Lost Your Focus? Here's The Best Way To Salvage Your Scattered Mind - Inner Work Library [157/500]
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- čas přidán 2. 07. 2024
- Improve your attention span and learn how to stay focused with this episode of Inner Work Library Q&A. Burnout psychology is evolving, and we're more distracted than, but we can learn how to improve focus and stay focused as a creative if we answer the deeper existential questions beneath our symptomatic challenges with time management and work routines.
Please take the time to answer these questions, they will help you focus better because you'll resolve the deeper issues rather than being stuck on the surface level challenges.
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This is so real, finally gaining momentum after becoming sober and going to group meetings, plus all my spiritual practices. Im grateful for all the experiences life has thrown at me, creating a self loving new me!
Beautiful philosophy, thank you for celebrating yourself here 🌲
People tend to overestimate what they can do in one day and underestimate what they can do in one year. I can be one of those people when I’m not fully aware. Trying to hold on to the big picture for myself though and stick with my new routine which seems to work for me. Thanks for this new video and the effort you are putting into this channel.
Beautiful reminder for anybody scrolling the comments today, and I agree that we lose sight of this so often. Thanks for your appreciation of the efforts over here too - wishing you well for the new week ahead.
Thank you, Jordan! Your video opened my eyes regarding my blockage. I know I can do my challenging task, meaning I have the ability to complete it, but for the time being I was stuck, not being able to move forward with it. It’s just about my emotional state 😊 So, now, I know what needs to be addressed 🌠
You’ve got this! May your next steps forwards be focused and intentional. Keep going steady.
I’m currently building a online service based business that is quite boring. The money will be good. I decided to do it fulfil the lifestyle that I’d like to have. It can feel laborious at times. Like I have to pull myself to it. However I find my most authentic true enjoyment with acting. I’m early in the acting journey, got signed and now looking for my first role. The business will be at a point where it won’t require much on a daily basis, about 6-7 hours per week to manage it, in roughly a year and a half. That way I’ll have the financial stability and be able to fully immerse myself in acting workshops and other recreational activities that I want to do. Open to any thoughts 😊
Johnny, you got this. Acting is a notoriously tough gig to get going, and it seems like you've made the right move with setting up a stable income stream before shifting more fully to work. My best advice is to give your future self the gift of fathering this business with care and diligence. Imagine what it will be like to experience the freedom of acting and expressing in January 2026 and beyond... and only two focused afternoons of work on your other business meanwhile. I'm doing a similar path with building my online presence before going all-in with writing books (which take years, and pay nothing). Keep going brother.
Thank you! This is super helpful. I'm rebuilding up my schedule at the moment and it feels good :D
I've been trying to attend to my lack of focus issue lately (it's especially hard during a war) and found out that my body tenses up, especially during reading time.
I don't do the Pomodoro thing either because If I already gained momentum, I don't wanna stop the workflow. but if I feel extremely fidgety, I do my best to concentrate for 20 minutes, and I'll take a 10 minute break that includes some form of physical activity that'll help me re-focus. I discovered that what I do during the breaks matters! I won't open up my social media, and I won't talk to anybody (unless it's an emergency). I've been able to be more consistent for the past few weeks. it makes me very happy :)
You're making positive steps, keep going - healthy approach here.
True. My first experience with burnout was at UCLA, and I had to go to the most famous philosopher at said university--which was beyond embarrassing for me--and tell him "I have your book in front of me, but nothing is getting recorded...I'm spent". One of the most painful moments in my life, but he was really kind and allowed me to retake the exam--total mensch or good guy
Beautiful anecdote here - could really picture the scene. Thanks for sharing, sounds like a challenging time.
@@jordanthornton just as you are a total mensch or good guy. He didn't have to do that for me, but he did
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Thank you as always! Your point about parts of us resisting or not wanting to engage in the work really resonated with me. I often feel like I have everything structured and figured out until it falls apart and I find myself restructuring again. I need it to flow naturally, as it feels incredibly rewarding when it does but something keeps getting in the way and interrupting the flow. It's time for some inspection and confrontation. Wishing you a fulfilling week ahead!
Strong but flexible boundaries, established to the needs of the season and intention. Thanks for being here, and good luck as always.
Plzz make a video on how to heal from betrayal trauma also suggest a book
Check out episode 128/500 - it explores this theme in great detail, and I hope it helps. Keep going.
Thank you so much, Jordan! This is really useful.
Thank you for being here every week, taking these messages in 🌲
@@jordanthornton It wouldn't be Sunday without your videos, Jordan. I look forward to them every week.
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i am a fearful avoidant, my mother is a covert narcissist. i have accussed my partner and gotten angry at him and blamed him whenever i felt inferior, UNFAIRLY the way my mother used to do to me. my biggest fear is becoming like either of my parents. a part of me feels doomed to become like them bcs as a child i was told day in and out that i am defined by my parents and they are both narcissits, one covert and the other general. they are terrible people and i just dont want to be like them, any advice
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Check out the work of Richard Grannon and Sam Vaknin on CZcams - they have many videos and books which will help you, and I think they’re a great next step. I’m wishing you well 🌲
Thank you so much! 🙏🏻
The is amazing and as always: exactly where I’m at right now. But so many questions!!
I feel like I need others to make my work whole. I got clear ideas and clear reasons but I hold on to excuses like “I don’t know anything about marketing” or “I need a professional to look over this” and “I don’t have any money for this”. But also… ideas change, focus and passions have changed for me but for friends aswell. How do I know when to hold on to an idea and when it was just a “stepdea” that was not was I was supposed to do but rather bring me towards my “real” work?! These are big and frequent discussion points in my recent conversations.
If you’re asking all these questions, it’s likely that these specific and different confusion points aren’t your own authentic creative or business ideas - ‘stepdeas’ as you said.
What specifically are you trying to create or offer as a service or creative offering right now? Is it simple to describe yet substantial and clear? Would love to know, always good to read your thoughts! 🌲
@@jordanthornton the ideas are clear but maybe not when going into detail.
I am writing a book, that I want to publish. The book is at a point where I would like to work with an editor.
Based off this I want to build a coaching business but I don’t see a clear vision for it yet.
After all that worked out, I have something rather big planned although the funny thing is that, if we say this is a 3 step goal, the details of the big plan are already fixed (business plan written, plans drawn, etc).
The book is more of a passion thing. There’s something in me that believes, I need to write it. For the coaching I think, I take goal 3 as a reason but I’m so excited to start 3, since all the details are worked out and it keeps me doing nothing.
Bit confusing, you don’t learn these things in school.
@@celinpiotrowsky259 It's great to know that you've got a plan! It seems that the major challenging is prioritisation, which will be dependent on financial needs and also make a realistic measure of how long things take to complete (and how much money is needed to sustain yourself during this process). In terms of writing a book, for example, I likewise want to go this way but know that I'll need minimum three years to work on the project... and that beginner books always always always lose money in terms of both production and the opportunity cost of not doing different things.
It's a hard balance between passion, impact, fulfilment and financial safety - what I personally focused on was developing a valuable 1-1 service starting at about £30 per hour (four years ago) and then incrementally increasing fees as I increased my skillset. Wish I could take the hundreds of hours needed to write books, but I know this won't be a realistic possibility until my mid-30's at earliest... got too much of the 'real business' to build first!
Haven't been able to answer all your questions, but I hope my encouragement to prioritise the most important tasks and temporarily set aside the others lands well.
@@jordanthornton I like this! You build something, that can carry you through the deep focus of writing. It makes total sense and is a process that feels more thought through (is that English?). I didn’t plan it like that and simply followed a feeling of inspiration and it’s getting to me now, the devotion of putting in the work even if you’re not inspired. I think I will keep going this way of working on the side, something that keeps me alive & save enough to publish the book and take it from there, simply because I don’t feel ready to coach. I constantly get people thrown my way, that look for the guidance that I want to give professionally one day so there’s a recurring practice but I don’t feel it’s certified enough to be monetized.
Anyways, was nice to put my thoughts out there and get pieces of your opinion on it.
Thank you ✨🙏
@@celinpiotrowsky259 You are certified enough to be monetised, as long as you start with a very low price or even do work for free. I worked with my first coaching client for free for 4 x 3hr sessions, and then delivered another three sessions and they paid me £270 in total at the end for the entire experience - which was about 21 hours of work. I then felt confident to charge a very small hourly rate, and gradually increased the fees every 4-6 clients until my prices landed where they are now, and I'm happy with them. You can start charging proportionally, don't ignore the opportunities that are calling you forward.
Why dont you have more viewa jordan?
CZcams is racist and prejudice... or maybe it's just not my time hahaha. Very grateful for the scale of audience that I already have, and here for those who want to do the deep work together. More ahead, and grateful for what is already here.
iim video editor can i help you jordan to make more views
No thank you, but I wish you well in your hustle ✌🏻