What makes a good man?

The notion that the qualities of a good man, a good husband and a good father are linked is one I think we should push back on and challenge.
It presents a heteronormative narrative that a man's identity is a static and linear progression through those roles. A narrative that serves as a source of frustration and resentment among young men who feel, as good men, entitled to the roles of husband and father.
There are many reasons a good man might not be able, willing or desire to be a spouse or a parent.
We need to encourage men to find security in their identity as a good person and place less value and worth on themselves as a man by whether they have a spouse or children.

[@kirstenwyatt9675]

This is an excellent continuation of the conversation he started.

[@blueredingreen]

It's also worth noting that being a good husband or good father is something one can learn to some degree, and men don't all automatically already know all of that. And some relationships might just not work out because of some incompatibility between the people involved.
Self-reflection would be required to figure out the lines between what you can change about yourself, what you want your relationships to look like (if you want one at all) and who you're compatible with.

[@zacharybosley1935]

Oh boy I've been waiting on this conversation for a *minute*
I cannot for the life of me consider the idea that a good person is somehow static across their life. A good person is capable of growth and positive change.

[@RB01138]

Who's the guy at the start?

[@TheEliminator1992]

Did a woman tell you all of this?

[@JCArules13]

Why does that matter? If he makes a good point, which he does, why does it matter the gender of the person who told him. Also, who says a person told him this, and he didn’t figure it out himself? But it’s incredibly obvious that you are just trying to discredit what he says by saying either he’s a simp, or he heard it from a woman, and her perspective is wrong because she is a woman.

[@marv34001]

@@JCArules13well he probably asked him that because everything he said is either outright wrong, ignorant, or a cope a girl would use.

[@TheEliminator1992]

@@JCArules13 Women are slaves to their emotions. They'll say one thing and then turn around and do the complete opposite.

[@ritikasingh9555]

@@marv34001damn. How so? What points are ignorant and which ones are downright wrong? Cud u elaborate