The “Asexual” Asian Man - End the Undesirable Stereotype

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  • čas přidán 11. 08. 2021
  • Asian male characters in film and TV have long been sidelined, emasculated, and denied the chance to have romantic or sexual relationships -- that’s when they’re not openly mocked.
    In an inverse of the trend of fetishizing Asian women through the “lotus blossom” trope, Asian men are consistently desexualized onscreen. This has directly led to the damaging, widespread perception in US society that Asian men are less masculine or sexually desirable, so it’s more important than ever to move past it.
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  • @sorenhodshire4945
    @sorenhodshire4945 Před 2 lety +5783

    I think it's important to know that the answer to de-sexualized Asian men and hypersexualized Asian women isn't to sexualize Asian men more - it's to see and represent all Asian people as multi-faceted and fully realized characters and people.

    • @lucypreece7581
      @lucypreece7581 Před 2 lety +156

      yup because when you over sexualise Asian men in media you end up with Glen Quagmire from Family Guy

    • @wrestlinganime4life288
      @wrestlinganime4life288 Před 2 lety +12

      @@lucypreece7581 Ah...
      Giggity

    • @sona6436
      @sona6436 Před 2 lety +145

      exactly, realizing that Asian men can also be sexually and romantically desirable is perfectly fine but there's also a lot of fetishization towards (east) asians nowadays too for example, the real solution is just for people to realize that Asian people aren't a big monolith but a diverse and complex group of people like any other

    • @rouskeycarpel1436
      @rouskeycarpel1436 Před 2 lety +85

      Part of presenting Asian man as multi-faceted is to make them being seen as sexually/romantically desirable a PART of their identity.

    • @yannickjohn6930
      @yannickjohn6930 Před 2 lety +65

      K-pop may also be another offender as much as a good representation. Many fans want to expect Korean and other Asian men to be romantic to them and cute. One Korean CZcamsr said that he doesn't like it when that happens.

  • @zhangao4530
    @zhangao4530 Před 2 lety +4457

    The fact that the audience in the screen test reacted badly towards Jet Li kissing a female lead is so disturbing and disgusting.

    • @johannageisel5390
      @johannageisel5390 Před 2 lety +461

      It sucks. I love the movie and young Jet Li was soooo cute!
      He definitely made a great romantic hero. They should have kissed!

    • @kyndramb7050
      @kyndramb7050 Před 2 lety +321

      Jet Li is so hot too! I don't get it. Its beyond disturbing.

    • @thesimmer2612
      @thesimmer2612 Před 2 lety +611

      I read about the kiss scene testing and it made me wonder who they tested it with because I saw Romeo Must Die in the theater with a predominantly black audience watching. When that hug scene come up there was an uproar of "What the hell!?!?!?" from both women and men in the theater. Makes me think they only tested it with white audiences.

    • @johannageisel5390
      @johannageisel5390 Před 2 lety +163

      @@thesimmer2612 I wouldn't be surprised. :(

    • @rgirl1243
      @rgirl1243 Před 2 lety +399

      I think most of the test audience was white. Because when I saw the movie in a black movie theater when it first came out, people were pissed at that hug they had been waiting for a kiss. I was unsatisfying because you could tell it was supposed to be a romance in the movie.

  • @rogersnick17
    @rogersnick17 Před 2 lety +1337

    As a black man in the US, I'm always happy to see our progress constantly being pushed forward. But I also want to see our Asian Brothers treated like men.
    I constantly see them being treated as if they're undesirable, whether it be jokes about their manhood or their masculinity, down to the point that some resort to self-deprecating comedy when I can tell they really don't want to deal with this. Just like media can be used to normalize different sexualities and different mentalities, we need to use media and entertainment to normalize the masculinity of so many of our Asian brothers.
    Speaking up, as "the nail that sticks out," is how change always occurs.

    • @dreamprieto328
      @dreamprieto328 Před 2 lety +48

      Thank you.

    • @purplemadnessW
      @purplemadnessW Před 2 lety +53

      Thank you for the support my fellow African-American brother

    • @reinhartgregory
      @reinhartgregory Před 2 lety +36

      Facts, As an Asian guy I'm happy to see that lots of different people are getting progress such as those of African descent or even LGBTQ folk, but it seems to me that Asians and Hispanics don't really have progress? We're all invisible stereotypes even though we are a large minority in the world in general.

    • @niceasf7038
      @niceasf7038 Před 2 lety +13

      🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @jccanizal6410
      @jccanizal6410 Před 2 lety +20

      Well said dude

  • @ImGonnaBlameTheMEEDUHSid
    @ImGonnaBlameTheMEEDUHSid Před 2 lety +688

    We gon' talk about how they didn't give Shang-Chi a love interest in his own movie unlike any other Marvel male lead?🤦🏾‍♂️

    • @jomaq9233
      @jomaq9233 Před 2 lety +171

      Maaaaybe Disney wants to make him their 12th “first gay character” or something

    • @4263484
      @4263484 Před 2 lety +46

      Yesssssss I totally noticed that!

    • @nisarga9420
      @nisarga9420 Před 2 lety +148

      I rather like the fact that they did not spell it out that the relation is romantic. That in fact makes his reality quite relatably human. And I do believe Marvel is keeping the ground upon for romance for Shang Chi.
      His father certainly had a romantic story, which is a big improvement upon the original image of the 'Mandarin'.

    • @beatrixfangs543
      @beatrixfangs543 Před 2 lety +14

      Maybe he'll have a love interest in the upcoming films.

    • @momcares8378
      @momcares8378 Před 2 lety +77

      C'mon. Romance is never the center point of marvel movies. Even Thor has no love interest for quite a long time. Most of them do really.

  • @m.g7610
    @m.g7610 Před 2 lety +3193

    I love this channel because they bring up topics that exist around us but are ignored everyday

    • @trinaq
      @trinaq Před 2 lety +70

      Precisely, we've grown so accustomed to seeing them, that we've simply never questioned them until now.

    • @AxxLAfriku
      @AxxLAfriku Před 2 lety +2

      I am so unpretty 😭 When I go to the bank, they turn the cameras off. At least I am a big star on CZcams. So don't feel too bad for me, dear ma

    • @ziolp
      @ziolp Před 2 lety +27

      Ignored everyday by certain groups -- others are most definitely discussing this.

    • @gmkoshy
      @gmkoshy Před 2 lety

      Ngl I like cheese cause its tasty

    • @alkaholic3881
      @alkaholic3881 Před 2 lety +2

      LOl Want to have some actual balls? Talk about how white men are CURRENTLY being spoken about in the highest circles of our society. Its fucking genocidal whats about to happen.

  • @soggytortillla
    @soggytortillla Před 2 lety +2765

    i said “oh YES” when i saw this in my feed. in the “kiss me more” by doja cat ft sza music video, i loved seeing Alex Landi, a korean-american man, as the love interest!

    • @sallycinammon1478
      @sallycinammon1478 Před 2 lety +92

      I know I was also taken aback but happy too. Good for them.

    • @hobihope2981
      @hobihope2981 Před 2 lety +116

      Alex Landi is gonna win Hottest Man Alive in a few years 😤😤😤 BET

    • @jaimicottrill2831
      @jaimicottrill2831 Před 2 lety +109

      I haven’t seen that video but I’m going to look for it now! Also in one of Taylor Swifts videos she has a Korean American as the lead love interest. It’s finally ( slowly) getting better. Although I never understood the whole Asexual Asian trope. I have always found Asian men to be as attractive as any other race of men.

    • @kyramcintosh8536
      @kyramcintosh8536 Před 2 lety +56

      I got that song stuck in my head and wanted to watch the video to get it out so I could focus on my homework. As soon as I saw Alex Landi I gasped because he was one of the most handsome guys I’ve ever seen. It wasn’t until after I finished the video that I realized I didn’t remember the last time I’d seen an Asian man portrayed in such a desirable role and I found it really refreshing. Now that I know the guy’s name I’ll check out more of his work

    • @corycianangel6321
      @corycianangel6321 Před 2 lety +25

      Ah yes, he is so hot!

  • @em.415
    @em.415 Před 2 lety +618

    This happens to black women as well just in the opposite way. We are masculinized and portrayed as less desirable.

    • @Fazzel
      @Fazzel Před 2 lety +42

      I once commented to a black man I worked with (I'm white) that I found black women attractive and his comment was black women are too bossy.

    • @zeppkfw
      @zeppkfw Před 2 lety +37

      I don't get that stereotype tbh. Always seen feminine and beautiful black women.

    • @ezra5788
      @ezra5788 Před 2 lety +24

      You can never compare the experiences of men and women because the male and female value in the dating market is very different. Women of all races will have an easier time than men of all races. A white girl will have an easier time than a white dude, and a black woman will have an easier time than a black dude. Most guys are not as choosy as females. Guys will get with the most average-looking girl, but girls want only the top 10% of men. This is a fact.

    • @TonyMishima92
      @TonyMishima92 Před 2 lety +4

      @@ezra5788 Even though women generally have an easier time, there's no denying that the self esteem of women are heavily impacted by public perceptions. It's the Black women who are en masse wearing the hair of Eurasians on their heads that look nothing like their own, not Black men. Also, obviously men below the top 10% are getting women. Dating app statistics can't always be applied to the general population. In truth, everyone wants to date the best, but can only settle with what they can get. But even with that said, emotional attachments are built.

    • @ezra5788
      @ezra5788 Před 2 lety +6

      @@TonyMishima92 Yeah all true, but at the end of the day, an average-looking woman will get more dates than a good-looking guy. Dating is wayyy harder as a dude than as a woman. Women have more sexual market value than men. There is a reason over 90% of po*n is focused on female stars, not the dudes. Attractive black women will have no problem getting dudes, but for Asian men it is much more difficult.

  • @Suebee29
    @Suebee29 Před 2 lety +324

    Raj was easily the best looking guy on TBBT. They did him so dirty.

    • @calamorta
      @calamorta Před 2 lety +51

      I think the actor who played Leonard is not too far behind but yeah, first time I saw Raj's actor out of character made me realize how well they downplayed his looks in the show

    • @josephnicolino8529
      @josephnicolino8529 Před 2 lety +19

      It really bummed me out he didn't find love by the end of the show. Even Stewart found someone at the end.

    • @realnapster1522
      @realnapster1522 Před 2 lety +13

      Raj is not even Asian. He is Indian and Indian men do fine in US. They are desired by lot of white and Asian women. Many of my friends are married to white women.

    • @realnapster1522
      @realnapster1522 Před 2 lety +22

      Btw in real life RaJ is married to Miss India.

    • @AL-jg4pr
      @AL-jg4pr Před 2 lety +5

      @@calamorta Leonard outside of his role is stylish as fuck. But yeah in the show Raj was probably the cutest.

  • @wandeesthoughts
    @wandeesthoughts Před 2 lety +2966

    I really hate when people say representation doesn't matter! Hollywood has created so many negative stereotypes of so many POC and we're being shamed for wanting better representation😒

    • @massetozacarias5693
      @massetozacarias5693 Před 2 lety +41

      The concept is great for POC (yours truly), but at execution it feels forced especially Star Wars' Rose

    • @nesser52
      @nesser52 Před 2 lety +11

      Media is a fifth power 💔

    • @GenerationNextNextNext
      @GenerationNextNextNext Před 2 lety +185

      Representation doesn't matter. PROPER representation does. I would argue that when white cis men think of "representation", they think of sticking some othered minority group in the movie so everyone can see the diversity is "present", no matter how they are developed. That's not proper representation. It's not enough to be seen on-screen. We need to be seen as nuanced as white characters. Even though I'm assuming that's what you meant, just clarifying.

    • @wandeesthoughts
      @wandeesthoughts Před 2 lety +46

      @@GenerationNextNextNext you're right we need better told stories when it comes to minority characters

    • @orangeradishneo
      @orangeradishneo Před 2 lety +24

      @@GenerationNextNextNext i fully agree. that type of casting almost seems worse than no representation at all. it makes people feel like they're an "other" and not considered "normal".
      I've noticed this type of "minimal representation" casting for quite some time, starting with Big Brother. Nearly every year out of 12-16 houseguests, there's usually 2 or 3 POC's (increasingly more diverse in later seasons, but not enough until literally THIS year) 1 or 2 stereotypical gay guys, MAYBE a bisexual or lesbian female every few years, and 1 person over the age of like, 40. Not only that, they rarely cast people who aren't considered conventionally attractive.
      This year's seasons of BBUS and BBCanada are the most diverse possible, the BBUS house this year is about half POC!

  • @Auron1Roxas2
    @Auron1Roxas2 Před 2 lety +4157

    Can’t believe they didn’t mention how groundbreaking it was that 1997’s Cinderella movie had a dark skinned black woman as the beautiful princess Cinderella and a filipino actor as the handsome prince. Like that is still a huge movie to many millennials who grew up watching it.

    • @AnimeArchaeologist
      @AnimeArchaeologist Před 2 lety +37

      It's quite weird indeed.

    • @29jgirl92
      @29jgirl92 Před 2 lety +17

      Yes!!

    • @princetriton1308
      @princetriton1308 Před 2 lety +253

      @@AnimeArchaeologist whats even crazier is that his mother was black and his dad was white 🤣🤣🤣

    • @lucyching5633
      @lucyching5633 Před 2 lety +93

      I looooved that version of Cinderella! I watched it so many times!

    • @IONov990
      @IONov990 Před 2 lety +14

      I totally forgot about that

  • @joshua_here5849
    @joshua_here5849 Před 2 lety +249

    Asian men are not masculine
    Men who fought
    Vietnam war: 👁️👄👁️
    Korean war:👁️👄👁️
    World War 2 (Indian men) : 👁️👄👁️

    • @EzioIlMentore
      @EzioIlMentore Před 2 lety +30

      White men gotta cope after being traumatized by all the Asians they faced during those wars.

    • @jjq9360
      @jjq9360 Před 2 lety +5

      @@EzioIlMentore I'm Viet and my grandpa was a South Vietnam bomber pilot during the war

    • @okpo2596
      @okpo2596 Před 2 lety

      @@EzioIlMentore You know asians fought alongside white men in those wars too right?? Especially in the Korean war which was basically a civil war between the two Koreas and WW2 too which was basically all Asia and white men against the japanese

    • @EzioIlMentore
      @EzioIlMentore Před 2 lety +4

      @@okpo2596 And those wars were major racism factories for white men. You're a fool if you think they actually somehow respected the Asians they fought alongside with.

    • @bluesira
      @bluesira Před 2 lety +3

      @@okpo2596 Like the Hmong people who helped the USA with promises to take care of them after the war, then the USA abandoned them.

  • @giovannirafael5351
    @giovannirafael5351 Před 2 lety +110

    Loved the video but I wish it also talked about how when an Asian man is put as the "attractive guy" it's also a mixed Asian man, kinda like when black actresses get opportunities is usually the light skinned ones.

    • @rajeshdevika8827
      @rajeshdevika8827 Před 2 lety +18

      They would call you racist if you point it out.

    • @WalkingSideways
      @WalkingSideways Před rokem +10

      @@rajeshdevika8827 No they wouldn't, it's been openly discussed on a lot of platforms by Asians and mixed raced Asians.

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem

      ye

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 8

    • @user-783hhss7w2oifhe
      @user-783hhss7w2oifhe Před 4 měsíci +4

      Even Crazy Rich Asians fell into this trope. A movie about asian representation, with all asians, meant for asians, but still couldn't help themselves with casting a half-white asian male lead lmao

  • @jewelsdragonfly
    @jewelsdragonfly Před 2 lety +1006

    The closest character that I think shatters this trope is Glenn from The Walking Dead. He has a genuine love life, no broken English, and very essential to the story. He was too good and a big favorite to the point where a lot of people stopped watching after his death.

    • @Tom-qp6oh
      @Tom-qp6oh Před 2 lety +87

      Glen wasn't portrayed as Asian. He was just an ordinary American who happened to be of Asian ancestry.

    • @santiagobauza4257
      @santiagobauza4257 Před 2 lety +41

      Mark Grayson from Invincible too, by extension

    • @jewelsdragonfly
      @jewelsdragonfly Před 2 lety +39

      @@santiagobauza4257 Steven Yuen roles

    • @R0SE727
      @R0SE727 Před 2 lety +150

      @@Tom-qp6oh yeah but the character is *Korean*-american. Sometimes character that are portrayed as coming from the Asian Diaspora are assimilated, ya kno? Yes we like rep that shows Asian Americans more in touch w their cultural background, but saying he’s just any american I think is a little reductive. Genuinely the bar is so low for what we accept as good Asian American roles on screen that we’ll accept “decent character with no racist accent who actually contributes to the story even if they’re very Americanized” as like. The best of the best

    • @UltraViolet666
      @UltraViolet666 Před 2 lety +141

      @@Tom-qp6oh how was he supposed to be in touch with his Korean culture in the middle of a zombie apocalypse? Are asians only valid to you if they seem different from every other American?

  • @trinaq
    @trinaq Před 2 lety +2033

    Another Asian oriented stereotype I detest is the "Asian speaking in Broken English" trope. It seems to be used mostly for cheap laughs, and might not be as commonplace as the media would have you believe.

    • @HenshinHeroesMedia
      @HenshinHeroesMedia Před 2 lety +129

      I can buy language difficulties since studying one is hard. I studied japanese and that language is hard. Same goes for anyone learning english but I do get the frustration of asian stereotypes and broken english. As a filipino man, I can see my relatives speak perfect english or have an accent, and I wish hollywood just shows diversity. Even white folks speaking a different language can butcher the words. Show those moments, hollywood

    • @bal9944
      @bal9944 Před 2 lety +35

      Yes, I have seen the middle age Asian woman who works in the nail beauty shop with broken English a lot of times in media.

    • @ondutytoday5801
      @ondutytoday5801 Před 2 lety +42

      That stereotype rightful not only for Asians, but for all of the emigrants characters non English native speakers. Even British native English accent can seems funny in an American movies.

    • @EclecticDD
      @EclecticDD Před 2 lety +26

      @@Chris-rg6nm There a newer immigrants and there are Americans of Asian descent whose families have been in the US for generations. It is a stereotype.

    • @jcspoon573
      @jcspoon573 Před 2 lety +25

      @@Chris-rg6nm I think my best experience with this was at a restaurant where the grandfather was the chef, spoke no English at all, still tried to communicate with customers, though.
      The parents (middle aged) ran the register, books, etc, and their English was very good, but accented.
      Then the kids (teens and early 20s) waited tables and cleaned up, perfectly local accented English (with occasional confusion on something said in Mandarin).
      It's realistic, but Hollywood doesn't depict anything with that much nuance.

  • @twotonkatrucks
    @twotonkatrucks Před 2 lety +95

    As an Asian-American man approaching middle age, I really appreciated this video. It feels like we’re at a cusp of a sea change but not quite there. But, media representation has vastly improved since my formative years. More awareness the better.

    • @vaccinatedanti-vaxxer
      @vaccinatedanti-vaxxer Před 2 lety +5

      The most important factor for women male preference: height, looks, and race. Despite virtue signaling of American women, they are repulsed by average Asian men. Asian men are the highest earners in America with lowest divorce rate. Even wealth cannot help Asian men! I’m not saying white women must find Asian men attractive or else they are racist, but openly acknowledge racial preferences is okay for any race any gender.
      However, I admit there is a growing trend of all races of women (especially among Asian women ironically) find Asian men attractive. Although racial preferences can change, most people subconsciously determine what is attractive or unattractive in adolescence. When I lived in Korea as Asian American man, I noticed the barriers for dating white women there were gone. When white people choose to visit or move to asia, it’s likely they see Asians positively making them distinct to most whites in their native country. If a girl grew up as a fan of kpop, it maybe more likely she may find Asian men attractive regardless of her race.

    • @OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8
      @OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8 Před 2 lety

      There is a significant line from the 1991 movie "Boyz n the Hood" where the character Furious Styles stated that "The best way you can kill a people is you take away their ability to reproduce themselves". That is exactly what Hollywood and white Western media has been doing to Asian males for the last century, so much to the extent that even now westernized Asian women typically don't find Asian men to be attractive.

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem

      progress popg

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 0

  • @RodrickColbert
    @RodrickColbert Před 2 lety +159

    Fortunately, many Asian nations have their own great vibrant film industries that do just fine outside of Hollywood.

    • @golbinnom
      @golbinnom Před 2 lety +3

      exactly

    • @andrewchong616
      @andrewchong616 Před 2 lety +19

      @greas Wyq I don’t think it is not helpful. Asian particularly Korean film and music industries are getting popular in some western countries, including US. Of course it is still at early stage as compared to Hollywood, but it does contribute to building up a positive and real image of Asian Men.

    • @golbinnom
      @golbinnom Před 2 lety +6

      @greas Wyq squid game is first worldwide on netflix as we speak

    • @tictoc900912
      @tictoc900912 Před 2 lety +7

      I may be shallow af but I feel like korean movie stars are gorgeous people whereas hollywood asian actors are just meh

    • @andrewchong616
      @andrewchong616 Před 2 lety +16

      @@tictoc900912 That’s why so many people agree there is a systemic discrimination against Asian men in US. In North America, Asian men are not only underrepresented but also vilified by media as weak and unattractive men.

  • @prayforplagues269
    @prayforplagues269 Před 2 lety +1364

    I think it’s good we talk about this, when i watched these shows I never really noticed or considered these tropes. So it’s good to see stereotyped communities bring light to these issues

    • @trinaq
      @trinaq Před 2 lety +15

      Ditto, I love how the Take makes us question the inclusion of these rampant stereotypes in the Media, and why they're so offensive.

    • @prayforplagues269
      @prayforplagues269 Před 2 lety +29

      @@trinaq agreed, I don’t think all these portrayals of minorities are meant with malice, but through awareness we can break down walls we didn’t know existed, because feeling excluded from the very society you live in is a horrible feeling.

    • @prayforplagues269
      @prayforplagues269 Před 2 lety

      @dschoe87 never watched it

    • @prayforplagues269
      @prayforplagues269 Před 2 lety +13

      @@playboimarty I think this is an unfortunate repercussion of stereotypes. Asian men are considered unmasculine and usually not being well endowed, and even though these aren't true, they have reverberated into the dating world. I guess the best evidence I have is that I live in Russia, and Asian men do well for themselves here because this form of humour didn't catch on. They have their own stereotypes here, usually, they are actually considered "too masculine". Weird world huh

    • @PeacefulJuggernaught
      @PeacefulJuggernaught Před 2 lety +6

      You’re so right OP. When you’re not aware of the stereotype it’s easy to just laugh and move on never even realize that you may even be internalizing that racial view or bias. The Take IS really good at that. So much so that when my wife walks through the living room and sees I’m watching a Take on a movie she loves like “Miss Congeniality” her first reaction is “…oh no… what’s wrong with THIS?” It’s an honest reaction because it’s invariably true when they point out the problematic tropes and it can feel like something you loved is getting tarnished. But we’re both of us grateful for the insight so that we can move forward and still appreciate what’s good in those films and tv shows while no longer just accepting the toxic.

  • @elijeremiah1058
    @elijeremiah1058 Před 2 lety +1175

    What I always found infuriating about Big Bang Theory is that Raj is by far the cutest guy in the main cast. In my opinion he was the only cute one, but they all acted like there was no way he could compete with Leonard.

    • @nin.-2644
      @nin.-2644 Před 2 lety +216

      I completely agree with you over the fact that he is by far the best looking of the bunch. However, and sadly, I found his poor prospects in terms of romantic interest to be realistic. Often attractive people of colour get cast aside for less attractive white people. (South) Asian men are often overlooked by white women no matter how great of a partner they could be in favour of other men (and if I'm not mistaken, the show only introduced white romantic partners, Raj's sister being the exception). Actually, from my observation, Asian men get overlooked by pretty much any woman with a different cultural heritage than them. I'm not sure whether this was a deliberate critique or whether it originated from the writer's own bias, but sadly the show was right on the money in that regards IMHO.

    • @domokato
      @domokato Před 2 lety +57

      @@nin.-2644 that's a negative feedback loop at that point. The cycle needs to be broken

    • @nin.-2644
      @nin.-2644 Před 2 lety +18

      @@domokato I couldn't agree more.

    • @ForeverAmber_1
      @ForeverAmber_1 Před 2 lety +81

      @@nin.-2644 I agree with you, and I think the issue is that we mainly pay attention to what we are used to. Rather than explaining this in a shitty way, I'll use a personal example to (hopefully) clarify:
      For as much as someone can "objectively" be considered attractive, yes, I thought that Raj was the best looking in the group of guys on BBT. But it wasn't until I met and had a very flirtatious dynamic with an Indian friend that I started really noticing the attractiveness of that character, and other men around me of Indian ethnicity. Basically, it was typical for me to pick out the hot white guy b/c I have always lived in a predominantly Caucasian area. So I wasn't *really* looking for anything else but that. When I developed an attraction to an Indian guy, I started noticing people of Indian ethnicity on a more individual level, if that makes sense. And once I became more interested in aspects of Asian culture (especially Hallyu), I found myself paying more individual attention to men of Asian ethnicities than I think I used to. It's like once you broaden your cultural horizons, you don't see people as part of a "collective" anymore.
      I really hope I framed that properly. I think seeing different races/ethnicities as a homogeneous group instead of as individuals really is a big part of the problem (guess I could have just said THAT, huh?)😏

    • @pjrodriguez386
      @pjrodriguez386 Před 2 lety +62

      never found the show funny at ALL. besides the beetles looking one's open misogyny, them castrating the Indian guy by making him unable to talk to women let me know I didnt miss much without watching

  • @totalpefectionisto
    @totalpefectionisto Před 2 lety +31

    To All Boys I Ever Love was the perfect opportunity to turn the trope on its head and they chose to cast white boys.

    • @acesking
      @acesking Před 2 lety +1

      course they did, it was written by an asian woman, nobody wants to see asian men erased more than asian women

    • @frankiel3767
      @frankiel3767 Před 2 lety +10

      Worse yet, they did diversify the cast by adding a Black actor and a Cuban guy but they didn’t add an Asian guy

  • @CartoonSociety-in9ci
    @CartoonSociety-in9ci Před 13 dny +4

    Would be neat to see more Attractive and Masculine Asian men as love interest and shown to be desirable and not seen as villains, monks or kung fu teachers.

  • @megh2890
    @megh2890 Před 2 lety +2923

    For about five years, I lived in Tokyo and dated mostly Japanese men. The reactions that I got from white males, even those living in Japan and dating Japanese women, were always incredulous. I can't even count the number of times I've had people question my Asian partners' sexuality or masculinity. The idea that Asian men can't be sexy is totally baffling to me; my experiences DEFINITELY suggest otherwise.

    • @dako6141
      @dako6141 Před 2 lety +407

      I just don't know why white men have to be that hypocritical (disliking that you're with a Japanese man but they're with Japanese women) and use stereotypes. I noticed that whenever I'm friends with white guys, it's never the ones who date Asian women (they tend to be the most racist white guys). In addition, I noticed that a lot of white men like my father tend to be immature and impatient with family members when they're married to Asians, it's really unfortunate and I wish they just didn't exist.

    • @megh2890
      @megh2890 Před 2 lety +166

      @@dako6141 That sounds like a challenging thing to experience. :( I completely agree; the hypocrisy is downright upsetting, and it's just further proof of how damaging Western depictions of Asian men and women can be.

    • @dako6141
      @dako6141 Před 2 lety +175

      @@megh2890 I think those white men (and other non-Asian men) need to mind the business that pays them and stop harassing white women who happen to be in genuine, loving relationships with Asian men. I usually ignore Hollywood movies that involve caricatures of Asians in some way/shape/form and go straight to K-dramas or other Asian drama, which lack the damaging stereotypes about Asian men that we're constantly bombarded w/ in America.

    • @dako6141
      @dako6141 Před 2 lety +155

      @6889 It's usually racist white men and self-hating Asian women

    • @ningthoujamelvis6103
      @ningthoujamelvis6103 Před 2 lety +54

      @Alice J true even I have 👀 2 renowned Korean girl youtubers blatantly told the international viewers not to come to Korea lol. Asian girls are the real hypocrite here. They feel entitled to both asian men and white men in Asia and America respectively

  • @sotrue5413
    @sotrue5413 Před 2 lety +2449

    I learned about this in my Asian American History class in college. Asian women are either oversexualized and viewed as "exotic", or submissive, or even portrayed as the villain at times. And how they're always paired with a white man that "saves" them, but Asian men are seen as weak and never paired with a white woman, or any woman for that matter. Just because of the war, as mentioned in the video. They're rarely the lead, and if they are, then it's only for a martial arts movie, but even then, they never have a love interest in movies.
    I'm glad that you made a video about it so that more people are aware of this, and not just a tiny group of college students a year.

    • @theinvinciblewarrior4132
      @theinvinciblewarrior4132 Před 2 lety +44

      Together we have to destroy these white supremacist

    • @SpongeChadSquareJaw
      @SpongeChadSquareJaw Před 2 lety +3

      @@theinvinciblewarrior4132 you can't destroy the view of white person being the better one in society which mostly consist of white people

    • @Liathrys
      @Liathrys Před 2 lety +14

      America has slain a great Fascist only to replace it with an even greater one.

    • @jayb2705
      @jayb2705 Před 2 lety +5

      I'm so happy that this kind of stuff actually gets taught in college, maybe there is some hope

    • @terryscott2632
      @terryscott2632 Před 2 lety +40

      @@jayb2705 usually it's only taught in places like california or new york where there are lots of asians that fought for their history to be taught.

  • @Random-qi3vv
    @Random-qi3vv Před 2 lety +39

    It's sad because Raj in real life married a genuine supermodel. He's by far the sexiest man on that show,to the point that, if he had a Hollywood regime, he could play the character of the masculine man(Did you see Kumail nanjiani?). And even jet Li, the man is a martial arts specialist. he's masculine as masculine gets. Its an honor to have a great role for him. But I do see the waves of change happening. BTS breaking into the scene, Kumail najiani playing the role of a literal god and Shang Chi s managing to break the stereotype. Kudos to MARVEL!

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem +1

      huh, really? marvel usually sucks

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 6

    • @RabiyaRavenclaw
      @RabiyaRavenclaw Před 6 měsíci +1

      What Kudos, Nanjiani still played the role of a sterotypical Bollywood actor in eternals, and dopinder from Deadpool is another Stereotype.

  • @andrewchong616
    @andrewchong616 Před 2 lety +18

    In Hollywood movies, unicorns are far easier to find than ordinary Asian men.
    - by Bruce Lee -

  • @eileen_a_b
    @eileen_a_b Před 2 lety +1438

    It really bothered me that on The Big Bang Theory, they had Raj, the character who demonstrated the greatest desire to find a meaningful romantic partnership, end up alone even though they went to the trouble of setting up a viable relationship for him in the last season. Also, while not all relationships have to be sexual, I was really disappointed that Aaliyah's character did not end up together with Jet Li's character because it was obvious that it's because he's Asian. I think the same happened in a lot of Jackie Chan's movies.

    • @leannewheeler5351
      @leannewheeler5351 Před 2 lety +114

      I was so angry. I was hopeful because they gave Raj a story and a background story but as the show progressed, they made him more and more feminine. I really hated it. And I really hated that he ended up alone 😔. I just knew he was going to come out with a love interest... creepy Howard and neurotic Sheldon got wives.

    • @eileen_a_b
      @eileen_a_b Před 2 lety +124

      @@leannewheeler5351 YES!!!! The asexual character ended up in a loving marriage with the prospect of having children some day and Raj has to choose between friends and a girl? 🙄🤦‍♀️This actor, Kunal Nayyar, in real life is married to a former Miss India. But no, forever the platonic Asian! 😠

    • @ananyasrivastava8771
      @ananyasrivastava8771 Před 2 lety +77

      Exactly, he was like the least creepy guy of all of them. Also, how they made fun of him for sometimes being slightly feminine?????

    • @Arkane117
      @Arkane117 Před 2 lety +5

      I agree with you, but I just want to mention that Jet Li and Jackie Chan are both first top martial artists that became actors later. Meaning they are not great actors. I'm sure if the director really wanted to have a romantic scene with them, he could have had them learn to do it somehow but at the same time, they are not great at doing romantic scenes. But that is not to say there are no Asian actors that can play this role. There are many,.. but Hollywood doesn't cast them. They want to pick the stereotypical asian looking actors, not the one that's going to look better than a non-Asian leading actor.

    • @eileen_a_b
      @eileen_a_b Před 2 lety +41

      @@Arkane117 you don't think they are good actors and that's fine. Jackie Chan was sent to an Chinese drama/opera academy where he spent his childhood learning all aspects of performance of which acrobatics and martial arts was just one component (I read his biography) which is what eventually led him to pursue a career in film acting (starting as a stunt extra and moving up to starring roles) so it wasn't a transition from one to the other for him. Jet Li did start in martial arts first, but started acting before he was 20 so he has experience doing it and he isn't without talent IMO (Hero is one movie that comes to mind in which his acting was superb). Both of them have played lead characters with romantic interests when they worked in China so they had the experience with that also before transitioning to the US market. There are also lots of film actors in US cinema that are clearly cast on looks or comedy chops and not acting talent that have had roles depicting romantic relationships (Ashton Cutcher, Kevin James). The video even explained/showed a highlighted titled stating that Jet Li's kiss with Aaliyah wasn't well received by Urban Audiences and I find it hard to believe that it's because they can accept bad acting only if there's no romance. We're going to have to agree to disagree on this one.

  • @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow
    @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow Před 2 lety +785

    White beauty standards are the center of so many issues in popular media

    • @TheBaconEarBuccaneer
      @TheBaconEarBuccaneer Před 2 lety +24

      Well it is a western show tbf

    • @Goffe909
      @Goffe909 Před 2 lety +18

      It's in a market where most people are white. And Asians love to watch shows with whites in them.

    • @Goffe909
      @Goffe909 Před 2 lety +7

      @@Wisteria_ You do realize that most of those white writers you're speaking of are Jewish right? They are not white they're Jewish. If your argument is true then why are Asian men no desired by most women around the world. Western women can't compete with what women here in Asia bring to the table.

    • @freebird1721
      @freebird1721 Před 2 lety +48

      ​@@Goffe909 You are a caucasian man who fetishize asian women, we get it, it's ok but funnily this confirms
      partially what "Wisteria" said just before you.

    • @Goffe909
      @Goffe909 Před 2 lety +4

      @@freebird1721 oh you made an awful assumption. I am not Caucasian. My mother is a Cree woman from North America. My father is from Africa and was even in the military their is his youthful days.

  • @jase87
    @jase87 Před 2 lety +76

    A great example of Asian men getting justice is Han from fast and furious dating the arguably hottest actress in the franchise Gal Gadot and it’s not even a big deal.

    • @mrconfusion87
      @mrconfusion87 Před 2 lety +7

      That is what sealed me as a Fast and Furious fan! I know it is a mindless ridiculous action franchise at its heart, but they know how to make that stuff work well so seamelessly! 😎 Maybe that feeling of representation is also why the Fast Saga is a bigger deal among Asians than among Americans! 👍

    • @steffikrueger7809
      @steffikrueger7809 Před 2 lety +2

      Same, I was really disappointed, that they did not mention him as a positive example of an Asian - man with a love-interest in this video.

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem

      epicc

    • @Moviehubxzy
      @Moviehubxzy Před rokem +1

      Because it’s director by Asian

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 8

  • @filippians413
    @filippians413 Před 2 lety +22

    Society: asian men can't be sexy
    Bruce Lee: hold my abs

    • @valorzinski7423
      @valorzinski7423 Před 2 lety +3

      That's why they killed him

    • @Shinbainu234
      @Shinbainu234 Před 2 měsíci

      Bruce Lee is a stereotype Asian lol,girls not give a S to kungfu guy

  • @GigiMurakami
    @GigiMurakami Před 2 lety +1261

    Thank you for creating this. As a Black woman married to an Asian man, I appreciate this conversation so much 🙏🏾🖤

    • @user-uy1rg8td1v
      @user-uy1rg8td1v Před 2 lety +39

      The little boy in UP, I didn't even suspect he was Asian until the end when they did a quick look at his mom. I kinda wish they made it more clear.

    • @GigiMurakami
      @GigiMurakami Před 2 lety +22

      @@user-uy1rg8td1v yeah I was kinda surprised as well tbh

    • @mrconfusion87
      @mrconfusion87 Před 2 lety +79

      Thanks! Black women hopefully get their justice too here as well! 🤗

    • @Qwertyuiop-bj8ry
      @Qwertyuiop-bj8ry Před 2 lety +8

      I'm pretty sure it's small 🤣

    • @alexong2542
      @alexong2542 Před 2 lety +39

      Your husband is a lucky man 😉

  • @abishaipaul2298
    @abishaipaul2298 Před 2 lety +644

    Ancient India: creates Kamasutra.
    American sitcoms to Asian characters: We can't let you have sex??? All we can give you is terrible accent.. Bwah hahaha.

    • @sho3bum
      @sho3bum Před 2 lety +70

      Unfortunately this video focuses on more on east asians and not south east asians. Not hating on the video it's just not a part of the conversation and I understand

    • @nilimpvats6677
      @nilimpvats6677 Před 2 lety +112

      @@sho3bum The stereotypical accent they gave us and the new bobs and vegane narrative is so damaging to the image of South Asian men. If there's a chart then south asian men will be at the bottom because the whole of the west think we are gonna ask for nudes. Either we are the nerdy science guys, weird indian uncle or people from slums. We seriously need better representation in hollywood.

    • @summerhoang
      @summerhoang Před 2 lety +31

      Well to be fair, the narrative of south Asian men showing predatory behaviors towards women on the internet is a reflection of exactly what has been happening in life provided with countless evidences. That narrative wasn’t born with the intention to emasculate south Asian man initially, but to warn other women/victim to be wary and pay caution. And because so many women has experienced it, which results in people subconsciously form a negative impression in their mind due to the collective behavior of that group. The media didn’t invent this narrative, it’s much more of south Asian man’s own doing, similar to the case of “Karen” etc

    • @kahkah1986
      @kahkah1986 Před 2 lety +9

      @@summerhoang I agree to a certain extent; this video talks about comedy SE Asian men, but there are other issues in there. There have been unfortunately real problems with people being coerced to join terrorist organizations, for example. That isn't the only narrative for all Asian relationships, of course, but misogyny and 'control issues' can still be there, especially around arranged marriage. Not to say that European relationships don't have their cultural issues either, just that this video would seem to miss that nuance. A film like 'The Big Sick' was actually made by a Pakistani man about his experiences, for example, that is surely more nuanced, it talks about him moving away from some aspects of his culture. Some Asian women disliked its representation of them, that it repeated stereotypes about them and arranged marriage etc. but I do feel it does start a conversation, not only about internalized racism but also learning from Western cultures.

    • @abishaipaul2298
      @abishaipaul2298 Před 2 lety +55

      @@summerhoang well to be fair, predatory men exist in all cultures and when it pertains to South Asian men, there's a very good case to be made for repressed sexuality. The society as a whole has failed to teach men in India how to behave. And it's sad really. Right from when the British came in with certain regressive laws about what's considered norm in terms of sexuality(I know they banned certain regressive Indian practices like sati) everything is leaning far right in India today. And the representation in American sitcoms doesn't help. I think the big sick is probably the best portrayal of a middle aged South Asian man.

  • @skuxsarah
    @skuxsarah Před 2 lety +106

    BTS and kpop idols don't necessarily embody more "femininity"- that's just another reiteration of the feminine Asian man stereotype. It's more that they aren't defined by traditional western masculinity tropes and stereotypes and toxic masculine gender roles.

    • @davidwong6515
      @davidwong6515 Před rokem +1

      Be quiet..... globalization is abhorrent

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem +2

      tbf one diraction justin beaver and hary styles and that kiinda crap get crap too

    • @impostorcore7071
      @impostorcore7071 Před měsícem +3

      ​@@narwal8432 why is a child here?

    • @Acetvn-kg6ty
      @Acetvn-kg6ty Před 27 dny

      There is no toxic mansculinity. only toxic women who generalises Men.

    • @impostorcore7071
      @impostorcore7071 Před 27 dny +3

      @@Acetvn-kg6ty me when I got brainwashed by toxic masculinity

  • @user2-lx1xl
    @user2-lx1xl Před 2 lety +7

    I can't believe you listened to my wish this was the one topic I always wanted to be highlighted thank you soo much .

  • @R0SE727
    @R0SE727 Před 2 lety +645

    Surprised nobody in the comments is mentioning Jason Mendoza from The Good Place as an example of male Asian rep that walks a good balance of giving the character nuance & humor while showing the actor as the handsome & attractive man that he is. Manny Jacinto is Filipino excellence!

    • @inajai6422
      @inajai6422 Před 2 lety +64

      True! They always mentioned his good looks throughout the show

    • @R0SE727
      @R0SE727 Před 2 lety +100

      @@inajai6422 I always appreciated that he’s considered desirable by many characters even tho he’s a lovable idiot! He’s fun & I appreciate that he subverts stereotypes abt Asian men in other ways by being emotionally intelligent & not being a total brainiac bc those are also the stereotypes that contribute to the des*xualization of Asian men in general. Gotten love Jason Mendoza

    • @helen8022
      @helen8022 Před 2 lety +96

      Omg I LOVED Jason. Especially his first lines when he's like "Everyday thinks I'm Chinese when I'm actually Filipino. Heaven is racist!" Lmao gets me every time.

    • @WhalienDNA
      @WhalienDNA Před 2 lety +5

      He is amazing!

    • @jonathanlim4585
      @jonathanlim4585 Před 2 lety +11

      Jacksonville Jaguars rule!!!

  • @mc-ge2bt
    @mc-ge2bt Před 2 lety +855

    Even before The Walking Dead, Lost did a great job of allowing Asians to be Asian but have individual personalities. Sun and Sayid were (beyond) handsome and immensely multilayered. Especially Jin, Daniel Dae Kim. His character literally had to perform completely in Korean but interact with the entire cast English speakers while only had one other person that understood Korean, Sun, his character's wife.

    • @godemperorcarlo
      @godemperorcarlo Před 2 lety +9

      My favorite Role for Daniel Dae Kim is still Johnny Gat.

    • @shalini_sevani
      @shalini_sevani Před 2 lety +5

      I think you mean Daniel Dae Kim played Jin.

    • @user-mb9nm7bq5e
      @user-mb9nm7bq5e Před 2 lety +6

      Can we talk about Brian tee and sung kang.

    • @jessikat56
      @jessikat56 Před 2 lety +1

      @@shalini_sevani this is literally what they said.

    • @avokanima3403
      @avokanima3403 Před 2 lety +17

      Yes I definitely had a crush on Sayid and Jin ahaha

  • @Internatube
    @Internatube Před 2 lety +9

    Read ANY criticism regarding the 2021 Cowboy Bebop and literally the FIRST thing people mention is how terrible Spike was because he "wasn't played by a certain white actor". Like....huh? First Spike is a fictional martian. Secondly, if they bothered to watch it, John Cho absolutely fucking nailed Spike.
    It's like "choose the right actor for that role". And they did. But he's too Asian for them to accept it.

  • @brianhasiholanmangoloipard6059

    you might not hearing this very often, but thank you very much to mentioning us the Asian men and represent us so the world could see us as valuable as any other men. because we were pretty much did not fulfill any dating criteria nowadays or see us as the men who worth dating (being yellow, below 6 feet and being a laughing stock). it is hard for us to be able to date women while on the other hand, our Asian women starts to adore more non-Asian men and even make fun of us. so again, thank you for making this video about us, the Asian men.

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem

      yeah, shit sux

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 4

  • @kirk001
    @kirk001 Před 2 lety +683

    As an Asian American male who's seen this since the 80's, I really appreciate you making a video on it. Really well done. I had to share it with my family and friends immediately.

    • @mayaparamita2254
      @mayaparamita2254 Před 2 lety +3

      Bruce Lee was still alive during the 80s, right?

    • @dr.woozie7500
      @dr.woozie7500 Před 2 lety +9

      @@mayaparamita2254 he died in 73.

    • @joesmith201212
      @joesmith201212 Před 2 lety +4

      @@mayaparamita2254 dear lord man yikes how clueless can people get

    • @coles5451
      @coles5451 Před 2 lety

      bro look at your profile picture. in your case the stereotype is true

    • @lutheruler7487
      @lutheruler7487 Před 2 lety

      Hollywood is racist and owned by racist whhhhtes

  • @millsgurl8358
    @millsgurl8358 Před 2 lety +1377

    Please do a video on how black woman, but mostly dark skin black woman, rarely get love interest or how they fall under the disposable girlfriend trope, making audiences see them as undesirable or desexualizing them.

    • @starrsmith3810
      @starrsmith3810 Před 2 lety +246

      Or hyper-sexualizing
      None are good

    • @millsgurl8358
      @millsgurl8358 Před 2 lety +281

      @@starrsmith3810 true. Black women are somehow both hypersexualize yet desexualize at the same time.

    • @lavender1653
      @lavender1653 Před 2 lety +21

      Yes!

    • @greatgownsbeautifulgowns
      @greatgownsbeautifulgowns Před 2 lety +253

      Don't forget about how dark skinned black women are also constantly masculinized.😔

    • @Crazypixiness
      @Crazypixiness Před 2 lety +25

      I'd love to see a video on that!

  • @MrPurge11
    @MrPurge11 Před 2 lety +8

    This video is a breath of fresh air, really hope things will change for representation of Asian men in Hollywood and the media.

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem

      agreeed

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 2

  • @Kabutoes
    @Kabutoes Před 2 lety +8

    The movies: “Hiroshima Mon Amor” (1950s) and “The Lover” (2002) feature an East Asian man and white woman, and written by the same writer

  • @ImGonnaBlameTheMEEDUHSid
    @ImGonnaBlameTheMEEDUHSid Před 2 lety +855

    My only critique is you missed how this trope is also internalized by Asian Women as well as Asian men. They may have their own cultural reasons why they don't wanna date Asian guys, but a lot of Western born/raised Asian women have grown up on a steady diet of this trope and it works just as well on them as it does on any white or black person.

    • @GigiMurakami
      @GigiMurakami Před 2 lety +44

      Agreed! Good point.

    • @anoushkashenoy692
      @anoushkashenoy692 Před 2 lety +66

      Yes. In many Asian communities Asian girls and Asian boys both refuse to date each other, and now there is growing resentment between them.

    • @ImGonnaBlameTheMEEDUHSid
      @ImGonnaBlameTheMEEDUHSid Před 2 lety +8

      @Duck duck goose goose oh no. They're slipping into some Black stuff?🤦🏾‍♂️ That's OK. We know THEY'LL eventually get it together.

    • @unapologetic7281
      @unapologetic7281 Před 2 lety +40

      @@anoushkashenoy692 that’s really sad to know. I hope all non-white people can just accept the fact that these things were not made for us but by whi!te supr€mac!sts (mostly) and will always have a sinister/bias undertone to it (if/when they do include us). Self-acceptance is key!!

    • @shrisiva4016
      @shrisiva4016 Před 2 lety +57

      @@anoushkashenoy692 More like Asian girls not wanting to date Asian guys and Asian guys being left to try other places due to it

  • @pawanthakur-df2yk
    @pawanthakur-df2yk Před 2 lety +212

    2 Broke Girls was very offensive to Han

    • @SpartanManchie
      @SpartanManchie Před 2 lety +65

      I remember when one of the girls insulted the Asian man, the other girl said that she need to be careful not to hurt his feelings or he’d kill himself with a sword.
      My jaw dropped. I never watched that show again. And they didn’t treat the old Black man much better.

    • @pawanthakur-df2yk
      @pawanthakur-df2yk Před 2 lety +11

      @@SpartanManchie And to think Michael Patrick King made that show who has made Sex and the City.

    • @dtucker241
      @dtucker241 Před 2 lety +7

      @ParticularlyGoodFinder Almost wish they'd chosen other moments. Didn't realize I was signing up to hear so many transphobic jokes with my morning coffee. Appreciate these kinds of things are being critiqued these days though!

    • @itachimistress
      @itachimistress Před 2 lety +3

      @@pawanthakur-df2yk I've seen Sex and the City... I'm not surprised

    • @GayTiktok
      @GayTiktok Před 2 lety

      @ParticularlyGoodFinder my god it’s supposed to be a light hearted comedy show. Even Japanese tv show make fun of seppuku

  • @midnightsun2085
    @midnightsun2085 Před 2 lety +4

    Thank you for speaking about this. It's long overdue.

  • @justinzhu329
    @justinzhu329 Před 2 lety +10

    Great video. Thank you for the coverage of how many Asian men feel.

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem

      boost

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 8

  • @mirasol0098
    @mirasol0098 Před 2 lety +216

    having an accent is quite the opposite of dumb; it means this person speaks at least two languages

    • @Nightriser271828
      @Nightriser271828 Před 2 lety +4

      Ehhh, not necessarily. You can have a regional accent. Sorry for the nitpick. :p Otherwise, I generally agree. I respect someone who speaks multiple languages.

    • @mirasol0098
      @mirasol0098 Před 2 lety +36

      @@Nightriser271828 That would be a dialect. Though various dialects are almost unintelligable in my native language.

    • @harrisn3693
      @harrisn3693 Před 2 lety

      Then why is Russian considered a Rival to American English? Because the Russians can flatline the US in 20 minutes by their nuclear weapons alone. India, Pakistan, China, Japan and S.Korea can’t even touch the US. There is a reason why Russia is seen as a rival but still respected more than any model minority.

    • @martinpiekarski1512
      @martinpiekarski1512 Před 2 lety +4

      Nah, accent is what you get depending on where you live, you have it regardless on the number of languages you know. It just may make a contrast when you live in a different country and use the regional language, while keeping your regional accent. Because it's actually more difficult to learn foreign accent than language itself.

    • @nehcooahnait7827
      @nehcooahnait7827 Před 2 lety

      “I am an American and I don’t have an accent.”

  • @IndiGeaux
    @IndiGeaux Před 2 lety +551

    My late husband was gorgeous, sexy, charismatic and Japanese American. I should be happy that he was looked over, or I may not have had a chance at true love. ♥️

    • @s4xtt
      @s4xtt Před 2 lety +70

      condolences to your late husband

    • @andromeda3163
      @andromeda3163 Před 2 lety +59

      I’m sorry for your loss 😔

    • @sailorgaijin8838
      @sailorgaijin8838 Před 2 lety +14

      Rest in peace.

    • @yuxuanhan659
      @yuxuanhan659 Před 2 lety +9

      im sorry for your loss

    • @CoolNumber1
      @CoolNumber1 Před 2 lety +3

      lol everytime when an asian man find love, he somehow die lol.

  • @IkesPimpHand
    @IkesPimpHand Před 2 lety +17

    I wonder if people will ever bring up how terribly the show "New girl" treated Indian men. I'm Indian and honestly I'm used to the casual derision piled on us by not only the world,but Indian women themselves. Western media seems to really be extremely dismissive of Indian men in particular. Indian women are looked at in this "angelic halo" light and we are seen as effeminate, inconsequential and basically c**ked in the media perception.

    • @realnapster1522
      @realnapster1522 Před 2 lety +7

      Indian women are generally fine. They don’t attack or stereotype indian men as a whole. It’s the white western media which derides and ridicules non white males. Because men are representative of cultures and white western media wants to promote their own cultural and racial superiority. Indian or Asian Men who are subservient to whites are welcomed and included in the whole movement. But traditional Indian or Asian men are constantly attacked and ridiculed cause they stand up to western white supremacy. It’s a multi layer propaganda campaign.

    • @user-bp2fo4be6p
      @user-bp2fo4be6p Před rokem

      There is no propaganda, Indian men who are conservative, loud and don't want to integrate into developed society can go back to their country, and yes women usually dress, talk and integrate much better, the same with muslims, those who want Sharia can getthefcouttahere, no multiculturalism in developed world, celebrate your culture in your own countries

    • @WastedBananas
      @WastedBananas Před rokem +1

      What did New Girl do?

    • @WastedBananas
      @WastedBananas Před rokem +3

      Indian women are definitely the least desired group of women there are alongside black women though. the actress who played Cece isn't even fully Indian

    • @RabiyaRavenclaw
      @RabiyaRavenclaw Před 6 měsíci

      New Girl isn't just one show, there are countless shows where Indian and even Pakistani and Bangladeshi men, Coz West puts all the South Asian Men in a single category, in that same kind of Stereotype where they are out for the sole purpose of Mock, Ridicule and Insult. Shows like Big Bang Theory, Hey Jessi, Skins, Degrassi, Deadpool, Eternals are all big example of South Asian Male Desexualization.

  • @clix.1596
    @clix.1596 Před 2 lety +4

    I'm so upset you didn't mention Ki Hong Lee in The Maze Runner! I'm literally obsessed with him

  • @darlion
    @darlion Před 2 lety +69

    I'm latina married to asian man. I can tell you, best decision of my life❤️

  • @FlyToTheRain
    @FlyToTheRain Před 2 lety +110

    jesus christ i'm so glad i never watched 2 broke girls, how did that poor actor survive that?

    • @snowfoxxie
      @snowfoxxie Před 2 lety +24

      Right? I was thinking I might get around to watching it someday… now it’s totally crossed off my list. How can people find super hot girls mocking a regular looking Asian guy entertaining? Does it make their manhoods feel larger? Seriously though, that dialog and scenarios are a complete waste of that actors talent. If he wasn’t such an incredibly good comedy actor, those scenes would be just depressing.

    • @hamidkarim4811
      @hamidkarim4811 Před 2 lety +28

      @@snowfoxxie Even if he wasn't asian, it it's still not fun or entertaining watching a series where a human-being is mistreated, mocked and disrespected all the time as a form of comedy, it's really not funny.

    • @WhalienDNA
      @WhalienDNA Před 2 lety +10

      Yeah… really glad I never tried that show. What terrible writing!

    • @nickjunes
      @nickjunes Před 2 lety +11

      It's like the show itself is a high school bully and everyone is ok with it.

    • @nkwari
      @nkwari Před 2 lety

      That show is almost like Step N Fetchit or Amos & Andy in regard to its treatment of that Asian character.

  • @courageouscarla1804
    @courageouscarla1804 Před rokem +17

    Sessue Hayakawa was gorgeous! This content is so great! Some of the examples in the video were so offensive and unrealistic. I know in the african american community we have ongoing issues with media representation and harmful negative stereotypes but I appreciate other culture struggles as well more and more

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 0

  • @missauroraroseblairsays
    @missauroraroseblairsays Před 2 lety +34

    What’s so crazy is that I have always founds Asian guys attractive and I gotten a lot of crap for it. My first crush was this Hmong guy in my photo club and I told my bestie about him and she straight up told me “girl he can’t pleasure you, get a real man”. I still date them and I get sideeyes and strange looks.

    • @AKu-xs5vg
      @AKu-xs5vg Před rokem

      Many people are NPCs and can only repeat what other people say.

    • @davidwong6515
      @davidwong6515 Před rokem

      Stop your fetish....it's unhealthy

    • @mahcussmaht4115
      @mahcussmaht4115 Před rokem +10

      dang your bestie be racist

    • @Moviehubxzy
      @Moviehubxzy Před rokem

      Your friend need to meet Asian pornstar keni style. 😂 let’s see after how she walk on the road. Lol

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 0

  • @amandahartsell9247
    @amandahartsell9247 Před 2 lety +365

    This is why I refused to be ashamed of being mostly attracted to Asian men. I find them to be the extremely attractive and honestly wish there were more movies with Asian male non-Asian female relationships. I’ve done some digging, and most of the movies that do represent these relationships are either A) Don’t take the relationship seriously at all and they break-up or B) the Asian guy dies. It’s discouraging to me because it says relationships like the one I’m in right now are not worthy of being taken seriously on screen. I can’t even imagine being an Asian guy and having every movie with an Asian guy tell you “Hey, you’ll never get the girl.”

    • @vatefairefoutre0
      @vatefairefoutre0 Před 2 lety +43

      or the Asian guy has to leave and marry an Asian woman due to family pressures... that's what I see a lot. and honestly what happens a lot in reality too (context: lived in Korea for 5 years and dated around. plus hearing many stories...)

    • @s4xtt
      @s4xtt Před 2 lety +6

      Thank you for echoing the demoralizing upbringing I experienced

    • @JB-bi6vm
      @JB-bi6vm Před 2 lety +7

      I agree. It is getting better not good enough though. Before Beverly Johnson, Tyra Banks, Whitney Houston etc., there was Marpessa Dawn. She was considered the most beautiful Black women during her time. They almost never acknowledge her Filipino heritage. Society recognizes her French heritage and usually emphasizes it while at the same time brush off her Filipino father.

    • @user-ip8bw7gt2x
      @user-ip8bw7gt2x Před 2 lety +32

      @@sovietunion7778 lol the west is the one pumping Asian women and White male in all media outlets for the past 100 years

    • @mcgibs
      @mcgibs Před 2 lety +17

      Hope I'm not alone in this opinion, but being fetishized by non-Asian women REALLY does not carry the same sting that society tells me I should be feeling. The power dynamic simply isn't the same. Take the way society treats women *in general*. I say cut em some slack. Allow them a bit of fantasy. Not too long ago, we weren't even seen as human, let alone desired. People crowing about Asian men being objectified in this way gives me a serious case of SMDH. I might feel different if we were living in a white matriarchy instead.

  • @Hallows4
    @Hallows4 Před 2 lety +235

    It’s obviously too early to tell at this point, but I wonder how much Marvel’s Shang-Chi will play into and/or subvert this trope.

    • @elisabettajdj335
      @elisabettajdj335 Před 2 lety +52

      One is that if the hero is asian, the villain cant be white ever. This has been documented that white producers actively sabotage the movie into having this dynamic

    • @amandak.5967
      @amandak.5967 Před 2 lety +31

      I know the actor Simu Liu from the Canadian sitcom, "Kim's Convenience," where he played Jung: the attractive bad boy with a big dorky/sweet side. I kinda hope he keeps a similar characterization in the film. Jung was so relatable/well-rounded :)

    • @mysteriiis
      @mysteriiis Před 2 lety +16

      Book version Shang-Chi is straight up Bruce Lee meets James Bond. They'll have to fuck him up pretty hard to turn him this way.

    • @Lionbruh
      @Lionbruh Před 2 lety +7

      Considering the lead worked with and defended that guy with hate crimes against Asian people on his record I'm not expecting much. He sold out on his principles so damn fast.

    • @tootspogsforever5590
      @tootspogsforever5590 Před 2 lety +2

      @@Lionbruh what??

  • @liveelbaraka3371
    @liveelbaraka3371 Před rokem +15

    As a black man i thought i was the only one that noticed or even cared about how Asians are never able to be in masculine roles in Hollywood..
    This is why I was so hype for that ninja assassin movie...
    Asain gangster movies are awesome too..

  • @Junior-ts1xg
    @Junior-ts1xg Před 2 lety +3

    I thought about Ned immediately from the newest versions of Spiderman! Good job with this video!

  • @UnboxingAlyss
    @UnboxingAlyss Před 2 lety +242

    I'm glad they talked about "The Love Birds". I was pleasantly shocked that the couple in question consisted of a black woman and a Pakistani man. It was really refreshing to see. It also gave me hope. Since black woman aren't considered conventionally attractive (especially dark-skinned ones like myself), it gave me a bit of hope.

    • @tsuyayaka1
      @tsuyayaka1 Před 2 lety +9

      Same! I loved that movie.

    • @princetriton1308
      @princetriton1308 Před 2 lety

      Go watch OLD just came out

    • @harrisn3693
      @harrisn3693 Před 2 lety

      Well tbh there are two type of black women, Gorgeous or Tyrone. I’ve yet to meet a black click who is in between and the few who I am attracted to are str8 up gorgeous. Nothing racist, just pointing that we men like feminine looking women for the most part, nothing to do with color as much as the hwite media makes you want to think. I’m Pakistani BTW.

    • @witchplease9695
      @witchplease9695 Před 2 lety +27

      @@harrisn3693 You are racist and your view of Black women is based on your racial bias and stereotypes of us. The majority of ALL races are normal/decent looking to cute, including Black women. If Black women were portrayed with the same diverse range in character and womanhood as white women were, your views would be different.

    • @tacrewgirl
      @tacrewgirl Před 2 lety +8

      Issa Rae intentionally made the interracial relationship not include a white person.

  • @PyanY
    @PyanY Před 2 lety +136

    If you grew up watching foreign media, you know this steryotype only exist in america😤

    • @arb1897
      @arb1897 Před 2 lety +4

      Ummm...........are you Indian? If not......i Speak for myself.
      Khud ke palluke niche jhak ke dekha hai?

    • @ojberrettaberretta5314
      @ojberrettaberretta5314 Před 2 lety +7

      europe and latin america too ,at the same time in asian tv stereotypes of europeans and americans and latinos also persist

    • @solen5529
      @solen5529 Před 2 lety +4

      here in europe too this stereotype also exists sadly :(

    • @RabiyaRavenclaw
      @RabiyaRavenclaw Před 6 měsíci

      Nah, It's the same case in Europe too, Have u watched Skins?, a British Series, Where Dev Patel , British Indian actor playing the role of a British Pakistani character Anwar was Stereotyped in this very same way like this video shows, infact Dev Patel even faced Racism and Discrimination from his co actors on set for the Character he was playing.

  • @ScottStevenErickson
    @ScottStevenErickson Před 2 lety +6

    I like Tom Robbins’ subversive spin on the guru trope in “Even Cowgirls Get the Blues.” I can’t remember how much of this came through in the movie adaptation, but at least in the novel, the “guru” character is a sexual partner to the protagonist, and is portrayed as a much more competent lover than her other male partner in the story.

  • @andrewchong616
    @andrewchong616 Před 2 lety +5

    Asian American have not realised that if they continue to follow the game rule, they will never win because the game is RIGGED.
    My word to Asian American dude: No need to act like a white guy and think like a white guy. Be proud of your own ethnicity. And most importantly try to learn somethings from your fellow from Asia. They are changing the game rule which may ultimately help you to escape from the dilemma.

  • @Exbo9000
    @Exbo9000 Před 2 lety +241

    I think that's why Rush Hour is one of my favorite movies. I don't have to get into it too much, but Chris Tucker and Jackie Chan's on-screen chemistry and the fact that they're co-leads with neither one feeling like the "sidekick" or subordinate to the other.

    • @wrestlinganime4life288
      @wrestlinganime4life288 Před 2 lety +23

      Besides it's buddy cop comedy and clearly plays a lot of stereotypes, so for comedy it's not an issue

    • @FabalociousDee
      @FabalociousDee Před 2 lety +67

      @Lindsey Bailes Rush Hour had a lot of problems for sure, and the racist jokes were so...fucking...many. But Chan's character was suave, intelligent, somewhat open-minded and got an on-screen kiss with a smoking hot agent. He was allowed to make mistakes, too. He also recognised that, while annoying & reckless, Chris Tucker's character wasn't actually dumb. Lee was a great character. But the racism was BS.

    • @RossLarson
      @RossLarson Před 2 lety +16

      @@FabalociousDee Rush Hour still had a generic Asian villain, played by
      Ken Leung. Ken did get to star in a romance movie with Hayden Pannettiere in 2007's Shanghai Kiss, though.

    • @FabalociousDee
      @FabalociousDee Před 2 lety +7

      @@RossLarson True. Rush Hour had a LOT of problems still, no denying that.

    • @nanayaakarikari6737
      @nanayaakarikari6737 Před 2 lety +14

      I mean they are both minorities. Let’s be honest, if it was a white man and an asian man or a black man, I’m pretty sure the white man would’ve been the main character

  • @poetcindylynn
    @poetcindylynn Před 2 lety +180

    Josh from Crazy ex-girlfriend also breaks the pattern in a way worth mentioning.

    • @silviaetna9874
      @silviaetna9874 Před 2 lety +20

      I watch lots of TV shows and crazy ex girlfriend really stood out for his portrayal of a Filipino man. I was grateful for this variety. I think more TV shows should follow the example

    • @mayaparamita2254
      @mayaparamita2254 Před 2 lety +1

      @@silviaetna9874 you can go to Netflix and watch various movies from all over the world

    • @mayaparamita2254
      @mayaparamita2254 Před 2 lety +6

      Lewis Tan, and the guys who played The Raid: Iko Uwais and Joe Taslim (who also play Bi Han/Sub Zero in recent Mortal Kombat) also do not fit that stereotype. Also Bruce Lee.

    • @alejandrocervantes3624
      @alejandrocervantes3624 Před 2 lety +1

      Dont even bother, thesse trend surfers, will never FULLY cover that show, aside from the ocational lip service here & there I asume casue it didnt hit big with audiences as opossed to rick & morty & game of thrones

    • @tsuyayaka1
      @tsuyayaka1 Před 2 lety +1

      Yes!

  • @andrewchong616
    @andrewchong616 Před 2 lety +8

    Asian American men chose to be silent on this shit. We can only rely on Asian men in Asia (Real and proud Asian) to defeat these stereotypes.

    • @andrewchong616
      @andrewchong616 Před 2 lety

      @Dracula Buttf**ker 3000 nah. It’s far more helpful than joining stupid Stop Asian Hate activities.

  • @Meow91
    @Meow91 Před 2 lety +3

    thank you for covering this!

  • @DavidEsotica
    @DavidEsotica Před 2 lety +314

    When Bruce Lee refuses the services of women in Enter the Dragon, it is because he is disciplined as a student of Shaolin. This is in stark contrast to Han, who was kidnapping, drugging and killing the girls on the island.

    • @jdwright89
      @jdwright89 Před 2 lety +69

      Ya, that was the one point I didn’t get in this video. He wasn’t overly objectifying women and some how that de-sexualizes him? I don’t get that

    • @starrsmith3810
      @starrsmith3810 Před 2 lety +12

      Plus Shang Tsung had a hard on for Sonya in the MK movie

    • @nessyness5447
      @nessyness5447 Před 2 lety +53

      Yeah, this video doesn't entirely get things, because there is a big difference between a character being presented as asexual, and a character being presented as sexually undesirable.

    • @moonlily1
      @moonlily1 Před 2 lety +26

      Yes, I had read that scene as meaning to depict him as having an honorable character in contrast the others who were depicted as slimey douches. That's my reading anyway.

    • @tshidi129
      @tshidi129 Před 2 lety +5

      @@starrsmith3810 Yoh! Thought I was the only one who saw it

  • @tsuyayaka1
    @tsuyayaka1 Před 2 lety +193

    What's interesting is that this is more of a western thing. When you watch dramas or music videos from Asia (especially South Korea) every Asian guy is perceived hot or desirable.

    • @thebeatifulmessblackrabbit7203
      @thebeatifulmessblackrabbit7203 Před 2 lety +6

      True basically that it’s more common in USA

    • @wrestlinganime4life288
      @wrestlinganime4life288 Před 2 lety +13

      Albeit overmasculinezed especially in bollywood movies

    • @alistairt7544
      @alistairt7544 Před 2 lety +31

      This channel is geared towards US/Western social issues, although some issues apply to an international audience, but a lit of the topics are kinda based on Hollywood and American Media.

    • @tsuyayaka1
      @tsuyayaka1 Před 2 lety +17

      @@mindoablues While that’s true, a lot of people don’t watch foreign media and absorb these harmful stereotypes from American TV.

    • @kimifw58
      @kimifw58 Před 2 lety +32

      People portray their own as desirable? Stop the presses.

  • @melanieshaw691
    @melanieshaw691 Před 2 lety +10

    I'm just sad you all left out Harold & Kumar, I think it's a great example of breaking this trope also eventhough it's a comedy they directly commentate on these tropes

  • @EmelieWaldken
    @EmelieWaldken Před 2 lety +27

    Shang in Mulan (the animated movie) was a big part of my s3xual awakening as a teen. I think he was a good early example of a non-stereotypical Asian man. Okay, he was super good at martial arts but the film is basically about military training and Shang is much more multi-faceted than his physical prowess alone. He is sympathetic due to his compassion struggling with his honour, his very perceivable queerness (Let's Get down to Business To defeat...) and even his embracing of the feminine qualities towards the end of the movie (although he doesn't go full cross-dressing as the three soldiers do).

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem +1

      damn its been forever since ive watched mularn

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 8

  • @gretasimpson9240
    @gretasimpson9240 Před 2 lety +115

    Those clips from Two Broke Girls genuinely set my teeth on edge! Can’t believe how badly it’s aged, but hopeful that jokes like that would never be given the green light now.

    • @nickjunes
      @nickjunes Před 2 lety +8

      Yeah like let's make some scenes about bullying, but write the show from the perspective of the bully. First time I've seen it, but it's incredibly low. I can't believe how recent it was.

    • @OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8
      @OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8 Před 2 lety +5

      There is a significant line from the 1991 movie "Boyz n the Hood" where the character Furious Styles stated that "The best way you can kill a people is you take away their ability to reproduce themselves". That is exactly what Hollywood and white Western media has been doing to Asian males for the last century, so much to the extent that even now westernized Asian women typically don't see Asian men as attractive.

    • @nickjunes
      @nickjunes Před 2 lety +2

      @@OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8 Yes, this is exactly what it is. That's the nail on the head. It's a precursive genocide. It's an attack on our image as mates because white/jewish men feel threatened and rather than let women make up their own minds they want to play dirty with propaganda tactics.

    • @realnapster1522
      @realnapster1522 Před rokem

      Hollywood is racist propaganda. It will never change.

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem

      hopefilly

  • @trinaq
    @trinaq Před 2 lety +389

    Please cover the "Yellowface" trope, or hiring white actors to play characters of colour. The most infamous example would definitely be Mickey Rooney in "Breakfast at Tiffany's."

    • @johnnie543
      @johnnie543 Před 2 lety +18

      Or the Mexican Ricardo Montalban as the Japanese kabuki actor Nakamura in _Sayonara_

    • @sophiabalounsi7832
      @sophiabalounsi7832 Před 2 lety +22

      Or Ghost in the shell, live action.

    • @Ilikefrogs..
      @Ilikefrogs.. Před 2 lety +8

      I think they might have done a video about that already? I definitely remember seeing one.

    • @athena608
      @athena608 Před 2 lety +11

      Honorable mentions go to:
      Katherine Hepburn - and every other main character! - in The Good Earth (1937)
      John Wayne as Genghis Khan (at least he didn't attempt an accent)
      Emma Stone in Aloha (oh you're half Vietnamese, suuuuure ...)

    • @agnessofiacastrocarvalho774
      @agnessofiacastrocarvalho774 Před 2 lety +2

      @@sophiabalounsi7832 that was not yellowface was whitewashing look it up

  • @satyamgupta2182
    @satyamgupta2182 Před 2 lety +4

    Love how observant you are about issues in media 👍

  • @lilac2698
    @lilac2698 Před 2 lety +33

    It may not sound like a problem to a lot of you guys but as a South-Asian, it's even worse. Now that K-dramas and Anime have begun spreading, East-Asians have gotten more and much better representation.
    Let me just give you an example of how bad it is on Social Media sometimes:
    One time, I met a Nepali girl in a voice chat in a Discord server. When I first joined, she told me she was Filipino, but we talked for a while and after some time we were the only ones remaining in it. She hadn't asked me before, but our conversation about how many languages we speak got to mentioning that I'm Indian(she didn't realize earlier because I don't have a strong accent). Only after she knew that, she told me that she was Nepali. I was shocked for a while (this was during my newer times of Discord, I hadn't known how prevalent and disgusting stereotypes were about us). I asked her why she said she was Filipino earlier and she replied saying that whenever she mentioned she was Nepali, people would start blasting her with the stupid baseless Indian stereotypes about and begin mocking an accent(which she doesn't even have, by the way). It baffled me, because she was genuinely such a nice person. The fact that once I used Discord more, and more, I realized how common it is for such happenings. I can't recall one time after me revealing I'm Indian that I haven't been blasted by stereotypes.
    Some of you all have hypersexualization.
    Some of you all have asexualization.
    We're just always neglected.
    ALL of South-Asia as a whole is just assumed to be India, and everyone thinks that everyone who lives in South-Asia looks the same. If any brown-ish skin toned guy is inappropriate and disgusting, it's obviously an Indian guy (Even though many Bangladeshis, Pakistanis, Nepalis, Arabs, and Latinos look similar).
    I'm sorry, I just had to share this. I've faced incidents like these too many times and it's tiring. I'm from the North-Eastern part of India and I have very East-Asian looking features. I can't describe how many times I've had to argue with people who say I'm not Indian. I'm sorry, I'm pretty sure I'd know my nationality better than you. There's more than 40 million of us who look East or South-East Asian but live in India. That's more than the entire population of Canada. Still, everyone assumes a certain look for South-Asians.
    Please, try to avoid doing all of this stuff unintentionally, it really hurts.

    • @AKu-xs5vg
      @AKu-xs5vg Před rokem +1

      Stop falling for the white divide-and-conquer. Everything in "south asia" is part of continental India. Not India the country, India the continent.
      Any Pakistanis, Bengalis etc who try to escape racism by saying that "they aren't Indian" are self-hating cucks.

    • @WastedBananas
      @WastedBananas Před rokem

      Just say You're Asian, its more accurate and gives people a better idea of what you actually look like.

    • @braisenjoseph
      @braisenjoseph Před rokem

      @@WastedBananas genius ☠

    • @nazninsultana9248
      @nazninsultana9248 Před 11 měsíci +1

      Damn i hate how i can relate as a south asian

    • @RabiyaRavenclaw
      @RabiyaRavenclaw Před 6 měsíci

      The reason for this is Becoz thinks that South Asian and even Indian is a race, which it is not. Indian is just a nationality/citizenship. India is made up of 100s of different ethnic groups who are all racially different from each other. And as for the accent, so the South Asian accent is brutally Stereotyped in Hollywood, where the Hollywood directors ask the actors to exaggerate and overdo the accent.

  • @jeanine1625
    @jeanine1625 Před 2 lety +155

    I also loved how Filipino-American Vincent Rodriguez III as Josh was depicted as the love interest in crazy ex girlfriend. Not as a stereotype, just as a (bit slow) hot dude.

    • @michellewilson5224
      @michellewilson5224 Před 2 lety +8

      This needs to be upvoted more. It’s shameful that the didn’t seem to include Filipino representation in a video about Asian stereotyping

    • @ninarances9074
      @ninarances9074 Před 2 lety

      @@michellewilson5224 While watching this video, it showed a clip of Ned from 'Spider Man: Homecoming', who IS Filipino. But that's about it.

  • @Monster_myron
    @Monster_myron Před 2 lety +186

    God Mickey Rooney in Breakfast at Tiffany’s haunts me to this day. Absolutely had no respect for that man.

    • @saltycrunch
      @saltycrunch Před 2 lety +39

      All of his scenes in the movie could be edited out and NOTHING would be lost.

    • @kimonaNo1
      @kimonaNo1 Před 2 lety +10

      I'd never seen that before, hate him now.

    • @christopherb501
      @christopherb501 Před 2 lety +5

      F***ing HATE that movie.

    • @mewesquirrel6720
      @mewesquirrel6720 Před 2 lety +1

      He literally had been doing this kind of stuff since he was a baby😂😂 he's done worse. I don't see you making movies or series

    • @ohwow6640
      @ohwow6640 Před 2 lety +10

      @@mewesquirrel6720 What does the commenter saying they don't like Mickey Rooney have anything to do with making movies or series?

  • @burritomussorini8263
    @burritomussorini8263 Před rokem +8

    It always bothered me when I was watching Big Bang Theory that how Raj was shown always awkward, unable to talk to women, unable to have any romantic relationship and how feminine he was. But on the other hand, when his sister Priya was introduced, she immediately gets Leonard, her persona is just great, she is a successful, intelligent lawyer, capable of having all the extroversive qualities. How desirable she was as an Indian woman, how masculine she was and how horrible Raj was, as an Indian man who never saw a woman in his entire life. I couldn't enjoy the show after that. It wouldn't have hurt them to show Raj as more confident, funny and a lot less awkward.

    • @RabiyaRavenclaw
      @RabiyaRavenclaw Před 6 měsíci

      Actually,it would have hurt them to show him otherwise. Asian male in the west are stereotypically potrayed for the sole purpose of making them a subject of Ridicule, Mockery and Insult. They always potray them as Ugly, Nerdy, Geeky, Unattractive, Wimpy, Whiny, Cowardly, Uncharismatic, Incompetent, and all about "academics". Always, a goofy sidekick, comedic relief and even worse a mere Taxi driver with a funny accent or broken english, among the leading White Caucasian Male lead. South Asian males are even told to to do the Hollywood 's sterotypical version of South Asian accent for the sole purpose of Ridicule and to make them a butt of jokes, further desexualizing them more. And Honestly, Kunal Nayyar (Raj) wouldn't even get a role here In India, not even for advertisement. Coz he is not at all good looking nor is he a good actor. Western people loved him in the BBT, coz the loved laughing at him.

  • @donnguyen1107
    @donnguyen1107 Před 2 lety +5

    Jake from American Dragon Jake Long was a personal favorite of mine: He's rebellious, more street-smart than book-smart, has struggles with school like any kid, does physical stuff like skateboarding, camping, and swimming, can be kind of punky, is definitely tough when it comes to a fight, isn't completely effeminate, and his main romance throughout the series is with white girl Rose.

  • @BobLogical
    @BobLogical Před 2 lety +133

    Steven Yeun's been having a hell of a star turn over the last few years.

  • @blueoblivionx
    @blueoblivionx Před 2 lety +245

    I've been watching Asian dramas my whole life so I've always been exposed to Asian men being portrayed as strong, sexy romantic leads. It's crazy how far behind representation in American media is.

    • @belle-ashton2167
      @belle-ashton2167 Před 2 lety +25

      Yes! And Kdramas are getting the attention they deserve thanks to...Netflix, ironically. The best one is Mr. Sunshine when it comes to tackling the trope because it empower BOTH men and women and show them being manly and/or badass on screen as well as gentle/classy characters.

    • @thapoint09
      @thapoint09 Před 2 lety +14

      Asian media is better at representing Asian than non-Asian media. Quelle surprise.

    • @blueoblivionx
      @blueoblivionx Před 2 lety

      @@belle-ashton2167 So true! It definitely helps expose the shows to people who wouldn’t normally watch :)

    • @belle-ashton2167
      @belle-ashton2167 Před 2 lety +7

      @@blueoblivionx Yes! Mr. Sunshine is a Netflix Original Series and I applaud Netflix for bringing this high-quality show from South Korea instead of hiding a gem that is not from the US, out of jealousy.

    • @mugiwarafan2687
      @mugiwarafan2687 Před 2 lety +1

      @@belle-ashton2167 yes but i believe its from tvn and netflix only helped in the distribution worldwide

  • @nehemiahmarcus308
    @nehemiahmarcus308 Před 2 lety +4

    The issue with movies is their over-reliance of tropes. Even working against a movie trope becomes a new trope.
    I don't think the tropes will ever disappear from filmmaking.

  • @magicalgirl4
    @magicalgirl4 Před 2 lety +11

    I've always found Asian men really attractive, so it's weird to me that this stereotype has prevailed for so long. Unfortunately, I feel like I can't really say this normally or else it may seem like I'm fetishizing them, but anyway I just find them more handsome

    • @mrconfusion87
      @mrconfusion87 Před 2 lety +4

      You do you girl! Props to resisting the insidiuous Hollyweird conditioning machine!

    • @starrsmith3810
      @starrsmith3810 Před 2 lety +2

      I find Asian men to be incredibly attractive myself, hell I’m still fangirling over Robin Shou but it’s a trope that unfortunately still does exist.

  • @pinkysaints2309
    @pinkysaints2309 Před 2 lety +378

    I’ve seen a weird thing of white men getting mad that women find asian men hot.
    I was talking to my ex friend about a kpop idol I thought was hot and they found it weird and made fun of me for it which was so weird.

    • @henryfung6789
      @henryfung6789 Před 2 lety +123

      Very true. And Asian women think it's weird to find Asian men hot.

    • @eldron29-a54
      @eldron29-a54 Před 2 lety +7

      @Oricand famous Asian women are way too much operated too, so if you find weird the attraction to operated Asian men, you should know Asian women don't look like idols or Manga. But maybe you have double standards...

    • @eldron29-a54
      @eldron29-a54 Před 2 lety +50

      Asian men are handsome. In Europe we know better.

    • @zeppkfw
      @zeppkfw Před 2 lety +28

      Same experience. Just plain jealousy and shock I guess since KPOP took over real fast

    • @mangos1346
      @mangos1346 Před 2 lety +11

      They are usually very toxic guys and think women, esp asian women, as their belongings, so they get mad when someone else try to take it from them

  • @1MegArbo
    @1MegArbo Před 2 lety +257

    I can't believe the totally unfunny and completely offensive "Two Broke Girls" ever got the green light, let alone run as long as it did. I'm pretty sure it is even still in syndication. People complain about shows from the 90s, such as Friends, not holding up well in some social instances. 2 Broke Girls is much newer than Friends and seems to get a pass. It is also way worse than most of the 90s shows ever were. How has this happened?

    • @edgaralanhoe2942
      @edgaralanhoe2942 Před 2 lety +37

      That show was such a mess, stereotyping every single character on that show

    • @jessicavictoriacarrillo7254
      @jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 Před 2 lety +6

      Trust me, there are some pop culture that get fairly criticized and some that seem to escape (i.e. Bridget Jones's Diary which traffics in many of the tropes that The Take has critiqued and yet when it had its video here, escaped criticism)

    • @alienboy1322
      @alienboy1322 Před 2 lety +9

      @@lubhanshkohli6543
      If it's a joke, why it is not funny?

    • @arb1897
      @arb1897 Před 2 lety

      @@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 likr how? What are the criticisms?

    • @starrsmith3810
      @starrsmith3810 Před 2 lety +2

      Birth of a Nation exist……..shitty media always will exist and get green lighted

  • @Daniellaison
    @Daniellaison Před rokem +3

    I googled this video since I was asking myself questions about being chinese and my desirability.
    I’m a gay Chinese man, and I often find it confusing existing in the gay world. There are often times I find I’m either desexualised or I feel invisible in gay spaces because I’m
    Not white, tall and muscular - at the same time I’m not skinny, small and submissive - these are the two choices the gay scene seems to put Asian men in.
    The amount of times I have gone on dates with men and felt stereotyped or fetishsized or feel a power imbalance is countless (don’t get me started on my first relationship)
    So I wanted to take the power back and do some research into where this feeling of desexualisation and undesirability came from and change the narrative.
    This video got me smiling toward the end as I saw Asian men take lead and have a chance ito shine and be strong. If anyone knows any films, books or television which includes strong, beautiful gay asian males please do send xx

  • @deborahlee125
    @deborahlee125 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you for this KNOWLEDGE! IT is eye opening!

  • @blackhoneyblossom
    @blackhoneyblossom Před 2 lety +280

    As a teen I watched a lot of Japanese series subbed online and was crushing hard on the actors...when I talked about that at school I became the weird girl who like Asian guys and therefore must be a lesbian because they looked so "feminine". I was so pissed back then, not because I was called a lesbian, I'm pan, so I don't care about that, I'm also totally supportive of men who actually have a feminine aesthetic, but because they looked at these very attractive masculine men and, just because they weren't the typical American Hollywood jock, called them feminine. I'm very happy that times are changing and especially with all these BTS fangirls, I just wished that I didn't have to listen to people telling me all Asian men look like women back when I was younger. The weirdest thing was: we actually had a guy in our grade whose parents were from China and a couple of girls were into him, so the hypocrisy was real. On the other hand, I'm happy they didn't treat him like they talked about my film crushes.
    Add: my university boyfriend was half Asian, and I remember him being basically in shock when I told him I thought he was attractive. He told me that nearly no white woman had ever said that, and he thought no woman would ever find him attractive.

    • @asrafelicia
      @asrafelicia Před 2 lety +31

      I also enjoyed Japanese series because they mostly didn't over sexualize a romantic relationship. They don't need to kiss or making out everytime to make the point that they were in love (or care each other).
      Asian cinema always really good at making a subtle hint about romance between character (especially if the main theme wasn't romance) and we end up wanting more and crushing hard on the actor.

    • @sorryminati4719
      @sorryminati4719 Před 2 lety +4

      The issue is fetishism over that.

    • @sorryminati4719
      @sorryminati4719 Před 2 lety +9

      Also all these BTS fangirls don't fo much good to the non masculine stereotypes with their edits and all these theories of shipping them etc
      That is a concern

    • @quenchtv5436
      @quenchtv5436 Před 2 lety +12

      @@asrafelicia im filipino i grew up watching american movies im always wondering why western movies majority of them are not complete w/o bed scenes 😂

    • @asrafelicia
      @asrafelicia Před 2 lety +5

      @@quenchtv5436 Most western series used sex/bed scene almost like a mandatory to validate they were couple (but at some point they were cheating anyway)乁( •_• )ㄏ

  • @Bllue
    @Bllue Před 2 lety +73

    They used mulan as an example of an asian villain, but all of the characters are asian and General Shang was fucking hot lmao

    • @CandaEH
      @CandaEH Před 2 lety +6

      its a little biased for sure.

    • @tubeguy4066
      @tubeguy4066 Před 2 lety +5

      This video is just cherrypicking nonsense

    • @Kilooma
      @Kilooma Před rokem +2

      @@tubeguy4066 so the stereotypes against Asian men don’t exist

  • @todayis325
    @todayis325 Před 2 lety +3

    I really love this channel. Every breakfast I watch your vids while eating. 🥰

  • @markuscriticus8278
    @markuscriticus8278 Před 2 lety +4

    I remember a guy who talked how excited as a kid he was to see Harry Kim on Voyager, thinking "finally, an asian dude who's gonna get hot chicks!", and how disapointed he was, that after five years of being space Milhouse van Houten, Harry Kim finally got some action... And said episode was called "The Disease" for a reason.

  • @sophroniel
    @sophroniel Před 2 lety +74

    Having grown up in an area with a large asian migrant population the idea of "desexed" asian men is .... baffling. They're just like other guys 🤨

    • @Nightriser271828
      @Nightriser271828 Před 2 lety +18

      Shit, the submissive Asian woman one is fucking ridiculous to me. I get that Confucian values were supposed to demand submissiveness in women, but in practice, I haven't met the kind of female doormat that sexist men fantasize about. It's Orientalist bullshit.

    • @byMidnyt
      @byMidnyt Před 2 lety +2

      Having grown up in the very white Bible Belt of the Midwest, I also find it baffling.

    • @collin-theonlyandone2299
      @collin-theonlyandone2299 Před 2 lety +8

      Just one of the many techniques adopted in the west to effeminate Asian men because they are scared of losing global hegemony

  • @lucieblaise8793
    @lucieblaise8793 Před 2 lety +302

    First of all, having never seen "2 Broke Girls", those segments are THE most offensive contemporary treatment of an Asian male I have seen. Like, how on Earth were those "jokes" approved?! Secondly, the asexual trope of Asian men is still very present in the 21st century. I could not begin to describe how this has damaged the self-image and self-esteem of my wonderful boyfriend, who is Japanese American (he's better now, therapy has helped a lot).

    • @mrconfusion87
      @mrconfusion87 Před 2 lety +27

      I salute you for REFUSING that Hollyweird brainwashing! 🍻

    • @evaniresmith7160
      @evaniresmith7160 Před 2 lety +42

      I totally agree! I had no idea the show was so lazily cruel toward both Asian people and trans men, treating both as mockable and less than white cisgender men.

    • @knmonlinemedia
      @knmonlinemedia Před 2 lety +34

      The show was awful as hell. Very lazy writing that resorted to stereotype a lot.

    • @aMoodyHipster
      @aMoodyHipster Před 2 lety +4

      The reason racist ass jokes like these make it on air is because there are only white people in writer's room and in charge of the production. All 3 Rush Hour movies are directed by the same white guy

    • @OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8
      @OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8 Před 2 lety +2

      There is a significant line from the 1991 movie "Boyz n the Hood" where the character Furious Styles stated that "The best way you can kill a people is you take away their ability to reproduce themselves". That is exactly what Hollywood and white Western media has been doing to Asian males for the last century, so much to the extent that even now westernized Asian women typically don't find Asian men to be attractive.

  • @bz1393
    @bz1393 Před 2 lety +1

    Appreciate you making this video - thank you!

  • @miriambautista4336
    @miriambautista4336 Před 2 lety +4

    I remember being attracted to an Asian guy he was just so suave, confident and charming...yet I questioned my attraction to him not in a never would but in like how do other girls around me couldn’t see him and think the same I would flirt with him but I guess I wasn’t his type lol he never showed interest towards me. Today I am glad to see all these beautiful combinations of ppl and I am glad things are changing.

  • @alh9569
    @alh9569 Před 2 lety +97

    I’m glad conversations are had about racial stereotypes differing on the gender of the person. Not enough people understand that every racialized stereotype materializes differently depending on gender.

  • @absolutelynotellen
    @absolutelynotellen Před 2 lety +140

    This is might sound off topic but i literally befriended with someone who fetishized asian man (and yes, kpop idols included), when the moment i showed her a real life asian man she suddenly go "they don't look anything like (insert a male kpop idol here)" 🤧 i guess this is the reasom why that asian men are often potrayed as "ugly" in western movies that i mostly saw.

    • @itsanu1420
      @itsanu1420 Před 2 lety +50

      @@mindoablues that’s true however for average white men there’s like a whole genre of romcoms starring average white men who are a little chubby not airbrushed celebrities and still getting the girl or being fully fleshed out characters with personalities, while Asian men (south Asian too) are constantly put into either the nerd or ripped model trope in my opinion. I feel there should be more representation of asians and ones who don’t fit into one or the other stereotype and are actually the main characters with personalities.

    • @yannickjohn6930
      @yannickjohn6930 Před 2 lety +6

      @@itsanu1420 Ironically, they were seen as popular in Asian countries like Japan and Korea.

    • @itsanu1420
      @itsanu1420 Před 2 lety +2

      @@mindoablues yup It’s great!

    • @johannageisel5390
      @johannageisel5390 Před 2 lety +14

      @@mindoablues I would also love to see more racial (and other kinds of) variety on screen.
      There are plenty of beautiful, cute, attractive people on this planet and they come in all colours, shapes and sizes.

    • @missprettyschannel
      @missprettyschannel Před 2 lety +7

      It's because they're not white Hollywood makes any other race that's not white undesirable for the laughs come on now stop playing dumb.

  • @scottrobert
    @scottrobert Před rokem +25

    thank you for making this, i’ve been dealing with these issues for 50 years as an Asian male. i have always felt my career would have been very different if i was a different skin color even though i’m grateful for all my opportunities. It’s very rare to see; young white males, young white females and even young Asian females attend my classes. Even Asian women reject Asian males and this is seen by marriage statistics. Most AF marry outside of their race. So i feel very fortunate having to hustle a career hopping on one leg and one arm tied behind my back. Thanks for bringing light to these issues.

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem

      fr

    • @Moviehubxzy
      @Moviehubxzy Před rokem +1

      Yo! Why u only try white woman.. try American Latin or black woman. They are much better than those white girls

  • @theresedo4917
    @theresedo4917 Před 2 lety +2

    I was actually waiting for you guys to mention "The Crimson Kimono" on this topic, it has some other problems but the portrayed of asian male make my jaw drop for a 1950s movie

  • @omniframe8612
    @omniframe8612 Před 2 lety +229

    Reasons why i want to be a screen writer so i can show men of color in a better light. Because this shit is annoying as fuck. Love that you guys bring these issues to the forefront.

    • @Goffe909
      @Goffe909 Před 2 lety +7

      But will studios and audiences appreciate it. Or will it be viewed as token?

    • @freebird1721
      @freebird1721 Před 2 lety +9

      @@Goffe909
      A good screenwriter treats his audience with respect but does not write in order to please the greatest number except in commissioned, commercial and tasteless films.

    • @Goffe909
      @Goffe909 Před 2 lety +6

      @@freebird1721 Then why are all these forced diversity shows so awful? The vast majority of them don't hold up well. Let's put a black man with a white woman, ok that's good enough= diversity 👍.

    • @Goffe909
      @Goffe909 Před 2 lety +2

      @@Wisteria_ You must remember a lot of the time Hollywood won't make a film that can't make money in China. Black Panther wasn't popular in China. The Asian market all across Asia rejects it time and time again. I remember when I heard Filipinos saying: "Captain America is going to be black?" They don't want to see that here.

    • @freebird1721
      @freebird1721 Před 2 lety +2

      @@Goffe909 Today, the mentality of the population is changing, and that of the audience as well.
      the studios put more pressure on the screenwriter for more inclusiveness because the audience itself begins to realize the differences between representation on screen.
      No, the studios are not suddenly invested with a benevolent moral virtue but are aware that if they are shunned by a non-Caucasian / white "part" of the audience this amounts to a considerable loss of hearing and therefore a loss of audience= 'money.
      (Nowaday a tweet can destroy a career or a film)
      An inclusive "forced" film will not be good. A film forcing the presence of Caucasian will not be good (see white washing). America is not only white, with all due respect to some.
      Some films before this inclusive momentum were very good, some inclusive films are too.
      It must therefore be done naturally and this naturalness comes from the will of the screenwriter during the writing process and the political orientation obligations and commercial strategies of the production companies.
      But it's true, that the American cinematographic landscape is evolving for 2 main reasons:
      - In the USA: The demands and social movement irl linked to the change of mentalities
      - Abroad: the film industry became aware of the enormous enormous pool of dollars represented by certain foreign nations.
      A choice is imposed on them, whether to continue to export their traditional model or to take into consideration the opinion of the population on their unfavorable representation on the screen.
      In my humble opinion, the premises of the film Gran Torino (and soon Cry Macho) both interpreted by Clint Easwood interpret the American situation perfectly:
      pitch:
      A "conservative" white man of a certain age, routine, sees his perception evolve towards a person of color, even going so far as to put his life in danger to protect him.
      Here the film is inclusive (in appearance) and meets the Hollywood specifications to the letter.
      No one wants inclusive mechanical films, but rather inclusive, intelligent, authentic films that show a reality: The inferior is the one who believes himself superior to the others.

  • @magzdilluh
    @magzdilluh Před 2 lety +99

    The show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend also broke these stereotypes by having the slightly dopey, but good hearted himbo character Josh Chan being the protagonist's main love interest.

    • @ironheart5830
      @ironheart5830 Před 2 lety +1

      What about James Shigeta Crimson Kimono ?

    • @narwal8432
      @narwal8432 Před rokem +1

      whats a himbo

    • @jalandharashiva
      @jalandharashiva Před 6 měsíci

      Stop pairing Indians with Africans & Oriental males with White girls, a new bad stereotype! 9

  • @octabodemes
    @octabodemes Před 2 lety +22

    I would love to see you guys take on the latino men, how they are often seen as the dumb one, narcos or just a random gardener instead of the spicy latina which you already talked about🙏

    • @aussiedanny28au15
      @aussiedanny28au15 Před rokem +3

      Do you guys also have stupid stereotypes? I didn't know that, because you guys were always seen exotic

    • @davidwong6515
      @davidwong6515 Před rokem

      But you are the dumb one only the blk is dumber ...why do you delude yourself from reality

    • @octabodemes
      @octabodemes Před rokem

      @@davidwong6515 Ok daddy

    • @davidwong6515
      @davidwong6515 Před rokem +1

      @@octabodemes Good ...see how much better life is when you accept reality instead of crying about it

    • @octabodemes
      @octabodemes Před rokem

      @@davidwong6515 Yeah daddy

  • @cerealbeforemilk8976
    @cerealbeforemilk8976 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much for this video, this topic is sooooo important ❤️