I will say that when my mom was receiving chemo therapy, she and many patients wore the most beautiful wigs, makeup, nails, headscarves, and comfy clothes that they could. Sure they had harder off days and that meant putting less thought into an outfit which was totally valid but this (fashion choice) was something that they could control and focusing on it the surface made them feel better. I hate it when people belittle the fashion industry “they’re not curing cancer” but like I said, they’re helping cancer patients feel more comfortable with themselves. Fashion is survival and yes even a shirt and jeans can be fashion, a hospital gown, clothes equal fashion and it helps people so much
Yeah… so weird bc I was the same way when living with my abusive family. I dressed TO MY NINES almost every day back then… it was the first time in my life I wore heels regularly. It’s almost instinctual; like how an animal will do anything to hide that it’s hurt from a predator… You hide your struggles behind looking really good on the surface. At the very least then you don’t need to worry about getting messed with in public… In fact the smiles given and received from random strangers can be enough to keep you going and continue striving for better on the hard days.
I worry about the mindset of those who belittle these "useless" things. They are so stuck in their little survival, super intelligent and perfect "stem" mindset... They behave like organisms who evolved to be brown, ugly, and destructive or jittery like locusts, roaches, anole lizards. If only they weren't so literal and could accept the more complex aspects of their humanity.
Sometimes feeling uncomfortable in something is the first step towards feeling comfortable - I've definitely found pieces I've bought in the past to be weird or strange the first time I wear them, but over time become part of a uniform or, even better, are actively empowering because they're something which represents you and others wouldn't wear.
I was thinking of this the other day! I love to find interesting pieces/clothing items, that dont necessarily go with my wardrobe at the time. But they're too beautiful to let go. I bought a pair of curved Levi's at a thrift store(similar pairs have been produced in the Uniqlo U line), maybe 11 years ago, and I recently fell in love with them again and wear them regularly. I feel so good when I'm in them! And it's funny that I was eyeing the ones from Uniqlo, forgetting I'd already bought a similar pair maybe 10 years prior !
It’s refreshing to see a fashion CZcamsr discuss more than the garments themselves. How clothes reflect one’s personality and how one can use them as a tool for self-improvement is a super cool subject. Yet another banger from Drew.
I'm working on my social anxiety and confidence and I decided to buy myself some new clothes. I wanted them for years but never allowed myself to buy them. I had enough money to do that but I used to feel guilty after spending money on clothes. Finally, I just did it. I bought clothes and shoes I'm in love with. People compliment my outfits and what's most important I feel badass wearing these clothes. It helps with my anxiety and motivates me to leave the house :) When I wear something which fits strange or makes me uncomfortable in any way I'm more anxious and don't want to go outside.
I am in the same situation. I have always had money (but so afraid to spend, so always lived like a rat) but never managed to bring myself to spend money on clothes. I have once during the pandemic bought quite a lot of second hand clothes online, but almost none of them fit me, in terms of color, shape and texture. I am 30 and have a terrible fashion sense. Reading your comment, I thought that I really should give it a try and not look at the price tags and finally get nice looking clothes. But, although I've been studying Kibbe body types, kirschner essence IDs and the color theory and although I am lucky to have a very nice looking body, I still can't find anything to wear for the life of me. It doesn't help that I have horrible looking tattooes on both my wrists that no amount of laser sessions manage to remove. As a result I always resort to long sleeved plain t shirts...
I work with victims of abuse - here is a tip. Buy a NEW perfume [not expensive, just a cheap one you like] and put it next to the door - every time you go out, put some on. EVERY TIME. It hacks your brain to switch into confident "I know I look good and smell nice" mode
You Tube has some good videos on fashion, find your body type and some out fits. Up Cycle Old Clothes Wal-Mart Clothes Marshall Clothes Thrift Store Clothes
@@sofitocyn100 hi! I’m in the same process, in a way. You can train your eye and learn what you like! My mom was really into clothes and shopping with me. And I got pretty good at picking out things that work well for me. I found that shows like What Not To Wear gave me some ideas. There was not much on CZcams about clothing at the time? Or maybe I just didn’t see it? Now I’m having to learn all over again. I had cancer, and my body is completely different. I’m finally getting some clothes that make me feel good, six years after my treatment! Good luck to you and to me too 😊
I've never thought of clothes as a tool to actively improve my mood, mindset, and ultimately my behaviour. I like to dress nicely and pick out my outfits carefully, mainly to choose items that go well together. BUT never with the intention of using clothes to my advantage regarding self-improvement. I feel like this approach is so powerful! Changed my outlook on clothes
Pandemic and worrking from home really freed me from need to dress up. In 2023 this freedom moved me really close to burnout and depression. This spring and summer are my seasons to experiment with outfits and add some colors to life!
Wearing a suit at an IT job where everyone is wearing T-shirts mainly just makes me realise how much more uncomfortable suits are and how much more I'm sweating. Which is a pity, because I love suits.
@@someguycalledcerberus9805 i love suits and would look for more excuses to wear one but definitely dress down if the opportunity arises. I was only speaking to the idea that clothes do indeed make the man
@@someguycalledcerberus9805 you don’t have to give up on suits if you like wearing them! you could try looking for ones made of different fabrics or are cut for warmer temps, perhaps mix and match different parts of a suit with more comfortable pieces
Weird clothing hack i learned: if i wake up grumpy or if its gloomy out, i find yellow is the instant mood booster and makes things feel so sunny and good. Its hard to be in a bad mood wesring a sunny yellow top. If its winter, bright red on a winter blizzard day is instantly warm and cosy. Summer- cucumber and mint shades against white feel cool and refreshing even if its no different then the same tee shirt judt differnt color you always wear. Haha
personally I think the whole romanticizing your life mindset is a little too self-centered and empty now (like, the main character energy people want to have, not necessarily just liking the tasks we perform) but I cannot disagree that dressing up IS an underrated way to cope and build self-esteem and satisfaction in life, from personal experience. I had an eye surgery go very wrong at the end of quarantine, and had to continue my life from there, as the kid at school with bloody eyes with scars on them and a lazy eye. No one gave me a hard time really, but my god did it mess with how I view myself and my self-esteem. It was already bad, but it had practically become non-existent. It wasn’t until some time passed and in my last year of school, I decided to experiment with the clothes I had thrifted and my up-cycling and yarn abilities to make very unique outfits that felt were unique as my situation. I decided to take clothes as something more than just a practicality, but as a form of self expression, as a way of decorating myself. I’m still learning, but I’m growing to still embrace my uniqueness :D and there were many days I felt good, because dressing up made me feel ready to have a happy, good time :) I really do think mood is responsible for the resurgence of experimental fashion
I think one of the biggest mental health things that I've been dealing with lately is making sure I have time to enjoy life and not stretch myself out too thin.
Great Vid. I usually dress based on how I'm feeling, but here you're saying to dress based on how you WANT to feel. I think that's a nice shift in mentality, in being more proactive than reactive to your emotions. PVV : it's been hard to maintain relationships lately. It's like I've been growing distant with the people that I value, but at the same time I'm feeling more and more confident as ME. Right now my biggest goal to challenge my mental health is to put myself out there, being more bold and assertive about who I am and what I'm working on.
Honestly this is one of the reasons I love uniforms. We have customizable uniforms at my job (a few different T-shirts, a few different optional sweaters, and an optional jacket), and I can pair it with my carpenter pants and steel-toed boots if I want, dress pants and loafers if I want, etc. Really gets me into that "I want to lift stuff and stack stuff efficiently"-mood, or the "I'm gonna give the most professional answers anyone's ever heard"-mood.
First off, that mustard yellow is incredible on you. I have spent a lot of my life using clothing as armor instead of as expression. As a result I feel like it's difficult to tap into my intuition about how clothing makes me feel. I like this concept of clothing romanticizing life, and the way you presented it made it easier to understand.
I’m glad that mental health awareness is being shown more so that lots of people who are suffering are being heard. Great vid again drew, really chill and calming. Pvv :) ❤️
social anxiety is something i struggle with, but its getting better. my/ other peoples outfits tend to be a good ice breaker and talking about them make me less nervous. #pvv . Drew this is an amazing video, keep shining❤️✨✨
I thought the same way but I started going to a new gym recently and have met a bunch of new people whom I've already become good friends with (working out has been a hobby of mine for the past few years). I would recommend you try to go out there and find other people who enjoy the same hobbies/interests as you.
An interesting topic and in my opinion its almost an insane Viewpoint. Clothes arent an intrinsic value, they are external affirmation. I think why dressing a certain way can affect us alot, stems from the expectation how other people will percieve us, and thus becomes an extrinsic value. Its pretty much the same as getting a lot of attention online, it might feel good yes, but people are neither fullfilled nor happy with it. Societys mental health is progressively declining and i think a huge factor in it is the shift to a more capitalistic and narcissitic society. This video captures that perfectly, we have a person who propagates buying materalistic stuff so your soul can feel better by enhancing your egotistical view of oneself. I think, if you have the need to convince people of yourself by visual cues, maybe you arent really authentically that, what you wish to be and that might be a way better path of a solution.
So do you believe art has no intrinsic value? Self expression? Everything we see is always for the attention from others? Is attention bad? If so, why? Are humans asocial or social? Good mental health is in part to the healthy attention we get from our parents as newborns. Could this not be indication into how we function as adults as well? I think you see attention in absolutes. Liking and receiving attention is good as long as you're giving attention as well. I think egotistical behavior is expecting everything to be about and revolve around you--emphasis on "everything".
I already have this mindset of be well dressed and i know how I’m dressed impact my mood, but this video made me have a different approach of it, I’ve started to rebuild my wardroab to have more confidence in it, thanks this vid was beautiful congrats man 🫶👊
it's so different for everyone. When I was young I was insecure and always wanted to 'impress/please people' and 'look good' and 'be special', so I wore stylish clothes, kind of outside the ordinary clothes and do get comments/compliments. And I got myself wrapped up in an ego identity that wears stylish clothes. But now that I'm older (in my 30s), I know myself, I've developed a backbone, had awakening experiences/realizations, been through life, etc. I'm no longer into 'pleasing and impressing and standing out'. Clothes aren't as important for me. I can wear whatever and still just be myself. Clothes doesn't define your beingness. It was when I was so dang insecure that I was so into fashion and clothes XD
Absolutely affects my mood and how I feel. The style, color, fit, and how it looks on me. One of my mental/emotional health struggles is finding friends I actually like lol where we are like-minded, and the vibe is good. I'm turning 41 this August. I've realised it's much harder as you get older because you don't vibe with just anyone. Also, having a partner as well. ( I'm single) been like this for a while and am just becoming accustomed to it. I want to be around people. I FEEL good being around and uplifted. It's gotten to a point where I'm just starting to not care, and I don't know if that's a bad thing. Because for the most part I feel I would rather be to myself.
I get the intentions behind romanticizing your life but I believe that true beneficiary of a romanticized life are the brands selling you an experience. Hear me out , whatever level of comfort or confidence you feel in your clothes is a reflection of how you feel about your body.The evidence of this is that everything that influences what you buy is determined by characteristics of your body. For example despite what color , texture , price a product is you are limited by the sizes based on your body type. This means that any clothing you buy is only temporary because of the changes is your body. Which also means that the clothes you wear are temporary (they don't last despite quality ) based on how time changes your body. The temporal experiences of clothes means that their benefits will also be temporary. So though romanticizing your life will give you benefits , these benefits will be temporary. Which will result in a dependency on clothes to create positive feelings for yourself. Now clothing brands will benefit the most because they can't actually sell you something like "confidence" or "cool" they can only sell you something that only is a symbol of these things. And because there only selling you the symbolic feeling of what you want it cost them less than what your will undoubtedly be spending to get what they can't physically sell you. I don't want to rant (even though I already have...) but if your going to romanticize a part of your clothing experience , set boundaries so that you won't be drawn in to over consume.
it's a personal problem if you don't know how to balance these sliders to achieve meaningful effects, stop seeing it in solid points "this or that" mindset, hm? Each piece is part of a puzzle set. And yes, they can sell you those feelings - you don't feel how notions are conveyed in the material and its very design? Perhaps something very literal like music could express that notion to you. Always arguing against isolated bits and pieces in accordance to some unchecked premise, how about changing your perspective and stop reacting? Collect each of these facts of life and put it together as a comprehensive picture, a skill movie making expresses clearly for example.
I could never put my finger on why I struggle with the concept of romanticization but the answer was just too obvious. It's fully linked with consuming and therefore chasing (hello dopamine trap) moments of joy. That is better than nothing but way worse than actually doing the work to regulate yourself and seeking out balance.
You make a lot of really good points. It's so true that fashion does affect how we feels about ourselves. This is one reason I find it hard working full time in a place that requires a uniform.
i’ve also been struggling with that mid 20s friends funk. i believe it’ll get better but it can still be really hard! i’m regards to the psychology of clothing..i used to always feel almost selfish for feeling uncomfortable in my clothes, almost like i wasn’t grateful for having them or just too picky for my own good. but lately i’ve been trying to rewrite my relationship with clothing and truly embrace my need to feel empowered by my wardrobe ~
I feel the same. The older I get the harder it is to make friends and keep connections alive. It's been specially hard after I graduated from college during the pandemic
Girl, your life hasn't started yet. And you can still easily make friends if you're active, ask people for coffee, organize dinners etc. It gets harder when you and your possible connections become busy with babies and careers. And even then you can make friends with younger or older people who are in different situations. I know, because I'm almost 40 and make multiple friends every year - and obviously nurture the old ones.
@Noname I seriously don't understand the problem. Friendships are things that multiply when you start to create social connections. You can ask your colleague, a person from a pottery class, a neighbor, someone, you met at an event, or someone you met through your friend. If you're too anxious to ask, it's really your own problem that you can try to work out instead of putting a label on your forehead saying "i'm anxious", "i'm an introvert." I know plenty of introverted people who are confident. The worst thing that can happen when asking the person to go for a coffee or to an event is, that they say no. What kind of difference that makes to your life? Before askin', you didn't have a coffee date and after that, you don't have a coffee date? You can only win or keep the status quo. Although this has nothing to do with the situation, I'm an ambivert based on the psychological test companies I've worked for has made.
@Noname I've moved to different countries without money to go to a pottery class, without knowing anyone in the whole country. Yes, it took a year to have some-what friends to go for a coffee with. But the problem you're describing is not that it's hard to make friends as an adult. But that life is difficult when you're insecure and expect other people to do all the work (e.g., coming to talk to you). And yeah, no one is making friends by walking to a stranger and making them their friend. That didn't work in high school, it doesn't work as an adult. It usually starts with you being in a similar situation where you can interact naturally. This one can do in free events as well, not only in pottery. But making friends is difficult when you see only threats and not possibilities.
#pvv hi drew! it's funny you mentioned mental health struggles and more specifically loneliness, because i just watched one of your instagram posts, the one you did a while ago about the difference between being alone vs being lonely and it's exactly the mood i've been going through right now. aging is a life-experience full of ups and downs, and this mid 20's phase is definitely one of them : your circle is crowded until it's not and the crazy part it's that happens in a blink of an eye. thank you for sharing your current state of mind, that was refreshing, and just keep doing what you're good at!
A small note - a control group is usually the group that doesn’t take part in the intervention. They might take a placebo or continue as usual while the other group undergoes the intervention.
I work from home and I don't get dressed up as much as I used to, today I had the chance to turn a look and walk around my neighborhood and city and felt like the main character. I looked and felt great. That's what life is about.
Amazing video 👏🏼 the white lab coat test is bonkers and fascinating. This made me think of how all Margiela employees wear white lab coats. I was in their SF store recently and yup, the white lab coats on the employees were present, and it made an impression on me. Clothes are vessels for moods, behaviors, connections/disconnections, vibes, experiences.
Finding friendships in person is hard for almost everyone imo. I stay in touch with friends online, but finding local friends is an ongoing project. There’s a comedian who has a book called My Friends Live in My Phone, and that rings true for me.
Such a terrific message and a GREAT video. Ps. You said á bientôt at the end the French are MASTERS of understanding this. And it’s not about “high fashion” it’s just about taking care of one appearance as a non-verbal communication to the world. It’s delightful. Example Once in Paris I saw this older gentleman waiting for the metro. He was wearing a simple outfit of a plain shirt and pants. But the pants had a thin mint green stripe down the side. This matched the mint green small shopping bag that he had brought with him for the trip. Just seeing him delighted me so much because I could instantly recognize the care that he had taken in getting ready that day because he would be out in the world being seen. Some say what we wear isn’t important. But the image of that moment seeing him there on the platform has stuck with me to this day. 🥰
Friendships are not highly valued in our cultures and society. It's understood that someone will disappear with their next boo and more or less drop you. This is so backwards and it's not like this in all countries - many places in the world have names for and socially acknowledged status of long time friendships. I think we all must do the extra work to prioritize communication to keep from casual ghosting, and understand that in these cultures we have to fight for these precious things called friendships. Also, if our friendships are just not compatible anymore, making the effort to find and develop new ones is a pain in the arse, but I think we just have to buckle down and dedicate ourselves to it for a while until it runs itself. Friendships are so so important, life is hollow without them, and we have to treat them like a goal. For me, I've learned that I need my friends to be friends so we can hang out in a group regularly, as I do not have the energy to maintain friendships as one on ones.
#pvv ! Love your videos Drew. I feel the same way about friends and being lonely sometimes. I'm still young so it's hard to find friends who are mature, but still like to have fun. I had some really good friends last year but it fell apart, and left me missing those honest people who hear you out. Fashion has been a great outlet for my interests and I pray for the day I find a group of people who share the same interests again. Until then we hang on!
as a girl i've always noticed how masculine vs feminine outfits make you carry yourself differently. maybe that's partly responsible for me having a different personality now, compared to when i dressed more masculine, or maybe it was a symptom of my personality change??
Great video! I think the other thing to highlight that you touched on, is this mindset changes the relationship you have with your clothes in many different ways. When you have a more meaningful connection to what you’re wearing, you care for your things better, you become more intentional about how you buy, and mindful of when and what you buy. I just finished reading a book called, “A Worn: A People’s History of Clothing, and I love how it talks about how we’ve lost that connection to what we wear. We’ve forgotten about the work and the thousands of people behind the scenes making the things that are intimately on our bodies.
I don't care where I am or what I'm doing, but if I see someone in the wild wearing selvedge denim - it's a guaranteed smile wave and maybe even a fist bump with some short conversation. Secondly, when people notice that you're dressing intentionally and are put together they're more apt to act nice to you to smile and whatnot. This triggers the almighty dopamine response and automatically brightens our day, pass it on everyone! Another absolute banger Drew! I've been following your channel for a while now and really like how you delve into the psychology and philosophy of fashion instead of just focusing on the fits as such :)
End of video question: I am 17 (Jan) and my dad passed away in sept. That is the biggest struggle this year of course and probably my life. I got a therapist which is amazing and help me discover many things I didn't even know about myself. Happy Sunday yall
So sorry to hear about your dad passing, I am glad you have found a way to turn it into amount of self discovery. Hope you are having a great week. - Drew
I actually often have this contrast of loving to wear fun clothes but also anxiously wondering whether I stand out too much! Specifically, lately I've had this weird fear that I could somehow be walking around with a big noticeable stain or something if I'm just out doing stuff by myself... it doesn't really make sense (although I live in big city); but my anxiety also doesn't make sense, so yes, mental health doing the most haha. (also, as a woman, I kind of feel insecure wearing too feminine clothes if I'm not very confident that specific day. I wonder if men feel this way about clothes that could be considered feminine too!) I totally had this period of feeling lonely and wondering what friends would stay for years too, through covid as well, but I feel like it just took some adjusting to how your life changes when you get older. Now, I really love my handful of friends and I think a lot of people have the same type of small circle, especially as an introvert. Some people also just are less emotional and find it easier to let people go, it's not necessarily personal.
*I WEAR MENS HISTORICAL* clothing [1890 - 1930] every day - I hope I bring a little joy to people's lives, seeing someone dressed differently. I tailor all my own clothes so there is a LOT of "me" in everything I wear.
I think this is such an important video! Clothes really do make that difference. I’m def suffering from post grad depression, but tryna keep entertained and in touch with my friends helping. Pvv
Really liked this video! In my family/close social circles, fashion is usually regarded as something shallow and consumerist. Some of the most important factors of acquiring new clothes are usually the price and quality, with the expectance to be able to wear a given piece for as long as possible. Although I still consider these factors important, clearly there's much, much more to it! The sense of identity and its consequences, feeling good with what you're wearing, etc. Thanks for this! :)
I used to pay so much attention onto clothing style in exchange for respect from others. But in reality it's just a reflection of my own insecurities. as a matter of fact, people do not care that much about you and their opinions don't really matter. try to be at peace with the self is real courage.
I love your take on this. I got into clothes to get with the trends but now I feel as if I've created myself an identity where I can express myself. All the the different materials, colours and how it can be styles in so many ways.. It just fascinates me Just wanted to ask: I heard that you shouldn't be so materialistic in life, would clothes also be a factor? what's your thoughts on that?
Being into fashion doesn't really make you materialistic. However, if you are always looking to get the most expensive pieces just to show off rather than express your own style and personality into your drip then that would make you materialistic. We wouldn't call someone who is into thrifting or more of a vintage look a materialist. Just my two cents.
I find that this mindset is very helpful to cope with the things you CANNOT have. However, feeling better through the clothes you own seems alright since you already have them, and IIRC they used the SAME jackets in the study on enclothed cognition and just named them lab coat/painter jacket. That means what really matters is the way you feel about what you already have, much more so than buying new clothes only for the short-lived novelty that makes you feel better in them.
Answering the mental health question: my latest hurdle is psychosis. Mine is mild and medicated but it’s still scary and lonely. Society stigmatizes and simultaneously doesn’t yet understand this mind state. It’s not entirely negative, but it is often treated as such in western medicine. I have come down from my most destructive “manic state” which included not sleeping well or often, and voraciously creating content for my social media accounts. I was aware not to share anything too opinionated or too personal- but I produced a large volume of content, usually rivaled by larger content creators. Some of my delusions included believing I was psychically attuned to “spirit guides” and receiving messages via synchronicities and tarot cards. Arguably, these delusions were pretty tame. But they still impacted my self esteem. Despite no longer feeling manic, I cannot tell where my delusions begin and my hobbies stop. Reading between the lines seems dangerous at this time, and I’m doing all I can to stay sane. Thanks for giving me a place to answer this question honestly. I enjoyed your video!
Clothing absolutely affects my mood. It's one of the reasons why work puts me in such a low mood, dress codes seem to eliminate a lot of the clothing I feel more comfortable in that I currently own. I think it's time for me to go shopping, haha
My issue with this is that you will not get inner confidence by just getting it from clothes that you associate with confidence. In that case you just get externally given confidence. So it's a type of medicine to wear clothes that make you feel confident but it will never be a permanent *cure* .
As a dancer for the longest time I did not pay that much attention to my clothing. Sure I tried to match but without much intent. As of late I have noticed what a difference it makes when you put thought into your clothing. I feel much more confident when dancing in clothes that I feel comfortable with. It took way too long to learn that because I be putting thought into my clothes when I go outside with friends. Thanks for the Video!
What mental health struggles have I had recently? Anxiety - I get bullied a lot and I get used/taken advantage a lot. I’m an older student (changing my career) and I’m a foreigner in this country.
I struggle with feeling competent enough when comes to learning new things in work environments. I know in my heart I can do it but my mind struggles with at stuff quite often. That's something I'm working on.
#pvv i thought exactly of the same thing you mentioned in the pvv, the difficulty of making friends and maintaining friendships as a young adult! definitely something i’ve been struggling with since graduating university
#pvv i've seen a short video of a guy talking about how to decline the stress of the past and the future and how to truely be active in the now. it really changed my mind and so i really thought for a long time what factors can influence the stress we are going through and how we become more chill. seeing this video, it really is important to have an own style you like and to wear clothes in which you truely live in the now. thank you for opening my eyes again!!
I was only talking to my friends yesterday about how we don't do as many things as before covid. play golf, snooker, go for walks, explore places, swim, hike etc. the past few months I started going to a chess club that has a decent sized, regular crowd at a bar in Dublin and it's great to just practise a hobby and meet new people. I want to start doing it for all my other passions too. I wonder can a fashion/clothing meet-up be done lol
It is an underrated cheat code, but I mostly like wearing comfy and casual, then super fancy clothes, in which I may look good, but that's just not me.
It's annoying when i don't find exactly what I'm looking for because I have a vivid image of what i want the fabric and piece to look and feel like on me and with other pieces of clothing but yess clothes do make me feel a vibe of mine own and something that i can feel confident in to show my inner expression as well... I agree with you about making new friends and maintaining them in our twenties! But for me I try to make sure I'm deeply connecting with at least one friend if possible whether I physically meet them or text message them these days..❤ love your videos, keep them flowing 💗
When my clothing fit is in alignment with my inner universe i feel more connected to myself, flow state, feel more confident. And after all i don't like to look like most people on street's. I like to use my creativity, make nice and not popular fits.
I've been struggling with anxiety recently. My job cut my hours and im not sure how im going to afford the basics. finding a job has been unsuccessful so far but gotta keep the faith. #pvv
Excellent approach to this topic so close to my own heart and passion! I'm a counselor and wrote my thesis with similar considerations included. I sent it to you because I think you will especially enjoy some of the references included.
I'm dealing with social anxiety or something similar to that right now. My cheeks are red and I don't know how to get rid of that. I know that I look cute and I love myself but I don't feel confident. I don't like my school environment. I'm so confident outside of school but just thinking about meeting people who I met before makes me feel uncomfortable. That's why school isn't my favorite place. I also only have one friend and I don't want to be self conscious but I have so many things that I find out everyday about myself that I want to change. I know that noticing the bad things about yourself is good but if you notice too much bad it's as if you're a bad person and the good person, you thought you were, was just an illusion. I know I'm a good friend but why don't I have 2 friends then? I tried to be friends with someone and now they ignore me. It's ok to say goodbye (because of the "good" in goodbye) but it's still depressing me a little bit. They were the ones who wanted to be friends with me. Why are they turning away now? I honestly don't really care about that anymore. My bigger worry is that people will not help me. Why? When I was 11yo I was completely like... death. I don't wanna trigger someone! Then I asked for help and no one helped me. Just thinking about it makes me cry. I made so many signs and asked for help but everyone ignored my signs. Honestly do you guys expect me to not have trust issues after what happened? I'm so proud of myself for being alive but then nobody besides 3 people talks to me. I'm sad and happy xD. But everything happened so that I can talk about it when I'm a millionaire in the future! ^v^❤️
#PVV Lately I've been having trouble with anxiety. I sometimes look at the future and get filled with so much dread its overwhelming. To counteract it I've taken to raising my activity level with exercise and meditation. Thanks for letting me vent.
#pvv my biggest mental health struggle has been finishing school, but thankfully this Saturday I'll finally be done. I do actually use these strategies when exams come around. I try to dress my best (not formal, but a combination of a good fit that's also comfortable) so I feel confident to take the exam. I always think of that scene in Justice League where Lex confronts Darkseid and he says he had to change into his power suit -- literally just a very nice three-piece black suit. Dude had the fate of the galaxy on the line and he took the time to get changed into a dope fit.
Great vid bro! Connecting with and meeting with new people is hard man. Keep your head up though, your positive energy will attract good people to you in time. Stay up brotha ✊🏾
When the clothes fit nicely, I do feel more happy during the day.
me too 🙂
One of the 12 laws of the universe for sure for sure lmao
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@@DrewJoiner bro u aren't special
@@thecooler170 life Must be Hard coOleR
I will say that when my mom was receiving chemo therapy, she and many patients wore the most beautiful wigs, makeup, nails, headscarves, and comfy clothes that they could. Sure they had harder off days and that meant putting less thought into an outfit which was totally valid but this (fashion choice) was something that they could control and focusing on it the surface made them feel better. I hate it when people belittle the fashion industry “they’re not curing cancer” but like I said, they’re helping cancer patients feel more comfortable with themselves. Fashion is survival and yes even a shirt and jeans can be fashion, a hospital gown, clothes equal fashion and it helps people so much
Yeah… so weird bc I was the same way when living with my abusive family. I dressed TO MY NINES almost every day back then… it was the first time in my life I wore heels regularly.
It’s almost instinctual; like how an animal will do anything to hide that it’s hurt from a predator… You hide your struggles behind looking really good on the surface.
At the very least then you don’t need to worry about getting messed with in public… In fact the smiles given and received from random strangers can be enough to keep you going and continue striving for better on the hard days.
I worry about the mindset of those who belittle these "useless" things. They are so stuck in their little survival, super intelligent and perfect "stem" mindset... They behave like organisms who evolved to be brown, ugly, and destructive or jittery like locusts, roaches, anole lizards. If only they weren't so literal and could accept the more complex aspects of their humanity.
Sometimes feeling uncomfortable in something is the first step towards feeling comfortable - I've definitely found pieces I've bought in the past to be weird or strange the first time I wear them, but over time become part of a uniform or, even better, are actively empowering because they're something which represents you and others wouldn't wear.
Two of my favorites on the YT right here! If you see this please scroll up to my comment on this page as it applies to your channel as well!
I was thinking of this the other day! I love to find interesting pieces/clothing items, that dont necessarily go with my wardrobe at the time. But they're too beautiful to let go.
I bought a pair of curved Levi's at a thrift store(similar pairs have been produced in the Uniqlo U line), maybe 11 years ago, and I recently fell in love with them again and wear them regularly. I feel so good when I'm in them! And it's funny that I was eyeing the ones from Uniqlo, forgetting I'd already bought a similar pair maybe 10 years prior !
Well said my friend! Well said
It’s refreshing to see a fashion CZcamsr discuss more than the garments themselves. How clothes reflect one’s personality and how one can use them as a tool for self-improvement is a super cool subject. Yet another banger from Drew.
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I'm working on my social anxiety and confidence and I decided to buy myself some new clothes. I wanted them for years but never allowed myself to buy them. I had enough money to do that but I used to feel guilty after spending money on clothes. Finally, I just did it. I bought clothes and shoes I'm in love with. People compliment my outfits and what's most important I feel badass wearing these clothes. It helps with my anxiety and motivates me to leave the house :) When I wear something which fits strange or makes me uncomfortable in any way I'm more anxious and don't want to go outside.
I am in the same situation. I have always had money (but so afraid to spend, so always lived like a rat) but never managed to bring myself to spend money on clothes. I have once during the pandemic bought quite a lot of second hand clothes online, but almost none of them fit me, in terms of color, shape and texture. I am 30 and have a terrible fashion sense. Reading your comment, I thought that I really should give it a try and not look at the price tags and finally get nice looking clothes. But, although I've been studying Kibbe body types, kirschner essence IDs and the color theory and although I am lucky to have a very nice looking body, I still can't find anything to wear for the life of me. It doesn't help that I have horrible looking tattooes on both my wrists that no amount of laser sessions manage to remove. As a result I always resort to long sleeved plain t shirts...
I work with victims of abuse - here is a tip. Buy a NEW perfume [not expensive, just a cheap one you like] and put it next to the door - every time you go out, put some on. EVERY TIME.
It hacks your brain to switch into confident "I know I look good and smell nice" mode
You Tube has some good videos
on fashion, find your body type and
some out fits.
Up Cycle Old Clothes
Wal-Mart Clothes
Marshall Clothes
Thrift Store Clothes
I had a similar shift a few years back i didnt think I’d come across many people i could relate with on that part of how i am
@@sofitocyn100 hi! I’m in the same process, in a way. You can train your eye and learn what you like! My mom was really into clothes and shopping with me. And I got pretty good at picking out things that work well for me. I found that shows like What Not To Wear gave me some ideas. There was not much on CZcams about clothing at the time? Or maybe I just didn’t see it? Now I’m having to learn all over again. I had cancer, and my body is completely different. I’m finally getting some clothes that make me feel good, six years after my treatment! Good luck to you and to me too 😊
I've never thought of clothes as a tool to actively improve my mood, mindset, and ultimately my behaviour. I like to dress nicely and pick out my outfits carefully, mainly to choose items that go well together. BUT never with the intention of using clothes to my advantage regarding self-improvement. I feel like this approach is so powerful! Changed my outlook on clothes
Pro tip:
Just work out and you'll look good in any clothes 😜
That's why Brad Pitt can wear a skirt and still look macho
Pandemic and worrking from home really freed me from need to dress up. In 2023 this freedom moved me really close to burnout and depression. This spring and summer are my seasons to experiment with outfits and add some colors to life!
wearing a suit at an office job or a uniform at a public facing position absolutely changes your mentality and approach to the work youre set to do
Wearing a suit at an IT job where everyone is wearing T-shirts mainly just makes me realise how much more uncomfortable suits are and how much more I'm sweating. Which is a pity, because I love suits.
@@someguycalledcerberus9805 i love suits and would look for more excuses to wear one but definitely dress down if the opportunity arises. I was only speaking to the idea that clothes do indeed make the man
@@someguycalledcerberus9805 Is your suit typically unlined? And what sort of fabric do you wear?
@@someguycalledcerberus9805 you don’t have to give up on suits if you like wearing them! you could try looking for ones made of different fabrics or are cut for warmer temps, perhaps mix and match different parts of a suit with more comfortable pieces
Weird clothing hack i learned: if i wake up grumpy or if its gloomy out, i find yellow is the instant mood booster and makes things feel so sunny and good. Its hard to be in a bad mood wesring a sunny yellow top.
If its winter, bright red on a winter blizzard day is instantly warm and cosy.
Summer- cucumber and mint shades against white feel cool and refreshing even if its no different then the same tee shirt judt differnt color you always wear. Haha
personally I think the whole romanticizing your life mindset is a little too self-centered and empty now (like, the main character energy people want to have, not necessarily just liking the tasks we perform) but I cannot disagree that dressing up IS an underrated way to cope and build self-esteem and satisfaction in life, from personal experience. I had an eye surgery go very wrong at the end of quarantine, and had to continue my life from there, as the kid at school with bloody eyes with scars on them and a lazy eye. No one gave me a hard time really, but my god did it mess with how I view myself and my self-esteem. It was already bad, but it had practically become non-existent. It wasn’t until some time passed and in my last year of school, I decided to experiment with the clothes I had thrifted and my up-cycling and yarn abilities to make very unique outfits that felt were unique as my situation. I decided to take clothes as something more than just a practicality, but as a form of self expression, as a way of decorating myself. I’m still learning, but I’m growing to still embrace my uniqueness :D and there were many days I felt good, because dressing up made me feel ready to have a happy, good time :) I really do think mood is responsible for the resurgence of experimental fashion
I love the idea of romanticizing your life. Its the antidote to modern times.
what a good way to put it !
I think one of the biggest mental health things that I've been dealing with lately is making sure I have time to enjoy life and not stretch myself out too thin.
Great Vid. I usually dress based on how I'm feeling, but here you're saying to dress based on how you WANT to feel. I think that's a nice shift in mentality, in being more proactive than reactive to your emotions.
PVV : it's been hard to maintain relationships lately. It's like I've been growing distant with the people that I value, but at the same time I'm feeling more and more confident as ME. Right now my biggest goal to challenge my mental health is to put myself out there, being more bold and assertive about who I am and what I'm working on.
Honestly this is one of the reasons I love uniforms. We have customizable uniforms at my job (a few different T-shirts, a few different optional sweaters, and an optional jacket), and I can pair it with my carpenter pants and steel-toed boots if I want, dress pants and loafers if I want, etc. Really gets me into that "I want to lift stuff and stack stuff efficiently"-mood, or the "I'm gonna give the most professional answers anyone's ever heard"-mood.
They're not lying when they say when you look good you feel good and that's a fact!
First off, that mustard yellow is incredible on you.
I have spent a lot of my life using clothing as armor instead of as expression. As a result I feel like it's difficult to tap into my intuition about how clothing makes me feel. I like this concept of clothing romanticizing life, and the way you presented it made it easier to understand.
I’m glad that mental health awareness is being shown more so that lots of people who are suffering are being heard. Great vid again drew, really chill and calming. Pvv :) ❤️
You Tube has nice videos on
fashion, age and body type.
There are also Make up tutorials.
social anxiety is something i struggle with, but its getting better. my/ other peoples outfits tend to be a good ice breaker and talking about them make me less nervous. #pvv . Drew this is an amazing video, keep shining❤️✨✨
❤️ you too
Man I relate so much to getting older and finding it more difficult to make new friends
I thought the same way but I started going to a new gym recently and have met a bunch of new people whom I've already become good friends with (working out has been a hobby of mine for the past few years). I would recommend you try to go out there and find other people who enjoy the same hobbies/interests as you.
more distant and flaky but because more are dangerous with more complex intentions... shame a lot of us are such bastards.
An interesting topic and in my opinion its almost an insane Viewpoint.
Clothes arent an intrinsic value, they are external affirmation. I think why dressing a certain way can affect us alot, stems from the expectation how other people will percieve us, and thus becomes an extrinsic value. Its pretty much the same as getting a lot of attention online, it might feel good yes, but people are neither fullfilled nor happy with it. Societys mental health is progressively declining and i think a huge factor in it is the shift to a more capitalistic and narcissitic society.
This video captures that perfectly, we have a person who propagates buying materalistic stuff so your soul can feel better by enhancing your egotistical view of oneself.
I think, if you have the need to convince people of yourself by visual cues, maybe you arent really authentically that, what you wish to be and that might be a way better path of a solution.
So do you believe art has no intrinsic value? Self expression? Everything we see is always for the attention from others? Is attention bad? If so, why? Are humans asocial or social? Good mental health is in part to the healthy attention we get from our parents as newborns. Could this not be indication into how we function as adults as well? I think you see attention in absolutes. Liking and receiving attention is good as long as you're giving attention as well. I think egotistical behavior is expecting everything to be about and revolve around you--emphasis on "everything".
I already have this mindset of be well dressed and i know how I’m dressed impact my mood, but this video made me have a different approach of it, I’ve started to rebuild my wardroab to have more confidence in it, thanks this vid was beautiful congrats man 🫶👊
it's so different for everyone. When I was young I was insecure and always wanted to 'impress/please people' and 'look good' and 'be special', so I wore stylish clothes, kind of outside the ordinary clothes and do get comments/compliments. And I got myself wrapped up in an ego identity that wears stylish clothes. But now that I'm older (in my 30s), I know myself, I've developed a backbone, had awakening experiences/realizations, been through life, etc. I'm no longer into 'pleasing and impressing and standing out'. Clothes aren't as important for me. I can wear whatever and still just be myself. Clothes doesn't define your beingness. It was when I was so dang insecure that I was so into fashion and clothes XD
Absolutely affects my mood and how I feel. The style, color, fit, and how it looks on me. One of my mental/emotional health struggles is finding friends I actually like lol where we are like-minded, and the vibe is good. I'm turning 41 this August. I've realised it's much harder as you get older because you don't vibe with just anyone. Also, having a partner as well. ( I'm single) been like this for a while and am just becoming accustomed to it. I want to be around people. I FEEL good being around and uplifted. It's gotten to a point where I'm just starting to not care, and I don't know if that's a bad thing. Because for the most part I feel I would rather be to myself.
I get the intentions behind romanticizing your life but I believe that true beneficiary of a romanticized life are the brands selling you an experience. Hear me out , whatever level of comfort or confidence you feel in your clothes is a reflection of how you feel about your body.The evidence of this is that everything that influences what you buy is determined by characteristics of your body. For example despite what color , texture , price a product is you are limited by the sizes based on your body type. This means that any clothing you buy is only temporary because of the changes is your body. Which also means that the clothes you wear are temporary (they don't last despite quality ) based on how time changes your body. The temporal experiences of clothes means that their benefits will also be temporary. So though romanticizing your life will give you benefits , these benefits will be temporary. Which will result in a dependency on clothes to create positive feelings for yourself. Now clothing brands will benefit the most because they can't actually sell you something like "confidence" or "cool" they can only sell you something that only is a symbol of these things. And because there only selling you the symbolic feeling of what you want it cost them less than what your will undoubtedly be spending to get what they can't physically sell you. I don't want to rant (even though I already have...) but if your going to romanticize a part of your clothing experience , set boundaries so that you won't be drawn in to over consume.
Great point! It's become a lot easier and common now with trends changing so quick
Everything is temporary- even us. Nothing is permanent. Eg….A CHANGE of clothing.
it's a personal problem if you don't know how to balance these sliders to achieve meaningful effects, stop seeing it in solid points "this or that" mindset, hm? Each piece is part of a puzzle set. And yes, they can sell you those feelings - you don't feel how notions are conveyed in the material and its very design? Perhaps something very literal like music could express that notion to you.
Always arguing against isolated bits and pieces in accordance to some unchecked premise, how about changing your perspective and stop reacting? Collect each of these facts of life and put it together as a comprehensive picture, a skill movie making expresses clearly for example.
@@cassandraknight8804 Maybe sustainable in a better word. Your mental health regimen should be sustainable while temporary highs can never offer that.
I could never put my finger on why I struggle with the concept of romanticization but the answer was just too obvious. It's fully linked with consuming and therefore chasing (hello dopamine trap) moments of joy. That is better than nothing but way worse than actually doing the work to regulate yourself and seeking out balance.
You make a lot of really good points. It's so true that fashion does affect how we feels about ourselves. This is one reason I find it hard working full time in a place that requires a uniform.
i’ve also been struggling with that mid 20s friends funk. i believe it’ll get better but it can still be really hard!
i’m regards to the psychology of clothing..i used to always feel almost selfish for feeling uncomfortable in my clothes, almost like i wasn’t grateful for having them or just too picky for my own good. but lately i’ve been trying to rewrite my relationship with clothing and truly embrace my need to feel empowered by my wardrobe ~
I feel the same. The older I get the harder it is to make friends and keep connections alive. It's been specially hard after I graduated from college during the pandemic
Girl, your life hasn't started yet. And you can still easily make friends if you're active, ask people for coffee, organize dinners etc. It gets harder when you and your possible connections become busy with babies and careers. And even then you can make friends with younger or older people who are in different situations. I know, because I'm almost 40 and make multiple friends every year - and obviously nurture the old ones.
@Noname I seriously don't understand the problem. Friendships are things that multiply when you start to create social connections. You can ask your colleague, a person from a pottery class, a neighbor, someone, you met at an event, or someone you met through your friend. If you're too anxious to ask, it's really your own problem that you can try to work out instead of putting a label on your forehead saying "i'm anxious", "i'm an introvert." I know plenty of introverted people who are confident. The worst thing that can happen when asking the person to go for a coffee or to an event is, that they say no. What kind of difference that makes to your life? Before askin', you didn't have a coffee date and after that, you don't have a coffee date? You can only win or keep the status quo.
Although this has nothing to do with the situation, I'm an ambivert based on the psychological test companies I've worked for has made.
@Noname I've moved to different countries without money to go to a pottery class, without knowing anyone in the whole country. Yes, it took a year to have some-what friends to go for a coffee with. But the problem you're describing is not that it's hard to make friends as an adult. But that life is difficult when you're insecure and expect other people to do all the work (e.g., coming to talk to you). And yeah, no one is making friends by walking to a stranger and making them their friend. That didn't work in high school, it doesn't work as an adult. It usually starts with you being in a similar situation where you can interact naturally. This one can do in free events as well, not only in pottery. But making friends is difficult when you see only threats and not possibilities.
#pvv hi drew! it's funny you mentioned mental health struggles and more specifically loneliness, because i just watched one of your instagram posts, the one you did a while ago about the difference between being alone vs being lonely and it's exactly the mood i've been going through right now. aging is a life-experience full of ups and downs, and this mid 20's phase is definitely one of them : your circle is crowded until it's not and the crazy part it's that happens in a blink of an eye. thank you for sharing your current state of mind, that was refreshing, and just keep doing what you're good at!
A small note - a control group is usually the group that doesn’t take part in the intervention. They might take a placebo or continue as usual while the other group undergoes the intervention.
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I work from home and I don't get dressed up as much as I used to, today I had the chance to turn a look and walk around my neighborhood and city and felt like the main character. I looked and felt great. That's what life is about.
Amazing video 👏🏼 the white lab coat test is bonkers and fascinating. This made me think of how all Margiela employees wear white lab coats. I was in their SF store recently and yup, the white lab coats on the employees were present, and it made an impression on me. Clothes are vessels for moods, behaviors, connections/disconnections, vibes, experiences.
Yes! Also, not only does a put together affect your mental frame… it also is a gift you give to others and can brighten their day as well.
Finding friendships in person is hard for almost everyone imo. I stay in touch with friends online, but finding local friends is an ongoing project. There’s a comedian who has a book called My Friends Live in My Phone, and that rings true for me.
Such a terrific message and a GREAT video.
Ps. You said á bientôt at the end the French are MASTERS of understanding this. And it’s not about “high fashion” it’s just about taking care of one appearance as a non-verbal communication to the world. It’s delightful.
Example Once in Paris I saw this older gentleman waiting for the metro. He was wearing a simple outfit of a plain shirt and pants. But the pants had a thin mint green stripe down the side. This matched the mint green small shopping bag that he had brought with him for the trip. Just seeing him delighted me so much because I could instantly recognize the care that he had taken in getting ready that day because he would be out in the world being seen.
Some say what we wear isn’t important. But the image of that moment seeing him there on the platform has stuck with me to this day. 🥰
Friendships are not highly valued in our cultures and society. It's understood that someone will disappear with their next boo and more or less drop you. This is so backwards and it's not like this in all countries - many places in the world have names for and socially acknowledged status of long time friendships. I think we all must do the extra work to prioritize communication to keep from casual ghosting, and understand that in these cultures we have to fight for these precious things called friendships. Also, if our friendships are just not compatible anymore, making the effort to find and develop new ones is a pain in the arse, but I think we just have to buckle down and dedicate ourselves to it for a while until it runs itself. Friendships are so so important, life is hollow without them, and we have to treat them like a goal. For me, I've learned that I need my friends to be friends so we can hang out in a group regularly, as I do not have the energy to maintain friendships as one on ones.
#pvv ! Love your videos Drew. I feel the same way about friends and being lonely sometimes. I'm still young so it's hard to find friends who are mature, but still like to have fun. I had some really good friends last year but it fell apart, and left me missing those honest people who hear you out. Fashion has been a great outlet for my interests and I pray for the day I find a group of people who share the same interests again. Until then we hang on!
as a girl i've always noticed how masculine vs feminine outfits make you carry yourself differently. maybe that's partly responsible for me having a different personality now, compared to when i dressed more masculine, or maybe it was a symptom of my personality change??
I feel this difference when I put on a pant suit vs a dress! Suits have the term power suit for a reason
Great video!
I think the other thing to highlight that you touched on, is this mindset changes the relationship you have with your clothes in many different ways. When you have a more meaningful connection to what you’re wearing, you care for your things better, you become more intentional about how you buy, and mindful of when and what you buy.
I just finished reading a book called, “A Worn: A People’s History of Clothing, and I love how it talks about how we’ve lost that connection to what we wear. We’ve forgotten about the work and the thousands of people behind the scenes making the things that are intimately on our bodies.
I don't care where I am or what I'm doing, but if I see someone in the wild wearing selvedge denim - it's a guaranteed smile wave and maybe even a fist bump with some short conversation.
Secondly, when people notice that you're dressing intentionally and are put together they're more apt to act nice to you to smile and whatnot.
This triggers the almighty dopamine response and automatically brightens our day, pass it on everyone!
Another absolute banger Drew! I've been following your channel for a while now and really like how you delve into the psychology and philosophy of fashion instead of just focusing on the fits as such :)
This is what it's all about!!
End of video question: I am 17 (Jan) and my dad passed away in sept. That is the biggest struggle this year of course and probably my life. I got a therapist which is amazing and help me discover many things I didn't even know about myself. Happy Sunday yall
So sorry to hear about your dad passing, I am glad you have found a way to turn it into amount of self discovery. Hope you are having a great week. - Drew
I lost my dad at 17 too. You’re not alone out there. Therapy is a wonderful thing.
I actually often have this contrast of loving to wear fun clothes but also anxiously wondering whether I stand out too much! Specifically, lately I've had this weird fear that I could somehow be walking around with a big noticeable stain or something if I'm just out doing stuff by myself... it doesn't really make sense (although I live in big city); but my anxiety also doesn't make sense, so yes, mental health doing the most haha. (also, as a woman, I kind of feel insecure wearing too feminine clothes if I'm not very confident that specific day. I wonder if men feel this way about clothes that could be considered feminine too!) I totally had this period of feeling lonely and wondering what friends would stay for years too, through covid as well, but I feel like it just took some adjusting to how your life changes when you get older. Now, I really love my handful of friends and I think a lot of people have the same type of small circle, especially as an introvert. Some people also just are less emotional and find it easier to let people go, it's not necessarily personal.
*I WEAR MENS HISTORICAL* clothing [1890 - 1930] every day - I hope I bring a little joy to people's lives, seeing someone dressed differently.
I tailor all my own clothes so there is a LOT of "me" in everything I wear.
I think this is such an important video! Clothes really do make that difference. I’m def suffering from post grad depression, but tryna keep entertained and in touch with my friends helping. Pvv
Really liked this video! In my family/close social circles, fashion is usually regarded as something shallow and consumerist. Some of the most important factors of acquiring new clothes are usually the price and quality, with the expectance to be able to wear a given piece for as long as possible. Although I still consider these factors important, clearly there's much, much more to it! The sense of identity and its consequences, feeling good with what you're wearing, etc. Thanks for this! :)
I called this my "Swag Philosophy" its same tho as "Romanticizing your life" wanted to make a vid on it, super good vid!!
I used to pay so much attention onto clothing style in exchange for respect from others. But in reality it's just a reflection of my own insecurities. as a matter of fact, people do not care that much about you and their opinions don't really matter. try to be at peace with the self is real courage.
I love your take on this. I got into clothes to get with the trends but now I feel as if I've created myself an identity where I can express myself. All the the different materials, colours and how it can be styles in so many ways.. It just fascinates me
Just wanted to ask: I heard that you shouldn't be so materialistic in life, would clothes also be a factor? what's your thoughts on that?
Being into fashion doesn't really make you materialistic. However, if you are always looking to get the most expensive pieces just to show off rather than express your own style and personality into your drip then that would make you materialistic. We wouldn't call someone who is into thrifting or more of a vintage look a materialist. Just my two cents.
I find that this mindset is very helpful to cope with the things you CANNOT have. However, feeling better through the clothes you own seems alright since you already have them, and IIRC they used the SAME jackets in the study on enclothed cognition and just named them lab coat/painter jacket.
That means what really matters is the way you feel about what you already have, much more so than buying new clothes only for the short-lived novelty that makes you feel better in them.
For me, not being too materialistic is about not putting the value of stuff over the value of time, relationships, and the people around you!
Soo true, I hate my job´s uniform. When I take it off, I feel free, confident and I feel like I´m myself again
Makeup and clothes have been an creative outlet for me for many years to heal with my mental health
Answering the mental health question: my latest hurdle is psychosis. Mine is mild and medicated but it’s still scary and lonely. Society stigmatizes and simultaneously doesn’t yet understand this mind state. It’s not entirely negative, but it is often treated as such in western medicine. I have come down from my most destructive “manic state” which included not sleeping well or often, and voraciously creating content for my social media accounts. I was aware not to share anything too opinionated or too personal- but I produced a large volume of content, usually rivaled by larger content creators. Some of my delusions included believing I was psychically attuned to “spirit guides” and receiving messages via synchronicities and tarot cards. Arguably, these delusions were pretty tame. But they still impacted my self esteem. Despite no longer feeling manic, I cannot tell where my delusions begin and my hobbies stop. Reading between the lines seems dangerous at this time, and I’m doing all I can to stay sane. Thanks for giving me a place to answer this question honestly. I enjoyed your video!
Clothing absolutely affects my mood. It's one of the reasons why work puts me in such a low mood, dress codes seem to eliminate a lot of the clothing I feel more comfortable in that I currently own. I think it's time for me to go shopping, haha
*8:27** LOVE* the grey Oxford baggs
My issue with this is that you will not get inner confidence by just getting it from clothes that you associate with confidence. In that case you just get externally given confidence. So it's a type of medicine to wear clothes that make you feel confident but it will never be a permanent *cure* .
I can't lie when I see that drew Joiner notification pop-up I definitely have to click it and watch it PVV gang for life
As a dancer for the longest time I did not pay that much attention to my clothing. Sure I tried to match but without much intent. As of late I have noticed what a difference it makes when you put thought into your clothing. I feel much more confident when dancing in clothes that I feel comfortable with. It took way too long to learn that because I be putting thought into my clothes when I go outside with friends. Thanks for the Video!
Maintaining friendships has been hard for me. Texting especially!! I’ve only been able to keep close with people i see in real life at school:(
The post vid fist bump was so sweet! ❤ this video. Instant subscribe!
When I’m fly, I do feel “better”. Not to say if I’m wearing something simple I feel down or upset.
I loveeed this video, its so hard these days to find good vids bout style/clothes, etc. Thanks so muchh!
This confirms/validates my mindset lately!!
What mental health struggles have I had recently? Anxiety - I get bullied a lot and I get used/taken advantage a lot. I’m an older student (changing my career) and I’m a foreigner in this country.
I struggle with feeling competent enough when comes to learning new things in work environments. I know in my heart I can do it but my mind struggles with at stuff quite often. That's something I'm working on.
I really appreciate this video... ive always had a strange relationship w my attire and always knew there was more to it...
Has anyone told you that you look like the Korean model Han Hyunmin? Just something I observed
I get this all the time 😂👏
Thanks, I was thinking he looks so familiar lol.
#pvv i thought exactly of the same thing you mentioned in the pvv, the difficulty of making friends and maintaining friendships as a young adult! definitely something i’ve been struggling with since graduating university
Not easy! Life is so busy
#pvv
i've seen a short video of a guy talking about how to decline the stress of the past and the future and how to truely be active in the now. it really changed my mind and so i really thought for a long time what factors can influence the stress we are going through and how we become more chill. seeing this video, it really is important to have an own style you like and to wear clothes in which you truely live in the now. thank you for opening my eyes again!!
Why go to therapy when I have “staple confidence boosters”😂great vid Drew 💯
😂 no need
I was only talking to my friends yesterday about how we don't do as many things as before covid. play golf, snooker, go for walks, explore places, swim, hike etc. the past few months I started going to a chess club that has a decent sized, regular crowd at a bar in Dublin and it's great to just practise a hobby and meet new people. I want to start doing it for all my other passions too. I wonder can a fashion/clothing meet-up be done lol
My biggest mental struggle is feeling like giving up on reaching out to others. Part of me feel like it’s more peaceful this way, but is it healthy?
That quarterzip just altered my mood
duuuuude my man using clips from Dope, I love that movie, great choice for the theme of your video, too
Such a good movie!
Something I find a bit of a challenge with dealing with my skin and breakouts ;_; - but thank you for this video!
This was such a unique and uplifting video. Thank you.
Man the labcoat actually gives you +5 Intelligence irl, crazy, my next exam i'm gonna pull up dressed in a labcoat
I wear the same outfit for all my exams in my 4 year college! I thought I performed a little better than usual. So apparently that belief is true😂
It is an underrated cheat code, but I mostly like wearing comfy and casual, then super fancy clothes, in which I may look good, but that's just not me.
This handsome young man, is gonna grow big on youtube 💯
Wow that was very eye opening😍amazing video.
I’m adding this videos title to notes😂 . So well written.
Loved it!
Love this couldn’t be more true!
It's annoying when i don't find exactly what I'm looking for because I have a vivid image of what i want the fabric and piece to look and feel like on me and with other pieces of clothing but yess clothes do make me feel a vibe of mine own and something that i can feel confident in to show my inner expression as well...
I agree with you about making new friends and maintaining them in our twenties! But for me I try to make sure I'm deeply connecting with at least one friend if possible whether I physically meet them or text message them these days..❤ love your videos, keep them flowing 💗
If I can’t find clothes to wear, I immediately get irritated
But when I do, I feel great throughout the day
When my clothing fit is in alignment with my inner universe i feel more connected to myself, flow state, feel more confident. And after all i don't like to look like most people on street's. I like to use my creativity, make nice and not popular fits.
you'd be interested in todd herman's work on alter egos, a good starting place is his interview with tom bilyeau
My first time on your channel. Clicked for topic. Stayed once I heard the nice voice, and cadence. Also nicely recorded and well written.
I've been struggling with anxiety recently. My job cut my hours and im not sure how im going to afford the basics. finding a job has been unsuccessful so far but gotta keep the faith. #pvv
Yes how one dresses effects moods..if I am feeling unhappy my clothes reflect tha.OWNSTyle very important...Drew Handsome young Man..blessings UK.
drew’s videos always inspire me so much
Excellent approach to this topic so close to my own heart and passion! I'm a counselor and wrote my thesis with similar considerations included. I sent it to you because I think you will especially enjoy some of the references included.
Great vid! Very harmonious and mindful. Post vid 👊👊 bro
I'm dealing with social anxiety or something similar to that right now. My cheeks are red and I don't know how to get rid of that. I know that I look cute and I love myself but I don't feel confident. I don't like my school environment. I'm so confident outside of school but just thinking about meeting people who I met before makes me feel uncomfortable. That's why school isn't my favorite place. I also only have one friend and I don't want to be self conscious but I have so many things that I find out everyday about myself that I want to change. I know that noticing the bad things about yourself is good but if you notice too much bad it's as if you're a bad person and the good person, you thought you were, was just an illusion. I know I'm a good friend but why don't I have 2 friends then? I tried to be friends with someone and now they ignore me. It's ok to say goodbye (because of the "good" in goodbye) but it's still depressing me a little bit. They were the ones who wanted to be friends with me. Why are they turning away now? I honestly don't really care about that anymore. My bigger worry is that people will not help me. Why? When I was 11yo I was completely like... death. I don't wanna trigger someone! Then I asked for help and no one helped me. Just thinking about it makes me cry. I made so many signs and asked for help but everyone ignored my signs. Honestly do you guys expect me to not have trust issues after what happened? I'm so proud of myself for being alive but then nobody besides 3 people talks to me. I'm sad and happy xD. But everything happened so that I can talk about it when I'm a millionaire in the future! ^v^❤️
I so love the science of fashion- this was perfect
thanks for the insights drew!
#PVV Lately I've been having trouble with anxiety. I sometimes look at the future and get filled with so much dread its overwhelming. To counteract it I've taken to raising my activity level with exercise and meditation. Thanks for letting me vent.
"thoughts become things"🎯.. such a cool video/topic. Thanks for sharing!
pvv #likewise
#pvv my biggest mental health struggle has been finishing school, but thankfully this Saturday I'll finally be done. I do actually use these strategies when exams come around. I try to dress my best (not formal, but a combination of a good fit that's also comfortable) so I feel confident to take the exam. I always think of that scene in Justice League where Lex confronts Darkseid and he says he had to change into his power suit -- literally just a very nice three-piece black suit. Dude had the fate of the galaxy on the line and he took the time to get changed into a dope fit.
This is maybe a top 10 comment i have ever read.
Great vid bro! Connecting with and meeting with new people is hard man. Keep your head up though, your positive energy will attract good people to you in time. Stay up brotha ✊🏾
This is so key and so true.
i look forward to getting my clothes tailored