Second Trimester Pregnancy Loss | My Stillbirth Story @ 21 weeks
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- čas přidán 7. 02. 2018
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This is a very sensitive subject and some things I talk about may be triggering for some people.
- On 1/24/2018 we found out that our baby had passed away and on 1/26/2018 our sweet Lucas Daniel was born sleeping.
-I want to share our story in hopes that if anyone else is going through this they will know they are not alone.
xoxo, Olivia
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Never apologize for crying EVER! You are helping other mom's who have gone through the same loss. Your story is important to tell.
I really don't.understand why we/people-usually women- are always apologizing for crying ?!
Never feel like you need to apologize for crying. Not only have you been through a very hard, traumatizing experience.. but crying is a normal human emotion. I can’t imagine what you’re going through, losing a child has to be the hardest thing for anyone to go through. I’m so sorry. I hope you’re doing okay 💕
I am so sorry for your loss of your sweet little baby boy. You are very brave and I know your heart is still breaking and that you will be carrying him in your heart always! You also will be helping others with your story. May God Bless You!
I am so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story. I know this will help other moms who are going through this or have already gone through it.
Thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story with us. I just miscarried at 10 weeks and I can’t even imagine getting that far along and experiencing what you did. ❤️
Great that you shared this as hard it is
You poor darling, no matter what you wished you should have done, don't worry you did everything right. I hope you're faring better these days.
I’m so so very sorry for your loss. I had a loss years ago and I just recently started going through these loss videos and I feel like it’s good therapy
I don’t feel alone because we’re not but your video where you said they asked you if you wanted to see your baby again tomorrow and you thought you had enough time already and then you regretted your decision
It makes me so mad too many times I have heard that from Moms they shouldn’t ask the mom that question moms are in shock just tell the mom tomorrow when your baby will be back to spend Time with.
You have definitely helped other moms anyone who hears this will remember to spend that time so they don’t regret it. Thank you for that ♥️♥️
I am so sorry for your loss - may God continue to guide you through with hope.
Thank you so much for sharing. I am currently going through this. Lost my beautiful baby girl this past Saturday at 21 weeks and it’s the most heart breaking thing my husband and I have ever been through..
Im so sorry🖤
Me too 22 weeks, a girl... I can't understand, nor did I know so many women go thru this ...
I'm soo sorry for your loss... I am feeling your pain right now! I am 16 weeks pregnant and went to my ultrasound and there was no heartbeat and I am due to go in tomorrow to deliver my baby and am feeling very scared but your video has really helped me so thank you for being brave and having the courage to put this up
🖤how are you now?:(
I was in the same situation last year, I dont have a baby yet, praying for one 🥺
So sorry for your loss
I'm crying watching your video. I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm so sorry you are feeling so much pain. I've been there. I had my second IVF in May but had m/c in June. My numbers didn't go up high, slowly rose. Then I just had a natural m/c. It's been almost 4 months... But I feel so broken. We're planning to have 3rd ivf in a couple of months. But this time we're using donor eggs. Don't give up. I know it's really hard to pretend it's ok. My doctor told me the other day that it's ok to be disappointed but do not be discouraged. Please stay strong. You are in my prayers.
I am so sorry for your loss.Just know he is a angel and will always be in your heart and watching over you.Happy birthday in heaven babyboy♡♡
Oh mama I am so sorry. I have almost your same story. Baby was fine at 17 weeks....I went into my 21 week anatomy scan and there was no heartbeat. Baby had stopped growing at 17 weeks. I was getting very sick which I had mistakenly thought was just a sign I was more pregnant (1st Pregnancy). Doctor was worried i was getting septic, sent me to the hospital and I was septic so I had to have an d&c immediately. It is a horrible pain and there are not words that help. I am so sorry for your loss.
The same kind of thing happened to me at 6 months. Back then they didn't do routine ultrasounds and my Dr was clearly an idiot and wouldn't listen to my concerns, saying that I worried too much. Then FINALLY did an ultrasound on a Sunday night when I started bleeding and had gone to ER. I could see there was no heartbeat, but instead of telling me the truth, they said "it's not that kind of ultrasound ". I'm an RN niw, and know full well there is only 1 kind of ultrasound. But at that time I didn't know. They sent me home telling me to stay in bed and everything would be ok. Thinking they were telling us the truth, my husband went to work as usual. I continued to kay in bed as the bleeding just hot worse and worse. Then on Friday a full 5 days later I began to really hemerage, and had a fever of 105, I couldn't reach my husband and the kadt thing I remember was crawling to the phone to call my mother. I came to with my mother and several paramedics and I could hear my husband screaming from the living room to let him in to see me, they refused. Because there was so much blood everywhere. When I reached the hospital the on call Dr told us that the baby had been dead at least 4 werks and had started to come apart. Requiring a D&C, AND the worst part was they couldn't find all the parts and sent my poor husband home to find as much as he could and bring it back to the hospital. He literally had to pick up parts of our baby. And when we found out how we had been lied to by our Dr, we immediately wanted to make him pay. But under the law, HE was protected by an insane law tgat says a Dr can withhold information if he thinks a patient can't handle the truth. (That law has since been modified, to not allow a Dr to withhold information that could be life threatening). The ONLY reason we know it was a son, was because pathology had to "reassemble him" to make certain they got everything. Sometimes I still get angry when I think about it. But it made me a better nurse in the long run, because I believe in honesty and patients rights OVER that of a Dr.
Thanks for sharing and being honest about your emotion. I learned more about it and feel so connected to you without having this experience. It’s good that you let all pain goes out and cry, so healthy and great for healing and helping others learn and get empathy for this topic. Thanks!❤
I am so sorry for your loss. I know you pain, I lost my son, Zachery at 22 weeks stillborn November 29,2017
Im so sorry for you both... I hope you are doing better now. your baby is an angel now.... 🖤
I AM SO SORRY.. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO GRIEVE YOUR BABY :-( GOD BE WITH YOU!!!
😢 exactly what I experienced! I had all the symptoms except movement cause my doctor said it’s normal for breech babies to had less movement so I accepted that. 3weeks after, I had a follow up appointment and I was happy that day until she we couldn’t find a heart beat. That exact same day I had to deliver her because she stopped growing from my previous appointment and that my baby was deteriorating. When I delivered my baby I was heart broken because she’s my first baby and I’ve been trying for 4 years with my husband. My baby girl was perfect she had all her parts nothing wrong. She would’ve looked like my husband. They said it was natural causes because they couldn’t find anything wrong with the placenta or baby. I’m scared of having another baby. But I am going to try again. Stay strong momma and sorry for your loss👼🏼❤️
This is truly sad. I’m sorry for your loss.
My deepest condolences to you and your family. May God comfort you each moment and know your little one is waiting with Jesus for the day y'all will be reunited.
God bless that funeral director. I'm so thankful he was kind to you. I'm so sorry for your loss.
So so sorry for your loss. Prays for you and your family.
I'm so sorry You have every right to cry, Thank You for sharing My Neice is going through this right now we don't know why the baby was a boy My neice was 5months and 2 weeks pregnant when the Baby passed She is devastated and this is so heartbreaking I pray God will comfort You and help You.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
Im so sorry to hear about your loss. This week I was 21 weeks and found out we also lost our little boy, pretty much same situation as well. Went in for our ultrasound to find out if we were having a boy or girl... we had a boy. James Dean Bradshaw. Due June 20th but born Wednesday, February 13th, 2019. Its a parent's nightmare. My fiance and I have decided to honor him and remember him with our wedding set for his original due date. Our wedding colors will be the same as his baby blanket. Cream yellow, baby blue, and spring green. Thank you so much for sharing. I hope you're doing well.
Emily Williams I am so sorry to hear that you are experiencing this same loss. My heart aches for you. I think that you have chosen a beautiful way to honor your sweet boy 💙.
Emily Williams god is holding your baby in his arms. Your baby is with god.
Thank you both. Its been pretty rough but things are coming together a lit better than I thought they would. Thank you for your kind words.
He was born on my birthday sadly. My live and deepest condolences to you. Mom had 3 stillborn boys before I came along and I'm now the oldest. If they'd have lived I probably would have been the youngest and only girl. Now she had 4 girls who survived. I can only imagine what either you or mom had felt. May God comfort you. I pray you had a beautiful wedding. 🌹🏵💐🌸🌸💐🏵🌹
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I'm so sorry. I had 4 born still due to cord accidents. This story is very much like my deliveries.
I’m so sorry honey praying for you and husband 🤗 🙏🏾
This literally just happened to me. I went for my anatomy scan and found out my baby was dead. I thought I was feeling movement too. My tech was very quiet too. I just had my D&E Wednesday. And I'm on the road to recovery. My placenta was in the front so I couldn't feel movement. Thank you for sharing this because I have felt so alone these last few days.
Omg same thing just happened to me . I cant understand why they can't give us a full explanation as to why this happens ...
@@Curljunkie1 because they’re not doctors so they can’t tell us that news, some techs do, but not supposed to..
i'm so sorry to hear that.. let me hug u /hug u so tight
I know this was a couple years ago but it's almost exactly like my story. I found out at my anatomy scan at 20+2 that my baby had passed. He was measuring 16 weeks but we heard a heartbeat at 17 weeks and I also believe he passed around 18. I delivered him 10/5/21 at 20+6 also in his sac and found that the cord was tightly wrapped around his neck twice. My story has a little more details to it than that which are different than your story but they're so similar. ♥
Sorry for your loss I was 15 when I had my first stillborn almost 15 years ago I named him NOAH 💜🥰
I am so sorry for you, I also lost my child at 21weeks and 5 days 😣 I will never get over this I miss him so much.
Im so sorry🖤
You miss him???? You didn’t even meet him
Noora Queen are you kidding me? What do you mean you never met him? How about she had to birth him still? Jesus if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all. Have a heart.
@@ballerinaaub I've reported the comment. I just can't believe people still think like that. I lost my daughter at 19 w and 4 days
@@nooraqueen2716 you're a bitch! How dare you!!!! Disgusting person!!
Soo sorry for you're loss thanks for sharing you're story
I lost my sweet Kaylee 2 weeks ago at 22 weeks 5 days. I felt every part of this story.
Help please....how painful was it currently going through this in a few hours
Sorry for your loss! lost my little Jennyfer at 22 weeks was hard 😢😢
Hi am currently going through this please help...giving birth and miscarriage differs in pain how? Am stressed few hours left for me to feel the pain
Im extremely sorry for your loss. I wished i could hug you through this screen.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I understand how hard to manage this feeling. Sending you big hugs and loves.
Oh my, cyber hug 🙏🙏❤️❤️
Big hugs. Thank you for sharing
So sorry for your loss 😢
Bless you sweetie. 😢🌸. It gets easier even though he’ll always be your son.
I had a 24 week still birth. She just stopped moving...I was told to come in and there was no heartbeat 😢. After she was born they could see what they called “three time nuchal wrap”. An umbilical cord accident. Just over a year later I had my second daughter. Feel all of your feelings and talk about it as much as you are able to ...it helps. My love to you and your family. 💜🌺
Please I'm going through this in a few hours how was the pain
I lost my baby around the same time in pregnancy on March 4th 2014 I delivered a baby boy we named Noah. It does get easier but you will never get over it. On June 24th 2016 we welcomed our rainbow baby a girl named Grace. It was hard her pregnancy because we never were able to find out why he died.Prayers for your rainbow!
Thank you so much for sharing
Olivia Cheyenne so happy for you! Prayers for a healthy baby!
sorry for your loss
Wow my story is quite similar to yours but with slight difference I know you're pain sorry for your loss 😭😭😭
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Im so sorry for your loss girl
Our stories are sooo similar. It’s been almost 72 hours since I delivered our 20+3 sleeping son. As I watched your video I just knew exactly all the pain you described. I see you just delivered your rainbow baby; how long did you wait to TTC?
So sorry.... i delivered 3 days ago at 18 weeks.... horrible experience to live through, hugs
I just seen this video in 2020 I know exactly how you feel sweetie it’s very hard me and my husband lost our baby my baby stoped growing at 7 weeks and 5 days I had my first ultrasound at 10 weeks and 3 days and it didn’t have a heartbeat I have my days where all I do is cry 😭 and some days are ok we’re trying for another one now I’m currently waiting on my period fingers crossed 🤞 I could be pregnant again did u get pregnant again after yours
Please don’t apologize for crying and being emotional, everyone processes grief differently, I had a molar pregnancy and loss at 12 weeks between my 4th and 5th pregnancy in 2006 I still cry for the baby and think about him or her every single day because of the molar pregnancy they couldn’t determine the gender both my husband and I feel the baby was a girl but we will never know for sure😥
How are you doing now? Please tell me it gets better
God bless you and your family.
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious beautiful daughter 💞💕 please know that you will be able to see her in heaven 👼🌹🦋
It was a boy not a girl. Did you watch her video?
I just went thru this very same thing at 22 weeks. 2 weeks ago. I dont understand how ? Why? I'm distraught
I feel very bad for you and I apologise for your loss,
So sorry dear...Gods strength
I am so sorry.
Drs will say anything to protect there asses from lawsuits my second child was born and was not breathing or moving was gray they got her breathing and moving she spent months in nicu and I had her at 39 weeks she’s 8 now and found out because of drs negligence she has cerebral palsy drs are same as u and I and they will make mistakes too and I’ve seen it all to well with many others and for moms like me who r high risk they need more care and more visits and I just had very lazy laid back very horrible dr with my second child and it caused a terrible accident at birth but for u I’m so sorry for ur loss and all u r going through words can’t even express my sadness for u I’m so sorry I wish u nothing but the best in all ur future babies my heart and love go out to u and ur family!!! ☹️
My dr is exactly that , lazy and was very negligent. Considers himself a " cool hip dr " . We'll see if hes still trying to crack jokes and fist pumping in court. Just lost my daughter at 17 wks 5 days November 6th 2019 after telling him over , and over how I was bleeding heavy throughout my pregnancy suggested that I needed bed rest only but never insisted for me to see a specialist or to consider me high risk. To find out my pregnancy was created with an infection that I already had before conception that finally made my water brake soo early
jennie Gutierrez I’m so sorry love I know how you feel careless drs and they think they can get away with it go the whole way you can to get justice for you and your beautiful baby I wish u nothing but the best and send u my love xo 😘
@@LC-dy1js Thank youu, really means alot 🙏👼💕
I’m praying for all of you ladies 😘🙌🏽 please turn to God and put it in his hands.
I'm so sorry ..
So sorry
Went through same thing today with my baby girl😔.it's hurtful.
God bless you !
I just went through this, our baby girl quit growing at 14 weeks 4 days and we found out at the anatomy scan. I delivered her at 20 weeks 2 days. We found a funeral home that didn't charge for baby cremation. We are getting an urn and she will be buried with us when we pass since we don't currently have a plot. 2 hours after delivery I had to have a d&c for a retained placenta.
🥺 faced similar situation last year
Did you get any answers why this happened?
I lost my baby girl at 20 weeks . Honey you cry all you want
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Carol Holmes I’m so sorry for your lost.. may I ask you, do you feel the symptoms before it happens?
@@borntobestrong9196 My sister lost her twins in week 21/22. Her belly got hard a few houres before the birth began& it stayed hard. Then she got a huge pain in her belly& contractions. the autopsy said the babys were allright.... she had an infection. :"(
Meow Meow oh I’m so sorry to hear that.. hope she is ok.. thank you for reply..
@@borntobestrong9196 it happend almost 5 years ago. shes a Psychotherpist for children& teens, so she wasnt able to wprk fpr a long time. it was hurting too much to work with them. now she has twins ?(1.5 years old)& a boy (3). Shes doing fine now... but the first year was hell.
Are you pregnant? I wish you the best❤
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💪🏾YOUR GOD STRONG
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I'm so sorry honey. Do we have any idea what causes these things to happen? May I ask what your diets like, are you vegetarian or vegan? Is there any health conditions you think may have been a factor? Wish we as women could get more answers. I'm sure you did your best. Your baby is in heaven being raised up by the Lord
Curiosity, are funerals necessary?
Depending on the age of the baby they will treat the body as medical waste and throw it out. That’s miscarriages. Same as elective abortion, the child’s body is just trash 😢 But stillbirth counts as a human person with legal rights, including cremation or burial. I personally tried to stay out of the hospital for my losses because I didn’t want my babies tossed aside like garbage. The one I had in hospital I begged for the body but they wouldn’t let me have it. I would rather bury them at home then throw them away.
I'm sorry for your loss I've been through the same thing, but sweetie stop snacking my cat does that and I tell him go get some water. My heart, love and hus goes out to yo!!!
I had 3 miscarriage was hard for me 😢😢😢😢😢
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Why in my choice of recommended vids?
Please use home doppler every single day! Just to double confirm.
Why do you keep going to miscarriage videos and posting this?
When a fetus is in distress, the heart rate is the last thing to go. It would do nothing but cause worry and stress
The person that posted this is a complete psychopath. Who in there right mind would post this?
How would that help? Idiot!
Our baby passed away over night at 32 weeks and 4 days. We went to bed with movement and woke up the next morning to go to a routine appointment where she was found without a heartbeat. There is nothing we could have done, and a Doppler wouldn't have alerted us to a problem.
ALSO, no mother who has lost a child needs more guilt cultivated by your judgement. You are a very unkind person.
Here we go again....no ones interested! Keep it private....
Kathryn Drury I’m very interested. Go away.
Dude why so negative dont even click on her video if your not interested is your life that horrible that you got to bring someone down even more than they are get a life and get right with God cause this is nothing he would approve of
Here we go again..... Another idiot who watches videos they aren’t interested in just to leave a negative comment. Karen, sorry I mean Kathryn.... There is a special place in hell for your sorry ass! You make me sick and if I could get my hands on you I’d make your trip to hell faster for ya! F outta here!
Kathryn you really suck as a person in general bye
Your a evil person
So sorry
Wow my story is quite similar to yours but with slight difference I know you're pain sorry for your loss 😭😭😭
I am so sorry that you have had to feel this pain too. My heart is with you. ❤️