytaboo
      @smokeytaboo Před 2 měsíci +25

      Yeah, exactly. I’ve been depressed and sad my whole life so it’s definitely comforting. When I’m “happy” or feel decent, it feels uncomfortable and weird and unnatural. But the way Grant explained it was also more than that like there is a poetic beauty to being sad as well. To feeling those emotions and looking at everything from that perspective is almost more deep and contemplative and raw? If that makes sense

    • @Yoyomeyo
      @Yoyomeyo Před 2 měsíci +8

      Oh wow thank you for that perspective. I never thought of that before but it makes perfect sense. I know the 'you're scared to be happy because you think something will go wrong (like it always does)' thing but not that happiness itself as an emotion makes you uncomfortable because you're not used to it. But yes @smokey Grant was also talking about the whole 'tortured artist' thing

    • @rachaelm1095
      @rachaelm1095 Před 2 měsíci +6

      The moment he said he was a writer, it made soo much sense because I could relate as a fellow writer. Some of the best writing comes from negative emotions like sadness.

    • @RacingPepe
      @RacingPepe Před 2 měsíci +3

      @@Yoyomeyo This applies to many situations. Really any "normal" thing that you're not familiar with but everyone else is. I cry and completely shut down when someone wishes me a happy birthday because I never ever celebrated it and it's become something I avoid because I don't know how to enjoy myself and have a nice day. It's much harder to learn these things as an adult because now it's a conscious decision. As a child you just go along.

  • @DribblingArchives
    @DribblingArchives Před 2 měsíci +587

    someone get grant to a therapist breh

    • @realcryptc
      @realcryptc Před 2 měsíci +2

      "this video is sponsored by better help " - Grant (probably)

  • @ghiblical
    @ghiblical Před 2 měsíci +111

    almost every time alden and grant speaks orin always went "WHAT IS GOING ON???😫" and honestly he's soooo relatable for that LMAO

  • @MrSkatebox09
    @MrSkatebox09 Před 2 měsíci +390

    Emmanuel and christian secretly have the same dad

    • @rrole
      @rrole Před 2 měsíci +6

      lol

    • @i_am_amazing2
      @i_am_amazing2 Před 2 měsíci +27

      I literally only heard them like once

  • @alovehotel
    @alovehotel Před 2 měsíci +645

    20:52 people will say negative things about this but Grant is so real for this. I’m mentally ill and I hate being sad and wish to be happy but when I do feel remotely close to happy, I feel disgusting.

    • @angelaparkes451
      @angelaparkes451 Před 2 měsíci +3

      Disgusting? 🧍 how does that worj

    • @alovehotel
      @alovehotel Před 2 měsíci +22

      @@angelaparkes451 are you mentally ill? This is a genuine question, not trying to sound rude lolz

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 Před 2 měsíci +9

      ​@@alovehotel what kind of house hold were you raised in? My gay cousin is the exact same way Grant is and I wonder if there's some correlation with how they were raised.

    • @alovehotel
      @alovehotel Před 2 měsíci +10

      @@whatoh3407 it’s more of the environment I was raised in then the household. I love my mom and siblings btw :3 but yeah, I did have lots of traumatic experiences when growing up… I’ve just pretty much been sad for most of life (I’m 20). I do relate a lot to grant… and sorry to hear that about your cousin, I’m a lesbian too… so I relate a bunch.

    • @avabackupaccount
      @avabackupaccount Před 2 měsíci +27

      yeah I don't feel disgusting when im happy but im sad a majority of the time so there's a comfort in the sadness now and happiness feels unsafe to me.

  • @crewd00d
    @crewd00d Před 2 měsíci +271

    A have a very typical American straight guy male friendship and we rarely have any heart to hearts, and keep it either entirely light or talk about work/relationship stuff. The only time we ever said "I love you" was on his wedding day a few months ago. I really didn't think it would happen but it just came out of me and the two of us stood there hugging and crying like idiots. It was nice, but really weird haha

    • @wiv1473
      @wiv1473 Před 2 měsíci +28

      aww that's so sweet😭

    • @Allanrpsx
      @Allanrpsx Před 2 měsíci +9

      sounds gay 👀

    • @Diane_666
      @Diane_666 Před 2 měsíci +58

      @@Allanrpsx those type of comments are exactly why guys are uncomfortable being vulnerable with each other.

    • @Allanrpsx
      @Allanrpsx Před 2 měsíci +7

      @@Diane_666 I was being facetious, I thought it was funny because of how blatantly ridiculous the statement was

    • @rose-yeah
      @rose-yeah Před 2 měsíci +2

      😂ayo. I only said I love you to my cat. Not even my parents

  • @saskiavoe715
    @saskiavoe715 Před 2 měsíci +116

    It seems like Grant begrudges his best friends happiness, even though he says it so often, but inside he can't stand his best friend's successes and the changes that come with them. But he can't let it go either.

    • @bryanzoom97
      @bryanzoom97 Před 2 měsíci +13

      Yes and that sounds super sad🥲

  • @ksy1111
    @ksy1111 Před 2 měsíci +111

    Grant is... like I'm looking at my past self. I hope he gets to figure stuff out. But I have to agree, sadness is beautiful, and never thought someone else was thinking the same

  • @kyraxoxo
    @kyraxoxo Před 2 měsíci +788

    I swear it feels like Grant's secretly in love with alden. Regardless, they have a beautiful friendship.

    • @nic5264
      @nic5264 Před 2 měsíci +271

      Respectfully, there really isn't any need to speculate on that. It's one of the reasons I've heard men say they aren't comfortable showing emotions, because they don't wanna look "gay." Grant was comfortable enough to share some pretty deep stuff here, and that should be commended without adding romantic undertones.

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 Před 2 měsíci +87

      ​@@nic5264i don't think he's romantically jealous. I think he's jealous about the attention (like he said). He's probably jealous he can't have him all to himself. Its pretty obvious and not at all uncommon.

    • @nic5264
      @nic5264 Před 2 měsíci +19

      @@whatoh3407 Sure, but being jealous of how your friend spends their time is worlds apart from being "secretly in love." I just think insinuating it isn’t helpful.

    • @whatoh3407
      @whatoh3407 Před 2 měsíci +3

      @@nic5264 ya sure, but really, who cares.

    • @Aaron-kj8dv
      @Aaron-kj8dv Před 2 měsíci +17

      Yeah it feels like it, but just from the video he seems like the type of dude where if he was actually gay he'd just be out and not in the closet. Probably does have have some unhealthy attachment though.

  • @RedDeadReverie
    @RedDeadReverie Před 2 měsíci +268

    Do people not realize they could be the problem in a relationship too? Everyone has flaws and makes mistakes. To pretend you were the perfect partner shows you never take accountability.

  • @Aaakeith
    @Aaakeith Před 2 měsíci +149

    Trevor’s voice is incredible, holy moly

    • @kayladay23
      @kayladay23 Před 2 měsíci

      i thought the same thing!

  • @genesispalacios7958
    @genesispalacios7958 Před 2 měsíci +690

    I feel like grant is in love with Alden, like that whole thing about talking being jealous with the wife kinda gave me that vibe. He also just kept looking like he was in love with Alden.

    • @mrterrific2323
      @mrterrific2323 Před 2 měsíci +62

      I've only started watching the video and I agree😂😂

    • @tahmenaferdous5213
      @tahmenaferdous5213 Před 2 měsíci +195

      Why cant we love each other without being in love. I dont think Grant is in love with him

    • @OneRandomVictory
      @OneRandomVictory Před 2 měsíci +50

      I mean, that happens all the time though. I used to have a best friend but after he got with his wife we rarely ever hung out anymore and our friendship just sorta dissolved over time.

    • @invisibleghost7415
      @invisibleghost7415 Před 2 měsíci +16

      @@OneRandomVictoryand it’s perfectly normal to miss that. Or not like the person your friend turns into because of their SO.

    • @tmoneyot
      @tmoneyot Před 2 měsíci +7

      Yes I immediately looked for a comment like this after the saved my life question I was like I can't be the only one think8ng this!!!😂

  • @moveslikeninja1
    @moveslikeninja1 Před 2 měsíci +73

    I think what Grant is saying about sadness is sort of a coping mechanism for him.

  • @Metonymy1979
    @Metonymy1979 Před 2 měsíci +81

    Its great to see male friends being kind to each other and men in general being vulnerable

  • @auraliax1323
    @auraliax1323 Před 2 měsíci +228

    It's nice seeing men express their feelings like this❤

    • @daquonsimmons8240
      @daquonsimmons8240 Před 2 měsíci +2

      why tf is everyone here gay or bi like jubilee is trying so hard to be inclusive to the point where they are including all gay men I literally heard 7 people say they were gay

    • @auraliax1323
      @auraliax1323 Před 2 měsíci +22

      @@daquonsimmons8240 no only 2 or 3, the other guys are straight,they literally spoke about having wives and gfs

    • @kikialeaki1850
      @kikialeaki1850 Před 2 měsíci +2

      ⁠​⁠@@auraliax1323 ??? Having a wife or gf does not mean they’re straight. What the other person should have probably said was that there are 3 confirmed bi/gay and 2-3 suspected due to speech/mannerisms. 7 people definitely did not say they were bi/gay, but you cannot assume that the ones who didn’t say that are straight lol.

    • @auraliax1323
      @auraliax1323 Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@kikialeaki1850 i didn't assume, i just didn't think they brought up all lgbtq people, it's fine anyways they're still men who are expressing their emotions comfortably here which is what i meant

    • @kikialeaki1850
      @kikialeaki1850 Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@auraliax1323 you literally said “the other guys are straight” though. They are still men but we know that this issue stereotypically resides with straight men. So there might have been smth with that but I can’t read the other commenter’s mind so…

  • @deluxional322
    @deluxional322 Před 2 měsíci +19

    i think Grant just might have gotten really attached to his bsf (i forgot his name) but it affected him in a negative mental way in which he got separation anxiety or smth like that

  • @Bringon-dw8dx
    @Bringon-dw8dx Před 2 měsíci +104

    Not sure I would want to be married to someone who’s best friend hates me?
    The two people you are most close to in life should get on. Very odd behaviour from the best friend to say he doesn’t like the wife once they are MARRIED.
    If you are gonna object to a friends partner your window is early dating

    • @irisrodrigues194
      @irisrodrigues194 Před 2 měsíci +5

      After seeing Alden’s reaction, I think he always knew, I think they talked about this before, but him being in love with her he couldn’t really do much. And you can also see Grant stopping himself from saying that his best friend’s wife Is toxic, so that’s probably why he doesn’t like her. Plus, It’s actually not that easy to just like your best friend’s partner, you may be forced to accept their relationship for the sake of yours and your best friend’s relationship, but still not like his partner, as long you respect his choice (which I think It’s what he does, since he retreated his words about Alden’s wife).
      There’s also the fact that It’s also not easy to accept that - after a whole life of just you being the to-go person for him and being just the two of you - he now has to share his best friend with someone else (who obviously spends more time with him). It takes a while to understand and be perfectly fine with that, so stop judging Grant and try to be in his shoes instead.
      (Ps: my native language Is not English, so sorry for any errors).

  • @awuraadwoa3492
    @awuraadwoa3492 Před 2 měsíci +13

    Grant
    Please ignore all the annoying comments and know that you're loved and your life is beautiful as it is

  • @itsRobBass
    @itsRobBass Před 2 měsíci +82

    Grant is definitely in love w/Alden but in a non-homosexual way 😅
    Like he def wants to be Aldens #1 but also I dont think he wants to do gay things to him

    • @casualles
      @casualles Před 2 měsíci +30

      Yeah, he's probably just emotionally in love with Alden.

    • @StaryzHelios
      @StaryzHelios Před 2 měsíci +6

      It called BROTHERHOOD love

    • @oranyeoranye7141
      @oranyeoranye7141 Před měsícem

      Grant is not gay

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm Před měsícem +1

      Yeah he's jealous he's losing his best friend. Also Grant is bi

  • @FoougieTV
    @FoougieTV Před 2 měsíci +41

    Grant, your best friend is smart for maxing out his 401k!!

  • @Bribreezzzyy
    @Bribreezzzyy Před 2 měsíci +16

    I understand Grant and the loss of creativity from his sadness.
    It’s mainly an outlet and coping mechanism. But there really is a deep beauty in feeling melancholy because it’s a blessing to feel things. I remember being callous and cold. Numb even.
    Sometimes pain helps me remember I’m human. I’m alive.

  • @iamhazelnuts
    @iamhazelnuts Před 2 měsíci +65

    Best friend episodes are the BEST!! Please make more!

  • @Arialiszt
    @Arialiszt Před 2 měsíci +13

    Grant is such a beautiful soul. He unfortunately romanticizes depression and sadness. I don’t think he loves it I think he finds beauty in it. I hope he gets to a place where he finds beauty in joy and romanticizes happiness and peace. A lot of great art has come from joy ❤

  • @danzwku
    @danzwku Před 2 měsíci +136

    0:31 oo but why does "letting your feelings fly" have to mean "leaving masculinity at the door" ?

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm Před měsícem +1

      Facts. he should've said toxic masculinity not regular masculinity.

  • @Thatmemeguylols
    @Thatmemeguylols Před 2 měsíci +112

    Men share heartfelt gratitude and bromantic love, breaking stereotypes around emotional expression

    • @daquonsimmons8240
      @daquonsimmons8240 Před 2 měsíci +7

      why tf is everyone here gay or bi like jubilee is trying to hard to be inclusive to the point where they are including all gay men I literally heard 7 people say they were gay

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm Před měsícem

      @@daquonsimmons8240 If you heard 7 people say they were gay then you need to get your hearing checked out. Only 2 of them were gay and 2 were bi. The other 4 were straight but you conveniently didn't mention them

  • @SkinnyWakanda
    @SkinnyWakanda Před 2 měsíci +47

    9:08 I honestly loved Poptarts more than an actual relationship in high school (and still do)

  • @user-ze8bp5ht2j
    @user-ze8bp5ht2j Před měsícem +5

    Orin being confused by Alden the whole time is sendingggg me lol that is exactly how i would be reacting to the weirdness

  • @tramosaurus
    @tramosaurus Před 2 měsíci +77

    Orin was just so confused by Alden it's the best

  • @liltunturi1251
    @liltunturi1251 Před měsícem +4

    20:47 - Enjoying being sad. I understand it, it is not like suffering type of sad. It is a melancholy. You feel content when you are melancholic and tapping into sorrow. You have known that place for your whole life, you got many memories from those times in the past. It is that bittersweet feeling of nostalgia and overall just something that feels unique to your life experience. Like being in a bubble, when hopelessness feels comforting as it melts your daily stress. The problem comes with the fact that you really cant share that with anyone, it is like living in your own sad world, and you often feel the urge to isolate from friends and family because of that. That is when it becomes harmful.

  • @victory4333
    @victory4333 Před 2 měsíci +66

    I love being happy but that statement Grant made in 21:19 is pretty relatable. For some reason I do get a bit more creative when I am sad. It isn't sth I crave but it does happen. I feel like he probably feels nostalgic alot too and alot of the time that feeling of nostalgia is a beautiful thing at least thats how I feel.

    • @mubaraqoshodi5953
      @mubaraqoshodi5953 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Fr, I do this, too. Like when I'm sad I'll read a book or draw something and I'll feel at peace like.....idk, I always saw myself as maybe I'm weird like why do I enjoy being sad?

    • @maryanne2025
      @maryanne2025 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Ive gotten creative music songwriting being a little hopeful or happy about a romance so no you don't have to be sad to get creative,... I think a key is strong emotions....

  • @stevenfoster9402
    @stevenfoster9402 Před 2 měsíci +8

    Jubilee do this with engaged couples!! I feel like this is an overlooked but *crucial* time in people's relationships. And my fiancé and I would love to volunteer!!

  • @abc_cba
    @abc_cba Před 2 měsíci +17

    Emmanuel has the best smile, he should smile more - that is his secret weapon, i don't think he knows.

  • @tessayo
    @tessayo Před 2 měsíci +15

    I didnt honestly know if men had as deep friendships as women so this is rly beautiful to see that i was wrong

  • @christineramos8156
    @christineramos8156 Před 2 měsíci +32

    “Leave your masculinity at the door and let those feelings fly.” I kinda felt some type of way about that cuz masculinity should also include vulnerability and emotions, that’s what’s called healthy masculinity. What do y’all think

    • @RainbowFlowerCrow
      @RainbowFlowerCrow Před 2 měsíci

      I totally agree with you; they should have phrased that differently/in a more respectful way that doesn't insult or infantilize these grown men.

    • @Random-sk6hm
      @Random-sk6hm Před měsícem

      Fr they shoudl've said toxic masculinity rather than regular masculinity

  • @mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat
    @mspears_bobobuddytheseniorcat Před 2 měsíci +10

    I’m really loving this Split Decision series and can’t wait to see the next one! Jubilee is such a great channel! ❤

  • @Orange_creamsicle
    @Orange_creamsicle Před 2 měsíci +7

    I need this series to keep going

  • @AnimeFreak4Ever13
    @AnimeFreak4Ever13 Před 2 měsíci +2

    This is SO important. MORE OF THIS PLEASE!!

  • @GlamsUnknown
    @GlamsUnknown Před 2 měsíci +9

    Grant's take on sadness rlly reminded me of that one scene in the movie Little Miss Sunshine where uncle and Dwayne also discuss how sadness creates more than happiness. It's quite an interesting take.

  • @kevinceka
    @kevinceka Před 2 měsíci +5

    This is my favourite Jubilee video seeing these guys open up to each other is very nice.

  •  Před 2 měsíci +44

    Love seeing men break stereotypes and express their emotions so openly! Authenticity is key

  • @chandlerpope2072
    @chandlerpope2072 Před 2 měsíci +6

    We needed to see a pair of Black friends in this mix, our community often struggles with showing the level of vulnerability that these men did so I would have loved to have that platformed

  • @RedDeadReverie
    @RedDeadReverie Před 2 měsíci +33

    I’m so happy these guys can be vulnerable with each other. It’s important men express their feelings and have someone to talk to. Guys, please go to people when you need help. Don’t be ashamed to cry or feel sad ❤ Your mental health is important too!

    • @MiguelHernandez-ek2xe
      @MiguelHernandez-ek2xe Před 2 měsíci

      It's been shown in multiple, replicable studies that your suggestion* results in worse psychological damage to men. Anyone with even a beginning introduction to psychology knows that healthy men and women do not process emotions the same way nor should they.
      Tldr You, "Luna23973", don't know what you're talking about and are parroting a platitude because you think it the popular thing to do.

  • @DiegoOrtiz-jx3ze
    @DiegoOrtiz-jx3ze Před 2 měsíci +33

    when i was really down bad i found a weird comfort in being sad. i get what grant meant. def not beautiful its not healthy but its a way of finding some sort of light

    • @MCBPZ
      @MCBPZ Před 2 měsíci

      he has poetry if you're interested...

  • @jenakelena4783
    @jenakelena4783 Před 2 měsíci +11

    THIS IS THE BEST FORMAT YOU GUYS HAVE EVER DONE

  • @MCBPZ
    @MCBPZ Před 2 měsíci +150

    I love ALDEN

  • @jenakelena4783
    @jenakelena4783 Před 2 měsíci +1

    I NEED ENDLESS PARTS OF THIS OMG I BEG YOUUUU

  • @JustWingingIt01
    @JustWingingIt01 Před 2 měsíci +92

    Trevor, dude, no need to suffer. Goth christians exist! 😭

    • @froggie0ribbit592
      @froggie0ribbit592 Před 2 měsíci +4

      What does being christian have to do with it?

    • @Kennedy_77441
      @Kennedy_77441 Před 2 měsíci +25

      @@froggie0ribbit592 his friend said he was pretty deeply religious, so I assume that is what he is probably looking for in a future relationship, someone who shares that same value, not that you can't be goth AND christian, because plenty of people are

    • @froggie0ribbit592
      @froggie0ribbit592 Před 2 měsíci +5

      @KindaK_ ah thank you! Didn't catch that part initially, I don't think I had subtitles on at that point. I appreciate you answering and clearing the question!

    • @Kennedy_77441
      @Kennedy_77441 Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@froggie0ribbit592 no problemo

    • @TrevloidsEmporium
      @TrevloidsEmporium Před 2 měsíci +1

      LMAO suffering is all part of the process B]

  • @robertlovesgothgirlz
    @robertlovesgothgirlz Před 2 měsíci +11

    Haha guys in general are pretty honest during these interactions and it's hilarious

  • @kmm8801
    @kmm8801 Před 2 měsíci +65

    Orin casually calling out grant is my fav part of the video

    • @orinhannigan2078
      @orinhannigan2078 Před 2 měsíci +9

      @kmm8801 He asked an open question and asked us for an honest answer, so I did was I was asked to do. 😊

  • @Elv-One
    @Elv-One Před 2 měsíci +30

    Alden is the definition of golden retriever energy

    • @chidimaokereke8372
      @chidimaokereke8372 Před měsícem

      Yessss and I’m so glad grant has him by his side ❤😢

  • @manilkasheran2934
    @manilkasheran2934 Před 2 měsíci +13

    Alden's wife later: Did you know that Grant has a crush on you?
    Alden: What???....nah!

  • @Kimkat5
    @Kimkat5 Před 2 měsíci +10

    I don’t think Grant is in love with Allen, but definitely has developed a strong co dependency with Allen. Like the way he says he gets jealous of the attention that his best friend gives to his wife. Obviously don’t know the whole story, but I really do hope he gets therapy one day cause he really has some demons

  • @jojobigcoat
    @jojobigcoat Před 2 měsíci +6

    This was the most genuine, wholesome one yet

  • @calebnissen
    @calebnissen Před 2 měsíci +17

    I think this would be really cool to see with older male best friends who have been friends for decades.

  • @waterymelon
    @waterymelon Před 2 měsíci +4

    For Grant, I get the sadness being nice part. It's a beautiful feeling.

  • @twohootsinlove
    @twohootsinlove Před 2 měsíci +198

    Grant is in love with his best friend

    • @dcutestluv9023
      @dcutestluv9023 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Alden is dang married

    • @twohootsinlove
      @twohootsinlove Před 2 měsíci +48

      @@dcutestluv9023That doesn’t mean he’s not in love with him (and that also doesn’t mean I think it’s correct - I’m just saying that’s what he’s showing). Grant said he doesn’t like the wife, he says that he gets jealous that he’s spending time with his wife, and just overall everything he said and his behavior towards his friend clearly shows he has feelings beyond a friendship.

    • @sumaiya-ey5zc
      @sumaiya-ey5zc Před 2 měsíci +14

      Yah frrr he had no reason to not like the wife accept that he changes around her 😂😂

    • @invisibleghost7415
      @invisibleghost7415 Před 2 měsíci +16

      @@twohootsinlove??? so you’ve never had a friend get a partner and now you barely see them anymore and miss that? That means you have romantic feelings for them?

    • @twohootsinlove
      @twohootsinlove Před 2 měsíci +8

      @@invisibleghost7415 you can miss a friendship without getting upset or jealous towards your friends partner. And you can miss a friend without having to hate or dislike the partner. They shouldn’t go hand in hand. And Grant “missing” his friend isn’t the only reason in this entire video in which he showed feelings that were beyond a friendship. There were many other verbal and visual queues that demonstrated his feelings and I’m not the only one that shares this opinion. As you can see from the likes my comments have gotten, the comments underneath my comment, and other people creating their own comments sharing the same thought and people agreeing underneath their post as well

  • @azayzelderegis1655
    @azayzelderegis1655 Před 2 měsíci +1

    This was so wholesome-I loved the amount of care each of these men had for one another.

  • @tekqist28
    @tekqist28 Před 2 měsíci +18

    Aldens wife when she reads the comments 😮😮😮😮😮

  • @invisibleghost7415
    @invisibleghost7415 Před 2 měsíci +101

    “Leave your masculinity at the door”, so being vulnerable is a non-masculine trait now?
    Alright, say less.

    • @nycyg
      @nycyg Před 2 měsíci +4

      i think they meant toxic masculinity

    • @imapro2597
      @imapro2597 Před 2 měsíci

      No that’s not what they meant they are saying to abandon all types of social constructs and anything that may make you conceal your vulnerability.

  • @katherines3641
    @katherines3641 Před 2 měsíci +7

    Grant genuinely believes he’s in a relationship with Alden it’s actually crazy and Alden needs to a grow a pair cause how u gonna let ur best friend talk about ur partner like that …

  • @akirakapadia7763
    @akirakapadia7763 Před 2 měsíci +252

    Orin is actually such a lovely guy

    • @serenityq26
      @serenityq26 Před 2 měsíci +20

      You spelt mykel wrong

    • @MariTiyana
      @MariTiyana Před 2 měsíci +8

      @@serenityq26he blamed Orin when HE peed on him😭

    • @1KingFisher
      @1KingFisher Před 2 měsíci +7

      @@MariTiyanaI think you got mykel and Jeremy mixed up

    • @orinhannigan2078
      @orinhannigan2078 Před 2 měsíci +4

      Thank you for saying that!
      Were you surprised by that for some reason??

    • @mrsstonky.
      @mrsstonky. Před 2 měsíci +2

      @@serenityq26saying one person is lovely doesn’t mean another one can’t lol 😭

  • @RainWalking
    @RainWalking Před 2 měsíci +52

    Masculinity is showing how you feel and so is femininity. So why tell them to leave out who they are.

    • @alovehotel
      @alovehotel Před 2 měsíci +8

      I think they meant toxic masculinity but that’s the fault on their end. I 100% agree with what you said :3

    • @Daisy99999
      @Daisy99999 Před 2 měsíci

      Yeah it made it sound like you can’t be masculine and show emotion at the same time. Bad wording

  • @emmarkowsky2497
    @emmarkowsky2497 Před 2 měsíci +9

    0:32 “leave your masculinity at the door” masculinity can be compatible with vulnerability though… expressing your emotions doesn’t make you any less masculine!

  • @derekwong809
    @derekwong809 Před 2 měsíci +6

    All great guests. Takes a lot of courage to share your emotions in front of millions of people.

  • @jenakelena4783
    @jenakelena4783 Před 2 měsíci +6

    this was so entertaining, you made my day thank you❤️❤️❤️

  • @pwetty4r4
    @pwetty4r4 Před 2 měsíci +6

    I almost couldn't get through the first part but I did and it was worth it and very wholesome 😊

  • @jillsarah7356
    @jillsarah7356 Před 2 měsíci +4

    Proud of everyone for their incredible vulnerability and honesty here. That’s awesome

  • @bklynkat23
    @bklynkat23 Před 2 měsíci +1

    I was waiting for this to drop when I saw the casting announcement go out

  • @justainsley4306
    @justainsley4306 Před 2 měsíci +77

    Grant and Alden experimented when they shared rooms in college. Alden moved on from it but Grant is still hoping he changes his mind so sticks around.

    • @keithmutamba1395
      @keithmutamba1395 Před 2 měsíci

      When did they say this? Did they experiment?

    • @awuraadwoa3492
      @awuraadwoa3492 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Bro just stop
      You don't know them personally

    • @keithmutamba1395
      @keithmutamba1395 Před 2 měsíci

      @@awuraadwoa3492 I was actually wondering how this person knows they banged if they even did

    • @Daisy99999
      @Daisy99999 Před 2 měsíci

      @@awuraadwoa3492they went on a youtube show exposing deep parts of their friendship you have to assume people are going to speculate and comment

  • @kittyfairy662
    @kittyfairy662 Před 2 měsíci +276

    I feel like grant is secretly in love with alden

    • @niv1499
      @niv1499 Před 2 měsíci +51

      i can’t believe no one else is talking about this

    • @ally6650
      @ally6650 Před 2 měsíci +15

      was looking for this comment..

    • @Elowennnnnnnn
      @Elowennnnnnnn Před 2 měsíci +13

      Hope the wife sees this comment

    • @twohootsinlove
      @twohootsinlove Před 2 měsíci +11

      We were thinking the same thing! I commented the same thing 😂 and someone responded underneath my comment “Alden is freaking married” which idk the relevance to that when I was talking about Grants feelings

    • @keatonhayes6636
      @keatonhayes6636 Před 2 měsíci +4

      i'm glad someone else said it

  • @ab-zg8pt
    @ab-zg8pt Před 2 měsíci +29

    00:19 Never do that again, that gave us 2nd hand embarrassment. That being said, I liked this segment - Jubilee this was excellent

  • @loomonda18
    @loomonda18 Před 2 měsíci +15

    Hey Grant, thanks for being so vulnerable and sharing your story with us. You are so loved xx

  • @zannadunstrand6289
    @zannadunstrand6289 Před 2 měsíci +3

    I love every single one of these guys and wish that I could be friend and/or have a party with all of them!
    That would be ✨AMAZING✨🙌🏻

  • @manilkasheran2934
    @manilkasheran2934 Před 2 měsíci +8

    Jeremy and Orin with the matching sparkly jackets! 😆

  • @brynn
    @brynn Před 2 měsíci +7

    Romanticizing sadness is sad

    • @staticshockfan
      @staticshockfan Před 2 měsíci +2

      Don't tell him that. He'll think it's cool then since he likes sad things

    • @lisib4835
      @lisib4835 Před 2 měsíci

      Yeah 😬

  • @mengl29
    @mengl29 Před 2 měsíci +136

    In my experience as a male with male friends, talking sh*t shows you care

    • @musselmanmedia5236
      @musselmanmedia5236 Před 2 měsíci +3

      lol honeslty. comapred to the girl one that was full of drama

    • @user-fw5gp2me9b
      @user-fw5gp2me9b Před 2 měsíci +1

      i doont understand this

    • @NeonCicada
      @NeonCicada Před 2 měsíci

      ​ @user-fw5gp2me9b There's actually some fairly decent information available online now; describing the sociology/psychology surrounding this commonly observed communication style.
      -- Easy to find by Google searching for the *'negative expression of a positive emotion'* in same-sex platonic relationships.
      _(especially in close heterosexual male + male friendships)_

  • @anna.owo.
    @anna.owo. Před 2 měsíci +6

    Love to all the guys, they are great. Grand you have my love and support but i do feel you need to talk to a psychologist, i say that as someone who started seeing one recently, it will help you understand your feelings and reasons behind your emotions and acts and get better ways to cope with them.

  • @aqua-mina
    @aqua-mina Před 2 měsíci +5

    Refreshing! A lot of the men I grew up with or know, do not talk “feelings” or “emotions”… I wonder if it’s a cultural thing

    • @kamuilasia5813
      @kamuilasia5813 Před 2 měsíci

      It is. Therapy is a very western way dealing with emotions.

  • @worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010
    @worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010 Před 2 měsíci +9

    i feel like too many people are too judgy with their friends' significant others. a lot of the time the problem is that they dont try to get to know them at all. they often only know what the other person tells them, which often tends to be negative. and if they have a problem with them after interacting with them directly, at least with straight men, a lot of them tend to be lowkey sexist and thats why they have those problems. i feel like because people see friends as more of a permanent thing, and significant others as people who you can just dump whenever you feel like it, even if the friend is toxic, they will still choose them most of the time. people always talk about abusive partners who isolate you from your friends, but what about abusive friends who isolate you from trying to find love?

  • @sisandamkhwanazi4425
    @sisandamkhwanazi4425 Před 2 měsíci +1

    He said “I think people lose their ability to do art when they’re happy” 😮 that’s sooooo true omg. I write, and draw the best when I’m down. Which in turn lifts my spirits up. A positive feedback loop

  • @user-kv3rj4cv8i
    @user-kv3rj4cv8i Před 2 měsíci +1

    All the close relationships are so touching and its important that strong and close friendships are getting more visible!! // Plus: I love the fact, that Orin and Jeremy are so beautifully glitter-coordinated 🥰🥰🥰