What does it mean when someone says, "I don't deserve you".
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- čas přidán 13. 11. 2020
- It means they don't deserve you.
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A woman once told me this....
To which I responded. "Damn right."
It could mean that they are not as good to you as you are to them.
Dont deserve you basically means the following in a nice way ... i dont want you the way you want me . Its feeling sorry for yourself...we all go after what we want ... not what we deserve lol .
This is a timeless topic, so I'll reiterate this:
"I don't deserve you" means: "I don't have the capacity to give this connection the respect and care it deserves. I will mismanage it." And know this: PEOPLE DO NOT DESERVE WHAT THEY ARE NOT WILLING TO PROPERLY MANAGE. They aren't lying to you. Their low self-esteem and excuses are besides the point. They're giving you a warning so they can claim no liability later when everything goes to sh*t.
Here's a short list of other warnings that should make you run for the hills, no matter what the reason may be:
1. "I'm an a$$hole."
2. "I like to make trouble."
3. "All my exes are crazy."
4. "I'm surrounded by a lot of jealous men/women". (It means they have a shallow ego and need people to fight over them to feel validated. They WILL engage in juvenile behavior to get a rise out of you.)
5. "I'm not big on empathy."
Have you heard some other "fair warning phrases"? Feel free to share them here.
Its a cop out and a lie at the same damn time
It's definitely a warning.
Yes Maya Angelou said that 🔥
Thank you for this message
Very well said . 😊 Just encountered this , and I left .
I love this. Right on time 💯
My ex partner said to me I don’t want to end on bad terms and that she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me that I deserve better she was a narcissist she just wanted a reaction 🙏
Yep. Sometimes that happens, too. Unfortunately, some people only know how to appreciate negative attention. Moving on to a healthier situation is probably best.
Good message..Thank you🙏💗🙌
Nice video. The editing was very good and the message solid. 👍
many thanks.
Well said 👏🏾
This was a message needed
What if she said this based off her pass relationships
What does it mean when they say your so nice or to nice i don't deserve you?
What if the context of them saying it is they don't know if they deserve a nice guy because their father was never around and their exes were not nice guys so they don't know if they deserve a nice guy?
Thanks for asking. I'd say this: regardless of the reason, the potential to mistreat another person is still there. That is the issue that must be healed.
If they feel they don't deserve someone good because of poor family history and childhood programming (and trust me, I've been there too) then that person has to step away from the one they could potentially harm and DECIDE to face the negative core beliefs first.
The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Even if you mean well, you'll only be building a house of cards with a foundation built on a mentality of lack. It will only be a matter of time before the slightest breeze comes along blowing everything apart. And someone will get hurt.
Association breeds assimilation. If the person they don't feel they "deserve" sticks around long enough, they will inevitably be poisoned by their limited perspective.
Thanks for your video. It helped a lot 🙏🏼
He said "I don't deserve you, I'm not handsome enough for you, I'm not suave (he thinks I dress well) you're super hot, there are people in my life I care about and I care about too" Whenever you want to hangout we can hang out" Then he said he wants this work out....I'm so confused and upset. I really couldn't understand he just have low self esteem or trying to reject me nicely...
I've learned so much since this video...few ideas are set in stone. Your intuition and life path have the final say. I do believe, though, that a person can only give you what they have available from their own inner resources to give. What he offered you (the truth along with a chance to "hang out whenever you want") is what he can give. You have to decide if you require all or nothing or if you are OK meeting him where he is - either is fine. If you decide to meet him, I think the giving should be balanced so that you do not pour out more than you'll ever get back and resent him for it later. Find whatever else you need or desire elsewhere. No one owns you. Love/life/relationships are negotiations. You can set your own parameters.
That's the realistic I've heard coming from a woman
What mental health issues are associated with this? Cause this is what my ex used to tell me when something happened and I blew up on her.
That's a great question. I'm not a mental health pro, so I can't say. I can only speak from experience and draw conclusions based on what I saw. Sometimes people seem to use that phrase to get pity when they want to deflect attention from their toxic behavior -- which points to an unwillingness to take responsibility and is blatant manipulation. Sometimes it reflects a sense of unworthiness and low self-esteem and an inability to grow beyond it at that point in time.
@@inannajoy6132 In your opinion, I should give up the ghost with her then and move on? She wants to remain friends she considers me her best friend she said. Her behaviour was always so strange. Always hot and cold. Either really affectionate and loved me all the time or completely cold towards me.
In my opinion, anyone in this situation would do really well by putting themselves first. I can't know the full story, however, it sounds like you genuinely care for her, but it doesn't sound like such care and consideration is being returned. If that is the case, the *reasons* don't matter. Whether it is purposeful manipulation with cruel/selfish/hot and cold behavior, or simple ignorance/low self-worth/social ineptitude and immaturity, the result is the same -- you get mistreated, repeatedly. How long do you want to experience that?
People don't change. They typically just adapt to new environments and circumstances. If you want to honor yourself and her, raise the standard for how you should be treated, even if that means you have to walk away. She'll either adapt to the change with better behavior or leave and make room for someone else who will properly reciprocate. Might temporarily hurt to close that chapter, but you'll likely only waste time and stunt your own growth and hers by sticking around.
As far as friendship, were you friends before becoming more? How did she treat you then? Maybe you can salvage the friendship down the line after some time apart to heal and rid your system of the excess feelings. Only you know what will truly work for you. You just have to be honest with yourself about it.
@@inannajoy6132 I’m probably an idiot for trying and caring. But she said she doesn’t deserve me and then proceeded to tell me she has tendencies to cheat but wouldn’t go through it whilst with me.
It sounds like you'll only get more of the same if you stay.