Why I Won’t Date Another Person with Disabilities | Love Enabled Part 2/6
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- čas přidán 8. 11. 2023
- Should people with disabilities date each other? That’s what Stephanie, who has cerebral palsy, has thought about countless times. And the answer isn’t as straightforward as you might think.
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internally crying @ the dating coach's "you're overthinking this" remark at Stephanie. here she is sharing her (very valid) experience/opinion on the physical constraints of dating someone with the same disabilities as her and that's the first thing she says? pain. Stephanie, if you're seeing this, you're not overthinking it. emotional aspect aside, I think it's very practical and understandable for you to not want to date someone with the same disability as you. Thank you for sharing your story
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absolutely right. nothing wrong with being realistic. that’s how to get far in life and love. stephanie is a smart lady, she would have picked up the good advice and left the not so useful ones behind.
Exactly! Anyone with a chronic condition would understand and empathize. I am a brain injury survivor and I am always thinking about implications for the future, whatever I do.
@@Stephanie.esther.fam7926 Your fears are valid and I want to affirm that you know what you need best. I hope you find someone who loves and supports you in the ways that you need. Wishing you all the best! Thanks for putting yourself out here and helping us understand what life is like for people with disabilities.
Side note: many of the commenters here are being a little harsh to the dating coach. I think she could have phrased it much better, but I suspect her sentiment was to not hold onto limiting thoughts and be open to whoever may enter our lives, as long as the dynamic is a good one. :)
@@Stephanie.esther.fam7926 As someone who is 45 and single, I think she was trying to say, "Just find someone that you like who likes you back" without putting so much pressure on finding someone who is also able to be a caretaker. I super sympathize with trying to avoid the pain of loss though. I think that is a reason a lot of people (of all kinds) hesitate to try dating at all.
“You can’t understand someone until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.” Certain psychologists, therapists and life coaches choose a pragmatic approach to dealing with people and this is a stumbling block. Very often all you need to do is to let compassion resonate and BE HUMAN. Only Stephanie knows the true depths of her heart and what she has been through and she has EVERY right to have certain fears.
I need that "I'm not angry this is just my face" shirt
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@@Stephanie.esther.fam7926 oh my gosh you actually saw!!! you're really wonderful and I wish you all the best in your search for a soul mate ! I think your judgement of character is really good and don't settle for anything less ❤️❤️
The relationship coach is definitely competent in working with most people. What the coach suggested is suitable for a person without physical mobility issue, and probably even ok for normal dating for Stephanie to expand her social circles.
But she's probably not trained in disability studies. Let's put ourselves in Stephanie's shoes that her point on not necessarily dating another person with disability is valid too. Stephanie has a very practical reason- she is dating for a potential lifetime partner, and probably has a vision of living with her partner by themselves without the intrusion of a caregiver/helper. We are just too boxed in by the stereotypes that is already outdated.
Love seeing Winston's and Siok Chin's story! They are a success inter-abled story which a person with disability and person without disability can be together and go about doing regular things together despite some challenges that they face.
Stephanie has such a cool vibe with an amazing personality to boot. She deserves to love and be loved. I am rooting for her and I can't wait for the next episode !
Thanks for the compliment
@@Stephanie.esther.fam7926 You are so welcome. May all your dreams and aspirations come true.
This is so refreshing to watch. Really enjoy this series and appreciate all the profiles for sharing their lives with us☺️
The relationship ‘coach’ Tricia really cannot make it.. really low EQ and awareness in the way she responds to Stephanie concerns. How is she even a coach? Disgrace. Agree to other similar comments about her
Yep, the ""coach"" is clueless, superficial and tone deaf and not listening to the client. Clearly they are on different wavelengths.
Ogs release 1 ep per week too slow. Losing viewers' interest.
Just watched the last 5 minutes. No wonder the client lady does not want to disclose anything to the lame ""coach"". Won't watch next ep, since they are siccing the bimboe coach on the nice married couple. Yawner.
Stephanie speaks so well! Her English and pronunciation is super on point!!
I really enjoy your content, OGS. They promote love, inclusivity and diversity. More of such content please!
Very interesting series! So refreshing to be able to see their perspective of love and dating. Can’t wait for the next part already 🥰
Haven't caught up? Watch Episode 1 here: czcams.com/video/vpGisyhHOvs/video.html
The relationship advisor really suck..
"got one shop here, you wanna go and SEE" 😂😂😂
They are all so truly romantic.
this makes it pretty hopeless for a man with disabilities. Its hard enough being a normal man in this day and age
Stef's love story 😢
i think alex in the wrong dating show
and 17:46 took me out 🤣
how to be a relationship coach as career?
winston seems like a really sweet husband to siok chin
I think it is more like he felt some inferiority complex with siok chin because of his past experience and his own disability so he is more accommodating to her needs and wants. I'm very sure that he will be really very faithful to siok chin however it have to depend whether she can continue to be so patient having to keep repeating herself daily. Actually I can feel that she look a bit annoyed when communicating with him at some parts just that she laughed it off to hide her frustrations.
the 'relationship counsellor' so tone deaf bruh
Jia you!!
All the random people on the internet thinking they can do a better job than the coach by watching a youtube video compared to the coach who spent all day with her.. clearly unaware of your limitations :)
It's amazing how thoroughly you have both missed and misrepresented mens' perspectives on this.
6:54, i beg to differ. At my age 30+, most guys go on dates with the intention of BTO within 1 yr. They will leave on the spot kind if dont think can be a couple. People dont need friends lol 🫠
9:02 why is that a problem, normal single people also may not pick up