BEST FRIEND BETRAYAL CHANGED ME FOREVER 💔 Toxic female friendships
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- čas přidán 24. 01. 2024
- In today's episode of pointless stories with aditi, let's talk about female friendships- how the idea of a female friendship is wonderful but the reality is nothing short of a nightmare when your so called best friend is an insecure person. Sharing a pointless story from my teenage years about a 7-9 year long friendship during the most impressionable years of my life that had a huge impact on how I see girl best friends today.
The lying, manipulation, subtle disses and insults disguised jokes are not worth begging to "sustain" relationship and today we decode why many female friendships fail for all of us, what's the root cause of women pulling each other down and being in a secret competition with each other for no reason at all.
The aim of this video is not to place blames / spread negativity or self victimisation. We're all a product of our own decisions in life, we're all responsible for where we end up.
So let's try to re-evaluate where we're going wrong, what needs to be changed, who we need or don't need in our lives and how reflecting upon societal conditioning can actually help us break a toxic cycle of insecurities being passed on and finally be liberated from this unnecessary baggage. How can women uplift other women? help eo grow together? Let's find out....
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I can totally relate to you.. I'm 19 and I have no female friend because my every female friendship have been very toxic 🙃
More power to you bb🫶❤️
Ye age hi kuch aisi hoti hai, you'll find your person❤ trust me, i did too!
Same with me to be honest 😅
I m 24 only one female friend
Stay strong 💪💗 you are a stranger to me but i know that you are beautiful in and out and you are strong too !! :-)
Female friendships have always betrayed me, to the point that now I do not like being friends with them. I would rather be on my own than have friends who put you down in every walk of life. Thank you Aditi for sharing this. Thank you for normalising this. And thank you for reminding that we as a generation have got to do better with our kids. 💛💛
I can relate to you, girl. That's a harsh reality
"wow, she's achieving so much!!" and "wow SHE is achieving so much?!" the difference is thin, but very important to gauge relationships
" I am not a victim of my situations....I'm a product of my own decisions " ~ Aditi ✨
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Nice vlog
Please tell me Aditi's full name if you know?
@@divyadhurve1383 Aditi Shreshtha
@@divyadhurve1383Aditi Shrestha
@@divyadhurve1383 Aditi Shreshtha
Dear Aditi,
I would like to acknowledge you for being so raw on social media. Just like you saw *OG* creators to develop certain characteristics, I also saw you to cheer up myself and develop certain traits that were needed in my life at that point. All I want to say is A BIG HEARTFUL THANK YOU FOR JUST EXISTING IN OUR LIVES. You probably don't know but you touched my heart today.
I want you to keep growing and glowing and live a life like the main character.
Sending you warm hug,
Love, love
I actually cried along with your narration because somewhere I felt it was my story or I am just the same as you in nature and personality. I hope this episode goes trending and people like us feel encourage and empowered to face our truths. God bless you
Quirky, this video is such an eye opener. I had a flashback of memories which I thought only happened to me.
The second half of the video was amazing where you have given us a different perspective about this angle of friendship.
Lots of power and love to you ❤️❤️
Glad you enjoyed it!🫶❤️
Let's just normalize having no friends at 17 because we never get to feel that secured vibe or Aura. Let's just normalize it. 👍
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For total 4 years I had no friends felt alone but i learned how to be by myself . Today I have amazing friends who know my worth.
Can totally connect with youuu aditi …. Have encountered not only toxic friends like this but also relatives who I used to love so much but they just downgraded me ,insulted me with their taunts and body shaming . Totally agree with you , I’ll never ever let my child to deal with any of it , I’ll make sure he/ she feels confident with his / her choices , body . ❤❤❤ Lots of love
Love you bb🫶❤️
💛 You have truly portrayed the toxicity present in female friendships, even I have seen instances where a very close friend of mine had not been in touch when I had an operation done. Later she said about some academic stress which was present in me as well, but it somehow just made me detach myself from her coz physical health is way more important than any other kind of stress. I realised that one accident was so important for me as I was able to see the true faces of my so called "close friends".
So proud and happy for you to have broken fake social norms. Exposing the toxicity about your life and teaching the new generation to distinguish the difference between fake and real. Bless you
I hope those girls watch this video and understand how it affected you. I had a similar experience with my best friend from school so i totally understand what you went through. No matter how old we get, these bruises on our heart will always be there!
Hearing your story from school days is sending me back to when I used to go to school after taking few days off because of falling sick or any other reason and come back to find my then best friend with other new friends, ghosting me and being distant.The anxiety I felt back then at the thought of loosing that friendship and being easily replaced still haunts me, making friends was always hard as an introvert.I was so afraid to take a day off because of this back then even when I was suffering with high fever💀
Thanks for sharing your experience 🫶
Same thing has happened with me too many times even in college days as well
Thank you for sharing your story💛 I have broken friendships due to their toxic behaviors. And I don't want to play the victim card, I have set boundaries for my own mental peace. School friendship has become a constant, as I only have one friend from my class. We stay miles apart and talk once in three months, but we have been the cheerleaders in our ups & downs. But, the flow of our relationship isn't the same. There are certain parts of our lives we don't share with each other. I don't know where this filtration started, but over the years, I realized that certain boundaries are needed to maintain any relationship. That's my view of relationships or friendships in general.
Boundaries are underrated but super essential to SUNSTAIN a HEALTHY relationship ❤❤❤
i felt that hit of self-realisation listening to you, Aditi! thank you so much for that and please do more such very much 'pointful' pointless stories💛💛✨✨
You don’t even know i much i relate with your point less stories that not that point less tbh. Please please please continue this series more often. Lots of love 💕
You know we all love you! Our love can outshadow any negativity in your life❤️
I know that❤ it's only because of you guys that I'm still standing strong and have the courage to speak up about anything without the fear of judgement or negativity. Thank you for empowering me 💟
I’m a sensitive person and at times when I sense jealousy it’s hard for me to continue being around them, so I tend to stay away, and that might be the reason why I have no close female friends, though I want to.
Thank you for sharing this ❤️
As you age, you find peace in relying on yourself, without worrying about friends or succumbing to peer pressure
This story hit home, the message from it, the learnings from it. Thank you for sharing this and talking about the actual and true story of friendships. I loved it💛💛
Nothing breaks you like being betrayed by a friend you gave your everything to, and Toxic Female friendships really change the way you look at everyone honestly 💔 More power to you Di💛💛💛
Thanks love 🫶
@@ThatQuirkyMissa0
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The only thing good in getting older was getting rid of friendship drama. At this point I am at peace with myself and others. I like being at home and enjoy my own company. Now I have very few friends but they are very close friends ❤❤❤ peace and mental stability is above everything.
Hahaha true 🫶❤️
How are you
Soooooo true 😶😶😶😶
oh my god ! i just loved this video 😍🥲 much needed ! THANK YOU FOR THIS ❤ KEEP GOING , GLOWING 💫AND SHINING ❣💪
This is soo powerful. I'm so grateful for you, Aditi!🧿💛
I am so sorry you had to go through such a toxic friendship and am glad you are over it and made new friends 💛
Thank you 🤗🫶
That " Imperfect Humans are being raised by imperfect humans " thats really true ❤ 💛💛💛💛
sometimes i think main kuch bhi bol deti hu pointless stories me apne dil ki lekin when it connects, and i get to know the feedback via comments like yours❤❤❤ I feel proud about opening up
@@ThatQuirkyMiss definitely 🧿 I am literally dancing seeing your reply to my comment thanks quirky.. I pray that one I will meet you 🙏 #manifest
Each word you spoke was expressed so clearly and truthfully. I'm sure most of us will relate with it. You are a good communicator and hence a good youtuber
I've heard tonnes of such stories about betrayals by female friends since always. Sounds like I'm one of those rare people who have had queen female friends, who have set friendship bars to such level that none of my male friends could even come close to it. Although I eventually lost contacts with some of them but still never regretted being friends with them at a point of time in life. Not giving up on female friends has finally given me gems and accepting the fact that nothing's permanent, I believe, will keep giving me such gems in future too.
I'm 22 btw.
Omg!!!! As a fellow Leo, I could always relate to you… But, this video is really something else Aditi.. from the beginning to the end, I could relate to each word you spoke. You have been an amazing person then and now you’re extremely amazing and loved by so many girls like me.. it was like, I was listening to my own childhood story.. the betrayals I’ve had and the jealousy.. wish I could have been there for you by then.. I already love you so so so much and this just made the love even more stronger ❤ you’ve become more stronger and wiser Aditi.. you’ve been an genuine friend ❤ for your good heart you will reach more heights.. I love you so much.. I wish we could meet and I wish we were close friends.. thanks for this wonderful video!! You’re kind, strong, hardworking and what not. I can keep going.. love you ❤
At this point in my life i have no friends. I was left with one guy friend with whom I decided to spend my life and he’s the only one with me through everything. Always missed the female friendship hype. Still feel sad to not have a genuine female friend
Same here, & at times when my bf and I had any fight, I'm all alone. But that's okay. I can't fake friendships.
Takes a lot of courage to tell your story. Thank you quirky ❤❤
I can relate to everything
So happy to see how you have grown over the past few years. Super proud to be a part of Quirky squad.
More power to you 🙌
I’m 30.. nd i have literally no friends right now.. have been through some really bad relationships.. and female friendships also.. they were all very toxic.. i am married now.. i have a daughter 11 months.. all i want her to be confident in her own skin and not to be people pleaser like i was.. this video of yours brought tears in my eyes .. it hit hard .. i am so proud of you.. and your maturity.. m still working on myself.. and i have a daughter also.. i hope we grow together as humans.. love you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
I also have a 12 month daughter and your situation is so relatable with my situation and I also have no female frnd because of their negative vibe .love you dear 🎉❤
Same here
I felt like you are just explaining me and my past 🥹❤️all the scenes were sliding through my mind as you were sharing your story😩
This needs more views!! Such an amazing video
Aditi ❤ you're very strong and always an inspiration ❤️ stay blessed
Thanks love🫶❤️
thanks for this. ❤❤❤ needed to hear
#PointlessStoriesWithAditi will always be my favourite series from your channel Quirky✨
Even i faced toxicity from such female friendships but i learnt to focus on my self and grow in life 🫶🏻🤍
Thankyou for bringing this episode today:)
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Major connect! Lost 2 female bestfriends from junior and degree college.
It’s been painful till date but had to take this decision to completely detach myself from them.
More power to you bb🫶❤️
How are you all
How are you all
How are you all
💛 It’s like I am listening to my stories from you. A lots of love and hugs to you.
we're in this together ❤
Can relate with you! And I am really loving this old relatable videos types ❤
I had toxic friends not only in School but also in College I was so shy and introverted that time I could not say anything to them Even my relationships were toxic. Now when I am growing spiritually and emotionally I feel the toxicity moving away from me.!
Every word felt so relatable!!
Thanks love 🫶❤️
Thank you so much Quirky 🥰🥰 this is the right video at the right time & of course by the right person ♥ could totally relate to you & felt as if someone is telling my own story, you just used the correct words to explain everything which literally touched my heart😌 this episode legit felt like a comforting hug✨
So relatable quirky!..I am glad that our views match regarding friendships. 💛
I can totally relate to this 💯 never had any best friend who's not jeolous.... but you just have to focus on your growth and ignore all this toxic friendships and negative people in life👍🏻
Love you bb🫶❤️
Oh my god Aditi ❤ . You have no idea this is so so relatable . I have had the same experience at that age. Thank you for speaking out. I feel so so proud now that we all have evolved so much
thank you for this! this made me feel so better about my life ❤ i only have my family and my boyfriend, im over the concept of female friendships after so many bad experiences but i guess ive found my online bestf which is you quirky!!!!
💛loved it i could relate..I was a people pleaser once but not anymore
Thanks 🫶❤️
This really helps in clearing my mind to some extent...Thankyou Aditi for sharing...More power to us💛💛
Means the world ❤ thankyou!!
I have seen both kind of female friendships, who tries to take advantage and the kind of friendship who is there for you at any moment. I'm lucky to have great female friendships for 10+ years. It's such a blessing to have them. I pray you also get a good female friend.
Nothing can feel better than talking about your surety out loud and not be afraid of judgement 💛💛💛💛💛💛 you have come a long way Aditi♥️ proud of you and learning everyday
you really are the strongest person and you never fails to inspire us ❤❤❤
Thanks love 🫶❤️
💛tysm quirky much needed
I am glad ❤️
Oh man! This is so true… trust me i never ever commented on youtube, but this video impelled me to.. I always reconsidered myself after every such incident.. that is it just me? This video made me realise, there’s a whole world outside there feeling the same thing throughout their lives… Thanks for opening up!
the way you speak and put out strong confidant thoughts itssss amazinggg
This is soo relatable...I faced this in school life then in clg and even in further studies.
I have been with friends who bully me but I still changed my section to be with them in school life. I have been with a friend who always lies about things going on in college and I am the one who is not hiding things and just helping her out . As a child it was really tough for me I spend my so much time thinking about these things only, feeling lonely. But lucky I found some people in my life who are just one call away 💛.
Great 👍 and love you🫶
i can relate to this conversation 100%, specially in the girls hostel when i was in class 9 i legit got betrayed by my girlfriends....literally this is horrible thing that any girl can go through!!!!! girls friendship are toxic
More power to you to you love🫶❤️
Lovely video Aditi, I think we all could relate with you today, have gone through all the things you talked about but at the same time it has shaped me into who I am today, so no regrets :)
Thanks for this video dear
Thank you so much for this video ❤
Your conclusion is well taken, I also feel the same that we have faced as kids, we won’t let that happen with our kids.
Thanks bb🫶❤️
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I wish your betrayal bestie sees this video & see what a gem she lost 🥺🥺 But keep going you are very brave to puke this out for your audience to inspire us too ❤❤❤
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💛 I needed this at this very moment and it came at right time .
It was sooooo relatable... And the thing you said about sustaining friendships!! I too think about that and blame myself... But then I take myself out of it reminding myself about the boundaries, red flags, toxicity, etc. I can't fake in any relationship and though it may cause certain relationships to break, I will not change being my authentic self or lower my expectations about the same from my friends.. ❤❤
Pointless story with Aditi was not pointless actually, I can totally relate to these stories, I'm so proud of you that you made it till here🐾🥂meri pyari Quirky🌻
Thanks love 🫶❤️
Always supporting you in each nd every situation, stay strong quirky, keep it up nd keep growing nd shining, may God bless you with good health and all the happiness❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much bb🤗love you 🫶❤️
Coming from a person who was so shy in her childhood, your speaking skills kept me hooked till the end 💛
More power to you, ADITI ❤❤
Friendship betrayals and teenage traumas are real! Most of us have been there. A group of 15 people bullied me so badly when I was going through a mental health issue in 10th standard. Surprisingly, it was the same group that gifted me 15 presents on my 15th birthday! I guess life throws challenges at us to make us better. It made me stronger, and I can see that it made you stronger too! ❤❤🌸🌸✨✨
Itsss same for me also a female friendship never worked but in college i have found a friend who is never jealous of mee and always protects mee 🧿🧿💕💕
Oh wow🫶❤️
I love you Aditi❤❤ Aap jab apni stories share karti hai toh bohut kuch sikhne koh milta hai.
Love you bb🫶❤️
Just felt so good like someone is there to talk on these topics love you Aditi for this 💛💛💛💛
This is so true. It's sad when it ends
Love you ❤ and more power to you and all the beautiful out there ❤😊
You're the best!🫶❤️
Same has happened to me. Can relate with you 100%. I am 25 and I don’t have any friends. And my family is also toxic. But I don’t hate anyone since I’m a people pleaser I still try to make everyone happy and I keep on forgiving everyone no matter what they do to me. My career got affected because of my introverted nature and family. I’m stuck at a point where I don’t know what to do but I’m trying and learning and still not able to hate making everyone smile.
More power to you bb🫶❤️
Hello
Thank you for sharing this story 😢 it's very relatable that I often question is there any friendship which is unconstitutional & real?
Definitely this pointless has a point💛 and also for mer u r my OG CZcamsr❤
Thanks my OG bb🫶❤️
Oh my god Aditi I'm literally going through all of this right now!! I just had a major friendship break up it does hurt like hell and truly there are signs and I have been seeing it from past 1 year and now when I saw a MAJOR SIGN and then I took that back step and still hurt likes HELLLL I'm literally dying inside but as of now I know it's better to be alone than to be with these people 💛
True bb🫶❤️
I had a bestfriend for like 14 years....she did so much horrible things to me, used me for her sake,insulted me....and at that time i didn't knew what being hurt by someone you love meant.....i never thought i will find any good friends but i did....just trust me guys just be you,do good,be kind and that is what will attract good people....and i am proud to say i have gotten my life time buddies whom i can rely on❤️
i'm so sorry for what you went through, relationships can be so damn hard❤
@@ThatQuirkyMiss Thank you for these types of videos Aditi didi....would love to hear you talk more...Love and prayers for you ❤️
@@ThatQuirkyMissI'm waiting please contact me
Your content is getting better this year❤
Thank You for sharing these stories once again & more power to you! Ik jab bhi hum bolte h toh log shikhne se phele us me se glti point krna ya girana choose krte h. But you choose to share & help other learn & reflect.💛
i could hard relate the moment when you said that you groomed yourself from watching youtube because for me its you. when i started watching you, i was in school, 2016-17 ig now im in 2nd year of my job !
Thanks for sticking my side bb🫶❤️
How did you create those lips please give us a tutorial on that..its looking amazing
This video deserves a warm hug 💛
Dealing with betrayal from a girlfriend can be painful and challenging, but it's essential to prioritize your emotional well-being and consider how to address the situation constructively. This might involve open communication, setting boundaries, seeking support from friends or a therapist, and ultimately deciding whether the relationship is worth repairing or letting go, so kudos to you for you firstly acknowledging this and sharing this on such a public forum and then moving on. It takes a lot of courage!
Sad and i think every girl faced this kind of situation😢 but its life and we all are grownup now its a better change
Love you 🫶❤️
I hope we all find a true friend in our life💗✨
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💛 Thank you for being a guiding sister Aditi
So much love and appreciation 💞
This video was on point and all the points was relatable 💛
Girl best friends are rare but those who have them are really lucky 😊
True bb🫶❤️
Mere pas h 15 sal se❤❤ 2 Dil mere
💛 I just needed this pointless story as I'm turn 20 this year so that I'm able to recognize the fact that you have to move on in your life at a certain point of time to grow and achieve goals 💛 Thank you Quirky for your warmth full of video for your squad love you lots❤
You really opened up about the fact words which is still not being talked about ..... such a good talk 👏. Hats off to you quirky 🙌 you did a fabulous job❤
I want to talk about everything, no topic is taboo or too hush-hush in our squad❤
@@ThatQuirkyMiss you were really talking like my elder sister ✨ that is just a unconditional feeling as I am a single child 🫂
This video is example for every teenage.. thank you so much for making this ❤️💛🧡
Totally relatable 😢 i m 25 and no female friendships jab bhi maine try kra efforts lgaye hamesha kbhi vo efforts samne vale se milna chhodo log situation ko hi itna toxic bana dete hai ki pucho hi mt
Menee bhi bahut effort lgaee bt meri frnds ne mujhe except krne ke bjaee mujhe taunt marte the 😢soo humiliation
@@lifeisgoodalways3723 koi ni we deserve better always
This is the exact reason why I never made any friends in my life...
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Love and strength to you quirky❤ I just love your vlogs and you inspire me daily to be the better version of myself ✨
Omg aditi i was searching to hear this from someone that yes not every friend you meet is your bestfriend i have met girls in my life who have betrayed me in freindships not just even once I loved when I heared this and learnt a lot thanks for bringing this on CZcams even female friends judge you
Hearing from you brings a peace
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I went through this with my cousin who was more like a friend…….she betrayed like anything it’s been 5 years I am still not over that
More power to you bb🫶❤️
entering my 20's with NO friends, I only have my boyfriend who is my best friend, boyfriend, supporter the one who understands me, cares for me and is always there for me at my worst and cheers me and at my best to congratulate me, I have accepted the fact that keeping the small circle is the best thing in my Life. Ive closed the doors for Frienships.
then HE is ENOUGH ♥️
Indeed He is 💜
You go girlll! I literally got goose bumps when you said my kid will not do this and do thatt! Ilyyy! ❤❤
Thanks love 🫶❤️