My Coming Out Story - A Video from 2015!!!!
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- čas přidán 21. 02. 2019
- I recorded this video 4 years ago!!! I found it in my drafts today, and I've never published it! So here we are. Note my skinny eyebrows, and the fact this was before the era where I learned to overline my lips and actually do good makeup!
Just want to put it out there that my family are 100% supportive. To this day I've not had any further problems whatsoever. In this video I also mention my mum's old views, but she's COMPLETELY changed those now. Trust me, she supports her bi daughter through thick and thin. She won't stand for any discrimination against me at all. She's amazing !!!!
I had a load of text here from before but there's no point in it now, so I'll just say I hope this helps some people? I've had a lot of people ask for this story so here you go! xxx
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Definitely not dull, the one with your mom is hilarious.
the quote from your grandma "well that's okay isn't it?" made me tear up oh god. i hope i can come out soon. i just can't bring myself to tell my family. i suppose i'm embarrassed by it. it's weird because it's a secret i've kept since i was about 12 and i'm 17 now. i kind of plan on waiting for university because i feel like that will be easier. ugh i'm dreading it. but i'm glad your family was so kind and good about it.
It does feel embarrassing and it shouldn't. It still feels scary, even today, when new people find out, because there's always the worry someone will get weird and have a problem with it. But hopefully in the future people won't have that same fear. Good luck with your coming out! Don't feel pressured into doing it sooner than you feel ready, though. It needs to be on your terms. xxx
Know that there's a whole community at your back! Don't do anything you don't want to, but when you're ready, there's lots of people to support you. Good luck, eventually! 💚
Thank you for sharing ~ 💜💜💜~
I came out 2012 , and I feel like I'm continually coming out 😄
Angel hugs n Blessings to you and yours 😇
P.S. ...not boring at all , I thoroughly enjoy listening .
Goodness! You came out so many times, I feel tired!! Lol. Your story is not boring, it's how it should be! Accepting
Love you, thank you for posting! hope you're doing well x
you always create such a welcoming and warm atmosphere in your videos. watching them feels like coming to a safe, friendly place. thank you!!
The only person I sat down and told in my family was my mom and she did the whole "you're too young to know if you like girls" but I think she is better with it now that a year or two have passed. I never told my dad, he just found out. My sisters caught on I guess? They just suddenly knew, I don't really know how. Anyway, thanks for sharing your story hun. You were very brave ♥ xx
Well I did actually come out twice with different labels. My family didn't really care that I'm pansexual they were just like 'oh that's a thing too?' but when I came out as trans hell broke loose. My parents were very lovely. My mom knew it from the beginning and she just went with it and incouraged me to try out how and what I wanted to be. My dad just thought about how to tell his side of the family and who could have a problem with that so he could protect me from them. My grandparents (who brought me up for a significant part of my life) treated it like a phase and as if I was confused or just a tomboy but later they became more accepting and now they always say that it doesn't matter to them to which gender I belong but they still have a problem with not using my deadname. The rest of my family is kind of supportive but also not totally convinced because they basically think with everything that happend to me there are a lot of possibilities of that being a symptom of or a coping mechanism for my mental illness which is really upsetting and invalidating but I learned to live with that.
thank you, Claudia 💖💖💖💖💖💖
Awhh it's baby Claudi! 😂😍❤
Aww, vintage Claudia! This was really sweet and I identified with it a lot, also I don’t think your makeup looked bad! Thanks for sharing! ☺️
Ivy L Mccall She’s gorgeous and lovely 😊
When I came out to my mum (just as "I like girls too", I hadn't adopted the pan label yet), I was looking in the fridge and she basically shrugged and said okay and once I had adopted the pan label, she makes (respectful!) pansexual jokes - just this afternoon I was making lunch and when I asked for the flat pan, she immediately made a joke out of it - she even bought me my pansexual pride flag and went to pride with me last year 💖
That's so lovely! My mum is such a supporter of the LGBT community now too! It's lovely to be able to joke about it all and feel relaxed and happy. xxx
@@ClaudiaBoleyn I've just remembered something my mum said that made me feel so happy when I came out. She got home from work and said "You know, you could be any [sexuality or gender] and we wouldn't kick you out. But if you became a tory, we would." 😂
This was lovely.
Love this! Can relate to a lot of it x
My friend came out to me today and I watched this and you changed my view of it and made me much happier thank you soo much
It is absolutely iconic that you have a matching necklace with Anne boylen
I can't wait until you and your brother start doing Game of Thrones review, in April. Please have your brother cosplay or dress up as Arya Stark; that would be epic.
This is so lovely, thank you for sharing it. Everyone knows I like girls and I have identified as a lesbian, or gay woman, for Years. But recently, I have figured out that I am actually non-binary, and I am trying to work up the courage to come out. I know that my friends and my mum will be lovely about it, but the rest of my family, I am very unsure as to how they'll react. They won't accept it, or they will and just make a lot of jokes about it, or say it's a phase, or something. I'm only out to my therapist, and my internet friend (and I guess a few comments sections), but I think I will come out to my friends soon. So yay.
Hi, Claudia.
"Life is an expression of love, alike love is a colour of life. We express ourselves in all the colours that might be, because they exist - just as we. Love is a gem - never a burden it should be."
(Ethie Loughibonn)
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Yes, coming out is a lifelong process.
I came out to my mum years ago whilst on a walk (can’t remember the exact conversation but I just said basically “I’m bisexual so I like boys and girls”). She told me I was just feeling that way because I was going through a breakup, that I shouldn’t tell the family and basically implied if I told my brother he wouldn’t love me anymore. She isn’t homophobic and is now vocally supportive of the lgbt community though she still doesn’t have a complete understanding of all parts of it but that experience completely tainted my desire to ever bother coming out unless it’s necessary. It makes me so angry that people make your life so fucking difficult over something so dumb and all because they can’t relate. I don’t think she remembers and if she does she hasn’t made any move to reach out to me about it. It sucks having a secret like that.
I’m not completely out to everyone (I’m bi too) in my family but am out to everyone in my immediate family. My grandma and I went through a phase like you did with your mom where we’d debate lgbt topics but now she’s pretty cool. As cool as she’s going to be I think. I was worried about coming out to her and my granda cause they’re very religious like very very religious. But it actually went alright. So to anyone reading these comments, it does get better. I might do a coming out story on my channel too even though I’m not out to everyone.
It's a great coming out story, really. I'm so happy for you that yours was uneventful! :)
A brilliant story it's very brave to come out you are an amazing person your grandma must be a very understanding awesome person your family sound so chilled love you Claudia
@Jean Luc Picard maybe their views some people want that girl to be left back I view I don't agree with Claudia doesn't seem like a hateful person
I think what she did was despicable but I also think it's wrong to deny a British born person their citizenship. Thinking beyond this case, I think it opens a can of worms. Especially for those of us who are British and have immigrant parents. Don't imagine people who think she should come back support her actions. We don't. We think she should be put to trial and investigated. In Britain I am (mostly) very proud of our justice system, and we have to stand by it.
My grandma is wonderful! xxx
I heard she would be arrested if she came back most people don't want a terrorist in their country full stop she only wants to come back to Britain because she is pregnant she'll probably raise the child with the same exstremist views she has
I came out in 2017, first to two of my friends via video chat they were great and supportive I talk to them about girls I had crush's on and they were really happy for me. A few months later I told my mum and dad, I was f#$%ing terrified I'm not good at talking to my parents about personal stuff and we never really talked about stuff like this, even though they never said anything homophobic and I knew they were fine with gay marriage none of that stoked me from freaking out. So I decided I was going to come out a week before I came out (in hindsight that was a bad idea as that gave me a week to worry and get trapped in my own head about it) so in that week I watched coming out videos all of which were sad story's so that didn't help. The day came and like I said I was terrified, my parents were watching a movie and I worked in and I said can to pause the tv then a few seconds of silences went by, and I just said it I'm gay a few more seconds of silence happened, my mum look at me weirdly probably just processing what I said and my dad ask me a few questions but unfortunately my brain went completely blank so I just blurted out some vague answers. After that I worked out and sat in the other room I felt so many mixed emotions I stated to cry a little but my mum worked in the room and sat next to me I stopped myself from crying so she didn't notice, she asked me few questions which I didn't really answer very well (my brain was still blank) she a few funny comments that made me smile and she told me that she loved me no matter what then my dad worked and said the same. I wish I was more chill about it and was more open with my parents when I came out but I'm just not a chill kind of person I over think things and I clam up!!
Sorry for the super long comment, I really enjoyed this video I wish this was the kind of coming out story I watched before coming out!!!
I'm so happy your mum and dad were so lovely and supported you! xxx
I love the story about your grandad! It's just so British haha, my parents were pretty much like your family saying yeh that's alright then isn't it cool. Haha. I don't tend to make a big deal about it and don't tell everyone only those I'm close to because I just don't think it's their business. But I love your story and your channel, I've followed you for a while now and you make me feel more comfortable in myself if that makes sense? :)
I'm so happy this channel has helped! That's really made my day! xxx
Omg a bi-spy! I love this haha, definitely going to refer to myself as that
I've come out to my mum like 4 times and she's forgotten all of them, now I'm honestly over it and someday she'll get a random weding invitation and see the two women's names on the invite and that's it
There is a term compulsory heterosexuality. I think your experience with your mom is very similar to mine. My mom has been unlearning a lot of things. Also pretty sure my mom forgot I came out to her as well but my mom forgets a lot of things I tell her. I have a theory that mom brains just get so tired from remembering to change diapers and feeding everyone and having to remember and coordinate schedules that they just forget things sometimes.
omgggggggg my mum forgot too like three times !!! it was really weird and frustrating
The first person I ever came out to was my brother, actually. I already knew he was bi (I'm ace btw) so I sent him this ridiculous meme with two figures named "bisexual" and "asexual" that said "wait, if I don't exist, and you don't exist, then who's driving the car??!?" and strongly hinted in the text that they represented us... yeah 😂
He was totally fine with it, of course, but it's still the weirdest way I've come out to anyone. No idea why I thought a meme was a good way to come out through.
So long ago, you didn't blow a kiss at the end 😥.
Lovely stories. Hope you are well xxx
8:30 Was that Katie McGrath?
I'm bi, too and my Mom forgot my first coming out, too :"D I had to come out to her twice, as well. It was very messy and awkward xd She only really took it seriously after I started dating my first girlfriend (still with her
I come out to my grandma very often on the phone, or rather remind her, but she still can't accept it and asks about guys lol
Ok, so here’s the thing. I was born a girl, but I identify as male. I am not sexually attracted to females. But, when I’m with a guy, I feel strange, too. So, I’m mostly single. And I’m ok with that as well...🧚🏼♂️🌈✨
When i came out to my mum she sad "you do realise you'll never be able to have proper sex right" 💀💀💀 I don't talk to her about it lol
I had to come out three times to one of my friends as well cause she kept forgetting lol
but Claudia... are you still bisexual? :P lovely video thanks for sharing! so cool that you will always have this and you can see how much you and your family have grown
Yeah I remember you stated you were bi-dexual some time ago. That's cool.
Personally I'm not part of the lgbt+ society but I know alot of people who are and I think alot of the reactions of some people are simple not understanding/not knowing how to respond and act
wAit, i came out to my mom and she forgot too, what's up with that?aldhsdh
All of mine don't care, but some "don't care" if you know what I mean.
Bi?
Yep. So attracted to same and different genders xxx
I get the feeling that the people who have come out to me think I didn't approve or something because I'm just totally non-plussed by the whole thing. Okay, you're gay and I'm not totally surprised by that, can we get back to the topic we were discussing?
Maybe it's because I *don't* expect everyone to be entirely straight, so it's not that big of a deal for someone to tell me they're not? I get that it's a big thing to the person coming out but to me it all seems to be making a mountain out of a molehill.
I love the LGBT. This is a mental health channel right? How do you stop self harming please someone tell me? 😭
Listen to music, scribble on paper, tear paper, exercise, ping an elastic band on your wrist, hold an ice cube in your fist, draw on your skin instead of cutting. xxx