Mennonite Mom Chat: Birth Control, Pregnancy Loss, Family Planning-our stories | Honey I'm Homemaker
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Join us for a very raw, sometimes silly, sometimes somber chat about our stories with birth control, family planning, and miscarriage. As Mennonites we might see if from a unique perspective . . . or maybe not? Thanks for being here! Let's chat.
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00:00 Homemaking tip of the week
2:40 Starting hormonal birth control
9:45 Jayna's recent miscarriage story
16:47 How to support a friend who's gone through pregnancy loss
21:30 Going off the pill
27:39 You have options! + take aways
“Miller will always be so special to me because of his arrival at the time of my miscarriage.” (Paraphrased) I think that is one of the most beautiful sentiments I have ever heard. What a special perspective God gave you in which to see Miller after your loss. My daughter’s friend lost her baby at the same time my daughter was pregnant. Such a difficult time. I have lost five babies-four between my first two. I felt the presence of the Lord because my hubby and I were never down at the same time. The support was beautiful. I pray God continues to heal your body and your heart as you grieve and mend. 🙏🏾♥️
Your cousin is a delight to listen to! She’s smart, honest, kind and unapologetic. Thank you for starting this series, it brings joy to my life!
We struggled with infertility for about 10 years and had our children through IVF. I was pregnant 12 times and was blessed with 3 children, so most of our pregnancies ended in loss. Now I work providing support to those who experience loss and also provide information on fertility treatments since for many Christians as myself reputable scientific information is so essential to make huge life decisions on how to build a family.
In a Q&A you answered questions about IVF and I love how kind your answers were, and I’d like to know more about the Mennonite community and their openness to fertility treatments. Recently, my view on surrogacy changed when I met a patient who lost her uterus giving birth to her first child and had more embryos frozen for future siblings to her baby. Her younger sister carried two of her babies to term and now she’s overjoyed with three beautiful, healthy children thanks to modern medicine and the ultimate love gift from her unmarried sister to carry her babies since she couldn’t.
Yes modern medicine is crazy. What a story!
My grandson is a miracle because of surrogacy. He is loved and adored.
I had 3 before I experienced my first miscarriage and I can honestly say I didn't really understand why it was so sad to loose a baby only 11 weeks along until it happened to me. It made me realize that the moment we find out we are carrying a new little one we automatically have made room in our hearts for them and unconsciously have already altered the size of our family in our minds. I think this is why it hurts even without ever meeting them.
You said this well!
Jayna is speaking some serious TRUTH about the purpose of sex and marriage. So beautiful. Natural Family Planning takes time to learn but it 100% works and you learn so much about your body. Thank you for sharing.
Yes! It teaches you to be aware of and learn your body and the changes that happen within your cycle. When you chart your temperature along with other signs, you see the changes on a graph. It gives you a “picture” of where you are at in your cycle. Your husband can be apart of it by giving you the thermometer in the morning and writing or entering it on your chart. This makes it so that both partners responsible and in the know of where you are at in your fertility.
I agree Jayna is speaking truth, I practice Natural Family Planning, and I have to say that we need to be careful when we say it works 100%, you have to learn it very well for it to work 100% and many times you learn as you go and from the unplanned pregnancies. For example, I have 2 friends who thought they knew it and both got pregnant from early ovulation, they ended their cycle and thought it would be safe that first day, then ovulated 6 days later, had a less then 10% chance and conceived. They were trying not to get pregnant. Of course they welcomed their babies and all but they were already struggling with the children they had and weren't wanting to get pregnant. Its a journey to trust God even with our fertility.
Abstinence is the only way to 100% not have children. Not many people want to
Go that route
I love this. Kids are in in quiet time and I feel like I’m having a chat with my friends. It’s perfect!
So glad you are here! ❤
I’m catching up now with your videos. My son was my 6th pregnancy and the only baby that make it. He knows he has 7 older siblings in heaven and sometimes he talks about them and ask questions. Losing babies is hard and I still mourn each one of them.
I am 73 years old and suffered thru 2 tubal pregnancies, leaving me unable to have a child. However, I had a fullfilling career, and it didn't seem to bother my husband to be childless, so that was that. We discussed adoption but my husband was very against it so I let it go. Now I have close nieces and nephews so I am blessed that way, and their children are like grandchildren to us.
🥺 I'm sorry about the first part..
I love this series so much! I am unmarried and I feel like this is a trusted source with similar values for my future. Please keep this going!
I love listening to you both! Especially how you are humble and non-judgmental when sharing your convictions. Thank you for sharing on this sensitive topic!
Children are such a blessing ❤️ It was great to hear you both have such positive attitudes about children. You both are so powerful and strong. Thank you for sharing
I hope you continue this series for a long time! Love the authenticity and willingness to dive into tough topics. You are both so sweet.
Love to hear a respectful conversation about your personal convictions about birth control and your experiences with it. Also a very lovely conversation about family and loss. 💕
I enjoyed this girl chat so much. I’ve been in tears a ton lately because I can’t get pregnant and seeing others with children is so difficult but the attitude of Miller being extra special because he is a reminder truly spoke to my heart. Thank you for this.
This was beautiful ❤️ the convictions, emotions, grief, and joy. Thank you so much for sharing!
I’m a grandma and never had a miscarriage but Jana story brought tears to my eyes , her friends 😭 what a beautiful sad story . Dealing with grief is a personal journey for sure !
yes - sad can be beautiful also.
I just want to say... I am LOVING this new series SO much. 🙏🏾❤️
Thank you for sharing your story, Jayna! I’ve had 2 miscarriages as well. So painful but I remember the support and love from my family and friends and it really was amazing. And by the way, my oldest daughter’s name is Jayna! Such a beautiful name! ❤️
I really enjoyed this conversation! Thank you so much 😊💞
You're so sweet Jayna. I really appreciated your story.
Aww thanks! So glad you are here!
I really enjoy listening to your 'Honey I'm Homemaker' videos(your other ones too). Great to have on while I work and helps me work through some of my own questions❤
Really loving this new series! You two are excellent together..complement eachother well with very interesting topics. Looking forward to more! Thanks so much for sharing!! 😊
What sweet ladies you are to share your lives and difficult times . I’ve found in my life the suffering and loss have made me much better at understanding others and being a support to others .
I’m loving these podcast style videos! Great for putting on while I’m getting something done at the same time!
Love this series! It's like a girl chat with your sisters 😊
That's the goal. So glad you are here ❤️
Sisters! YES!
Yes to the dating and being married young stories/tips/advice. I’m on the other side now, almost 30 myself LOL but still interested on what both of your experiences have been thus far ❤️🙏
Beautiful discussion. Honest and down to earth. Love listening to you. Thank you so much for sharing personal experiences that are hard to talk about. Hugs and prayers ❤️
Interesting to hear the mennonite perspective on this. In Catholicism we don't use artificial contraception, just natural family planning.
Yes, as a Catholic myself, I was very surprised to hear this about Mennonites.
Remember she's speaking for a group of Mennonites, not sure how many believe in contraception/hormonal birth control. I'm Mennonite and never would use it 😉
Aww I am so sorry to hear about Jana’s miscarriage-I also had one in the last year and the grief was so sore! But good for you to talk about it and helping others by letting them hear your story! The thought that helped me was my baby was now in the grandstands in heaven cheering me and my husband on in our walk with God for the rest of our lives!
Hugs Jayna 💙 I’ve also had multiple losses. It’s HARD 💙
The infertility/pregnancy loss community has been one of the most welcoming communities 💙
You two are fantastic together and I really enjoy you being so open. Thank you!
I thoroughly enjoyed this video! I really hope this series continues, you two are great together! I can just imagine the fascinating conversations you could dive into on so many topics! This will be so fun !
Oh my gosh I am so happy y'all did another one! This is so precious ^~^
You lovely ladies did a sensitive job with some tough subjects, but I am certain many benefited from your experience. However difficult the subject your positive attitude even walking through sorrow is an inspiration.
Beautiful testimony. Thank you for letting us into a private and emotional story ❤️🩹❤️
Im so sorry you had to experience that Jayna! 😭💔 you sound like literally the sweetest person!! hugs!❤
Great discussion ladies!! Looking forward to the next one!! 🙂
Another great show, I really enjoy the two of you together. I'm sorry about Jayna's miscarrieges, that is very difficult to lose a child, and I'm happy she had friends and family around her to support her.
I enjoyed this so much! Thank you for addressing this topic ❤️
It's wonderful that both of you understand that everyone has to grieve in their own way, and that it's necessary for healing to take place. Wise women!
i like this series alot :)
So glad you're here!
So nice listening to your stories! I've never had any hormones and people don't understand my reasons and I think it's really hard to talk about too. You inspire me all the way to the Sweden thank you ❤️
thank you for having a conversation about this!❤
I love that you do these chats, they are excellent! Soon to be a G-grandmother and a grandmother to 8 now.........so much you know now that was dark secrets never spoken about in my youth.
Love that you are so honest and open and can share the difference and respectfulness for all.
Excellent.
Blessings
I really enjoyed this. Jayna your story touched me. I could relate to so much of it. Thanks for sharing it! You are so right, it gets easier with time but then sometimes something small will trigger a flood of emotions. Also the part about when you hear of someone else going thru it, you feel the emotions again.
Jayna is a beautiful lady. I love her sharing. Thank both of you for doing this.
Juana, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. God bless you 🙏🏽
This series is such a beautiful idea. You and Jayna are helping many women. 💝💝
Thank you for this very frank discussion on birth control and miscarriage. My friend's daughter miscarried last September. She is still grieving. Thank you for giving her permission to continue to do so. I found your cousin's advice on the journey of grieving to be very healthy. Her moments of grief reminds me of my own journey of the recent loss of my father.
Your cousin has become very comfortable in front of the camera very quickly, kudos to her. I look forward to your next installment. ❤❤❤
I’ve watched this video twice already. I thank you both from the bottom of my heart for your openness and honesty. These are very important issues for women from all walks of life. Thank you for contributing to a healthy conversation about female reproduction.
Came over to listen after you mentioned about it on your last vid. Enjoyed the chat! Blessings.
Jayna says so much truth in her words. I love hearing her story, because in all this bad time she is happy too.
Oh the goodness, I've been thinking about getting off of my hormonal birth control pill I've been on since a teenager after starting to listen to the Freely Rooted podcast recently. I started at episode 1 so they are definitely not current to current affairs right now. I had a discussion with my husband this afternoon about our agreement in my not taking the pill anymore based on what I'd been learning about the real nature of taking it. AND THEN for this to be your topic and for the information to all line up is so validating ! I didn't even know there was practically a movement going on right now. THANK YOU for bringing up such important, vital and timely topics!
Thank you for being so open when talking about birth control. It can be a very taboo subject in many communities, but you approached the topic in a very honest and frank way. I take birth control and have taken it for many years due to PCOS and the hormonal issues associated with it. I was told hormonal birth control actually increases fertility and can cause the conception of multiples when stopped immediately before trying to conceive. In my case, that was very true. I have 5 sons, 4 of them are quadruplets that were conceived following a cycle of birth control and ovulation stimulating medications with an IUI. I also experienced an empty sac pregnancy that needed to be addressed with medications to allow my body to expel the sac since it didn't happen naturally.
Thank you so much for opening up this topic! Honest, to the point talk is so important.
Love the talk, and keep being brave!
Great girl talk! I listen to it while cleaning my house :)
Such a treat. I know I'm only one person but an earlier upload time would get you a full watch from me. I'm usually only able to fit half a video of yours in because naptimes need to happen and then cooking and then my husband comes home and I'm not able to watch videos because we have family time for the rest of the evening. But I don't mean to complain and I love you videos and this series is so incredible! And I always get to the second half the next day 😁
This chat did my heart good!
I appreciate the gentleness with which you approached grief🙏🏻
LOVED this episode!! 🤍
I am loving these videos.... I feel like I'm sitting in the third chair visiting with you both!!!
Love this series! Would love to get some advice on parenting and making time for your marriage when you are a busy mom of littles❤️
I have that mama bear apologetics book coming in the mail!😊
I went through an early miscarriage a month ago so this is very fresh! So thankful for my two girls❤️
GREAT conversation around important topics!
Love the sit down chats! ❤️
I’ve sat here and cried listening to your story. I’m so sorry for the loss of your two babies. I’m at awe at the kindness shown to her from friends and church. Where I go to church people just don’t care, family don’t care. They have the mindset of it’s all about them. No sympathy for you unless you’re in their clique. And I’m not in any of those. You girls are so blessed to have the church family that you have, and each other. God bless you both.
I love watching your videos….I think you are an amazing young woman.
This vid makes me want to connect with my girl cousins more! So cool to have conversations like this as older humans. The main reason why I haven’t is that we live in different cities. But that’s not really an excuse. Thanks for the inspiration Megan!
I was on the pill in my 20s - terrible - made me fat and lost my sex drive. You are both lucky it didn’t wreck you!
Thank you so much for being vulnerable and talking about all this.
Another tip for supporting women who've gone through miscarriage (especially ones who don't have children earth side yet) is to remember them on Mother's day! Having people recognize I'm still a Mom, and reach out to me on Mother's Day has meant the world to me!
I love Jayna ❤️ such a sweet soul and a nice lady. I love these talks where you speak you ladies speak your minds and hearts.
God bless you for your courage and thoughtfulness to share your experiences. 🤗💝
This was awesome!
I'm past the age of having babies. But thank you so much for this video. I love hearing how other people live. Thank you so much ladies!
It has helped me while I grieve my miscarriage to not use the word “but”. So I don’t say “I’m sad but the babies are in heaven”. I say/think “I’m sad and the babies are in heaven”. The positive doesn’t negate the negative!
Exactly 💙
From my 3 miscarriages i think the hardest part was grieving alone. The babies can't be real to anyone else like it's to the mother
Really enjoying y’all’s conversations! Recommendation: get mics for each of you 🎙
I'm a nurse who had a miscarriage March 2020 after years of infertility. I felt defeated for the longest time, but God has blessed me with a 9 month old! I also commented to ask where you got your blouse, it's so cute 😊
Congratulations on the baby ♥️
Megan’s is from Inherit Clothing company and was designers by her actually! Sorry if you meant her cousins.
Congratulations ❤❤ did you ever come across Napro fertility? I used this as my progesterone was so low I would have had miscarriages if it was not detected...🙏
That must have been so hard. I remarried and although I had a child we wanted one together. It wasn’t to be and it was so hard but I’m so glad I don’t suffer through a miscarriage. Best wishes
I miscarried at 15 week end of April. I still want to cry a bit listening to your story, I was due in October. I feel your pain, but God is good, and hopefully we will have more children in the future. May God comfort you, and bring you peace ❤
I'm sorry! You are not alone. Im sure October will be a difficult month for you.
Praying for you.
Ya,God is faithful,may He bless you abundantly
I miscarried at 14 weeks in February and it is so painful.
Never knew the tip about ice cubes to water indoor plants!! Thanks for the tip.
Jayna you have so much insight about these topics. I wish that miscarriage wasn’t something you’ve had to go through but please know that your story is helping others. You said something about grieving and if it takes 2 days or two years or however long let it happen. (I watched it last night while nursing and I’m paraphrasing) but that stood out to me. You seem so real in the words you share. I love that you’re not a “CZcamsr” because you don’t seem to say only what will please viewers. You share your own beliefs and it’s refreshing.
Turned this on as I was on the way to the post office to send a care package to an old friend who just lost twins. It was encouraging to hear how much this package could mean to her. ❤️
May God bless you for blessing her! Trust me, she appreciates it even if she cant find the words to tell you right now.
Wow, what timing. That is so tough.
Perfect timing for this as I’m currently going through a miscarriage. We would have been about 12 weeks along. Thank you for sharing.
Oh Savannah I’m so sorry sweetie. That’s about the time I list my baby too. I had two healthy kiddos after! I will add you to my prayers ❤️
I'm sorry for your loss 😔. You're not alone, God is with you and he will help you through this difficult time 🙏
Praying for your strength
I’m so sorry! Hugs 💙
Very very sorry for your loss, Savannah. I pray your body and heart heal. May God’s peace surround you.
I LOVE these vidoes. Please keep making them!
Love watching you ladies! Keep making more videos! ❤️
I’ve felt very strongly, since my first baby, that God should decide when and how many children I have. I have received a lot of negativity for my choice. I have had 3 children in 4 years. Each one is a blessing and so loved. I think some of us are called to do this for a reason and others not. That’s ok. I was made to be a mother. I feel that so strongly. ❤️
Beautiful god bless💜
I was fortunate that breast feeding stopped my ovulation .
Love these talks!
well done for discussing this topic. it is a hard thing to do, but like any important topic, it needs saying. So thank you
I love this too !!! keep chatting Ladies ... wish I could join you.
Thanks for being here!
I did the Fertility Awareness Method for years prior to and during the years I had our children. Reading the book “Taking Charge if your fertility” was truly life changing. It’s so empowering to understand my body. Great discussions! We should never just blindly trust anyone even if they’re a “professional.” Especially when it comes to our health.
Thanks for being here! So important to think through these big decisions.
I'm learning that lately! Not knocking the medical field, but obviously if some of our core beliefs differ, than our approach to health might differ a little too.
Yes!!! 100%
Is that the same as natural family planning?
@@christinalaska no, but similar. There are multiple different styles and the book has lots of info but is hard to read as a Christian. The book talks about life really lightly
It is great to hear your perspectives and stories.🌿🌸
Thankyou! Yes, it's our perspective, and I'm sure you all have yours!
You two are so adorable. I wish I had a cousin that I could chat to like this - open and honest discussion. My female cousins are all much older and live quite a distance away, and those around my age are male, so no 'lady-topics' chats there. I hope Honey I'm Homemaker is here to stay.
Lovely video thank you. I found the withdrawal method really good
I love the ice cube tip for watering plants!
I absolutely love your show!!!!!
I am in my 40's and my view of hormonal contraception has done a 180. When I was young, I used the pill without a thought. No medical professional took the time to explain how it works. As I became a mother of daughters and more informed on this topic, I changed my mind completely. I really feel that the Holy Spirit brought this change. One tip that I would suggest is to find a physician or midwife whose views on life align with your own if possible. This area of your life is too important to trust to just anyone. My daughter sees a physician trained in NaPro technology which values human life from conception.
That's so true! Mine has changed too. I grew up very worldly. But when I came to the Lord and really actually learned truth on hormonal birth control it is not good for me as a woman. Bc started because it was a eugenics push by Margaret Sanger to keep disabled and colored people from reproducing. That doesn't sit right with my spirit!! Evil!
I am with you Deanna! In retrospect…. I would have done differently and am encouraging my daughter differently than what I did ♥️
Megan!!!!! Please turn the sign my OCD is going crazy watching that sign hanging vertically 😂😂😂😂🙃
Love this series with Jana💝
We have almost a 4 year gap between #2 and #3 … It was hard Megan, I get it! I saw people have two kids before I could even have one. It’s heart breaking to hear people repeatedly say “Don’t you want more” to which I responded “We are not stopping God, if He wants to give us a baby He will.” And He did 🥰 I actually enjoy the little gap and think His timing was perfect. Because of this experience I no longer comment/question women regarding pregnancy- it’s rude and can really hurt!
I just had my #2, and there is a nearly 4 year gap between my babies also. We wanted our babies earlier in life, and closer together (we had an early miscarriage between babes), but I feel the same as you - God knows His perfect timing, and now I'm thankful for the larger gap.
Yes, it is totally rude! I felt that a little bit in the 8 months we were trying with our third.
“We welcome miracles”
Love that Megan!
Thank you for your openess and for sharing your perspectives on this topic. I was not taught anything from a "Christian" perspective about birthcontrol till a bit later. Wish older women had shared these things with me before I was in my twenties. And Jayna, appreciate you sharing about your misscarriage. Between my first and second child I had one and I was very similar to you in my reaction. 25 years later I still thank the Lord for His soveirgn Hand in the matter BUT also for His faithfulness in carrying me through the grieving process afterwards. I look forward to eternity w/ that baby!
I’m glad you are talking about this.
Please make a podcast! Would love it!
I come from a totally different culture, I am not religious at all, but I do love your videos Megan, and especially this new serie.
I also stopped using the pill a few years ago it, it was a mutual decision with my partner and I feel so much better now, we still don't have kids but use other methods until we are ready to have a family.
And thank you Jeyna for talking so openly about your miscarriage, it is so important to share stories like yours so it is talked more and more without shame.