Motherhood With A Meth Addiction
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- čas přidán 16. 06. 2016
- For one woman who survived Hawaii’s first “Ice Age," telling her story has been key to rebuilding her life and family.
This is the fourth and final story in a podcast and radio series produced by Hawaii Public Radio in collaboration with Honolulu Civil Beat. Read more here: cvlbe.at/1UzkwRg
I’ve heard this story a million times. “I stopped using drugs when I found out I was pregnant”. Ya fookin right lady. Your daughter doesn’t believe you and neither do I. You should be in jail for reproducing 3 times while on drugs. That’s BS shame on you.
I wish the best for the young man in the purple shirt, you can tell he faces many internal struggles , the pain of his childhood is real. Sweet guy.
P.S. And for those of you with only negative comments, if you had watched the video all the way through and truly listened to the words of this family then you would know that the mom not only went through with recovery, but she also now educates and that truly takes the road to recovery to a whole other level ☺🖒.
So I personally want to thank grandma for raising those beautiful kids who turned out to be awesome! Thank u TOO-TOO! UR Are A GREAT AMAZING PERSON. GOD BLESS
This lady is brave and beautiful, as are her family. I wish them all the best.
Wendy Herbert but selfish and stupid
RB Fx Trading Coach Yes, very selfish and stupid of her. What a deplorable decision she made to beat her poly drug addiction in order to put herself back into the role of a responsible patent. So selfish of her.. *sarcasm*
...Don't be such a judgemental douche.
Such an amazing family, each individual has been brave and loving. No one can judge the journey of another. Thank you for this story.❤
Of course we can judge wtf
This is not a disney movie
All I'm really interested in was the kids interview because what they're saying is what matters. I think it's great that she's not on drugs anymore however, knowing how it's affecting the children is the most important.
Thank you for sharing this video, it gives me hope for my daughter, who has a serious meth addiction.
Sam Mac I am already praying for you're daughter and God never give up as long as you have faith.
Sam Mac ❤️️❤️️❤️️
Sam Mac Place her addiction in the hands of the Lord. Let HIS will be done in her life. You HAVE to give her to HIM.
Zab Mackie Hi Zab I hope with all my heart that your daughter recovers.
Step daughter as well full blown meth addict. Her decision to live her life the way she does we cannot change!
My mother was a meth user and actually did a phenomenal job of raising me. She gave me more attention than a lot of sober parents give their kids.
Well raised children for such a hard life.
her daughter is an angel. she has a cuteness i cant even describe. she will have a good life.
I have been watching this video for, what, over 5 years now, and it's at times immensely problematic for me and frustrating to watch, but something about this family and their story, the sons and the extremely affable and intelligent daughter, who really is the star narrator here,especially her connection to the University of Hawaii at Hilo, my Alma mater, as well, draws me back to watch it again and ruminate on all of it. It's (this video) is an ultimately rewarding journey to embark, particularly for those of us who have and or are struggling heavy with addiction, and were raised by, and, in my case, sadly, also physically and emotionally abused by a parent addict (I have forgiven my mother in my adult years, as she has been sober for nearly 15 years now, and the twist now is her reaching out longing to help me overcome my adult struggle with the very same substances she abused me on while her addictions spun out of control during my preteen through late teenage years. So this video is intense for me at times but has played a part in helping me come to terms with my mother and I's torrid history and addressing and working to heal wounds of my childhood trauma. So, thank you to Civil Beat for this work and keeping it archived and still accessible many years after the fact . Anyway... now to my decidedly less positive takeaway from the sit-down. Regarding some of the statements of this woman in her recollection and reflection of her past behaviors: I, for lack of a more polite turn of phrase, lose my shit every time and have to fight the urge to turn it off when she turns to face her dear long suffering mother, poor tutu, and goes, "...But you weren't there to help raise my children," or whatever, and gives her this stern look of disapproval, as if *she" were the mother reprimanding her wayward daughter. So wrong, so entitled and above all SO utterly disrespectful. It is in that moment that I was so angry and hurt for Grandma and leaves me utterly convinced that this lady (believe me, I'd much prefer to use a less kind word here in this instance) has learned nothing from her catastrophic litany of mistakes that caused irrevocable harm against her children and her family. She makes it like because she's been fucking 10 years clean or whatever and cut her sobriety teeth in OCCC and Hina Mauka or whatever that she is somehow now remiss from still, decades later, bearing the brunt of her destructive and cyclical habitual destructive pattern. I'm not waving my finger and being some high makamaka maddafucka here... I will be straight up here and wholly admit that I am 34 years old and have been struggling with this addiction for four very difficult years, I make no bones about that. But I make no excuses for my self destructive journey and pride myself on my childless stance and responsible approach to.. um... copulating. Lol to put it as non-graphical as I can, but yeah. So in particular this hit a nerve with me.. there's this clear air of hubris and just. . pomposity I see in her, and she seems to feel she somehow gets this.. almost pass to take *others* who put up with her bullshit to task for their (in her eyes) less than stellar supporting performance role in cleaning up her mess, and shes suffered her years of taking her emotional lashings for her wrongdoings, and now, as the roles in the play have evolved as time and healing have professed, it's somehow *her* turn to get her shot at the role as the Judge, Jury and Executioner. Sorry, but she seems to exhibit great narcissist traits and a keen almost.. indifference to her children's suffering, which particularly in the handsome eldest in the purple, is *immense.* Grow up lady. Irrahz watching her. Just my unfiltered $.02.
Cherdan
Eugene, OR (soon to be Washington state in a week) by way of Pi'ihonua (Kaumana), Big Island, East Hawai'i
This was a great documentary. It hit home for me. 13 years sobriety for myself coming up in July. There are ones of us that hit the “so called” bottom, and come up and live again and to teach the generations upcoming about this “devils drug”. My children are now 22, 16, and 14. All but my oldest, doesn’t remember the actual bad times so to speak, but the attachment issues do go along with it when all is brought back together. I have learned that “TIME HEALS” God Bless
No one is perfect in this world. We are all humans and we all do mistakes in our lives. At least, this children are lucky to have grandma to raised them as best as she could while their mother get her life together and finally they get together and I find this very beautiful and happy ending. All I can pray for this family, is to have good journey and raise their kids in the future us they wish and teach them how good and bad decisions can make the different. God bless them and all the people in this world who never do intentionally to harm their love ones
sahara sugule some mistakes are worse than others. Some don’t affect other people as much.
thank you for sharing it takes a lot to tell your story ...thank you
Congrats it's such a hard life to come back from. Love those kids and never give up.
You would never think someone so beautiful had that past
I agree, that woman is absolutely stunning.
i love you for the strength to come back and get clean from the drug.
The kids at the start look so sad! :(
I know this took a lot to sit there with her beautiful family and tell her story. Much love to you.
What an amazing beautiful family, they're story touched my heart!! And each an every one of them are very strong and triumphant for all they've been through, they're in my prayers!!!!
God Please continue to bless& strengthen this beautiful family, & every other families battling addiction! Please give us all the strength and courage to resist satins snares!⭐ 💜🙏🌞
Such a beautiful Family, god bless you guys!
What a wonderful testimony! Praise God he gave you the strength to speak publicaly and with your children. My life was sort of like yours in that my mom raised my only daughter. While I partied and ran wild. When my mom died at 23 I was forced into reality. I am so grateful that I found Jesus later in life. Without him I don't know where I would be. May God continue to bless you and your beautiful family.
Terra N Texas amen i lost my mum at 41yrs i was only 21..life is certainly a journey & without God i would be lost God bless you
hard working, accepting and gaining success, so cool!
I'm truly disheartened by some of these comments. We are all human, we all have our own story, and we are ALL allowed a chance for redemption. This mom has paid her dues and I guarantee it was a long, painful road before she received any kind of forgiveness or before trust from her loved ones was restored. I have spent many years of my life struggling through the wreckage and mass destruction of others addictions and I can honestly still say that despite being truly and deeply wounded by all of it, I still have empathy and compassion for addicts. How can you expect someone that has been afflicted by addiction to heal and move forward without having empathy and compassion of others??
There are alot of stiff-necked and hard hearted pricks in the world, it's really sad for those people, to be so unnatural and lack compassion and mercy for others is a real shame.
I wish my Mom had grown up, when my daughter was on her way in this world 7+ years ago I too made a choice to stop living in a horrible self destructive way with pills and booze.
I have empathy and compassion for the children. I have no sympathy for nasty junkies who choose drugs over their kids and subject their children to sexual, emotional, and physical abuse. The kids of addicts are innocent and have no say in who they are born to, no baby makes the decision to be born addicted to drugs. Save your tears for the kids, the drug addicts do not deserve them.
Sunny Lee You're a cruel, dumb, bitch. Let's see how you feel if you have children and one becomes an addict. They probably will having a heartless mother like you.
I agree!
Sunny Lee Well said 👍🏽
Thiswoman is incredibly brave a,d honest to tell this story
It's nice to hear things from the kid's perspectives. Although I'd like to have heard from the youngest boy more.
My fiancé raised her 4 kids on her own because her ex was out doing meth
When he was home all he did was sleep all day on the couch
They lost their home and everything because of his actions
She finally kicked his sorry ass out in 99
He's still in denial
She deserves a medal for this
He's actually an old buddy of mine
I hadn't seen him in over 20 years
I was amazed how much he has changed
Her 4 kids turned out amazing
She did one hell of a job raising her kids
He gave nothing to the marriage emotionally or financially
What a beatiful story...Love the part about the whole family supporting...And the granma (tutu)...Bless!
she is a brave warrior. more people could learn from her.
She looks so naturally good far her and her family
Crazy I remember going castle with these boys and I’m now a recovering addict
Awesome family 👍👍👍
This video has brought something to my attention... I must buy a violet colored izod shirt immediately
Couldn't stop paying attention that the boys were standing the whole time. Lol
ikr they so hot
That's really how it be
wow she is so strong. and inspiring. so proud of her and her beautiful family.....bravo!
I'm only at 4:41 but the kids all look like they're dissociating BIG TIME
Beautiful family
Great story! I'm proud of the mother getting clean. HOWEVER SHE Never Thanked HER MOM! HOW DISGRACESFUL of her!
The way the young daughter was looking. sadness, spaced out , and disappointed. It just shows you meth ruines l lives,
18:25 that daughter is beautiful...
The mistress my husband has found out she was pregnant st 5 month no prenatal care she's lost her other kids to drugs my husband heavy user and so is she ..... I pray the kid isn't hers cause there's a chance ... but this scary there's no money between. Them
Please as a landlord, please imagine how we have to pick up and trust our property to anyone doing this?
😅 fantastic video on addiction 😅😅😅😅
Where are you speaking at best live in kanoehe Have a neice. That is fighting her addiction. Would live to get her listen to you
When you grow up around illegal gambling houses, brothels and corrupted officials, even the strongest of minds fall victim to the environment. Honolulu Hawai'i is now #1 in the nation for meth, has over 6000 homeless people and the largest amount of millionaires in the country. There is very little or no programs that aren't jail or prison oriented. Almost half of the high school kids in Hawai'i, end up in juvenile detention and jail from 10th grade to a year out of high school.
Da daughter get action!
Sadly the guy interviewing them was very repetitive and made then repeat very sad things. I wish he was asking better questions and was more compassion from him in his questions. That’s all. Amazing story though. It gave me a lot to think about with my own life.
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So, they all have different fathers but same mother ? I mean the kids.
H Y The oldest have the same dad, the youngest one a different one.
Man, I'm from Hawaii and can say it is hard core drug wise. The unfortunate thing is that the culture in hawaii has not evolved with psychiatry. They need to realize that some people release less dopamine so they actually need amphetemine. When people get on dextroampetamine they have the pocket knife they need instead of the battle axe meth is. I actually have a major bone to pick with the people of Hawaii in this sense. Rarely you find compassion just smack talk and people trying to label you a helpless addict when really the person has a learning disability. They labeled me. Then I moved and got proper medication. Now I'm a genius basically. They try to make you feel bad about yourself like a dope addict but then they(the cops) will go to O Lounge and sniff coke and drink crown til 7am, then go straight to work. Ya, Hawaii is in for a surprise in the next year when I come through. Haven't let it go...
psychiatry is mostly junk science. "chemical imbalances" are not tested for but assumed. Though yes dexroamphetamine can help some people.
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Des Troya Not mostly, definitely some, it's also not the science that's responsible for the irresponsible prescriptions. it's the companies who ignored the science showing risks because it would make them less money and the doctors willing to be unethical after being given special treatment and incentives by drug companies. It's complacency with applying the laws of the free market to medicine which everyother country knows has huge consequences that far outweigh small benefits. Drugs are easy to copywrite and profit off of where as preventative measures are something that has to come from government or society because it is not proffitable
Tyler Anthony I'm glad you found the help you needed and that you're doing well these days.
Meth forcefully makes the user's brain deposit dopamine as well as other chemicals that create the feelings of joy and happiness. After continuous use your brain stop producing these "happy chemicals" on its own to balance out the amount. Insulin does the same. It can take up to 2 years for the user's brain to get back to normal, or as normal as possible.
This is a huge reason as to why user's experience depression and fatigue after they sober up (yes even if they just spent the past 4 days sleeping). Thats another reason behind the % of relaspes in recovering user's.
User's get addicted to the "happy chemicals rush" that the use of meth gives them.
Personally I hate most meth user's (sober or not) they all play victim. These kids went through absolute hell (mentally, physically and emotionally) and she plays her side of the story up. Feel pity to me I fell victim of bad choices, Zero sense of responsibility, and drugs. It's a fucking choice that you put yourself, your loving mother and your 3 children (who never asked to be born) through. I'm glad (to a point) that she's somewhat owning up to her mistakes but she should be grovelling and thanking each and everyone one of them for even giving her the time of day. *Rant over*
I feel for these kids. My mother just never sobered up and has ruined my credit. Plus all the childhood trauma, mental health issues, dangerous situations I've (and 4 other siblings) been placed in, putting a meth pipe directly in my little sisters mouth and teaching her how to smoke it at 16, the list goes on...
Afterlife race
It's horrible
Can you cook a taco?
Spam musubi and drugs are the best !!!
Don't smoke the batu.
@cnn
i guess when the kids talk about her like i didnt know who this woman is growin up u cant really talk about motherhood...
I took meth straight for 35 yrs but my life was ok i am succesful . Until now im still using meth but not on a daily basis anymore just twice a week but im ok . I was able to sent all my children to college and my family is ok. So it depends on the user i think
James Tan troll
James Tan it’s “ successful “
Wtf
If I got a dollar every time she said "um"
then you'd have 197 dollars :) yes i counted
Casper sanderson I counted 198 lol
Casper sanderson 2 or 3 more dollars gets u 2 grams of meth! Lol
Arlene Avila shes nervous and brave enough to share her story on camera. you shouldnt be watching this if you are gonna judge. obviously you clicked on the video for a reason. its unbelievable what kind of negative immature world we live in these days smh. prayers for all of you who get off on writing negative comments on youtube.
Antonio Ortiz shut the fuck up who was my comment negative
It's not physically possible to be "addicted" to meth. If a person does meth they are wired and can't sleep.(or eat) After some time they have to get some rest or die. Saying a person is addicted to meth is just a lame excuse so they can justify dong the crap.
Barry Fohn You wouldn't say someone can't be addicted to food because they can go a week without it. Even if someone had the proper nutrients they would want to eat it's an instinct and it is motivated by dopamine release. Meth releases a fuck ton of dopamine, it triggers that same reward system. Different from the physical level of addiction with opioid which affect the pain management system of the body that is endorphins, which is yes a different thing to tackle and a very dramatic withdrawal process. People on stimulants like meth will experience a withdrawal and a very low dopamine level motivating them to do more.
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rry Fohn exactly it's not an opiate lol
Meth forcefully makes the user's brain deposit dopamine as well as other chemicals that create the feelings of joy and happiness. After continuous use your brain stop producing these "happy chemicals" on its own to balance out the amount. Insulin does the same. It can take up to 2 years for the user's brain to get back to normal, or as normal as possible.
This is a huge reason as to why user's experience depression and fatigue after they sober up (yes even if they just spent the past 4 days sleeping). Thats another reason behind the % of relaspes in recovering user's.
User's get addicted to the "happy chemicals rush" that the use of meth gives them.
Personally I hate most meth user's (sober or not) they all play victim. These kids went through absolute hell (mentally, physically and emotionally) and she plays her side of the story up. Feel pity to me I fell victim of bad choices, Zero sense of responsibility, and drugs. It's a fucking choice that you put yourself, your loving mother and your 3 children (who never asked to be born) through. I'm glad (to a point) that she's somewhat owning up to her mistakes but she should be grovelling and thanking each and everyone one of them for even giving her the time of day. *Rant over*
I feel for these kids. My mother just never sobered up and has ruined my credit. Plus all the childhood trauma, mental health issues, dangerous situations I've (and 4 other siblings) been placed in, putting a meth pipe directly in my little sisters mouth and teaching her how to smoke it at 16, the list goes on...
alcohol is better
nothing is better if it comes to addiction