Body Image Pt. 1 - Stretch Marks
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- čas přidán 27. 08. 2024
- Body image is super important when it comes to achieving your health and fitness goals, so I wanted to talk about a sensitive topic that's personal to me -- my stretch marks! Please like, share and comment! Be sure to check out my website, cookingtoat.com!
I haven’t been on here in a long time but I wanted to say to everyone who’s commented and watched, thank you so much. If you’re feeling how I’ve felt and still continue to feel at times, you are not alone and I hope this video helps you see how beautiful you are! It took so much for me to be comfortable in my own skin and it’s not easy. Be kind and gentle with yourself and talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend, or better yet as if you were talking to a younger version of yourself who needed someone to encourage them. Sending love to you all! ❤️❤️❤️
Just so you know there is something for stretch marks now called the Inkless stretch mark treatment and the stretch mark camouflage treatment.
I was literally just about to comment this! Tara if you haven’t tried dry tattooing yet you should really give it a go. I heard it works amazing for darker skin tones especially. I just had my first treatment 2 months ago and I can feel the texture has changed. They say it can take a few treatments to re-pigment the skin and if the pigment doesn’t hold they will move forward with tattoo ink. Definitely worth a shot!
You are beauitful queen
I have strech mark everywhere on my shoulder, all over my arms, my hips , knees, thighs and backs. The worse is my back, hips and all over my arms and it’s so terrible I have no idea what to do. But it feels good to know I’m not the only one
Thank you for your bravery. I am so so insecure about my stretchmarks. I am so afraid to even wear a short sleeve shirt. Thank you. Thank you.
You can do it, Justice! I totally understand how you feel. Ease into it, if you must. Try taking flattering photos of yourself, wear clothes that make you feel great, tell yourself you're beautiful -- because you deserve to feel all of the great things about yourself.
You sistahs are beyond beautiful
Mee too
Same here! Let alone tank top
I don't like.....BUH LOVE STRECH MARKS SO MUCH...... can't believe anyone can be insecure Abt it bcus of their environment or d society
Hi! I'm a 16-year-old girl who has stretch marks EVERYWHERE, but mostly on my upper body/all over my shoulders. Your video helped me a lot because summer is coming up and I've made it a goal to be more positive about my body and change for the better. Thank you so much!! ❤
Same girl same ♥️
The summer part 🤯
Same 🩷🩷 we’re in this together 🫶
@@Emmie-qb7fj TYSM. I'm 19 now and I feel more neutral abt my stretch marks now so I'm hopeful that with time, the negative feelings subside more :)
@@crystalcosmicreads wow, you're an adult now congrats🎉
I have stretch marks on my thigh, hips, back of my knee and I felt so insecure to wear shorts and covering it since the age of 12 or 13 years old going outside. It’s weird how I consider every woman I saw beautiful but not myself. I hope I will feel beautiful about myself like I do with other woman. thank you for making me feel better.
I have them everywhere and they've killed my confidence, the last time I wore a tank top was 10 or 11 years ago, I tried everything even laser therapy and it didn't work, I avoid looking at myself in the mirror when I work out, shower or change, I'm afraid of starting a relationship with someone and being told I look disgusting or being looked at like if I am, I don't have a cool story about how or why I have them I just do, and I know I shouldn't let them destroy me like this but I can't help it, I can't count how many nights through the years I stayed up crying all night and wishing not to wake up in the morning because of how much I hate how my skin looks, I hope one day I'll be able to accept them like you because I'm so tired of feeling like this and I don't know how much longer I can take this, how much longer I'll be able to live feeling like this, thank you for this video, you're the only person I've ever seen with stretch marks as many as mine, you showed me I'm not the only one struggling with this and thank you for that
You done have laser therapy treatment
Try using coconut oil mixed with vitamin e oil. It helps reduce the appearance very much. Use virgin coconut oil.
Hey I just wanted to let you know that your aren't alone! I also have many stretch marks and I work really hard to get over that feeling you described. I'm 21 and I still to this day get them in new places but I have to tell you, I think they do look really cool, I see them like the stripes a tiger has and that makes me less stressed about the way they look. When I clicked on the video my first thought was how nice her stretch marks look and if you try to shift your mindset it will become a lot easier to accept yourself the way you are ❤ We all struggle with our bodys and just want to feel confident so why not start today?
It just felt like u told everything i had in my mind.
I too fear relationships only because i don't want to get judged .
I think if someone really loves us it shouldn't matter on how we look.
And yeah i too have alot of strechmarks everywhere in my body..
Hope u accept and love urself.
my same thoughts wishing I can sleep and never wake up thinking of having tattoos on them
hii idk if youre gonna see this comment but im an 18 yo black girl and we have the same exact stretch marks in the same exact places and i am horribly insecure and this almost made me cry lol. thank u so much for this video, i felt so alone, you’re so beautiful by the way💕
Wow. I recorded this 4 years ago and I can’t believe it’s resonating with so many people. Thank you both for watching. 💕💕💕
Same here in the shoulders and same places
@@Sarah_lbd hi girl im 21 now and I’m insecure about them at all!! I couldn’t care less about them. I guess that’s what aging does to you. Im sure the same will happen to you and im sure your marks are beautiful and make you so much more unique .
@@BowdowntoAnnaConda I actually started to accept them but sometimes times I'm just like ahh no I don't want them
@@BowdowntoAnnaConda specially that in my country we care about this but thank you so much for your lovely comment ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’ve watched this video a few times and I’ve finally decided to no longer let my stretch marks hold me back. I never wear short sleeves because I hate seeing them. I feel like a prisoner in my clothes, and when it’s hot I wanna wear cute dresses or a swim suit but I’m constantly in my head about people staring and judging my stretch marks.
Starting this month I wanna be more free in my skin, instead of miserable.
Thank you so much for encouraging me and others as well 💕.
Sending lots of love❤️
I know this video is 6 years old. But i'm a man going through it regarding dealing with my stretch marks.... This helped me a lot. For real. Isn't it weird how the ones you have that i can see, i find cool. But i hate my own, and i have muuuuch less. I guess it really is true that we judge ourselves much more than others really do.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and speaking about this, you have no idea how much this helps. You are such a beautiful woman, thanks for sharing your story ♥️
I remember when I first started getting stretch marks on my side hips I didn’t think much of it and I was wearing jeans and a cute top.
I remember moving around and my stretch marks showed and then my mum brought it up and started telling me how I’m getting fat and that I need to lose weight in front of everyone (whole family)...
it was embarrassing and I felt ashamed so I started to cover up my body and wear hoodies even in summer... I’m still dealing with it till this day and this video really makes me feel like I’m not alone and that I should embrace it... just kinda hard when people point it out.
My mom literally did the same thing to me when I was 11 or 12 and since then I was so insecure about them but now I am finally learning that what other people criticize about you is just a reflection of how they treat themselves. My mom is sooo self-conscious and projected that onto me unfortunately. I hope I helped you with sharing my side, and let me tell you: your are beautiful in every way, those stretch marks dont define you ❤
@@selinao9933 thank you so much! I really do appreciate you opening up and sharing your story, it helps me remember that I’m not alone ❤️ I can also relate to your story and I’m sorry you went through that… you are beautiful.
I'm 26 years old, from the age of 12 I noticed my body getting stretch marks my arms, my back, my stomach. 😢 I've never worn a sleeveless shit since the age of twelve everything have to be with a jacket over my outfit 😕 I feel trapped, this thing has taken a big part of my confidence. I envy those who wear cute dresses without sleeves 😩
Totally understand! I was going through the same thing! At some point, you have to realize that the people who will love and care for you won’t care about your stretch marks. They’ll acknowledge the insecurities you feel but reassure you that you’re beautiful no matter what. ❤️❤️❤️
OMG I totally feel you on wearing sweaters/cardigans over your tank tops in the summer and pretending to not be hot!! I absolutely hate summer time
Thank you for making this video dear. I am a 18 year old year old obese girl with terrible stretch Marks on my body almost everywhere. I always had been judged by my looks during my school, my all classmates used to make fun of me because of the way I look, even my relatives used to make fun of my looks on my back, sometimes people tried to make me feel ugly directly as well as indirectly by comparing me with someone else. All this make me feel so depressing and conscious about my looks and even at some point of life I used to feel that I'm not gonna find someone who loves my soul and a person I am without taking care of how my body looks....you really made me confident that the true beauty lies within the soul...Thank you so much ❤
Hi Mansi
I can totally agree with you!
I too have strech marks all over my body and i am obese too ,the judgements i get about them really affect me too.
But we have to be stong and accept ourselves and move on and hope that we definitely will find someone who will love our soul rather than our looks.
Hope you are doing good ...
Omg!!! I have the same placement of stretch marks. I always think I am the only person who has excessive stretch marks and that I am unlucky. I had them since 12, and now at 29, I still hide them like curse. Thank you for sharing your experience and being brave. I am trying my best to embrace my stretch marks and not hide anymore. Hopefully someday I will be able to wear sleeveless tops and perhaps a bikini one day.
Hi Tiara!!
OMG first of all I love the way you've put it out!!
you know what i'm 16 myself and really really super embarrassed to have strechmarks all over my body and im tired of being fat but what u said in the video has is really true and so i bought a tank top and wore it outside...yeah definately there were those ugly stares but there was also a friend of mine who kept gazing at me and i was honestly becoming nervous but then she came up to me to tell me that she is really proud of me for wearing my strechmarks with pride and that they are normal.....she also opened up about how she also has one the shoulder even if it is a tiny one but she is really insecure but seeing me wear a tank top boosted her confidence to do that and for this I must really thank you....u have no idea how much it helped and rather than being insecure anymore i've really started to love my body and really put in the work to make it better each day..
I love you, thanks for putting yourself out here, thanks for letting me find you. I hope to gain my confidence too
This really helped me get over my insecurities....I have stretch marks all over my body and I don't have a single short sleeve dress cause I don't wanna expose my stretch marks. But knowing how you are so confident about yourself and how you love yourself for being you really gave me courage to overcome my insecurities.Thanks a lot ✨
Yes i agree with u , i too don't have single sleeve dress nor a crop top..
I hope i get over my insecurities ...
Thank you..... I was feeling literally so low about how my stretch marks look and now I thank my body for growing with me and a few marks are just reminder of how far I've come. When I see yours, they remind me of tiger stripes! You go, queen! And also, my name is Tara too haha
You're so welcome, Tara! ;-) I'm glad this video helped you!!! You are beautiful as you are!!
thanks so much for this video I've been so insecure about my stretch marks , I got some on my shoulders too out of no where and it has totally taken a terrible toll on my self esteem. So I'm glad I came across this video
I have stretch marks everywhere. They started when I was 9. I was never overweight they just came. I am always covered. I have never worn dresses, skirts, short sleeves etc. I have really thought about tattooing my whole body. I am trying really hard to accept them.
Hi I know your post is about body image and acceptance but I just wanted to add that excessive stretch marks can be a sign of connective tissue disorders and/or Autoimmune Disorders. It can be an indicator of Adrenal problems causing excess cortisol (Cushing’s syndrome) among other things. Parts like tendons, ligaments, skin, cornea, cartilage, bone and blood vessels may be affected by connective tissues disease. I am prone to stretch marks and recently I was diagnosed with a disorder that affects the cornea (part of the eye) as well as issues with my heart AND carotid (blood vessel). I have had issues with my adrenal and thyroid glands, hip joints and intestines in the past. I’d advise anyone with excessive stretch marks to do a little research and take any changes in health seriously. Small issues like higher than normal blood pressure, blurry vision can indicate more serious issues… I struggled in my teens and twenties. I never wore tube tops, spaghetti straps, tank tops or sleeveless shirts/dresses. I’ve never worn a bikini and had a large assortment of shrugs, cardigans and wraps. That being said I always had boyfriends. My current partner loves me to bits and finds me incredibly attractive. The right man won’t care about superficial things. Keep improving on yourself, live, learn and enjoy life, the right one will come along when you least expect it. ✨Blessings✨
Thank you for this! 🤎
I'm a guy who has these all over my body and I've really started to let it control my life in so many negative ways, I need to figure out how to move on from this.
I was dating a girl who had them and it never bothered me at all, yet I'm letting it make my own life miserable. It's led to a few behaviours such as inspecting them with lamps in the dark, catastrophizing on events that haven't even happened, I litteraly feel uncomfortable in my skin like I can feel every mark.
you’re a king for sharing this and not judging the girl you were dating! the same way you don’t care abt stretch marks is the same why people think about urs! stretch marks are normal and healthy:) your body is yours and your body loves you and you should love your body:))
I know exactly how you feel, I have such thick stretch marks on my calves and I never see others with them as bad as mine and I feel self conscious today but whenever I see other people I think nothing of their marks on their skin it’s crazy how when it’s us we are so hard on ourselves💗 at the end of the day it’s a mark on our skin why would it take away from someone’s beauty, someone could have perfect skin but their attitude and mindset and personality makes them unattractive so none of it even matters
@lebaeardotnet try tattoos
I’m a girl and I can relate so much to what you’ve said
Omg im a male and got stretch marks just like you do. I was so embarrassed of my back and shoulder marks so couldn't even go to swimming pool nor wearing short shirts. I love how you reveal yourself bravely. I wish i was like you.
Thank you for making this video and being real about your struggles and journey of overcoming body insecurity! I relate to this a lot, still at 32 I find myself getting worked up about my arms, but I’ve come a long way. Strength in numbers, the more we normalize it, the more we can see how beautiful we are!
Here I am watching your video in 2024, my stretch marks are exactly where yours are and I can't help but think you are so amazingly beautiful. Thanks for sharing your story, I'm sure it will keep having a positive impact in many women with insecurities. Much love and appreciation for you from Portugal
we are so silly, insecurities for no reason other than focusing on others. i have then on my stomach and i hate them. but i have to say, i wish I had your hair line. see what im saying? we are so silly. thanx for keeping it 100 and im proud you were finally able to surrender to your own beauty 😊
Thank you! Always keeping it real here!
I am 23 years old ... my whole teenager I was insecure about my weight at 21 age I lost it my weight also i got my confidence back but i have stretch marks on my arms recently my college teacher commented on my stretch marks and I again got insecure... from past 2 weeks I'm upset about this brought creams watched YT videos how to get rid of them... you video gave me confidence and make me feel normal 🥲... I don't why in Asian countries special in India there is so high beauty standards for women ... here we don't comment on man's body but if a girl is short,dark,over weight, pimple or anything whole society will tell u to make it better or else u won't get a man ! LIKE THIS IS INSANE!!!!!
Ugh! Your teacher sucks for saying that.
I tried creams too. I heard laser can work on pigmented, newer marks. But laser can be pricey. I am so glad my video helped you. I mention this a lot, but so many women have stretch marks on their arms and shoulders. So, many. And a beautiful woman is still beautiful with them.
I wanting validation from others is normal, but no one’s validation about your body image matters more than your own. You are beautiful through and through and people who truly love you won’t ever make you feel insecure about them. ❤️❤️❤️
I have stretch marks all over my shoulders and back after my weight lose journey..... I'm very insecure about them....it is really affecting my dating life as I'm not confident enough when it comes to my stretch marks....btw I'm also from India
@anjani5163 Hey Beautiful! ❤ I would suggest you to do self love rather than getting validation from others... I mean yeah ik how Indian men's sees women's but if a men just seeing your beauty not your heart and Rejecting you just becoz of stretch mark girl it's better to be alone rather than someone who sees women as a candy for them you will be never become beautiful. So bring your energy back to you and love yourself first then see the magic... ik someone will come to hold you and accept you the way you are ❤
"I've really had to move past it," it's like mourning what your life could have been like, the things you could've done. It's really sad and it IS indeed (in my opinion) a death of some sort.
Okay but these strech marks tho fits you so so so good😍You stunning girl
Thank you so much 😀
I was literally crying watching your video. I am 37 years old and STILL till this day i am extremely insecure about the stretch marks on my shoulders. Just like you mentioned it was hard being a teenager surrounded by friends with perfect skin. Then my sexual life was affected in adulthood because i was and still I'm not comfortable in my skin 😑
I see you made this video a couple of years ago and wonder if you've tried anything since that maybe worked in getting rid(or improved) of them?
I've tried many MANY things but unfortunately none helped. The only thing that came close to working was inkless camouflage microneedling, but weeks later stretch marks appeared again as if they never left 😔
I will end this video by saying thank you so much for sharing ❤ you are extremely brave and inspiring! I hope one day i have your courage and buy that top or dress I've always wanted to wear.. hugs your way 🤗
I have bad stretch marks esp on my upper arms and shoulders. I've never noticed anyone else with them in this area. I feel they dictate what I can and can't wear too. This video and your confidence has helped me feel better about them thank you. 😊
Samee! I have terrible stretchmarks on my upper arms and i never noticed them until a few weeks ago... and whe i looked at my photos where i was wearing sleevless, i saw that they were showing... but no one cared, not me or my frnds... even tho i am insecure now, i am sure I can get past them by not caring...
Oh my god, literally sobbing right now. Thank you for such a video!
Thanks alots this video really does change everything about me, I was crying watching this. I got stretch marks 5years ago during my journey from to Italy by land and since then I just can't dress the way I want because I'm afraid what others might say.
Awww!!! Sending you all of the love and hugs! You can dress absolutely anyway you want. Honestly, what's the worst thing someone can do to you? Not like you? So what? You'll find people who will love you for you. Love the skin you're in.
Thanks for uploading this video coz my stretch marks just like yours...it has also affected my confidence and my relationship tooo. I thought i was different, it is good to know someone else has also experienced it
U r a brave women. I salute you. Thank you so much
I needed this...i decided instead of trying so hard to hide them or get rid of them..i want to own it and love them, thank you for this, you have a beautiful smile and a beautiful energy ❤️
Thank you for making this video. I need to try be more like you. It’s really hard but I take encouragement from this. My stretch marks are crazy too but I’m trying to still see the beauty in me the way I see it in you. 🥰😍
You are so welcome! Thank you so much for watching! You got this. You are beautiful! Don't worry about judgment from others, either, especially if they're potential romantic interests. If they really like you, they won't give a damn about your stretch marks.
I just want say that you are very pretty and brave.This is the first time I am sharing my view.Because I really feel like we all should have this kind of confidence.I am saying because I have some and i try to hide these always Only cause I feel like what people will say or think if they see that i have these marks .Again I really feel sad about these marks.
You are amazing! I have similar marks on my shoulders and upper arms. I’m thinking of getting tattoos to cover them cause it’s always been an insecurity of mine. 😩
Thankyou i really appreciate this video!!
I too got strech marks all over my body due to growth spurt and getting big.
Thank you so much for this video most of the content on streatchmarks is how to improve or get rid of them. I am 34 and also have stretch marks over the majority of my body, I am slowly getting confident in my own skin.
I don’t know why my comment got deleted but thank you for this, I also got stretch marks all on my upper arms and some on the back of my shoulder at the age of 12/13. I never been overweight I went from being skinny to being average size during a growth spurt. I’m in my early 20s I always cover my arms and back but I’m done with that this summer it is what it is 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽feels good to know I’m not the only 1!
i really appreciate this❤️
love your vulnerability and strength shown in this video... I support you, love you, sis ❤
My condition
I hate arm stretch marks
Thank you for the video..it lifted my spirits.
I loved this video you are absolutely gorgeous ❤ it amazes me how one can help so many people by being vulnerable and showing your 'imperfections'. This is a lesson I learned last year, when you open up about yourself the people around will too and you not only start accepting yourself more but also help others as well ❤ this is my motivation for stepping outside my comfort zone
My skin got all saggy and with large stretch marks because of serious stress. I've already though about the worst. I'm young and my life feels like its over. Took me 10 years to get used to those normal stretch marks. I don't know if I can live with this body I have now. I also can't pay reconstruction surgeries.
Just want to thank you For this video because it's very healing for me. I've suffered with this reality for 10 years but I'm planning on trying some kind of laser surgery soon.
I’m 27 and have had horrible stretch marks since I was 12 cause I was very obese.
Even though I lost all the weight and considered “fit” now I still have the horrible stretchmarks everywhere 😔 I never wear anything that shows my arms or stomach cause I’m too ashamed of how it looks
Sameee.....I have stretch marks all over my shoulders and back..... can't really wear anything that shows them...also very afraid n not confident enough to date anyone
Trust me. One day you'll come to accept them! I have them everywhere and I've come to accept them! It did take a while for me to accept them but eventually you'll just not care about them anymore and wear what you want!
When I saw you at first I got so happy to see the body type as mine :")
thank you for making this video, i'm very thankful for you, It is hard to find words to express my gratitude, you're beautiful❣❣
That's another thing: I DONT HAVE ANY KIDS so it angers me when I see obese people or mothers who have none, meanwhile, my life has been ruined since 15 just because of puberty
❤️❤️ I have strech marks all over my body coz I lost weight
Tnx you so much I do have a lot to stretch marks on my body
And am happy to see dis video🥰
My pleasure 😊 Rock your marks, Nikki! You only get one body and it deserves the love you can give it.
so proud of you to talk about that
STRECH MARKS ARE BEAUTIFUL 😍
Thank you, your video helped me love myself more💖. I am 16 years old and I have stretch marks in the same place and I am very sensitive about them💔 but I am happy to see some girls suffer from the same thing 🫂. I use a translator, sorry if there are mistakes🤍.
Oh God to know ppl feel the way I do even after the weightloss there still there and white and I never wanna take off my shirt got them at 15 little by little
This is what i need at this time thanks a lot ☺️
I'm a guy and I hate my body because I have stretch marks all over my body on my arms and my thighs and the back of my legs I'm always afraid of being judged
I'm 19 and this helped me....Thank you❤
I like naturally hate beaches and I hate the summer/spring time because I have to stay so covered up, there's not much I can wear
Thank you, i have stretch marks from my butt all the way down. I never show my legs because I'm insecure about the stretch marks. Im 19 and i hope one day i can wear a skirt, be confident like you.
I feel like when you get stretch marks all over, it's like I have a skin condition that I have to hide because it's seen as "my fault" and not something I'm born with
Mam u r so positive with ur body ..thank u so much for opening my mind 😊
Girl, I've had stretch marks all over my body since 15 (I'm 25 now) and my life has been seriously ruined. There are so many things I've never worn and could never wear because I'm freaking cursed!
Thank you so much, this helped me a lot ❤️
Same I got stretch marks everywhere, I never wore string crop tops or short tops
Hey girlll !!!! Thank u so much for making this video.You dont even know how much i want this 😣..i too have the same problem and i feel weird bcoz i have asked many ppl around who have veryy less stretchmarks but not like me the whole body !!!
Let me be honest iam afraid to get into relationship or marriage bcoz of these..what if they hate me !! What if they leave me !!! What if they see and yell ewwww !!! Iam very much depressed 😑
Me toooo 😔😞
Girl I know 100% how you're feeling but let me tell you, If someone likes you for you then they aren't gonna give a shit about your stretch marks. We think people care more about that stuff than we think, sending love you are beautiful ❤
I hve it on my calves stl not brave to wear dress
Girl you are not alone I have it on my claves too and actually is really hard to me wear a dress,bikini or even a shorts😭
I'm 18 yo and i had my first stretch marks on my bo0bs and then ly feet ... shoulders ... Stomach... arm's...i felt so insecure abd still feeling that 💔
i think stretch marks are beautiful since they look like tree barks. i really do and i dont know why others dont see the beauty in them.
At a moment I thought of covering it with a lot of tattoo because it make me insecure expesially at the gym
I love your smile 😊
nice video!
You are so pretty mam ..am 25 year old I have red Strech marks..you encourage me ..in my thigh lot of stretch marks...but I want to ask you mam ??.. it’s really your real Strech marks😳..I don’t believe ..you are such a 😇 angel
One thing I'll NEVER EVER EVER do is let a man see them, especially my belly! OMG I would be so ashamed. Me and my ex were together for 5 YEARS and he's never seen me without a shirt on.
I'm also very scared I feel ashamed I try all sorts of things to remove them but they develop more and more and if anyone sees them they ask alot and makes me feel uncomfortable and I even fell to have a boyfriend because I feel ashamed that maybe I did something that made them appear on my body
THANK YOU! 😎❣️😎
You’re so beautiful 🥰
I love stretch marks 😍 they’re beautiful.
BTW you’re beautiful. 🥰
Thank you so mach , you saved me😄❤️
❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you
If I had one wishhhhhh
Thank u
Am about to cover up my stretch with colourful tattoo
Teenage girls:exist
Stretch marks:👀
you look beautiful just be you are
Girl power
love you
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You look very beautiful 😘
Shopping is soooo hard like this because you can't wear anything cute
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U r very beautiful woman
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I think stretch marks on a woman is a turn on 🤤