Our Stuff was Stolen. Here's what I thought...
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 7. 03. 2022
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what model car do you have? really like the 3 row layout for my kids
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@@melodik6034 Not sure on hers but my Toyota Sienna has 3 rows! They sell a 7 and 8 passenger versions.
Hi Dawn! I did give it a try it was pretty good. However I have a question - I'm thoughtful that after the book has been turned into Blinks it communicates more the ideas and convictions of the person that produced the blinks rather than the original author, and so especially with nuanced ideas I just don't trust how could blinks do it justice, even for me, but much more so for kids should they ever want to use it. What do you think?
I needed to hear this today! We just moved to Portugal from the US and I bought new cloths for the move, and I didnât want them to get messed up so I havenât used them yetâŠnow itâs going to get warm and I wonât be able to use them now for several months, and my son will probably put grow his before he can use them. We will be using them now! Thanks!
I bought and sent my mom 2 hand painted bottles of wine from Bellagio, Italy. I went to visit her about a month after I got back from Italy. I saw the empty bottles on her cabinet by the TV. I said, wow what special occasion did you use the wine for? She said, I woke up. Iâm 75, everyday I wake up is a good day. I miss my mom
âI woke upâ! Love it⊠â€ïž
Thatâs so sweet.
I got a kick out of this. Your Mom was cool!
That's awesome! haha
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Not going anywhere special today. Iâm retiredâŠ.. usually just throw on a tee shirt and shorts for days at home. This morning I picked out a cute top I usually use for going out. When I looked in the mirror, i felt good and thought, âWhy donât I wear my nicer things around the house?.â Might give my husband something nicer to look at, tooâŠ. Hahaha
When my husband passed away he left a very expensive bottle of wine that he was saving for a special occasion. I kept it for a while but it wasn't like i was going to use it for a romantic dinner or something. So when my kids came to visit we opened it and drank it on a Tuesday night.
So beautiful
*Sorry for Your Loss*
Thanks for your story;
It's a big reminder for me to embrace every moment in life as a special moment, don't wait for a special moment but focus on the moment and make it special with your loved ones.
I lost my house to the crazy California wildfires in 2018. We lost everything. I felt sad for losing family stuff but also lots of regret for expensive purchases I made. That being said, as time has passed I donât miss any of the material possessions. I do still get sad for family photos, etc.
So sorry. My heart breaks for you
Iâm so sorry for your loss.
Glad you are ok. Just..hugs for you & family & everyone else.
We lost our home in the Marshall Fire on 12/30. It's a crappy club to be in.
I grew up with a mom who saved everything for a "special occasion". When she passed, I found dishes, tablecloths, linens, all kinds of stuff I had never seen. Me? Using it, friends. They haven't stopped making them, not really all that precious, these "treasures". I feel so empowered to effectively manage my stuff now, especially with the positive guidance of Dawn. Use it or let someone else use it!
I wish I could like your comment 100 times :) so true!
Another sentimental item that I am glad I use: for my wedding my grandmother gave me a large serving bowl with handpainted bluebonnet flowers on it. It's a sturdy glass bowl and good for everyday, though it can't go in the dishwasher. Last time we had company I used it, and one of the guests commented on the pretty flowers. That gave me an opportunity to share with her how bluebonnets are the state flower of Texas, where I'm from, and I shared how they line the road in a sea of blue every spring. It also made me fondly remember my grandmother, who is no longer with us.
I learned to use âthe good stuffâ from a friend who struggled financially after her divorce. Though she had a small apartment in a not so great part of town, she and her daughter used the fine china, heirloom desk, etc every day. She said her philosophy was if something got broken, itâs ok because boy did we sure enjoy having it to use! It changed my whole way of thinking about my stuff.
My husband found a set of pretty china at a thrift store that at first was stored away to save for the holidays...but then I decided to get them out and use them for everyday. Now I can enjoy them daily and also be so appreciative of the gesture of love my husband made when he brought them home to surprise me.
My mom eventually did that when she downsized, she gave away her âeveryday dishesâ and ate on the China and drank from the crystal everyday instead. Sure, there have been broken dishes and none of her sets are full anymore, but itâs surprisingly easy to find replacement pieces if youâre not fussy about matching patterns. Her collection of crystal glasses is quite eclectic now and lovely in its own way.
Makes sense. If you didnât have tomorrow then your today would be special
I also have to say that since Ukraine was invaded, every time I start to feel sorry for myself, for ANY reason, the minute I realize what I'm thinking, I snap back into a huge sense of gratitude. That's my version of use it/enjoy it.
Yes, what essentials would they pack to flee for their lives. It puts everything into perspective.
And so many appear to have only a small shopping bag of items. Unfathomable.
Yes Agree. Verry grateful. Nothing like a good invasion. I wish Putin would sort our government here in Australia
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I agree DeMe. Reality
When I recently decluttered my kitchen I moved three footed water glasses from the china hutch to the kitchen cabinets. I got rid of a bunch of ugly plastic cups and decided to use those glasses instead. I love them, and it makes me happy to drink from them. It's a small happiness, but why shouldn't I take every small happiness I can get? One broke, and my daughter was worried I'd be upset because "those are your happy glasses!" I said, well, I have two more, so don't worry about it. If they all break, I'll know that I enjoyed them, and I won't have so many glasses to keep track of.
Love u call them Happy Glasses!
Life is too short to drink from plastic cups!
You can prolly find a replacement on Ebay. I find everything there.
I had a girlfriend who was a person who used all her best dishes and everything in her home every day,. I stated to her oh I save that stuff for good and her response was "Good for What?" and now I remind myself that if I start to hoard or not use something what am I saving it for? Good for What? Thanks for sharing
Love this response â€ïž
I use my good stuff, my Mom was a save it for good. She passed when she was 64 and I was 29. Good is now đ
What a good reminder, âDrink the good coffee! Donât save it!â Take the risk and use your good stuff and love your people. Excellent message!!
Life's too short to drink bad coffee.
This story reminds me of a vivid memory during my college graduation. I graduated suma cum laude with a 3.88/4.0 GPA and I worked my butt off for it. I was awarded a special rope to wear along with my cap and gown for this accomplishment. Well at the end if the ceremony, as I was heading over to take celebratory photos with my family, I realize my rope was gone from my neck. I spent the next hour frantically look for it, going to the administrative office to tell them it was gone and to start the process of hopefully getting a new one. I eventually got a new one, but do you u know where that rope is now? In the same place it's been since I graduated in 2010 - in a box in the basement. As I reflected on that day some years after it had passed, I remember wholeheartedly regretting all the time I wasted on that stupid thing when I could have been enjoying the time with my family celebrating my achievement instead of obsessing over a silly rope that proved what I already knew in my heart - I worked so hard and reached a huge goal in my life. I wish I could turn back time and change that day, but I learned a valuable lesson. The stuff really isn't important at all.
I love this story, and the lesson is a great reminder. Thank you for sharing
I just got rid of all my honors cords...20 years after graduation. I was so proud of them, but they never left the storage box.
I got so emotional reading about that rope! What an incredible lesson learned that stayed with you.
Beautiful lesson learned! Also thatâs a crazy achievement, I donât know you BUT I am feeling so proud of you, LOL!!! đđȘ
I also got emotional reading this!
I decided to use my grandmotherâs serving bowl at my mother in laws dinner. I put corn in it and let our son with Down syndrome carry it in. Yup. He dropped it. It shattered. He cried so hard!! I had made a point of saying this was grandmaâs dish. Funny, when he cried, my heart shattered and I was so angry I had kept that stupid dish. Much rather have my beautiful boy
Mama, I hear you! My son with Down syndrome is 16 and, well, I hear you!
Now THAT us perspective. Good for you, Mama.
If we broke something of hers my grandmother would always say, "It's just a glass" or "It's just a sugar bowl"- it doesn't matter- it's just a thing. She was a wise person.
Think you put him in an awkward position.
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My grandma made my sister and me special quilts from scraps of dresses our mom had made for us. For years I stores my quilt and wouldn't let anyone touch it! When I finally started using it, it was as though my grandma hugged me all night. Yes, use the things you love. You taught such a great lesson!
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Yes! My grandma's quilt is getting ragged from the 25 years I've had it. I feel like she's hugging me when I'm wrapped up in it.â€
When traveling, I pray for my vehicle to be protected when I have to leave it. So far my prayers have been answered over many years. One trip I had a problem with the key fob not locking the doors once in a while. Even when I came back after a night in a hotel, the unlocked vehicle had clearly not been touched. I also pray protection over our home and land when storms approach. One particularly bad storm of straight line winds knocked down wide paths of trees on the 40 acres next door to us, which was a home and acreage we had sold the year before. We had built a smaller house on the 40 acres we kept. The property we sold had so much of the forest knocked down that loggers had to be brought in to clean up much of the acreage. Our 40 acres lost less than 10 trees. My husband who had been sad about downsizing said we had sold at the right time. I told him that I was up praying during the storm as soon as I heard the wind start to blow. God still answers prayers. Praise His Holy Name!
10 years ago there was a very bad windstorm in my city. I prayed all night that the Lord would cover our house with his hands and keep us safe. In the morning the house was safe but my car that was parked on the street was crushed by a tree. I was so thankful and realized I never prayed for the car to be kept safe lol.
I pray for everything, and my loved ones too, and the different communities suffering unpleasant events - The Lord God DOES hear and answer prayers - He's interested in His children and their lives
Wow! God was set on doing something horrible, but because you asked nicely, he did it to somebody else. Christian logic is truly astonishing.
Many years ago our garage was broken into on the night we had moved Into to our new home. Scary that we slept through it. But because everything was still in boxes we never knew what had all been taken. Ever so often over the years we would say, â I thought we had one of thoseâ, and then laugh and say it must have been in the garage. Sorry for your loss. It is a violation of personal space that is very creepy and unpleasant .
The strange thing is that the person who stole the stuff probably wonât find any value in what they took.
I agree! I wonder what their motive was.
they are going to sell those things đ
I got a beautiful set of someone's wedding china from marketplace, that they never used and were getting rid of for that reason, FOR FREE!!! and they are still in the boxes she gave them to me in! I think about them ALL the time because I told myself that I WILL use them, and I somehow have convinced myself that because I have a 3-year-old I have to wait. But my kid eats from the same fragile set as us and so far has never broken anything. I just want to say THANK YOU!! I'm putting this kid to bed and going to the basement to get those damn dishes! The enjoyment starts tonight!! đ
About 3 months ago, my 18 year old asked why we don't use the china that we got for our wedding The next day I put the china in the cabinet and it is now our everyday dishes. The fancy glassware is everyday now, too. I have 9 kids and didn't want it to break when they were little, but now I let the grandkids use it now, too.
We received some china from a friend and donated our every day dishes, so that we could use it every day.
I want to use ours as our current set is made up of a variety of different sets, most of which are chipped or dont fit in the dishwasher but the husband isnt ready too yet.. đ
@@tali9970 Maybe start using it on Sunday or a certain day of the week that is more special for you?
I love this idea but mine is not dishwasher safe and I donât want to have to hand wash them all
I was JUST thinking the SAME THING! I have mine on display⊠but i have to climb up and DUST them⊠I think Iâm going to get rid of what weâre currently using and USE my display china đ„°đ„°đ„°
I have been using my moms good china for every day. People think Iâm a bit crazy but I thought of a good quote today. âGrilled cheese and tomato soup taste better in good china.â And they do! If it got stolen tomorrow I will have used it!!!
I do the same!
Use the stuff... I started doing this several years ago. I was going through my cedar chest and saw the engraved cake serving set my Granny had gifted us for our wedding. There it was, neatly tucked inside the original box, and I thought, what good is this to me if it simply sits inside a box and is seen every few years when I get nostalgic? So I took the set out, threw the box away, and put the pieces in my kitchen drawer, where they are used whenever we have cake, brownies, etc. One of the best of life's lessons for me.
If Granny is still alive please tell her you are using her gift and loving it, that you think of her every time you use it.
@@texasmimi5566 Granny passed almost six years ago, but she knew we used her gift.
So so sorry to hear this happened!
What an oxymoron, though: someone stealing from a minimalist.....Geez! But you are the best for sharing and giving us a wonderful message. Love your heart! :D
They wanted to make her even more minimal! Lol
I was thinking the same thing. Jokes on them, I hope they learned their lesson!
@@stmiller626 Well said. I hope they get a lot of joy out if those sea shells. Poor Gage.
@@toniisaacsen3523 I can relate to putting the whole incident in perspective, like Dawn described, but I certainly can't relate to hoping the criminals get any joy out of the items stolen. I see anyone who would do such a thing as the equivalent of garbage and wish nothing good for them, other than to find God and redemption.
Following your Declutter Your Home in 15 Minutes A Day course I decluttered our bathroom and found so many expensive bath and beauty products that I was "saving" for a special occasion. Some were 10+ years old. All went in the garbage. Seeing all the product in the garbage reset my brain that there is no more saving for a special day, today is THE special day.
Oh so right. Lotion is the worst as it gets all watery after a while. Pitched so much bath and body works...ugh! Now I use as I get and smell/feel good for myself too!
The relief piece resonated with me most. Some years back we had to evacuate in a natural disaster. We had some time to pack up belongings, photos, that sort of thing. When I went to our basement I looked around and thought "It's just stuff" and walked away from it. Our house didn't get destroyed. I started decluttering bit by bit from that point on because it made me realize that nothing we had stored there was of any real importance.
I love this, and you're right. It's just stuff. A few years ago after dad died I scanned several hundred family photos and gave my siblings the photos on Cd. Therefore if I ever had to evacuate I'd just grab those and a couple in frames and leave. All important documents are scanned and on a USB drive. USB drives even dry out if they get wet, so I could conceivably throw a USB on a lanyard around my neck and off I'd go. Total relief.
@@lauranewman564 That is such a good idea! I still haven't tended to all of our old photos by scanning them, though I have done most. I've got one more large project to work on for photos. I did put a majority of digital photos on a portable hard drive. Our disaster was a highly destructive and fast moving wild fire. That moment when I stood in the basement was a defining moment that put everything into perspective for me. I even left serious art work on our walls, just walked away from it all. I made our coat closet into an evacuation closet and everything is there if we ever have to flee again.When we left that day the fire was coming through the trees on our property. Very scary and stressful but it showed me what was really important to me in terms of material things. Not much!
I have tons of Royal Alberts China pieces. When I began to minimize, after watching one of your videos, I started using them everday. I serve all my meals on these beautiful pieces, even my delivered pizza. It makes me feel like royalty.
A QUILT!! When my husband's grandmother had passed and we received a beautiful (single bed) quilt that she had made. My mother in law said we should put it away to keep her memory. No, I put it on my daughters bed. She had that quilt on her bed since she was very young until she got married. She has more memories from that special quilt than she would if it was packed away in moth balls to be found years later. It is worn and well loved. â€
As a quilter, I think your husband's grandmother would have been full of joy knowing that her great granddaughter loved it and used it! I tell all the people I give mine to - it's meant to be used!
I crochet and feel the same way! If you don't use what I make for you, you don't get another one!
The same thing happened to me about 30 years ago. I came home from work, walked into the house from the garage, walked through the living room, down the hall, and into our bedroom before realizing someone had broken into our house. I knew something was changed but my brain didnât comprehend it until I walked into the bedroom and saw all the drawers open with our clothes strewn on the floor. They stole our T.V., VCR, video camera, and my jewelry box which had my grandmotherâs watch that she had given me the Christmas before she passed away in it. To this day, I donât keep my jewelry in a jewelry box.
Yes! My mother in law bought me a really beautiful candle at Christmas- hand poured and beautifully scented with Fir, Pine & Clove. As Christmas had passed when I received the gift I thought about âsavingâ it for next year but instead Iâve been using it throughout the dark, cold winter months that follow on from Christmas here in Ireland. It has brought so much joy. I agree wholeheartedly - use the things đđ»
I can totally relate to Gage. I would join him in a good cry over the stolen sea shells. I don't buy souvenirs but I usually find a cool rock, shells, sea glass or some other found treasure on trips. I have fun displaying them in a jar, cigar bax or China bowl and when kids come over, that's the first thing they go for. I enjoy watching them examine the treasures and ask where I found them. Most of the time I remember each one. Nature provides a bounty of free gifts if we slow down enough to find them.
I was reminded of the quote by Steven Wright. âI have a large sea shell collection which I keep scattered on beaches all over the world. Maybe you've seen it.â đ
I had a set of four crocheted dish clothes that my mom made just before she died. In December of 2000! I usually use disposable j-clothes and every time I reached in the drawer for a new one, I'd have to lift the crocheted clothes to get at 'em. A few months ago, I had the brilliant thought, "Why am I not using these?" Turns out, I really love them! Thanks, Mom! Sorry I buried them in a drawer for 21 years!
I have spent years curating a closet of clothes I love. 99% of them were bought secondhand and a lot of them are vintage. I am flying for the first time since I was 10 years old and I am packing in a carry on because I would be devastated if my vintage clothing was lost. :)
On another note though, I have several pieces of jewelry that belonged to my grandmother and I used to have them put up in the top of the closet for "safe" keeping. One day it dawned on me that when I am gone .... someone else will get my grandmothers jewelry and be the one to enjoy it. Since that day I wear it and I love it!
Yes it is a terrible invading feeling to be âstolen fromâ and the anger. I do use my Waterford crystal and my son has always enjoyed it along with my Fiesta ware. His high school teacher was shocked that he used these almost daily. His reply was Mom know s life is short so we use it! Enjoy life! Yes on the guilt and shame on not using! đ„°
Several years ago my husband bought me an opal and diamond ring and because I know opals donât like getting wet I put the ring in the safe and probably only wore it 3 times a year. At the end of last year I came to the conclusion that at 65 every day is a special day and so now I wear it every day, it gives me great pleasure and if the opal cracks so be it, at least I will have had joy from wearing it daily.
I have an opal ring that I rarely wear for the same reason. Do you wear yours now and get it wet? I want to wear mine everyday, but donât want to be constantly taking it off when I wash my hands, or do dishes, maybe I should just risk the water!
My wedding rings are an emerald and clusters of tiny diamonds, and deliberately only worth ÂŁ600 - I would've been scared to wear anything worth more AND they look like a big goofy smiley face which makes me smile every time I look at them :D
@@sarahbannon4752 I wear it all the time, washing up, in the bath etc because I know what Iâm like, if I take it off Iâll lose it!
I am so sorry that this happened to you guys. The children must have been so disappointed, too. Now about those seashells...One summer, my grandson went on a beach vacation with my husband and me. We collected 4 gallon zipper bags full of shells. I, too, didn't know what we would do with all of those. They ended up in a flower bed and looked pretty good, too. I'm glad to see that you have a good attitude about all of this. There's another quote by Corrie Ten Boom about not grasping things too tightly because God can pry them out of your hand. She was a Holocaust survivor in case you aren't familiar with her writing. đ
âThis is the day the Lord has made! Let us rejoice and be glad in it!â I was brought up in a house where we âsaved things for good.â My cousins were allowed to wear nice clothes for every day which I always felt was odd. Even raising my small children, I felt I was always holding onto their nice things instead of using up before they outgrew them. I had been hoping you would touch on this subject of not âsaving for goodâ and I think this is the perfect message to inspire me to peel back the next layer and keep decluttering my house! Thanks!
I love how you analysed this situation and your emotions connected to it and actually took a valuable lesson for yourself from it. That is so awesome! Glad that nothing happened to you guys in both stories. Things can be replaced.
Wear the jewelry. I was given an expensive ring that belonged to my grandma's aunt. I kept it in the safe for two years. I decided one day to just start wearing it. Now when I get compliments on it I get to talk about her and my grandma â€ïž
I have no idea why but when you started talking about the relief because "the decision is being made for you" I started to tear up!! I'm constantly going through all my things trying to declutter and constantly evaluating whether I need to keep something or not. Some times it's super exhausting. I've totally had that relief come upon me when my children accidentally break something and I have to throw it out. I'm just like happy to have one less thing to keep.
My son broke a glass trying to put away the dishes. He was afraid I would be upset with him. I thanked him for giving me one less glass to have to deal with. It wasnât a special one anyway and he felt so much better about the situation when he knew I wouldnât miss it.
I had this beautiful stationery set stored for a "special" occasion or just for a keepsake because I loved the look of it. This weekend I was looking for cards to write out for my friends for International Women's Day and decided, what's a better day than this and I used all of that stationery. It felt good to use something I prized but also it feels like a relief to not look at it and think "why am I just storing this?!".
Dawn, that happened to me once at my house. Knowing Jesus really helps. They missed an envelope full of Boy scout money! We would have had an awful time replacing that at the time. Thank you Lord for the protection. đ everything is replaceable.
In cleaning out my husbandâs motherâs house when she passed away, we found a linen closet packed with brand new, excellent quality towels and sheets. Yet the towels and sheets that she used daily were worn out and threadbare. The up side is that we donated these linens to people who needed them (because we didnât need them ourselves) but it meant that she never allowed herself to enjoy these nice things. Unfortunately my husband has a similar view point⊠but Iâm chipping away on using my own good things. This includes wine - along these lines I once heard an interview with 2 wine critics, a couple, Dorothy Gaiter and John Brecher, who invented âOpen That Bottle Nightâ encouraging us to open a symbolically significant bottle of wine before it turns to vinegar from waiting too long for that âspecial occasion â.
We had the same experience cleaning out my mother in lawâs home after she passed, she had brand new nightgowns and lingerie in her dresser that she was saving for âgoodâ. She deserved to use good things, she had the kindest heart of anyone Iâve known and would give the shirt off her back to someone in need, yet she held on to them and wore the same old things every day. I suspect that having lived during the Depression years may have influenced her thinking that she should keep things for later, just in case she wasnât able to get them at some point.
Many years ago, I joined a foreign language conversation class. A number of people had been in it for years for the company and socialising with a great teacher. So, every last class before school holidays we'd have a party with food and drinks. The best wine in fact that I have ever tasted. Here's why: the oinologist's wife would bring in a few surplus bottles that "needed to go". Their wine cellar was so big, she said, occasionally she put some bottles on the curbstone for others to share because it was a shame to let them turn to vinegar and there was only so much she and her husband could drink.
On another note: my mother,too, has a number of those threadbare tea towels that she says are ultrasoft and so absorbent so she still likes using them.
And I have two stories, one about regret, the other about regret and relief. While I was a student, I visited a great-aunt who one day admired a blanket in a shop window. I pondered getting it for her but thought, I could only just afford it, so I didn't. The next day, my purse got stolen on the metro - would have made no difference moneywise but have been a lovely gesture from the heart.
My mother had kept our toys from decades back in her basement, and I kept postponing making any decision or bringing them to my home. Then the basement needed emptying fast for some renovation work, when I found those things had all been water-damaged and ended up mouldy and smelly: dolls, teddy-bears, furry animals, plushies stuffed with straw. Both heartbreaking and a relief. Same relief can also be found when rodents get into your things. That's when fire, water, and vermins become your friendsđ
Weâve had floods here in Australia and my sister lives just outside one of the worst affected towns. I would say at least half of the town has lost everything, some for the second time in a decade. She only moved there six months ago, their car was swept away in the flood waters and her husband had to be rescued from the roof of a friendâs house who was helping him save the shop they work in. My cousin who lives a few hours from her had flooding all through the lower half of his house and now has the dubious task of trying to salvage and clean up from the mess his home has become. People are literally throwing out a lifetimes worth of belongings. While my sister lives high enough that her own place didnât get flooded it has really thrown into stark contrast for me just how loosely I should hold onto my own stuff. My new barometer for whether or not I want to keep something has become âWould I want to save this from a flood or fire, or would I just be relieved I didnât have to deal with it?â
Oh my goodnessâŠ. This comment has helped me so much⊠what a great barometer to use!!!! Especially with the things I think are sentimental but actually really arenât! As I read this I can think of 3 items that I put in my memory box yesterday that I need to go pull out⊠because, NO, I wouldnât save them in a flood or fire!
I was in town when an evacuation order đ„ was put on my street, and couldn't get back home so couldn't 'save' anything. All ended well, but when was able to get back to house realised that wasn't much that I would of taken. Stay safe đ§
Yes, this comment is soooooo helpful! Thank you for sharing this.
Thank you.
I'm in SA and have seen just awful scenes on the news ,sending love and prayers xx
I was just thinking last night about my great Grandma plate. It was one of the few things that we brought over from Scotland when we immigrated in !957. It was careful lying wrapped and put in the only streamer trunk we brought with us. We have moved many time and has been lovingly taken care of. Itâs put away for safety and Iâm going to put it on my desk to hold some ephemera for crafting. Itâs about 140 years old.
I'm sorry this happened! Bummer! Several years ago, I saved a half bottle of cleaner that I really loved but couldn't find in stores anymore. Since I couldn't replace it, I saved it for special occasions when I wanted my home to look and smell really nice. You are so right about it gaining value in my mind, because I ended up never using it. I just kept saving it for someday. Sadly, I was decluttering one day a few years later and I discovered it had gone all funky, so I had to throw it out. I was filled with regret because I had never used it. The same thing has happened with lotions, perfumes and bubble bath. Why do we do this? I now use stuff while I have the opportunity. Wise words Dawn!
To answer your question, I thought, "Wear the clothes!" Since I stay home with my kids, I'll sometimes catch myself thinking "that's too nice to wear, just around..." and I shouldn't do that! As I've cleaned out my closet, I've come across things that are in great shape but are out of style because I was saving them! For what?! Lesson learned!
I was travelling in Europe with a suitcase that was way too big for a trip on trains. It was actually stolen off the train and I was relieved! I bought a small tag-along that just fit the essentials and I had such a fun time not dragging that big suitcase around! My friend was exhausted all the trip from dragging her suitcase around. 2.5 weeks with only the essentials! Bonus!
So true! My grandma was a great baker, especially bread! I was blessed to receive 3 of her glass bread pans when she passed on. I have been baking bread once a week in these pans for 12 years and I think of her every time. Yes, I get nervous that I might drop them, but I would rather honor her by using them and risk them breaking than storing them away and not thinking of her as often. đ
And that may happen. Glass gets brittle as it ages and is more likely to break. Use and enjoy everything.
@@TheDriftwoodlover that's good to know. Thank you, I will! âșïž
I went through the same feelings years ago and came across a similar quote. From that day forward I use all the stuff I cherish and value. Our China dishes became everyday dishes. My going for a visit night wear became EVERY night nightwear. I started using tablecloths and keepsakes as a everyday treat. I love it! It makes me feel that life itself is a treasure as well as the people in it!
Recently I looked through a box I've had for years. In it I found some candles I had bought years ago, and a special personalized charm keychain an employer gave me. I gave away the candles and put the keychain on my key ring. Not long afterwards my husband dropped my keys and broke the keychain. I was sad, but also relieved, and happy that that thoughtful gift saw the light of day for at least a little while.
Yes!!! This hits home for me as I'm constantly "saving" "preserving" and just holding onto stuff but really, I'm just wasting it. I have to keep reminding myself that if i don't enjoy it while i have it, it'll still be there and probably thrown out when i pass on. Might as well enjoy it!
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I love this message. Make every day special because it is. There are only so many days and we arenât guaranteed anything.
Many years ago now, I took my "good dishes" and put them in the kitchen cupboards to use. We got rid of all the extra sets we had and are still using them. My husband calls them our "happy" dishes because they are so pretty. Sure a few have been broken but they still make us happy. I generally save nothing for "special occasions" anymore. Life is too short. Well done Dawn.
Growing up when we made it to the beach and had buckets of shells to bring home my mom started a sea shell garden ! She made a flowerbed with an azalea in the middle and we could pick 2-3 shells to bring in and the rest got dumped around the azalea bush and we could go out and the shells where always there on display , several family members and friends did the same thing too and I have one from my beach travels at my own house now !
@Amera Kaiser & @the minimal mom đI have done similar- I have a special flower bed that has all the shells, rocks, stones , even a brickâŠ. Special treasures that my kids would collect on trips , camping or even just as we took a walkâŠ. It was always the place where those things could live. Special things would go in a small box in their rooms but they would regularly dump them into this flower bed. Today the kids are all grown and I see all those precious stones & shells poking out under the roses- such sweet memories! Btw- This was my favorite flowerbed , my favorite plants etc so the kids knew it was a treasured place for me too & I encouraged them by collecting a few rocks for it myself!đ
What a great idea! Thank you for sharing.
I finally had this realization with consumable gifts. I often stored away nicer soaps and lotions but hated sorting that stuff too. I realized I was overthinking it, it was expensive and I knew it would go fast and I probably wouldnât replace. But then I realized hello, itâs a gift, thatâs the point. Something fun to *use* for a bit that I might not buy myself.
I put scented soaps in my dresser drawers...clothes smell nicer.
I love the minimalist term âuse stuff love peopleâ. I can think of one tote of things Iâd be devastated to loose. Otherwise it would be just an annoyance to replace. And the only non sentimental items Iâd be so mad to loose are my jeans. I have a hard time finding jeans I like. đ
I love the thought that every day is special. Erma Bombeck wrote a great piece on that before she died.
My son's flat got flooded recently. He was in the middle of clearing out his belongings as he's moving, so had retrieved all the smaller items and put them in storage even before we knew the flood was coming. He was left with the larger items - sofa, double bed, fridge etc, -to deal with. He had no use for them any more and had been thinking he would sell them, although you don't get much for second hand furniture. Then the flood hit and all the large items were ruined. All he has to do is put them on the kerb and they will be taken away for free. Sometimes things are taken care of for you.
I use my ancestors items. I treasure them because they used them. I wouldn't have fond memories of Grandma's spoon holder if I hadn't seen it on her stove everyday. If it breaks, I will not loose any memories of Grandma and I had years of joy using it.
Wouldn't our grandmothers laugh at us if they saw their workhorse items be relegated to storage like some sort of treasure? I've got a couple of items I need to pull out for this very reason. Thanks!
Iâm so sorry someone stole from you. That is so violating. Since they stole clothes and food- I hope they truly needed it.
My Grandma died wearing a pair of ratty old shortie pajamas that wear heels together with safety pins. When we were going through her drawers we found 32 pairs of brand new pajamas she was "saving for good"! That experience changed my perspective on the whole "for good" mindset. I use everything now and enjoy it. Thanks for this video. A lot of people are still holding on to that "for good" mantra.
"Life itself is a special occasion" This reminds me of the lightbulb moment from watching you when I realized I am moving further away from becoming my ideal self when I hold on to my ideal self things that cause me stress. We are not promised tomorrow and so everything around us, taking our time and energy and brain space better be worth it. If it's not, then it's robbing us
I found a plate that was tucked away in the back of my china cabinet for years that holds special meaning to me. When I found it I decided that to use it was better than to keep it hidden away. I have been watching quite a few minimalism CZcamsrs including you and it has helped me to realize it's okay to use something that is special to you. Yes I might end up braking that plate while using it, but that isn't going to stop me from enjoying it now. I am sorry to hear about your things being stolen, but thank you for sharing the story and being honest about your feelings.
Bless your heart Dawn! Most people would say their first feeling would be anger for loosing their possessions, not regret like you felt. God is using you to reach us so many valuable lessons. Thank you so much for your ministry because thatâs what it is! đđ
We had a full set of beautiful China from my great grandmother. When nobody wanted that said, Iâs asked my mother who was holding onto it to give me two pieces of the serving pieces so that I had them but didnât have to take the whole set. Mom thought it was a great idea and gave everybody to pieces for their house for each grand or great grandchild (small saucer and plate or such for candy). Everyone got something that they could use daily, but not so much as to overwhelm. The plates were given to church for families in need.
My car was broken into in broad daylight with my work tote on the back seat. It must have looked like a handbag cause someone smashed the window and took it. It was upsetting but I had to laugh at the fact all they got was my dirty lunch dishes! đ
I really connect with that. I would do that with my kids âgood â clothes. They always grew out of it before they used them. I also find myself doing the same with my wardrobe.
Ugh same, with their "fancy" clothes. They wear it 1-2 times for church and then we pass it on to my sister.
LOVE this video. I call it "the truffle moment" where you save something... in that case, til it's too bad to eat, because the special moment never came. It is a spiritual discipline to use our stuff or get rid of it!! Really loved this video so much.
There was a story going around years back about a young wife who was saving an extra-fancy piece of lingerie for a "special occasion". She ended up passing away before she wore it. And so her husband shared this truth, which apparently spread far and wide, that every day is a special occasion. We aren't promised tomorrow. So don't wait. I have never forgotten that story, and like your own experience, it has reminded me to use the beautiful things, the things we cherish, on any given day. Because each one we have is precious. XO Thanks for always sharing truth in such heartfelt ways! I love and appreciate you and your family. -Ranell
Thanks for this. I'm going to wear my new favorite sweater and nice jeans today! I've been waiting for a reason to wear them this last month or so but life just isn't handing out special days in this season of life. Time to make today special.
I heard this from Diane in Denmark, her channel, several years ago when I began flylady. She always said, "everyday is a special occasion!" That has stuck with me and I think that all the time now! I do need to remind myself of this everyday, but I try to live it out now. But I know what you mean Dawn, it is just human nature to want to save the special things. Maybe it's just because we think we can savor the moment of them longer.....
Oh! Don't replace the hair straightener! Those of us with stick straight hair are continually baffled that others would spend money to make their hair look like what we wish wasn't the case đ I think you should go for the minimalist hair bc your hair is pretty that way!
Love Diane in Denmark!
Hello here, my friend Julia and, go you! đđ Yes, "every day is the special occasion" is my motto and an intrinsic part of a hygge life đ©đ° Use and enjoy what you have, and make the most of every single day! That goes for our relationships too đđ
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Saving things for a special occasion is, I feel, rooted in the poverty mindset. I'd always save craft supplies, treats, pretty clothes, scented lotion, etc as a kid for special occasions because I truly didn't know if I'd have the opportunity to get it again, especially get it again soon if I used it up "quickly". It stayed with me even as an adult when I started earning money but minimalism has totally changed my whole mindset.
I found by saving those scented things, that they eventually lose their pretty scent by fading or going bad by changing to just stink.
What a beautiful message â„ïž so sorry your things got stolen from you but your perception is spot on.
I really love your perspective on having your stuff stolen. I'm sorry that happened to you. I also love that during self-reflection you realize to just use up the stuff. I'm a professional organizer. I'm going to use that piece of advice with my clients all the time in the future and I'm going to tell them about you. I encourage you to add the super thanks button to your CZcams channel. I personally and professionally have benefited from the excellent content that you post on your channel. You are so insightful, always learning, and very inspiring. I would love to give you a tip via super thanks as a way to say thanks for making my life better.
Dawn, Thank you!! This topic really hit home for me as I am in the process of bringing out my Gramâs cherished items and realizing that no one has had the chance to enjoy them for 50 years or longer! They are now being used or given to extended family members for their use and enjoyment! It is interesting to me that as a minimalist I have never had a difficult time purging my own items but always ran a wide circle around the â cherished items boxes.â HA!
I am sorry you were inconvenienced but love the opportunity for this topic! Great food for thought! Enjoy your channel so much!!
FYI crystal actually becomes more brittle if you don't use it. Use and washing makes it stronger
When my late husband and I got married, I got fake flowers for my bouquet because I wanted to keep it! But then it ended up in a box up in the loft (attic) because I was worried that it would fade or get really dusty etc if it was out on display. A few years ago, I decided to put the bouquet in my bedroom and now I love seeing it every day. I realised that although they would probably last longer in storage, I wasnât getting to enjoy them.
I use to save my moms China for special occasions & to pass on, until my boys told me they didnât want it. I now use it everyday & think of my precious mother who passed 3 years ago. I also donate things that donât bring me joy because my sons donât want any of it. Get rid of stuff that mean nothing to you. So sorry this happened to you! đđą
Iâm so sorry someone broke into your vehicle. Iâm so thankful you all are okay. My question is- who steals buckets of seashells? đ€·đ»ââïžđ€Šđ»ââïž
Iâve actually been thinking about this a lot over the last couple of days. We rent our house and have had to be out of the house for 11 days now due to water issues. In those 11 days, I have gone back for some food and clothes but thatâs about it. Iâm now beginning to be surprised at all weâve lived without. Although I miss our home, Iâm thankful to be with my family in a nice home away from home.
We got a motel in Hannibal, MO. Larry, all three kids, and I were taking things in. Tyler came across Larry's meds. He knew he was supposed to mess with them so he sat them on the back fender. We all came back out to get another load. When we got settled in, Larry was ready to take his meds. We could not find them. They were not in the room not in the car. We realized someone had stolen them! He had some scheduled meds. We could not get them filled that night. We did finally get them all replaced but it was quite a process.
This might be the video that resonates most with me! I have been watching your videos for over a year, but I was never more thankful to have found you than when our family had a total loss house fire back in August 2021. I felt exactly how you explained. Of course I was emotional, because I lost EVERYTHING. But, only the sentimental baby things and memory bins bothered me. I had, for the most part, detached from âstuffâ. Even my friends recognized that I had been spreading the minimalism message for a while, and how amazing it was that God was preparing my heart for this trial, long before I even knew. Thank you for your message! It was used by God to get my family & I through what could have been an even worse emotional experience. â€ïž
Thatâs amazing Kelly! God is so good. â€ïž
*Love Your Message*
In my prayers, I ask God to help prepare other's for the trials and tribulations they are to face .. although it may be selfish, I've recently started including myself. I too, need his grace & guidance ..
*We all need as much preparation as possible, before we have the rug swept out from under us* ... â€
Hopefully the people that stole the stuff needed it more. Glad your attitude and perspective are so encouraging đâ€ïž Enjoy each day!
What a pain, and that feeling of being violated! Nice perspective and thoughts on what we love--USE IT! Glad you're okay and home safe.
I have been following your advice about using those special things. My main example: I have a pink pitcher & glasses that date back to the 1920's or so, they were my grandparents. I have had them in a box & moved many times as "they are special". Finally, I started using them with my granddaughters (ages 5 & 7), we've been using them for over a year and they always ask can we use the special pink glasses. So we are making are own memories with them and in reality I didn't have memories with my grandparents use of them, other than they were theirs.
Wow. So glad youâre all ok. Yes. Everyday is a miracle. Hubby survived widow maker heart attack 7 years ago. I take nothing for granted and am eternally thankful and in those few days when he hung in the balance nothing else mattered and my priorities were forever adjusted. I use the good china and thank God for the gift of a normal day. Great post as always.
So thankful your husband is still with you! â€ïž
Good towels, good dishes, good sheets, good pillows/blankets...stuff in trunk too good to put out. This used to be me, but now I use all these things. I feel like someone gave me a wedding shower!Yep, minimalism means what we have, we use regularly.
Everything in our house molded over the summer last year. We went in and got rid of everything but a few things, and I have this regret relief đ
This gets me thinking my cousin uses her wedding cake knife and server all the time for birthdays and holidays or any other events
Thank you for this, I am going to start using my grandmother's, and great grandmother's, china tonight! Life is too short! Much love to you all! Gob Bless!
I know that feeling of realizing something is off but takes a few seconds/minutes for your brain to register. almost like watching a video of one thing happening but it's actually another thing happening ---- also thanks for sharing the "life is a special occasion" story
Ooh that eerie feeling happened when my neighbor's house was in fire. We grabbed a fire hydrant, called 911 and its was slow motion. So sad. All the people and pets got out safely thankfully. House was destroyed and most of their stuff inside.
We had a fire scare with smoke in my house. I had five minutes to get out. My daughter, my dog, my cats, my pocketbook and the oil painting of my daughters Christening picture. That's it. The fireman let us sit in the truck to keep warm. All the rest of the stuff could be replaced.
So hard but so glad you all made it. :(
A friend of mine lost her young daughter in their house fire. The other kids and husband and her made it out. It all really puts things into perspective.
I had someone break into my car and steal several discs of photos of my young children. So many pics are missing from that time of their life. But reading your post and remembering my friend, I feel like itâs a reminder to enjoy and be thankful for blessings in the present.
Compared with my friend losing her child AND their belongings, my pain is nothing.
I listened to this at 2 am as Iâm in the third day of moving to a new house for the first time in 20 years. What an eye opening reminder of how to look at our âthings!â I realized during our move that though I have been âdownsizingâ for years that I still was packing so much random last minute that made me question whether I ever got rid of anything at all : ) Thank you for the beautiful reminder to enjoy our things and not save them. You have been the best gift as your advice is always so gentle and kind.
You are so right Dawn - I left Mozambique as a refugee when I was 16 and my parents had lost everything- at the time it was such a loss and I mourned all my special things like rocks - I loved rocks - after such a loss my perspective changed completely and things started to mean less because life and people were so much more important than things - fast forward to now I am 63 and a grandmother and things are there to be used and my family and grandchildren are the most important things in my life - I have what I need but not much more - love your video and how amazing you are at inspiring people - sending lots of love from Sydney Australia xxxx
Thank you for this perspective! I was raised in a "save it for a special day" type family and still working thru breaking that mentality at almost 50!
Bummer for the break in of your car but glad there was nothing of true value taken. You are so right on using things and not saving things!
Being broken in on is such a feeling of violation. Was so hard for me to get over. So sorry you and your family have had to go thru that again. This is random but boiling your seashells in salt water keeps them from smelling for your journey home. I usually do it twice with a change in water between:) works great!!!:)
My husband has been on the hunt for super thin walled juice glasses for years!!! We look in antique and second hand stores in every country we visit. He finally found 1 that met his criteria in Paris, it sat in a cupboard for ages because it was so special to him, the first time he used it got broken when our beloved cat jumped on the table and knocked it over. It took him a while to get over it, but the cat was not hurt and that was what we focused on. He now has a set of 4 new juice glasses, also from Paris, they get used all the time and if they break at least we got to enjoy them đ. I am also burning the nice smelling candles đ
So true about not using things! As a teen I bought a beautiful sweater with my babysitting money, .50 an hour in those days. I may have worn it two times, but it was so precious I kept in a drawer. So the day I decided to wear it, years later, I had grown, it no longer fit.