Daniel, your ability to express yourself and put across your points is impeccable. It is a rare gift you have. Not many people are able to express themselves as beautifully as you are. Besides, your videos have a ton of valuable information and lessons to teach. I wish you the best and hope you find success in everything you do because the work you're doing here on CZcams is phenomenal and life changing. :)
I admire your ability to travel extensively throughout the world. "When you travel your first discovery is that you do not exist." Elizabeth Hardwick, from "Sleepless Nights."
I was a young attractive white American girl traveling alone in Pureto Rico in the '80s. In a off beat town I stopped in a tavern for a cold drink. No one spoke English I barely spoke any Spanish. Everyone was eating big plates of food. A big plate of food appeared in front of me. I thought "shit, they think I have money and are going to force me to spend it here." Well, I ate it andwhen I finished i asked "quanto?" (How much?) The answer: "Nada." (nothing). Lesson learned: some of us American travelers are way more materialistic and judgmental than our hosts.
@@The7dioses I sorta agree; just one correction... the average US stay-at-home American is likely incredibly kind hearted. It's the Average tourists that come from many nations and cultures that can carry the entitled attitude which can be rude and thoughtless (as often as not.) The tourist culture does not represent the kindness of America. ❤
@Wayne M Sure, by creating slavery through huge bank debt through international loans. Only after stealing and destroying all their natural resources. Thats when the share change is thrown in as "International aid".
A professor once told me, “there’s always someone trying to help, u just have to look” - some people do help, when I need them the most. Just like you! Thank you :)
This is so good Daniel. I live in a van as a single woman (with a dog) and travel around. I hear a lot of fear from people about this, but I have found the same thing - kindness, helpfulness, fun!!
I'm watching you from Russia. Hello from Russia! I'm so glad you had an opportunity to travel there! Hope you'll have an opportunity to come here again some day if you want!
It's funny I was told when I travel to Japan it would be extremely expensive but, it just turns out you need to find the bargains. My travel to Tokyo was actually cheaper than I thought it would be.
So true 👍 I travelled for 9 months with my two sons last year, they’re 10 and 8. India, Morocco, Sri Lanka, we went everywhere! Sure we got ripped off a few times, but people are good! Your own instincts about people will guide you. My boys learnt this too.
I don't quite agree. My parents and my ex are the "kind" people you wish to meet when you're travelling. And they'll be very nice to help you no matter it gonna cost them time or physical effort or money. But in fact they're Narcissists, they have done countless cruel things to me which "kind" or "normal" people wouldn't even do to strangers. Therefore I would say it's more likely leading to a conclusion "humanity is more complicated than people can imagine" :p
But they wouldn't harm strangers most likely. Since childhood traumas have everything to do with relationships, they show themselves in close relationships for the most part... So it may look like they're pretend, but it's not the case necessarily. And that doesn't mean they can't be kind or bad because it's just different sides of them that both are equally real, that different people experience. Yeah, people are really ambiguous. They can be kind to strangers and ugly to people close to them so to you they're evil and to those people they help they're kind. I guess, I can be one of those people, but I wouldn't say that those people are perfect themselves and that it wasn't mutual in my case. I'm very sorry about your experiences with your parents and ex. I see why you wouldn't trust people after having such experiences.
Nah, there is good or evil, those are binarisms propagandized by the powerful to turn you against your neighbor so they can easily control you. A more mature and considered question is: are you building the common good or undermining it?
I agree - the reality is, women do live in a world where we are physically at threat from men and we have the reality of an added danger - this is simply true. We live under patriarchy, males are physically stronger than females. There is a reason women tend to feel a specific fear that men do not. I would love to talk with and learn from someone who factors this reality in, with the reality that indeed, the world *is* much kinder than most people perceive, and a lot of fear *is* unsubstantiated; but that doesn't mean you ignore realities of the power indifferences in our world, biological sex being a large one
@@theinfjgoyim5508Why the antagonism towards this random person on the internet that you happen to disagree with? Why not make your case more respectfully?
I travel the world alone and I'm a woman. I've been to almost all continents for the past 10 years or so and never had a problem. Let go of this fear! ❤
Omg Daniel. I cried after watching it. Becouse you did this video just in time for me! I am traveling to Norway in a few weeks, and then I am planning to travel to Portugal! And I started to have some doubts. But I need to trust the world and my gut that the places and people I go to are really good and nothing bad would happen(they seem good for me). Some parts of me are terrified, and others excited. I would not let this fearful parts win! Not this time :) Thanks you very much!!!
The media is going to make sure you know about the one in a million bad things that happen, and if you're already a protective, fearful person, guess what happens?
Hello Daniel, I'm Chinese. I found your CZcams channel a couple of months ago. I've watched some of your videos, and some of them are really interesting and helpful to me because I'm facing the problems with my parents. I wonder if I can add the Chinese subtitles to your videos, would you agree with this?
Totally agree, traveled Italy as my first solo trip in 2011 catania amazing but Rome and Venice not so much those locals not too helpful or friendly . But was a learning experience. Then went to South Africa 2015 solo and was amazing best time. But how does your soul grow if you do not take risks.
It's actually the best video with such a touching message I've seen for such a long time. I'm so tired of being stuck in fear. Just know that there are good people in this world too. Thank you so much🙋
Besides of the topic of this video, but I think, when in some cases you are correct, in some you are wrong - without high functioning in society, which psych drugs help to do, you will never get the money to break from your parents. Healing trauma is a years long and very painful process, but the world doesn't give you time for that.
It broke my heart when I was told that I couldn't go to France for a high school trip in 2005/2006. My Grandpa said he didn't want me to go because what if something bad happened and I was so far away from the US? Sigh. I've still never been. I definitely have a lot of fear that was instilled in me by others that I need to get over. I have plenty that I have instilled in myself too, though. Thanks for your videos :) they're extra interesting to me because right now I am 6 months into a 1 year DBT program. I think it is helping me learn to regulate my emotions better and cope in more positive ways. I do feel like a crappy person because of my diagnosis, but I already knew what it was from research before I saw a professional.
Ah, my father was born there. You did what I dream to do. TBH, the most unsafe I felt while traveling was in the United States (as a girl). Thank you for sharing, I miss the big Russian heart ❤️
Negative experiences are so damaging that they blur our vision of life and harm our perspectives on everything even nice ones that’s why elderly people are much more conservative than young people I think. And the world is really much of a better place than we expect.
I am so glad you had a great experience. I was robbed many times in my own town Sofia, Bulgaria as a young boy. And to this day I still think if I go travel it can be even worst than what happend before.
What you say its true. However there are dangerous places. Im from mexico and people do die and dissapear (kidnapped). Maybe wont happen to you. You also need to know to judge situations of course. But its true in general people are good. I also belive that.
Wow! You've been to lake Baikal ! Interesting about how westerners perceive the east. I got lots of satire, "real" warnings and bottom lip bites about what to "expect" in eastern europe - which was nothing of the sort, just as you say. People were very welcoming, very willing to help, warmly inclusive with strangers and foreigners. I can just imagine the nice old women doing you an exchange. Being hospitable is part of their deeply ingrained culture. Why do you think there is this immediate weird response when people don't really even know how it is or ever been to these places? Do they get this attitude from movies? Or where?
Usa and Canada. Lived in poverty in both places. Doing better now. Still alone though. Currently in therapy trying to find peace with my life and maybe learn to function alongside other people.
But how do you reconcile your final conclusion with your past videos arguing that childhood trauma is ubiquitous if not universal? I don't see how you can have it both ways.
I think both can be true. People can be generally kind (even or perhaps especially) to strangers while still dealing with traumas that can affect their behavior in a negative way. People have the capacity to do both, and even the outward kindness of a few people can be enough.
Some serious studies by linguists found that speaking a foreign language makes your brain connect different associations with each word. A negative word like "wolf" is not threatening if you hear it "loup" in French, for example (from childhood fairy tales, etc.) Learning a second language creates brand new neural pathways and when those are switched on, you break out of your usual state of trauma. When everything is new and exciting, you are truly living in the moment "The Power of Now" and not stuck in the past or ruminating as usual.
Repetition compulsion at play. People have their children before they deal with their own trauma. And then they inflict it on them(they are still responsible). But they dont have the same compulsion to do this to others. Its just easiest to do to children, they are the most vulnerable and dependent, which is sickening but true. Adult can always go away, or give you the same in return.
his videos are pre scheduled... he records them and then one by one they get uploaded automatically at certain times... most likely he didnt stay up late to upload this one video...
Daniel, your ability to express yourself and put across your points is impeccable. It is a rare gift you have. Not many people are able to express themselves as beautifully as you are. Besides, your videos have a ton of valuable information and lessons to teach. I wish you the best and hope you find success in everything you do because the work you're doing here on CZcams is phenomenal and life changing. :)
Hear hear!!! ❤️
I agree! :)
I admire your ability to travel extensively throughout the world.
"When you travel your first
discovery is that you do not
exist." Elizabeth Hardwick,
from "Sleepless Nights."
I was a young attractive white American girl traveling alone in Pureto Rico in the '80s. In a off beat town I stopped in a tavern for a cold drink. No one spoke English I barely spoke any Spanish. Everyone was eating big plates of food. A big plate of food appeared in front of me. I thought "shit, they think I have money and are going to force me to spend it here." Well, I ate it andwhen I finished i asked "quanto?" (How much?) The answer: "Nada." (nothing). Lesson learned: some of us American travelers are way more materialistic and judgmental than our hosts.
The average person around the globe is always way more kind hearted than the average U.S. american. Go figure.
@@The7dioses I sorta agree; just one correction... the average US stay-at-home American is likely incredibly kind hearted. It's the Average tourists that come from many nations and cultures that can carry the entitled attitude which can be rude and thoughtless (as often as not.) The tourist culture does not represent the kindness of America. ❤
@Wayne M Sure, by creating slavery through huge bank debt through international loans. Only after stealing and destroying all their natural resources. Thats when the share change is thrown in as "International aid".
A professor once told me, “there’s always someone trying to help, u just have to look” - some people do help, when I need them the most. Just like you! Thank you :)
This is so good Daniel. I live in a van as a single woman (with a dog) and travel around. I hear a lot of fear from people about this, but I have found the same thing - kindness, helpfulness, fun!!
I'm watching you from Russia. Hello from Russia! I'm so glad you had an opportunity to travel there! Hope you'll have an opportunity to come here again some day if you want!
It's funny I was told when I travel to Japan it would be extremely expensive but, it just turns out you need to find the bargains. My travel to Tokyo was actually cheaper than I thought it would be.
Truth! As someone who lived in Japan for 1 year and a half I did not spend that much because I searched for the cheapest places too.
So true 👍 I travelled for 9 months with my two sons last year, they’re 10 and 8. India, Morocco, Sri Lanka, we went everywhere! Sure we got ripped off a few times, but people are good! Your own instincts about people will guide you. My boys learnt this too.
I don't quite agree. My parents and my ex are the "kind" people you wish to meet when you're travelling. And they'll be very nice to help you no matter it gonna cost them time or physical effort or money. But in fact they're Narcissists, they have done countless cruel things to me which "kind" or "normal" people wouldn't even do to strangers. Therefore I would say it's more likely leading to a conclusion "humanity is more complicated than people can imagine" :p
But they wouldn't harm strangers most likely. Since childhood traumas have everything to do with relationships, they show themselves in close relationships for the most part... So it may look like they're pretend, but it's not the case necessarily. And that doesn't mean they can't be kind or bad because it's just different sides of them that both are equally real, that different people experience.
Yeah, people are really ambiguous. They can be kind to strangers and ugly to people close to them so to you they're evil and to those people they help they're kind. I guess, I can be one of those people, but I wouldn't say that those people are perfect themselves and that it wasn't mutual in my case. I'm very sorry about your experiences with your parents and ex. I see why you wouldn't trust people after having such experiences.
I think a big part of it is looking at the environment and its core values; that will really tell you about how you fit in, if at all.
But when one is traveling, one tends to meet different people, not a homogenized crowd
Hearing your experiences and opinions warms my heart, thank you for sharing.
I attended university in a major city and walked through neighbourhoods at night that I only learned, later on, were dangerous.
Thank you for sharing and concentrating on kindness
Thank YOU, for being YOU Daniel.
Yeah, there is inherent goodness AND inherent evil - when it is bad, it can be horrific. Better to err on the side of caution. Trust is earned.
Nah, there is good or evil, those are binarisms propagandized by the powerful to turn you against your neighbor so they can easily control you. A more mature and considered question is: are you building the common good or undermining it?
I'm curious, do you think you would feel the same way if you were a woman traveling the world alone?
There are tons of women traveling alone with the help of sites like HelpX or Workaway. They seem fine :)
A woman would be safer traveling alone than a man. People are more judgmental and suspicious of men.
I agree - the reality is, women do live in a world where we are physically at threat from men and we have the reality of an added danger - this is simply true. We live under patriarchy, males are physically stronger than females. There is a reason women tend to feel a specific fear that men do not. I would love to talk with and learn from someone who factors this reality in, with the reality that indeed, the world *is* much kinder than most people perceive, and a lot of fear *is* unsubstantiated; but that doesn't mean you ignore realities of the power indifferences in our world, biological sex being a large one
@@theinfjgoyim5508Why the antagonism towards this random person on the internet that you happen to disagree with? Why not make your case more respectfully?
I travel the world alone and I'm a woman. I've been to almost all continents for the past 10 years or so and never had a problem. Let go of this fear! ❤
Omg Daniel. I cried after watching it. Becouse you did this video just in time for me!
I am traveling to Norway in a few weeks, and then I am planning to travel to Portugal! And I started to have some doubts. But I need to trust the world and my gut that the places and people I go to are really good and nothing bad would happen(they seem good for me). Some parts of me are terrified, and others excited. I would not let this fearful parts win! Not this time :) Thanks you very much!!!
Thank you for this Daniel. Love you!
However 2 girls that went bike riding in Tajikistan got beheaded
Certain places you just don't go
The media is going to make sure you know about the one in a million bad things that happen, and if you're already a protective, fearful person, guess what happens?
Hello Daniel, I'm Chinese. I found your CZcams channel a couple of months ago. I've watched some of your videos, and some of them are really interesting and helpful to me because I'm facing the problems with my parents. I wonder if I can add the Chinese subtitles to your videos, would you agree with this?
Hi Risfirt. Yes, feel free to add subtitles. I’m glad some of my videos are helpful to you.
@@dmackler58 ok, thanks :)
Totally agree, traveled Italy as my first solo trip in 2011 catania amazing but Rome and Venice not so much those locals not too helpful or friendly .
But was a learning experience. Then went to South Africa 2015 solo and was amazing best time. But how does your soul grow if you do not take risks.
This is so true 💕
It's actually the best video with such a touching message I've seen for such a long time. I'm so tired of being stuck in fear. Just know that there are good people in this world too. Thank you so much🙋
I agree. We are traumatized by our parents first and later by the mainstream media.
Great empowering video, as always!!
You are a blessing to humanity, bless you!!
Aww I'm so happy you had an awesome experience traveling here!
Besides of the topic of this video, but I think, when in some cases you are correct, in some you are wrong - without high functioning in society, which psych drugs help to do, you will never get the money to break from your parents. Healing trauma is a years long and very painful process, but the world doesn't give you time for that.
You just be selfish and take the time.
No meds needed.
Waiting for someone to allow you to heal, you'll die traumatized and wounded.
@@themetamorphosisofgipsy Selfish and take the time ? Too simplistic to even consider as a well thought out comment.
It broke my heart when I was told that I couldn't go to France for a high school trip in 2005/2006. My Grandpa said he didn't want me to go because what if something bad happened and I was so far away from the US? Sigh. I've still never been. I definitely have a lot of fear that was instilled in me by others that I need to get over. I have plenty that I have instilled in myself too, though. Thanks for your videos :) they're extra interesting to me because right now I am 6 months into a 1 year DBT program. I think it is helping me learn to regulate my emotions better and cope in more positive ways. I do feel like a crappy person because of my diagnosis, but I already knew what it was from research before I saw a professional.
Ah, my father was born there. You did what I dream to do. TBH, the most unsafe I felt while traveling was in the United States (as a girl). Thank you for sharing, I miss the big Russian heart ❤️
Your travelling stories I love!
This in itself is true. It is estimated that 60% of people have a secure attachment style.
Beautiful video, beautiful and wise message, love this so much!
Negative experiences are so damaging that they blur our vision of life and harm our perspectives on everything even nice ones that’s why elderly people are much more conservative than young people I think. And the world is really much of a better place than we expect.
i agree. it is easy to become jaded if not careful.
I am so glad you had a great experience. I was robbed many times in my own town Sofia, Bulgaria as a young boy. And to this day I still think if I go travel it can be even worst than what happend before.
What you say its true. However there are dangerous places. Im from mexico and people do die and dissapear (kidnapped). Maybe wont happen to you. You also need to know to judge situations of course. But its true in general people are good. I also belive that.
Wow! You've been to lake Baikal ! Interesting about how westerners perceive the east. I got lots of satire, "real" warnings and bottom lip bites about what to "expect" in eastern europe - which was nothing of the sort, just as you say. People were very welcoming, very willing to help, warmly inclusive with strangers and foreigners. I can just imagine the nice old women doing you an exchange. Being hospitable is part of their deeply ingrained culture. Why do you think there is this immediate weird response when people don't really even know how it is or ever been to these places? Do they get this attitude from movies? Or where?
The exact same thing happened when I traveled to New York ❤️
_Good job properly capitalizing the title!_
Not kind. If it wasnt for crazy luck I would have died in the gutter already, and people would have stepped over me as i did.
Where April?
Usa and Canada. Lived in poverty in both places. Doing better now. Still alone though. Currently in therapy trying to find peace with my life and maybe learn to function alongside other people.
Yes you are probably right, there is a lot of inherent goodness
Swimming is life ❤
But how do you reconcile your final conclusion with your past videos arguing that childhood trauma is ubiquitous if not universal? I don't see how you can have it both ways.
I think both can be true. People can be generally kind (even or perhaps especially) to strangers while still dealing with traumas that can affect their behavior in a negative way. People have the capacity to do both, and even the outward kindness of a few people can be enough.
Some serious studies by linguists found that speaking a foreign language makes your brain connect different associations with each word. A negative word like "wolf" is not threatening if you hear it "loup" in French, for example (from childhood fairy tales, etc.) Learning a second language creates brand new neural pathways and when those are switched on, you break out of your usual state of trauma. When everything is new and exciting, you are truly living in the moment "The Power of Now" and not stuck in the past or ruminating as usual.
Repetition compulsion at play. People have their children before they deal with their own trauma. And then they inflict it on them(they are still responsible). But they dont have the same compulsion to do this to others. Its just easiest to do to children, they are the most vulnerable and dependent, which is sickening but true. Adult can always go away, or give you the same in return.
Yep
Double take on the lake Baikal pic.. Louis Theroux!!!
This could easily be just your survivorship bias talking Daniel.
Aww ❤
Are you an INFJ?
I think he is
You're up late ☺
his videos are pre scheduled... he records them and then one by one they get uploaded automatically at certain times... most likely he didnt stay up late to upload this one video...
@@alexandroskourtis5268 Oh, right. Thanks. Thought he was burning the midnight oil at 2AM.