ANGER MANAGEMENT for Dummies
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I hate less than 1% of all people now but I used to hate 95% of all people due to bullying and abuse and distrust of Hashem, the thing that changed me was the lesson that I should trust G-d to reward and punish.
im the same. i realised its not my job to punish or correct. its just my job to not make myself available to such people.
Love your talks rabbi. Wish I had a local rabbi like you to listen to my problems and get advice. You have a kind voice. Thank you.
Absolutely. We make a physical choice,wether we realize it or not, to allow something to anger us. Self control is mastered only when we control what we allow to anger us.
Thank you so much Rabbi. Great lesson.
God is good, I’ve been looking for this wisdom and he delivered !!!
Thank you Rabbi
Thank you Rabbi! To pair this video with the one you have about the Mitzvah of washing each hand with another, is a great daily reminder of balancing emotions and intelligence. it has truly impacted the way I carry myself, and has helped humble me before Hashem and Men.
May you be inscribed in the Book of Life.
God Bless you
Thank you
Thank you rabbi
Thank you for sharing this with us.
Thank you Rabbi 🙏🙏💙💙
Going through some rough times and I appreciate this.
I’m soaking it in like a sponge, I was mighty dry ❤ Rabbi Friedman your answering new/old questions I have always had. Even answering questions I forgotten about. 😊❤ My best wishes for your people.❤️
Thank you rabbi 🙏
👍👍 As I ponder deep and why I had anger when especially after so many years of being a happy go lucky. I found I was ((Angry at Myself)) for not being strong enough to allow some situations/ people in my life to catch me of guard and take over my mind. I was to trusting and naive.
But those days are over I still love and care for the human race and always will but we are human and that says it all.
(( Yes I blame me ))
Wow. Thank you Rabbi. I needed to hear this.
Wonderful tips thank you 🙏
Thank you !!
@Seven thank you sir it’s a honor, God gave me the name Roman.but I ended up changing it when I was adopted.
Brilliant lesson wonderful genius Rabbi Manis Friedman,a revelation came to me,when angry think on a beautiful scene in nature,when we have felt shalom,life has become transcendent,we experience enumah,the anger immediately disappears.⚘
keepstrong 👉❤👈
Haven't heard these stories in awhile. Funny how I needed to hear it again. How does the Creator do this to me???
thank you very much
But I Will Get Angry WHNVR I Choose
Hasham Kan Calm Me Down If He Wanted To
I Have Seen Him Stop Me In Mid Stride So Many Times And Hold Me There For Seconda At A Time While He Whispers In My Mind
Like Tonight I Plan To Get Angry
A Scheduled Hulk Manifesto
I deal with my wife's anger every day she was labled bipolar scitzoeffective I 2000 it took me till 2015 to figure out what was really wrong
She had spinal meningitis as a child and complex ptsd there has been cover ups in healthcare system
She lived 2 blocks from Eldorado nuke plant where they made one of the atomic bombs dropped on Japan she was getting blood in here urine constantly indicative of low does radiation for prolonged periods of time depleting her immunity
Most of my anger is against how governments around the world opperate
Thank you, so much. I have been diagnosed, since my 20s, with Borderline Personality Disorder, PTSD, Depression and Anxiety. Needless to say, I have childlike responses to things that can result in uncontrollable anger/tantrums. I had a year of DBT, when I was 57, which focuses a lot on mindfulness. At 67, I am still grappling with it, to get it right. Not easy. However, the way you described how to get into mindfulness mode looks like something I can do. You showed me a doorway I can step through, so I can stop breaking dishes, banging walls, and being hysterical, at the times anger kicks in. May I ask you to pray that I cure this awful behaviour. I don't want it. I want peace. I come from a family where violent behaviour was the norm. I grew up with it. I don't want it in my life, any longer.
I feel like this was fate. I’ve been goin through it lately and it reminded me of the time I got so upset by something I asked for a person to be damaged in a car so bad everything would break but that they wouldn’t die. Tell me why a few years later to the exact letter, it happened. Damaged car, damaged body to the brink of death(near-death experience and all)To this day, I never had the heart to tell ‘em that I asked for this. I always pray to Hashem for forgiveness. Some might say it was a coincidence but the details hit a little too close to home for it to be just a coincidence…
I’ve heard that for alcoholics resentments are the #1 offender
and AA runs us through a similar process to step back and look at these resentments and I appreciate this video
It really helps as I endeavor to be less mad all the time
Resentments and rage and hate are all different under the umbrella word anger
But it does help to define the difference between these as they are not the same
I practiced waiting 3 day's before I said anything. If it was still important after that , then I brought it up. You FORGET SO MUCH. WAIT 3 DAYS!
Anger has always been a last resort for me, Doing/saying things with confidence is the way to go.
I use anger as a muse, to fire me up to be a sane example for anyone.
You shouldn’t hit anyone, let alone your children.
Anger is contagious 😷 do not pass it on to anyone. Next time, Catch anger in a jar, close up the jar, and throw it into the ocean 🌊 it feels good when the anger stops with you.
I'm not a Jew. Altough, your teaching does really compute to me. Thank you, Sir. Ellah yebarech otcha. God bless you, Sir.
To control yourself when you feel any good or bad feelings, you have to be in control of your life, you have to have self awareness.
For example, anger isn't an action but a reaction, it's a reflexion, a harvest not a sowing.
It's good to say feeling any feeling (whether good or bad) is natural for human beings and is healthy, but being dominated by it is unhealthy because you lose awareness.
The lack of awareness is given by lack of knowledge, awareness itself, self-attention that is achieved only by the habit of not being present in the present time (in other words living in the past or in the future), that is, to be present at the presente moment, to be aware at all times and this is only possible just by being aware and alert. every moment, being present and using free will consciously every moment
You have to control your mind, not the another way around.
Today we live in a very fast-paced world that takes away our self-awareness, our control over our own lives by the bombardment of information every second. So be far from life sometimes, stay away and study life, understand life, Hashem is in life because he is Ein Sof.
Control your life, don't let life control you. Be 100% aware in 100% of the moments
If I could've I'd have been there.
Mister MacGee(the busy bodied reporter) "Don't make me angry. You don't like me when I'm angry!"...the incredible green HULK!
The other part is not taking responsibility for your anger. It's time for blaming someone, anyone, anything else.
Rabbi is very very blessed and I love his teachings very much but he still refuses to answer me questions 😢😵💫
Which questions are you asking?
@@NIF18 The ones that are very difficult to answer lol it’s about the difference between the original set of Israels Jews and the modern day Israel Jews and does he even feel for the lost bloodline of Jews in which most we’re in slaved in America cause I’ve noticed that todays (white) Jews seem to never want to mention the black Jews neither do they try to reach out to us black Jews most African Americans didn’t even know they were Jews by blood until recently so it kinda scares me and no I’m not saying rabbi and his people are bad people jeez and no this isn’t a race thing for I jus wanna know his opinion on the history oh and does the Torah ever mention the 12 tribes of Judah
@@hecticjdj7488 nice. I hear ya
The anger and frustration of Jim Crow 😑 and the constant struggle and competition for limited resources gets passed down Generationally ...
The children have no idea how close they are to possibly being involved in as a victim or condoning 3 Controlled Demolitions and a missile strike on the Pentagon .
Psalm 146
@@patrickbly4170 what does this mean exactly?
12:13 start in the head
Why is it more important that the person wronged got angry and not that the person clearly done you wrong?
it is a old saying that "u can not teach an old dog new tricks", bible in fact mention a reality in the wisdom of the book, that will be many , many people gathered but not many chosen , out of 10 people YAHUSHA cured only one come back to tank to HIM , so it is very clear that even anger management will be a waste of time for many "dummies" but a very valuable time and effort to show to someone at the end of a rope that is a chance to turn a round a rediscover the good of within you and master it out, bring it out to light.
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I work in Woodclif Lake NJ! What time & where?
Amazing Nora! Hope to see you there!
Get all the info at this link: www.valleychabad.org/templates/articlecco_cdo/aid/5634373/jewish/Does-G-d-need-me-Do-we-need-G-d.htm
@@manisfriedman Thank you Rabbi, I work almost across the street. What a small, yet big world we live in.
@@manisfriedman drat. I don't live on NJ anymore.
but how do i NOT get angry? what do i need to DO?
תשימי לב בפעמים הבאות תוך כדי העצבים ותביני שאת יכולה להפסיק את זה ברגע של מודעות. אם לא הצלחת באותו רגע תחשבי אחרי זה אם הכעס היה מוצדק ועד כמה. זה לא יקרה מיד זה עניין של למידה ומאמץ מתמשך
people earn their own ticket to judgement. i am not the lords ticket inspector or the transport manager, im just another passenger.
Thank you Rabbi Friedman. This, like most of your videos, is particularly poignant for me. In other words, like a great comic, your timing is impeccable.
My list of what is worth getting angry over is short. And, maybe I should cut it in half.
1. Intentionally disrespecting known preferences
2. Intentionally disrespecting suspected preferences
3. Egregiously-unawarely disrespecting known preferences
4. Egregiously-unawarely disrespecting suspected preferences.
I'm considering cutting the list in half because it seems that there must be some intention behind the action in order for anger to be an appropriate response. On the other hand, if the action is done without ill intent but is done with total lack of awareness then maybe this is still worth displaying (though not actually feeling) anger over?
People can't be disrespectful to you if you don't accept it. Takes the wind out of their sail. Yes I've done it. Many, many times. Too may to count.
What is behind disrespect? Fear? Jealousy? Lack of knowledge? How are any of those important? More important than your self respect when you exercise self control?
And I hate to sound so disrespectful by repeatedly nagging this topic but I respect what the rabbi has to say and it would mean so much to hear him at least discuss Judaism with a black African American who knows his bloodline runs deep within god and the Jewish culture oh and I’m not asking these questions out of anger but more ly out of confusion I know I’m not entitled to an answer from him but I wish someone would at least acknowledge that I’m asking these type of questions in less I have to strive to meet one of the the rabbi’s myself which would be a pain considering how young I am
u r asking repeatedly weird question that had nothing to do with jewdaism...u r racist and we, the Jews, r not! we don't care what color u r, u were told that many times already
@@svietka202 ok so first off the question has nothing to do with race who are you to tell me that wanting to get to know my bloodline and lineage is a weird thing I’m confused and I want to learn more about myself and my culture my dad is dead my grandfather is dead and even they didn’t know who they were please just stay in your place I was asking Mr. rabbi not you and (Africa) is not where I’m from it’s wayy more complex than that and I’m just asking for rabbi’s opinion or his thoughts on the matter
@@svietka202 Oh and maybe it is a weird question but that’s because I’m trying to dig deeper this is the last time I will mention but dangg you ain have to come at me like that you don’t kno me or what I’ve been going through
@@svietka202 anddd I’m not asking if you care what color I am I don’t even care what color I am wayy past that race thing I’m talking about bloodlines and I’m talking about Israel I’ve recently come to learn that my ancestors once lived there wouldn’t that make you a bit curious about the lands of Israel too the thing is im interested in the new Jews and the old Jews I don’t hold any bias I have love for all I think that was very disrespectful of you to call it weird question you don’t know where I’m from
@@hecticjdj7488 any rabbi can speak to you. If you like the kind of teaching that Rabbi Friedman dies, check for your local Chabad House. They'll be happy to speak with you.
If you're a Jew, as you say you are, how can Rabbi Friedman help you figure out your bloodline,?
p.s. Jews are Jews by virtue of the mother, not father. Who your mom is an easy prove, not so who the father is.
Doesn't seem like anyone cares about the fact that people are running around doing wrong...they only care when someone stands up for themselves.
One can tickle someone long enough to make them angry and do whatever is needed to make it stop.... stop tickling humanity!
This story has a flip side. I knew a man whose father came home from work & dished out a proper spanking to him although he had worked no offense that day. When this young man asked his father "why did you spank me? The father replied, your correction was for all things you offended in that you were never caught doing.
That's the wrong way to teach a child. You think you got away with it though I'll punish you for it anyway. What the boy do that was so bad? Me thinks the guy was justifying getting his anger out on his son.
Bro', it's so much fun tho'
Ha ha ha ha
The proverbs are from the Jews and they say
"If you spare the rod, you spoil the child."
And
"The man hates his son, spares the rod."
And
"Foolishness is bound within the heart of a child, and rod of discipline will drive it far from him." Proverbs
Context matters. The “rod of justice” in the Bible are the commandments and instructions (Torah) from the Almighty.
WHO is the worst offenders of the 10 commandments
It not what you say it's how you say it. Say what you mean an mean what you say
OH! COME ON!! THAT WAS A PUBLICITY STUNT TO GET PEOPLE FOCUSED ON SOMETHING MEANINGLESS, WHEN IMPORTANT THINGS SHOULD’VE BEEN FOCUSED ON.
Abram was a deciever!
Wow great ideas. I've never thought about it like that.. using anger as a justification for doing things you will later regret. Thanks Rabbi!!! 🫡