How to find out if the narcissist is cheating on you

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  • čas přidán 8. 09. 2024
  • How to find out if the narcissist is cheating on you. Info clip about narcissistic abuse. Narcissists project, and don't want to take responsibility for their actions, but they do tell on themselves. If you want to know more about narcissism, watch the documentary on narcissistic abuse on my channel.

Komentáře • 122

  • @audtasticgirl
    @audtasticgirl Před rokem +78

    You know a narc is cheating when they are breathing.

  • @luizenidog5016
    @luizenidog5016 Před rokem +87

    Also when they pull away and de-value you , at that point they are already with another person for emotional supply and are gonna replace you soon .

    • @moonglow1158
      @moonglow1158 Před rokem +2

      Hmm how awful

    • @moonglow1158
      @moonglow1158 Před rokem +6

      Yeah , they reallly don’t like it when go away on your own bc you know something is up . They only Hoover you back to discard you . One might think they would admit and be mature about it nope. They need to discard or hope to triangulate you forever .

    • @luizenidog5016
      @luizenidog5016 Před rokem +1

      @@moonglow1158 yeah so very true as well . In my case its her loss , I'm handsome I was loyal I've had offers from other women so the ex can take her junk elsewhere, it took me a while to realize this , I had to heal to get there , crazy how they become your every wish and fantasy until their done with you , well this guy here is gonna search for my Unicorn , I'm done with the fish 🤣 .

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@moonglow1158you know. Smart one, that you are

  • @yvonnelygo681
    @yvonnelygo681 Před rokem +47

    You get accused of being paranoid.

    • @erehistruth2356
      @erehistruth2356 Před rokem +7

      Or being insecure.

    • @codywhatshisface7220
      @codywhatshisface7220 Před rokem +1

      Fr

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino Před 8 měsíci +1

      Yep. And 10/10 you’re not. That’s just what they do as a defense. And try to trip you out aka gaslight you

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino Před 8 měsíci

      @@erehistruth2356yea they said that before

    • @rozalina531
      @rozalina531 Před 4 měsíci

      Gaslighting, lovebombing, devaluation, discard,
      repeat = Typical covert narcicistic abuse. No contact or 'grey rock' forever is the only option. Standard 💯

  • @mightymouse1005
    @mightymouse1005 Před rokem +31

    I would say...."your right, I don't deserve you, you need to leave "

    • @monaj4079
      @monaj4079 Před 8 měsíci

      And when you do wanna leave, they become crazy and saying you can't leave me after you showed me the love and support you did🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️like what the hell... I told him that's on you not appreciated the things I gave you SMH

  • @GoGo..
    @GoGo.. Před rokem +33

    All Narcs do. They can't help themselves. They've done it from the start.

  • @Moon1341
    @Moon1341 Před rokem +27

    “No honey, I’m not.” Was always his answer. Played me like a damn fool

    • @ummumami
      @ummumami Před rokem +6

      "there's literally no one else, I go to work and come home to you"

    • @kasandramullins9890
      @kasandramullins9890 Před 8 měsíci

      He swore on his dead fathers grave...

    • @duck9886
      @duck9886 Před 5 měsíci

      @@kasandramullins9890 mine sweared on his dead granny grave. They’re such pieces of shits 😅

  • @Trendsetter5420
    @Trendsetter5420 Před rokem +26

    My ex :" im 32 im getting old. Id never do that, im tryna settle down with you. Why would you ask me that?" WHOLE TIME CHEATING LMAO but also tried to accuse me of cheating knowing im not like that which is why he chose me to keep me in his pocket

    • @duck9886
      @duck9886 Před 5 měsíci

      @octoberfire13trust he will Hoover you. Stay so strong please. Do not take him back.

  • @cynthiafortier2540
    @cynthiafortier2540 Před rokem +34

    It's not fun for them if their not cheating.

  • @marywilsonvocalist2181
    @marywilsonvocalist2181 Před rokem +32

    His personal grooming suggests he was cheating..

  • @kimdurig1322
    @kimdurig1322 Před rokem +15

    We are just friends , famous last words of the narcissist

    • @erehistruth2356
      @erehistruth2356 Před rokem +1

      Yeah they are friends that have sex. If I told my story people would truly be shocked.

  • @marilynmonroe6130
    @marilynmonroe6130 Před rokem +33

    How do you know a narcissist is cheating??
    YES

  • @queenofpeaceandlove1413
    @queenofpeaceandlove1413 Před rokem +5

    When I found out he was cheating, that was the Question he ask. Makes me feel confused. Thanks to God showing everything.

  • @lisaevans3600
    @lisaevans3600 Před rokem +24

    I asked him and he said I was the one cheating, he said that the one accusing or asking about it is the one doing it

    • @stephanniev9
      @stephanniev9 Před rokem +5

      But if they were the ones to accuse first and we say that to them when they ask then it doesn’t count and doesn’t work like that. We are just trying to do a reverse psychology or something.

    • @janiseluvspink8769
      @janiseluvspink8769 Před rokem +1

      wow your guy sounds alot like mine . its amazing they have the nerve to turn it around on us and accuse us of what they are really doing . smh 🙄

    • @malicedewon1376
      @malicedewon1376 Před rokem

      B...h told me that 😂

  • @hallmorrison
    @hallmorrison Před 7 měsíci +1

    Very true. The saddest thing that can befall any person is being a narcissist. It's a curse. My experience with a partner that was a covert narc made the notion that evil works within people, very real

  • @destinyinvest364
    @destinyinvest364 Před rokem +13

    It doesn’t matter cause they say it’s your fault why they are doing so

    • @tinyshinyyyy
      @tinyshinyyyy Před 5 měsíci

      Mine said you know when men are not satisfied with their woman and don’t get peace they will find someone to cheat with. What a revelation

  • @zima3181
    @zima3181 Před rokem +22

    "She is just my friend. So what that she is sitting in my lap at a cafe and smiling just so, while you are at work? ...How did you see those pictures?"

  • @dayz4030
    @dayz4030 Před rokem +11

    She’s on point 💯

  • @shadvaira3231
    @shadvaira3231 Před 11 měsíci +2

    Having to ask the question to begin with, you know the answer. With narcissist, they always flip it or spin it back upon you like it’s your fault. I bought my wife a ring, and had to apologize to her for accusing her of cheating on me and when I gave her her that ring, she said “aww all it’s gonna do is remind me of him”. That’s abuse in itself.

  • @amiravdic7451
    @amiravdic7451 Před rokem +1

    I get malicious sarcasm from her “O really!!? What did the voices tell u!? Who is he? What’s his name? I’d love to know too!! 🤣😂😆”

  • @chestrockwell7306
    @chestrockwell7306 Před rokem +3

    Truth!! My ex wife would reverse it every time or say she should should be with someone else who trusts

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino Před 8 měsíci

      Sorry😂 I told mines, see ya haaaaa

  • @desireeclark7105
    @desireeclark7105 Před rokem +3

    Omg 😳...
    My lover did just that...
    When I told him I felt like just another notch in his belt, he literally told me he was pissed off that I would even say such a hurtful thing and would just move on...
    so we broke up. It was so sad ...
    but he's been ghosting me for almost 9 months now. ✌️😢
    Wishing him loving light 💕❤️🎊

    • @marilynmonroe6130
      @marilynmonroe6130 Před rokem +4

      Dear girl, he's not ghosting you, he has another receptacle. O contact and working hard on your damaged self worth is so valuable for the quality of the Rest of Your Life. Let the demon go.
      Been there, happier than I ever dreamed possible now.

  • @nv_chino
    @nv_chino Před 8 měsíci +1

    Lol… when you know that the energy is off , that’ll let you know that something sinister is in the air. At first in my youth, it was hard to figure out because I wasn’t as smart and experienced as I am now

  • @JamesThomas-zl9er
    @JamesThomas-zl9er Před rokem +3

    I got “you shouldn’t have figured it out!” 😂 really!!

  • @GeorgiaJakes7
    @GeorgiaJakes7 Před rokem +7

    They are breathing …

  • @oscarcalderon7942
    @oscarcalderon7942 Před rokem +2

    All i did was ask her and what she did was flip it on me then act like a victim! Her actions spoke louder its just that i was too focused on working to make things happen that i couldn't see the red flags.

  • @JAI_RAM111
    @JAI_RAM111 Před rokem +3

    I love this girl ❤ - she tells it just the way it is- go girl 👏

  • @geiger521
    @geiger521 Před měsícem

    My favorite during this breakup

  • @calvarado1520
    @calvarado1520 Před rokem +2

    Expose the narcissist for who they really are and make sure you have no mercy on the them. 👍

  • @Scorpio200
    @Scorpio200 Před rokem +4

    Truth truth truth ....

  • @jacquelinefroehle3583
    @jacquelinefroehle3583 Před rokem +4

    They will also tell you they are and threaten you.

    • @nv_chino
      @nv_chino Před 8 měsíci

      Yea some can be bold. Mines were the sneaky type

  • @myblueskye777
    @myblueskye777 Před rokem +4

    Most narcs cheat.

  • @a7xironmaiden
    @a7xironmaiden Před rokem +2

    How do you know if a narcissist is cheating? Well the answer is all narcissists cheat. It's a matter of when if you're with one or they have been but they haven't been caught by you or you haven't picked up on it

  • @TheLastEgg08
    @TheLastEgg08 Před rokem +1

    Or they whip it out even if you didn’t even mention it. I told him I would love to see you interact more with me and it’s taking a toll on me and he immediately went like “I care about you and it’s not because we don’t see each other much that I’m cheating on you”. He gave it away and I didn’t even ask but at the time I didn’t see that he was closing the doors of suspicion.

  • @hiramwhitaker3739
    @hiramwhitaker3739 Před 5 měsíci

    🎯 very similar defence.

  • @pope1089
    @pope1089 Před 11 měsíci +1

    They ain't a narc if their not doing anything behind your back

  • @triplegrace155
    @triplegrace155 Před rokem +2

    Exactly my experience.

  • @geraldfriend256
    @geraldfriend256 Před rokem +1

    It is like how can you tell when a politician is lying,,their lips move. How can you tell if a narcissist is cheating? They are, just trust me

  • @alloftheabove4106
    @alloftheabove4106 Před rokem +2

    I gave so much effort into the relationship that when he constantly accused me of cheating it was a huge insult. So I'm not sure if this is true

  • @oda1332
    @oda1332 Před rokem +1

    Its the other way around actually. They accuse you of cheating and try to make them self feel better .

  • @jen4yahwehsal176
    @jen4yahwehsal176 Před 8 měsíci +2

    He blocked me. Just because I said he hurt my feelings I texted him from another number saying hi and he goes. What's up? What are you doing? And then he called me and I said Hey, he said Hey, I said. Don't you know who this is? You know who this is right? He goes, no. I said you don't know my voice. He goes no. I go say my name Tony say my name and he wouldn't. He hung up. Then when I texted was me? He called me fucking stupid and call kinds of awful names

    • @michaelporlier8957
      @michaelporlier8957 Před 5 měsíci

      When I see other people's stories it makes me realize that my narc is the same. The patterns are the same. I love and want to help them so badly, but the disrespect the name calling... they only come back because they know we will be here... it's such a vicious cycle. I hope you're doing alright

    • @jen4yahwehsal176
      @jen4yahwehsal176 Před 5 měsíci

      @@michaelporlier8957 Thank you. He's gone. His phone was disconnected. I think he got fired from his job I believe it was a demonic assignment he's gone. My faith in god is even stronger

  • @mariajessielocklear8246
    @mariajessielocklear8246 Před rokem +1

    Major confession...hmm...okay. Good to know.
    🙏 Vengeance is mine saith The Lord.

  • @SophiaPistos3M-vm6lu
    @SophiaPistos3M-vm6lu Před 8 měsíci

    Finally someone said it i knew it

  • @puzzling7785
    @puzzling7785 Před 9 měsíci

    Best accent on earth!

  • @bunnykinssmile
    @bunnykinssmile Před 9 měsíci

    I got accused of absolutely everything. Even attacked dragged by my hair just for picking up shopping on my lunch break( deliver driver for super market), saying I hate lies! then his side piece showed up an his face was like a deer in head lights. He ran inside the house hiding when he eventually came out by which point I’d got to my car to leave, an the girl left, he said “just think how we have hurt her, bringing her into our drama” 😮wtf

  • @danajaye2911
    @danajaye2911 Před rokem +3

    Far too much detail. If they have high narcissistic traits then Yes is the answer. They are always setting up secondaries. Always.

  • @audreyblackmon8413
    @audreyblackmon8413 Před 8 měsíci

    He’s hollering at me

  • @rkerkins1551
    @rkerkins1551 Před 7 měsíci

    What about: “That’s going to break me away from you if you ask again “ in my mind it said it’s happened, and it will happen again easily, if you keep asking. Serious inquiries please 🙏

  • @drr7086
    @drr7086 Před rokem +1

    Not if the victim has been subject to abuse for 20+ years the narcissist trys to trow it back on you mine even tried to convince me the lady at the store seen me kiss someone outside, when i went to ask her they changed the story around

  • @d.h.fremont3027
    @d.h.fremont3027 Před rokem +14

    All cheaters are narcs.

  • @ronaldmartino2610
    @ronaldmartino2610 Před rokem +3

    Riigghht, I don't deserve you. Would you please discard me? Thank you.

  • @TheSnedmeister
    @TheSnedmeister Před rokem

    💯 I've heard delusional. But her final email said exactly that. Crazy making

  • @ArnoldJim
    @ArnoldJim Před měsícem

    Yup

  • @luaraujo6023
    @luaraujo6023 Před rokem +2

    Lol exactlyyyyyy
    Oh ! You saying I’m cheating on you! It’s because you have no trust in me oh it’s not because I did win the past that I’m gonna do it again ,,, blah blah he will answer that way!!!

  • @audreyblackmon8413
    @audreyblackmon8413 Před 8 měsíci +1

    My gut says he’s cheating I can’t sleep
    With him

    • @tinyshinyyyy
      @tinyshinyyyy Před 5 měsíci

      Don’t do it, stay clean…God knows what they carry around

  • @kirstygascoyne178
    @kirstygascoyne178 Před rokem +1

    But I reply like this! When dealing with obsessive jealousy and insecurity, I either lose patience and dont know why i bother or point if they never understand who i am. Or I I'm angry they'd even think that about me in the beginning as I think it taints our trust which I thought was growing perfectly.
    However, I've also been treated like this when I had a narcissist boyfriend who was lying to me very obviously for 6 months and consequently made me ill with the gaslighting.
    So I find this one difficult..depends on circumstances.

  • @amandamelvin89
    @amandamelvin89 Před rokem +2

    So if him and I are in an argument and let's say I haven't painted my nails for a long time and I saw a pretty nail polish that my daughter was using and I picked it up and started to paint my nails. And then later when he left for work he texted me saying that he knew that I was painting my nails because he thought that I was cheating, meanwhile I thought that I was expecting a baby his baby and we're going on 5 years of being together. So to tell me he was just really guilty of something he may have done himself? Please somebody respond am I stupid

    • @nanabear2.026
      @nanabear2.026 Před rokem +2

      They project, if he suddenly accuses you of cheating, it’s a very bad sign.

    • @HeavenTriesIt
      @HeavenTriesIt Před rokem

      My Narcissist husband that im trying to leave treats me like this.
      When I want to lose weight
      When I start wearing makeup again
      If I ask to get my hair done
      If I want new clothes
      When I talk about finishing college
      When I apply for a job
      My husband will start acting very paranoid and begin to accuse me of talking to men. It will be at the most random times.
      He's allowed to go through my phone. But if he catches me looking through his... All of a sudden he gets really hypersensitive and violent.
      He keeps me looking ragged... And won't buy me any clothes. Although he always has money to keep himself in nice clothes with a nice haircut to match.
      Basically he's trying to make me look less desirable because in his head he think I cannot do better than him.
      Narcissist love to control too much! Also they try to break your confidence down overtime.
      It always starts off with something small like doing your nails and them flipping out.

  • @crystalclimenhage7159
    @crystalclimenhage7159 Před 11 měsíci

    They talk

  • @natashacastro71
    @natashacastro71 Před rokem

    Dean Delgado from Astoria

  • @ByronRainer-AMG
    @ByronRainer-AMG Před 7 měsíci

    You can't see them

  • @petey75nyc
    @petey75nyc Před rokem

    Damn....to a "T".

  • @user-dt4by5cg1p
    @user-dt4by5cg1p Před rokem

    Ik denk dat ik jouw ex narc had ontmoet, en begon te vertellen dat ik net uit een narc relatioship kwam... later liet hij me fotos van jouw zien... was n tijdje geleden hoor... heb hem daarna niet meer gesproken... maar was wel apart ❤❤❤❤

  • @svetlanaantonio
    @svetlanaantonio Před rokem +1

    💯

  • @ArnoldJim
    @ArnoldJim Před měsícem

    I need a new gf that's not narcs I've cried like crazy

  • @ViktorAZIM
    @ViktorAZIM Před 9 měsíci

    are you Finnish?

  • @sarahdixon6011
    @sarahdixon6011 Před rokem

    Are you Icelandic?

  • @nocturnalgaming4269
    @nocturnalgaming4269 Před rokem +1

    Well fuck

  • @emmarae4322
    @emmarae4322 Před 10 měsíci

    Hmm, they are alive?

  • @lerakrasimirova2245
    @lerakrasimirova2245 Před rokem +1

    Hey Aletta, zo erg zijn ze he.

  • @meganbaker5787
    @meganbaker5787 Před rokem

    Yessssssss

  • @EvaEva-lf3ww
    @EvaEva-lf3ww Před 9 měsíci

    👏👍

  • @chrissugrue4464
    @chrissugrue4464 Před rokem

    Mine brings her home

    • @erehistruth2356
      @erehistruth2356 Před rokem

      Oh hell naw. Mine goes to her house, but acts like they are friends. Most of his friends don't have morals or values so you know what's going down.

  • @user-1wyg5fdik45
    @user-1wyg5fdik45 Před rokem

    😢

  • @TredPillR
    @TredPillR Před rokem

    Your take is wrong on so many levels.

  • @terrysmith1419
    @terrysmith1419 Před rokem

    Are you serious? Who cares about the narc The fact that I commented is that I'm waaayuuu over that What is it? A NARC? 💪💯🤔🤣🤣🤣

  • @desertdweller9548
    @desertdweller9548 Před rokem +1

    For a short, you sure dragged this out. Get to the damn point.

  • @alondraacosta-mora6504
    @alondraacosta-mora6504 Před 11 měsíci +1

    They accuse you of cheating