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Addict, Collector or Hoarder? What am I?? Perfume Collection! What are we doing?? Let's Discuss!
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- čas přidán 19. 08. 2024
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I am a collector that could slip into addiction if not careful. In general, shopping is one of my vices and currently fragrance is high on my shopping list. I check in with myself regularly to make sure I don't go too far over the line. Anytime I feel like I am mindlessly purchasing and purchasing for the sake of purchasing, I put myself on a bit of a timeout and pay attention to why I am doing it. For me boredom and stress are two reasons I start to over purchase. Once I address those things I will let myself purchase the things that give me enjoyment. Mindless purchases don't give me joy.
Definitely makes perfect sense. It can get addictive if we don't keep an eye on it. I feel guilty when I make those obsessive purchases. When I make mindful purchases, they bring me so much joy.
I am definitely an addict, because I don’t need more, but I can’t stop buying. I have stopped buying practically everything else(just basic makeup and some clothes once a year). I looove fragrance ❤❤❤, but I also feel guilty because the money adds up, and I’m not rich 😅
I totally understand all of these thoughts. I don't have the guilt or poverty mentality anymore, but I absolutely get it and can see how those thoughts can color your reaction when you see a large collection (your own or others' collections). I send you a big virtual hug! Be kind to yourself regardless of your collection size. It doesn't define you (you didn't need me to tell you that, of course). 💖💖💖
Thank you! I'm definitely working through all of that! The guilt started when I did some math😥
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@@CarmenScentrix I actually DO the math for tax reasons. My accountant was like 👀
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@@VeronicaSays ohh I see! Yeah I did the math for 2022 a while ago and I just felt so guilty.
Thank you for reminding me to be kind to myself, I appreciate you! 💗
@CarmenScentrix absolutely! Remember, my friend. Guilt is an emotion our minds/hearts invented. It doesn't actually "exist" anywhere in nature.
Your thoughts describe my love of perfumes for as long as I can remember. You also described the thrill of studying a perfume and looking forward to receiving it in the mail but in my case, not being able to squeeze it on my crowded perfume shelves yet not wanting to let go of a bottle I rarely wear. I have twirled all of your thoughts in my own mind, remembering the days when I I was content with 5 bottles! But at that content stage I was buying tons of fabric at quilt shows for sewing quilts that will never happen! I can tell you are a generous hearted person, Carmen, who wants to be her best.
You're so sweet!! Thank you.
Yes it's always something I'm obsessed with!
I know the feeling all too well. I even tell myself I'll declutter a few to make room for the new ones and then I can't find any I'm willing to part with lol. I haven't done a collection video because I don't think they all fit on my shelf!😬
Try a tray. Whenever I do a tray it does help me in wearing things that I haven't reach for in a while. Also helpa me to put a dent in or finish up some
I'm the same way. I don't buy much clothes, shoes, bags etc. I'll buy like two shirts a year and I'll have one purse for like 5 years before buying a new one.
Thank you Carmen for your honest thoughts! ❤
I've also recognized that I have a problem, and my therapist pointed out to me that I am always chasing a "new high". I've done it before with knitting and crochet when I became obsessed with yarn and patterns. My perfume obsession started after my divorce. Sometimes I feel like I'm fortunate that I haven't become addicted to much worse things, but I wish I had more balance in my life. It can become overwhelming when I think about it - but like you I'm not in denial, so that gives me hope that with time, I'll learn strategies to deal with my addictive tendencies so I can fully enjoy my hobbies.
Check out my other channel if you'd like, I talk a bit more about that.
My addictive tendencies partially come from adhd and I was more controlled by them when I wasn't aware I had it. So helping with the adhd has helped.
I know the feeling all too well of jumping from one addiction to the next. I tend find a way to make a bit of money with each new hobby so I can mitigate the cost of the new hobby.
At least we are aware of our problems. 😂👍
I did curtail my beauty, clothes and shoes purchases because I became more interested in fragrance.
Hey boo ugh this this this! I hugged you in my head ❤ I’m glad you mentioned that you are getting therapy it’s certainly deeper and you touched on that, I don’t think anyone would be offended by your thoughts 😉 I have a IDGAF personality I never feel guilt when it comes to purchasing anything ( not just perfumes) everyone’s situation is different, it seems that you are speaking more on a mental health standpoint, you are already on the right path and we are here for you! ❤
This is exactly what happens to me 🙈I started with handbags and when I started seeing it was becoming a problem ,I stopped buying handbags for a while ,then it was makeup ,then perfume during the pandemic ( my issue is that I struggle with being a minimalist and also the urge to buy more ,I also have ADHD and I’m also a crazy obsessed organizer and am constantly decluttering .
As you say it’s not just one category and way more complicated🤷♀️IMO
I really admire the fact that you know you have a problem ,I am a 💯 a realist so I totally know what I am and work everyday to curb it ( that being said I do not judge anyone else for what they do ,that’s not who I am
What we do is often a coping mechanism 🤷♀️
Love you 🥰
We are so alike! I feel good to know I'm at least aware. 😌
I'm an organized slob. It's a thing.
Lol.
Yes, I'm always going from one obsession to the next.
I had no idea you had adhd. You really get me then.
Francis, you're a doll seriously. I truly appreciated you 💓
Some days I feel it’s an obsession that can turn into addiction. It’s a slippery slope. I have been watching lots of minimalism videos, how to stop shopping videos, how to just love what you have…. It has helped. I have already decided next year will be a no buy for at least 4-6 months. I am trying to practice a bit now and not go into a buying and hoarding phase before the no buy. That’s why the watching the minimalism videos. Anyway I think what you express is definitely something we can relate to and it’s great you share so others don’t feel alone.
I'm glad you resonated with it. I am also on a minimalistic journey. Slowly but surely. I watch a lot of minimal content as well! Who have you felt most inspired by?
@@CarmenScentrix my favorites at the moment are The minimal mom; Simple happy Zen; Mia Daniel; Slice of light, A to Zen life
I think you could benefit with some rules for your collection. Like use the Dana K White container method, you can keep anything as long as it fits comfortably on your perfume shelf. New perfume must fit on there if not some must go. I can't separate my work from collecting, I'm a professional maid that also helps stage 1 holders sometimes. So for me to have a collection that is well in control feels like guilt thing.
Thanks for the tips!
I think I was headed to something like that. I'm decluttering so all of my collection can fit on my shelves and I purposely only bought 2 for that reason. The 2 shelves behind me store as much perfumes as I want to have but I currently can't fit them all. 😪
Honestly i think we live in a hoarding culture, especially in the youtube world. And project pans can be just as bad. Let me use it up so i can buy more. Its all overconsumption. Im a part of the problem as well. I resoect you for mych for being so honest and self aware.❤
I also have a addictive personality. I just started my collection in May and I'm already out of control. But don't feel guilty because we all need something that we really love. Its our passion. I try to use something new every day. And layering also helps. We just love to smell good all the time. Nothing wrong with that😍😍
I am culling down to 2/3 of my collection this fall. maybe half by winter. Its time. I just want to keep favorites. That said, I think my hoarding phase was necessary in my fragrance journey. I already know im an addict and so I have no problem saying if something is my current addiction and when or if I'll be ready to stop. BUTTTT- there are worse things to abuse, speaking from experience!!
If I’m honest it’s a bit of an addiction for me because I should be spending or saving that money for other things. We have a smaller house and smaller budget and it does affect that space negatively and our budget. Being totally honest. Also, like you I have stopped almost all my other personal purchases when I started being obsessed with perfume.
I 100% recognise that I am a boardline addict when it comes to perfume. I started collecting after being layed off as a distraction from the stress, and a mood booster. It continues after getting a new job, but I try and sample more, and make sure I'm selling things that I don't love. The only reason I have some guilt around it, is I should be saving for house renovations next year, but that doesn't feel real until we've booked a builder 😂 As long as we are not getting out of control, and recognise the behaviour, I think we are all ok!
I definitely have an all or nothing type of personality that drives various things I get obsessed with. It used to be makeup and while I will always love makeup I no longer chase the collections put out by brands but I still own enough to last many lifetimes. I used to get it and think I would be an MUA but that never really happened. I'm in the process of decluttering and purging some of it but it's difficult through the various attachments to the items. Definitely easier when I discover an items gone off and then I have no choice but to throw it out. Clutter or collecting can also be a symptom of trauma as surrounding yourself with things is physical representation of protecting yourself. It's just trying to make yourself feel better. I think we are always doing things to make ourselves feel better (like Gabor Mate speaks about) when what what really makes us feel better is feeling connected and accepted and appreciated by others. Just like that Rat Park study they did with rats and getting them addicted to drugs while in cages but then moving them to a huge Rat Park with lots of things for them to do, they started to choose the water without the drugs and behaved less aggressive to each other as they were happier and didn't need the high.
I have finally reached my limit for the space in my condo so have told myself that other than a few pricier investment frags, I can't get any more unless I use up some. To be honest, as much as I love fragrances and I will always love them, I'm seeing some of the burn out happening with all the endless new scents that come out. There's no way to smell them all unless you are constantly buying and space is going to be used up, even when it's just samples. I'm trying to really enjoy what I have now as well. I appreciate you talking about this, Carmen! ❤
Youre so right about everything! I love that you mentioned Gabor Mate!! He's My favorite author/person when it comes trauma, and addiction!
I'm also slowing down a lot and it's less of an addiction now.
I'm glad you resonated and I'm so thankful to have intelligent and kind people like you watching my channel. It means a lot to me, thank you 😊
I agree there are addictive aspects to it. It’s (can be) a shopping addiction for sure. I think hoarding and addiction are similar (I love watching hoarders even though it’s sad) it’s just the focus of the addiction. People hoarding are addicted to it I would think. For some people with larger budgets, more space etc it may not impact them so much in a negative way. Those will smaller budgets, less space it will affect them faster. I think the line is drawn if it’s compulsive and detrimental to their life. If it’s not then it’s under control and more of a collection.
I am someone who never reslly overbought anything but fragrance. I am ok with it, I totted up how many I bought this year so far and it was 22... That's a lot but I enjoy it. I dont spend money on anything else 🤷♀️
Think of it as in you help the employees get their check for the hour/day since buying these makes a customer of multiple places
Great point!! 😆 I've probably paid for someone's vacations with my purcahses! Lol
You talk about perfumes I want to hear about in a way that’s actually useful! I love your channel and am still super thankful you kept it going! My unpopular opinion: I don’t like the Titziana Terenzi scents I’ve tried. They have this DNA that’s loud and boring. There, I said it. 😂
Thank you 😊
I believe the smell in Tiziana Terenzi is IsoEsuper. It's so loud and obnoxious to my nose. Navitus and Commodity use that a lot as well.
Thanks for the encouragement!💗
Carmen, hola. I buy perfume because I love fragrance but I am aware of the limit: It is too much. I gift many of my perfumes to family, and at the same time, if I purchase a clothing item, 1 -3 must leave my wardrobe. I used to.have another life which enabled me to spend limitless and now I have so many clothes that do not fit in my current life or home.
Fall is coming (a good time to do an outside sale)so why not try and do a yard sale for your garage stuff and only buy perfume sample sets or decants when you want to sniff something new? If you’re obsessed with just smelling new scents and using them a couple times, that should satisfy those needs. If that’s not enough then I think you “collect” perfumes because the bottles are part of your passion for the scents as well. What do you think about this?
I am working on slowly decluttering my house. I am planning on having a garage sale soon!! I've debated because they are a lot of work too and I don't make much money because I'm just happy if they take the stuff for free lol! I want to try having one soon though!
I'm definitely a collector too! I have more bottles than I could ever finish! I just want to calm down. I just haven't found the appreciation for sample sets yet. Probably because I love the bottles too. Thank you for the encouragement! I'll let you know how the yard sale goes!
@@CarmenScentrix Hope you make some 💰when you do your sale. I feel the same way when I have a sale and people come and buy the stuff I no longer want. Somehow it makes me feel good.😊
Love this video! Your transparency is so appreciated. Sending you tons of love and blessings! 💕🙏🏼 Btw, I can totally relate to my fragrances and the mood I'm in or even want to be in. Sometimes if I'm feeling stressed, anxious, sad, or even angry, I go to my perfume collection and spray what I need to get me out my funk. It's like my medicine or aroma therapy. 😅 I always say, each of my perfumes represent a mood. ☺️ I'm so grateful to get to know such an awesome community of fellow fragrance lovers. Yea, it can be expensive at times but we deserve to treat ourselves to what makes us happy just as much as we do for our family as moms and wives. #WeMatterToo 😘
Yes!! We do deserve it! 😌
I love the mood enhancing aspect of it. I even use some for comfort. I'm glad you resonated with the video! I was sooo nervous to post this. I've debated for a over a week😬
Love your honesty!
I think you deserve to have fun. Perfumes might go bad, but it could take 10 years or more. And if they do, you'll still have the bottles to admire. I understand what you're saying, though. 💖🌈💖
Its definitely conflicting. As much as I say I don't want them to go to waste, it's very likely some will.
I also have perfumes that are over 15 years old (that I don't wear) because I wanted to hold on to the scent memory forever.
You look beautiful ❤
Thank you so much 😀
13:33 same and its ok we can always resell
I think I might be hoarding some 😒😒😒
Will watch it now- but from the title i already feel targeted 🙃😂💜
Good morning Carmen ☕️
Good morning gorgeous 😍
my low buy money managing was to get the place renovation supplies + supplies materials build walk in closet and cut down on groceries largely and when it's complete I shift the money to groceries so I can eat well get energy to do the physical effort for the plan
That's a great plan. 👍
Hey Carmen. I can totally agree with you about feeling guilty for buying a lot of perfume.
I think I have hoarding tendencies because I have so many samples and decants and then a bunch of full bottles. Maybe 20 or 30. I love perfume but I have more than I can realistically use in a lifetime or in many years. So I don’t need anymore.
I'm currently going through a decluttering phase in my entire collection and really curating to only keep loves!!
You can always share with friends and family or even sell what's not working for you.
I think I’m a combination of all three categories and I’m somewhat okay with that. I’m so tired of feeling bad about something I enjoy and that brings me joy. I’m trying to find a good balance. Great video
Me too. I reflected on this and asked my husband if he was okay with my Collection. Since he literally buys them for me. He was fine with it so why should I feel guilty!? Lol. I'm working through the guilt.
Loving the eye makeup ❤
I may have an addiction... I don't know, but I usually can take a break and then come back. But I don't think I'm hoarding as I wear my scents and try to finish them. 🤷🏽♀️
I also wish to one day just keep a smaller number of fragrances but for now I am so happy having a very ample repertoire :))
I definitely want to continue to have lots of fragrances. Just with a number I feel comfortable with. It's waaaay higher than most people but I'm okay with that too!
Thank you for this video its definitely thought provoking. I honestly just enjoy trying new scents. Its fun. When its not fun anymore i will let my fragrances go or scale down. Now If I don't care for a scent I will let it go- no issues. thats all the justification that I need-for myself. I don't put any labels on me and don't want to with anyone else cause their reasons for having perfume are their own reasons. Life is short and yes I'm going to buy what I want within reason-my reason of course 😂. In other parts of my life I'm pretty basic and simple so yeah😊
Well said 👏
I've finally come to the point where I can let go of scents that don't work for me also.
You're a hoarder that's addicted to collecting 😂
Yes! You nailed it! 😂
Hi, I am a new subscriber to your channel. I am a little of all three. I am trying to stop blind buying perfumes because I waist so much money when I don't like the fragrance. I donate all the perfumes I dont like to the women in transition center here in my city and that is how I justify me buying more perfume. I still feel guilty for waisting money that I could have saved or did something constructive with. It's good to know that I am not alone with my perfume addiction.
You are not alone! Perfumes are truly amazing but the addictive behaviors are definitely challenging! Being aware of the problem is definitely a step in the right direction 👌
maybe you're just a taurus
I used to buy lipstick because of a name: i.e. Rue Cambon but perfume took the place of Gabrielle Chanel's💄...
I think I am a bit of an addict hoarder and a collector. I love perfume and make up! I own a lot of perfume (150 plus bottles) and alot of make up. But as far as anything else I don’t have extreme amounts of other things. So that doesn’t make me a hoarder. I guess! Lol!! I’ll say I’m an addict.
I'm also all 3 😁 I don't even remember if I said that.
I do love makeup too! I've transitioned to only clean makeup and that's made it easier to not get caught up in all of the new trending makeup.
Hello again Carmen
Hello gorgeous, glad to have you here.
@@CarmenScentrix 😄🌻 Thank you. Enjoyed this video. I'm learning to overspray some of my perfumes to empty more and buy more. Find it kind of sad that some people don't want to use up their more expensive perfumes because of the price. If I ever buy a perfume out of my normal price range I will be using it up.
@@yahainHotPink yeah I'm trying to do that too! I specially want to get my moneys worth for those expensive ones. 😩
Just talked about this stuff on my channel too! It gets out of hand soooo easy. I love your videos because you are so honest. This vid was really good for me to see too as a perfume addict. 🫢
I'm glad you enjoyed it! Going to go watch your channel now!
@@CarmenScentrix wow thanks! It means a lot to me because you are my inspiration💞🐱