Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse: Why We Can Feel Stuck
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- čas přidán 24. 06. 2024
- Recovering from narcissistic abuse can seem difficult at times, especially when we feel stuck and unable to move forward. This short clip from a livestream outlines some of the reasons why.
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Erosion is the perfect word for this slow abuse.
Remember, you're dealing with habitual liars./ gaslighters... I know it's not easy but in the end you just have to walk away from it all knowing that/accepting that you can never make sense of /get to the bottom ofa liar.
Rumination creates new neural pathways and can keep people stuck in this pattern.
Darren, it would be great if you could help teach people stuck in this pattern some mindfulness tips. I use them with my clients to stop the rumination. Thank you for your great content!
Thank you I’m glad you find it helpful. I did a live stream on grounding exercises etc which I’ll be editing into little clips like this in the future.
I am definitely kinda stuck. When I go from no boundaries walk all over me to now where I'm hold up in my fort with all wall up.
I which physicians or the nurses gave self care for certain medical situations. Because my no needs lifestyle meant I went home from birthing to abuse. In the last 13 years a concussion going home to loud screaming grandchildren and family. No care. Doctors don't instruct aftercare. They assume you have a caring family. No.
Alot of us do not know self care. We go home to animals. It's barbaric. They got catered to all the time. Thanks Darren I needed to vent this. Love your work.
All I can say is, it was none of my fault and the other person is clinically sick.
"Never enough." I think these are the two most powerful words. You're dealing with lies upon lies from someone who is 'living a game', so to speak-- evil vs. good. They win if they can hurt you, make you unhappy, or even just make you wonder-- ANYthing that engages your brain and therefore emotions in a detrimental Loop, because it will eat at you, tear you down. I have plenty of questions that can never be answered about things that don't make sense (one big one in particular)-- and they never will, because my ex narc's brain is Twisted, evil. I assure you, it doesn't even make sense to him, but he doesn't need it to! He just needs it to make me keep guessing or wondering-- that's the evil game. Do you see now? You can only be free if You Can Let It Go. I feel like I'm looking for the perfect words for you, but We don't live in a perfect world. I'll be praying for you.
For me, it was trying to make sense of something that has never, ever made any sense to me. 18 years later, it still makes no sense. I have done a fair job of clearing my conscious mind of the rumination, but interestingly, I still have very painful dreams about my ex and his betrayal, cruelty and abandonment. It's like a puzzle that I can't stop trying to solve, even in my sleep.
@@lindalarson5468 I get nightmares sometimes because of the betrayal. Horrible 😔
We hoped to be appreciated and valued. That's not what narcissists do. I have thought about things over the last few months while I've been healing from a serious illness. For normal, caring people, it is distressing, and that will make us Wonder about different things, and that's okay. That's the response we have because we're caring individuals. Just don't expect that from a narcissist because they don't have it in them. I don't like to see anybody hurting, and I loved my ex-husband, so I pray for him. But his behavior is his choice and he has to live with the consequences of it. Yes, I do too, but that is exactly how life goes. We don't get Justice for everything, but God does. That's His territory.
Most of the time we feel stuck, and are stuck, due to the obvious fact that in many cases, justice wasn't done. When some of us talk about narcisist abuse, we don't talk about mean verbal abuse, we talk about human trafficking, domestic violence, sexual abusese/rapes. For real now, all of these start to be empty words, as long as justice is not done.
Don't give a lying evil narcissist power over you! This is the deeper problem. Set yourself free! You don't need them and you're never going to get answers. Stop having requirements for you to be okay again. I have a little plaque in my house, because I had been through a lot in my life before I met a narcissist (and I didn't even know what that was!) It says "Don't let yesterday take up too much of today." But I'd like to get a new plaque that says "Don't let yesterday take up ANY of your time today-- you can't relive it, and why would you want to? Set yourself free. Be thankful to God for each GOOD thing in your life, and use a few moments each day to Enjoy them!" Ask God to help you. Nobody has a perfect life. We all have different things we are working on. Life is a journey.
Thank you for explaining it so clearly. It makes so much sense now. ❣️👍💪
That sounds about right.
That hits so hard
True. Crazy will make you crazy. We should distance ourselves from the narcissists in as much as we are able.
Thank you for this video you hit the nail on the head
I've quite bpd and my ex has petulant bpd. The relationship was so unhealthy and I was drained all the time and now I'm ruminating and self blaming. Thank you for your videos it all makes sense now
You never HAVE TO do anything with them!
This is exactly how I’m feeling right now and finding my self researching everything round and round even back as Freud analyses. Yip I blame myself even though I know nothing I could have done . Even with the red flags If you love that person doesn’t stop you . Very difficult thing to work through . Is there more to this video as struck home
I'm ruminiating a lot! Because I'm very confused, I'm not sure wherther he is a covert narcissist or not. I think my own behavior towards him it's being toxic because I was trying to protect myself, but I don't know if he was just reacting to my behavior or it's the other way around 😕 I've been toxic too, I'm 90% sure he is a vulnerable narcisists but I can't help thinking what if he's not?! My psicologist is not an expert in narcisism so she aproaches this subject is a different way, she focuses in my past, my toxic childhood and says this person triggers me in many ways because of my past and I don't deny she is right at a certain point but what about things besides my past??. The thing is I can't stop thinking is he is or not a narcissist and that's killing me 😥
Candy crush. It’s beyond comprehension the level of cruelty. My dad was crushed. His wife & er son. It’s beyond evil what they did. To my dad. To me. No remorse wharsoever. It’s beyond demonic.
I enjoy your videos, but some topics trigger bad thoughts. My eldest sibling is a complete narcissist, and did some extremely horrible things to me. I tend to ruminate, but my psychologist tells me not to. Regret cannot change the past.
I’m glad you like the videos. If it helps, I made a video about ways to help stop ruminating if you think that would be useful?