I Quit Caring About These 15 Things After 50...Here's What Happened

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  • As we grow and evolve, certain things just aren't worth our time and energy. In this video, we chat about the things we waste our time, money, and energy on that only stress us out.
    Aging isn't just about getting older; it's about growing wiser and figuring out what truly matters in life - knowing when to be frugal and when to spend. As well as knowing what to cut out of your life and what to add more of.
    It's time to stop caring about these things and live a more relaxed and grateful life!
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Komentáƙe • 591

  • @user-gm1kl6xy4m
    @user-gm1kl6xy4m Pƙed 28 dny +347

    At 56 am single don't want a man again

    • @user-gm4ip5zl5u
      @user-gm4ip5zl5u Pƙed 28 dny +67

      Same here just get a 🐕

    • @marycarlson8837
      @marycarlson8837 Pƙed 28 dny +23

      This.

    • @amandazplace5663
      @amandazplace5663 Pƙed 28 dny +68

      I've told my husband that if he goes before me, I'm done! The world of dating is just too sketchy. I'd rather focus on other things.đŸ‡šđŸ‡Šâ™„ïž

    • @bevanbuckwheatshea5520
      @bevanbuckwheatshea5520 Pƙed 28 dny +38

      Yes definitely get a rescue dog. Great company!

    • @Silvia_Trich
      @Silvia_Trich Pƙed 28 dny +52

      I tell my friends asking why I remain single that the only time I miss someone is when I have to bring home my grocery shopping: I don’t need a man, I need a Sherpa 😂

  • @melindamiller2804
    @melindamiller2804 Pƙed 28 dny +265

    I also don't care about celebrities' opinions, especially when they act like they are an "expert"!

    • @beckyshell4649
      @beckyshell4649 Pƙed 28 dny +20

      I am puzzled why we think a celebrities are experts on politics,food,health issues,fashion,child rearing,home decoration,animal rights ,skincare,makeup,and fitness. Many were waiters and waitresses before making it big.

    • @briancates4758
      @briancates4758 Pƙed 26 dny +9

      I don’t care about any celebrities in the first place. I can entertain myself.

    • @Pajali
      @Pajali Pƙed 23 dny +11

      @@beckyshell4649 Right? Especially when 99% of the time they have nutritionists, dermatologists, nannies, chefs, personal assistants, etc. to help them with all those parts of their lives. Let’s hear from those people who have actual training and experience in those areas, thanks.

    • @pilarq7886
      @pilarq7886 Pƙed 19 dny

      wait till u find out all the female ones are biological male . Also any famous female
      It's way easier to hide a biological female turned male

    • @pilarq7886
      @pilarq7886 Pƙed 19 dny

      ​@@beckyshell4649wait till u find out all the female ones are biological male . Also any famous female, royals etc
      It's way easier to hide a biological female turned male

  • @Maxx-mw2zt
    @Maxx-mw2zt Pƙed 21 dnem +102

    I don't care about keeping friends who are not positive and supportive just to have friends. I don't like gossiping on the phone for hours, such a waste. Also, I am learning to say no sometimes to invites that consume my weekends. I can't be everywhere for everyone. I appreciate the simple life, nature walks, traveling, reading, good people, and healthy food. Things that make my heart smile. Life is too short for anything less.

  • @ceceliaswick9296
    @ceceliaswick9296 Pƙed 28 dny +146

    At 75 years old I now understand that what someone else thinks of me is none of my business. I love my life, my family, my friends and I refuse to let others tell me I should be unhappy. I avoid people who are negative and angry. I love being with people who are smarter than I, people who are creative.

    • @Gypseygirls
      @Gypseygirls Pƙed 23 dny +2

      You would love me !! â€â€đŸ‡šđŸ‡Š

  • @isagoldfield7393
    @isagoldfield7393 Pƙed 28 dny +270

    My husband & I are in our early 50’s, we have separate bedrooms because sleep is very important to me & I like total darkness, whereas my husband snores & likes to have TV in the bedroom. We’re both happy & supportive of our decision. ♄your channel!!

  • @kikiann2268
    @kikiann2268 Pƙed 28 dny +134

    I am now 75. My priorities have changed dramatically. This world is not my home. Now I just enjoy crocheting and spending time with family. Especially my precious granddaughter.

    • @jeannereich8690
      @jeannereich8690 Pƙed 28 dny +10

      76 here! I totally agree!

    • @jchiappardi891
      @jchiappardi891 Pƙed 25 dny +10

      I’m 72 and I’m the same!!!!!

    • @susansmith493
      @susansmith493 Pƙed 25 dny +13

      Oh boy could I go on and on about this. Agree 100%

    • @BRuthable
      @BRuthable Pƙed 12 dny +2

      I'm 78 and right there with ya

  • @user-gm1kl6xy4m
    @user-gm1kl6xy4m Pƙed 28 dny +181

    Am 56 don't care what people think of what I eat wear how I live don't care of gossip

  • @jdax21
    @jdax21 Pƙed 18 dny +62

    I'm 49. Even before the pandemic, I realized I'm probably done going to movie theaters, concerts, and sporting events. From now on, I'll enjoy the few entertainment things I care about from the comfort of my own home.
    I dress for comfort. I like to look nice, but I don't stress about it. I love that I'm not as self-conscious as I was in my teens and twenties. I don't color my hair and I wear minimal make-up.
    I've rediscovered the joy of reading because most of what's on television no longer interests me.
    I prioritize sleep over late nights out.
    At this point, I'm all about quality of life. Good food, good sleep, and good friends.

  • @bevanbuckwheatshea5520
    @bevanbuckwheatshea5520 Pƙed 28 dny +197

    I dont care about the latest fashion. Just wear clothes and shoes for comfort

    • @susansmith493
      @susansmith493 Pƙed 25 dny +8

      My standard. ....as long as they don't hurt. Lol

    • @zimjun7
      @zimjun7 Pƙed 22 dny +2

      I love to be creative with clothes and dress how I feel on the inside. Not silly trendy. Mixing certain colors, etc. Gotta have SOME fun in life. Blue jeans and tee-shirts when casual. Crazy Shirts catalog, The Mountain or sometimes WRAP of London, Garnet Hill or Bodens. It can get expensive, though. I even throw Walmart in the equation to make it work. Single at...72..oh, yeah.... 'fun." 😿💔

    • @redruby747
      @redruby747 Pƙed 22 dny +1

      Yesss

    • @gracealexandre3381
      @gracealexandre3381 Pƙed 21 dnem +3

      Honestly, I found out many decades ago, I'm a lot happier when I dress different from everyone. I feel happier knowing, seeing that I'm the only one with my own personal taste, my own personal fashion.

    • @DrLewis82
      @DrLewis82 Pƙed 20 dny +4

      Yeah
. My hips and knees love me again. I wear tennis shoes everyday now. I’m 41 and started this last year. I feel so much better. No heels

  • @TC-fx5zu
    @TC-fx5zu Pƙed 24 dny +102

    #1 for me is driving after dark. Those ridiculously bright headlights completely blind me especially on 2 lane roads.

    • @HeronCoyote1234
      @HeronCoyote1234 Pƙed 17 dny +3

      Between switching to LED bright white headlights, idiots who either use their brights inappropriately or don’t have their lights adjusted properly, and old eyes, I agree. I stopped night driving recently, after slashing a tire on rough concrete blocks taking a corner a little too tightly. So now I set my alarm to go off about 20 mins till sundown (plenty of time to get back home if I’m out).

    • @Madamchief
      @Madamchief Pƙed 17 dny +2

      I was wondering if the reason that I am bothered by this is because I'm about to be 40 and probably need an eye checkup... But apparently it bothers a lot of people â˜č

    • @carolynthompson6518
      @carolynthompson6518 Pƙed 16 dny +1

      I’m 73 and Uber drive and have to pass a health check annually. I’ve never needed glasses and have no problem with night driving. Please go for a check up. That is not normal

    • @TC-fx5zu
      @TC-fx5zu Pƙed 15 dny +5

      @@carolynthompson6518 I have eye exams yearly and I don’t have a problem seeing at night when headlights are normal. It’s the extremely bright headlights that blind me. I’m in the south and there are a lot of pickups with not only bright headlights but also big spotlights on them . They’re ridiculously bright and my co-workers that are a lot younger than I am complain about them hurting their eyes as well. Maybe you don’t have those in your area or you just may not be sensitive to extremely bright lights shining directly into your eyeballs at night lol.

    • @brandywineblogger1411
      @brandywineblogger1411 Pƙed 7 dny

      Have your optometrist check for cataracts.

  • @jeanjeang8914
    @jeanjeang8914 Pƙed 20 dny +129

    1. Concerts
    2. Latest fashion
    3. Makeup daily
    4. Career climbing
    5. Partying
    Are only some of the things I don't care about any more

    • @HeronCoyote1234
      @HeronCoyote1234 Pƙed 17 dny +11

      The only thing I would remove if this were my list is concerts. Some of my best experiences and memories have been concerts, in good (smaller) venues. They’re really my only non-essential expense.

    • @iwanttoridemybike2224
      @iwanttoridemybike2224 Pƙed 12 dny +2

      I, too, would take concerts off the list.

    • @cherylruhr6001
      @cherylruhr6001 Pƙed 11 dny +3

      I have season tickets to a big theater 2 hours from home. They're on Sunday afternoon: perfect for us!

    • @keener57
      @keener57 Pƙed 8 dny +5

      I enjoy small venue concerts now, no more stadium performances.

    • @beatagagatek9149
      @beatagagatek9149 Pƙed 6 dny

      Hello, Im 32 and I don't care about it either, am I gaining wisdom too soon?

  • @TammieBuckeye
    @TammieBuckeye Pƙed 16 dny +24

    1) I lost all interest in Hollywood movies
    2) I lost all interest in concerts
    3) I lost all interest in going out to eat (enjoy only one place)
    4) I lost all interest in being in huge crowds
    5) I lost interest in “must have” stuff
    6) and a huge I don’t care about certain holidays either.
    I am extremely Happy- I feel content and try new things like reaching new goals with working out.
    Oh well that’s just me.. it’s so freeing to me. God Bless you all

    • @keener57
      @keener57 Pƙed 8 dny

      Yessss! Holidays 
 too much fuss! It is just another day.

  • @sezh4315
    @sezh4315 Pƙed 28 dny +165

    I don't care about having a "perfect" home. It is clean and tidy (ish)! but I don't care about the rooms being painted in the newest trend colours, everything matching, cleaning for hours, hoovering lines into carpets, cushion arrangements etc. When I die, it is not going to be on my headstone "Here lies S - she had a lovely home"!

  • @AngieAngie995
    @AngieAngie995 Pƙed 28 dny +100

    Turning 50 is like downsizing. You clear out the clutter, focus on only the most important things and hopefully, have reached the age of wisdom where you realise life will go on, eventually without you. 50 is where most people finally discover who they actually are, with the burden of 'making a life' finally behind them. If you have financial security at 50, you really can enjoy this very special time in your life. I can count with the fingers of one hand what I truly now care about and it is, quite frankly, a relief.

  • @sharie9454
    @sharie9454 Pƙed 24 dny +84

    I don’t care about: tv, magazines, new furniture, expensive jewelry, expensive makeup and creams, lotions, pricey restaurants. Thank you for this informative video that is a great reminder about what doesn’t really matter!

    • @redruby747
      @redruby747 Pƙed 22 dny +3

      Yes

    • @virginiamoss7045
      @virginiamoss7045 Pƙed 19 dny +2

      Haven't had cable in 16 years; don't own a TV or a smartphone. No makeup at all; never eat out except occasional fast food on the run. No jewelry. Three subscriptions, local weekly newspaper, Consumer Reports, and AARP. I do have a pacemaker, though.

    • @TammieBuckeye
      @TammieBuckeye Pƙed 16 dny

      I totally agree

    • @robinluettke47
      @robinluettke47 Pƙed dnem

      I am 60, I don't have traditional TV, I have a DVD player and a collection of movies. I never investigated in jewelry, my only real piece is my wedding set. Drugstore makeup,a bottle of lotion from Dollar Tree, Door Dash a few times a week.

  • @user-bb7lo7yn2x
    @user-bb7lo7yn2x Pƙed 27 dny +67

    I avoid ppl in general, I enjoy my home and property, I avoid what I call life suckers, they only talk about problems they never seem to address.. by this time in life you’d think they’d figure it out? It’s so draining to be around them, self rest and care, I’ve given the majority of my life being someone to someone else, it’s my time.😊

    • @glendalamadrid5567
      @glendalamadrid5567 Pƙed 19 dny +6

      Agree. I avoided my high school friends because all they do is talk about other people's lives. And when I'm not around, I'm sure they talk about me. I'd rather be alone than be with these kind of people.

    • @polskigirl8547
      @polskigirl8547 Pƙed 18 dny +8

      I’m slowly turning into a hermit
..I enjoy working in my garden and taking care of my property
..I’m 68 and pay my grandson to mow my lawn to give him some money to buy an ice cream cone for him and his girlfriend
😊

  • @dawnkosior2511
    @dawnkosior2511 Pƙed 28 dny +92

    I'm 56 & all about the comfort, a good nights rest, staycations, no gossip, news or movies...very little shopping and still rocking to Van Halen & Def Leppard 😉👌

  • @jennugent3957
    @jennugent3957 Pƙed 27 dny +34

    Separate bedrooms for the win. I sleep so much better. I sleep with window wide open, very light bedding, but he gets cold. We both wake up during the night, this reduces waking each other. Life changing.

  • @lzrd8460
    @lzrd8460 Pƙed 27 dny +82

    I drive my younger sister mad because I dress for comfort now. She thinks i look like a homeless woman just because I prefer to wear sweat shirts rather than blouses that have to be hand washed and ironed(đŸ˜±) . I don’t care about fashion or dying my beautiful grey hair or having a hairstyle. I like me and don’t care what others think. It’s so freeing!

    • @user-zx9cc6bb6k
      @user-zx9cc6bb6k Pƙed 20 dny +4

      Good on you.

    • @churchofpos2279
      @churchofpos2279 Pƙed 19 dny +3

      True and very financially smart.

    • @sharonsmith7917
      @sharonsmith7917 Pƙed 18 dny +7

      I buy nothing that needs to be dry cleaned or ironed.

    • @texasmimi5566
      @texasmimi5566 Pƙed 2 dny

      Her time is coming. Her attitudes of life will change as she ages. And she is going to age.

  • @terryallen7356
    @terryallen7356 Pƙed 26 dny +38

    I'm 70 and I agree with everything you said. My husband and I have had separate bedrooms for years because of work schedules but decided we both like our space so decades later we still have our own spaces. It doesn't reflect on our relationship at all.

  • @carolynlineberger1929
    @carolynlineberger1929 Pƙed 28 dny +59

    Thank you! I needed these! You have included so many points I have started using in my wonderful retirement years.
    Searching for parking-I go to the farthest space and call it exercise. I also carry my own groceries to the car, again, it is exercise! I carry the groceries into the house and immediately put them away. Then, I become a ‘couch potato’ with my little dog and CZcams! Life is good!!

    • @meenakshi6344
      @meenakshi6344 Pƙed 28 dny +8

      Love your description of your life. I wish you a lot of joy in the future

    • @virginiamoss7045
      @virginiamoss7045 Pƙed 19 dny +3

      Couch, dog, CZcams. All you need! Well, food, water and shelter, too.

  • @ms.herlan7860
    @ms.herlan7860 Pƙed 19 dny +26

    Letting go of past regrets is so important. I need to work on this .

  • @chickenmama4384
    @chickenmama4384 Pƙed 28 dny +39

    I’m 56 I could care less about pleasing others. I spent years stressing over what others thought about me. I focus on what makes me happy. I bought a farm last year. My children had a fit I DO NOT CARE. My husband and I wanted this and too bad what anyone else thinks. Also who cares if I wear the latest fashion or have the most trending whatever.

    • @LilyGazou
      @LilyGazou Pƙed 23 dny +3

      Congrats on the farm. đŸ‘đŸ»đŸ‘đŸ»đŸ‘đŸ»

    • @EsterHorbach-it9tb
      @EsterHorbach-it9tb Pƙed 21 dnem +3

      I totally agree. It's o u r life we're living, not somebody else's. As long as I don't hurt anyone with the way I'm living, it's my and only my choice. There are things I wished had turned out differently in my life. Things I can't change. But I've reached a point in my 56 year old life, where I'm less concerned about other's opinions of me. I dress the way I want to. I buy the things I want to. And I rediscovered minimalism for me. For me it always was kind of an ideal. Then there was a period when ppl around me influenced me wanting more just for the sake of more. These times have gone. Oc there are material wishes from time to time. Sometimes I can and want to fulfil them, sometimes not.
      A big changer was covid. I realized that I not only want less, but also need less. Nowadays I get excited over rearranging things or even declutter. The small things.

  • @sherilozak4326
    @sherilozak4326 Pƙed 19 dny +21

    Totally agree. For a while I struggled with becoming invisible. But now I really like it. I am much quieter in conversations because my opinion really doesn't matter, and neither does anyone else's. My brain is quiet and happy and I believe it has a lot to do with hormones. Thanks for sharing!

  • @nonna628
    @nonna628 Pƙed 28 dny +40

    I’m 65 and I thought you were reading my mind. It makes me feel better to know I’m not alone. Love your show, thank you.

  • @pattycake8272
    @pattycake8272 Pƙed 28 dny +50

    Some people told me not to take off my bi fold doors on my washroom closets. I lived with those brown dusty things for years. This year I took them off and put up curtains...so happy now. Crazy why I left them like that for do long

    • @cynthialugo3401
      @cynthialugo3401 Pƙed 28 dny +5

      Exactly I did that also, easier to throw in the wash when get dust or dirty

  • @fabriciusallard8029
    @fabriciusallard8029 Pƙed 19 dny +24

    German here. The biggest enemy of the supermarket companys is the shopping list, which only shows you what you really need to buy. 😁

    • @DianaStitching
      @DianaStitching Pƙed 16 dny +2

      I agree! I always take a list and ignore all the "specials " near the checkouts. Best wishes from the UK x

    • @elyjane8316
      @elyjane8316 Pƙed 16 dny +2

      Been doing that since I was 18.

  • @lauraesperanza812
    @lauraesperanza812 Pƙed 4 dny +4

    I don't care: what people think about me, makeup stuff, going to parties, men, false friends,toxic family, my grey hair is not a concern anymore I love it.

  • @lillyb3588
    @lillyb3588 Pƙed 14 dny +14

    I’m in my 50’s and I’m all about my health. Eating right and working out. I’m not into fashion or wearing any makeup. I have let go of toxic people in my life. I concentrate on my marriage and my daughter. Im in the process to becoming a minimalist. I like staying at home not into going out at all.

    • @sharonensor7471
      @sharonensor7471 Pƙed 11 dny +1

      I know exactly what you mean about toxic people. I was in my 60's when i realised i don't need them in my life. Why it took me so long I'll never know đŸ€”

  • @katherinetyrrell8810
    @katherinetyrrell8810 Pƙed 25 dny +19

    I can relate to all of these. At 54, I have stopped worrying about other people's opinions. I am never unkind, but I don't need to please anyone else. It is important to be empowered with the words, "No, thank you" or "No, thank you , that is not for me". Say it with a smile, and move past it. Some people try to convince me to change my mind, but I will respond with "I appreciate your input, but I will have to give it more thought ". If it comes up again, I generally revert back to my original response. :)

  • @shibamom607
    @shibamom607 Pƙed 24 dny +27

    I’m 51 I still care about my appearance,what I wear and about having a well kept and nicely decorated home that’s clean and tidy.
    A major shift for me is that I spend more time on personal care.
    I don’t care about parking or going to concerts or movies-also don’t care to be in big crowds either. I wouldn’t want to sleep in a separate room from my husband of 28 years. It’s definitely more comforting sleeping beside him. lol!! We drive the same vehicle!

  • @TSunshineful
    @TSunshineful Pƙed 2 dny +3

    I am 76. A friend of mine said you sure do say I don’t care too often.Then I realize that may be hurting peoples ‘ feelings which I don’t mean to do. So now I’ve changed to that’s not important to me. Maybe there’s another way to say it more nicely. I don’t care to go anywhere. I use to travel a lot but now I don’t even care to drive anywhere. I am happy staying at home. I love my solitary life. I have so many interests that I do care about. I love researching how nutrition improves your health, I sell my things on eBay, I have my pets. Downsizing keeps me pretty busy.

  • @nadineabbott
    @nadineabbott Pƙed 28 dny +34

    Hi Sara my husband and I have separate bedrooms since 1996. We were married 15 years at that point and I got Colon Cancer. Well my husband snores loud and I do wear earplugs. So since I needed my rest he slept in the spare room. He did get tested and now uses a CPAP machine. I need my own space , and I’m not the best sleeper. I think we both value our own space.

    • @nadineabbott
      @nadineabbott Pƙed 28 dny +4

      By the way celebrating our 43rd anniversary on May 30.

    • @saraconklinfrozenpennies
      @saraconklinfrozenpennies  Pƙed 28 dny +5

      I think we value sleep as we get older! Congratulations on 43 years!!!

    • @lynnhensley4326
      @lynnhensley4326 Pƙed 28 dny +4

      Same. 51 years married. We have separate rooms on different ends of our house. We both have trouble sleeping. He snores and is up going to the bathroom frequently.

    • @virginiamoss7045
      @virginiamoss7045 Pƙed 19 dny +3

      Couples would do well in my opinion to start their marriage in separate bedrooms. Nothing is stopping them from "visiting".

    • @shatricegrimes5992
      @shatricegrimes5992 Pƙed 16 dny +1

      @@nadineabbotthappy anniversary!

  • @NewCreation6123
    @NewCreation6123 Pƙed 25 dny +18

    I love my 70's music and praise and worship music.

  • @annetteflynn8453
    @annetteflynn8453 Pƙed 28 dny +90

    I don't care about fashion

  • @diner51214..
    @diner51214.. Pƙed 28 dny +24

    great video! especially about not caring about celebrity gossip. who cares what they do?! not me, my friends, or family

  • @angelmulhall1058
    @angelmulhall1058 Pƙed 28 dny +30

    I’m 54 and I completely agree with you on these things. Oh and funny about the music. Love the 80’s . Thank you for this great video. â€ïžđŸ€—

  • @simonefeaster5131
    @simonefeaster5131 Pƙed 28 dny +25

    Haha, Sarah! I’m right there with you on pretty much everything you said. Especially sleeping alone (my husband and I do and we are convinced it is a huge bonus). Also with you on driving at night, birthday gifts (prefer to share experiences), comfortable shoes and loud places. I am in my early fifties and I find it liberating not to care what others say and do. Live and let live! Thanks for a thought-provoking post!❀

  • @TraverseEarth353
    @TraverseEarth353 Pƙed 16 dny +3

    OMG! You're my kindred spirit!! I'm with you on ALL of those things!!

  • @lenisewhitley611
    @lenisewhitley611 Pƙed 28 dny +16

    Oh my gosh, I agree with everything you said. I think it’s called being secure in yourself or growing older with Grace.

  • @louisedudley6478
    @louisedudley6478 Pƙed 28 dny +11

    Boy, Sara, we are on the same wavelength! I am nodding my head with every item! I recently had to cut out a relationship that had become toxic. It was a painful decision to make but, four months later I realize that my life feels so much easier and uncomplicated. Let’s hear it for comfort!

  • @markritacco270
    @markritacco270 Pƙed 28 dny +18

    Your dad was right...better times were had in the past. I was born in 59 so my wheelhouse is the late 60s, 70s, and early 80s. To this day when I listen to my vast collection of music media I go to that and nothing else.

  • @redrosecottage
    @redrosecottage Pƙed 28 dny +45

    Separate bedrooms is seriously the best.

  • @user-gm1kl6xy4m
    @user-gm1kl6xy4m Pƙed 28 dny +23

    I hate stress disrespect sharing my personal space aged 56

  • @KimberlyAnn1971
    @KimberlyAnn1971 Pƙed 28 dny +17

    I’m almost 53 and can relate to all of them and feel very much the same!! I find it intriguing how life works and your perspective shifts.

  • @user-lh1sw4tu1k
    @user-lh1sw4tu1k Pƙed 28 dny +26

    I 100% agree with all of these points. And i'm to the point where I will tell people No I don't want to do something,

    • @saraconklinfrozenpennies
      @saraconklinfrozenpennies  Pƙed 28 dny +6

      Yes! No is a complete sentence! â˜ș

    • @kathydaniel4818
      @kathydaniel4818 Pƙed 25 dny +5

      Saying “no” only hurts for a minute. Saying “yes” can make you miserable for a long time!

  • @jennieparker5798
    @jennieparker5798 Pƙed 28 dny +15

    I'm 48 and loving this stage of life. I think you nailed them all! More time and money for what's really important...especially comfortable shoes!!!

  • @CathieG
    @CathieG Pƙed 27 dny +12

    I completely agree! Especially with separate bedrooms, no more movies or loud places, trying to find parking or driving at night! 😁

  • @emilisa8978
    @emilisa8978 Pƙed 28 dny +16

    I am 26 and almost all of these apply to me! It's not about beeing old, only about beeing "properly" grown up and knowing what serves you and what doesn't.
    I've been married 6 years and share a bedroom with my husband, but the nights when our daughter has a nightmare and he spends the night in her room i sleep so much better.

  • @debrahill2272
    @debrahill2272 Pƙed 22 dny +10

    I try to run my errands and schedule appointments before 2pm, to avoid excessive traffic and mingling with people leaving work..Atlanta traffic is horrific..🙂 Am I the only one that does this..Everything you said was relatable to me..👍👍

    • @nygrl6102
      @nygrl6102 Pƙed 17 dny

      I moved from Atlanta to central NY to get away from the traffic there. I live in a city but can get from one side of it to the other in 20 min any time of the day and any day of the week! That's like gold!! Lived in Atlanta for 45+ years and watched the traffic become intolerably stressful. I had friends in Decatur I hardly ever saw because it took too long to fight my way over there!

  • @kathydaniel4818
    @kathydaniel4818 Pƙed 25 dny +5

    First time viewer. I can hardly believe how much I agree with ALL these points. I’m 70 years old, in good health, and perfectly happy with a simple life. I subscribed👍

  • @lindawilson4625
    @lindawilson4625 Pƙed 28 dny +20

    I can relate :-) I will also say you'll get more hardcore about what you will/won't do and with whom or where you will spend your time as you get older. You simply won't waste your time on anything or anyone you think isn't worth it.

  • @lindsaybezet3517
    @lindsaybezet3517 Pƙed 25 dny +10

    I don't enjoy traveling. I am a homebody and blessed that I live in a beautiful place. Secondly, I don't really like music, period. It seems like people today are infatuated with music. It is everywhere, in videos, in stores, etc. I don't really enjoy it. I totally agree with you about celebrity gossip. Don't care. I agree about not watching news. I prefer reading news as well. You made a lot of great points! You are a wise lady! God bless ❀

  • @mellosings6180
    @mellosings6180 Pƙed 28 dny +31

    I dont care ‘about what people think about me’

    • @ms.herlan7860
      @ms.herlan7860 Pƙed 19 dny +1

      Right, it's none of my business what others think of me.

  • @judysbakeryandtestkitchen1654
    @judysbakeryandtestkitchen1654 Pƙed 24 dny +11

    I actually cheered when you talked about toxic friends.
    I like friendship where it was like. “no good deed goes unpunished” 18:48 with her.
    If you are trying to make a friendship with someone who doesn’t want to be friends with you or with someone who’s just not interested, (I had an old friend who just kept saying she was busy.) it can hurt self-esteem.

  • @bvtmagnetfishers-brenda7109
    @bvtmagnetfishers-brenda7109 Pƙed 18 dny +3

    Yes! Yes! I so agree with everything you said. I felt so bad about myself thinking I was lazy and people always say go go go. Out out out! Everyone always think I’m boring.

  • @lisabaca-morse4765
    @lisabaca-morse4765 Pƙed 17 dny +3

    I just can’t believe reading these comments are so rich in information. One thing about this video is that it certainly strikes a nerve or resonates with so many people. This is a very interesting video and what’s more interesting are the comments that it is evoking. I’m learning a lot here.

  • @suefanning2067
    @suefanning2067 Pƙed 28 dny +13

    I’m 73 and can relate to everything you said. I agree with you sister!

  • @Laura55sere
    @Laura55sere Pƙed 24 dny +17

    A lot of what you are saying came to me a bit later in life, in my 70s and I suddenly decided to not do so many ‘favours’ for people, I’m done giving up my weekends helping people out whilst I was working all week . I don’t put up with being insulted either, that only happened twice but both times I pulled them up on it. I’m not a school kid anymore, bully me and I’m on it straight away.

  • @ChristyAndrews-jk6cr
    @ChristyAndrews-jk6cr Pƙed 28 dny +10

    I could have written this myself! So very true on every point! Especially about needing a coffee machine and fridge in my hotel room and hating loud venues!

  • @sokalbenoit
    @sokalbenoit Pƙed 28 dny +18

    I feel so understood right now, thank you! And that loudness in the cinema - omg, I would go see a movie from time to time if it didn't hurt so much.

    • @saraconklinfrozenpennies
      @saraconklinfrozenpennies  Pƙed 28 dny +5

      Right?!? What’s up with that! Ear plugs next time for sure!

    • @LauraMacMillan-el2kc
      @LauraMacMillan-el2kc Pƙed 28 dny +9

      Not to mention ill-behaved theatre goers, and the filth and mess on the floor - pop, popcorn, candy wrappers, gum and etc. - long before the show ends, and that you have to wade through on the way out. No thanks. No one admits to buying DVDs anymore but if there a show I desperately want to see (which is very rare for me) I still do it. Less than the price of a night in the movie theatre and a lot more pleasant!

    • @gracealexandre3381
      @gracealexandre3381 Pƙed 21 dnem +2

      That's why I never go to a cinema or any other show with loud noise. My ears start popping after seconds of being near a high volume. That includes people yelling, talking loud.

  • @barbaramatarazzo4269
    @barbaramatarazzo4269 Pƙed 28 dny +14

    I am with you as I get older my taste has change and things that I want in life are diffrent and guess what it is ok I no longer need or want to explain myself to anyone I made it the far 61 I am sure I can handle the rest of my life just fine...😊

  • @cindland
    @cindland Pƙed 15 dny +5

    Disagree on the separate bedrooms. Were married 30: years this year. We love holding hands as we fall asleep or just reaching over to feel that the other is there. But SEPARATE BATHROOMS are mandatory! Do agree on the news and gossip. Life’s too short to be sucked in to the drama!

  • @patriciawilcox944
    @patriciawilcox944 Pƙed 26 dny +9

    I am definitely on board with not caring about all of these things!

  • @hollyerickson6364
    @hollyerickson6364 Pƙed 22 dny +4

    Wow, I totally agree with you on these things. It's really freeing to let yourself not care about things that are a waste of time and energy! I work with several ladies around my age and we are all experiencing many of the same things. So nice to know we are not alone in this and it is a natural and healthy process of gaining wisdom. Great video!

  • @lisapitts9518
    @lisapitts9518 Pƙed 28 dny +22

    Oh my, you must have read my Journal! LOL. I do not drive at night, I use a flip phone, we still watch DVD's. Simple life.

  • @geniajirak4303
    @geniajirak4303 Pƙed 23 dny +8

    Regarding your husband and the great shoes. Yes get that second pair, but don't put them up. We should change our shoes after 1 day of wear and let the cushioning and shoe relax, dry out and be ready. We should have 2 pairs and wear them every other day. Thanks, great content and advise.

  • @dotdotty2561
    @dotdotty2561 Pƙed 25 dny +6

    I agree with all 15!! It only means we have become more careful, choosy and no longer are agreeable to wasting time or money. Our health becomes so much more important.

  • @becky9194
    @becky9194 Pƙed 28 dny +13

    Very much agree with no crowds 😊

  • @smorgasbroad1132
    @smorgasbroad1132 Pƙed 19 dny +6

    For myself--it all boils down to having nothing to prove to anyone any longer. My children are grown and doing well. Husband gone. The past of worrying about what others think of my lifestyle, home, clothes etc. all of that is not worth my time now. I have no more to prove, I've done my best. Now I do as I please.
    As a child, you please your parents, then teachers, then friends, then bosses, then spouse and children, maybe a few more bosses. Nearing 70 and retired there's only myself I please today. And if that means cooking all day, or laying in bed reading a book all day so be it. đŸ‘đŸ»

  • @nygrl6102
    @nygrl6102 Pƙed 17 dny +5

    I'm 66 and I love discovering new music! Greta Van Fleet! Billy Strings! David Kushner! Imagine Dragons! There's so much great new music out there. It helps keep me young.

    • @Vivcarbajal
      @Vivcarbajal Pƙed 17 dny +1

      I’m 48 and I love Billy Strings. Going to see him live in August. First concert for me ever. Can’t wait.

  • @PrairieWindStudios
    @PrairieWindStudios Pƙed 27 dny +29

    Is it weird that when I get home from a day teaching I want to change into my PJ’s? I’m just so worn out
but it feels like I’m old at 55.

    • @kathydaniel4818
      @kathydaniel4818 Pƙed 25 dny +3

      I love changing into my daytime pjs. I’m a retired teacher and we live way out in the country, no one can see me anyway. Doesn’t bother hubby either.

    • @danasmith8292
      @danasmith8292 Pƙed 25 dny +4

      I work from home now, so unless there is a meeting I wear pyjamas during the daytime also

    • @ms.herlan7860
      @ms.herlan7860 Pƙed 19 dny +2

      Not weird at all. You need to be comfortable after a hard day at work.

    • @Justonevideoplease
      @Justonevideoplease Pƙed 16 dny +6

      Im 30 and have done this since I was a child? It’s not weird in my home lol.. we don’t wear outside clothes when where home 😂

    • @shmataboro8634
      @shmataboro8634 Pƙed dnem +1

      @PrairieWindStudios....my son-in-law' after work greeting is "Honey, I'm home!Where's my stretchy pants?" 😊

  • @jenniferoram4147
    @jenniferoram4147 Pƙed 28 dny +10

    I just have to agree with everything you said. Just goes to show we really are the same as I live in England and can relate to every point you made. I am almost 75 and now a Great Grandma and enjoy having time to myself to do as I please. I must just learn how to say “No” to people when they suggest doing something I really don’t want to do. Thank you for sharing your helpful thoughts. 🇬🇧

  • @user-qm9oe4hh2q
    @user-qm9oe4hh2q Pƙed 28 dny +23

    If you stay at a hotel and "no fridge" call the front desk, let them know you are a diabetic and they HAVE to supply one, even if it's a mini one.

    • @saraconklinfrozenpennies
      @saraconklinfrozenpennies  Pƙed 28 dny +3

      I think most hotels have them. I’ve seen instances when it’s a small charge but $50 is totally worth it for me!

    • @sezh4315
      @sezh4315 Pƙed 28 dny +4

      I am diabetic and need a fridge when away!

    • @johnwinn3254
      @johnwinn3254 Pƙed 28 dny +1

      By a mini fridge and put in your minivan take it to motel

  • @MadisonBriggsArtchick
    @MadisonBriggsArtchick Pƙed 28 dny +14

    Matinees are great for shows, movies, get togethers, etc. I am an early riser (4:30 a.m.) and go to sleep by 9 p.m. most days. It is difficult for me to stay energetic later in the evening.

    • @saraconklinfrozenpennies
      @saraconklinfrozenpennies  Pƙed 28 dny +4

      I'm up at 6:30 and am in bed by 9:30! 😂 And you're right! I love a matinee.

    • @char5477
      @char5477 Pƙed 28 dny

      I MAYBE go to a movie once a year...too expensive and I rarely see anything I'm interested in seeing. I've been watching movies from the free Kanopy service from my library. They've got a number of movies that are good and interesting that I've not even heard of. Plus, I can keep the volume comfortable. :)

  • @leecolebatch7371
    @leecolebatch7371 Pƙed 12 dny +3

    I agree with all your comments!! I'm 69 and have just finished treatment for a rare abdominal cancer. I had a year of treatment and recovery to sit around and think a lot, and realised that I like me and the way I am and if anyone doesn't like the real me I can live without them!!! I like to laugh at life and not be too serious, it's a great way to get through cancer treatment. So people thought I should take it more seriously and spend my precious time moping around. Not for me thankyou. I don't care about those people. Give me happy anyday😂😂😂😂😂
    Aussie granny

  • @rootsrocksfeathers1975
    @rootsrocksfeathers1975 Pƙed 15 dny +5

    I never cared about a vacation, never had one. I'm almost 68 years old, been married almost 49 years. I can't imagine staying in a hotel or someone else's home, though I did in my youth. I can't imagine spending thousands on an experience I won't even much remember later and have nothing tangible to show for it. I've never liked travel-as retired military, we've lived and owned homes in several states and that's enough for me. We are also debt-free, have been for years. I never cared about fashion trends or designer clothing, even as a realtor in the 90's. I LOATHE shoe shopping, have never spent more than $40 for a pair of shoes (hiking boots, my fav), never understood the obsession of women with shoes. I no longer listen to the radio or much music at all. For the past 23 years, I've preferred the silence or sounds of nature. I don't give a flying fig about Hollywood, celebrities or most television and have never, ever liked or cared about the royal family or the Kardashians. I no longer eat out at restaurants or even buy fast food in a drive-thru, haven't for years since we changed the way we eat. We have zero interest in new vehicles, never owned one, don't want one, ours are 2008 and 2013, dread having to buy a replacement. I have never once asked someone in the dozen years I've had a CZcams channel to like or subscribe to my channel, don't monetize, don't care. I never cared about opinions of others about me, my beliefs or likes. Actually, I no longer care to go anywhere off my own property. I live in a place that most love to use as a vacation spot, the beautiful and peaceful N. GA mountains, and I rarely step out of my property boundaries. All I need is here; I can have most everything shipped to me. We do grow most of our own food, buy grass fed local beef by the half-cow. I absolutely hate being around crowds of people or having people into my home, way too stressful. We quit going to the movies 20 years ago, can find anything we want to watch online. In today's economy and chaotic climate, all of those practices have served us quite well. Blessings, Sara. ~Cynthia

  • @user-gm1kl6xy4m
    @user-gm1kl6xy4m Pƙed 28 dny +11

    I am 56 can relate I enjoy comfortable accommodation we're on holidays and good service

  • @arthurdevrome8925
    @arthurdevrome8925 Pƙed 9 dny +2

    Thank me later:
    1. Frugal Travel: Sarah enjoys traveling comfortably, preferring houses or hotels with amenities over cheap options, but avoids spending on souvenirs.
    2. New Music: She prefers music from her past, especially the '90s, though she still enjoys some contemporary artists like the Jonas Brothers.
    3. Personal Space: Values having her own space and is open to the idea of separate bedrooms to improve sleep quality.
    4. Fashion Trends: Prioritizes comfort over following fashion trends, opting for practical clothing.
    5. Parking: Avoids busy areas where parking is difficult, preferring convenience and less hassle.
    6. Celebrity Gossip and News: Has stopped following celebrity gossip and watching repetitive news stories, which reduces anxiety.
    7. Theme Parks: Dislikes crowds and expensive amusement parks, preferring smaller, less crowded attractions.
    8. Driving After Dark: Avoids driving at night, finding it uncomfortable and stressful.
    9. Impressing Others: No longer cares about impressing others, focusing on personal happiness and practicality over appearances.
    10.Celebrating Birthdays and Holidays: Prefers low-key celebrations with loved ones and practical gifts, avoiding unnecessary festivities and gifts.

  • @kellysearer9643
    @kellysearer9643 Pƙed 28 dny +6

    I agree with MANY of the things you listed! I just love spending time indulging myself in arts & crafts! I don't mind being by myself! 😁

  • @MABADBledsoe
    @MABADBledsoe Pƙed 4 dny +1

    Near bounced out of my chair when you mentioned having a minivan.đŸ€©
    Thought "NEVER!!" until I rode in one, later "ANYTIME!!" & now have an SUV an miss my mini...I was happier when I started this🙃

  • @ericbergman7546
    @ericbergman7546 Pƙed 24 dny +119

    Absolutely love it!!! I'll have to be financially stable in every sense before purchasing my first supercar. The best thing to do with your money is to invest rightly because money left saving will end up with no returns

    • @AliciaCrone
      @AliciaCrone Pƙed 24 dny

      No doubt being financially free and able to afford these luxuries cannot be overemphasized, making smart plans and setting up diversified investment portfolios is quite essential.

    • @cherylhills3227
      @cherylhills3227 Pƙed 24 dny

      you don't need that much, as long as you have 250k to 350k in cash, and earn at least 40k plus is fine. It not like you are going to pay the car off, get the car, drive it for a year or two then get something else. You don't need millions of manov to oniov nico thinnc.

    • @V.stones
      @V.stones Pƙed 24 dny

      Most people miss it but the secret to retiring comfortably is finding a way to make returns while your money works for you. My Dad, as i remember started saving for retirement quite late but I know he was making more than 10k returns from his investments monthly and it was completely passive

    • @georgeearling905
      @georgeearling905 Pƙed 24 dny

      Our family got introduced to a financial consultant about four years before my dad retired. That was what changed things, and I think my retirement income will be on the right track, luxury cars and trips

    • @sebastiaanthijn7982
      @sebastiaanthijn7982 Pƙed 24 dny

      @@georgeearling905 Please could you guide me on how to get in touch with your consultant? My funds are being eroded by inflation and seek a more lucrative investment strategy to effectively utilize before I consider retirement.

  • @sarahthompson7820
    @sarahthompson7820 Pƙed 18 dny +3

    I’m nearly 40 and I’m right there with you on about 95% of these

  • @JudithMcPheron-pb9lv
    @JudithMcPheron-pb9lv Pƙed 25 dny +5

    Exactly. This Grandma's in!

  • @cathypritchard4306
    @cathypritchard4306 Pƙed 28 dny +5

    I agree completely with all of these! Spot on!!!

  • @Moxie1255
    @Moxie1255 Pƙed 24 dny +3

    I totally agree with you about not caring anymore about those things. But I’m 70, so what would you expect? 😂. What I’ve discovered is that not caring about these things can, as you pointed out, free up some major time. And my experience is that these time blocks can be used for, say, relaxing, doing what you want, and that if you do that long enough, a natural creativity comes out. I find myself doing stuff I NEVER thought I would do. I published a book on Amazon earlier this year. I mentor young mothers. I’m writing another book. I started doing paper art and junk journals. So my question for you that I’d love to hear the answer to in a video, is How does not caring about those things working in your life to give you freedom and where is your creativity being sparked?

  • @chuck62830
    @chuck62830 Pƙed 24 dny +3

    I am 55 and I feel the same about almost everything you said. Good job

  • @LynnSJ
    @LynnSJ Pƙed 26 dny +5

    For travel the frugal-ness when we get older is not needed & it drives me crazy, stresses me out. Sometimes trips/traveling plans change in the moment have to go with the flow or you really don't want to stay at the cheapest place in town or sleep in your car. We love Hilton brand hotels, Homewood Suites. They have a full-size fridge, dishwasher, stove, microwave. We bring back extra food, snacks, juice from the free breakfast keep it for later, fill up water bottles and the nightly reception acts as a light dinner. Booked a Tahoe trip in October from Sunday to Wednesday got the best rate & less tourists will be there! As we let a lot of stuff go what matters and what you still want to do while here comes into focus.

    • @churchofpos2279
      @churchofpos2279 Pƙed 19 dny +1

      I have a van that I converted over for camping/sleeping. i can prepare meals in it and bring my 50 lb dog with me. The bed im my van is more comfortable than a hotel/motel bed. I usually can park for free somewhere in one of the Casino parking lots or find a inexpensive camp site. I would rather do that than stay in some disgusting motel/hotel room exposed to other people filth and pay 200 a night for the privilige.

  • @dianaw248
    @dianaw248 Pƙed 28 dny +4

    I agree with everything you shared! Thank you so very much for sharing
we know our “ comfort zone “! Love your channel!

  • @shirleyparker4969
    @shirleyparker4969 Pƙed 28 dny +14

    I don't watch movies that will make me cry. I love black and white shows like Gunsmoke.

    • @saraconklinfrozenpennies
      @saraconklinfrozenpennies  Pƙed 28 dny +2

      Oh my gosh! I don't like movies that make me cry either! If I hear of a show or movie that everyone else describes as a tear jerker, I stay clear!

  • @TheMarialevy
    @TheMarialevy Pƙed 28 dny +25

    Dont care about make up, but definitely need my own bathroom.

    • @veronicamitchell9378
      @veronicamitchell9378 Pƙed 25 dny +2

      I like my make up, but have given up expensive colognes and perfumes. I have not purchased any since the pandemic. I use to wear it regularly. Now, bath and body works is just fine.

    • @littlebluefish6606
      @littlebluefish6606 Pƙed 25 dny +1

      Same here! I want my own bathroom.

  • @ginaconrad9765
    @ginaconrad9765 Pƙed 17 dny +2

    I dont care about the advice of others! I have beem making my own decisions for over 50 yrs and doing pretty well so my choices are mine.

  • @saj810
    @saj810 Pƙed 22 dny +2

    I feel the same about celebrations (none) and practical, thoughtful gifts (like the veg planter you mention). So nice to know others feel the same.

  • @pamelagoodson9034
    @pamelagoodson9034 Pƙed 21 dnem +1

    Agree with most of these. First time for me watching one of your videos. You are so energetic and upbeat and that makes for a great video!

  • @shelleygriffin4872
    @shelleygriffin4872 Pƙed 28 dny +8

    I'm 55 and I feel like you on all 15.

  • @generator6946
    @generator6946 Pƙed 17 dny +1

    I’m closing in on 80!
    I have a pretty long list of things that don’t matter.
    Since I stopped fretting about them they have taken care of themselves. Some not as good as others!
    My philosophy is, if it doesn’t hit me or get something on me, it’s fine. If it does I’ve got insurance.

  • @OriginalBernieBro
    @OriginalBernieBro Pƙed 19 hodinami

    I’m 57 had three children while in my 40s. I have high schooler, middle schooler, and one in elementary. We’ve been married 20 years.

  • @pearlrichardson4179
    @pearlrichardson4179 Pƙed 7 dny +1

    I've adopted a long time the non caring factor of someone else's opinion of me. But when it becomes harmful or toxic or fake rumors, I have plenty to say to shut a person down. I just did it recently to a former coworker. I'm calling you out to your face the moment you have something that is rumored. I've never done that to anyone so don't do it to me.
    As for other things: I don't care about TikTok. I have no need to be on it nor do I need an account.
    I don't care to drive at night. I especially don't like long distance driving at night. I barely like short distant darkness because of the time change when it gets dark early in the fall. My eyes are light/headlight sensitive. In February & March of this year, because I wanted to see my two favorite jazz artists that was close by (within 30 mins) I made reservations in that city for an overnight stay so I didn't have to drive in the dark. Well worth the money. 😊

  • @beverlyhale9687
    @beverlyhale9687 Pƙed 11 hodinami

    You have been so honest, so in touch with the world today. We are 78 and 81 and we used to love the movies, but now they are too crazy and loud and why do they play music over quiet conversations of the actors to 2here we can’t understand what they are saying. Young people have forgotten to learn manners. I took out cold water to the young fella building our fence, he never said thank you, just took the water? Tailgating us when we are driving the speed limit is annoying.

  • @Es_Elle
    @Es_Elle Pƙed 9 hodinami

    Agree with the list. Always carry ear plugs, a light sweater, and a hand fan when I go out the door!