SLEEP TRAINING: HOW TO HELP YOUR BABY GET THE REST THEY NEED! | Kendra Atkins
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- Today we are talking all about sleep training! I documented days 1-4 to show how it went, and I will say last night was the best night! Owen slept from 7:30-4:30! I fed him then and he woke up for the day at 7:30!! Here is the program I've used for my twin girls and son: sleepsense.net/
This is a topic not many people like to talk about, but it's been so crucial for all my kids and they are wonderful sleepers because of it. I think it's important to not associate "sleep training" with just crying, but a way to help your baby become a better sleeper. It's training your little one to get the rest they need to help their physical and mental development. You can read all about it in the sleep sense ebook! I hope you all find this helpful and that you and your baby will soon get much needed rest!
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I always feel weird saying to content creators "I'm so glad you are back to posting regularly" after they have had babies/been on vacation or whatever because I don't want them to think I'm ungrateful or don't think it right for y'all to take a break (you don't owe your subscribers anything and they shouldn't feel entitled to content). That being said, with the purest intentions ever I do want to say it has been exciting seeing more content from you! You are one of my faves and I have been watching your videos ever since I had twins and your comment about it being okay to let one cry while you feed the other SAVED ME! Anyways, ❤ your videos!
-Kaylee
Aw thank you for sharing that! I know it's hard because times when the most is happening is usually when people want to see more! Glad I can help you in some way!
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I was stupid forgot my password. I would love any assistance you can offer me
Sleep is sooooo important for brain development. Good sleep is key for kids. We hired someone to help us with our twins back in the day.
Lori Haley yes it is!!
I sleep trained my twins after watching Kendras first video when she sleep trained her twins and it was the BEST thing we’ve done for their sleep schedule.
Tiffany Mastro 👏🏻👏🏻
You literally READ MY MIND. I'm starting sleep training of my nearly 5 month old and I NEEDED THIS SO BAD.
It's amazing to me how different babies can be. My current 6.5 month old was a breeze to sleep train. She goes to sleep so easily with just a couple of minutes of a little whining. My first daughter though, I tried to sleep train her for months & she would just SCREAM and scream and scream. When I went in to give her a pat or sooth or whatever, she'd scream harder, like gasping for breath screaming. For several days, she'd scream for over an hour before falling asleep from exhaustion. I don't think that that is what it's supposed to look like. I gave up after a few nights like that. Tried again a few months later & the same thing. I do think that this kind of sleep training works for the vast majority of babies. It just didn't work for my 1st daughter until she was over a year old. It would make me so mad when other moms were like, oh sleep training is great, it wasn't that hard & they sleep so good now, you really should sleep train. It made me feel like a failure. But now that I see with my second daughter how it can be, I see what those other moms experienced & why they said it was so great. So other moms, if you're trying to sleep train & your experience looks nothing like this, it's not you, & it's ok! It stinks, but not all babies are the same with sleep training :-)
Sarah Crawford yes everyone is SO different, there is no one size fits all!!
Thank you so much for sharing Kendra.. I sleep trained my bub without even realizing I was sleep training her. I just put her down in her cot to play for the last 15 minute awake time then she just fell asleep the first time then the second time and so forth so I just kept doing it. She is such a happy baby for it!!!
We FINALLY got our 1 year old to sleep through the night! It is amazing! I feel human again. I was either nursing or rocking him to sleep for naps and bedtime and it just got to be too much. It got to a point where he was waking up almost every hour or two during the night. Now he doesn't wake up at all at night and is going to sleep mostly on his own with very little crying!
LOVE THIS! This is absolutely a life skill and I really appreciate you touching on this. Being good at sleep just isnt something that comes naturally, its a skill that can be taught.
Thank you so much For being open about this. I’m so for sleep training and I have done it with both my kids. My girls are incredible sleepers as well.
I just want to say thank you so much!!!! Your first video helped my husband and I so much. As a result my son is a solid sleeper now. I finally had enough when he was 13 months. To say we were at our breaking point is a huge understatement. Thank you again.
L. Q oh yay that makes me so happy!!
Thank you for posting this! I’m am currently on day 6 of sleep training my 5 month old and we are doing pretty much exactly what you are doing! So nice to hear from other moms about their experience with it. It’s hard but soooo worth it! :)
I'm currently sleep training my 4month old using the same method. By night 4 she fell asleep before I could even sing to her or turn off the light! Naps are much tougher for us though- jealous of how good Owen is doing with them! Hopefully we'll get there soon.
Definitely saving this video! Expecting my first baby in March, and I learned so much from you!
Thank you so much for documenting the first few days and also loved your update! I love your content so positive and informative.
Thank you so much!!
I have twin boys who just turned 1 year old. I never knew there was such a thing as sleep training until I watched your first video of sleep training! They have been sleeping 7-5:30 every single night since they were 4 months old, thank you for giving such great advice, sleep training really works!!
My son is 3 months old and I’m so glad I watched this! He’s my second and I’m nervous about sleep training because my first was tricky and took longer to sleep train. But he’s awake 4-5 times a night and we’re both ready for better sleep!
I’m a soon to be mama and my sister just had her first child last month, I’m so happy you shared this! I love learning new insightful info! 💗
Kendra you look absolutely gorgeous in this video. I love your hair, makeup and the colour of your jumper. Sending lots of love from Australia. Have a Merry Christmas!
K thanks so much!!
K just wait until you get to the end clips 😂
This was so helpful Kendra! Thanks for sharing. Currently sleep training my 6 month old and this gave me the boost I needed to keep going! I remember when you were sleep training your girls and it made me decide to sleep train my daughter who was 5 months at the time. Best thing I ddI for my sanity and her sleep.
Lydia Kessler so glad to hear!
Ah this is soooo helpful thank you. I’m pregnant with my second and found sleep training quite stressful with my first. We didn’t really nail it until he was around 9 months and he would wake at night until much older. I think our mistake was we would let him self soothe at bedtime but then always rush in when he would wake during the night instead of waiting to see if he would soothe himself. This meant he woke up at night at least once til he was about 19 months! I know I’ll be returning to this video when my second is at the right age thank you!
Thank you! I have a 2 month old and I’m so ready to sleep train her!
Sleep training is essential! Love this video. We have a 5 month old and we used the taking cara babies course and we LOVED it. It makes everyone better off! Baby is happier and healthier as well as the parents. Love your videos!
I keep going back and forth about sleep training. I'm tired and I can see that my baby doesn't sleep great either so I'm tempted but can't seem to pull the trigger. Thanks for the video. It's very helpful and is making me want to maybe try to make that move.
Olga Dovgal Sarah Ockwell Smith has a much more logical approach to sleep training.
I've been waiting for this video.
tried to get it out soon!
Thanx soooo much! I learned a lot from it and I love your videos!
I sleep trained my baby (now a toddler) after you sleep trained your girls and he is and has been the best sleeper!!
amazing!
This is so helpful!! 💞
Isis Pierce so glad!!
Hey Kendra.. I just want to thank you for introducing me to sleep train.. I had no idea and I’d hear family members say - my twins will sleep long on their own “in time”. Thank God I watched your video and now have started sleep training them. They are 4mo old. On their day 4 ! :)
I am SO glad!
I have 5 children and I did sleep training with all of mine. Good job !!😜
My God this sweater😍😍 I ordered one and can't wait to get it💃 u look gorgeous. I never knew other find sleep training weird😳 all 4 of my kids I only sleep with them the first 3 months then they are in their own room and I have never have any problem with it. It actually good cause as u mentioned it good for them and for me also. Wow very informative video so thank you.
neema Naomi ya some babies definitely don’t need it!!
I never knew that lol thank you. Am always learning new things from you😬😘
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with sleep training 🥰
of course!
Loves this, I'm on baby number 4 and I struggle with the sleep training methods, I hate listening to them cry I feel cruel, but you have explained this so well. My little boy is in our bed and it's not good for any of us. If he was happy and comfortable then I would love it but hes not hes very restless and I know he would love his own bed if he just gave it a try. I'm on this from tomorrow...(its 10pm here in Scotland so too late tonight) thanks kendra....love watching your little family ❤🥰 xx
Jennifer Ingram wishing you the best of luck!!
@@kendraatkins thank you 🙌❤ xx
Yes I sleep trained my son same method he is 2 and sleeps amazing to this day 😍😍❤️❤️ so happy your getting more sleep momma ! It’s a game changer 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Brittany Kenedy yes yes!
I watched your video with the girls to sleep train my baby. You gave me the confidence to do it and not feel horrible. Although I still felt horrible. He’s 14 months and a pretty good sleeper although we are weaning from nursing and he’s really sad about that.
Haven’t had a chance to watch the video but definitely will soon, love your channel.
I also follow new mommy Shawn Johnson and she recently posted something about how every mama, mamas differently. LOVE that. And it’s true. there is more than one way to be a good mom and it’s nice when we can be supportive of each other isn’t it. Our sleep solution was to start cosleeping with our son @ 4m old.
Never intended to cosleep but when our son was 4m old he of course went thru sleep regression. My instinct was to put him in bed with hubby and I and he has been a great sleeper ever since, getting his much needed rest for proper development and we, his parents, also are well rested. Im so glad we made the decision to cosleep, it was right for our family.
Our son will soon be 3 yrs and we are going to transition him into his own space soon, will be nice but also going to miss the xtra cuddles.
Robyn we did the same at 4 months but it just didn’t last and none of us were sleeping! Thank you for your comment! 💗
We’ve used sleep sense to sleep train all 3 of our girls and it’s the best thing we ever did!
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Just found your channel as I am preparing to start tonight sleep training my 5 month old! Your experience with your son is exactly as mine is... up ALL night long.. Every 2 hours at night and then it takes a good 30 to 45 mins to get him back to sleep. He is only eating once at night so his wake ups are only because he doesn’t know how to soothe himself back to sleep. Naps are the same.. rock for 30 mins until sleeping tip toe to the bed lay him down and majority of the time he would wake up and I would have to start over.. and all this to get a 30 min nap from him in his bed. If he fell asleep in the car for naps he could sleep for 2 or more hours. So I know he can sleep longer. Sooooo I am ready and going to do it tonight Lord help me 🙏 Thanks for sharing your experience I feel much better prepared hearing your step by step and how it went. Light at the end of the tunnel for this exhausted mama.
best of luck! I filmed an update too so make sure to watch!
Sooooo WOW! Can’t believe I was so scared!
Did the bedtime routine, kissed him good night and left the room. He made some noise and fussed a little bit for about 15 minutes and fell asleep.I never had to go back in. He woke up every hour or two as normal, however, he would let out a few noises, never out right crying and then within 5 minutes fell asleep. He still needed a night feed so when he woke at his normal 11pm I went in and fed him and layer him down still awake. He grabbed his lovie turned over and fell right right asleep. I won’t get too optimistic seeing how only the first night. He does seem much better rested this morning!
I’m so glad you posted this! My almost 5 month old has been STRUGGLING to nap! Ever since he got sick like almost a month ago 😩 he was sleeping 2 hour stretches and now it’s like 30 minutes! At night he wakes up like every 2-3 hours sometimes every hour and it’s sooo exhausting. Definitely trying this because he’s like 18/19 lbs lol. But question. After they are used to this and doing it for naps how do you handle it when you guys go out? Does he nap while your out and about or do you come back home so he naps? Hoping sleep training helps my little guy!
Thank you very much kendra
I don’t currently have a baby (my little girl is 2.5), but I LOVE your approach to sleep training. Your first video with the girls helped me so much when we sleep trained Bella, and I’m tagging this one as a refresher for any future babies.
We’ve done a lot of good things as parents, but sleep training has been one of the best things we’ve done. Could not agree more that sleep affects the entire child - their mood, their ability to learn and play, and also my ability to parent well.
One tip for others... if you’re able to have your partner be the one who goes in to soothe after the 5 minute mark, we found this to be helpful. Bella would completely freak out and it would be much worse if I went back in. But, Daddy was just enough comfort without her being indignant that she wasn’t getting more cuddles.
Also, our child was VERY resistant and it took a long time for her to catch on (2+ weeks of lots of crying)... so stick with it. She’s an amazing sleeper now - still sleeping 12 hours at night with one nap a day. And now she’s literally running and jumping 3 minutes before getting in bed. But as soon as she gets her last hug, she’s out for the night.
Heather Grace ya Owen’s not catching on as quick as the girls did!
i am trying this tonight! :)
Thank you so much for making this video! I have to rock my 4 month old to sleep everytime he needs to go to sleep and it gets exhausting for me and as soon as I put him down he wakes up. Love you ❤️❤️
Michaela Follin yes I feel you!!
Hey! my little girl is almost 4 months old and when she was 6 weeks old and even before that we also had to hold her and rock her to sleep all the time and then she would also wake up the minute you put her in bed. So then i thought.. something is not adding up here and i went on the internet because i had a gut feeling we needed to do something different. That's when i found an info article from a hospital and they explained that you have to put your baby to bed awake so that they can self soothe and learn themselves to fall asleep. ever since we started doing this (by 6 weeks) she's slept through the night from 9.30 pm till 7.30 am :) Now we're starting to change her schedule a little bit because we've noticed she needs a little more sleep at night (because we need to wake her in the morning) but it's a work in progress ;) (sorry for the long story, wanted to share with you)
Fantastic!
I have a daughter that’s 2.5 years old and 6 month old twins- my life is chaos I’m so excited for this video :)
Eyeballssally well WE are twins! 😊
Kendra Atkins 💓 I’ve been through both my pregnancies with you - you are my inspiration!
Good for you to offer what worked for you to others. People need to understand that proper sleep is pertinent to bodily rest, mental attitude, ability to solidify memories even for things you must learn, etc. It is important that children learn to self-soothe, what nighttime is, even nap time and quiet time during the day, and that their growth and development is not truncated by poor sleep habits which can cause personality disorders, too, and learning problems. Go for it. Share what you discovered. I've seen people allow their children to get overstimulated and overtired and think it's ho-hum, oh well, isn't it funny. No, it's harmful unless you've had no choice under the circumstances. They get to the point where they cannot sleep properly and have no recourse in their mental toolbox but to cry and thrash about. It is cruel. You were really thorough in what you covered. And people can adapt the binkie thing if they must. I think some moms need the baby to need them, so don't just allow them to sleep and go through their self-soothing and let them adapt to the REM cycles and get needed sleep.
Philippa Pay thank you for sharing!
Thanks love!
We used the "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" book to help with our first baby. It talks about how most babies and children are sleep deprived; very eye-opening. Our first we sleep-trained at 9 months, but we'll probably try 6 months with our 2nd (she's 3 months right now). It took about 3 days, for our first to go down without crying at all, but she's a great sleeper now. She's almost 2 1/2 and sleeps 11-12 hours at night and takes one afternoon nap for 1 1/2 to 3 hours. I'm a much better mom when I sleep so I'm very grateful for sleep-training, as I'm sure you are. 😁
I used that too! They have a twin edition!
Hey Kendra! Thanks for posting this. We still have our twin girls swaddled 😖 they are five months and not rolling over consistently yet so we haven’t really been aggressive on getting them out. They also take a pacifier. So we were thinking of cutting both out cold turkey and doing the training. What are your thoughts? They sleep great and I don’t nurse them anymore during the night but we have been having frequent wake ups in the middle of the night 😐
The way I see it, we teach our babies to crawl and roll the same as we teach them to breastfeed and sleep. It's also natural for adults to wake up at night and go back to sleep, babies have to learn how to do that.
People act as though sleep training is a barbaric practice where you put your baby in a dark room and never seem them again for 12 hours. It is so much about using your instinct and following your babies' cues. Sleep is so so important for their development and overall well being. With my son (who is 4 now) we read a lot and then adapted parts of programs to fit his needs and what we felt comfortable with.
ya you can totally change how you do it to work with both you and your baby. it's really because we CARE about our babies and want the absolute best for them... for their well-being and their health!
I don’t have any kids, but I love all of your videos! I can’t believe the twins are 3?!
Brooklyn Bain isn’t it crazy?! 😭
I just had a baby boy right after you in August. :-) So I was really excited to see this video. We have hit a rough patch due to a cold last week. I bought the program and I'm super excited to try it out. Did you try the stay in the room method with the girls at all? Or did you go straight to the leave and check method?
Julia Bauserman I did the leave and check method
I remember with my first I was ready to sleep train and my husband could not handle the crying and one night I snapped at him and told him to leave the baby alone haha our second was much easier and now with my third we’re ready and have slowly started sleep training and also just busy mom life just kinda kicked us into sleep training and I’m excited to get him in his crib! Haha
Loved your video as usual! Had a question about the sweater by goodnight macaroon.You said it was the “Rocco” sweater,at least that’s what tagged on your fashion post,but I wondered if it was in fact the “ aspen”? Sorry to ask but I liked it so much and wanted to purchase it after seeing it in your Instagram post😁
you are correct!!!! :)) I couldn't find it!
@@kendraatkins Sweet! It’s 40% off,so Merry Christmas to me🎄
Hey love so you're saying to sleep train their nap times and bedtime at the same time? I've got an 11 month old and want to start sleep training, is doing that very intense but worth it?
Thanks for sharing your sleep training tips. I really needed to hear these as we are sleep training our 5month old now. We have actually already started and she is doing so well, I laughed because I used to rock her to sleep too and it took me hours, I mean HOURS, and once we started training the same thing happened she would just fall asleep the minute I walk out of the door. Anyway the only problem we have is she is struggling to link her sleep cycles, but she doesn't cry at all, she just lays there talking to herself when I go in she would start to moan / cry but as soon as I step out she is back to "talking" sometimes she falls asleep again but only after like a good 15-30mins do you have any advice for this because I know how important sleep is. Our eldest was just like a good sleeper from the get go so this is all so new.
Hi Kendra!! Thank you for this video! When did you move Owen into his own room?
Abbey Johnston I think at 3 months. He was in our bed a lot though around 4 months
Kendra Atkins thank you!!
Sleep training our twin boys at 6 months was the best decision that we could’ve made!! We are all so much happier because of it 🙌🏻
misshaleyxox yay!
My parents do this and even my grandparents when I’ve been visiting them. It’s frustrating. Like my daughter is fine don’t worry.
My 9 month old is going through this stage where he has a meltdown when laying down (nappy changes,dressing, ect so when you say if hes cried for more then 5 minutes to go and soothe him. What do you mean? Cause my little one cried hard for maybe 10-15 minutes straight until he fell asleep with me patting his bum. Is this right?
Up until wanting to give this ago I was doing the complete opposite to this 🙈
I was feeding him till asleep on the boob then trying not to wake him and transitioning him to his bed.
The thing is my partner can put him down for naps/sleeps, but whenever I try....nothing. please help🙏
Thanks for the video! I just wondered what one should do if the baby wont even lie down in the crib. As soon as I put her in the crib she instantly rolls over, stands up on her feet and starts jumping on the bed. Then I come back, put her down again and so on and so on... FYI my baby is 9.1/2 months old.
Any information for toddler sleep regression. From always sleeping in their bed to being in the parents room?
Jamie our girls just started that a few months ago! We just have to bring them back in their beds and say it’s not morning time yet.
Hi Kendra!
Do you follow wake times? Do you expect owen to sleep 12 hr/day?
I notice he doesn’t have a set wake up time in the morning.
He is usually up around 6:30. And then for wake times I keep him up for 2 hours.
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what times do you put owen to sleep for naps?? love this video btw!!
never mind i see where you say it!!
So I did something similar with my two older kids and it worked out fine. Trying it with my third for the first time right now and I've hit my first obstacle. When I go into the room after the five minutes, she will NOT calm down or be soothed. She cries just as much when I'm standing by her bed and patting her and talking to her. So basically when I re-leave the room she is just as livid as she was when I entered. I can't remember if the other kids did this, but I feel like they calmed down at least a little when I came into the room. Right now I feel like me going in there is doing nothing, and she is just crying nonstop. Any tips from anyone who has experienced the same thing? I'm still not supposed to pick her up right?
The Raven's Nest from researching my this topic a lot.... every single baby is different and sometimes sleep needs are the same as other babies but sometimes not so much... so for example, your first two babies clearly had personalities where they were going to sleep well and independently with not much problem. But with other babies, they just will *not* be developmentally ready to soothe themselves and sleep independently no matter how hard you try. You just gotta remind yourself that this baby is different and that babies are normally not developmentally ready to soothe themselves because from the ages 0-2 years old, this phase is all about “trust vs distrust” your caregivers. If you don’t help them when they need you at night, and you let them cry it out, they are slowly learning that they can’t trust you to be there for them in that time of need. Imagine if your loved ones ignored you when you pleaded for them to just *be there for you*... this is why babies cry at night. They need you to show them you will simply be there for them, and that they can trust you! As they get older and older, they will sleep for longer and longer stretches - this phase is all about patience as well for the parents who, remember, are the ones who decided to bring a completely dependent human into the world! They don’t just depend on us for food and diaper changes. They depend on us for ATTENTION aka playing with them often, being present with them, giving them affection, as well as for sleep needs! So just wanted to share what I have learned so far as a mother of breastfed twin girls...with you as food for thought.
I have a daughter 4 now. Sleep trained her and she did great! My son, born with club foot and still bracing which he hates so much! He also has food and medication allergies. He has never slept a full night in his life. He’s 15 months. And I’m still struggling. We live a large one bedroom home. Just me and my two littles. So letting him cry during the night is so hard cause I don’t want him waking his sister, which she always has school and has to get up early. So kind of in pickle. Any suggestions
Dee Aquino ah yes that is so hard!! The only thing I can think is to put a sound
Machine by the older child so they wouldn’t hear as much!
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Thanks for the video! I have a daughter who is almost 5 months old. How do you determine his nap times/bed time? Are they roughly the same each day or do you mostly just pay attention to wake windows/Owen’s signals?
Kayla Dow I keep him up 2 hrs at a time. So it varies day by day. Usually he naps 2 hours after he’s up so around 8:00, then whenever he wakes I wait two more hours for next nap and so on.
Kendra Atkins do you limit the length of these nap at all?
Kendra Atkins Thanks! That’s about where we’re at too.
Hi hun! Can you link your sleep training video for your twins? I can't find it and I'm struggling with my 5 month old twins 😫
hi! type in kendra atkins sleep into google and it all comes up!
My twins slept through the night from 8 weeks to 8 months (on their own, no sleep training). When they were 8 months, I was hospitalized for over a week and in that time, my mom got them used to being rocked to sleep and held while they nap 😑 ever since then, they became terrible sleepers and started waking up multiple times a night and wouldn't go back to sleep unless they were rocked. They're 13 months now and it's getting a little better but they're still dependent on getting rocked (they will literally stay up all night unless you do it). I need toddler sleep training 😂😫.
Dalai Mami oh my gosh how crazy!
My baby sleeps great at night! My problem is naps. I have a 2 year old boy who is very noisy! Our house is small and one level so you can hear everything through the walls. Do you have any advise on how I can keep her asleep with a toddler running around lol
Life With Jess thats how our old house was! Get a sound machine!
How did you sleep train Owen for nap time with your girls running around? My daughter is 2.5 years old & the baby is almost 3 months. Idk how I’m going to try to sleep train my baby when her sister is running around down stairs. Any tips &’tricks would be helpful since your kids & my kids are roughly around the same age. Thanks in advance!!
sound machine!!!!
Sorry, I re read my question. I meant what did you do with your girls while you slept trained Owen. How did you keep them occupied while you slept trained him for nap times. Especially moving from a one story house to a two story house. That’s my current situation. We live in a two story house & I try to have my little one nap upstairs but idk what to do with my 2 year old down stairs to keep her occupied for a little bit.
What if your baby can go to sleep by themselves but wakes up in between the cycles and has a harder time falling alseep? Should they be picked up and not put them to sleep, or just repeat the process until they go back to sleep?
S R I would repeat the process!
I have a five month old, he’s a week younger than Owen. And I’ve tried going in and shushing without picking up and he will NOT have it unless I pick him up. What do you suggest??😫
Hunter Wyatt don’t pick up! Sometimes going in backfires.
I have been really hesitant to sleep train my son he’s almost 11 months now and totally regret it we’ve had such a hard year sleep wise now I know it’s going to be so much harder now he’s this old. I’m expecting twins in June next year and we’ve decided we absolutely have to sleep train them. We only have 2 bedrooms and are planning on keeping the twins in our room for at least the first 6 months and then plan on putting them in with our son. How would this program work without them having their own room? Thanks
I just don't sleep in general when sleep training because I'm awaking listening to them and looking at my clock to time each time they wake up so it probably wouldn't change much! But if they can see you that would make it really hard.
How long does he sleep for naps?
What do you do in the middle of the night when they wake up? If you don’t think they need to be fed? Leave them in there, let them cry and then walk in for a min? And leave them again?
Ya it's a whole process that I follow from sleep sense! DM me if you want specifics! @withkendra
How did you keep your girls from waking each other up if they woke up and started crying? I have 8 month twins and I have tried sleep training them but sometimes one will start crying and I’ll wait to see what happens but In that time usually the other one gets woken up. Any tips?
Kaitlyn Jones usually it wasn’t a problem. In a book on twins I read it talks about how twins get so used to each other that they don’t wake each other up much!
Kendra Atkins I don’t think that’s the case with my own. My girls cry is so high pitched that it usually startles her brother and his cry is so loud that almost every time he cries she wakes up. It’s easy when they both start out and are crying together but if one wakes up and cries and I don’t get them right away the other one will too. I’m not really sure how to manage it.
My girls are like your twins! Their screams are very high-pitched, and what’s interesting is during the newborn phase, they didn’t wake each other every time they cried. But as they got more aware and older and were not newborns anymore, they ALWAYS wake each other. But you don’t have to sleep train them. My twin girls are almost 15 months old, I exclusively breastfed them for about 7 months, and my husband + I have been bed-sharing with them since they were around 2 months old. They are still breastfeeding and stirring multiple times a night to comfort nurse but they actually most of the time alternate between who wants to nurse so I do get a break and I do get good sleep between them - babies don’t wake up often for no reason, and most breastfed babies and non-breastfed babies are not developmentally ready to sleep on their own with zero help getting there nor are they developmentally ready to sleep for longer than about 5-6 hours at a time, even when they are toddlers. They need our reassurance to help them get good sleep - this phase from 0-2 years of age is all about “trust or don’t trust” the people who care for you. Think about it like this: when you *consistently* don’t go to your baby when they cry, you’re essentially telling them they shouldn’t trust you to care for them when they need you for ANYTHING - whether that’s food, diaper change, comfort, help getting back to sleep, etc. Imagine when you’re upset, even if that is in the middle of the night - if your loved one doesn’t want to be there for you... that hurts, right? It’s not how you would want to be treated. We don’t like being ignored and we shouldn’t have to be when we are babies and our parents are the ones who decided to make a COMPLETELY dependent human being. You should research this topic as much as you can to get all the perspectives and angles. Many psychologists and anthropologists have found that in many other cultures, they do not let their babies cry for too long before going to their aid, ever.
How long does Owen nap during the day? My son is 4 months old and sleeps through the night but will only nap for about 30min every 1.5hrs during the day. Sometimes he’s super cranky but I can’t get him back to sleep. Part of me thinks he should be napping longer, the other part of me wants to leave it alone because he does sleep so well at night.
Clarice Bishop three-four naps a day. I put him down every two hours. Your baby may be over tired during the day.
So if he naps from 8-9, I wait and put him down around 11:00
So I have an 8 month old baby. She won't sleep without seeing me. Most the day if I don't hold her she screams. She is a very dependent baby my first was not like this. How do you sleep train a baby who continuously cries anytime she doesn't get her way on being held or seeing you? I'm at a total loss and am getting little to no sleep. Between 2 under 2 I feel very deprived. She wakes up once at night for a bottel and I put her back to bed in my room. How do I get her to sleep on her own? Any advice?
Have you tried sleep training? It may be really good for her. It will probably be harder on you than her, I'm sure after a few days she will adjust and start getting great rest. Give it a try!
@@kendraatkins I've tried really hard and she hasn't shown any progress.
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My baby is 8 months old and she does not fall asleep on her own. I nurse/rock her to sleep for every nap and betime. I am considering sleep training...i never really had to sleep train my 3 year old she kinda did it herself at 4 months old and she is an amazing sleeper still. I'm ready for my baby to sleep better
anna neustaeter ya it’s crazy how different every baby is!
What if you baby sleeps in be with you ? He’s 5momths old almost 6 and he’s been sleeping with me in bed ever since he was born. Should I try and transition him to his crib or do you think sleep training will work in my bed?
Isis Pierce they recommend in their own bed. Owen was ending up in our bed a lot too because it was so much easier. I think he was starting to get used to our bed!
Okay thank you so much!! 💞 I’m going to try transitioning him to his own bed and see how that goes hopefully all goes good .
Ugh I tried this for 30 minutes. He just bawls with his eyes closed. The second I pick him up he is quiet. I don’t know if any sleep training will ever work. He’s 6.5 months, breastfed and sleeps in bed with me. All he does in his crib is get overly worked up and stuck in the slats..
Jessica Rodriguez keep at it! It took the girls longer. Read the program if you need more guidance! They have basically a guarantee it will work
Omg....it sounds great and all, but I don't think that I can do it😶
I cant get my twins to sleep they keep waking eachother up😞. I tried the ferber method and I just cant. It breaks my heart to hear them cry
rosa99 You are not alone in how your heart breaks to hear your babies cry. But you don’t have to sleep train them. My twin girls are almost 15 months old, I exclusively breastfed them for about 7 months, and my husband + I have been bed-sharing with them since they were around 2 months old. They are still breastfeeding and stirring multiple times a night to comfort nurse but they actually most of the time alternate between who wants to nurse so I do get a break and I do get good sleep between them - babies don’t wake up often for no reason, and most breastfed babies and non-breastfed babies are not developmentally ready to sleep on their own with zero help getting there nor are they developmentally ready to sleep for longer than about 5-6 hours at a time, even when they are toddlers. They need our reassurance to help them get good sleep - this phase from 0-2 years of age is all about “trust or don’t trust” the people who care for you. Think about it like this: when you *consistently* don’t go to your baby when they cry, you’re essentially telling them they shouldn’t trust you to care for them when they need you for ANYTHING - whether that’s food, diaper change, comfort, help getting back to sleep, etc. Imagine when you’re upset, even if that is in the middle of the night - if your loved one doesn’t want to be there for you... that hurts, right? It’s not how you would want to be treated. We don’t like being ignored and we shouldn’t have to be when we are babies and our parents are the ones who decided to make a COMPLETELY dependent human being. You should research this topic as much as you can to get all the perspectives and angles. Many psychologists and anthropologists have found that in many other cultures, they do not let their babies cry for too long before going to their aid, ever.
I also want to add to my comment that even though most babies are not developmentally ready to sleep longer than 5-6 hours at a time - usually at night, after the newborn phase, babies will sleep a total of 10-12 hours at night, but will often need help getting back to sleep upon waking from certain sleep cycles, but usually not all sleep cycles.
I’m a big advocate for baby sleep as well. Obviously bc I love sleep, but also because it’s so good for them. I know so many people who have inconsistent sleep routines/schedules and bedtimes. They say they’re not “spoiling” or creating a “crutch” but that’s not the point. They need dark rooms, white noise, etc. to get food quality sleep. My older child is 2 now so there’s a little wiggle room and every now & then we stay up past bedtime. Fortunately both my girls have been good sleepers.. my second is way better than my first even. She sleeps 12 hours, 10 without nursing bc I do dreamfeed her before I go to sleep. My first daughter was exactly the same and my supply was always amazing and we nurses for a year. Thankfully my second daughter has never needed to be rocked which I’m glad bc of the Wild toddler running around. We still do use a paci though and I do have to put it back in at times so I need to deal with that now.
Kristen AR 100% agree!! Our girls have to go to sleep before 7:30, usually 7 and it’s always a much better night.
I have a 9 month old... is it too late to try this?? I miss sleep 😭
chrisannel21 I did it when my daughter was 13 months and I wished I’d done it sooner!
Nope not too late!!
Kendra Atkins oh thank goodness. I’m hoping to try during Christmas break!
Hii Kendra UR looking outstanding sooo beautiful and I give u bigggggg👍👍👍👍👍👍
Owen - so cute with those rosy little cheeks. 😘
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