How to know when it is time to let go of dying pet
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- čas přidán 2. 04. 2017
- One of, if not the hardest decision you will ever have to make is when it is time to let go of your sick pet. Everyone wishes they would just go to sleep and not wake up when it gets to the point where you know they are not going to get better and they keep getting worse. How to know when it is time? Some say you will just know, others have systems like www.petmd.com/blogs/fullyvette... which is always good references but in actuality most of the time the owner knows it is time however just does not want to let go. The decision may seem to make you feel guilty however it is one of the most unselfish things you can ever do and not to make the decision and just keep hanging on can cause unnecessary suffering and that is the selfish thing to do. Hopefully this short video can help you make the tough decision. We almost did it 2 full weeks before we had to and thought it was time however after the 2 weeks, then we knew it was time. Very difficult to do but the best thing to do when you know they are not getting better and stop eating, losing weight, etc. Good luck with your decision.
I burst out in tears when you show all the opened uneaten cans of food, that’s where I was with my cat a week ago
Same.
Same. I am putting mine down today. She's overweight and has been showing signs of Kidney Failure and decreasing so rapidly all month. Been taking forever to get my old man to commit to putting her down (since it's his cat) I'm so distraught. She was the cutest, friendliest, softest kittie. Wish I could hold her in my arms tomorrow. :/
@@olivierm2888 😿I feel you.
@@niveajones6400 1 hour to go. First time I've ever had to help my dad out with his emotions. I thought I was the more emotional creature :( wish us luck!
@@niveajones6400 sorry for your loss too:(
I kept my precious Lordi alive way too long. He passed from leukaemia in 2017, a little shell of himself. I kept him on meds for two years. I know that he was leaving me the morning I woke up and for the first time in 15 years I didn’t wake from him putting his little forehead against mine. I was so much in denial I went and visited a friend instead of calling the vet, but he wasn’t magically recovering when I came home. All his systems were failing and on the verge when I finally reached the vet, and they could calmly help him over to the other side. He passed with his head against mine, while I realised I had kept him alive well beyond his actual due date, because of my own inexperience and inability of letting go. I have to live with this decision for the rest of my life.
Don’t do like I did. Don’t make them stay. Take your companion to the vet. It’s the hardest decision you have to make, but the alternative is to live with the shame and the guilt for the rest of your life, that you made them stay for too long.
Sometimes love is saying good bye.
Don't beat yourself up. Life is a learning process. He accepts your apology because he knew you loved him.
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Omg I'm crying 😢😢
Man... You literally wrecked me🙁
I had a 15 year old Maltese that started getting really sick. Went to his regular vet and they sent me to another vet that had a hospital. When I went into the new vet they asked me if I wanted to put him to sleep as he was really sick (they thought that he had cancer), I thought he still had a chance so I told them to work on him. He had fluid inside him under his lungs and he was having difficulty breathing. They removed the fluid and he seemed much better and went back home with me that week. He seemed to be doing fine and had a couple of what seemed like good days being outside with him and catching some sun, and then on the weekend he stopped eating and got very lethargic again. I took him in on Monday and they took him into the back to work on him. I still remember his little face looking at me as the vet took him. That was the last time I saw him, the vet called me in the middle of the night and said he passed in his sleep. To this day I question if I should have let them put him to sleep when I first went in, but I had to give my best friend a last chance... This was over 10 years ago, I still miss him.
She’s such an angel. She bought so so much love and warmth
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How much did it cost
It’s strange, isn’t it?… How mourning can bring so much healing and community. This video is a prime example… you’ve helped people heal, by gathering the bravery to share your experience here through this video.
Your kitty is so precious. I’m sure she’s thankful of all that you’ve done for her, with how affectionate she was. I’ve no doubt she’s resting in peace. ❤
Thank you for the kind words
@@9mmsteve thank you for sharing your kitty with us!
Connection and community are essential to help with grieving.
We are not alone.
We all go through loss at different points in our lives and it helps so much to remember that we, as humans, share these feelings of pain. It slowly gets smaller when we face it together. At least this is what I have learned from my own losses.
Sending love to everyone!
i lost my baby girl a few days ago and i'm doing the same, looking for videos of others who have lost their loved one and how the deal. the loss is unbarable.
Chloe's face looked so sweet. Resting in Peace, gentle angel.
May you find peace and comfort each day I think about him he was a good companion he's well missed I've replaced them with a new one now he's a real character I learned a lot from the other cat too God bless you my friend may you find peace
I just put my Tabby of 18 years. Got him when I was 16. And he had the same symptoms. I was fortunate enough to move him in my room with a litter box. For 4 months I was off work due to a medical condition. And I layed everyday next to him. I would cry cause I knew eventually he is going to pass of age. But I am so lucky I brought him in my room. I found out today that he was suffering final stages of renal failure. Tonight coming home after euthinizing my world, and seeing the litter box, food, treat and etc. It was hard. But 18 years. He helped me grow a heart.
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Coming to an empty home after all those years with living with a happiness-creating friend, I know that harshness too well…
I'm sorry. I had a tabby myself. Miss him, but have great memories.
I didn't take my first cat passing too well...was on the verge of ...hurting myself. The silence killed me. The loneliness killed me. Being alone...without her sweet little meows...killed me.
@@amazingdany it sucks. But life goes on. All we can do is grow. Death is the greatest teacher. We shall value our time with our loved ones as if its their last day everyday. Love our kids. And love our elderly. Life is truly too short. Pets are truly an honor to have. They bring so much joy. I recently met a random family out and I brought up that I recently lost my cat. And I was explaining how we must live everyday like its our last. They invited me over to their house and kids. And everyone. They handed me a kitten. I said. Give me 3 days to think about it. Because it was too soon. 3 days later. I believed it was god that lead me there. And I called the guy. And I adopted their siemese kitten. I name him "Faith" as it was fate to meet their family.🙏 our pets know that we grief. So my 18 year old cat Blaine knew that he wanted to fill me with joy. I believe Blaine my cat I had to euthanize brought me to them. As well as God.
@@amazingdany @amazingdany it sucks. But life goes on. All we can do is grow. Death is the greatest teacher. We shall value our time with our loved ones as if its their last day everyday. Love our kids. And love our elderly. Life is truly too short. Pets are truly an honor to have. They bring so much joy. I recently met a random family out and I brought up that I recently lost my cat. And I was explaining how we must live everyday like its our last. They invited me over to their house and kids. And everyone. They handed me a kitten. I said. Give me 3 days to think about it. Because it was too soon. 3 days later. I believed it was god that lead me there. And I called the guy. And I adopted their siemese kitten. I name him "Faith" as it was fate to meet their family.🙏 our pets know that we grief. So my 18 year old cat Blaine knew that he wanted to fill me with joy. I believe Blaine my cat I had to euthanize brought me to them. As well as God.
Death is not what it seems. These angel bubbies actually become free from their physical suffering experience and return back to source. This is a time to honor this beautiful bubby, the happiness she bought to the world and send her back to source energy ❤
And as a goodbye gift, they take with them all the suffering and energies that they carry with them and absorbed from us in all their years, they're truly furry angels.
@@erickl.7539 Lol wishful thinking they are just animals not magic angels from heaven!
GregoryMitchell-pq3ucwhat a sour human you are, which is why I’ll always love animals over humans
Wish I could adopt this acceptance for myself cuz I'm sick of being alive.
Death is painful. It's easier to imagine that there is a place better awaiting them, but truthfully we will never know until we die ourselves.
It doesn't hurt to adopt a belief like the person in this comment has. It's also okay to not believe that type of stuff.
Not sure why I was recommended this today, but I was in this exact position. Nursed by 17 year old Bengal boy for a whole month after a kidney failure. Things seemed hopefully. I had a huge amount of extremely premium cat food. Then he started downhill again. I administered subcutaneous fluids the last two weeks, mostly for his comfort. When he stopped eating I knew there was no path for healing. He eventually cried out and collapse in my arms one evening, and that night I scheduled at home vet to help him along. Two kind angels arrived the next day. I found myself spending almost all my hours with him in those final days. It's amazing how they show so much love right through the end. Instead of feeling like I was loosing my friend too soon, I realized I had given my friend the maximum and that was enough for me. 17 wonderful years.
I had to let go of my beloved Carmencita after 13 years full of unconditional love due to cancer. I honestly was expecting to be a mess wracked with guilt but it has actually shocked me how much at peace I felt after. It helped a lot to know I was saving her from a horrible experience.
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My Miss Milo was with us for 21 years. She was my son’s furry older sister. We had to say goodbye two years ago. Her back legs stopped working. I miss her every day.
My dog copper got better and then worse and that's when I knew he was near his end
I'm so sorry...not easy watching your baby slowly die but at the same time never an easy decision to say goodbye....
It is the most difficult thing in the world......we know we made the right decision however there is guilt which goes along with having to make that choice.
@@9mmsteve I don't fell guilty for euthanasia, but I used to felt guilty because my cat died shortly before her 20th birthday. I though it was because I wasn't a good cat-mum that she got sick.
Later I found the age cats die, if treated well, is linked on genetics.
@@alicesacco9329 You were not a bad Mum. We have lost cats from 10 years old to 17. Rarely do they make it to 20. You are a saint!
Thats a cat, not a baby.
@@anderstermansen130 U wouldn't understand the pain
Sorry for your loss and thank you for your video. My cat Felix died today. He was 20 years old, amazing cat, no fuss, easy to be with and just had a lot of love for me and my partner. What I noticed is he stopped eating food. His hind legs were going, so he was staggering when walking but also later he could not get up. He was in pain. He would before those days distance himself, hide somewhere to be alone and I'd have to look for him, carry him home. Took him to the vet today and vet said "he's in pain, he's suffering now, what do you want to do." My partner burst out crying, I held everything in, and said to let him go. We stayed after we let him go, they let us say our goodbyes to him. It has hit me hard. I never had a pet and he's been with us for 20 years, travelled with us all over the world and has been amazing friend and family member. It's like I can see but a shadow of him now in the garden and home also don't feel the same without him. I am so grateful he choose us, he came to our door as a kitten, meowed and it was raining and walked in when we opened door and that was that. He choose us and we treated him like a family member, slept with us on bed. Incredible loving Felix who we miss and be in our memories for always. Felix made our lives better and enriched us with so many funny memories.
So sorry for your loss. I know your kitty had a great home and great life. Prayers.
God sent you Felix so you could truly understand the power of love and care. Pets our the most innocent creatures, the only ones will won't judge you and see you as their protector and hero without prejudice. Some cats scratch and bite, that's true but without them being all unique we wouldn't learn, if all cats were nice we'd all just assume that cats are all the same and we'd never show them much love and take advantage of them, they are all different so that we learn from them.
So very sorry for your loss x
I'm on borrowed time with with my old Kitty, he's been sick the last week and tomorrow is the vet visit and I'm afraid I'm going to be blindsided with having to make that hard decision.
So sorry for your loss!❤️
So sorry for your loss, Felix was lucky to have you❤
My dad passed away due to end stage renal disease and I seen how much he suffered, these poor babies can’t even express the pain they are in even though they suffering the same. I have a 6 year old orange Tabby who was my dad’s most beloved cat. He would feed him every day. I dread the day to let him go as well. In life you love and you let go and it hurts.
I wanted to let my cat go on her terms. She was 21 and in her last months got ataxia, severe arthritis, became death, blind, got injections for pneumonia, stopped eating and quality of life was non existent. She eventually got heart failure and it was terrible to see her go through that. This was the worst selfish decision I had made as I could not let go of her. I’m sure you will make better decisions for your Cloe.
Life is learning.
Hi, I am not sure you were selfish, I feel it was wise on your part. I am also in favour of not deciding for them when they go and let them go in their own time. I think the ideal is to give them as much medical treatment as possible, so that they are as comfortable as possible, but to not intervene further. It´s nature, let nature do its thing and let the animal go through the experience of slowly fading away. It´s a meaningful experience, as all the other previous stages of a cat´s life.
I feel this way too. @juanitaonthego7745
@juanitaonthego7745 not to mention that them passing away at home, with their favorite person around, in familiar surroundings, can't be all that horrible, unlike cold, stressful and unfamiliar vet office. I feel like that should be taken into account too
Dear Sir... I feel your pain.The guilt is overwhelming. I lost my beautiful 16 year old girl to FIV. No matter how many years we get with them it is never long enough. Bless you and your wife.
So sorry. It is such a difficult thing to do but is best at the point to not have them suffer anymore. We treat pets better than people. Horrible to allow people to suffer until the end when everyone knows the outcome....
But we see them in heaven if we love Jesus. Mine are in heaven.
Many people choose Hell cause they reject Jesus.
All pets want life and Jesus.
@@9mmsteve Yes. Many people treat their animals better than they treat me. Humans have souls, pets don't. God wants us to treat all people well. Pets are much easier to love.
I have one in renal failure right now, and another with FIV. We are having to make the decision for the old guy with kidney problems right now, and it’s no fun. I’m sorry for your loss.
I think I'm going to get I had to put my cat down
My cat is going through this right now, and I honestly don’t even know if I can live without him by my side.
I'm dealing with this today making the decision.... I have no family in this cat has been by my side for 17 years.... I'm just watching the clock take away until the appointment.... I feel just sick 😭
@@LeslieBernard222😢😢😢
I am in the same boat. I have been a retiree for decades who has no family. So 2 days ago, the moment when the needle went into my 18.5 yr-old-cat, time just stopped for me. I have forgotten how to live without a cat(I have had multiple cats in tandem). I was offered another kitten when I delivered my cat's remaining food and litter to a pet charity. I declined the offer due to my advanced age. No words in the human vocabulary can describe my sadness.
@@dleekawaiMaybe you could adopt a full grown or senior cat?
@@dleekawaiAdopt a senior cat from a shelter! You deserve an animal to love you.
My cat died 3 days ago. She was a Calico and looks exactly like your kitty. I have seen death before. I have lost most of my family. But I was never there for their time of death. I slept on the floor for three nights. I never left Cally's side. I was with her until the very end. I can't get the sounds she made out of my head. This may sound silly but this video kinda made me feel a little better even if it's really sad.
Thank you for being such a wonderful companion to your kitty. She was blessed and grateful to have you. Please take care, you did the right thing
My sister had a near death experience at 32 when her heart stopped beating. She woke up in Heaven, started walking by her dog and couldn't figure out how, as she had passed years ago. She described it as so real that she could feel the ground underneath her, and the texture of her fur. I hope this brings you comfort as it does me. They live forever.
When my boy passed a few years ago, he actually stayed at my house for about two months before leaving to his afterlife. I don't like to mention this a lot online, because most people will find it ridiculous, but if you are open enough to the idea, I also hope it might bring someone some comfort.
There are multiple afterlives, good and bad, like multiple heavens and hells (even purgatory), and, while we usually can't choose where we go, animals are innocent, and thus, have really great heavens. I don't know what this specific thing means, but when talking to my boy, he always says there's a "carnival". He goes to carnivals a lot, it seems. And, he also is best friends with a brother he had that we didn't keep, but I learned had passed, unfortunately. They're happy. They miss us, like we miss them, but they are super happy and feel enlightened. They are grateful for the lives we have with them, and they remember us. Also, they can hear us whenever we use their names and imagine their faces, so if you ever want to just send a message, think about them and call their names and just tell them whatever you want. They might even come to visit you every now and then. I think most people know when they are visited. Hope this helps, too.
Rest in peace little one.
Judging by this video I am sure you offered her a great life. Good byes are not easy at all. But 7 years later, i hope you still find comfort in the fact that you cared for her and made her happy her whole life. You are a good soul, and your cat benefitted it. I am so thankful people like you exist.
Thank you. We still miss her and all our other kitties. We do have 2 rescues now, and they are wonderful!
My cat is dying of renal failure. We just discovered it. She still seeks out touch and wants to be near us, but soon we will have to make this decision. She needs a little help to get to her food due to arthritis and lethargy, but she is still very interested in food and seeing everyone. We are just trying to make her final days comfortable. She's still making the effort to be here, enjoys listening to music, watching tv, and lasers and so on, and I think that for us is going to be the distinction. When she no longer wants to be here, we will have to let her go. It's very heartbreaking, as we adopted her as a senior, when she was already very ill and we didn't know it. She enjoyed a very happy last year and a half. We will miss her. Sorry for your loss.
Update, she passed after about a week of hanging on and barely eating. She left this world in my arms and was buried with her favorite toy, flowers, and lavender incense.
Be strong and do right by your pet. If it is time, let him/her go.
@@ItsJustAdrean What a beautiful sight to imagine, I love to read this
I just had my 17 and a half old girl put down. In the last year she slowed right down, showed signs of arthritis, she lost her hearing which distressed her, showed signs of dementia and was loosing her sight. She was diagnosed with high thyroid. We were going to have that treated with radium isotopes but she stopped eating and wasted away. In the last week she hid under the bed and was groaning periodically. When I made the decision I couldn't stop crying. I layed next to her all day and pated her when ever she groaned until it was time to take her to the vet. I saved her a few days of pain but watching her at the vet acting like a scared kitten and that she still had a strong will to live was hard. She lived a great life, surrounded by people who gave her as much love as she gave. Mowy you will be missed.
So sorry to hear this. You did a very unselfish thing. Prayers.
Its called selfless @9mmsteve
@@Zombie101Maybe english is not their first language?
@ame_pilled does it matter? People who want to learn English are actually interested in improving. It's not a dig, why you triggered. Lol
@@Zombie101 I am just saying that might be a reason why they worded it that way.. and i am not triggered?
My cat died yesterday this is how he has been behaving for a week, i do understand your pain and i am glad i found a place to share mine as well. I loved him it still hurts like hell most of plp at my community does not understand how you can love a cat that much. His name was James and him and i have been through a lot and i will always love him
I had let my 17 year old cat go yesterday, renal failure in the end. He never left my side day and night for so many years and he was loved and pampered. We had a vet come to our home and to our bed where he was always, for the euthanasia. I was with him the whole time , talking to him and stroking his fur. He was comfortable during the process. He will be back after his cremation. But now I’m such a lost soul. I miss my baby cat.
His name was Bee Bee.
Y old people don't get euthanized? Y animals not let to be in natural way?
I feel your pain. I will be doing the same soon. Yes, not an easy decision. I plan to get a kitten. Not my old kitty but a kitten will help with my grief. Everyone is different. Grieve the best way you can. That's a reality of living things. Bless your heart ❤
Good idea - to have the vet come to your home.
I’m so sorry for your loss
This is breaking my heart. I'm so sorry man. What a beautiful creature she was. I'm sorry.
I couldn’t let mine go and she passed in my house. It was the most horrendous sight I’ve ever seen and I’ll never forget it and live with the guilt of not letting her go a week earlier. She stopped eating for two weeks, I put her through hell and back with the vet, stopped purring towards the end, and the evening before she passed, I witnessed the strangest things, it was like her soul had already left her body at that point… she was my first cat and I truly didn’t know better but I will never ever do this again with any other cat or pets again. It hurt me so much
I'm sorry you had to experience that. You tried your best with what you had, and I think she would have appreciated being with you until the very end.
Even if it might have been a better way to go, the vet clinic is a scary and confusing place to be, especially when all they want is a safe space with their favourite people.
I'm so sorry. This happened to me also, because of finances and my own arrogance.
Let. It. Go.
Srsly, life is hard and we learn things. Forgive yourself and move on.
I felt similarly towards my kitty cat Fuzzy, she was around 15 years old. She must’ve ate something horrible because one day I found her on the floor panting, in extreme pain. There were already bugs starting to feed on her and it was a terrifying sight to see. It made me develop a phobia of maggots and I didn’t eat for days. Luckily we got her put down before it became too much and we were all there to be with her in her final moments. RIP Fuzzy wuzzy. We love you, you old grouchy lady.
Animals don’t have souls but I get it 😢
Mine too, maybe I am able to save him if I wasn't much of a piece of sht and not broke for vet services.
I guess because his fang got fractured (his name is fang), he ate the food in our table that may have caused it to happen, he is smart as hell and can open containers that have food like tupperwares. I guess the food he was eating fractured his teeth, started bleeding and got me scared, because of my financial situation and my negligence got him into a severe situation because after a month and a half, he started to lose weight rapidly, he has trouble eating food, I mean, even when he was weak, he tried his best to eat, but after a while, he stopped eating, severe lethargy and frequence peeing. From the last day, I got him sleeping on my lap and I'm looking at the sunrise
Poor baby. She’s finally resting now. You did everything you can to get your precious cat the life she deserved.
I'm going through this with my cat Lala right now. Watching your video is like watching my cat. Thanks for the video. It helps.
So sorry you are having(or had) to go through this. Thinking of you...
Me too my cat bossy has been diagnosed with kidney disease and he has a few weeks left I can't bear to think that the time has come to let go
@@robot-be8vr you're in my thoughts. It's the hardest thing to let a loved one go. Xoxo
Please ask your vet about calcitriol. My cat was on it for 7 years. It is a miracle drug.
Lori Pelletier this is torture , I’m going through the exact same situation right now and it’s breaking my heart and my daughters.....I cannot bear to lose my 17 year old cat but it’s near that time 😪
Hi. I know this was 6 years ago but I just wanted to say thank you for posting it, it has helped affirm that I am making the right decisions for my animals. I just had to make the decision for two out of three of my cats in the same two weeks. One was my best friend for 10 years and was dealing with aggressive cancer, and we had to help him pass on earlier this week. The other is my mom's best friend who is 18 years old who has kidney failure, and will be passing on at the beginning of next week. Both of them stopped eating, wasted away, and obviously were not doing well, but it was so hard to make those appointments because I kept feeling like "maybe they'll get better" even though we've done everything and have spent thousands of dollars in medical interventions, so I knew/know that that's not possible. I'm sorry for your loss, even six years later I imagine you still think of her. She seemed like a great cat.
I want to thank you for posting this video. I had to put my kitty to sleep today an you made my decision so much easier. I appreciate your candidness.
I agree. The licking of the food was going on for a couple of weeks.
I had to put my 3 month kitty to sleep too. 😢
@@MarthaMartinez-hm1vp My Sweet Kitty was only 7 years old and I thought that was too soon for him to die! I am very sorry for your loss.
Oh, we are having to wait for the next 3 days, also, to find out if we have to let our kitty go to heaven. UTI & kidney infection, severe. My heart goes out to you.
Your love for Chloe (and cats) is obvious. I'm sure this video has helped many cat owners. I've had to go through this heartbreak many times and I am on my last cat because I can't take the pain of loss anymore.
@finnajane When my mother's cat died, she told me the same thing that she can't take the pain of losing one anymore; she will never get another cat again. I asked my mother how many years did Gizzy give you love, joy, laughter, purrs, etc.? Compared to the couple of months of pain. Yes, the pain hurts, but the years are years of love and laughter.
@@Kathy_Bennett I do understand your point totally. I did have my last cat put down not long after my original post here about a year ago. I still haven’t gotten another but look every day at my local rescue’s website and “window shop”. 😊 It’s hard not to think of the eventual pain of loss when I consider adopting one of those kitties. But I agree, they will bring years of love and joy to me and I will be able to give them love and a good home. Maybe one day……😸❤
Thank you for making this video, and I'm so sorry for your loss. I had to put my beloved Smokey down yesterday, he was 16 and experiencing renal failure as well. I cuddled him in my arms and he passed peacefully in my embrace. It's so hard to go through and my heart is shattered. I got him as a rescue from the Pound and am so grateful that he chose me to be his owner. Like Chloe, he had stopped eating entirely and was losing weight fast, would hide under a sofa cover all day to sleep and only woke up to drink water or go to the toilet. We had to force feed him watered-down food in a syringe. I miss him terribly. Going through this truly is the hardest part of being a pet owner. Just know that their lives are made all the better for our love and for having us care for, and look after, them, just as our lives are made all the more amazing for having them in it. Take care of yourself.
I just went through this same thing with my 17 and a half year old cat. She had bone marrow cancer, and passed away on her own at home 3 hours before her scheduled euthanasia. It was so hard being so helpless beside her as she took her final breaths. Part of me wishes I had scheduled the euthanasia a few days earlier, but part of me has found comfort in knowing that she went on her own terms.
So sorry for your loss. We understand how tough it is to lose a member of the family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family...
I am not trying to be facetious, but that was exactly what I had been praying for weeks before my cat died. However, God had not granted me my wish. I waited until she literally turned cold before I took her to the vet. Heartbreaking is an understatement.
My 18 year old tuxedo cat is suffering from a chronic renal failure (very common condition in old cats). He had stopped eating at one point, but thanks to medical treatment he´s now stable and eating by himself again. During a couple of weeks I had to force feed him with liquid food and a syringe. I was sure he was not going to make it and was already facing the ordeal of maybe having to put him down. That moment has not come yet but eventually it will come back and I will have to face it again. I don´t feel ready, that is the truth. You are never ready to let go of such amazing creatures. They make themselves a place in your heart and when they leave us they take a piece of it with them.
Just buried my best friend this morning, his sister about two months ago. They were good cats who will never be forgotten or replaced.
They both passed quickly and in their sleep, God showed them both the mercy they deserved.
Even though it hurts they met their passing with dignity and they were surrounded by love.
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This is almost what happened with my cat exactly. She was diagnosed with renal failure, started on some treatments, and it seemed like she had made a recovery, with her lab numbers going from Stage 4 to late Stage 2. But after a month or so of her seeming to be content and in decent health considering, she stopped eating. On the last day, she seemed to be in real distress. She hadn't eaten for a few days and had stopped peeing for about a day too... I took her to the vet and I allowed them to do some treatments on her, including ultrasounds and draining fluid from her chest. She died when I came to pick her up, as I petted her head and told her she was a good girl. In retrospect I wish I had let her go earlier... Better a day early than a day late is true. But I know these things are rarely perfect... It's hard to find that balance between giving them a fair chance to turn things around and not asking too much. I'm grateful that she only appeared to be in acute distress on that final day, at least, and that this acute phase of suffering didn't drag on for months. I believe she was waiting to see me before she allowed herself to die. RIP, Komi. So sad. Thank you for the video.
What a sad comment, I'm in tears from the last sentence. Thanks so much for sharing that story! Sorry for your loss :c
Meow died aweek ago he was A STRAY BUT ILOVED HIM SO MUCH I BURIED HIM IN MY FLOWER BED I NEVER WANTED PETS BUT WHEN HE CAME TO ME ILOVED HIM I MISS THE LITTLE CAT SO MUCH I AM GLAD I WAS Near him when he died
as sad as this is, 17 is an INCREDIBLE age! thats how you know your more than an amazing owner. shes very cute but i like to think about how her personality might be the same of your next kitty!❤
Thank you for posting. I almost wish I could call you guys. My sweet boy is supposed to go down today. This is my first animal and my first experience putting an animal down. He’s found us one day and we took him in and loved him. I was a single mama and it was just me and the kids and papa our cat. He was so good to us. He brought so much joy in our lives. He greeted everyone who came over. He was not annoying just a wonderful experience. Please pray for us that I can actually do this for him today. Thank you for your videos. They show me that my cat is sick and it’s time.
Recently put my dog down. She had fluid in her lungs and was extremely uncomfortable but besides that she was completely normal. We decided to put her down before she started to suffer, which was so hard since she was acting so normal, only because she was hiding her pain. She was always a protector, and when we took her in she tried to bite the vet. He said her tongue turned purple, and within 12-24 hours she would’ve been in respiratory distress. She didn’t fight the sedative at all. Miss you Luna, thank you for being my guardian angle for 7 years🕊️❤️
Why would she hide her pain?
You're a saint. I thank God for people like you. God took Chloe and he took my Dawn back to him. We will be with them forever on the other side. Blessings to you and your love ones.
I can't wait to see them in heaven.
The loss is hard.
I am so sorry for your loss. Pets give so much to enrich our lives with unconditional love and affection. Even though my cat was 20 yrs old, I also recently made a similar decision for my Smokey. I still live with the pain of missing her every day. God bless you for the wonderful life you gave to such a sweet cat.
My kitty little Daisy just like this. Food everywhere but she would just lick it and go back to drinking only
I also have a 20 year old female cat named Smokey that I'm putting down tomorrow. She had a spinal stroke and her back legs are weak and wobbly. I've spend every minute with her today-having her lay on a heated blanket and constantly loving on her and crying in between. I'm going to miss her so much. I've had her since she was 5 months old.
The day I had to send my cat for surgery I saw this video pop up in my feed. I had been looking at lymphoma before knowing my cat Moose would be diagnosed with large cell lymphoma. About two weeks post operation he's exactly like Chloe. Not responding to medication. He's so sweet and gentle, he still purrs but I think he mostly does it because he's in pain. I think it's time, and we have a visit on Saturday. That might be the day. I'm ready to let him go. I wasn't when I first saw this video pop up. I couldn't watch it until now it's so obvious it's time. It's horrible. I know if love could have cured him he would live forever.
Thank you for posting this.
Today I woke up and knew it was time. I had to make that dreadful decision, but I knew it was best for him (forget my pain). When you know you know. A day early is better than a day late. I'll always love my special boy.
Thank you for this. I just let go of my best buddy of 17 years. In the phase of doubting my decision, and this video has helped so much, as he was doing so much worse than Chloe. I’m so grateful to have pet his head and looked into his eyes as we helped him peacefully leave his sweet little shrunken body behind
So sorry for your loss. You did one of the most unselfish things you could ever do. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
One less cat
Awe....yes, my sweet baby boy Maine Coon left us last week, and he too had a 'shrunken body'. He usually maintained a weight of 13 to 15 lbs., and by the end he went down to 7 lbs. Weakened hind legs, dragged them along as he limped toward his water and litter and carrying his emaciated body and slightly bloated tummy. I swear, though, his face could have won a poker game, he did not let on that he was in pain by his facial expressions. So that is what makes it extra difficult to make this decision without second guessing ourselves. I miss him so much, and I see shadows of him throughout the days, ethereally, like a mist.
I had to let mine go, on Tuesday this week.
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She was 18.
She started to lose weight last summer and before her death, she was painfully sin.
We had Cloud 9 vet come out who gave her sedation then second injection, all while she was on the sofa she loved, looking into my husband's eyes.
It hurts.
I'm so sad.
Your video made me feel so much better about putting my 21-year-old cat to sleep two days ago. She had kidney disease and I was feeling guilt that I did it too soon. This is making me think I made the right choice. Thank you so much that’s really helped.
So sorry to hear about your kitty. 21 is a very long time and I am sure she had a great life. I understand how hard it is however you made the right decision! Glad my video helped you. We are now in the process of losing another one and going through this all over again. Since This video was have lost 3 more, not counting Callie, the one we are about to lose now. :(
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It's really like reliving what my Bubbles was like in his final weeks. Went in for an ear infection as he had cauliflower ear from a previous hematoma; topical antibiotics didn't work. Pill antibiotics didn't work. Went in again a week later and found out it was an inner ear infection, which is always caused by a physical blockage. Hoped and prayed it was a polyp. Then his jaw locked up, and it was confirmed as rapidly growing cancer pressing directly on several facial nerves. Inoperable location, not even viable for a biopsy. I had to make the gut-wrenching decision to put him to sleep within that week. Two weeks is all it took; he was here, and then he was gone. I'd had him since I was 11 and I'm 25 now; 14 years with him and I wish more than anything that I'd had more time. Still...it's comforting to know that I did in fact make the right decision. I'm sorry for your loss, as well. It really hurts like a spear to the heart.
This video hits so close to home for me. My cat showed all these signs and symptoms in his last days. He was diagnosed with congestive heart failure and end stage chronic kidney disease. He had pleural effusion which made it difficult for him to breath. I had the vet pull the fluid from his chest, which alleviated his breathing problems. Then was prescribed furosemide and antibiotics. The vet recommended euthanasia as it would be difficult to treat his heart condition without adversely affecting his kidney functions and vise versa, but I had hope my cat could get better. However, the next few days, his health declined more and the fluid in his chest slowly returned. I had to make the decision of euthanizing my cat, which is the hardest decision I have made, I did not want him to suffer and he could not enjoy life as he once had before his terminal illness. He passed peacefully during the euthanization. When he departed from this world, part of my soul left with him, I miss him so much, he was a little brother and son to me 😭
I feel you, my sweet cat Suki died 1 month ago, she had exactly the same symptoms as your cat, she started with pleural effusion, weight loss, she couldn’t breathe properly, the vet said she probably had parasites and said she was going to be okay but her health declined in 1 week, we took her to the vet again and started a treatment but it was too late, the next day she was agonizing, the vet tried to save her but it wasn’t possible, she died 😭I feel like it’s my fault because she was in much pain and I couldn’t make the decision to put her to sleep because I thought she was going to make it , I cry every day, I miss her so much, she was only 3 years old, so I’m sorry for your loss, I know how it feels, send you a big hug.
My baby is only 8. I don't think she's going to make it long. I wish the vet wouldn't have sent me home with iv bag. I didn't realize it would be like this
It's obvious just how much you love your cats. I'm sure she had a fantastic life, with a very, very loving cat dad. It's sad but it's also so beautiful how happy this kitty must have been.
I wish you the best of days, buddy. I know it's been 7 years since you uploaded this but hey, it still counts
Just now seeing this. You're doing a good thing here by showing people this. We had to put our kitty down last Wed. It's incredibly hard, & hurts so bad. She'd exhibited much of what your cat did. We'd seen some subtle signs over time, that I now realize what they meant. She'd felt good enough however that every year at the vet, nothing was detected. To leave them suffer is cruel. It's such a shame they can't live as long as we do. Sorry for your loss. Even tho we know we're doing the right thing, it makes you feel awful doing it. Like you said, when they purr and act at times so normal, even tho they're not!! Ugh!!
Did you cat eat well until pass away?
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Thank you! This helped me tremendously to make my final decision. My dad died last year, my brother died recently and now I have to put my precious cat down tomorrow as she is suffering. So incredibly heart breaking to go through this all at once. Thank you for sharing your little angel with us. ❤️🐈
So sorry for you losses. I know things can be tough but know this to shall pass. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
9mmsteve Thank you for your kind words. Much appreciated. It’s amazing how one persons comments can uplift another person. Thank you! 🙏🏻
@@g-bgcg hope ur still doing well
@@sloshtugz4087 Thank you tugz, yes I am doing well. Hope you are too.
@@g-bgcg thanks man
Thank you so, So Much for posting this. My 18yr boy MJ had a stroke last night and was in significant distress. After a night at the pet hospital and getting the call this morning that he had a rough night, I knew it was time to hold him this morning and say goodbye while he let go. He was purring and not scared in his last moments which is the little peace I am holding onto. Your video demonstrated other signs that I now recognize he might not have much time left. I truly appreciate your heartbreaking and candid video more than I can express as it helps me fully realize I did the right thing at the right time. Bless you and your family, sir.
Thank you for deciding to make this video through your grief and pain. Itll help so many people. God bless you and your family. Your kitty was so precious and you did the right thing.
you can't imagine the memories this brings back.. my 17 year old "Kitty" went thru the very exact thing..... and I held on probably too long... and at the end.. she was miserable...I had her put to sleep... but cried like a 7 year old at the end.....
There's. No. Disgrace. In. Crying. U. Made. The. Rite. Choice. God. Bless.
So sorry for your loss. My cat(dolce) is going thru this right now age 13 we just love her she’s the sweetest thing and we’ve taken her in to numerous vets and they finally figured it out and I didn’t want to accept it so this video helps a lot your a good man brother. Thank you for the video
Just went with my dad today to put my 14 year old cat to rest😰. Still crying, shit hurts but I hope it was the right decision. Thanks for the video. God bless. Love you Bashful❤️
So sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
Thank you for this. I am taking a trip in 13 days and I have no one ( that she knows) to stay with her. I think your video helped me. I don’t think she’s ready yet. But I have 2 wks to make the decision
Thank you so much for this video, and I am so very sorry for your loss. I know how it feels, as I had to make the most difficult decision of my life last Wednesday, when I put my sweet little fourteen year old cat Happy to sleep. He had Stage 4 renal failure and it was only getting worse, and displayed most of what you've shown here. I tried everything with the food as well, just to get him to eat. But during the last 3 days, he stopped eating and only drank water. He lost so much of his weight, couldn't walk or even stand up to drink. It was too hard to watch him suffer, especially when he's had a good, comfortable life all these years. I knew he wouldn't get any better and the vet confirmed the same. I cannot even describe the pain I am in right now. Happy was my whole life and my best friend.
Watching this video allowed me to know my beloved cat was at the end of his kidney disease two weeks ago. Heartbreaking to watch, but I needed the confirmation of where he was at and your video helped me tremendously in a time I felt so alone, afraid, and anxious. Thank you for sharing your cat’s experience. 💗
So sorry for your loss. Prayers
Same here, the profound loneliness in making this decision is so very unique - I'm so grateful for this video and also grateful for comments like these.
Thank you for sharing this, as alone as we feel there really are so many of us going through it.
Truly sorry for your loss.
@@obcl8569 who cares it’s just a cat
@@fatchungus5255 bless your heart.
I know this video is 6 years old but helped me come to terms with the loss of my Ginger cat. 2 weeks ago I made the hardest decision ever, to have him put to sleep. It still hurts. He was exactly the same, drinking water but not eating (OMG I had all those food bowls and tins open too). he just lost so much weight and in the end his eyes and his tail said it all he seemed so sad. One day I may make a video like this, because it will help other to know when it is time. Thank you
I know you gave Ginger a great life. May his memory be a blessing
You have no idea how much your video is helping me...my cat is behaving exactly the same way that Chloe was, sniffing food, hiding and losing weight, I have an appointment with the vet today and I think it's time 💔 thank you for helping me to make this most difficult call, and I'm sorry for your loss xxx
I am getting ready to put my kitty to sleep..it;s really gut wrenching
@@gloriasiess1129 I'm so sorry to hear that 😢 it's so hard ..the vet let me hold her until she was gone...sending love ❤️ xxx
I went through the same with my 18yr old amazing companion. I had to watch the fear in his eyes when we did our last trip to the vet. He knew what was happening.
After leaving the surgery I screamed for a full 5 minutes and suffered terrible grief for 2 years.
We had to make the decision to let our 14 yr old boy Jagger go after a sudden and severe medical issue that his body couldn't handle. It's been 6 months and I miss him terribly. He was a dream cat and our best little buddy. I grew up on a farm and have seen many animals through all stages of life but losing him has broken my heart. I go back and try to think of things I could have done differently leading up to the end and research anything I could have done differently but it doesn't change anything. I pray we will see our boys again one day 🙏🏻 sending you so much love and peace ❤
I'm so sorry. I have been through the same with my 14 year old German shepherd.. The pain and guilt is heart-wrenching to say the least...
Three years ago since you posted this. But wanted to say thank you. So hard. So honest.
Thank you
I took my old marge on her last trip to the vet a couple of years ago. I'd had major surgery a couple of months before and she never left my side. I think she knew her work was done, and started to clearly suffer. She was with us for 17 years and filled our lives with love. Her ending was very peaceful & she went very quickly in my arms. Havnt been able to even think about another little mog just yet but one day we will give one or maybe two in need of a loving home in her memory ❤
I really appreciate this video, THANK YOU! I’m in the place now that you were when making this, and you’re video confirmed what I knew in my heart and gut but didn’t want to be too early...you have helped me realize I’ve likely waited a bit too long as it is.
You are a great man for taking care of all the cats you’ve been thru this with. I have become a sanctuary for 9 abandoned neighborhood cats 8 years ago by accident, all fixed back then, and now they are getting older unfortunately. Again, thank you!
Rest in peace, Chloe 💛 This video has been helping me. Thank you.
After reading these comments and viewed this video, I am holding back the tears because
My Kiki is in final days. Same as everyone who has lost a pet goes through longing for that miracle that somehow their pet will recover. I will always remember the times she has been there through good and bad times. My son and I are also praying fir one more day. It may sound silly to others but she is family. We love her and she loves us back. Crying as I'm writing this . Love my Kiki. Just be there for your furry ones.
Wish u and ur family the best😢
@fearless4666 my Kiki just died yesterday. My son and I are trying to cope. We held her hands until she left us. The hardest thing we have ever gone through. We went out into the field to bury her along with her toy fish. She will always be in our hearts. Still grieving. It will take us time to heal from our loss. Thanking everyone with your support in our time of recovery.God Bless.
@@user-fe9vg6jx7j I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Kiki. I have never experienced anything more painful other than my Father dying than when my Atticus died. Like you and your son, I was holding his paws with one hand while I had my other hand on his side as he passed away. I wish you both healing, comfort, strength and peace. God bless you both. And I pray that we will be reunited with our beautiful furbabies one day.🙏❤️
@@user-fe9vg6jx7j Lost my cat yesterday, whole family is in shock.. best boy been with us for 2.5 years. Wouldn't eat food we tried everything would just lick some water and go sleeping in corner distancing from us. Every time my mom would come home from job he would greet her from bush and yesterday he didnt show up my mom immediately knew he died probably... found him dead in that same bush. My mother is crying every 2 hours because our home feels empty without him. I told my mom i would get her a new kitten soon
Thank you so, so much for this video. We just had to put down my 15 year old cat that I have had since 11 years old. She got ill rapidly, and within 2 days had completely deteriorated. I have never had to put down a pet before. It was one of the most horrible things I have experienced. I cried all night and day after, am still crying about it a week later. But this video helps me so much. She displayed all the symptoms of little Chloe in this video. I now know I didn't make the wrong decision. That really eases my heart and I now know it was simply her time to go. Much love to you and little Chloe. She was lucky to have you.
So sorry for your loss. It is extremely hard but just know you did the right thing. We have one now who is not doing great however still eating, drinking and will actually sometimes play. Even though she is not well, it is not time. When the quality of life reaches the point when you know it is time, it is not fair to keep things going. We have been told, better a week early(or days early) than a week late(or a few days late). Again, our prayers are with you, we totally understand the grief you are going through.
Thank you so much. Sending love to your little one.
@C C Its a very normal reaction and I hope you are feeling better by now. I lost my cat Penny 3 days ago and the gut wrenching pain and relentless thinking about her (and thinking I hear her) is too much to bear at times, crying as I write this...
Some years ago, and again a few years after that...I swore I would never have another cat due to the pain of losing and here I am again. But I know it is far more worth it to have had the love while it lasted. This one just appeared in our window one day out of the parking lot, and what a journey it was with her, a so called "feral cat".
Thank goodness I have another little guy keeping me company to ease the pain of losing her, he comes over to me when he hears me crying and gives me a little meow and pitter-patter. No one can ever tell me these animals don't understand. They have their own instincts and love very deeply. I pray to God for her soul and all of everyone's cats that they are in pain free place where they can still love their owners from afar.
I’m so sorry for your loss. She was beautiful. Thank you for making this video. It has helped many ❤️
Thank you. You have most definitely given me peace of mind that I made the "right" decision at the "right" time for my 19-year-old girl last month. She was exhibiting the same behaviours as your precious Chloe since she too had kidney disease. It's so difficult to know when that "right" time is, but when we are guided by love, we can be confident that our instinct and intuition lead us to that final, most compassionate gift when most appropriate. Your sharing is so very much appreciated 🐾 💙
Thank you Chloe for allowing and giving permission to show this end of life of you, so many people will be able to help their babies, thanks to you darling. It’s so hard to put your end of life brutally out there on display, but we honor your soul and strength, and are so grateful for your nobility. May the angels keep you and happiness and healing surround you always. May blessings of rainbows and butterflies love.
Thank you for this video. My 17 year old cat is in similar circumstances now and I've been wrestling with this question too. Your descriptions of the various indicators are specific enough for me to relate them to my senior cat. In addition to all that you've mentioned, the near blindness stood out, along with the mostly drinking nourishment, not eating solids, and infrequent bowel movements. My cat also has dementia and is unstable on her feet. I don't know how she finds her way around to the litter box, but she does. Again, thank you for this video. You've helped me tremendously.
So sorry you are having to go through this. We understand how difficult it is. Just know letting them go is on of the most unselfish things you can ever do.
I'm going through the same thing
I desperately needed this video. My sweet Miner looked exactly like her in his final days before I made the decision to say our goodbyes. I have struggled for the past two weeks asking myself if I made the wrong choice. Deep down I know it was right. But the back and forth in my brain just won’t let up. This video has brought me so much peace in my battling mind. Thank you for sharing your experience. I pray you are in a place of peace as well.
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your pain and grief. Saying goodbye is never easy. It's even harder when the weight of when is on you. Sometimes the guilt is unimaginable.
Thank you for this video. I just had to put my Tabby to sleep and had the same problems as Chloe. Your video made me realize I did the compassionate thing for Tabby.
So sorry to hear about Tabby. We understand how difficult this is. Just know it is one of the most unselfish things you can do. Thoughts are with you.
I thank you very much for making this video. Here is Chloes legacy almost 2 years later still helping people... I lost my cat Penny a few days ago, and her demeanor was similar to Chloe- In fact she rallied in exactly the same way by jumping up on the office chair here!. Unfortunately I was never able to get her to the vet before it was too late, her illness took a sudden turn for the worse and it was over within hours...
She was actually our community cat, living in our parking lot for 10 years before we moved in. Finally after 3 years of feeding her in the parking lot(battling with the neighbors) then building her a heated cat house around the back, this very hand shy cat who never has had any human physical contact -unless she was owned/abused by someone before settling in our parking lot- came in to live with us, finally letting me pet her a little. I never managed to get her to the vet before she was actually dying ( I was afraid to try and trap her after gaining her trust, then finally did when she was so weak from vomiting). She was showing many of the signs that Chloe was. The ER vet couldnt do much but gave her some sub q fluids, sent her home with me and she died a few hours later in my closet. I am so sad and after the fact I find myself scrolling youtube trying to see what may have been wrong-Its torture. Your video looks exactly like she did. What a dear sweet cat Chloe was! Thank you for sharing. It did help me in my grieving process. Also it is very helpful to help an owner determine when to make the decision.
Even after all of these years, thank you for sharing this deeply moving moment with us.
It's hard to say if it ever gets easier or not once they've been on the other side for awhile. I still deeply mourn my kittens and elders alike, even if my last kitten with FKS was in 2020. Our most recent was an elderly girl of nearly 16 to feline osteosarcoma, who showed similar symptoms as in the video.
Though I sincerely wish I got to have more time with them all, I will never regret the time they blessed me with. For all the heartaches that come with saying good bye, I'm so grateful to have had the privilege of saying hello in the first place. From what I can see in the comments here, I'm so happy others get to experience the same.
Thank you, again, for your kindness and catharsis. 💜
I’m going thru the same identical issue with my Wonka…he’s 17 years old this past August. The Vet gave me a score sheet on his quality of life. It’s very hard…because Wonka is always or used to be 5 minutes behind me when he was well. Thanks for sharing this video with all us viewers. And some of the other comments I read are heartbreaking 💔 and put tears to my eyes. God Bless Our Cats! ❤
The most heart wrecking 8 minute video of my whole life as myself also lost an adorable, pretty, and sweet cat last year. Yes, I do agree that it's the hardest decision (tho I've watched this late) but I have to say you'll really have a hunch of when tk let go. Actually, this video feels like a deja vu to the exact moment because my cat (tho I didn't have the chance to know the exact reason for his disease) was feeling supeer bogged down, then came to a point where he starts cooperating, then back to when he just feels awful and that's already the time I know in myself that I have to let go. I just cried the whole night, even if he hasn't died yet, but my tears were flowing freely bcoz I know that night was the last night, and I wasn't wrong. I even doubted myself in the morning if I've done enough to save him, felt guilty bcoz I think I could save him, but looking back at it now I think I still couldn't no matter how hard I try. I just hope he's running free and happy now in heaven. I really do miss him and wish I could turn back time to see, touch, and play with him again but it would be too much. So yeah, sorry if I rambled a lot here but I'm just really emotional right now, nonetheless thank you for sharing this.
So sorry for your loss. You did one of the most unselfish things you could ever do. I understand the doubts but know you did the right thing. Prayers
my heart goes out to you and yours. a pet becomes a member of the family soon after it is brought home due the love that grows for what it brings into the home.
Thank you for sharing this, and my deepest condolence for your loss of Chloe. I just had my Disco kitty of 18 years, euthanised 2 days ago. She deteriorated very quickly from renal failure over the course of 3 days, it was the most hardest decision to make, but the right and loving decision for Disco. To all of the other people here who have lost or are facing this choice I feel your pain and heartbreak. Disco I miss you so much thank you for the fluffy love journey I was so blessed to share together with you.
Too everyone that lost there cat you're not alone cause I went thru that pain in 2013 and I still go thru hard times my cat patches and you're cats is in better place lucky our cats do not suffer anymore #catslivesmatter
We had 9, all about the same age and over a 5 year period lost them all. It was very difficult and had to make that decision each time. Never got easier however we know it was the right thing to do.
@@9mmsteve sorry for you're lost I know is hard . I still talk to my cat up in heaven see how she doing and tell my cat what a wonderful gift she is to me I know she is watching over me thru out my cat lifes I rise her to understand about life even know there is good in life but also some evil people in the world . Patches and I are the same if someone talks to us about death me and her get really sacred I miss my daughter patches before patches died I told her I will always be with her a pieces of me went up with her .
I know is hard for us just remember the good days and how you and your cat came together thats how I do it I might get a tattoo of my cat on my arm
I'm sitting here with that exact inner dialogue, my 18-year-old Sadie with me and I know I need to make the decision, and I just can't.
This video has helped me a whole lot. Thank you, and thank you Chloe.
It's time. I know it's time.
This is the hardest thing I've had to do, and I just lost my mom. Somehow makes the loss a bit tougher.
Thank you earnestly and from the bottom of my heart for sharing your pain and your experience, I bet you've helped a lot more people than just me.
EDIT: Indeed this video seems to have helped many people in my position, and their comments and sharing their stories is also incredibly helpful. This process can feel so lonely and alone, it is somehow comforting to hear other's stories & when they knew it was time. It really really helps make the decision a tiny bit easier. Thank you all.
That hit hard, my old Cat was also called Sadie. I woke up 4 years ago to find her hiding in the spare bedroom, blood all down her chest, where she'd been vomiting blood. Immediately threw her in the car and rushed to the vets, sadly they said her stomach had perforated and she was in incredible pain. Whilst the decision was the hardest decision I have ever had to make, I knew my little girl loved me as I loved her. She was weak, in pain, I put my face towards hers and said Sadie darling, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry. She lifted her little head and gave me kiss, even in her weakest moment, she found strength to say she loves me and it's going to be okay. I just looked at the Vet, she knew what the look meant and she gave Sadie the sedation and pain relief, before the main drug. I stayed as long as I could, but the pain became too much and I had to leave the room. To this day I've regretted that decision, the guilt of leaving that room eats away at me, always has, but I broke that day, I lost my best friend. How I managed to drive on the motorway home, I'll never know as I was in pieces. The day before she was playing, eating fine, happy and nothing out of the ordinary, it all happened so quickly. Please guys, have your cat's and dogs checked out regularly, I took Sadie once a year for health checks, she was only a few weeks off her annual check, cat's are so good at hiding pain, I don't know if it's a survival thing or to protect us humans, maybe both, but yeah, hardest day and weeks following, I've ever endured. I still miss Sadie every day, even moving into the spare room where I found her to feel close to her. I have her ashes, she will come with me when my time comes, but until then, I have my other two babies to take care of. Losing a pet, is on par with losing a child, or parent, it destroys you.
@@steveleeds5221 my friend, thank you for sharing your beautiful & heartbreaking story. There's something extra special about Sadies, isn't there 🤍
I beg of you - rid yourself of the guilt.
I was a veterinary technician for almost two decades &, unfortunately, I have been present at more euthanasias than I'd like. I have a book with each & every name of every dog, cat, hamster, turtle, bird, lizard that ever graced my hands & presence with their last moments & allowed me the honor to help them cross the rainbow bridge.
That experience didn't help at all when it came to my Sadie, but one thing did - and I want you to know this to be true:
Your Sadie's last moments of consciousness were spent with you, *in a bubble of love.*
Once the vet sedated her, there was nothing that you could have done. You could not have communicated with her, nor even felt her pass as the sedation is so very heavy that the transition from sedation to the rainbow bridge is a silent, momentary affair. *You did not leave her, you did not abandon her,* you were with her, showing her unconditional love until her last moments of consciousness. As far as her soul is concerned, her last moments were looking at you & feeling your love.
Be confident in the knowledge that you were there when she needed you. To the last moment. She knows that, be confident in that too.
In every veterinary hospital I ever worked in, that moment is handled with grace & delicacy & true care - I imagine the same was true of where your Sadie was - meaning, after you left, all was handled in a manner you would approve of. With the utmost respect for her life.
As for how you drove home, I don't know friend. I imagine it's one of those moments when our brain takes control on autopilot because our heart & soul are too overwhelmed to feel. As for me, I sat outside of the veterinary hospital for what felt like hours, crying the cries that only come from deep mourning. It was the loneliest moment of my life - because for once, Sadie wasn't with me.
My Sadie chose me shortly after I left college. She was with me through marriage, pregnancy, divorce, relationships & moves that flourished & some that failed, she was my son's constant companion until his late teens, she never left my side through my mom's sickness nor after her death. In short, throughout everything that has made me who I am - she was by my side. Losing her was inexplicably difficult. I look for her still when I come home, when I make any meal in the kitchen, waiting for her little meows of "excuse me, feed me please," I think I see her running through the house in my peripheral vision, feel for her in the bed in the middle of the night... she is ever present - it seems the same is true for you and your Sadie.
I am so happy that you have two other babies, they are very lucky to have you. You seem like the kind of soul who recognizes how precious our animal companions truly are & care for them in all the ways they need - they couldn't ask for more. I bet you your Sadie is happy that you aren't alone too.
I think I'm ready to adopt, or be adopted by, another companion... Your message has inspired me to do so. I know my Sadie would want that for me too.
I send you a big virtual hug 🫂 and please, please know that I wholeheartedly mean it when I beg you to rid yourself of your guilt. It is completely unnecessary, you did more than most and most importantly you did all you could. Sadie fell into a deep sleep feeling your love & telling you she loved you back. And that is BEAUTIFUL.
This video really puts things into perspective. I'm sorry you had to go thru this with your your fur baby. I just went thru this with my 16 year old calico. She was also in renal failure but new years eve she was vomiting really bad and I rushed her to the Emergency Vet, turns out she was having gall bladder issues and pancreatitis, the vet stabilized her and kept her overnight, and the next morning I went back to put her down since they said there was no improvement. I stayed with her and held her thru it all, hardest day of my life. I am beyond heart broken. You are absolutely right tho, quality of life just isnt there when they are at this point. I know I did the right thing, but it just doesn't feel right. I miss her like crazy and I am an emotional wreck.
As someone who’s fostered cats for about 5 years now, you made the right call. I’ve lost several kittens to circumstances that neither I or the vets could not control. I had nights where I would wake up every 15-30 minutes to make sure a kitten was still breathing.
Knowing when to let go is hard. And honestly I’m still not good at it. The only thing I know I’ve improved at is processing loss.
I know your cat had so much love poured in to her. She still does. Thank you for making this. Had I seen this video while I was grieving I think it would have helped, I know it will in the future. Thank you for loving and caring for your animals. They love you too.
My girl is only 7 and I'm going through this as I type this. I feel your pain and I now know what I must do. As difficult a decision as it is, it's the right one. Your video helped me make the final call. Thank you.
To all the people who will read this and are going through this hell... We had to put down our lovely cat on February 1st of this year. She was my world and i loved her so much. Today is April 13th. Two months have passed. I still think about her daily, but know this: it gets better. The first week i thought i would die from the pain, then slowly it dissipated, now I have accepted it and i can remember her with a smile thinking of all the good times we had together. You will get through this, i promise you, and you will accept the fact that you did the right thing for your baby. Stay strong❤
its been almost 2 months for me now. and i feel till now im just sort of getting better. ive been seeing a therapist and porbably need to go on meds for anxierty and depression. ive been through a lot this year with a surgery plus dealing with my cats death. I hope it does get easier from here on because ive just felt dead and hopeless losing my boy. he was my soul cat. he saved me from depression when i needed him. i know hell be waiting for me when my day comes but its hard
It’s been 5 years for me and I’m still completely dysfunctional. My heart problems have been much more unstable since then. I can’t be around animals anymore and stopped loving them the day I had to put my boy down. Medications, all sorts of treatments, specialist therapists, specialist facilities, has all just made my level of disability worse for me both before and after he died, and now my license has been taken away because I have daily stress-induced seizures and breakdowns where I can’t control my behavior and often black out for hours.
I kept all the stuff I saved from my boy in the plastic box he used to sit in, it was his favorite spot, and I pit the box in my closet…now I haven’t opened the closet door or had access to anything else in there for 5 years because I just can’t see it. Life was meaningless before him but he bought me time. I’ve attempted so many times since he died and the thought is still on my mind every second of the day now. I don’t have any friends or family so I don’t know what would happen to that box in the closet when I die and it’s the only thing I care about.
I never should have gotten a cat but it’s too late to fix anything now. When is this supposed to get better? It’s only getting worse and worse..
@@jasond.b-w sorry to hear youre going through this after 5 years now. just know youre not alone in this. im now 3 months and i dont seem to be getting better either. the suicidal thoughts while less now still creep from time to time. yes im seeing a therapist, taking zoloft etc. but none of that matters since nothing will bring him back now. i feel you i dont have irl friends, just a small selected group of people i can really talk to. my life is just going to work now. any hobbies i had before dont have any interest, going out like before ..forget it. everything just makes me feel guilt. and i dont want to know what life is going to be like without him year after year. i know this probably doesnt help. but im in a similar situation as you. i cant see myself even getting another cat and going through the loss again. all il say though is I know that they are waiting for us on the other side. your cat will be there . hes not gone for good.
Yes I recognise it, I’ve been through it, it’s the kindest thing, but it breaks your heart.
Thank you so much for making this video. I’m spending my cat’s last days before the euthanasia appointment trying to comfort her and take comfort wherever I can as well.
I’m so sorry for your loss. She was a beautiful cat. You did all you could. She was clearly loved. Thank you for this video. I might need it some day.
I just ran into your video with this sweet little girl.
I also had to do the same thing to my little one and I felt the same way you did.
She will be missed but will be at peace.
This video broke my heart.
I have a sweet cat also, and I too have renal failure. I do 11 hours of dialysis every day. I sympathize.
This is a very difficult time for you. I feel the grief in your voice. I'm sorry you have to go through this.
Sometimes it's hard to understand why God gives us such beautiful, wonderful, sweet companions, that we have fallen in love with, only to take them away far sooner than we want. If it turns out there is a heaven, and I go there, I'm going to ask God why he takes our lovely pets away so soon. I don't understand. ❤
Thank you for this video. I am living the exact heartache right now with my 17-1/2 yr old tabby Rieko. Everything in this video we are living and my heart knows now it is time to end his suffering. I gave him love & a home…. He gave me love & comfort!
My heart goes out to you and your kitty in this video. This came up in my recommended and I wish I could give you a huge hug. ❤
My kitty (in my pfp) left almost a year ago because she was so sick, but she didn’t want me to worry and wanted to pass away alone. I mourn her every single day, and I don’t know but I know now that mine wasn’t hardly eating towards the end of her life. She was the sweetest girl too. But she had problems going to the bathroom and always slept ( when she wasn’t outside with me). Miss her so much! Sending you love and healing. ❤️🩹
poor baby. same thing happened to our boy of 10 years. he out of the blue started showing the symptoms. and when we did he bloodwork it was too late and he was in advanced kidney failure. we said bye to him this sunday. ive ben depressed even to the point of not wanting to live anymore. we had an in home euthanasia and he went peacefully. i know he was getting worse and worse. and had we kept him longer he wouldve had seizures too. all the end of stage signs were there and we knew it was time. part of me is relieved hes up in heaven playing and happy but part of me will always have that guilt i didnt do more for him to expand his years.
My little man passed 2 years ago. I still cry and sob every day . I don't know if there is something wrong with me. I loved him more than 2 of my kids.
Our kids grow up and become independent happy individuals if we do well... animals are always our babies. Just remember that you gave as much love as you could, they felt it. They’re still with you spiritually. Unconditional love is the greatest and most painful sometimes. Love is sacrifice. I’m putting my 13 year kitty down from liver cancer and it’s absolutely devastating... but to see him suffering physically worse than I am emotionally makes me realize this is not okay for me to only keep him alive for my emotional sake. It gives me small amounts of peace knowing he won’t be in any pain anymore.
There is never an ending or separation merely new notes are played in the great ongoing symphony of existence in which we all play our parts. I’m going to have a wake for my cat and grieve openly. Then I plan on decorating my house with pictures of us to remind me of the good times. I know it will be hard but for some reason but brain wants to remember the good and not just miss him. Sometimes their short lives is a reminder our lives are short too. I can’t wait to love new kitties as well. I hope you found some type of peace in your grief about your beloved little man! RIP to both of ours 💙
I lost my baby boy on September 7th, 3 weeks, 3 days ago. He was Euthanized here at the house. I have his Urn against the pillow next to mine with his tiny tennis ball he would play with. I talk to him, kiss the urn, wrap my arm around the urn at sleep time. My other baby girl Kitty rubs her whiskers against the urn and sits out in the living room on the entertainment stand next to his paw prints display. I've heard his voice 2 times....I was in the area of going to sleep but not totally and somewhat coherent...I heard his lovely voice. I ask for him to talk to us each night in hopes I'll hear him again. I know I will. Kit was 16. Kitty is almost 15 and has changed since then...she looks out the window more often...wants more attention, talks more than ever before. Cats are very special and until you own one you may be deceived by all the crap you hear of cats vs. dogs. I love both, they are all special in their own way.
Thank you so much for this. At the end after being diagnosed with cancer and not eating I feel like she was trying and living for me instead of herself.
Its incredible hard to experience since we have so much love for them. You are a phenomenal person for sharing this hard experience - it has helped me a lot come to terms with letting her go sooner rather than later
you have a big heart man. I'm so sorry - Chloe had a wonderful family and was lucky.
I just want to hug everyone in here
I had to put my 17 year old cat put down in May 2020 due to seizures and not being able to walk or do things independently like she used to and it’s the worst feeling ever to have to put a beloved pet down 🥺
But at the end of the day she had a lovely life and was so dearly loved by many✨
Same goes to all the beloved pets and animals we shared with ♥️
So regal. A pleasure meeting you Chloe, despite the years. I've been here. RIP Samantha and Simone. Cat and Chow/Lab Same markings. Sisters in life and death. They Grew up together and both passed within 3 months of each other. My girls made it to 15 back in 2007. Huggles Chloe!!!
Aw, I'm sorry you've had to make more than one video on this topic, you clearly love and adore your cats. My lovely little girl, I was able to bring her to the vet today and even hold her through it because I knew it was the best thing for her. She went from having a routine she really enjoyed each day, to no longer being able to stand, walk, drink, or eat without a lot of assistance. It really helped to hear you state that a week too early is better than a week too late.. This evening when I went to fill the water fountain, I was surprised it didn't even need topping up; normally I wind up putting another liter in over the morning and evening checks. We have three other cats, i wasn't aware so much of it was her. She was the queen of all she surveyed, and she passed feeling no more pain, confusion, or anxiety in my arms.
Mine was always a glutton. He had a ravenous appetite even on his last day but he just couldn’t gain weight. He was already underweight due to his low protein prescription diet that caused him to lose a lot of his muscle mass but it was the only thing that kept him healthy following his kidney disease diagnosis in 2021.
He lost the ability to walk the night before I took him to the clinic. He just laid in his litter box and didn’t want to move anymore. He was soiling himself and no longer had the strength to even push out a stool. When I brought some of his favorite chicken pureé he wanted it so badly he was willing to eat it lying down.
Taking him to the vet I knew they were going to recommend putting him to sleep. He had lost 1.5lbs in just three days since our last visit and he was even more dehydrated. I couldn’t, for the life of me, get him to drink any water. He’d just look at all of the bowls, glasses, whatever I placed in front of him but he’d never take it. It brought me to tears.
I let him go a week ago and I often find myself asking if I should’ve pushed back harder? Could I have nursed him back to health? He was 4 pounds at 11 years old and in such an awful state, but he had bounced back in the past. I don’t know, but the mere question is eating away at me. I loved him more than anything in this world with the exception of my own mother. I was never apart from him for more than a few days for 11 straight years. I’d give pretty much anything to have him back. I pray that we’ll be reunited again someday. I swear I’ll find him.
You did the right thing.
Just lost my fur baby, the pain and grief is like no other. My thoughts and prayers to you !
Sorry to hear this. Thoughts and prayers are with you.
Thank you for this video Steve. So sorry for the loss of Chloe. I watched this and it was like a video of my own home. We had to hold our girl Jess while she was put to sleep today and we are heartbroken but this reassures me we made the right call. She had stage 4 renal failure and was only licking her food and drinking excessively, also mostly blind. 16 years young, wish we had more time but it was the right time for her. Love these animals like our own children don’t we!
I am SO very sorry for the loss of your pretty little fur baby. It's SO SO hard to say goodbye. It's the WORST!! I have lost 2 cats since 2022. My cat Calvin who was 17+ was put to sleep 3 weeks ago. I cried so hard at the vet I could hardly sign my name on the euthanasia form. I have 3 more fur babies so my heart will shatter 3 more times. My heart goes out to you. She's a beautiful baby. The house is SOOOOO lonely when you lose a pet. 💔💔 Thank you for rescuing lots of cats. You are a beautiful soul!!!❤️❤️❤️