Inherited Family Trauma with Mark Wolynn

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  • čas přidán 22. 05. 2021
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Komentáře • 59

  • @orahzamir3562
    @orahzamir3562 Před 2 lety +15

    I grew up with a narcissistic mother. The problem is the way women are treated in this culture. Women are not just mothers. Women are human beings with their own needs. When women's emotional needs aren't met, they are emotionally unavailable to meet their children's emotional needs.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Před 8 měsíci

      Someone pls xplain what a narcissistic mother is.

    • @razvanzamfir8561
      @razvanzamfir8561 Před 2 měsíci

      Cheers for this insight. The way you wrote this comments seems that you had childhood trauma caused by your mom and you were able to overcome the pain and forgive her. Any useful book/ program that helped you do that? Thanks

  • @marifhossain
    @marifhossain Před rokem +5

    Thank you for sharing. Along with Mark's work, a complementary work is Family Constellation Therapy there the dead ancestors or parents of the adopted childs are brought into play and the client can observe the dynamics and can heal himself or herself of the past trauma. This work is originally done by Bert Hellinger. There client can perticipate in the healing process himself. There are some fascinating videos including schizophrenia. Hope this will help many who are passing through conditions of extreme trauma, depression that generated at many generations back.

  • @selmananic639
    @selmananic639 Před 3 lety +16

    I have just started working with a therapist on a trauma that I have experienced 30 yrs ago and I am so happy to get this video in my email today 🙏🏽

  • @dancer12396
    @dancer12396 Před 2 lety +8

    Thank you for the validation. Its been hard not to resent my mom for giving me her trauma even though it's not her fault

  • @contactlight8079
    @contactlight8079 Před 2 lety +18

    My entire family is trauma. Both parents and all 4 grandparents had top quality trauma. I wouldn't know who to pin my inherited trauma on to. Loved the book BTW.

  • @chilloften
    @chilloften Před 3 lety +5

    Wow, it’s so crucial, parenting.

  • @cindychurch335
    @cindychurch335 Před rokem +5

    Wow, this is never ending! It means virtually ever human whoever lived or will live has or had trauma. So I’m a 66 year old grandmother who had unresolved trauma until recently. This means it was too late for my children and grandchildren. 😢

    • @roottoflywithkamila
      @roottoflywithkamila Před rokem +10

      It’s never too late to help your children and grandchildren heal. When you resolve your trauma it is felt in the family line from both directions I believe. Be the example for them of healing and help them understand what you have to come learn. That will be the greatest gift you can ever give them.

    • @jeankoehler
      @jeankoehler Před měsícem

      Not true at all. You’re 66 and you’re resolving the trauma ‘inflicted’ on you by your ancestors. There are remedies (you’ve recently learned this!)… I think that’s the point of the book.

  • @ryanpalma5947
    @ryanpalma5947 Před 2 lety +2

    Wow that Alzheimer’s comment was profound, this was a phenomenal dialogue , outstanding work

  • @alrosserphotography1293
    @alrosserphotography1293 Před 3 lety +8

    This has been soo helpful. My father died before I was born, and my mum wasn't emotionally available, so a lot of this resonates with me and helps me understand myself a little better. I will definitely be coming back for another listen

  • @Jasmine-ww6tb
    @Jasmine-ww6tb Před 4 měsíci

    From one of the earliest childhood trauma I can remember was being a young girl (from 3-7) and was terrified of being deployed to war. As I got older the fear has started to dissipate. The topic of war still rattles me sometimes but this all makes sense because my grandpa was force to go to war and my mother when she was a child and around the same age at the time had to go into hiding. my father was also very young and was terrified of being deployed for war and he also came from a military background. I never understood why I had this intense fear since I came from loving parents that didn’t speak about war around me and I didn’t know about their childhood experience until my late teens. I just had this intense anxiety that I might be deployed, I had to fight, and possible die at a young age. Very interesting and thank you for sharing what you have discovered. This study has defiantly put a lot of new insight for me.

  • @nkinyori
    @nkinyori Před 3 lety +8

    Wow. I may have to come back to this again and again. So many gems! I felt triggered and empowered at the same time 😁

  • @belencristina
    @belencristina Před 3 lety +7

    Wow, this is such a treat! I'm currently reading this book. Thank you.

  • @linesyverinsen9215
    @linesyverinsen9215 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks so much for this amazing interview!

  • @Aurora-Rose01
    @Aurora-Rose01 Před 3 lety +1

    I found this extremely healing it had me in tears. Thank you so much for doing this one🙏 much love 💖

  • @skbains86
    @skbains86 Před 3 lety +2

    This is fascinating and thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom.

  • @FRM888
    @FRM888 Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you very much for this.

  • @hadasabutbul9665
    @hadasabutbul9665 Před 3 lety +2

    So many things are being connected and understood..
    Thank you so much for this amazing and healing interview 😇💗

  • @veronicafiore1149
    @veronicafiore1149 Před 3 lety +2

    Fantastic enlightening interview. So deep and powerful. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @Soulfulsomatic
    @Soulfulsomatic Před 3 lety +3

    Thank you for the work YOU are sharing. Incredibly appreciate the light you shine and the leadership you embody.

  • @Maximus-gp7td
    @Maximus-gp7td Před rokem +1

    Fantastic interview, I appreciate it. Thank you.

  • @MFK1967
    @MFK1967 Před 3 lety +1

    Fascinating and compelling - frightening

  • @BarbaraTechel
    @BarbaraTechel Před rokem

    I'm understanding this more and more all the time - and Mark's book is so helpful! Thank you for the beautiful discussion.

  • @creatingdigitalassets
    @creatingdigitalassets Před 3 lety +2

    Excellent video Sheleana

  • @chanamiriam8923
    @chanamiriam8923 Před rokem

    Wow thank you for this.

  • @felinedaze2058
    @felinedaze2058 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for making this video. I really appreciate it and I feel armed with insight and a starting point for me to heal, and to be able to speak to my children and my partner. Thank you. 🙏

  • @simonaberardozzi6600
    @simonaberardozzi6600 Před rokem +1

    Thank you Sheleana for this amazing interview with Mark Wolynn. I litterally loved every word, so so interesting. I liked when he talked about the 4 different ways of "breaking the bond" with our mothers and how this can impact on us. I was wondering if this can be related with a break in the bond with our father too. Thank you 🙏

  • @AndreaBuck21
    @AndreaBuck21 Před 3 měsíci

    Great interview, thank you 🩵

  • @mave3001
    @mave3001 Před 9 měsíci

    Woah this was amazing

  • @christinemartinez2485
    @christinemartinez2485 Před 9 měsíci

    I am shocked, my daughter sees how her dad neg. affected her but now I see how much I continued the trauma. 😢Time for healing ❤

  • @abookhoarder7802
    @abookhoarder7802 Před 2 lety +1

    I have been recommending this book since I read it about a year ago. Mark has such an awesome vibe.

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Před 8 měsíci

      Yes, I like him better than Gabor.

  • @EveBriere-zb8bz
    @EveBriere-zb8bz Před 3 měsíci

    Thanks for this video!
    When is the new book coming out ??

  • @NiKi-ij2ln
    @NiKi-ij2ln Před 9 měsíci

    I resonate soo much yes...I am 24 year old son living with my mom, and trying to heal this inherited trauma etc, I came to this through astrology, the Pluto Moon conjunction which I have ...thank you for this, its amazing ❤🙏😇

  • @stellabrown909
    @stellabrown909 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Same with slavery

  • @jessicaf6358
    @jessicaf6358 Před 10 měsíci

    27:00 Edward Tronick "Still Face Experiment" spoken of.

  • @candidadaniels7231
    @candidadaniels7231 Před 10 měsíci

    Is there a link to the referenced interview on fathers? Thank you!

  • @markartist8646
    @markartist8646 Před rokem +1

    And what if the parents are abusive narcissists???

  • @Riddhimma.bansal
    @Riddhimma.bansal Před 2 lety +1

    I wonder if our dads who physically abused our mums loved us? Our moms did. Did our dads?

  • @leroygreen1877
    @leroygreen1877 Před 2 měsíci

    Im screwed my family tree on both sides has nothing but truamas. Explain why my cptsd is so bad.....sigh

  • @YuliaGrushevskaya-bi6he
    @YuliaGrushevskaya-bi6he Před 10 měsíci

    😊I see it clearly now how horribly cruel my mother was and is to me and how she is suffering herself and that I simply run away from her abd how good I felt when i was in a new environment!) I really was in pain in my family, there are lots of happy families and parents that are loving incouraging and not victims of their life! My mother is so toxique that I was pisically ill being next to her. In host families I was happy! Away I am happy!)❤🎉 I don't wanna carry her stuff with me wanna be happy❤🎉😊!

  • @Cocobelle96
    @Cocobelle96 Před rokem +2

    Really low volume :(

  • @connieharrison5738
    @connieharrison5738 Před 10 měsíci

    How would this trauma manifest in a 1 month old infant?

  • @suzanneatwood8855
    @suzanneatwood8855 Před 2 lety +1

    I missed the point about how to heal if you never knew your parent, as you did not know your father or who he was even. Can someone explain?

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Před 8 měsíci

      Can't explain without the book in front of me, but he does cover your question in It Didn't Start With You.

  • @rosannaellis4965
    @rosannaellis4965 Před 3 lety +1

    Please can you post the video that Mark spoke about with the mother and baby?

    • @RisingWoman
      @RisingWoman  Před 3 lety

      Yes, thank you for the reminder. I just updated the video description to include a link to the still face experiment.
      ~ Shay

    • @reg8297
      @reg8297 Před 3 lety +1

      @@RisingWoman how do we heal life long effects of child abuse and all our ansestors child abuse I'm in counselling traumatised from life long effects of child abuse my mother abused me her mother abused her how do I heal this I met man who abused me he tried to teach my kids to abuse me I'm so destroyed I am. So. Angry at my mother this is what she did to me yet I cannot find way out to feel peace happy or move on from all the damage my mother did to me then I thínk she was abused riduculed as well had no way of feeding us how do I heal all this damage

    • @RisingWoman
      @RisingWoman  Před 3 lety

      @@reg8297 I'm so sorry that you've been through that, that's so incredibly hard and painful. Those wounds run deep and you're definitely not alone. One thing that I've found to help me heal is Somatic Experiencing Therapy combined with this work in Inherited Family Trauma. If you can find a practitioner who does somatic experiencing table work, that's the most ideal. Sending you big love and healing vibes on the journey ahead.

  • @reg8297
    @reg8297 Před 3 lety +4

    I so want nothing to do with my ansestors they totally destroyed me

    • @RisingWoman
      @RisingWoman  Před 3 lety

      I'm so sorry. Sending you love

    • @robynhope219
      @robynhope219 Před 8 měsíci

      I completely understand...I posted about that
      It's counterintuitive, isn't it!

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Před 8 měsíci

    I wish Mark would see this and reply to qs ppl might have. What good is commenting with no replies from the expert😢

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 Před 8 měsíci

    The book is perfect for victims who werent too badly abused by parents. However, if trauma/abuse was very severe, cozying up to evil parents makes no sense...u want to write them off. My parents weren't evil, but it would not be exaggerated to say THEY RUINED MY LIFE.

  • @joanlally9757
    @joanlally9757 Před měsícem

    this man is talking about trauma and he has no concern with animal testing...how shutdown is that!!!. TOTAL CRUELTY that he cannot even feel towards other sentinent beings...I'm so upset by this..the poor animals being subjected to cruelty..