Be The Main Character Without Begging for Attention
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- čas přidán 28. 08. 2024
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What you crave isn't attention.
-It's the connection that builds over time
-the intimacy of being seen and committed to
Learn the difference between consistent connection and scraps that will momentarily fill you.
The way my heart just immediately softened up when you wrote “you need pen, paper and a soft heart”
so grateful to hear this
This was comforting.
What I truly desire
1. I desire a long living connection with anyone I meet
2. I desire finding out who I am and how I am special and what is my purpose
3. I desire freedom, the freedom to travel, the freedom to express myself, the freedom to not worry about opinions or money. I desire the freedom to live and explore the earth
4. I desire to be seen by people and loved, I desire attention and vulnerability
I felt like god sent me this. To remind me how I’m diff,to remind who I am exactly. Instead of begging for ppl attention,thank you so much for your amazing video,I hope someone will help you in ur deepest falls like u helped me. I really needed this
Ohhh this is so sweet! Thank you love
Your intro was just so so powerful.... I felt it on another level. Perfect timing.... Thank you for the beautiful language you use and come up with that adds so much to my literacy...' so so beautiful and so precious. Deep gratitude to you and to The Creator
thank you so much
I’m working daily on this lol , as a single mother remembering in this time my focus is my personal growth and my seeds . To not these alone times grip me up into feeling like “ I need a man “ I desire a man in the future but it’s not an obligation right now my focus is my girls. So I’m working on diving into finding way brings me happinesss even outside of my kids. Wow this video is On time . Thank you thank you thank you
I appreciate that you stand up and face that topic which for me was covered with layers of shame for so long. Now that I see it it looks pointless and small. Thank you ❤
Praise God for all he's done.
amennn
@@abigxrl 🙏🏿✨✨✨
From the very start I remember something I was taught through Islam that God (ALLAH) does not want us to be tired, and this has to do with provision (Glory Be to God), I.e having piety makes you attract it all.
Thank you so much.
I needed to hear this now. I was really looking for attention and was getting it from a lot of people. But I didn't understand why I wasn't getting better. It's because they were interactions that filled me up for a moment and I didn't feel good afterward. Now I think about who I really want to be close to, open up and be vulnerable with, it's really few people.
The three things I really desire are to be loved, to build true intimacy and connection with people I want to be friends with, to have inner confidence and a sense of self-worth.
first, thank you for being so vulnerable and real. my three things I truly desire are safety, intimacy, and confidence from within. three things I can do to remind myself of my worth are taking care of my body by eating healthy foods and exercising, spending time with people I love, and sharing my art. I really appreciated the way you described attention seeking behaviors and what they can look like because the whole time you were talking I was like nope that’s not me I don’t do that and then you started giving examples of your behavior with the person from your past and I was like oooooo ok yep I do that lol. thank you for your words and your wisdom 🩷
Friends aren't given to everyone, or allowed to everyone. Some people are born to be rejected. I'm one of those people I've learned.
Ma'am,
You have a blessed life,
Take care. Good bye
Same here blessed 😇
My 3 things are satisfaction, love, and connection.
I love you so much Abi , God uses you to help me go through things I’m enduring rn. May He keeps blessing you
thank you love, love you too
Thank you Abi for this exercise. I loved it. Those 3 things are: intimacy, connection and laughter.
You are the first person in a good while who I truly felt your encouraging words and analogies came from a reverence of God and not "the universe." I love your analogy of the roots needing to be there, causing the fruit to grow, not just the fruit itself. For that, I'm subbed. You remind me of one of my cousins too! Thank you 😊
Thank you so much, love that you’re here 🙏🏽💛
What do you have against the universe though? Why are you against that belief?
God is the universe and the universe is God that’s how many of us see it ❤
Amen! I’ve been vulnerable with people who’ve used my weaknesses against me.. It’s important to learn about others FIRST before sharing your personal struggles with life. Regardless if that person themselves is willing to be vulnerable with you or not. I think the space I’m in right now forces me to not open up with people (I live in a small conservative city in Texas) I think once I graduate from college and move to a better city with values that I believe in (Houston). I think only then will I be more free and happier than I am now..
girl i feel you ,i love your channel.
❤❤❤
Thank youuu
This video couldn’t have come at a better time on my feed
2 minutes into the video and I’m already loving it! You are so talented!!
this was so beautiful..... I felt as though my best friend was there helping mw work through my problems and listening to me. And the style and format of how you speech and teach is so warm and welcoming and sincere. thank you
thank you so much for this video, it’s help me a lot in this time of my life. so precious. thank you again
you have a beautiful voice and soul! thank you!❤
Your voice is very soothing
Thank you for this video and demonstrating such a pure form of vulnerability Abi. May God continue to bless, protect and encourage you, in Jesus’ mighty name. Three things I desire in life are: 1. Deeply rooted peace accompanied by joy
2. Deeply rooted gratitude intertwined with grace and understanding
3. Deeply rooted relationships solidified in love, faithfulness, and humility
This whole video felt like a hug. A hug i needed. THANK YOU!🫂❤️
This was on my recommended and I recently had a bf from the past hmu to reconnect and I can tell I am only wanting the attention bc for the past 2 years I have been in isolation and I have been getting calls from people I haven’t heard from in a long time but him in particular is different. I needed to hear this. God sent me this.
❤i will forever clap for others until its my turn 🎉🎉
Abi, you described surprisely what I've been thinking about lately. Thank you for being a tool throught YT. ❤💐
thank youuu
I desire deep & meaningful connection in 2 or 3 friendship
I desire to find the will thatll bring the force to wake up everyday
I desire to feel loved without having to question me in an « am I enough- i’m not enough » kind of way
This touched me wow
I loved this video so much thank you for posting it. I wasn’t expecting to write in my journal but this was great
I needed to hear this
I dont know how I ended here but I was really needing to hear that, thank you
thanks for being here :)
I really enjoyed this video :) thanks for sharing
I resonate with this
Your words are very soothing. Your quality of video is excellent! Can we have the setup please❤
your words are so nourishing and liberating, thank you
I really needed this video , love you❤
Love you too 💛🙏🏽
Damn girl, you really just helped me thank you
So happy to hear this
My home is the only environment I really have.
00:00 🤔 The speaker expresses dissatisfaction with giving attention to things that don't fill or pour into them, emphasizing the transient nature of attention.
00:28 🌱 True fulfillment comes from connection and intimacy developed over time, not just momentary attention.
01:47 📱 Reflects on the desire for attention but realizes it doesn't fulfill the deeper need for connection and intimacy.
03:35 🛡 Engaging in meaningful activities (like Skillshare classes) is more fulfilling than shallow distractions for attention.
05:02 💼 The importance of building relationships with roots instead of settling for attention "fruits."
06:13 🏞 Environment matters; being in a space where one is valued is crucial for recognizing self-worth.
08:38 🔄 Reminding oneself of intrinsic value is crucial, even if others don't recognize it; switching environments may be necessary.
10:05 🤝 Vulnerability and openness lead to real connection; attention alone is like fast food, momentarily satisfying but lacking substance.
11:00 🍔 Reflects on the analogy of settling for attention being like settling for fast food, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness.
13:31 📝 Encourages viewers to explore their true desires, be honest with themselves, and implement practices to remind them of their worth.
I love the way you put everything you said😊
Abi, your words came in the right time I love you and i love the algorithm.
Love this I needed this in my life
this channel is so underatted
Thank you so much Abi❤️,This is really helpful.
I just discovered your channel .. I’m in love .. ur videos are so cozy to watch ❤️
Thank you for this, I needed this so so much
do you have a podcast? I would love that
This was a great video, I love your environment and editing style
Your video warm my heart and make my day, thank you for the kind words❤
Thank you for this video
bless you ABI, again a banger the quality is a banger. you are a banger, you are a blessing that i get to listen.
thank you again!!
❤thank you ABI good stuff!
Thank you ❤️❤️
Thanks your my tribe
Oh my God you're so sweet it really helps me ❤
I appreciate your words, but really,truthfully,
Nobody cares about me but my dog.
Why fool myself in believing a lie that I'm cared about?
Reminds me of Abby from Doctor Sleep
I love it
Jesus Christ is a prophet of God whom we love and honor just as much as we do all the prophets, he is not God
God is one, and has so much mercy and protection that's offered to us every day, and as we follow his path for us and seek his guidance, we become in true alliance with ourselves, our journeys and our fullest potential.
ahh i love the video production ~~~~
thank youu!!
Girl, stop preaching to me!!!!!!
Thank you❤
Beautiful video. Whats the song in the background 😢
Come on scripture!
Do you have an podcast ?
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video bellissimo
It was still inspiring to hear from you until you came to a much beautiful part where you said ‘Jesus loves you’
Watching this in the middle of night and I think It was very timely!
Thank you for this🤍🤍
You said "right" 33 times in this video. I couldn't even concentrate on the content
you counted!?
Are you Ethiopian
Why saying right? Every single 10 seconds it is so distracting 🤦🏻♀️ so validation seeking.
You’re open my mind and my soul thank youuuu brilliant abiii thank you a looot ❣️❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹🥺
This is resonating so much🥹
Thank you so much for this video! It was exactly what i needed to hear, exactly what i needed to remind myself!🫀
I’ll appreciate my attention more from now on🫡