5 SECRETS OF THE INFJ DARK SIDE

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  • čas přidán 6. 07. 2024
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    INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Discover the secret power of the INFJ's dark side in our thrilling discussion today. You'll be amazed to learn that this secret is not only kept from others, but also from the INFJ themselves. This is the final video in our INFJ Hermit Mode Glow Up series, and it holds the key to unlocking your true potential. By embracing your dark side, you'll not only achieve more, but you'll also experience life to the fullest and find true fulfillment. It's not just about the negatives; embracing your dark side allows you to become softer, more welcoming, and open to all the amazing things life has in store for you. Get ready for an exhilarating ride!
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Komentáře • 93

  • @matthewsolidum3494
    @matthewsolidum3494 Před 6 měsíci +50

    Happy new year wenzes and fellow INFJ warriors! More epic life moments this year 2024 ❤

  • @susanjones8489
    @susanjones8489 Před 6 měsíci +16

    INFJ here, a kind hearted compassionate person whose also a warrior when need be.

  • @tharientsho
    @tharientsho Před 6 měsíci +27

    How one so young could be endowed with so much wisdom, insights and the ability to articulate all my insecurities and idiosyncrasies with such precision is beyond me. I feel I have come home! when I emerge out of my cocoon I will do so with a new confidence. Thank you Wenzes for your gift and more importantly for sharing it generously with your kindred spirits! May God bless you in this new year and beyond, ❤

  • @kalebfw8319
    @kalebfw8319 Před 6 měsíci +7

    Theres a time in my life that I shine bright. But then I have to dim it when my kids become teenager. I place myself as trainor-mentor-backup plan for them, so they can get their own stage. Now the younger one preparing to enter university, so I prepare myself to shine again.

  • @amyj.4992
    @amyj.4992 Před 6 měsíci +11

    I've accepted myself fully in highschool when my mom helped me accept im born dark skin and I will die dark skin. So I might as well love, all of me and stay out of trouble and avoid trouble ridden people who have no interest in changing for the better

  • @taneltimusk9915
    @taneltimusk9915 Před 6 měsíci +14

    Thank you. Didn't know before that personality like INFJ existed. I knew for years that I was different and after suffering, hesitation, trying to be like others, I found that most people do not see, hear and feel like me. I laughed very hard and realized how a curse can also be a blessing. Having since gone through a similar 10 steps, I just want to say I wish I had found this channel sooner. Maybe everything would have gone much easier. Thank you, Wenzes, you are doing a wonderful job. Keep it UP!

  • @theycallmedude884
    @theycallmedude884 Před 6 měsíci +8

    Happy new years INFJs, hopefully this the years we start focusing on ourself.

  • @user-gf9fg3ze8i
    @user-gf9fg3ze8i Před 6 měsíci +8

    I have finally started valuing myself enough to not desperately run after people for friendships. Now if it happens it happens. You do you Boo, cuz im gonna do me.😊

  • @justinwhite2725
    @justinwhite2725 Před 5 měsíci +3

    With great power comes great responsibility
    -- Stan Lee

  • @lindateuling7862
    @lindateuling7862 Před 6 měsíci +5

    Wow. The quote "I want people to like me for me liking me.".
    INCREDIBLE! 😊👍😊👍. My wording of it could have been, " I want people to like me because I like myself."
    By fully accepting my dark side, it transformed the way people related to me and vice-versa. And the nice thing is, I didn't really have to tell anybody what it was. The change in my attitude simply showed without my having to say anything. The few people who knew my dark side weren't one bit fazed about it except that they were happy for me for accepting it.
    The biggest change is that my dark side doesn't "run me" any more. IOW, I own it and it doesn't own me.

  • @meganmck1473
    @meganmck1473 Před 6 měsíci +8

    Wenzes, you and this channel have been a blessing in 2023! Thank you and blessings to you and yours in the new year!

  • @raft115
    @raft115 Před 6 měsíci +1

    🎉❤wish all my very dear infjs a superb year 2024 🎉

  • @SkrillaJBH
    @SkrillaJBH Před 6 měsíci +6

    Happy new year thank you for everything you do for us INFJs I don’t know where I would be without you !

  • @ClairLouise
    @ClairLouise Před 6 měsíci +5

    Excellent advice for entering the gregorian new year. Best wishes to everyone on the path of inner knowing and integration of soul. Embracing my Lilith has helped to heal my Chiron. These vidios have helped with my astrological decode and understanding my own psyche. Being neurodivergent and having struggled to accept mobility issues related to dis/ease, I can say through 20 years experience that health care professionals including Neurologists and Psychologists could learn a thing or two from you. Bless you and thankyou. xx

  • @boonheng411
    @boonheng411 Před 6 měsíci +4

    Happy new year infj master❤

  • @kencornwell
    @kencornwell Před 6 měsíci +7

    Happy New Year everyone. Thanks Wenzes for doing what you do. I truly appreciate it. Ken

  • @sigmainfjbulgaria4478
    @sigmainfjbulgaria4478 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Well, it just sounds like my new year's resolution. I really need to show more of my self.

  • @erma7258
    @erma7258 Před 6 měsíci

    Happy New Year! Thank you for sharing your info!

  • @indigobarefootyoga3598
    @indigobarefootyoga3598 Před 5 měsíci

    Awesome

  • @DaughterOfTheKingdom16
    @DaughterOfTheKingdom16 Před 5 měsíci +1

    I definitely needed this video as an infj .

  • @travisvogtman3180
    @travisvogtman3180 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Wenzes, you should make a video about the differences between a "Dark INFJ" and the "INFJ dark side.... I believe there is a difference

  • @geoffcarlson-kw4wl
    @geoffcarlson-kw4wl Před 6 měsíci +1

    HappyNew Year Wenzes

  • @TerrorTeller-uv2fl
    @TerrorTeller-uv2fl Před 6 měsíci

    Happy New year Wenzes!

  • @bellisyotamae8173
    @bellisyotamae8173 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Really needed this ❤ thanks so much for this video and your content

  • @drewford3205
    @drewford3205 Před 6 měsíci

    Happy New year to you as well ❤

  • @kimpykimpton6138
    @kimpykimpton6138 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank-you!❤

  • @warlocktony1
    @warlocktony1 Před 6 měsíci

    Happy New year wenzes! Thank you!

  • @SandeepSinghCreator
    @SandeepSinghCreator Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you Wenzes

  • @williamkoscielniak7871
    @williamkoscielniak7871 Před 5 měsíci

    Thank you

  • @riyajacob2909
    @riyajacob2909 Před 6 měsíci

    Happy NewYear Wenzes !

  • @amezfires9247
    @amezfires9247 Před 19 dny

    Damn. I made friends with my dark side, but I know what it takes for me to show it. I don't want to hurt anyone, but people think nothing of intentionally hurting me. I don't tolerate the disrespect anymore, & will immediately cut them off. I'm not sacrificing my peace & happiness for someone who doesn't reciprocate my efforts, or feel entitled to my time & energy.

  • @blossomingbeauti1
    @blossomingbeauti1 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Happy New Year Thank You For Being You I’m Grateful 🤗

  • @meenatchi9552
    @meenatchi9552 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Happy new year wenzes and INFJs😊😊

  • @jazzychazzy007
    @jazzychazzy007 Před 6 měsíci

    Yes, Happy New Year to all and Wenzes, this is one of the best. Thanks! 💗

  • @TroyPosey
    @TroyPosey Před 6 měsíci

    @Wenzes Excellent video Wenzes! I wish you a (belated) Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year! 🙂❤🌹😘👍🏼

  • @ashapriyasridhar7719
    @ashapriyasridhar7719 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Wishing everyone a happy new year. Thanks to Wenzes, I am starting 2024 almost as a new person, replacing anxiety, joylessness and fearfulness with courage, conviction and excitement. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  • @MegaCyberleader
    @MegaCyberleader Před 6 měsíci +1

    You have no idea. The power of the Darkside.

  • @lilianaprado909
    @lilianaprado909 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Wow, I didn't know nothing about this type of personality 😳 this video just appeared in my feed and woooow I'm blown away it felt like you were describing me 😂 thank you so much I always felt like lost and weird for not having this information ❤ thank you thank you sooo much, I will do research for months now lmao THANK YOU, YOU SAVED MY LIFE!

  • @user-ke3zr6pz1w
    @user-ke3zr6pz1w Před 6 měsíci +1

    Happy New Year dear lady Wenzes! I am happy to have found your great channel, your videos are so very helpful, I so much appreciate you! Thank you for all❤️

  • @helentaylor6375
    @helentaylor6375 Před 6 měsíci +4

    Thank you so much Wenzes and happy new year to you and my fellow INFJs.

  • @Rachel_M_
    @Rachel_M_ Před 5 měsíci

    As Bob Marley said _"I am the darkness that must come out (of) the light"_

  • @mariyacharm74
    @mariyacharm74 Před 5 měsíci

    Thank you for the comfort we needed to mch this moment.....true colours beautiful colours...we embrace the oneness ❤...God bless you sista.

  • @keneliajones8410
    @keneliajones8410 Před 6 měsíci

    Wow🔥🥂

  • @tiffanyanderson9437
    @tiffanyanderson9437 Před 5 měsíci

    The INFJ Glow-Up is a MASTERPIECE!! Thank you, Wenzes. Happy New Year everyone! I just received my new planner, I’m going to watch it all over again, this time taking notes. This Glow-Up is what I’ve needed to hear since I was a teenager. Thank you! 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤❤

  • @jessmason2112
    @jessmason2112 Před 6 měsíci +1

    With great power comes great responsibility. Independence is a great way to utilize gifts. 3:35

  • @FallenMonk55
    @FallenMonk55 Před 3 měsíci

    Briefly dated an INFJ with Borderline Personality Disorder. It was emotionally stressful.

    • @Hildred6
      @Hildred6 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Dating anyone with BPD would be stressful

  • @petrdostal3915
    @petrdostal3915 Před 4 měsíci

    What is called here a dark side, I would call an inner Light (hidden). I see no dark in it at all.

  • @wellsaid7174
    @wellsaid7174 Před 6 měsíci

    I am an Infj giant. 1% of 1%. It’s more than a disconnect from people after I go there. It’s saying I choose being alone over being disrespected.

  • @indigobarefootyoga3598
    @indigobarefootyoga3598 Před 5 měsíci

    Whoop whoop whoop !! I actually had a message right before I listened to this. It was Jordan Peterson saying, “you have to learn to be a monster” and I was contemplating that statement, which is out of context, but basically what you are saying and it’s so timely. Thank you

  • @garrybrickett2805
    @garrybrickett2805 Před 6 měsíci

    Happy New YEAR! Bravo, enjoyed the whole series. I know so much more now and understand all those things happened to me are real. i can see no end, going to be a wonderful last third of my life. With my pattern recognition skills. I can day trade bitcoin with the best of traders. My new career.at age 67 looking to give it to charities. Sounds like a INFJ.

  • @groundwalker19
    @groundwalker19 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Dark empath.

  • @southbeat95
    @southbeat95 Před 6 měsíci

    Afraid of being abandoned,

  • @kennethingalls8241
    @kennethingalls8241 Před 6 měsíci

    I always say this , wenzes your intelligence is sensual. I love you ❤️

  • @josepablolunasanchez1283
    @josepablolunasanchez1283 Před 4 měsíci

    This dark side is like a fearsome monster dragon that sleeps in a cave. It can really harm people if awaken. Normally people would think the trick is about the rules to unleash it, but no. The real trick is to train the beast to not hurt anyone but the one who attacked you. Anyone else must remain untouched by the beast. Such training has served me to not get into trouble.
    Also the beast must be trained to not put anyone´s life in real danger.
    For example, the beast should not put the attacker at the edge of the cliff, because if the attacked falls by accident, the whole situation becomes am unintended tragedy that goes beyond the intention of setting a limit. In this example I described a physical example, but in real life situations may be less physical, and yet it could have a similar tragic effect.
    So the beast needs to be tamed.
    My beast is at the end of a long cave. It is so long that people confuse patience with weakness, but I do not care. To see that beast in the eyes, an attacker needs to make me back down a lot, and I mean that by the time the attacker faces the beast you know that this attacker bought all the lottery tickets and earned the prize.
    If someone witness the beast, I explain that I never unleash it on people who did not go into the cave to seek it. And I also explain that is why I have so much patience.
    The beast is not wild animal., It is a guardian. And it sleeps when it does not need to protect.

  • @evejames6484
    @evejames6484 Před 6 měsíci

    Happy new year. I would like to become a member of your coaching. I definitely need some help I'll be in touch soon. Fellow infj here.

  • @PrepTheMind
    @PrepTheMind Před 5 měsíci

    This is so true. The only difference is that I was very attuned to my dark side. So dark, I was capable of almost anything. Later in life, I couldn't find my dark side, and I was suffering being a people pleaser because I was so aware of my dark side and my power but, I didn't want to use it.
    Now, I have learned to embrace both sides. But, the power still scares me, even to the point where it holds me back at times. But, I like to think of myself as being in a super position. I am both and neither a 1 or a 0. The cat is neither dead nor alive until it is observed. At least, that's my idealized self. Reality is more nuanced.

  • @myatokni4511
    @myatokni4511 Před 4 měsíci

    I knew i am infj n my suffer different priority value why my self critic trauma was all infj prob. I knew it now at 37 😂 so i am at inner peace 😂 i love me

  • @myatokni4511
    @myatokni4511 Před 4 měsíci

    As an 30s infj My dark side is living for myself self love mymental health only focus in my inner circle n detachment from everyone . Hiw to make money oj social media as an introvert 😂

  • @Wenzes
    @Wenzes  Před 6 měsíci +7

    What are some of your dark side traits you are afraid to embrace?

    • @rudysdream
      @rudysdream Před 6 měsíci +1

      the destoyer…

    • @nourfattouh6547
      @nourfattouh6547 Před 6 měsíci +4

      Letting toxic people go

    • @riyajacob2909
      @riyajacob2909 Před 6 měsíci +3

      Letting many people go..😢

    • @myhalflifecrisis
      @myhalflifecrisis Před 6 měsíci +5

      I’ve realized that I can truly traumatize people if they push past a certain threshold. I’m an exceedingly patient person, and I’ll do all I can to avoid getting there. But if I had to go there, I fight to win, and I do. But I draw no pleasure from that. Incidentally I’m a military analyst by trade, and pocking holes in arguments is what I do best. That is a reason why I started writing as a way to embrace my dark side ✍🏼 - my life is finite, but my words will transcend me in every manner. But you’re right, some people now see me in a whole new light they didn’t realized before. I’ve made my peace with it and looking forward to an awesome 2024! Happy New Year!

    • @doshadial
      @doshadial Před 6 měsíci +5

      Ones that could get me arrested. 😂 Joking of course but, it is unleashing the annihilator. I want to tell people what I think at that very moment of an encounter. I see so much and right through people. I don’t need to curse or raise my voice to destroy anyone, just polish my mirror and let it blast back at them (like a CareBear 😁).
      I don’t want friends or people around me so being what someone else wants me to be is not an issue. It’s me giving myself permission as, I had been told even as an adult, change everything about you so the family can love you.
      I also feel like what I perceive as ‘being mean’ may actually just be feeling uncomfortable when I shouldn’t because I’m just establishing boundaries. I know that’s more than INFJ challenges but it plays into our coping mechanisms and tools.
      Thank you for your channel! I binge listen while cleaning. 🙏💜

  • @briettasonlen1208
    @briettasonlen1208 Před 6 měsíci +2

    What would I do without you, Wenzes?

    • @ginoinencino2528
      @ginoinencino2528 Před 6 měsíci

      You'd be living your own life your way, free from the shackles of a personality trait. Btw, no one is born into any personality trait. Theres no "INFJ genes" in your body. That aint up to God. Thats on you. Free will

  • @lesleyrose6282
    @lesleyrose6282 Před měsícem

    I didn’t like me until I tried to kill myself. I failed obviously, I woke up and it was the first time I thought to myself “I don’t deserve to be treated so badly to the point I want to kill myself” . And I decided to never let anyone make me feel that way again. Including myself. I persecuted myself for making mistakes and I took a step back and realized I always give people way too many chances and I’m so forgiving why can’t I forgive myself? So I did. I own my mistakes to this day. Everyone makes mistakes. And I’ve grown so much. And I like me. I accept my past and I like my past because it brought me to where I am today. And there ARE people out there that like me for me too! They are few and far between , but they mean the world to me. I had no one when I went through all of that. But after growing and healing… you attract much better people. If you don’t like yourself , you’re just gonna attract other people that don’t like themselves and they will take it out on you.

  • @fuzbugg
    @fuzbugg Před 4 měsíci

    💪💪💪💪💪

  • @user-oh7wv1rz7r
    @user-oh7wv1rz7r Před 6 měsíci

  • @TheWisdomOfTheAges_PsyM_Revd

    I know this is not exactly right on topic but it is certainly an indirect topic to this one. Am I the only INFJ dealing with adrenal fatigue? I tried my best to heal myself with vitamins and minerals but I still am tired. Is there somebody who is in my situation here? I would love so much eventually to have an INFJ making a video of how to heal your adrenal glands and I wish I was this person but I am not healed yet. My descent started I was a young adult and it went from there. I certainly improved my health but not satisfactory because I can not do anything that I can REALLY sustain because of lack of energy. That's why I did not join the bootcamp yet - even though I was very tempted to do so at the end of last year - because there is something I need to fix first. Thank you for reading.

  • @keyboardoracle1044
    @keyboardoracle1044 Před 6 měsíci

    How do you explain doing things you like to do and not wanting to be there? Having a good time but wanting to be anywhere but there?

  • @nataliaprodan9335
    @nataliaprodan9335 Před 5 měsíci

    ❤🎉😊

  • @myatokni4511
    @myatokni4511 Před 4 měsíci

    But i can act everything wat people like and wanna see in social media if there is any🤑

  • @cheribarker1870
    @cheribarker1870 Před 6 měsíci

    What's infj?

  • @myatokni4511
    @myatokni4511 Před 4 měsíci

    I am doing things that makes me happy n proud of me yes😂 but people see us like a weak simple dumb but the thing is ur opinion toward physical world is not my priority

  • @yannyrocha5289
    @yannyrocha5289 Před 6 měsíci

    I just watched the Saltburn movie. My friends believe that the character Oliver is an INFJ. What do you think?

  • @user-gs4us5bw3h
    @user-gs4us5bw3h Před 6 měsíci +1

    I use CZcams as a therapist when needed and usually only seek the videos that are laid out of front of me.. this is the 2nd validation of a journey to come that aligns with the topic at matter. I truly admit I'm nervous of stepping over my threash hold and stretching the moral compass retrospectively.
    Your words brought strength as your eyes brought me comfort. Your vibration is as an infj General.
    🫡

  • @null_0404
    @null_0404 Před 6 měsíci

    Thank you

  • @drewford3205
    @drewford3205 Před 6 měsíci