The Power of Indifference
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- čas přidán 3. 07. 2024
- The Power of Indifference
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I think when you know for sure that there is nothing wrong with your body it is so liberating because the fear of doing more damage is removed. Thank you Dan.
That's why I have been spending so much time on the 4 fundamentals lately. czcams.com/video/eKEOrs1C5W4/video.html
This is one of your most powerful talks! Indifference is the difference that makes the difference. Indifference = letting go
Absolutely. Thank you
I think letting go of fear thoughts is like a a skill, have to practice
Yes it is. But it is so possible.
Interesting that this came up tonight. Today I was getting out of my car and noticed some colourful symptoms. Shrugged my shoulders and said out loud: oh, I know this is just PDP. Meh. And went about the rest of my day. Didn’t notice anything after that. Best day for years! Thanks, Dan. 😊
Amazing how that works, right? No fear, symptoms can fade.
You can get better too. I had chronic pain in the back, shoulder and neck for 4.5 years everyday all day. Now I have zero pain. I still get symptom flare ups when going through tough times but life is so much better now. Believe.
Awesome stuff Ander. Love to hear it. If you ever want to share your success story with my audience, you can get on my calendar here: TalkWithDan.com
Did you have muscle spasms much of the time with pain? That would give me hope I can also.
@@maryamighi6834 Absolutely - that was my main symptom. Spasms, pain, sciatica. The spasms twisted me up. Check out the pics of my twisted body about half way down my homepage. PainFreeYou.com
i got better after 13 years. You can too.
I’ve been at the hospital for my first child’s birth this week. It’s been exhausting, PDP hit, but I had to remember “hey, maybe you’re just tired? It’s ok.” Sometimes we are just plain tired.
Yep - I got to sleep very late last night and woke up early. I was just plain tired today. And that's okay.
Yes, Dan! This works! I am not consistently there but on my best days I am am indifferent! Like “The Little Train That Could”. I say I can, I say I can!!
I overcame sciatica and pelvic pain by applying indifference as you say and not letting fear take over. I now am still struggling to apply indifference to my skin because I and everyone else can see it lol! I can see very clearly that indifference and not caring is the hurdle I need to overcome to heal my skin. There is so much fear out there about elimination diets and detoxes fear fear fear I am trying to keep out of my mind. Thank you again for all of your work!
You are quite welcome
I like what your friend said about the first time she had heard to be indifferent. I think I have found this almost puzzling as I had always been too responsible! I danced around the idea in my head. Now, I have made the decision to be indifferent! It's quite freeing. Thanks Dan.
Love it. Yes, indifference can go against our perfectionistic tendencies.
yes, it does. thank you again.
Thanks Dan for another great session. I hear and implement everything you say and it assuredly does work. It’s turning my life around♥️
Fantastic! Love to hear it.
Hi Dan yes I decide not to be fearful I know what is going on the 4 F's always go back to them. A lot has happened like something scary was going on in 2017 symptoms began now that same old trauma came back and symptoms going really up then someone was just plain rude to me from a fb group in Dutch so blocked this person then holiday came still am in this gorgeous house of a friend in the woods then had a disagreement with my Martin is good again and now Martin is sick and it raining here very much. So listen to you and symptoms very colorful but I accept and allow them. So I keep going on this marathon with bumps in the road and know someday I will get to the finish. Thank you for this video and i love you so very much you are the best ❤❤❤😘😘😘
Only way is forward. You can do it x
@@1STBUCKLEY yes that is what I wrote I keep going no going back not an option ty love you ❤️❤️❤️😘😘😘
All of these experiences are proof that your brain is creating the pain based on perceived danger. This is good news. Focus on safety. czcams.com/video/Ez9Ez49M8Ig/video.html
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This does make sense!! I have decided to to not be fearful !! Thank you Dan!! In just the last week of finding you, today has been a better day!! The way you deliver this information, clicks with me😭🙌🏽❤
Better days lead to better weeks, months and lives. This is the way forward. You can do this.
Dan, this is great. Great point on this. I think this is the “secret” to almost everything.
Complete elimination of resistance. F it!
Absolutely.
How do you apply indifference to frequent urination? I do pee when its urge or i say i will take care of your needs, relax but i will do pee when i really nead to..because i know its a fear problem not a bladder problem
@@usmanali-tz9jj every time you have symptoms, whether occasionally or constant, you need to reassure yourself that you’re safe and nothing is actually wrong. That’s how you rewire those pathways.
The reason you have urgency is because you have cultivated the fact something is “wrong” with you by allowing fear pathways.
@@bebrave9108 ok i understand, i have no fear that there is somethibg physical wrong...so do i pee like normal people and tell myself i am ok
@@usmanali-tz9jj it’s all about your thoughts. Even if it’s not fear of something physical being wrong.
This is not a symptom problem but a mind problem. Retrain your mind and it will go away
You helped cure my addiction with one sentence many videos back all it took was rational thinking about what u said thank you.. 💯
Wonderful. Thank you for sharing that.
I’ve noticed that my fear of my symptoms has been greatly reduced recently, and it is so freeing! Perhaps it was the two hour hike I did to the top of a mountain, even though my symptoms are in my hips and I’ve been told I have osteoarthritis. I keep in mind the fact that I did a long and challenging hike that felt GREAT! I did have two days this week of mild symptoms 😊 Left hip flared up last night but I stayed calm and it’s much better this morning. No doubt that fear feeds pain and it takes time to reduce the fear. That’s why your “freak out less” is so important ❤❤❤ we got this!
Absolutely - great example of how to implement these concepts to remain calm. It helps so much.
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Thank you so much for your inspiring videos. We gotta get some more information on that little studio in the back corner. Looks like a nice little studio set up. Show us some tunes. :)
Unfortunately, I am quite consumed by my work and don't get over there to make much music.
So helpful. Thank you
So glad!
Thoughts about using this against Generalized Anxiety Disorder? Thanks, Dan.
I loved this video so much! I needed this! I really loved the idea of setting aside the fearful thoughts for a certain amount of time snd then expanding that. Im going to try that! Thanks!
Glad it was helpful!
powerful video- thanks for your dedication to all of us..I am indifferent---there ,i said it
Yes you are!
Indifference! Genuine Indifference. What a great skill to cultivate in general! Who knew? Yet, you can imagine its utility in SO MANY additional aspects of life as well. “That car cut me off. Who cares? The driver must be uncomfortably impatient. Poor guy.” Etc. Great one, Dan.
Yes, there are many uses - traffic is a perfect example.
I tripped and fell and skimmed my knee like a five year old but I was able to walk home to dress the wound with no CFS symptoms but a few hours later while in downtown Manhattan I could barely walk from the fatigue - like I had no battery juice -its so strange.
Know that perceived danger creates the fatigue and other symptoms. My fast start playlist will walk you through what causes symptoms and my approach to end them. While much of the conversation is around pain, just substitute your symptoms for the word pain. It's all the same.
czcams.com/play/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H.html
I'm also applying this advice to a recent break up and its really helping me to not reach out when it's not my place to do so. Physical or emotional, i guess pain is pain right?
Excellent. Yes, there are definitely uses for this outside of the pain world.
Joint and burning pains in arms. Mind wandering... Wonder if its..... Sigh. Step back and recalibrate. I know theres a lot of home life stress but that bit of doubt keeps tapping trying to swamp me. Restart.
Go back to the four foundational pillars:
This video was very helpful today. Thank you. Did you say there is a printable four foundations sheet? I’ve looked, but I’m not finding it. I thought I would print it and post it for me to read frequently!! Thanks again.
The printable four foundations is only in the membership area for my group coaching program. If you are in that group, it's under the resources/PDF menu of the membership website.
I need to stop trying to control anxiety. I need to not care. I see it now.
Independence of results. This has taken me about a year to achieve and sometimes I fail hehe but thanks to this I have improved a lot.
Dan the man!! Indifference works with conditioned responses as well right?? It would make sense right? Promoting the safety regardless of whether it’s there or not. Eventually it realizes it doesn’t need it anymore. Even though you know you aren’t in danger for many years it thought it was??
Hey Dan, one thing I’ve noticed is that I don’t normally get symptoms until I think of getting them.
For example sometimes I walk up the stairs when my minds occupied with something and when I get to the top I realise I’m not out of breath and I don’t have palpitations, it’s not until I realise I didn’t get them until they start. Also if I walk up stairs expecting to get out of breath and have palpitations we’ll then guess what, by the time I reach the top It’s like I’ve done a marathon!
Why is this
I am just the same! Uncanny.
When not thinking about the symptoms, the brain feels safe. When you do think of them, the brain perceives danger. Watch my fast start playlist for an understanding of what causes and cures symptoms. czcams.com/play/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H.html
I have a very good understanding of TMS/PDP and I know it pertains to me. My pain constantly switches between 4 different conditions. But I can’t stay completely pain free. I find myself looking for a trigger or cause of the latest alignment. I get caught up trying figure out what I did wrong. Or what the emotion was I felt that triggered the current discomfort.
We don't have to figure it out. These two videos explain how that isn't the solution.
czcams.com/video/hEZY4keEj20/video.html
czcams.com/video/3DUJQ6q_ISI/video.html
Dan, does TMS apply to high insulin markers and high thyroid antibody counts? Went to the doctor and they said prone to diabetes and high risk for hashimotos if I didn’t loose some weight, etc.
I’ve used your teachings to banish anxiety, depression, sleep problems, and I’m wondering if that applies here too…
Many thanks
Safety can help so much. But I'm not about to say that high insulin and thyroid antibodies are TMS. There's no way I could no. But there is no downside to remaining calm.
czcams.com/video/4iLQenfbJpw/video.html
Why does indifference work to shut off symptoms sometimes? And sometimes it doesn't?
It's tough to say. Sometimes the subconscious brain buys the message of safety indifference can convey. Thus symptoms shut off. Other times it isn't convinced. Thus symptoms stay on. Be as authentic in your indifference as possible and if not possible, focus on calm reassurance and neutralizing fear.
I have a hard time grasping indifference as it seems like it’s suppressing emotions, but I’m ruled by very strong emotions which exacerbate my other symptoms leading to complete hopelessness. Hope that makes sense!
So basically self talk of indifference and safety is the key even if I don’t believe it?
No - indifference needs to be authentic for it to help. It must be built on a solid foundation of knowledge of what is going on and that these concepts apply to you. Watch the videos in my getting started playlist more than once. It will help you understand what is going on and what to do about it.
czcams.com/play/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H.html
@@PainFreeYou thank you!
this is amazing. so, i have back pain and want to be indifferent to it, i've been going to all my usual exercise classes. i have some moves that hurt more than others. does indifference mean i have to do those moves even though it kind of takes my breath away in pain when doing them? is that called indifference? cuz it hurts...lol. this is the 1 point im stuck on, help! thanks :)
Indifference is not about what you DO, it's a mindset. I'm not suggesting we torture ourselves to get well. I'm suggesting that there are three ways to respond to pain. 1. Freak out. Not recommended. 2. Calmly reassure ourselves that we are perfectly okay. 3. Indifference - literally and authentically don't care if you hurt or not. Indifference may not be possible for some depending on your understanding of what is causing the symptoms or pain and how intense it is. czcams.com/video/KrNxMlfCNx8/video.html
Watch my playlist to get a deeper understanding of what is going on and what to do about it. czcams.com/play/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H.html
Curious if you do anything physically to deal with your back problems. I believe I understand that it's important if I'm doing strengthening and stretching that I don't tell my brain it's going to fix the pain. I haven't had any symptom free days lately. Doesn't matter what I do physically, I am having pain in exactly the same areas and there's the fear that my hip OA can't be TMS. Especially when it is impossible to go up stairs without severe pain. Have you worked with anyone that has been told they need a hip replacement and they were able to live without pain? I have taken the tests you suggest. I just haven't found any success stories for severe hip OA. I don't want to get the surgery because I'm afraid that I'll still have issues after. I know, I'm still doubting and I still have fear. And that means I'm not going to be successful with the mind body approach. I'm trying, I really am. I need hope.
I don't have back problems. I had TMS that created back pain and sciatica for 13 years. The back was never the problem. It was always the brain perceiving danger. Working out for overall health and wellness is fine. Working specific body parts that hurt keeps the brain believing the body is the issue.
Have you done the Pain assessments? There are two here. See if your pain behaves like TMS: www.painfreeyou.com/start
If it says TMS, that means it's not the OA.
Dan what about if your symptoms are constant mine don’t go away my whole body is tight and painful it doesn’t ever go away and come back like you say.
Its still Perceived Danger Pain. This video explains:
czcams.com/video/IgmNK1H9pu0/video.html
Hi Dan,
How do you deal with exhaustion without making it a negative response? I don’t fear my symptoms, but I feel like they have zapped my life force. I have been doing dizzy/ nausea with body anxiety for over a decade. Is there a way to console myself without triggering a brain response?
My suggestion is to try not to determine in advance what is a brain response. Know that perceived danger creates the fatigue and other symptoms. My fast start playlist will walk you through what causes symptoms and my approach to end them. While much of the conversation is around pain, just substitute your symptoms for the word pain. It's all the same.
czcams.com/play/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H.html
@@PainFreeYou Thank you! Thank you for taking the time to respond.❤
Do you have a (sleep-) hypnosis session with these messages?
Thank you!
I am not a hypnotist thereby I don't have what you are asking for.
@@PainFreeYou thanks for the reply!
Hey Dan, can our brains create pain without any injury at all? Got sti scare 4 months ago took a test 16 weeks all negative and conclusive, but ever since I’ve been dealing with pudendal neuralgia, but has been improving the more I do and the less anxiety I have I just can’t get over the last hump
Yes, it happens all the time. The fast start playlist will tell you what causes pain and how to eliminate it. Study these concepts. That's the foundational knowledge that will help you get well.
czcams.com/play/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H.html
Although pain psychologists have told me otherwise, my personal experience is that my brain can produce any symptom. The sensation of throat closing, symptoms of carpal tunnel, mal d’de arquement, plantar fasciitis, sore throat, muscle pain; my anxiety has been creative.
@@cforat Yes, the brain can absolutely create sensations or symptoms.
Hi I’m new here - is TMS to much stress?
That's what some people call it. Officially, tension myositis syndrome or The Mindbody Syndrome. Learn all about it here:
www.painfreeyou.com/start
Authentic indifference is so tricky because you're so conscious you start thinking (am I being indifferent and that means your not)
When you lose the fear of the symptoms and literally don't care versus using it as a tool to achieve less symptoms, that's when it works.
I dont care about the symptoms
Perfect