ASPD In 8 Minutes (I Am A Sociopath)
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- čas přidán 21. 08. 2024
- I hope this helps everyone to understand ASPD a bit better, and make sure to comment any questions you have so I can answer them in the next video!
Warning: I suspect I have ASPD and possibly SchizoidPD, so my perspective is probably not 100% accurate to all diagnosed people because I am still in the process of getting officially diagnosed. Take my view with a grain of salt, and use your own judgment.
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I have ASPD, and I am fucking psyched to finally see someone bringing awareness to ASPD without demonizing it! Thanks bro!
Yes! It’s great to hear from someone who actually has it.
im a sociopath
SAME
@@angrydiver_4220 i wouldn't say that everyone with aspd/conduct disorder are bad people. ofc like everything else, there are a few people who don't see the point in getting along but most of the people with aspd that i know are good people. they may not come off as nice but they do not do bad stuff for no reason at all. sometimes, yes but our actions almost everytime have a certain motive, or it just gets boring.
tldr: yes, people with aspd can be good.
@@angrydiver_4220 i have conduct disorder. i too keep relationships with certain people for reasons, i know how it works. antisocial people aren't necessarily bad and the exploiting part varies from person to person.
Timestamps:
Introduction: 0:00 - 1:20
Defenition: 1:42 - 2:56
Explanation: 2:57 - 3:42
Spectrum: 4:05 - 6:05
Quote: 6:06 - 6:50
Takeaway: 6:51 - 7:33
Questions: 7:34 - 7:49
Ending: 7:50 - 8:08
Why are you not at the top
@@freedomrunners3628 because he didn't pin it.
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This is so important. The stigma around aspd is so prevalent, and anyone who can chime in and tell a first hand story is taking the discussion a big step in the right direction.
There's stigma around it for good reason.
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Yeah I'd say it's bizzare but really it's expected for sociopaths of course. Why wouldn't they want the more comfortable position of not being viewed as a threat? It's only natural to play things to their advantage. It might be framed as educational and I actually respect that but it's ridiculous if not laughable for any sociopath to claim they shouldn't be seen as a very real threat
@@blackowl641okay mr owl
@@bobettepancakes
Sorry that I'm not playing along
I have seen lots of CZcamsrs who say that but then go oh yeah and I don't really care about my friends, I manipulate people and cut people out easily
Good video, man. Also a high-functioning sociopath. I once read somewhere - in an article which I now can’t find, of course - that people like us have a tendency to display more empathy than normal while viewing fictional stimuli like movies, books, etc.
Have you ever heard anything along these lines? It’s similar to what people with RAD do, I believe. Basically maintaining abnormal relationships with fictional situations and characters instead of real ones.
100%, I find this true for myself as well. I never cry about anything except movies, music, or any story that typically doesn't involve live-action and also strikes an emotional nerve. Specifically, the only live-action film I cried after watching was Million Dollar Baby when I was around 12-13 because that paralysis shit hits hard. Otherwise, I seem to always care much more about fictional characters than when human actors are playing them.
How were you diagnosed? I’m curious because I always thought other people could also “turn off” their emotions as well. I didn’t know that doing so wasn’t normal? I don’t know I guess I’m just asking how do I go about getting checked
@@GollumBeetus By a psychiatrist and her staff of counselors following an arrest.
I get what you're saying only I'd modify my own situations to say that I don't have to actually "turn them off" because most of them aren't ever on (or at least not the way they're supposed to be.)
That ties into the movie/book thing I'd read: that it was common for people with ASPD to respond differently to fictional characters than real people... I know people with attachment disorder have issues like this.
Basically, you may find a character in a movie funnier or more likable than you would a real-life stand-in for that person... for any number of reasons.
Chris Rozakis I mean it’s so easy to say “oh that’s me I do that”. I mean I relate to a bunch of this stuff, but isn’t that just like a little girl reading her first psychology book and saying that she has XYZ. But here’s another question for ya. is it even worth knowing if you have it or not? And do you consider it a disability or just one of those things. I’m a type1diabetic, and I don’t consider myself disabled, it’s just another part of life for me.
@@GollumBeetus Well, to make it clear though, I'm not talking about people with ASPD "putting themselves into movies or books," I mean that I read that a lot of people who have it tend to have more genuine connections and exchanges about fictional movies or books as opposed to real-world people. I don't completely understand this idea and it wasn't expanded on greatly by the writer at the time, so I'm always curious to ask other people with ASPD.
As for knowing if you have it... Ehhhh... I'd rather know that there IS an answer, but what the answer is wasn't terribly important. Does that make sense to you?
I always knew that I functioned much differently than people, but I didn't scour the planet looking to find out what it was called.
I love seeing people bring awareness to some of the more stigmatized mental illnesses. I've been a fan of Dissociadid for a good bit now. It's good to see a channel about ASPD. Mental illness should not be something that has to be hidden no matter what it is.
I love seeing people with the same last name as me. Especially since it's not that common
Personality disorders aren't even mental ilnesses. That id what makes People personality DISORDERD - they always think it is everyone else
I wish I think I have this I know for a fact I have mental health for many reasons. But due to a job I want to do after graduation and in between. They don’t accept certain mental health. So sadly I can’t get help well I can. But if I get a diognosis on paper I can’t do my dream job etc unfortunately:/
@@ameenapatel5319 That sounds like you're stuck in a frustrating spot. I'm sorry I hope everything ends up working out for you.
ASPD is not a mental illness it’s a personality disorder, that cannot be treated, they are abusers they deserve the stigma
You’re an evil genius haha “no I am not attempting to manipulate you into liking or subscribing, I do genuinely want you to have a good day, but! That would be nice of you to do.” I’m sure you’re being genuine and do want people to have a nice day, but you can’t ignore how well you orchestrated your wording. I will definitely be subscribing.
ASPD is not psychopathy. People need to understand this.
@@katieandnick4113 plz elaborate
@@_benpai_ psychopathy is close to 100% innate. ASPD, or sociopathy, is a result of some sort of trauma in childhood. It’s actually interesting, because what I’ve observed to be the most likely cause of ASPD in a person is having a mother who is a psychopath, combined with the child being an empath. A new, non clinical, term for ASPD is actually “dark empath”. When a mother is a psychopath, she cannot bond with her child emotionally, and that really causes a lot of problems for that child, all throughout their lives. And psychopathic women almost always, if not always, end up marrying weak, emotionally unavailable(but not psychopathic) men. It’s possible that the father could also have ASPD, but not likely. But yeah, people with ASPD are natural empaths, and they do have a lot of affective empathy, but no cognitive empathy. And there is a difference between antisocial behavior and ASPD. Someone can have antisocial traits, but not have ASPD. It’s actually possible for people with ASPD to heal(unlike psychopaths), but it typically cannot begin to happen until their mothers die, or are somehow completely removed from their lives. I just stumbled across this video, so I don’t know this guy, but I would guess he’s a very kind, very compassionate person, who is simply antagonistic towards the people in his life that he actually trusts. Definitely not towards his mother though, because he subconscious trusts her least. If he has has a girlfriend that he trusts, he will be most antagonistic towards her. That’s actually a very good way to gauge how any person, whether they are antisocial or not, feels about another person. If they can act like total “jerks” to someone, that means they trust them. It’s complicated
@@katieandnick4113 Remember there are also schizoid and avoidant PDs with ASOCIAL behaviour. Both have impaired cognitive empathy.
@@katieandnick4113 My cause of aspd was because of my dad. He abused me throughout my entire childhood and beat up my mom in front of me when i was only 6. People can't tell me that i'm a horrible human being when they haven't seen the things i've seen. It's like i'm living in a completely different world.
Thank you for this. I was friends for many years with a guy I met in high school. At first he was a pretty good friend, if a bit "off" at times, not to mention impulsive. But as time went on his behavior became more erratic, and he kept getting in trouble. In fact he's been in and out of prison for pretty much his whole adult life. And as the years went on his behavior just got worse, until I didn't feel he was at all a good friend to me-although he was constantly praising how great a friend I was. But the last straw for me was him getting more abusive to his girlfriends. I finally parted ways with him for good. It wasn't long after that, while he was doing another stint on probation that he was interviewed by a therapist. At the end of a session she asked him if he knows what a sociopath is. After the initial shock of finding that out wore off, I took to reading up on it, and the more I learned the more sense it made. Today I decided to see if there were videos of people with this disorder telling their side of it, and this video was the first I found. You're doing a great thing here, I hope you keep it up.
Thank youuu, I have ASPD and I really appreciate you making this channel and video.
uh why are you a l l styled like our cultures stop raiding our cultures and how we grew up
Do you? Can Psychopaths/Sociopaths feel grateful?
@@johnypanta6208 if you really saw that video you would know the answer
@@italucenaz I do now. ASPD is really a mystery me. I didn't mean it in a sarcastic way, although it is difficult to give clear tone in text format. I really want to know if it is possible...
@@johnypanta6208 if you didn't want to be sarcastic, this is strange because your approach seems like it, a person said that they are greatful and you immediately doubt their greatfulness, it really seems like you don't want a real answer, but if it's not the case, a better way to ask is simply "how people with ASPD experience this kind of feeling?"
Good to see someone being honest about any form of mental illness. No matter what it is, eliminating the stigma behind it is important. Subbed
Ty for this bro, I have ASPD and the symptoms they share to people are extremes. ASPD is a spectrum, some of us lack certain emotions, some of us lack other, some of us have none, some of us can control it, but mostly we deal with emotions differently than others. We can have feelings and empathy but usually it is limited to very few close to us.
I experienced a paradigm shift recently in which I actually learned what empathy was and that I don't experience the emotional aspect of it at all. I can mimic emotional empathy but feeling sad for someone I love, or in any other way empathizing with someone else's emotions, is completely outside of my ability.
I can relate to people, and I can also empathize by imagining myself in their shoes.
along with that realization came a sort of unveiling to myself that I do not and never have felt regret or remorse.
this explains a number of things I did during my childhood, when I had much worse impulse control than I do now.
I'm not diagnosed with anything explaining my behavior and the way I feel, but I thought I'd say something here after someone I know sent me a link to this video.
editing this because I posted it while watching the video.
the way you described being able to "flip a switch" and turn your emotions off is literally a perfect description of what I'm able to do. I can simply "flip the switch" and not feel anything in particular for a while
edit 2: despite not feeling remorse, I'm still a generally good person. I try to help my friends with whatever's going on in their lives the best I can, and I *do* care about people
As a HSP/ empath I really don't enjoy feeling for others. It's actually overwhelming and NOT MY PROBLEM lmfao but people aren't scared of me lol
@@badbeachindustry1615 my wife tells me the same thing sometimes, although I struggle to believe "empaths" even exist
I hate to say you can see it in the eyes but yeah
No you cant
@@Leo.23232 you can (sometimes), especially during rage/anger/outburst. Mostly during normal interactions its an absolutely blank looking emotional/internal state.
I have aspd and i think i have dead eyes and my friends say the same thing
@@justletmesigninokthx looking blank can be for many reasons including being tired, if you assume they have a personality disorder based on that, you are an idiot. i guarantee without hindsight this guy would have thought nothing out of the ordinary about him.
idk, his eyes look friendly to me tbh
THANK you. I’m trying to write a character with ASPD and I wanna get most of my research from actual people with ASPD, rather than people who have no clue what it’s like to live it.
read american psycho. every character in the book has it.
@@jawkojawko7094 Hmmm not really
@@jawkojawko7094 not good representation
The problem is most people who have aspd will never reveal it. If they do it makes them vulnerable
@@jawkojawko7094 that is a horrible representation and he doesn't even have aspd
3:56 A child (under 18) cannot be diagnosed with psychopathy/sociopathy/ASPD. They are technically diagnosed with a conduct disorder. They can be taught coping mechanisms through cognitive behavioural therapy and/or family therapy.
Coping mechanisms. Lol.
Hey you have aspd. Deal with it.
That’s stupid, coping mechanisms are for idiots. you think i’m gonna ‘find things i love’? you’ve got to be mistaken. that’s too much work.
@@jamesroberts325 he likely meant they will grow up to become one
@@Aikano9 you likely replied to the wrong person. :p
@@intoxication. Someones never getting better with shit attitude
It really is unfortunate how misunderstood ASPD is. I do not have it, but my ex, and the father of my child, does. He is not diagnosed with ASPD, but he was diagnosed with CD prior to age 15, and we met when he was 18. It’s quite possible that he would have taken a bad turn if we hadn’t met when we did, considering I didn’t see any behaviors in him that really stood out as very abusive until our daughter was born, 7 years into our relationship. He was always mildly antagonistic towards me, but when she was born, the antagonism skyrocketed. But yeah, the thing he does that lets me know he has ASPD is antagonize and provoke, and he really only does this to romantic partners. He is also very impulsive and he’s never been great at earning a living. His father also has ASPD, and his mother has BPD, though she’s mellowed quite a bit with age. He has a lot of affective empathy, but no cognitive empathy. I’ve actually never seen a man cry more than him, and it’s not in an attempt to illicit sympathy, as he cries at movies and funerals for people who he wasn’t related to. I actually believe that people who develop ASPD were probably born with the potential to be some of the most caring, compassionate, empathetic people in the world, but the abuse and trauma, along with poor attachment to their parents, that they experienced as children and babies, forced them to turn down or turn off so many of their cognitive functions in order to survive. It’s very very sad. My ex is married to a woman with BPD, and because of their relationship dynamic, our daughter can no longer visit him. It was a very hard decision for us to make, but we have to look out for her mental health first. He can be incredibly gaslighty with our daughter. I feel very bad for him and his wife. I can’t imagine a worse pairing.
I'm so happy that someone is finally sharing their experience living with ASPD! I have a friend with ASPD and I'm happy that the stigma of ASPD is going away!
Eh, to the majority of people it wont. Atleast not yet
Going away??? B***c where???
I personally do not like the fact that psychopaths are on the more dangerous end of the scale. Sociopaths and psychopaths are relatively similar. Psychopaths dont "lack conscience", instead we choose to not care. Many of us have a moral code, which may or may not follow laws (typically they do because most laws are ethical, and moral). In my personal experience, low functioning sociopaths tend to be more impulsive than low functioning psychopaths, however when a low functioning sociopath has psychopathic traits (not enough to be a psychopath, but nearly enough) or a psychopath with sociopathic tendencies, these sociopathic-psychopaths/ psychopathic-sociopaths can become the more stereotypical people with ASPD, as their impulse control is basically gone, and they have no ability for insight into their condition. As a psychopath, I would personally say that I'm not more dangerous than a sociopath. I'm just a normal person that is almost devoid of complex emotions like love, sadness, remorse, guilt, etc. I still feel occasional flashes of happiness (more like flashes of dopamine), anger, lust, disgust, and ever so rarely; depression. Some of us with ASPD don't know how to cope with the general empty neutrality of our typical emotional spectrum, so they turn to more adrenaline-pumping means, often illegal and illicit activities, regardless of socio-psycho-patholigical polarity (the being of 'one or the other' in terms of ASPD). We're all human though. People like me make up 1% of the population, and sociopaths up to 4-5%. Thats quite a bit.
I am a sociopath myself. When i feel that iam being wronged and not get the rights i deserve, i can leash out to a great extent. Yeah, even sadistic at that given moment. I enjoy giving torture and pain to the other person that moment, no matter what . I dont have control over myself in this time period and if i have a weapon it could end up bloody. It sucks to live with it, even when i dont think its a problem for myself. But other people obviously dont find it funny/good.
I even ask myself sometimes whats in me, thats hiding there in the dark? Did i do what happened last 5 minutes ago? WAS THAT ME???!?!?! Sometimes i cant believe what
ive done, thats also one reason why i stay isolated most of the time. Apart from anxiety and not able to open up to others. I feel like a fucking freak and outcast, who never
belonged to society and /or humanity. I can be the sweetest person if you accept me and give me proper treatment. Sadly, majority of people in my life didnt give me that.
@@e.corphan5635 I wanna say that sucks (which I guess it does), or I'm sorry for you, things will get better.. Buuut I don't feel any abligation to do so, no offense, but hey, if ya ever wanna talk or so (which I'm guessing you do not xD) just, yk.. Ask? R sum? XD welp eeh, good night
@Buttercup58
And who was this uncouth, and rather derogatory comment for?
@Sandier Ramirez
Parental love is entirely psychological rather than emotional, sure it may lead to emotions with normal people, but in psychopaths we often treat them like they're ourselves...most of the time. Bad parents are bad parents regardless of if they're part of just 1% of the population or not. As for myself, I've put myself in harms way to save my dog. Didn't think, just acted, and thats just my dog.
Yo what the fuck this is confusing
I find this to be the clearest explanation of the differences between aspd/sociopathy/psychopathy. Theres so many different descriptions, and I was really curious about what made them different. Thank you!
1. Is the spectrum larger than simply high functioning and low functioning? 2. Would you describe your relationships as transactional (you give xyz in order to gain zyx), or are there genuine emotive relationships? 3. What are your goals for the future? Perhaps career-wise?
Jaffkam it’s not black or white. It’s not you’re a sociopath or not. It’s on a spectrum. 40 is the highest score you can get on the Personality test. A normal population rang from 1-4. A relationship is purely physical. Sociopaths can feel emotions every now and then but they’re not like normals people’s emotions. They’re really shallow and it doesn’t really last long.
Since the OG never blessed us with a response, here’s my humble input;
1) Generally high and low functioning are the two categories used to describe functionality of a whole range of mental illnesses and personality disorders, but you can safely use the term “mid functioning” since it’s not really that hard to ascribe meaning too.
2) relationships aren’t transactional, they’re more obligational (at least for me, idk about the video’s creator). It’s different for everyone. But again, in my experience I don’t gain much from relationships - I don’t need the support, and I don’t look for either friendships or other particularly hard, but due to my stunted ability to basically root out who I like and who not I find myself with more friendships then I’d want. This puts me in hot water in regards to people who require emotional support. I say what people want to hear (unintentionally - I don’t even realise I’m doing it) which causes people to trust me very quickly and hence rant/seek support from me which is where I ultimately fail and probably disappoint.
@@tygsv4021 i scored 15, what does that mean ?
@DrakeHD "sometimes somewhat exploitative with detestable people", what would constitute a detestable person? Is detestableness something that is uniform to people with ASPD or does it vary depending on their place on the spectrum?
@@tygsv4021 Where do i take this proper quiz up to 40 u mentioned?
Oh and, i'm somewhat between low and high functionning sociopath. Was definitively "low" before getting treated for ADHD. Diagnosed for both aspd and adhd at 32yo. Meds do wonder to not be a wreck.
And for the "low functioning" it's not about manipulation or using people. It's mostly (for me at least) having no brakes in telling people how i don't care about some social conventions, some people even friends or family being devastated, until it directly involves me or my quality of life.
Basically, i lived not hiding at all the fact that i wasn't the most empathetic person, without being a cringy fuck. ADHD meds helped me caring enough of my own safety and life so i tend to care a bit more on the "how people view me" thing. But still, that's not a perk, that's mostly a handicap.
@@Identitools 100% high-low functioning is a spectrum, and people tend to mature into high functioning status, especially with therapy. In the next video, I'll make sure to note that this is just my specific perspective, and others will have varying experiences. Thanks for sharing your experience, and for subbing, it means a ton :)
@Nero Machiavelli Same here ! I have AsPd as well and i wanna know what med these guys take ))
So ADHD meds can help treat ASPD?
As an empath, it's really interesting to see "the other side"! I'm fascinated by sociopaths and psychopaths because they can potentially enlighten a conversation with their views which are possibly free from any moral boundaries and therefore very much different. They can open new doors for others in terms of thinking different about things and learning to differentiate between emotions and facts in some cases. But I still need to overcome my internalised prejudice of people with ASPD.
Nonetheless, you're doing great! :)
@Oliver Engholm Strongly pronounced empathy is part of a diagnosis and not always a good thing. If so, it's embarrassing for you to judge quickly without knowing anything about the other person. Do better.
I’m a highly sensitive person as well. I’ve always wondered what it’s like to be a sociopath or psychopath.
@Vivien just a clarification: sociopaths or people with ASPD can have very strong morals and ethical foundations. The difference is that when they respond to a situation it's less likely that their response will be driven by empathy or emotion, and more likely to be driven by their morals and logic. And you don't need empathy to have upstanding morals.
As a HSP/empath myself. I've had moments growing up where I've taken on ASPD traits.
Not because I wanted to, but our whole society values it and neurotypicals can take full advantage.
There's nothing wrong with using those things to protect yourself.
Infact just because someone is ASPD doesn't make them a bad person. Majority of the higher functioning CHOOSE to do better. Just because you have heightened sense of empathy doesn't make you a good person,
I've been manipulated, lied to and berated by other empaths before......usually it's because they don't get harshly judged 😅😅
Holy shit, thank you so much for doing this video and channel. I've been trying to research ASPD for so fucking long and all of the medical sources kept contradicting eachother and using psycopath and sociopath like they mean the same thing, and it made me mad.
I am a writer and an artist who loves creating characters, specially ones that have stigmatized disorders or characteristics (ASD, DID, BPD and now ASPD!) and I want to show the real nature of the disorders, not the bullshit that popular media shows us.
I really appreciate that it is now slightly more common for authors and artist to seek accurate representation i only ask you this, make your character more than their diagnosis, don’t glamourize or sexualize something that honestly has ruined and ended countless lives… for instance i have aspd and schizoid personality disorder, however that is not all i am, i am also a competitive figure skater, author, historian, and a student, my life is deeply warped by my disorder however it is not all I am
I love they way you talk, its just straight to the point no BS, very clear, very articulate, no time wasted with trying to make it digestable for normies. Nice.
I seriously appreciate your channel, and you 💫🙏
It’s much-needed-trust me...been looking for a channel such as yours for a long while...only other time I found one, it was deleted after a few months.... except I find yours better-great communication/teaching/storytelling skills...honestly, this shit needs more understanding for everyone involved tho....I can see your channel gaining traction over time!
Def, there are so many other people out there feeling similarly....I think that the personality type doesn’t typically tend toward exposing itself, however-the categoric, black and white model of psychology is a thing I don’t tend toward....anyhow-
Loving the channel-can tell that you care n strive to communicate your experience genuinely...thank you 🌟
Hello! Fellow sociopath here! Thank you for making this video, many people really misinterpret ASPD. It's tiring sometimes, so hearing this video gave me a confidence boost, thank you!
Question: when did your therapist diagnose you and how did they help you with tactics for living your daily life? Do you think your relationships suffer from this and how have you been working to change, if you have at all?
Damn, he just hearted the comment and didn't reply. Get cucked
@@Marchclouds He didn’t answer because he put it in his Q&A video. Stupid
Thank you so much it feels so nice to find someone who finally doesn’t make us out to be evil
Few days ago, my ex called me with a pissed off manner yelling at me because I hurt her, manipulated her emotions, felt apathetic through out the relationship and was only with her so I can get some. Thing is, when I think of it now I kinda did but not with a bad intention. I never intentionally manipulate anyone and yet, I do lie about small things sometimes, I sometimes act rude and like....I never feel emotions irl but I kinda guess how to act in certain occasions and just fake them. But then again, when I hear a song or play a movie I cry like a baby and can and always show empathy.
This explains a lot. When I accepted ASPD as a part of me I love myself more. Thanks bro.
maybe you have it, maybe not. I have it so im confused when u said u cry like a baby and show empathy haha. Unless you ment cognitive empathy which is learned
@@Ajesen Not literal empathy, I only kinda feel emotions when I learned to in general. That's why I try to learn as much as possible because I don't wanna feel like an intruder all the time hahaha
@@sashamilivojevich4493 alienated. I know what u mean, and yeah i only felt empathy when i could put myself in others shoes, which i believe is sympathy/cognitive empathy? Not 100%
@@Ajesen I think it's called cognitive empathy. Not real one anyways. Sometimes I even feel like I can't feel anything, which is quite a relief tbh hahah
@@sashamilivojevich4493 do you feel fear of you getting sick or dying ,just curious ???
I must express my huge of amount of thankfulness to you for making this video. I struggle with understanding my sociopathic traits and your information calmed me so much man. It's such a strange sensation not to feel as much emotion as others, but i'm quite certain that a happy and mentally heathy life is definitely possible for me now.
Have you been diagnosed or are you on a trend? Seems like people think it’s trendy to be disordered these days smh
@@savvysavage1857 for real
You wouldn't struggle with your traits if you were a true sociopath... trust me.
Its hard to have ASPD and Bipolar disorder, when you have mental health problem and is fighting it, the time where you find that your brain and yourself are not one.
Psychopaths are determined by issues with their striatum, basal ganglia and other areas of the brain as seen on MRI and CT scans contrary to the other Cluster "B" personality disorders; however, there is a difference between emotional empathy and cognitive empathy. ASPD typically have cognitive empathy which is different then feeling and expressing genuine empathy. Cognitive empathy is learned behavior. There is crossover of these personality traits with ASPD. We meet and/or interact with people with ASPD daily and don't realize it.
i was physically abused as a child my parents and sibling abused me for 14 years since the age of 3 this depravity expressed as a child proved to be the locus of my future i was diagnosed as factor 1 psychopathy
Hello, I have Psychopathy. You are correct in saying those of any level of psychopathy are able to detach themselves from their own feelings. I am not chaned by the bonds of feeling
Thank you for making this video! I can’t be diagnosed because of my age, but i’ve been told by both professionals and teachers that I have ASPD. I’m trying to research it and find like - minded people, so it’s good to see someone who actually HAS it and isn’t stigmatising it.
Are you under 18?
It is so cool to see someone with the condition talking about it. The psychologists make a good job explaining it, but it is much more interesting to see someone that has ASPD themselves to teach us
I'm also coming out, being public about being an ASPD. Yes, maybe some are abusive, but we are individuals too. Understanding is key, not creating more hate and fear like many videos do.
Exactly
There is no solution to aspd. As long as humanity exists, psychopaths and sociopaths will always prevail. That's the brutal truth about life. The ones that fail, they cause damage to everything around them, because they think their life is basically pointless now
I myself have aspd, mostly misdiagnosed as a child, due to traumas. I simply never knew I had aspd ,I just knew I was somehow different. Just telling people you have aspd make them automatically scared of you or look at you like you are a monster which sucks . So I don't say anything about my personality disorder
Yes and sadly the stigma is probably not gonna change. Just befriend someone and if you find them understandable and smart - so they think with their own head, then just show yourself to that person. And even then its hard to do, but its worth. For example i knew my brother wouldnt look at me differently but i still didnt wanna tell him, but i was glad that i later did
In my experience try to explain to them how you are and the stigma first
Before just dropping "i have aspd"
I've noticed if you just state you have aspd,some don't know what it is so they google it and thats where the problem comes in.
Interesting. I'm neurologically divergent and was raised around people with cluster B disorders, as well as married 12 years to a man with borderline personality disorder and moderate dissociation. I appreciate you sharing your experiences. I think that Kanika Batra's videos about living with ASPD are insightful as well.
I have BPD and am used to seeing people demonising me online sadly. I think you’re very brave for this!!
Thanks for making yourself available for questions. Questions: Are you able to maintain friendships? Do you date girls? Do you get bored easily? How do you treat animals? What is your relationship with your parents like?
I've been suspecting that I have ASPD for quite some time now, and your videos are already helping me figure out if I have it or not, I appreciate them.
Do all sociopaths lie? I suspect a friend of mine has ASPD, but she’s brutally honest (without empathy). It’s almost like she doesn’t feel inclined to lie because she detests people pleasers and social pleasantries so she’d rather just be blunt.
Yes in the same way *everyone* lies sometimes. They do so at around the same rate NTs lie about how they feel when they think it'll hurt others feelings. Or ND people when they mask so they aren't completely flagged down as "weird" and then alienated. If I were to guess, your friend maybe lies in other ways without really thinking about it like most, but her blunt & less-than-stellar opinion about others is likely sincere.
im a diagnosed high functioning psychopath (scored a 36 on the test) this video is a really good thoroughly explained video about the disorder spectrum. Good job man 👍🏽 although im a high functioning psychopath i used to kill and torture animals so id say thats one of the only parts u got wrong.
The "score" on ASPD goes up to 20, not 36. To get a proper diagnosis, a mental health professional will conduct a full mental health evaluation. During this process, the mental health professional will evaluate a person's thoughts, feelings, behavior patterns, and relationships. They will identify symptoms and compare them to the ASPD symptoms in the dsm 5
So you're probably lying
Same I scored 32 on the Robert Hare's test of psychopathy
@@ChillerBaby actually thats true it's on a 3 point scale from 0 to 2 each question
@@ChillerBaby he's telling the truth
@@WiccanOccultist ah
Thanks, I was recently diagnosed with ASPD. A high functioning psychopath specifically. Video helped!
Omfg that's crazy dude
looks like Kanika's channel was launched after this vid. Props on breaking new ground and smashing stigma!
I was diagnosed at 19, 2 years later things have been getting slowly better
Here, i'm subbed
Omg omg omg youre the first person ive ever heard reference what i call the psychopath switch! I can turn my emotions and empathy off but its much harder to switch it back on.
i love this vid. you and kanika batra are my go-to for understanding aspd further. great work!!
Dude I have this condition also and I'm on the verge of doing something stupid but currently I'm getting help and getting better but obviously people don't like me very much and we as antisocials suffer a lot and even my old psychiatrist treated like I was a criminal and the CZcams really needed this kinda community I was currently searching for an internet blog about this condition and I'm glad I found you bro! I'm hitting a follow.
i don’t want to be a sociopath. everyone thinks they’re crazy. but i don’t feel for people. i don’t want people to judge me for who i am.
A sociopath usually does not care what other people think of them. Only if the person is useful for something.
@@kwjio false they care deeply about the respect they receive.
@@kwjio You're probably not one maybe you're just an asshole or something not sounding very sociopath like
@@richardvandervink6788 As someone with ASPD, i can tell you that’s true. I get catastrophically angry if I get disrespected in a “daily life” situation. Like if someone skips a life in front of me, or if they look at they phone while I’m talking. Not because I’m particularly special and I deserve their respect only for being me, but for ‘How in earth they’re so disrespectful towards people, how can they go not thinking about the neighbor, how can they go not giving a shit about a red light, or about people that are doing a line, or about a person talking to them, and they getting their cellphones out in front of their faces’.
@@edmondvalmont1546 same
I can also flip a switch and lose my empathy and emotions, but this might be more of a coping mechanism where I avoid them and not actually lose them.. I dunno. Super interesting video tho, thanks for sharing!
After watching this, I now wonder if my youngest aunt, who is now deceased, was a low functioning sociopath. She was extremely manipulative and emotionally volatile. She bragged about beating her children and would make them go to the bathroom at family member's houses to find stuff to steal and sell for money. She rented a house from my grandmother without ever paying the rent or utilities and destroyed the house to the point that it was cheaper to sell the house as is than fix it. We all knew something was wrong with her, but no one in the family would do anything about it. She never saw a mental health professional.
I can’t believe noone stepped in to help the children. Incredibly sad.
If you were 25 years old, this might be valid. The prefrontal cortex isn't fully integrated until around the age of 25, and for some people (especially males) that can even be a few years later. That's not my subjective opinion, there is more research behind this than I could cite. It's WHY and HOW the insurance industry can legally discriminate by age alone, when it comes to car insurance rates.
I'm trying so hard not to roll my eyes at this. No mention of Factor 1 or Factor 2 traits. So much to cringe over.
Yea the dude is cringe ass hell lmaooooooo.
So you “suspect” you have aspd. LMAO. I have aspd but never suspected it until I got psychology evaluated. You just seem like one of those people who want to be labeled as having it cuz u think it’s “cool and mysterious”
Hallöchen, first i would like to say that i absolutely love every one of your videos, i always was concerned by the way society categorizes “fashionable” and “non fashionable” disorders giving only positive representation to the fashionable ones such as autism or DID, i myself have been diagnosed with ASPD at the age of 19, my psychiatrist decided this because i recently attempted a crime that would end my life and countless others for my own sexual gratification, when i spoke to her in the hospital she was upset to see that even after being caught in the act all i could do was drool over the possibility of trying again… she saw that i couldn’t for the life of me understand why it was bad to end the lives of 29 people. However shortly after she claimed i was a liability to her career and abandoned me and our sessions together, thus i was left with a diagnosis but no one to explain it to me… this is why i treasure your work so dearly… and i apologize that you must be associated with humans such as myself who have committed crimes and often perpetuate negative stereotypes it is never my intention to cause you difficulties in your daily life… but i dont have any intention on changing mine to make the overlords of society happy, anyway best wishes- tschüss
Hey dude I’ve done sone more research outside this video about ASPD and all I can say is that I hope you’re doing well and I’m terribly sorry you have to put up with so many negative stereotypes surrounding your disorder :( xx I truly believe these videos have the potential to help so many people with ASPD and families and friends of those with ASPD so thank you for being motivated to do this :D (I know this isn’t really a question but I just wanted to share lol)
Have you ever had true feelings about someone and being very possessive .
He doesn’t blink
Honestly, I love learning about the other cluster b personalities:/ I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder earlier this year. Anyway, you’re channel is very much appreciated and it takes a lot to talk about stuff like this. I always found this disorder interesting. It’s also nice to know the differences between high functioning and low when dealing with these types of disorders. I guess I’d be in between high and low functioning with my bpd. I’m hoping to get better as I get older but idk. I’m already 21 so we’ll see lol
i hate having aspd so much it makes me wonder whether i am capable of love/being loved as i doubt any1 can even put up with the hostility and recklessness of me
I'm also diagnosed ASPD but tell ppl I'm bipolar as not to scare them. I mostly stay to myself now that I'm self aware after causing unwarranted chaos for the majority of my life. I disconnect and disengage. I was low vibrational but after ten years of therapy I'm better at recognizing my traits and stopping the cycle.
I am a latina with aspd. Been thinking about speaking about the topic in my channel in spanish, but as every aspd, I am quite concerned about how this could affect my life if everyone found out lmfao
@Wow wow true, too much of the population doesn't understand what it actually is.
This is incredible! Yet another inspiration for videos about my narcissism! I'm stoked, and you are part of the kindling in that fire.
I think the stigma around cluster B is so disorganized to the point where we box off certain disorders and don’t consider other implications, I don’t think all psychopaths are completely void of conscience, and I don’t think all sociopaths are stupid impulsive criminals that fall in and out of prison on a yearly bases lol, there is such a cross over between both disorders on a person to person bases, which is what makes ASPD nutritiously hard to pin, it’s also smart to remember if you have one disorder generally an other bleeds through, psychology is still in its pre mature stage of study, and there is so much more to find out, cool video man
You missed the largest group who talks about ASPD on CZcams. Giant Russian/Ukrainian “infographics” who base everything on Wikipedia.
Call everyone serial killers because they saw that one Ted Bundy movie
У нас в постсоветском пространстве психиатры, вроде, смотрят на антисоциалку не так как западные врачи. Ну, я пока ещё ни разу не встречал у нас тех людей, которые бы не ассоциировали диссоциальное расстройство личности (у нас этот диагноз вроде так называют) с преступностью.
@@vladimirrakitic5029 Моя русский это не хорошо.
Gosh this is actually so helpful.
I've had the suspicion of being a sociopath for a while because I've always felt like something was wrong/different about me compared to other. Like how much easier it was for others to empathise and understand each other on deep emotional levels while I struggled to find a reason to bond with or care about anyone. However, I have quite the superiority complex so I've always thought the others around me just weren't good enough for me to put my energy into getting close to and I either had to find the 'right' people or just didn't need other people at all.
I ended up choosing the latter option because it was easier and I ended up doing the switching method for a long time, only showing fake empathy and interest in people if they were above me or they were important for me to succeed or to achieve something. I'm in one word very superficial. My charm is superficial, I measure people by how much they can do for me and pretty much only care about myself. It sounds awful but it's true.
But I've always thought it was something else because I kept reading online about sociopaths engaging in all these horrible acts and I've yet to commit my first crime. I do have the temptation to do it and my impulses sometimes get the best of me in the form of petty thefts but nothing as big scale as like murder. I just thought I either had something else or was just a horrible person and honestly I didn't mind either one because I thought as long as I can just pretend to be 'normal' I'd be fine.
So this video has been really helpful. Thank you sir. :)
I’ve heard that people with ASPD tend to blink less. Is this true?
I'm a high functional Psychopath. I did not know about this, for the last 24 years of my life. I was always different than the others, people never understood me. I always got bullied in school, especially from my two class mates. One day I just stood up, put my both hands, on one of this morons throat and retched him. I lost control over my body, I came to myself after a while and than I stoped, he almost died. I never had friends back than, I never had the motivation to make friends. I'm a very calm person, you can talk with me about philosophy, history, art etc. I'm not a monster and I'm not risking my family in any way, they are Important to me, they always loved me and tried to take care of me. Strangers are not Important to me, they can die next to me, I wouldn't care or show any emotions. I can switch my emotions on and off, anytime I want like you.
У тебя официальный диагноз?
This is very helpful, thank you! Keep up the good work! I subscribed, and am looking forward to more. Personal experience can often be a better teacher than blanket clinical definitions.
Question- can you love and empathize with family and friends? And can you have healthy romantic relationships?
as far as i know, i do NOT have ASPD, but you guys seem like pretty cool people, i’ve been looking into this a bit
Did y’all know that sociopathy is not inborn? It is developed in childhood as a result of trauma or PTSD/CPTSD.
This fact is super important in my mind when it comes to understanding how someone could turn off their ability to empathize, like a switch. It’s a coping strategy to keep them safe.
It helps me understand and to feel more empathy for our ASPD brothers and sisters.
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Licensed Psychotherapist
Greetings miss Bartholomew… i just wanted to inquire, how on earth do i find a psychotherapist who will treat someone with said disorder i have been in therapy since i was in primary school… and so far 4 therapists has claimed me a liability and a danger and completely abandoned me, i am currently seeing someone but she is insisting i find someone more qualified and spends most of our sessions making gagging/cringe expressions and then concludes by asking me to search for someone else.. so i dropped our sessions… am i too broken to be fixed?
Congrats on developing your channel! I think it's great & I accidentally discovered it. I have wondered if my 11 year old is a sociopath or even narcissistic, but it's probably more likely that he has high functioning autism. I do not see that in you; I'm just saying. He is diagnosed with ADHD and SPD. He is highly intelligent with sensory issues and somewhat behind socially, but seems to feel deep emotions for those that he cares about and empathy towards others or at least strong reactions to sad or hurtful situations involving others or even in movies to the point of not being able to watch the movie. However, when he is talking to me or a friend about a topic such as video games, he dominates the convo and seems to care less about what the other person has to say which does not allow for a good back & forth convo. He does have a temper though and does not like being messed with; he's not mean, but he gets really upset and lashes out, cries or flips out. He does not destroy property or harm others. He just takes things so hard and it will take him a long time to get over it. He seems to be able to know people's true intentions and after giving people a few chances, he will be done with them forever. Anyway, just wondering if you had any issues like that when you were younger, relate to any of that, etc. I wish your channel success!
can we trust you? and why would we?
He didn't ask for your social security number ma bro. If you're not here to learn just don't.
@@threebirdsinatrenchcoat but isn't it interesting a bit?
@@threebirdsinatrenchcoat should I believe in any word a sociopath is saying?
@@werka657 what motivation would he have to lie to you?
Doe DeAngelo to change somebody’s opinion on sociopaths
One day, I will be a published fiction writer. If there is one thing I have decided to focus on when it comes to improving the world, it is writing books that will contribute to decreasing the stigma around, well, lots of things - in particular neurodivergeance and things linked to psychology, since they are close to my heart. Thank you for taking the time to make this, it will likely help a lot
Well that clears things up👍🏽. Being able to mute your empathy is a pretty cool ability tbh.
I don’t want to be one of those kids who self diagnosed but I think I might have ASPD it’s Becuase I’ve always had that type of “ability” to turn on and off my emotions but I think I’m a high functioning sociopath Becuase I do feel remorse so I thought I can’t be a sociopath nor a psychopath Becuase they don’t feel remorse I’m glad I found this video I would go to a doctor but my mom hates doctors but hopefully I can convince her!!
You are gonna have to check more boxes to be a sociopath haha, remember this is a mental disorder. Turning off your emotions is one of the traits yes, and if u think that u lack empathy and remorse, manipulate others or simple use them to get what u want and basically disregard them, you rarely fear anxiety and fear, then yes you probably are. My point is if you are self diagnosing you have to be objective and honest with yourself, do extensive homework about the subject and just give it time. Your brain is developing till 25 yrs old and its very possible that its just a "phase" that youre going through.
@@Ajesen Oh ok thank you!!
@@joeyy8939 You are not a sociopath if you worry about being a sociopath )
Seems like a kinda basic one, but in what situations do you struggle with and when is it an advantage to have Aspd (this probably needs a lot of differentiation between the sub types)?
Do you go through the habit of justifying something internally?
Do you want to serve some „greater good“?
So if you don't have any of the symptoms in the diagnostic criteria, how did you get a diagnosis?
I had a coworker with ASPD. His behavior was almost delusional. All we could do was keep him in some backroom position where he couldn't do any damage, and not put him in any position of trust.
diagnosed AsPD here in 2007. Nice video, like & sub
Sometimes it feels like I’m moving around in an empty husk
That can also be attributed to depression...
Wow, thank you so much for this! It was very well done and you explained everything so well. Now that I know the range of ASPD, I want to talk to my therapist about being diagnosed. You were super helpful
Kanika Batra posts ASPD & NPD videos (her diagnoses) and other vids on different disorders !!
Wow! Everyone in the comments has ASPD
My friend’s ex is a sociopath. He wasn’t cruel, or harmful to others, until he was done manipulating her to take care of him, while finishing med school. Even then, he wasn’t extreme in his actions.
He is now an oral surgeon. (Many of his colleagues have ASPD).
She was with him for 10 years and basically cared for him, not an emotionally deep attachment on his end - he was cold and extremely self-serving.
Intellectually they clicked, and enjoyed each other’s company.
It is hard for me to imagine that type of relationship as a sensitive compassionate person, but I guess they exist.
I was told i was too young to get diagnosed with ASPD and was told i had "sociopathic tendencies" Im so glad to see someone being awareness to this, and im kinda upset i didn't find this video when it came out (when i first got diagnosed)
Thank you so much for doing this, i saw anythonys channel first and thought what he was doing was brilliant
everyone has sociopathic tendencies. literally every human being. Some more some less.
Sure you are kid, sure you are.
This was so insightful. Clear and concise. Thank you :)
love your channel its good the word spreads around a bit ASPD doesnt mean "HI GUYS I KILL PEOPLE LOLE" and it is also in more "subtle" forms like your case on more emotional level
Very interesting. Although I am concerned about the high-low functioning narrative. Being called high functioning can be harmful o people struggling, it kind of downplays their struggles.
ok, but-
he's so damn cute wth
I feel my own feelings but I can do horrible things and feel no remorse at all I'm not diagnosed with anything but I don't feel anything for anyone I could care less
Have you been formally diagnosed by a medical professional?
I don't have the knowledge to entertaining from chaoitic situations if i do or other people's suffering and i also don't think i am lack of emphaty or disregarding morals. I wouldn't count myself arrogant or manipulative but i am kinda agressive, i get bored most of the things easily, impulsivity and living in moment, can't keeping a plan mostly fitting me. Also i know i have a chronic lying problem. Irresponsibilty fits me too. I am not sure if i should see a psychiatrist or not.
Finally, someone on here who is also a high functioning sociopath! I have been looking for years to find someone on line that is like me and have never really found any.
I'd be curious to see follow-up videos on how you react in situations
ASPD is not usually diagnosed until early 20s.
Fantastically explained bud... great vid.