I Hired A Pickup Artist To Help Me Find A Girlfriend
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- This is episode #7 my TV show, The Tim Ferriss Experiment! The show is like MythBusters meets Jason Bourne. In every episode, I partner with the world’s best and most unorthodox teachers (e.g., Laird Hamilton, Marcelo Garcia, Stewart Copeland), who train me for a final gauntlet. Shocking breakthroughs, injuries, epiphanies, and disasters are all part of the journey. Along the way, I show you how to replicate results in an attempt to prove that “you don’t need to be superhuman to get superhuman results… you just need a better toolkit.”
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Eh Neil Straus and similar methods are terrible. You should try natural approach the way our ancestors did it before they had languages.
Based!
Dude, you bring in your "friend" the #1 PUA, get help from a computer program nobody else has and buy a service for 2.5 to 50(!)k.
Then you say "If I can do it, you can do it too". How can I take this seriously?
Genuine question.
@@juliankonrath3617 the PUA method doesn't work for most guys. I don't know about the other two. The problem with PUA is talking because talking is killing the attraction despite you can make them laugh and I did it. When you run out of your "script" it usually is game over for you.
Yes more!!!
For those of you confused. This is from 2013.
Good to know! But, the message and lessons are probably even more relevant today
That is helpful, thanks. I thought so but was....confused. Thought his longevity drugs were working very well.
Things have changed...
@@creasunset what a surprise
I'm not confused, ROFL, I lived that life in SF before it became a toilet. I can see the difference.
I like the lady who works at the restaurant. She seems genuine and chill.
Me too
Agreed. Cute, genuine, soft nice vibe…
Yes, I definitely would have gone for her too. Dating as a 30 year old guy is tough, but she seemed easy to talk to and didn't take herself too seriously. I liked that she came to the party in a chill outfit and not lathered in makeup. Definitely my kind of gal. It was probably a long time ago but I hope she's doing well :)
100%! Me too!!
Me too 😊
The video style brings me back to the 2010's! Fun episode.
I think this is a repost from an old show of his. the MacBook is old one
It's literally 10 years old lol
It's from 2013 that's why lol. He's just uploaded to his YT
I wish he'd upload the chess one
@@RenansStudentsandGarbage-xl6yq He did!
Women have dating on tutorial mode; Men have dating on apocalypse mode.
No. Men have it worse, but Women have plenty of problems as well. Women are flooded with awful shit men to the point where it's hard to find the good ones, so they only try for the best ones who won't settle for them. Dating is shit for everyone these days.
Unless you’re Chad or Tyrone
Men have dating on apocalypse mode in a dating sim. Women have dating on apocalypse mode in Among Us. They have to actually watch out for people who will kill them. haha
yeah, actually flip it. Women have to worry constantly about being killed/raped/imprisoned/kidnapped/tortured. Tf is the worst that a man usually worries about? Wake up. Yeesh.
Yes. Now what
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I am smelling a new book, Sensei! :)
I would be interested in knowing you as a date...:)
*FERRIS MASTERY: Although, I have learned a lot from Tim over the years I fear the focus of this particular experiment falls short, because yes, knowing how to **_attract_** a mate is important, but "picking up" (dating) a person good for you is truly a mine field without the ability to quickly screen out "deal breakers" and decipher potential compatibility within an initial short conversation. I have mastered how to read body language, micro expressions, verbal cues, and use calibrated questions designed to covertly expose their true self within one 5-10min casual conversation while establishing rapport and drawing them. So trust me when I say, I had to master this for work and now strangers I interact with have no clue what I'm doing and may not understand why I didn't call them back after all.*
*Great video! I love the tech intro. Strong first step toward all I shared above. I'm excited about Tim's series.*
*Liberty = Peace & I pray we always enjoy both!*
I like the video but consider where you start. Looking for a woman in San Francisco is relationship suicide even if you win you lose
The problem isn't to find a girl. The problem is to find a loyal one which is not a femina-zi. In the western world mindset, a women being a femina-zi is the standard.
I expected a cool pick-up line. "Ladies, who would like to ride the Ferriss wheel?"
😂😂
That's funny as hell😂😂😂
I was not expecting that 🤣
When iwas in my 20s i gave a freind a lift to a party in my car he spoke these words to me "im gonna get myself a woman tonight what about you?"
It seemed abit nieve to think that way as i hardly knew anyone there .
When we sat down at the party he filled a jug of beer and we sat down at an emty table an surveyed the people, as you do.
After a few drinks i got up and started chating to some blokes my age and left him to his drinking .
A group of girls were chatting togeather and i was agonising trying to overcome my shyness ,it occured to me rather than trying to "get one" perhaps i could see if i could just talk to every woman at the party for fun and see what happened.
This attitude was a huge breakthrough for me, i was married within the year.
I still do that at parties,im still with my first wife 40 years later.
Not every attempt at conversation is succesfull but freindship is somthing to practice.
Who wants to be got anyway ?
That sounds too healthy, almost like good advice. I'll ignore it.
40 years ago you weren’t in competition with smartphone apps…
If you see relationships as a competition you make yourself less attractive .my observations are that a man taking care of his freinds is more attractive than a jealous self serving man .
What do you think?
@@neilbush9873 It's good advice, like saving up for a down payment on a house, but it's still a lot harder today than it was even a decade ago (just like buying a house).
. *You didn't say what happened with your friend.*
I remember years ago (1997), I met a woman who contacted me after I wrote her though a single column in a UK biker magazine. We chatted for over 6 hours on the phone and I had no idea what she looked like. When I met her, she was okay, but her personality was amazing and we hit it off straight away. It was very intense but when you have that chemistry with someone, looks really don't matter that much. When she broke up with me I felt destroyed.
wow what a w h 0 r e
hopping out of a van to go pick up women is hilarious
Great episode! It's refreshing that Tim has the same fear of approaching women as us mere mortals lol
You mean Jason Statham?😂😂
What does refreshing mean in this context, and also sorry for my bad english grammar by the way?
@@andrjsjan4231 Reassuring.
He's worth a billion dollars and is in spectacular shape. No pickup lines needed.
A billion? Nowhere near that number.
@@stacyliddell5038 $110 million net worth should enhance his pickup game.
You'd be surprised. Everyone has to have game
Flaunting wealth is a great way to attract the wrong type of woman
I mean having a good net worth helps (maybe just with confidence if anything) but it's mostly that he seems kind and warm and well put together. That's much more essential. I suggest you try that too.
this is giving big mythbuster energy i’m about it
I enjoyed the video, but as a European woman, it does not make any sense to me to invite your 3 crushes at the same event. In France, women would walk away because it would be considered as really disrespectul. This is not a job interview; you want to see if you vibe with the person, and how can you really be yourself, relax and flirt a little if all your competitors are in the same room? This is really capitalism applied to dating, where emotions and people become commodities. Also, I think that if you're obsessed with a certain type of rib cage, the matchmaker has to explain to you that it shouldn"t be a criteria to identify your soulmate.
A friend was asking me why dating was hard in the US. (I live on the East Coast). I told her that most American men were paralysed in front of women and did not know how to approach them. She couldn't believe it!
Finally, since the audience of this channel seems to focus on science rather emotions or intuition, I recommend the book "How not to die alone", by Logan Ury.
thanks for readying!
It's the creativity that Tim delivers the efficiency. He brought science for the logical types. Men tend to try to fix everything , in relationships also , instead of confident social interaction. I've seen women bring her men friends together so who will fight for her. This bar scene too crowded, not enuff one-to-one. That's a good book rec.
You'd probably be surprised that a lot of American and hispanic women respond well to this type of situation.
It was almost funny to watch the two women become more fixated on each other than Tim 😂 like their own little rock-paper-scissors match for Tim😅
Coffee date? I’m on your coast.😉
Back when "The Game" was popular. Even Neil Strauss disavowed the lifestyle promoted in the book and expressed regret over the impact his work had.
Bonjour Leila. Crazy how men got paralyzed by #metoo and #balancetonporc. Charm and frankness open arms and heart. Fully agree on focusing on science rather than emotions. Next episode might be something like how to beat AI on the dating field. Surprized you'd recommend Logan Ury's book. She sounds like her strategy execution was developed at harvard business school. Aucune humanité. So no space for butterflies, again. Looks we, european , have a competitive advantage😀. Une bonne soirée à vous. B.
I'm so thrilled to see that you're doing the CZcams game - I know you had hesitations that you mentioned on the Noah Kagan episode, but this is just so valuable. Thank you for sharing your gift.
“If I can do it, so can you” *hires Mr. Robot to download every profile in LA*
"If me, a relatively young, fit, attractive, stylish man can find a date, so can you, you troll under a bridge."
"I don't expect to find my soulmate." That's a rough start. Nervous TIm Ferriss is so endearing...
I loved this episode so much, especially the part where you're talking to people in person. Rooting for you to find love! :D
I respect that he wants to keep his opinions on the dates close to his chest, as to not insult any of the ones he didn’t choose. But I think from what little we saw, he had the most connection with the farmers market lady. Also, I think there’s an element where he feels the most rewarded by that interaction because he risked the most and therefore accomplished the most with her. (I swear you could tell a change in his demeanor after that. He was more confident.) I would think that interaction as their initial meeting will lead to more attraction (from both parties) than the other ones
If someone as famous and well-connected as Tim finds it hard to find a match, what hope is there for us mortals...
I agree
Take this as entertainment. I don't believe all of this is authentic. It's content to have clicks and make bucks $$$$$
lol
sincere, optimistic reframe: it means we're all mortals, we're all in the same boat, same ocean, and maybe... the hope is also the same
Don't belittle yourself while putting others on a high horse. It will make for a sorrow life
I'd be curious to know the success rate of the 'matchmaker' .. whether a service like that actually works for people _long-term_ .
Loved the vibe of the whole video, so light-hearted and realistic.
Great work with the TV show! I’ve watched 3-4 episodes and all have been fantastic!
This was fun. I hope to see more videos like this. Thanks for the sharing your experience!
I love Tim but when he hit the matchmaker with the rib cage filter I lost it.
“I want a very thin woman” would create a negative result to the video
@@Shineonfriends yeah that went thru my head , brilliant from him
@@Shineonfriends Bullsh*t. Men are allowed to have standards.
So women can select on appearance, like the ever recurring height thing (which you can't influence), but he's not allowed to have a preference for characteristics that she can influence is what you're saying.
This episode made me LOL a few times, which is rare for a tv show. Good concept Tim!
Love the approaches! Thanks for sharing.
Tim, please drop the link here or in the CZcams video description for the extended footage/ full episode. Not seeing it at the link you mentioned at the end. Thanks!
Love these fun episodes, Tim! Keep them coming. 😊😊
Plot twist: non of the three women go out with him but instead become best friends
I feel like all four people wouldn't mind that.
except that doesnt happen so... stupid comment
if they wanted they woulda just dated
My deep respect, Tim, for overcoming your vulnerability ❤
With all due respect, please don't take hesitation for vulnerability
ur vulnerability is having no jaw
Good old Tim Ferris human Guinea Pig stuff! Loved it👍
I actually first learned about you when I read Neil’s first book about dating when you helped him pack on ten pounds of muscle in 6 weeks. You guys inspire me to be better! Looking for somewhere I can learn bachata while I stay here in the Dominican Republic
Strauss should hardly be an inspiration, at least not when he was writing the books. Not sure about Ferris, never seen him before
It is absolutely hilarious to see someone like Tim who is so successfull in many areas of life is struggling so much with a basic task like dating.
Was fun to watch and reminded me of my first experiences.
I'm realizing I'm on the same boat as him and I'm going to have to get this down to a science with practice. It was definitely fun to watch him learn.
Tim is so focused on performance that he does not seem to be willing to leave some space to the adventurous side of dating
The style of the video feels like a show you'd see on TV; very refreshing
Loved this, so interesting seeing you try out these different approaches!
For those wondering 21:21 (C) 2014 .... Does take take me back to a day when the Reality-TV was fun.
Loved this, Tim! Thank you for sharing and for your vulnerability. This was awesome to see you in this light. You are a great guy doing incredible work for our human family, and you are so worthy and deserving of your wildest dreams. Keep at it! You'll find her soon
What a cool episode! Thank you for making it and sharing your experience!
Just found your videos, look forward to more!
Thank you
Just heard your most recent interview with Noah Kagan yesterday. Looks like you may be expanding the YT presence after all! I'm here for it and appreciate you working through the negative repercussions to continue to share your journey and wisdom in this format as well.
This was fantastic! The production value. Everything. Well done sir!
Wow, this was me like 15 years ago or something when I started doing what Mystery, Style and a bunch of other guys came up with. Those memories! 😅
Going on so many first dates would give me nightmare fuel, mad respect.
The color grade and tv show editing gives the whole video kind of a early 2000s look and feel.
Very entertaining video btw
This gives me old TV show vibes and I like it
Love seeing you approach challenges that put you truly outside of your comfort zone-- inspiring! 🙌🏻
This is amazing!!! It is so inspiring yet so fun and playful. Those naked photos with the cat are the best!❣️
But if it goes anywhere, and she asks about the cat, do you make up a lie or tell her you went to an animal shelter to set it up because you’re a totally fake manipulator?
Congrats Tim on getting out of your comfort zone! Your a beast for doing this👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Tim - I’m a huge listener of your podcast and also your books! I find it impossible to believe that you have a hard time doing cold approach. That vulnerability must have been just for TV (?)!!
Oh and Tim - how does one attempt to be lucky enough to be in that room of singles w/ you?
I've learned there is no need for any pickup tricks.
And that the base mindset of pickup of "learning to pick up women" stems from a need to be validated by the opposite sex. the only way forward is to realize you don't need this validation, otherwise you're "dependent" on fishing for women's attention
Instead, you talk to a person, and listen, and you do not have "strategy" or use "tricks" because there is no agenda but to be aware of the other person in the present
I am lucky to have so much self-confidence and belief in the math of probability that getting rejected didn't crush my ego.
Love the old episodes Tim
downloaded everyone's profile? wtf
Screams: recipe for disaster. I currently try to do counter-corruption and it’s so rampant online and it’s of course happening on dating platforms. Basically there’s a profile with one woman, same person, 9 profiles so far and each profile is photo verified. And yet the dating page pretends to be stupid. But i mean, who didn’t hear the shot during the previous 4 years, maybe never will, regarding corruption and a need for fundamental change, yet noone’s willing to pay up… such as investing 10 bucks a year to make a difference towards a merit-based economy. Better hodl that one bitcoin and wait for doomsday when it will be worth 1 million, but we’ll also live in zombie world, when this “target is reached”, if we aren’t already. Sorry if it’s hard to follow what i try to say, english is only my second language.
It's public bro
Good to know guys get nervous. Dating has become a huge challenge.
finally something good again on youtube ! really cool and well-made episode
I can’t imagine you having a hard time getting a date. You have been doing podcasts and your life experiences is more than 10 average people. Your books are awesome. And the game is the one book that changed my life for the better. NLP not the AI type. Sammy’s interview on darknet diaries was awesome. You’re a lucky man Tim to have made such a great life.
It might be that your alway into something and no time for a relationship
I love that you put yourself out there and took one for the team for the sake of a whole generation of us who are trying to play the field.
Loved this episode! ❤
Women don’t play the field. What’re you talking about?
There’s a new generation that has a different experience of dating and Tim Ferris took on the role of the fool and was vulnerable putting himself in a position to learn and take in advice from other men ( experts ) on the subject , in front of us, so we can learn how to navigate the field of dating, that’s what they are talking about. Women could play the field and definitely do in todays modern world, although it’s probably not in their best interest.
The shirtless cat pics are THE BEST 😂
🐈
really, wow. another thing I don't get.
I thought it was cheesy and trying too hard
🤢
That was creepy. I would never
This is great to see. I feel like I am not alone in putting successful folks like tim up on a pedestal, like they are some sort of gifted extra terrestrial that I cant even compare myself to but realize that's just another one of my excuses. We are all just humans!!!
Charming yet natural. You either have it or you don't.
Step 1: Be a tall, muscular, rich, blonde anglo guy who has CEO vibes
Stop coping loser.
BuT mUsClEs DoEsNt MaTtEr!!
He is not tall
He’s short and bald
@@user-to5fs3nw3qit does… man boobs are a turn off. Also you can’t see you pee pee if you’re fat!
If this guy is single, we're cooked...
Tim at the farmers market was absolutely adorable. I don't think I've seen that Tim before.
Heck, I get anxious just watching you trying to do the IRL approach.
This gave me butterflies! It is so hard to just walk up to someone like that. Loved this so much
airing this very old tv episode in current times needs guts
Why? This is simply geniune dating tips
Why would someone hate this type of content?
Some people will always find ways to cancel someone
@@HMuny55 didn't know there was an age limit to use tinder
When that guy said eLance, I questioned how old this was. So then, what happened??
@@rahulgemnani because people see pickup artists and the likes in different light nowadays
Loved the episode! Thank you 💫
I hope you do a follow-up video to let us know how your journey is going. Good luck!
The pics with the cat cracked me right up
Lmao brilliant
Right! 😂
Status is the #1 aphrodisiac, fame being the pinnacle of status. Status is also situationally relevant so you can cultivate it within your daily lives.
This is such a guy myth and flawed premise.
We are energetic beings not material ones.
Women find confidence, and if having status makes you feel confident and sexy then great. It will work for some people but mostly those who feel something lacking in themselves I reckon 😢
I am freaking out just watching this. Glad I have a partner and that I'm way older than the searching for a mate stage of life.
I’ve never like the idea of a pickup artist - it seems like a kind of slimy way to view meeting people, but I like the the way you use the ice breaking tips to overcome nerves and get yourself out there. We could all do with a little help!
This series was recorded years ago. From the comments I see some people don't know that.
Ooh this was so fun. I hope you went on a date with at least one of them, they seem awesome.
Well, whoever his gf was, they broke up few months ago
Such humour 😂
The Amy from the farmers marketing at the party killed me 😂
Where can I find the extra footage mentioned at the end? Thanks
This was a great episode, especially as you had real skin in the game. You did great!
Wow Neil hasn’t aged in two decades
your intro lines. Making the impossible, possible by bonding rules. My way of thinking ... I'm Subscribed now
Oh my gosh. I was nervous for you on the cold approaches. Is this a rerun? I swear I saw this a few years ago.
I am totally blown away that Tim is anxious about approaching women, with his money, status, skills. I thought I would be doing better with all that stuff but I'm doing already doing quite well, I guess approaching women effectively is a skill independent of anything else. For those interested, Todd V has a lot to teach on the subject.
Love greasy V
If anything the money usually puts one's head up their ass and causes them to stay clear from regular people.
What's also true is he didn't setup anything with a romantic expectation and thus didn't execute anything.
Really? The moment I realised you are inviting all girls to your party, I was out. Being invited feels special. Finding tons of “competition” feels like being an object in “the bachelor”.
Yes, he'd be ignoring someone. For me, I'd be turned off and feel like I wasted my time.
The Bachelor is a very successful show lol…
Great video. Approach anxiety is terrifying
Intellectual compatibility is actually a great way to go. I became attracted to my wife of over 30 years not by looks but by personality. It helped that she was pretty, for sure, but I didn't become attracted to her until we really started to talk and get to know each other.
Inner game is a huge benefit.
❤ spot on! Game is all about inner game
That’s it. Nailed it.
Inner game is true alpha , true success
BTW I had read here and there some tips and followed this strategy: 1. have at least one black and white photo; 2. for men - look at the camera and smile with no teeth, for women - look away from the camera and smile with teeth, 3. have at least one full body photo (duh), 4. have a photo wearing red (red dress for example). But guess what, I'm a woman and everyone swipes on me. It doesn't get really easier to assess potential real life dates, and I think these tricks are mainly for men. Men actually don't put any effort in their profiles, I notice. If I see someone with zero stuff written, I swipe away. Potentially not being able to write.
It goes the other way too, if you write more than a sentence or two, you lose most women. Maybe the best approach is just be yourself.
@@MakeYouFeelBetterNow really? I am not sure but I'm judging from my own opinion only, can't find enough women to ask. If I see more than one sentence, I think someone has put in the time to write something. Perhaps more important is what it says, one or more sentences.
@@mequable Perhaps. There's such a thing as putting too many pictures as well, for both sexes. It's like people are finding a reason not to like you. I'm guilty of it too when I see a really bad pic.
By the look of the websites and computers I can tell this happened by the 2010-2014 era. Still fun to watch!
Wow, Tim! That was really helpful! Champion caliber Latin Dancer is nervous approaching women? I guess anything can happen to anyone at any time! Loved it. BTW, Brock Purdy does this suggestive dance in the end zone after a touchdown. Have you seen it?
Very fun! We need an epilogue please (I'm rooting for restaurant lady from the Ferry bldg.)
Date them all, just enjoy the friendship, no pressure, just keep it light!
Dude, just watching you do the cold approaches was giving me major anxiety lol
Inviting 3 dates to the same party is a bold move 😂
Neil Strauss and the Game book got me started on my debaucherous journey through my twenties. Love him, and the people that created that science. Im married now with a kid on the way. This was the best content you've put out.
Shirtless photos with cats seem odd no? lol
Cringe.🧐
He's really putting the ladies in a tremendous competition with each other at the end 😂
Guys, I'm in my 60ies and the best approach is to be direct. My favorite line is What are you going to make with that... be it food, crafts, hobbies... works every time.
Data driven romance. Be still women’s hearts 😂
😂😂😂
Best. Comment.
"whats measured, gets managed" - does not apply to things that are completly or partially out of your locus of control. Dating is partially out of your control. So measuring provides insight but not much management. Stil usefull tho.
He is so good, that just hit the followbutton in 7 seconds and that is a new kind of crazy
That last hack is pure gold!