Dr. Joshua Coleman on his Book, "Rules of Estrangement"
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- čas přidán 29. 11. 2022
- Dr. Joshua Coleman talks with Dr. Colleen Murray about his book, "Rules of Estrangement".
Next week on Families Divided TV, Dr. Sue Cornbluth speaks on finding the power to reconnect with your children.
I had one child estrange from me over 25 years ago because of PAS. I grieved constantly for years and went through all the stages of grief multiple times, and finally recovered. Now a second child wants to be abusive and estranged and I just don't care to ever see her again. If she could watch everything I went through and do this along with outright emotional elder abuse (verbal and threats with rocks and dumping massive amounts of trash for me to pick up) ... I really don't want to leave myself open to another attack from her. I don't want to read a book about parents wanting to reconcile. I'd like to have a book on being okay with your estranged child's decision to be estranged. About praying for them and being okay with their life choices, from a safe and happy distance.
my sons accepted my amends letter and apology. My daughter totally ignored all of my efforts. SHE is a therapist !!
So very sorry. Go figure,huh?
Hi Shelly. I wonder if you will see my message. I am trying to begin an amends letter to two of my 7 children. My daughter ( the therapist/ psychologist) began this in my family and she seems to have enough influence over the others, she always did, that she is spreading her ideology to others. Recently my son, who I always had a close relationship with too, entered therapy and is now keeping his distance as well, along with his sweet wife and my precious grandson. AS you can imagine and relate to, I am broken hearted.
I'm wondering if you can advise me as to where to find the guidelines for the amends letter. The video above gave me some good tips, but I really need an outline for the type of letter i need to write. My daughter has specified why she is distant. My son has not yet.
Do you know which book I should use?
I want to move on this asap.
Thank you.
Suzanne
Some Gen X parents might not gonna be doing this in certain and specific cases. I definitely have blind spots when I had to put up with abusive behavior and then, have the victim/offender order reversed on me. Maybe I need to just allow their individualism and let them have their life how they want to craft it. I don’t have to be included, I’m coming to accept the exclusion. I may be happier enjoying my own life and the people who WANT me in it. Godspeed and all God’s blessing to adult children who cutoff their parents. I pray they have peace and happiness bc I’m sure going to have mine. They are welcome back anytime, without blaming and finger pointing, shaming and definitely without abusive name calling, pushing and reversing the victim/offender order after their blow up event. Have a beautiful life bc I will and I am going to enjoy my beautiful life.
Moo too
so sorry for your "loss"